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David J. Johns penned an interesting opinion piece for theGrio.com, in which he praised Andrew and R. Jai Gillum's diverse Black marriage.

"Let's celebrate Andrew and R. Jai Gillum for finding the freedom to define themselves and their relationship on their terms and for making space for others to do the same," writes Johns, executive director of the National Black Justice Coalition.

In an exclusive interview with Tamron Hall that aired on Monday, Gillum, 41, came out as a bisexual man with a wife and three children.

Johns, who is same-gender attracted, asked his readers to celebrate the diversity of the couple's modern family.

"I write to thank my brother, Andrew Gillum, and my sister, R. Jai Gillum, for inviting us in. Andrew and R. Jai are a family. Period, full stop," Johns said.

Johns added: "[T]here is a need to battle systemic oppression and marginalization of people who are members of racial/ethnic and sexual minority communities, there are some among us, like myself, who live public lives to disrupt assumptions that we don't exist."

Johns suggests that Black women should protect Gillum and look beyond the complexities of sharing their men with other men.

Johns continues:

"[T]oo many members of our community suffer, often in silence, because we have not done the work, as a community of diverse Black people, to hold space and to have conversations that honor every member of our community. It is for this reason alone that Black people should commit to protecting Andrew Gillum who is among the first highly visible Black men to identify as bisexual.

"At this moment in the movement for Black lives, let’s celebrate Niecy Nash and Jessica Betts for finding love. Let’s celebrate Andrew and R. Jai Gillum for finding the freedom to define themselves and their relationship on their terms and for making space for others to do the same. Let’s celebrate the culture shift that holds space for Black LGBTQ/SGL people to thrive—as we are—without having to shrink or hide critically important parts of themselves."

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Many are at a loss for words after viewing Tamron Hall's exclusive interview with disgraced Democratic candidate Andrew Gillum that aired on Monday's season 2 premiere of Tamron Hall's show.

Gillum was joined by his wife, R. Jai Gillum, who explained why she accepted Gillum's marriage proposal even after he told her he was male-oriented.

Gillum was caught nude in a South Beach hotel room with a naked male escort in March.

Gillum said he and his wife were in Miami that weekend to attend a friend's wedding. After drinking at a Miami bar for 4 hours, Gillum said he texted "an associate" to hook up.

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He said he woke up several hours later on the bathroom floor in the hotel room where his friend had overdosed.

Sheriff's deputies gave Gillum a ride back to his hotel room, and he took an Uber to the rental home he shared with his wife. R. Jai was asleep when he arrived and he didn't want to wake her up.

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After Gillum explained to his wife what had happened, she said she was surprised because he was always so careful when he hooked up with other men.

Hall asked R. Jai to explain her decision to marry Gillum, knowing he was bisexual.

"So many people just don't understand bisexuality. Bisexuality is just something different," R. Jai said. "I just believe that love and sexuality exist on a spectrum. All I care about is what's between us and what agreement we make. Those people who love us and care about us and wish us well — no matter what did happen — that is the energy we need and receive."

"You said that you would not have married him if you knew that...," said Hall. "That I wasn't sure," said R. Jai, cutting Hall off.

R. Jai continued: "That a decision to choose you and say yes on the basis of knowing that it's our decision together... I've told him before that saying yes was solely about me and you. It wasn't about me, you, and the world. So I don't know, you know, someone has asked me before would you have made a different decision, and I had to say I don't know. I think, perhaps, being as young as we were -- I wasn't even 30 yet. I may have said no, because at that age, I know I wouldn't have had the maturity to say, while I am privately okay with this, I don't know that I have the strength to continually defend our relationship or my marriage to anyone who doesn't understand."

Viewers took to social media to express their opinions about the riveting interview.

Watch Tamron Hall's Season Premiere After Show below.
 

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Andrew Gillum told Tamron Hall he identifies as bisexual. The confession came months after he was caught nude in a South Beach hotel room with a naked male escort.

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"I don't identify as gay, Gillum told Hall during the season 2 return of the "Tamron Hall" show, which airs Monday, Sept. 14, on ABC at 3 p.m. EST.

Gillum, 41, was joined by his wife, R. Jai Gillum, who spoke openly about her husband's sexuality. She confirmed reports that she knew of her husband's desire for men.

"Love and sexuality sits on a spectrum," R. Jai told Hall. "All I care about is what's between us... Those people who love us and care about us and wish us well — no matter what did happen — that is the energy we need and receive," she said.

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Gillum said he informed his wife about his sexual lifestyle "so many years ago." The couple shares three minor children.

When Hall asked Gillum if he felt like a weight had been lifted off of him, he said he had "mixed emotions" but that he feels "more whole" now that the public knows of his predilection for men.

Gillum said he wouldn't rule out entering another race for public office in the future.

Gillum, a former rising superstar in the Democratic Party, narrowly lost the 2018 gubernatorial race in Florida that would have made him the first Black governor of the nation's largest swing state.

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Women dating or marrying a bisexual man used to be taboo. But thanks to the hard work of LGBT activists and their allies, times have changed.

A 2016 survey by Glamour magazine found that almost two-thirds of women "wouldn't date a man who has had sex with another man."

Socialite Amber Rose, who is bisexual herself, once said she would have a problem dating a bisexual man.

"Personally — no judgment — I wouldn't be comfortable," she said during a Facebook Q&A. "I just wouldn't be comfortable with it and I don't know why."

But recent studies show women are increasingly warming up to the idea of dating bisexual men.

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Researchers in Australia interviewed 79 women in relationships with bisexual men. The researchers found that bisexual men were better in bed and more caring long-term partners and fathers.

The women who took part in the Australian study said they could not go back to dating straight men after being with bisexual men.

According to the women, straight men carried more emotional and misogynistic baggage.

The reasons were varied. The researchers found that bi men were more open to experimenting in bed. Whereas straight men were most likely to question their own masculinity if a woman asked them to engage in less heteronormative sexual acts, such as anal penetration by their women partners.

"Their partners had to question their masculinity and sexuality," Dr Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli tells The Independent. "Because of this, [bisexual men] were far more sensitive and desired to establish an equitable relationship. They were far more respectful. They were keen fathers and wanted to set up equitable gender relationships in the home."

The women found themselves exploring BDSM, polyamory, and were themselves encouraged to explore same-sex relationships, although most women chose not to go down that path.

However, it would be a mistake to paint relationships between bisexual men and women as black and white utopias, says Dr Pallotta-Chiarolli, who added that bi men are still subjected to "incredible stigmatization, marginalization, and discrimination for their bisexuality."

"One example was of a man who basically married his female partner to cover his same-sex attractions," says Dr Pallotta-Chiarolli.

"He did, however, go overseas and brought his male partner back. He threatened her not to say anything to their religious and ethnic community, and she basically became their housekeeper and for the mother of his children."

Dr Pallotta-Chiarolli says the lack of LGBT sex education in schools is partly to blame for these issues between women and bisexual men and why this pairing is poorly understood.

Still, Dr Pallotta-Chiarolli said, "We had some women who said that after dating a bi man, they could never go back to dating a straight man."

"Bisexual men were more open to designing a relationship that works for them, rather than a straight man who would come in with certain assumptions of what that relationship should be."

She adds: "You always end up getting more than what normative society sets as what a relationship should be."

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