Like most narcissists, singer Beyonce knows how to get our attention. The "Grown Woman" singer published a new photo of her daughter Blue Ivy wearing a crown on her head. The crown, which is custom made to fit the child's head, is a symbol of Beyonce's overinflated sense of superiority projected onto her innocent daughter. Beyonce, whose parents treated her like a gilded object to be put on display, is doing the same to her daughter. There is no doubt that Blue Ivy will grow up to be a narcissist like her mother and father; but by the time she's grown, society at large will be 90% narcissistic. So it may not be such a bad thing.
Photos: Beyonce's Tumblr
We have all done this: we are shown a photo of a friend's child, and our initial response is based on the child's looks ("She's so cute! I can see where she gets her beauty from!")
We tend to especially favor children who are light skinned with long hair. Any culture that is obsessed with beauty and image breeds narcissism. As a result, most narcissists tend to be very good looking.
Narcissism in adults is a personality disorder that stems from abnormal self-developmental in childhood.
Studies show that the sharp rise in narcissists in today's society is directly linked to the explosion in social media. Instagram is a narcissist's playground where the self-obsessed upload their photos to encourage 'likes'. And there are pages on Facebook devoted to ranking a girl's beauty from 1-10.
In a blog on Huffingtonpost.com, sports psychology consultant Nicole Forester referred to social media as an "Epidemic of narcissism".
"We are each hard-wired with the desire to feel relevant. Everyone wants to feel like they matter and are important. Social media provides this outlet, but also promotes being self-absorbed," she writes.
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Here is another post in my ongoing series on narcissism. For you men who are healthy and would never fall into a female narcissist's trap, another post will be up shortly.
When the female narcissist targets you, she moves with great speed. The first time you meet her she seems to appear out of nowhere. But in fact, she has been watching you for a minute and sizing you up for the kill.
She has figured out your vulnerabilities and she will use them to get what she wants: fame (if you're a celebrity), power, or wealth.
The female Narcissist is attractive, intelligent, very charming and highly confident that she can take everything you own. These women lack what healthy women possess naturally; a conscience, character, empathy for others, etc.
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Cutting is quite common among young adolescents, but the phenomenon is increasing among adults as well.
Cutting is defined as the most common form of self-injury. Cutters injure themselves with sharp or blunt instruments in order to feel physical pain which masks the internal, emotional pain they are feeling inside.
Most cutters are young females and teenage boys who suffer from depression or social anxiety. The cuts are usually superficial, just deep enough to draw blood, on areas such as the face, arms, chest, or abdomen.
Our culture's current obsession with tattoos is also seen as a form of self-injury among the young. An example of a troubled celebrity who practices self-injury -- disguised as self-expression -- is singer Rihanna, who recently carved a crude cross into her neck (see photo above).
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Narcissists think very highly of themselves, but President Barack Obama is not your average run-of-the-mill narcissist. Speaking at a fundraiser in NYC today, President Obama extolled his own virtues (since no one else will do it). He praised himself for doing more for his country than any other president in the past decade.
Stopping just short of comparing himself to Jesus (as John Lennon once famously did), Obama likened his humanitarian efforts to those of Ghandi and Nelson Mandela.
"The civil rights movement was hard. Winning the vote for women was hard. Making sure that workers had some basic protections was hard," said President Obama, explaining what happened to that change he promised Americans.
"Around the world, Gandhi, Nelson Mandela, what they did was hard. It takes time. It takes more than a single term. It takes more than a single president. It takes more than a single individual," Obama said.
That's funny. That's exactly what I said: that a single individual -- namely, Barack Obama, couldn't do all the things he was promising that he would do if he was elected. But you voted him into office anyway.
"What it takes is ordinary citizens who keep believe, who are committed to fighting and pushing and inching this country closer and closer to our highest ideals. And I said in 2008, 'that I am not a perfect man and I will not be a perfect president.' But I promised you, but I promised you, I promised you back then that I would always tell you what I believe. I would always tell you where I stood," he also said at a fundraiser in NYC.
Click here to watch the video of Obama speaking.