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Tip "T.I." Harris made headlines around the globe when he revealed he accompanies his teenage daughter, Deyjah, to a gynecologist to make sure she is still a virgin.
During a recent "Ladies Like Us" podcast, the proud father said he had "the talk" with Deyjah about the birds and the bees and he takes her to the gynecologist to make sure she is still a virgin.
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The 39-year-old rap mogul described a typical gynecologist visit with his daughter.
"So we'll go and sit down and the doctor will come and talk. And the doctor is maintaining a high level of professionalism. 'Well you know sir, in order to share information…' I say 'Deyjah they want you to sign this so we can share information. Is there anything you wouldn't want me to know? Okay. See doc, ain't no problem.'"
T.I. said the doctor informed him of the various other ways a girl's hymen can be broken, such as using feminine products, playing sports, bike riding and horse riding.
The online reactions to the rap mogul's old fashioned parenting ranged from confusion to outrage. Many wondered why the father of seven still accompanies his 18-year-old daughter to her doctor's appointments to make sure her hymen is intact.
Planned Parenthood weighed in on the controversy by schooling the rapper about the anatomy and physiology of a biological female's hymen.
"[I don't know] who needs to hear this but virginity is a made-up social construct, and it has absolutely nothing to do with your hymen," Planned Parenthood tweeted on Wednesday.
The @PPFA Twitter account explained:
"A virgin is someone who's never had sex. But 'sex' means different things to different people, so 'virginity' does too. Many don't care what it means or think it matters. Whatever you believe, the fact is you can't tell if someone's had sex by checking their hymen...
"The hymen is a thin, fleshy tissue that's located at the opening of your vagina. Like other parts of our bodies, hymens are a little different for everyone...
"Many people think the hymen totally covers the opening of your vagina until it's stretched open, but that's not usually the case. Most hymens naturally have a hole big enough for period blood to come out and for you to use tampons comfortably...
"Some people just naturally have hymens that are more open. And many other activities besides sex can stretch your hymen — like riding a bike, doing sports, or putting something in your vagina (like a tampon or finger). Once your hymen is stretched open, it can’t grow back...
"Some people think you can tell if someone’s had sex before if their hymen is stretched open. But that’s not the case.
Say it with us:
YOU ... CAN'T ... TELL ... IF ... SOMEONE'S ... HAD ... SEX ... BY ... THE ... WAY ... THEIR ... HYMEN ... LOOKS ... OR ... FEELS".
Planned Parenthood's tweets were informative, but those of us who are in the health field beg to differ.
Doctors, nurses and medical examiners usually can tell if a woman has had sex or has been raped just by examining her vagina and inner labia folds - the two flaps of skin on either side of the vaginal opening.
There is a distinct difference between a hymen that is perforated by a finger or a Tampon and a hymen that was torn by sexual intercourse or by brute force such as in a rape.
Most hymens naturally have a small hole in the center. If the opening is stretched by a finger or a Tampon, jagged remnants of the hymen will still be visible.
The hymen’s edges may not be visible after sexual intercourse or rape, but there are still physical signs such as redness or injury to the inner labia folds that confirm sexual activity.
So, in a way, T.I. is correct.