Loyal reader Netta writes:

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Hey Sandra, how are you? I visit your site everyday!! I see people always hating on Allen Iverson. He doesn’t bother no one. You never hear about him fighting or going back and forth with no one. Besides that incident with his wife. I am a die hard Allen Iverson fan and I love him as a individual. We are all humans and we all make mistakes!! With that being said, no one says the good things that he does such as scholarships for kids to go to college, basketball and football camps for kids, celebrity events every year and etc etc. Here is a few pics of him taking his sister [Ieisha] to [her] prom Saturday. Plz post on your site.


I didn’t know AI had a little sister. So I Googled Ieisha Iverson and I found this from the book Only the Strong Survive: The Odyssey of Allen Iverson.

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GIVING BACK IS SO SEXY
Over the weekend Young Jeezy’s Street Dreamz Foundation and LightHouse handed out gifts to school children who passed the CRCT standard tests with flying colors. Street Dreamz also Printed up T-Shirts proclaiming “The CRCT Cant Stop me!” Jeezy rented out the Metrolanes Skate & Bowling Center to treat the kids not only to fun and games but to show them that hard work pays off. The kids weren’t the only recipients of Jeezy’s love. He surprised a few of their parents with cash to help them pay their bills! That’s more than Barack Obama has done for our people!

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A Houston teacher has been fired from her position at a school for special education students after she was caught on video viciously beating a 13-year-old student.

Sherri Davis, 40, was terminated after school officials viewed the cell phone video of the assault which took place at Jamie’s House Charter School in Houston.

The boy, who has a history of disciplinary problems, had allegedly punched a female student in the class. Other teachers stood by and watched while Davis dished out punishment to the teenager by slapping, punching, kicking and slamming his head against a wall.

But there’s a fine line between discipline and an all out assault, and this teacher should have known better.

So yesterday I met up with an old friend who brought along her Louis Vuitton messenger bag to our lunch date. Inside the bag was her brand new iPad.

She happily told me she wasn’t following the crowd because she had resisted the initial onslaught of overhyped iPad ads for at least a month before she finally gave in after reading on my blog that her favorite singer Monica had an iPad. She said she loves it.

Me, on the other hand, I still have no use for an iPad. I already have a MacBook Pro (which I’m typing this post on) and a HTC smart phone, which I hate, but it serves my purposes when I want to browse the Internet while out & about.

I simply can’t see myself dragging that monster iPad out of a bag just to check the sports scores — unless I just want the people around me to see that I have an iPad — and I am not that vain.

US president Barack Obama probably feels the same way. He doesn’t own an iPad either.

Obama told the graduating class of Hampton University today (April 9) that the iPad is just another useless invention that will only lead them to distraction as they try to find work in a dismal job market.

Last week Apple CEO Steve Jobs bragged that his iPad sold over 1 million units. With over 300 million people in the US, I am not impressed.

Besides, that figure doesn’t include all the replacement iPads exchanged by clumsy owners who dropped and broke their first units.

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R&B Diva Monica is currently on a plane flying from the west coast to her next promo stop in Oklahoma where she’s performing at Langston University tonight!

Monica’s gold selling CD Still Standing is flying off the shelves, and Mo is in high demand right now.

But she knows how much you guys love her. So before she boarded her flight, Monica logged into the comments section to drop you a note to let you know how much she appreciates you!



ABC Nightline asks the question ‘why can’t successful black women find a man?’ I changed the title to ‘husband’ because most successful black women don’t have trouble finding a man. There are plenty of black men in our community who don’t mind being kept lavishly while spending her money. I can think of a handful of them right off the top of my head.

The problem is that these successful women can’t land a husband because doing so takes a lot more work and effort than they are willing to put out. That’s because most successful black women believe they are above black men. It’s sad but true. Society has devalued black men to the point where our women don’t even respect them any more.

Haven’t you wondered why there is such a proliferation of lesbians in our community within the past two decades?

Last week, ABC gathered together the cream of the crop within the black Entertainment industry to try and tackle the troubling question from the inside.

Maybe you’ve seen them in your neighborhood or at the hair salon, cute little babies and toddlers who seem healthy and normal — until they smile or open their mouths to reveal tiny silver caps covering their front teeth.

Baby bottle tooth decay, or baby dental caries, is a result of mothers putting babies to bed with a bottle (or no-spill cup) full of sugary milk, juices or sodas. The prolonged contact of milk or juice leaves a sticky film on the baby’s teeth all night long.

Bacteria, which is always present in the baby’s mouth, eats the sugar in the film and converts it to acid which then eats away at the enamel on baby’s teeth. The damage progresses through 3 stages:

  • Stage 1 – signs go unnoticed as bacteria decays teeth from inside out
  • Stage 2 – discoloration begins at the gum line and works down the tooth
  • Stage 3 – teeth begins to visibly corrode, fracture and fall out

Again, Stage 1 goes undetected. So by the time the bottle rot has progressed to stage 2, it may be too late to save the teeth. And if your child’s permanent teeth have already grown in (or the baby teeth never fall out, such as in producer Jermaine Dupri’s case) the Dental bills can be very expensive. Some dentists charge $3,000 and up to save your child’s teeth.

Treatment includes painful root canals, extractions and/or the placement of porcelain caps (expensive) or silver caps (cheaper) over the baby’s teeth to save them. Extensive dental treatments could require hospitalization.

Dentists advise mothers with children of teeth bearing age to avoid putting your toddler to bed with a bottle or a no-spill cup filled with anything other than water. If your child fusses and cries, she will eventually the no milk or juice at night rule and you will get a good night’s sleep.

Also, teaching your toddler to brush her teeth after meals is not a bad idea. And give her healthy food to eat such as apples and carrots in place of candy.

You should also cut back on bottled water and give your baby tap water instead since healthy teeth need fluoride to keep them hard and prevent decay.

Take your baby to the dentist as early as age 1 to give your dentist the best chance to diagnose problems early.

More info on the Web

Bottle Rot Syndrome – ePinions

Bottle Rot FAQS – Children’s hospital

Dental Tips for Children

DISCLAIMER: As always, any medical information published on this blog is not intended as a substitute for informed medical advice and you should not take any action before consulting with your personal physician or a health care provider.

Comments Off on FanMAIL: Heather Responds

Dear Sandra,

I just wanted to let you know that last night– when we realized what you had posted on your blog— we took down our “Party of Five” blog. This makes us heartsick, and we feel really upset about having to do it. There are many, many people who have written to us over the past three years telling us how important and inspiring our blog has been to them in terms of a whole range of things (including a deeper understanding of inter-racial adoption, education regarding Haiti, conscientious parenting, etc.).

White parents adopting black children, especially, have found the Party of Five blog helpful — in terms of raising cultural awareness, helping to educate about black hair, information about confidence-promoting picture books for young black children, etc. It is for all of these reasons that we had kept the Party of Five blog public even when we moved to a private blog in March. Last night, when we saw what you had posted on your blog — you having selectively chosen the most provocative photos of our children and posted them entirely out of context on your own blog — our hearts just sank. Out of all the hundreds and hundreds of beautiful photos of our children that we have posted over the years, you selectively chose the ones that you did. You did not ask for permission to post those photos in the manner that you did, and if you had asked us we would not have allowed for it. We had never heard of your blog before last night… but then we started getting a lot of strange comments coming in on the Party of Five blog… and it didn’t take long for us to trace them back to your blog post. It is probably hard for you to imagine how upset this has made us. As parents, our children and their safety and security and identity are our absolute number one priority in life. We immediately made the decision to pull Party of Five off the internet so that you — or others — will no longer be able to do what you’ve done to our family.

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A day doesn’t go by when without news about young black men being killed or locked up. But here’s some good news out of Chicago: the entire senior class of Chicago’s Urban Prep Academy for Young Men has been accepted to college. You won’t hear about these intelligent young brothas in the mainstream press because it’s not a negative story about black men.

It’s great to see kids like the students of Urban Prep Academy achieving their goals. When I contrast them with a good-for-nothing like Chris Brown who, at age 21, is a convicted felon who can’t pull his pants up, it gives me hope for the future of our kids.



Mayor Richard Daley and Chicago Public Schools chief Ron Huberman surprised students at an all-school assembly at Urban Prep Academy for Young Men in Englewood this morning to congratulate them. It’s the first graduating class at Urban Prep since it opened its doors in 2006.

The school enforces a strict uniform of black blazers, khaki pants and red ties — with one exception. After a student receives the news he was accepted into college, he swaps his red tie for a red and gold one at an assembly.

The last 13 students received their college ties today, to thunderous applause.

Ask Rayvaughn Hines what college he was accepted to and he’ll answer with a question.

“Do you want me to name them all?”

For the 18-year-old from Back of the Yards, college was merely a concept–never a goal–growing up. Even within the last three years, he questioned if school, let alone college, was for him. Now, the senior is headed to the prestigious Morehouse College in Atlanta, Ga. next fall.

Hines remembers the moment he put on his red and gold tie.

“I wanted to take my time because I was just so proud of myself,” he said. “I wanted everyone to see me put it on.” Read More…


Photos: Splash News Online

Thanks to loyal reader Shana for the tip!

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