Here is another post in my ongoing series on narcissism. For you men who are healthy and would never fall into a female narcissist’s trap, another post will be up shortly.
When the female narcissist targets you, she moves with great speed. The first time you meet her she seems to appear out of nowhere. But in fact, she has been watching you for a minute and sizing you up for the kill.
She has figured out your vulnerabilities and she will use them to get what she wants: fame (if you’re a celebrity), power, or wealth.
The female Narcissist is attractive, intelligent, very charming and highly confident that she can take everything you own. These women lack what healthy women possess naturally; a conscience, character, empathy for others, etc.
It was hard to ignore singer Rihanna shamelessly draping herself all over her former lover Chris Brown during the NY Knicks vs LA Lakers game at the Staples Center Tuesday. Rihanna, who was holidaying in her native Barbados with friends and family, jetted to Brown’s side on Christmas day — despite rumors that Brown hooked back up with his long-suffering girlfriend, Karrueche Tran.
It doesn’t matter how many photos Rihanna takes with Brown, everyone can see how desperate, needy and clingy she is. She knows that Brown is using her to revive his failing career but she doesn’t care, because Brown provides the vital source of Narcissistic Supply that she craves.
Yesterday, we noted a CNN reporter labeled Kim Kardashian a narcissist. In the comments section we mentioned Kim K. using Reggie Bush (if they are back together) as her source of Narcissistic Supply. Many of you were unfamiliar with this term, which is also known as NS.
According to psychoanalyst Otto Fenichel, the Malignant Narcissist requires ‘narcissistic supply’ from the environment the same way a baby needs a bottle. Psychoanalyst Otto Kernberg referred to the coldness in a narcissist’s relationships as the “tendency to disregard others except in temporary idealization of narcissistic supply”.
Lisa E. Scott explains that narcissists have no innate sense of self or self identity. So they tend to “look outward” for objects or people that will reflect him or her as wonderful, such as a trophy wife or an expensive car.