One of my loyal readers, Shayla, emailed me a link from MSNBC detailing the new CDC stats on sexually transmitted diseases and how it is affecting teenagers in the black community. She asked me to post the story but I told her I would pass on that story.
Shayla emailed me back blasting me for being so irresponsible when it comes to educating my community. She informed me that Perez Hilton happily posted the stats on his popular blog (of course he would).
I told her that as a nurse I treated a gang of teenage boys under the age of 16 for STDs 3 years ago (at 2 local youth detention centers), and I knew all about the stats.
The boys I treated were all infected by the little Tyniqua’s and Briana’s running around the neighborhood emulating their mothers and aunties and women in videos on BET. My readers know all about the stats, because, after all, these are their kids.
As a matter of fact, I wrote an article on the old Sandrarose.com site in which I detailed the same thing that MSNBC is writing about now. Back then I wrote about treating many young boys for gonorrhea and I sent the information to the health department so they could track all the little girls down and provide them with treatment and sex education.
I wrote that many of the little girls were freely spreading infection to boys in the hood because the girls didn’t have any symptoms of STDs. This is nothing new to my regular readers.
So to Shayla, my apologies if I came off the wrong way in my email to you. I’m just tired of going over the same subjects that I’ve already covered when the rest of the country finally catches up to us.
Here’s the link to the story: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/23574940/from/ET/
I think you are right Sandra…..this has been going on in the hood for years, right along with the teen pregnancies.
True, it takes a village to raise a child, but I think it starts AT HOME! These parents are not being responsible about the welfare of their kids, whether its f**king or fighting….it seems to me that our people don’t think it’s an issue until the MAN says something about it.
we are living in our last days…sad.
You wouldnt believe how many teenage girls are walking around the HS I work at pregnant and PROUD. I believe some of them actually PLAN these pregnancies with their friends because it gets them so much attention. Its sad and its an epidemic. So obviously if they are running around here pregnant then they are having unprotected sex and at risk for STD’s. Also, one thing I have noticed as a trend at my school and Im sure in other areas are these girls are dating older men, who of course have had more sexual experience w/ multiple women. But these older men can buy them new baby phat puff coats and pastry gym shoes so they think they are “doing it big” as they call it.
I’m proud of myself for not being a statistic!
I not shocked by this at all, when we live a society where we reward famous ho’s who make sex tapes by giving them reality shows and contracts what do we expect…Look at Lola Luv and Delishis who make a living off of their a** and boobs and by being sex objects and video ho’s what kind of message does that send….We have multiple cases of SYPHILIS where I live right now, It’s so bad that there are commercials and bill boards warning young people about the dangers of sex.
I think parents should take a more active role in educating their children about sex.
its really sad and im upset cause they dont have sex education in schools, it is a must and i think that some young girls are not informed on the dangers of sleeping around with so many guys, they really think its a game but unbeknown to them they are playing with their lives, even risking not being able to produce children later on when they do decide to settle down…my friend who was spreading herself around at an early age went on to college and became a lawyer but when she met someone she loved an wanted to start a family with shes having a hard time making kids with him…all because of the 2 chlamydia infections sha caught and carried for a while befor she even realized she had it…..
I agree with Katgirl33 – It Ultimatley starts at home…I know my mother was very vocal about sex the minute I became a teen and started developing. Sadly, these days, these kids don’t even have to be in their teens.
This definitely starts at home teaching abstinence is great but lets also teach them that if they do decide to engage in sexual activity they should protect themselves. It makes me mad that for some reason these little girls think its cute to use their body up like that and by the time they realize what they are doing it could be too late they could have HIV or destroy their reproductive organs. My friends little sister had an std and she was only 14yo after she spent months before claiming she was not even having sex.It’s really embarrassing as a black woman to know that 50% of the black teens tested had stds as opposed to 20% of the caucasian and hispanic girls.Why do we have such aproblem using condoms and its not just the teens alot of adults don’t like to use them either and they don’t understand that its just the grace of god that they are getting by.
I don’t really believe it is mainly the fault of tv ,if the parents would take active roles in their kids life instead of letting BET raise their kids. A young girls role model should be her mom or an aunt or maybe an older sister not Rhianna, no offense Sandra.
Sandra remember the youtube video you ran some time ago the kids all grinding on one another. The boy practicing his stripper moves. This is the mindset of these kids, something bigger is going on They just don’t have the focus to be anything else these days.
Dang! Its really time to do better, actually its passed that time.
Sandra-
(u already know, im bout to step on some toes)
Why is it your (Sandra) to educate her community about the statistics of STD’s???
Folks KILL me when they try and make someone else be responsible for what thy’re kids are doing… No, it’s Mommy, Daddy, Big Sister, Big Brother, Nana, Papi, Aunt and Uncle resposibility..
And we gotta STOP telling these kids not to have sex because “I SAID SO”.. These children need to know that they are worth the wait to find someone that actually LOVES them and RESPECTS them. They can’t make a rational decision on what love is until they are old enough to be MENTALLY and EMOTIONALLY mature. At 14, your Uternus isn’t even finished growing!!!
Parents need to go back to being parents and NOT friends. So with that being said, at 10 O’Clock, do u know where YOUR child is???
Sandra, I know you will correct me if I got it wrong, but your post sounds as though you’re blaming girls for spreading these STDs. Is that the case?
I think a lot of people start having sex around 14, 15, 16. I don’t know if that part is new, but it used to be sex with either the highschool slut(s) or you may have had sex if you had a boyfriend. That was bad enough, but now the girls are freely giving BJs and some even have sex for money. They say that is better than “giving it away for free”. I think the problem is the mothers, number one. Yeah, peer pressure plays a role, but if you get in your childs business he/she can’t really hide a lot. Pop up at school… look thru his room… know his friends. And parents have to be strong enough not to care if their child complains about his lack of privacy. You can have privacy when you move out on your own. The only privacy my son gets is bathroom privacy – and he better not stay in there too long.
The parents and the school at some point are responsible for teaching these youngsters about sex. Teach them to protect themselves and respect themselves. youth are naturally curious so to be honest a number of them will experiment with sex and drugs. But isn’t it better for them to experiment while safe?
This abstinance thing is dangerous. It makes kids not want to talk about what it is they are getting up to and the peer pressure they are facing. So instead of talking to an adult they’ll ask another teen who they think knows about sex and we end up with kids carrying diseases like genital warts etc.
Parents first and then the school to reinforce what the parents/ guardians have told them.
It seems like the “Generation X” generation, just slacked off in raising kids. It seems like the Baby Boomers are the ones that had more sense in raising families. I take a look at my own parents and then I see today’s parents, and it is such a big difference! I wish I was engaged in these activities when I was 14! Are you serious? All I had to do was think about my father (and his reaction), and it would never cross my mind again! My parents didn’t play that.
By the way, why is this girl(in the photo)holding a pregnancy test and we’re talking about STD’s?
-MZN
It’s not shocking to us grown folks, but you have to constantly keep putting out the word to the young people. When this report came out I started thinking about how I would have the conversation with my 16 year old. She’s a virgin so I have a minute to think about it. If there is someone on this site over 20 who has not come in contact with STDs directly or indirectly I would be shocked. Yet kids don’t have that life experience and it’s an embarrassing topic so they don’t talk about it when they experience it. They need to know how prevalent STDs are. I can see why the young lady would be upset that you would refuse to discuss a topic that was shocking to her even if it was common to you.
Lastly, it sounds like your story is blaming STDs on the young ladies. Not only do they give STDs to boys they get them from boys to. No one is blameless and there is no one to blame.
My daughter calls me at work to ask if she can go out on THE PORCH! PERIOD!
I drive her to her bus stop in the morning. I pick her up from school after her student council meetings and softball practice (each of which is held on the same day, softball is EVERYDAY, even during Spring Break). She has to catch her bus at 630AM, her school day doesn’t end until 530PM. She comes home, does her homework, her chores, practices her instrument(S), does her hair, maintains her teeth (she has braces – those take time), gets her clothes out for the next day, eats, takes a shower, watches less than an hour of TV, and goes to bed.
Parents have to be involved. I keep her in so much S H I T, that she is too damn tired to think about anything else. Last night she said to me (while sweeping the kitchen floor), “mama I’m so tired”. I asked her “is school a problem” she said “no”, I said “This is only preparing you for the real world. If you think this is bad wait until you start college and go out into the adult world, you got it easy, you don’t pay bills yet.”
She’s 13.
kpakpando – I agree with you.I got the same message, but the truth is that since these girls tend not to have symptoms, they UNKNOWINGLY pass it on. Boys usually do have symptoms, and sometimes knowingly pass it on.
Society is so quick to blame the young ladies for sexual promiscuity, but the boys are “just being boys”. Truth is – they ALL need to stop it.
today is a new day. unlike generations before, we live in a HIGHLY sexualized world: the images seen on television or even todays cable is far more provocative than in the 80’s and 90’s. then, you have states and communities that believe abstinence is the right course in teaching about sexual health OR, as in the case of the black community, to either not discuss sexual health in a frank responsible manner and/or to demonized gay sex. within this context the rise in std’s should come as no surprise, nor should it come as a surprise that the most vulnerable of our community are at higher risk.
i don’t think there are any easy answers but i think just like some folks in the gay community take responsibility at every turn to preach on responsibility and safer sex (go on perez, ain’t nothin’ wrong with that) we too need to get on the tlc tip and preach!! std’s include hiv and as we all know black women are the most vulnerable in regards to contracting the virus.
let me add that not every ‘tween’ or young woman is out there shaking her junk and laying down with anyone who asks. i think folks tend to focus on the most visibly dysfunctional in the community: those pregnant too young, or otherwise fast. stop perpetuating the stereotype that the majority of girls fall in this category it only lends to young boys and men viewing these young women as something to be used and disposed of.
Prynsexx not to be funny but most teens have sex during school hrs,not saying yours is but most of the time these kids are having sex when their supposed to be at school,band practice etc.
That is a shame.My class was just talking about this.Everything is about sex.All shows, except kid shows have a reference to sex.Well I know better and I’m glad I don’t have any sexual partners until I get my money forget following behind somebody.Most of my friends had had a STD or got pregnant at a young age and now they regret somewhat having sex.
And I agree.Parents have to be involved in their children’s lives.Stop letting television raising your child.Don’t be lazy.
So you’ll pass on a story because you reported it years ago, but you won’t pass on Rhianna picture number 2,545,987. Go figure.
FlyGemini Says:
So you’ll pass on a story because you reported it years ago, but you won’t pass on Rhianna picture number 2,545,987. Go figure.
March 13th, 2008 at 2:27 pm
LMAO!
#21 pinkvirgo said:
Prynsexx not to be funny but most teens have sex during school hrs,not saying yours is
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I understand. But trust and believe she is in school, during school hours. I have history with the teachers. Her school has a system in place where if a child is NOT in class, they call. Something happened to her in school last week, where I had to go pick her up, b4 we made it home, her teacher was calling. I go to conferences, when THEY say that I don’t have to. I show up “UNEXPECTED” at the school, w/o warning. You have to know who and where your children are at and around, INCLUDING THE TEACHERS. Trust me her grades do NOT reflect a child that is skipping school to “have sex”. She is in all advanced classes, they don’t accept late work. She’s not missing any assignments as of yesterday. Some parents don’t even know their teachers names or the subjects they are taking. I don’t rely on THE TEACHER tell me everything is okay. I within my own heart have to know for myself. Let me see her grades, let me see what she’s working on. Give me a syllabus and a calendar. That is LEAST expected from a parent. A young, black, working, single parent at that.
@ PRYNSEXXX I feel u I don’t have any kids yet but when I do I plan on doing the same thing b/c I remember the okidoke I used to pull lol.Pop up visits will mos def be in my itinerary.
Sandra you need to check your facts on some of the things you are saying. It’s actually males who can walk around for long periods of time without knowing they have symptoms of common STD’s. Now I hope you werent saying you were a nurse because you need to have your license taken away from you. It’s cool to make the post to bring awareness to people but dont make it seem as if it’s only these little girls who are spreading these STD’s to these helpless boys.
@ Beaute101: I do know what I’m talking about. Here’s some info on Gonorrhea for you. Hey, you might have it and not even know! The next time you challenge me, make sure you have your facts straight. I specifically treated the boys for Gonorrhea and I stated that in my post:
“Gonorrhea can be difficult to diagnose, especially in women. This is because women often exhibit few or no symptoms, or mistake gonorrhea for a mild bladder infection; in fact, as many as 50% of female gonorrhea sufferers experience no symptoms. Men are much more likely to develop symptoms. Gonorrhea can infect the cervix, urethra, anus, and throat. Depending upon how you contracted the disease and how long you’ve had it for, you may experience symptoms affecting a number of these areas.”
To Kpak and others who ask if I’m blaming the girls: No, I’m not blaming the little girls because they don’t know they are spreading infection until they are notified by the health department which rarely happens.
I do blame the mothers and other women in their lives who don’t sit them down and talk to them about abstinence. Little girls watch what you do and they pattern their behavior accordingly. It is not my job to educate your kids, but I do it when I can because I know you’re not doing it.
Actually Beaute101 Sandra is right women can walk around for a minute without knowing they have an std where some males wake up burning the next morning.lmao
BV Most women have no symptoms. Women with symptoms may have:
vaginal itching
pain when urinating
discharge with a fishy odor
Chlamydia
Most women have no symptoms
. Women with symptoms may have:
abnormal vaginal discharge
burning when urinating
bleeding between menstrual periods
Infections that are not treated, even if there are no symptoms, can lead to:
lower abdominal pain
low back pain
nausea
fever
pain during sex
bleeding between periods
Genital Herpes Some people may have no symptoms. During an “outbreak,” the symptoms are clear:
small red bumps, blisters, or open sores on the penis, vagina, or on areas close by
vaginal discharge
fever
headache
muscle aches
pain when urinating
itching, burning, or swollen glands in genital area
pain in legs, buttocks, or genital area
Symptoms may go away and then come back. Sores heal after two to four weeks.
Gonorrhea Symptoms are often mild, but most women have no symptoms. Even when women have symptoms, they can sometimes be mistaken for a bladder or another vaginal infection. Symptoms are:
pain or burning when urinating
yellowish and sometimes bloody vaginal discharge
bleeding between menstrual periods
Hepatitis B Some women have no symptoms. Women with symptoms may have:
mild fever
headache and muscle aches
tiredness
loss of appetite
nausea or vomiting
diarrhea
dark-colored urine and pale bowel movements
stomach pain
skin and whites of eyes turning yellow
HIV/AIDS Some women may have no symptoms for 10 years or more. Women with symptoms may have:
extreme fatigue
rapid weight loss
frequent low-grade fevers and night sweats
frequent yeast infections (in the mouth)
vaginal yeast infections and other STDs
pelvic inflammatory disease (PID)
menstrual cycle changes
red, brown, or purplish blotches on or under the skin or inside the mouth, nose, or eyelids
Human Papillomavirus (HPV) Some women have no symptoms. Women with symptoms may have:
visible warts in the genital area, including the thighs. Warts can be raised or flat, alone or in groups, small or large, and sometimes they are cauliflower-shaped.
lesions on the cervix and in the vagina
Sorry Sandra didn’t know u had come in here and wrecked shop.lol
By the way, why is this girl(in the photo)holding a pregnancy test and we’re talking about STD’s?
-MZN
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Trust me, that was the tamest pic I could find. You should see the pictures for STDs on Google.com.
Why, why, why are we so surprised when we see and read about such stats, when almost every movie, every video, every song, every poster, every reality show, ever sit-com, EVERBODY is talking about sex, sex, sex and more sex. Oral sex? Childdddddddd when I was a young teenager back in the late 60s, black folks didn’t talk about oral sex and many didn’t participate, and if they did, it was a moral secret!(white girls did this!) Now, young, YOUNG girls will suck a d*** in a heart beat. So sad.
And of course, it’s all about the booty, the big-butt girl, black or white, got it going on. I asked my husband and son once if they thought that a girl with a round butt the size of a large wall with a small waste had a good figure and they both said yes! Crazy, just doesn’t make sense.
And these girls who are having sex are having babies, especially black girls, 3,4,5 babies by 3,4,5 different men, and in most cases, all involved are unmarried, uneducated but most importantly, unemployed! OUR CHILDREN DESERVE BETTER, much, much better!
As always, I leave you in peace.
PAHairston when I was growing we didn’t speak of oral sex either and that was in the 90’s so I don’t whats up with these kids.If there was even a rumor of u giving head when I was high school you were excommunicated now its like whatever!
i believe because there r numerous young fast AZZ girls walking aroung pregnant and thinking its cute. i was on the bus and this 14 year old girl was talking to a ignorant older lady telling her she was pregnant and the older lady was like oh yeah my daughter had her 1st child at ur age, im like WFT, thats not cute. i cnt understand y so many young girls have kids they cnt take of, let alone have unprotected sex with ne and everybody. and yes i know it takes 2 to tango but when girls get pregnant everything falls on the girl. how many young guys take care of the baby, meaning the baby lives with the girl and guy? NONE thats many. well let me stop, maybe about 2% and im stretching it. this world is crazy and its not getting ne better. parents need to teach their kids about sex and about protection. its not cute to be walking around with a incurable disease.
Well……many young girls that i RX for Chlamydia&Gonorrhea test were detected when they had their annual GYN exam. MOST of the time the female who walks around with it got it from her man who was out there cheating, who had the symptoms and got treated and did not bother to share it with her. So how can a women get treated for a STD that she doesn’t know she is walking around with? Women do not always show symptoms unless she is walking around with it for a very long time in return it turns into an abcess or she develops a PID (pelvic inflammatory disease) So that’s when she receives her treatment in a form of a IV
HPV is a STD that a MAN gives to you if you don’t practice safe sex. Men in some countries (some in the US) can now get the HPV vaccine, However they must get the shot every 5 years.
oh it is good to get a STD panel done, that consist, HCV, HBV, RPR AND HIV. the chances of that person having another form of a STD is high.
Not to say there isn’t some merit to the article, it is a big misleading. For one, it doesn’t state that 1 out of 4 teens girls have an STD, it states that 1 out of 4 SEXUALLY ACTIVE teen girls have an STD. Also, statistically speaking only 800 teens were interviewed and all information was self reported. The data wasn’t received from any health depts., medical facilities, or any other type of agencies.
I see that there are a lot of judgemental people on this board. I don’t know how old most of you are, but I’m 32 and I remember being a teenager vividly. My parents are very old-school and they stressed virginity and watched me like a hawk,but you know what? I had sex for the first time at the age of 13 and my parents never knew. I kept having sex without their knowledge until I was 21,on my own and I had my son. You could have knocked mom and dad over with a feather because they were so stunned. Bottom line,you can teach your kid all the morals and values in the world but at the end of the day they will decide for themselves wether or not to have sex. If I could turn back the clock I would have waited, but I hate to hear everyone automatically accusing the parents of sexually active teens of being irresponsible. Those of you that were teen parents or sexually active at a young age should think twice about being so strict on your own kids…don’t make them pay for your regrets and mistakes. If your child has not given you a reason not to trust them, don’t breathe down their necks about every little thing because it makes a kid sneaky rather than feel they can come to you if there is a situation.
Being proactive and breathing down their necks are two different things.I agree that you can teach your children to the best of your ability and ultimately the choice is theres but most of the time somewhere deep inside they remember what you taught them whether they stray for a minute 9 times out of ten they will return b/c noone is perfect and sex is just a natural part of life.I can only speak for myself but most of the little girls I know that are “fast” their parents aren’t involved.Alot of times this is b/c their parents were young when they had them and they still want to have fun themselves. I don’t believe in being a childs friend you don’t have to like me all the time but you will respect me.Those were my grandmas words.
prynsexxx Says:
My daughter calls me at work to ask if she can go out on THE PORCH! PERIOD!
She’s 13.
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pinkvirgo Says:
Prynsexx not to be funny but most teens have sex during school hrs,not saying yours is but most of the time these kids are having sex when their supposed to be at school,band practice etc.
***********************************************************The fact that they are having sex during these times is not really the issue. The FACT that she’s so INVOLVED IN HER DAUGHTER’S BUSINESS is what she’s trying to get parents to understand.. You have to tell them about what’s out here in the world, but definately don’t know what they do every minute of everyday..
Once they do what they wanna do after you tell them, IT’S ON them. They can’t say “I DIDN’T KNOW”…
uhm, why is it that yuo have respect for superhead and her message and yet fail to hold folks like her responsible for the jacked up images that portray to our young girls. The sad fact is that the prevalance of std’s amongst black girls is higher than that for any other group. AND the most frequently acquired infections are the INCURABLE TYPE like HIV HSV and HPV.
if you are under 30 the the body gets rid of the HPV virus, (not a reason to not use protection, condoms ect…ect)that is one of the reason women under 30 is not tested for it, however young women as young as 13 has had HGSIL and LGSIL on their pap smear results, wich means that they were sexing a older mature man and sexing more often than their parents. That is why women over 30 is not offered the new vaccine shot for HPV. I think 26 or 28 is the cut off age limit.
HPV will cause your pap smear to become abnormal and if not monitored it can turn into cervical cancer. That is why colposcopies and LEEPS are done along with frequent paps to monitor the abnormal cells.