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If you hop on the pony immediately after giving birth, you may not be waiting long enough.

One doctor says new moms don't give their bodies enough time to recover before having sex after childbirth.

Wisconsin-based OB-GYN Dr. Sara Swift tells PEOPLE the "general rule" for waiting to have sex after childbirth "is six weeks or until your provider has cleared you."

This should be common sense, but some moms are hopping back in the saddle too quickly after giving birth. As a result, they develop infections that land them back in the hospital and away from their newborns.

Dr. Swift tells PEOPLE of the timeline she would normally recommend, saying that "applies to both cesarean [section] and vaginal [delivery]."

Some couples are eager to get busy after the baby is born, but Dr. Swift says six weeks is necessary to give the body enough time to heal from what she describes as "a big raw wound".

"Mainly because where your placenta was is a big raw spot (think big wound), which can be a great place for an infection. That, combined with a dilated cervix, is a perfect setup for an infection."

  • CookieMobster

    Child these selfish a$$ men push you to have it before the time has passed. I didn't even want to do it for a looooong time after I had cookie14.

  • Dontgetdraggedputa??

    Thats what happens when you try to keep selfish men happy. Ya think they would risk their deek for you if a doctor told them to? But you letting him do whatever even if its painful. Couldnt be me sis

  • Alextra Ballard

    Some wimmen be pregnant again at that 6 week follow up

  • HugginJoinks

    well damn. a big raw wound sounds accurate lawd help us all

  • https://disqus.com/home/discussion/freakkboxshawty/freakkbox_on_strikingly B A B Y ?

    gotta give that lil pwusssy time to heal bihh

    *plies voice*

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Baybeh.. I LOVE Plies and his ignorant Sounding a$$??

  • https://disqus.com/home/discussion/freakkboxshawty/freakkbox_on_strikingly B A B Y ?

    buddy a fool lol I got a cousin that talk just like dude

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Nasty beeches?

    No offense to any of the nasty beeches that may be reading this thread and had an irish twin in their lifetime??

  • https://disqus.com/home/discussion/freakkboxshawty/freakkbox_on_strikingly B A B Y ?

    yall needa wait a month after ya period end too

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    BUT Plies is Highly educated though from Fort Myers Florida ???

  • Blaque Mahogany

    One doctor says new moms don't give their bodies enough time to recover before having sex after childbirth.
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    Bishes are nasty. Supa Cent was on live (after giving birth) one day talking about needing pads bc she was bleeding and the next day she was talking about shopping for Plan B. Her weirdo fans were in the comments praising her.

    That was the end of the road for me.

  • https://disqus.com/home/discussion/freakkboxshawty/freakkbox_on_strikingly B A B Y ?

    yea I know lol the way he act is just catering to the culture down here alot of people talk like he do on IG Im from fl too

  • LoveChild

    Damn!! Considering that most black women in America are single mothers talk about giving a man husband privileges that’s ridiculous!!!

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld
  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    All that NASTY blood being flushed from your body after not shedding for 9 months.. Couldn’t imagine having bloody $ex ?

  • SpiceGirl

    I be wishing I have CLOSE CAPTION when watching his videos....lol
    He a fool.....lmbo

  • SpiceGirl

    lol...if you can walk thru mud...then you can fck thru blood....(always heard that was the saying back in the day) lmbo

  • https://disqus.com/home/discussion/freakkboxshawty/freakkbox_on_strikingly B A B Y ?

    ??? most of the time its just replacing the "a" in every word w "I" ex. "mikeDonalds" "Mike n cheese"

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    His music is so dayum catchy! Him and that dayum Gucci Mane ?.
    My husband was SHOCKED when we were dating when he found out the variety of music I liked ????

  • SpiceGirl

    RIGHT!!! Lmao

  • Renee26

    I stopped after 2 weeks

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    ???
    My Buss it BayBeh ?

  • https://disqus.com/home/discussion/freakkboxshawty/freakkbox_on_strikingly B A B Y ?

    when he came back w that ritz Carlton I was happy asl lol had everybody talkin bout "ran off on the plug twice"

  • https://disqus.com/home/discussion/freakkboxshawty/freakkbox_on_strikingly B A B Y ?

    damn you took it bike lol

  • Renee26

    This is nothing new... Ever heard of Irish Twins??

  • Renee26

    DEAD

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    ?
    Never ran through mud though ? so I wouldn’t be able to relate... People make up the most bull$hit sayings!

  • Renee26

    Then it's time to come on again ?

  • https://disqus.com/home/discussion/freakkboxshawty/freakkbox_on_strikingly B A B Y ?

    lol well we finna wait another month

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Lucky rabbit! I bled for a full 5 weeks! AND I had my period while breastfeeding too?

  • sunni_daze

    I know old mom's that didn't wait. And the babies be 10 months apart.

  • Renee26

    So never have sex huh

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    I went to my one of my old gf's house a few weeks after she gave birth (to a baby with an enormous head)...When I get in the house the fiancee was sweet but you could tell he was wound up and mad...after he left to get some air I asked what was wrong... she said she felt like the doctor closed the "hole" down there with stitches and her man was having trouble "entering the sanctuary". This girl tried to tell me that the doctors shrunk her cooch hole and now she couldn't have sex...I tried to tell this chile that her perineum ripped and that was where the stitches were not her "cooch hole"...she says "Whats a perineum?" I took my coat and left...

  • Renee26

    The only time I had it that long was when I had fibroids... It was terrible. Fixed that and now I don't have them period ?

  • https://disqus.com/home/discussion/freakkboxshawty/freakkbox_on_strikingly B A B Y ?

    I aint gon say all that cause thats how you get played . maybe a week an a half after it end

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld
  • Seldomseen

    ???

  • Meme

    ??

  • Blaque Mahogany
  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    ??????
    Some of the Bestest friends are the dumbest!

  • Alextra Ballard

    Chiiile lemme say this...some men don’t care nutn about a bloody poozay. They will through a dark towel under that asz and keep it movin

  • Coy little wink

    I'm just here for the comments

  • Seldomseen

    My mother would approve this message. Could not do ?. Had to have head covered , could not sit too low, could not go out in rain. Said your body was wide open and if you don’t feel it know....you will feel it later in life..

  • Alextra Ballard

    Well tew be honest I haven’t ?

  • Renee26

    It's the term for having babies within the same year

  • Renee26

    Chile I had an ex that begged "to lick my spot away"

    His words not mine

  • Pamela

    ????

  • Alextra Ballard

    ??????I am lmmfao

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    She drives me up a wall...we got kicked out of a diner once because the sign said soft drink free refills only and she thought lemonade was a soft drink...Chile...

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Chile... The one with the impotence issue? Some dudes are just Nasty!

  • Blaque Mahogany

    I heard something similar. This little thug back in the day said "walk through blood".

    But umm a vagina right after giving birth v. a vagina during the menstrual cycle are very different.

  • Gamer????? Chick
  • SpillyNillie

    Ouuuuu I just HOLLARD!

  • OvertheMississippi

    I heard an idiot say that she got pregnant in the hospital before being released from having a baby.

  • She.Is.Not.Ready
  • Blaque Mahogany
  • Pamela

    Yes. My older brother and I are 15 months apart, while my younger brother and I are also 15 months apart. Mom had all three of us in three years. She wasn't playing.

  • Sha

    Title is correct... These new mom's

  • xxxgracious

    Not gonna lie I waited 25 days after my son was born. I honestly didnt have any issues but my doctor knew when I got my 6 week check up. Tbh I dont consider that one night sex. There was no moaning or excitement...more so me asking him if he feels my stitches. I wanted to make sure they were healed. He was BIG MAD lol.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    It can happen...A doctor told me women are the most fertile 12 months after miscarriage or delivery...

  • Gamer????? Chick

    Big mama would say back in the day “you gon have a set back” https://media3.giphy.com/media/3o6ZtisIdbALsID8FG/giphy.gif

  • Allergic2dumbstuff

    "I took my coat and left" As you should have. ??????????

  • Alextra Ballard

    Somma y’all need tew look up Red Wings....and I don’t mean the ice hockey team

  • Sha

    Gurlllllllllllllll, like she said THESE NEW MOM'S.

  • Alextra Ballard

    ??

  • Gamer????? Chick
  • Jai

    This! I dont think they get it sometimes you just cant or dont want to. My ex husband was so impatient after last one and I was like Sir, calm down it really made me start to disconnect from him because I had complications and everything and yet here he was trying to put my body in jeopardy for his pleasure.

  • Mimi_131

    It's scary to take a shit after childbirth...whose trying to have sex?!? LOL https://media2.giphy.com/media/QBXW77tPDGTBxMcFk9/giphy.gif

  • Coy little wink

    I didn't want to say it but yea ?

  • Rayne

    Yeah cause I hit that thing in three weeks and ended up pregnant again. I told my husband... well damn how this happen ????. I said didn’t you grab a condom? He saiid DID YOU ASK ME TOO ?. I said we’ll be ok cause I’m on the shot. Depo dont work no mo. Oh nooooo! Not me lord whyyyyy?? Lmfaooo ?

  • KarmaBackAround

    I cant even lie.. i hopped on the pony 3 weeks after i had my baby n got pregnant immediately ???? irreponsibly enough i lost the baby cause i hadnt healed enough for my body to hold the pregnancy.. lesson learned!

  • KarmaBackAround

    Same here..exactly 3 weeks n was pregnant..being frisky ?????

  • Alextra Ballard

    thats exactly what my Dr said

  • Rayne

    I’m thinking bout suing depo tho. They didn’t “PROTECT “ me. Lmaoo

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Yup those 12 months after delivery we are the most fertile!! You could get pregnant from a sneeze that following year LOL....

  • Alextra Ballard

    We all live and learn

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    They the real MVP's LOLOLOLOLOL...

  • Rayne

    I must’ve sneezed a lil too hard. I rode that thang to methuselah and back lmaooo ??

  • AphroKween

    My cousin went through that 3 times and have 3 kids all 10mos apart.

  • KarmaBackAround

    ???..i called my ob n told her i wanted to sue..she said i cant cause its only 98 percent effective ?????

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Thats what I want...If the lord grants me an opportunity to have a healthy baby without complications I want two or three in a row at 10 months apart shit maybe even 9 1/2 months apart...Im not getting any younger and my Eggs are turning to dust as I type this...

  • KarmaBackAround

    My oldest n that baby would be 10 mos apart too smh ..

  • KarmaBackAround

    Yep..u aint lyin

  • Alextra Ballard

    This ain got nutn tew dew with new moms....this ain just started

  • Rayne

    Sex on your period?

  • Truth ???

    Same here! I would wake up and he would be munching away, period on and all.

  • Goddess™®?©?

    Exactly!

  • AphroKween

    For myself my OBGYN pre warned me in advance so I knew to use a condom so i wouldn't get pregnant again. That was the only way he was getting it.

  • Rayne

    The doc closed the hole? Lmfaooo

  • ClaireHuxtable

    We must be related.

  • AphroKween

    lol.....

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    When I conceived I knew it was because I did that dip and bounce on the "D"after he "finished"...my ex was like "ok all that bouncing gonna get you pregnant"... His azz was right...I lost it and we broke up after the miscarriage but since then I have NEVA EVA rode a "D" raw and did that dip and bounce...Hell to the Naw to the Naw Naw Naw...

  • Alextra Ballard

    Chiiile yew grieving a miscarriage then yew got a nugga beggin fa poozay is a bit much

  • Mimi_131

    The bravery! LOL

  • Alextra Ballard

    ??

  • Rayne

    Lmfaoo

  • Alextra Ballard

    ???? yes ma’am

  • ClaireHuxtable

    I'm sure she's a sweet girl...just not an Einstein.

  • Nina Ross

    Lol

  • sunni_daze

    Be careful what you wish for. Babies in 2019 are not cheap, daycare for 1 is averaging $1000 per week (new born). But I hope you get all you desire, babies are sweet.

  • sunni_daze

    Boom Boom Boom get'em out the way.

  • Renee26

    ?

  • Renee26

    Yup

  • Renee26

    Giggles

  • Renee26

    No this was another one... I told him I was spotting and he didn't care one bit.

  • KarmaBackAround

    So i had a circlage sewn on my cervix during my pregnancy from 13 weeks until i gave birth which means NO SEX ..the minute that thing came off we was humpin like rabbits ?????

  • Nophace

    Jen Juneau and Kate Hogan need to cut it out! It's not just new moms, our elders did the same back in the day.

  • KarmaBackAround

    I had the baby.. had sex immediately then miscarried the child i got pregnant with..it was my fault foreal being frisky

  • KarmaBackAround

    Exactly my grandma had 9 kids including twins..she had her first at 13 and her last 25..u do the math..

  • LoveChild

    Your husband didn’t want to wait??

  • Alextra Ballard

    My sentiments exactly

  • KarmaBackAround

    No..i had a circlage sewn on my cervix which meant no sex during my pregnancy..soon as it came off we was humpin

  • Lola Regena

    lol..my mom had 15 her first at 14...so that ought to tell you sumthing!!!

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    I will...Family owns and operates a daycare center... Im checking all my bases I just want to do it the right way and as long as the baby is healthy money isn't an problem...

  • KarmaBackAround

    Okayyyy! Them old mamas was gettin it in too!

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Down for WHATEVER! Lol!

  • LoveChild

    ???

  • KarmaBackAround

    I know! It was thee worst! But like i say, lesson learned ????

  • RealATLPeach36

    I jumped on the horse ? lmao ?

  • Alextra Ballard

    Yop

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    Hard pass same here .... insides feel like they bout to fall out and obgyn had to cut me so I had stitches down yonder on top of that shid ... I feel ya ...

  • RealATLPeach36

    9 kids+13 age+25 last= she jump on that ? lmao!

  • Michelle Peele

    My grandma started early too. Probably around 13 years old. Later in life she and granddaddy slept in separate rooms. When asked why, she simply stated...cause granddaddy didn't have anymore juice. *Mic drop*

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    This !!!!! Chile yo womb still open Chile.... what folks be doing ???

  • KarmaBackAround

    Okayyy! And wont no birth control back then!

  • KarmaBackAround

    ????..she had drained it all out ..iktr grandma ???

  • smartchickfl

    I had no drive for months after having my son....thought I needed to see a therapist lol.

  • Michelle Peele

    Apparently so. She had 16 kids that lived. If all of her kids had lived (had a few miscarriages) she probably would have had about 20.

  • Skin Deep Beauty

    OMG!! I THOUGHT WHAT WAS UNDERSTOOD NEEDED NO EXPLANATION!! This is crazy...EWEEEE!

  • KarmaBackAround

    Gaaaawhhh lol get it nana

  • currvalicious

    Common sense isn't very common. Who would actually even want to have sex after giving birth (the pain), & the exhaustion (of a new born). Not to mention, the overall healing that your body must go through. What woman would spread her legs (so quickly not allowing her body to heal) & what type of man can't wait.

  • Listen2Me

    $1,000 a week? I'm in the wrong profession. I need to open up a daycare facility. WOW!!

  • Alextra Ballard

    Chiiile omgggg

  • Facts and Receipts
  • Donna Essentia

    he should've sewed that hole up...she already reproduced once...we dont need more

  • chan chan

    I almost threw up reading this.

  • chan chan

    I agree, it’s down right disgusting.

  • Leigh Burton

    That is why people have Irish Twins!

  • Shamwow

    Ilk I heard I had a cousin who’s bf was kicked out the hospital because she was caught having sex after giving birth. Smh I shutter thinking about it but she was a slow third cousin and all of her babies were in foster care and adopted. At least 6. She’s much older than me but I heard that sometimes , some women have no choice on how long they wait and some do but either way. People need to pump their brakes.

  • currvalicious

    I'm really surprised at the amount of women on this thread kee-kee & hee-hee' ing about traumatizing their bodies for the pleasure of men. Sex during periods, disregarding doctors' order post child birth....???...ladies, why can't they wait? Why are you allowing it?

  • Dowoop

    What the hell? How does mikeDonalds" translate to "Mike n cheese" ?????

  • Bree

    I have always been told six weeks! My cousin didn't wait a week after she had her second son and she was in so much pain, she could barely walk or stand. She had so many complications afterwards, I think she lost another baby after that.

  • Eileen

    Because they are stupid and think its cute to drop a load and then get busy. It is suicide on your body. 6 weeks is needed to heal and prayfully they can stay home from work and just be still bonding with the little newborn. Todays women are just such a sad bunch.

  • Eileen

    it did say she was slow which makes him stupid on steriods.

  • Munchosgirl

    Had you lost a baby previously?

  • Logan Roberts

    I had my first(and last) child in 2016 and I was traumatized for a year. I thought I would never look at a good old fashioned penis again, luckily I got over it ?

  • Munchosgirl

    My oldest brothers are 10 months apart...they are in their 50's...this been going on for decades....

  • Eileen

    Tell this to the horny husbands!

  • chan chan

    ?

  • chan chan

    U mean tell the horny boyfriends

  • chan chan

    Ugh I am completely grossed out and why would that woman allow her boyfriend to have sex with her???

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    Sometimes the women are eager to get busy too. They're not always doing it simply "for the pleasure of men" as you put it. I know for a fact that sometimes the woman doesn't want to wait very long after childbirth to jump on the pony again. So let's not give men all the blame for this.

  • Kayke

    The type of man that doesn’t care about that woman beyond her twat.

  • ZimSummer

    heh heh heh heh "body in jeopardy for his pleasure" heh heh

  • SpiceGirl

    Lmbo......

  • currvalicious

    This.

  • KarmaBackAround

    Yea i had 10 miscarriages tryin to have my 1st child ?

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Slow down Gangsta...thats still my girl and your a newbie here...dont try it with this Rose...

  • sunni_daze

    That's what I'm saying .

  • sunni_daze

    Go for it then!!!!

  • Munchosgirl

    Sorry to hear that...I asked because my daughter lost her first child and they advised her that if she became pregnant again that they would put a the cerclage in early...

  • KarmaBackAround

    Yea i got mines at 13 weeks and i went the full ride until 38 weeks when i got induced!! So in my opinion it does work! It worked so much i wouldnt dilate pass 3 cm lol so i had a c section

  • Guess Who

    Sooo...and I'm just asking...
    ....4 weeks ain't good enough?

    Again, just asking.

  • http://www.mylifeinlame.com/?m=1 Kimberly

    Wow, I'm a childless woman and didn't know they thought of it as a big, raw wound. Now it makes sense why they want women to wait 6 weeks.

  • Munchosgirl

    Wow, she was scheduled to recieve hers the next Morning, but she went into active labor within an hour...Blessings to you and your Rainbow Baby.

  • KarmaBackAround

    Aww man prayers for your daughter of course!! Thank you so much..he is the boss Rick ross lol short fat n bad

  • more

    Because women are obsessed with sacrificing their health and sanity for a man. I for one don't feel bad for anyone doing this

  • more

    It's low self esteem that many women suffer from

  • more

    Women try raising your sons better instead of resorting to.calling women h@es

  • YES I SAID IT…

    Yes it is very important to let your body rest and heal after giving birth. If U gotta have sex that bad just use your mouth or let him suck on your TT.s but your va ga ga should be off limits for 6 weeks