Rihanna sits down with GMA’s Diane Sawyer to break her silence after being beaten within an inch of her life by convicted felon Chris Brown. Sawyer was granted the first interview over Oprah Winfrey. Some parts of this interview had me :yawn: but RiRi looks so good! I hope she can put all this behind her and just make great music.




  • ReadTheBlog

    ratings and record sales

  • LovelyLady

    She threw CB under the bus…rode over him….got out and kicked him…spit on him…then said i still ove you :rofl: however im glad she spoke out

  • LovelyLady

    :cosign: RTB

  • LovelyLady

    ^^Typo
    Still love you

  • jazi65

    There is no way she could promote her new cd and not discuss this. I was dumbfounded when she said that she went back but I’ve seen it happen to close friends of mine. I’m happy that she was able to see that it was not a healthy relationship for either one of them.

  • http://myspace.com/bettathaniwasb4 2bme

    @lovely YES she did..But she’s right it’s hard for many women not to go back..i know the post will be bombarded with “i wish a nigga would’ “I’d cut him” but it’s not always that easy..ESPECIALLY when you think you are in love and you put your all into someone and forget to love yourself.If Rhianna wasn’t Rhianna she would still be with him IMO..she really was forced to leave this time or throw her career away

  • licia

    i agree rtb.

    * waits for the backlash*

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    Ill wait to read the comments since I can’t see video. I still stand by she is only doing this to promote her record. Timing is everything. & again did they ask why it took so long to speak out. And if she is trying to throw Chris under the bus did they ask her why she was seen with him AFTER the fight? Or why (according to Diasy I’m not sure) they asked for the stay away order to be removed.

    Did ABC win a bidding war to get her on the showe?

  • http://twitter.com/LaydeeJustice LadyJustice =)

    ReadTheBlog Says:

    ratings and record sales

    agreed. if there was no album she wouldnt be saying a word

  • whyohwhy

    There are young girls, women and young boys and men being actually beat every second in the world and this lying skank had the nerve to sit on national television and spill these lies. She looks convincing cause she had 9 months to practice, but for her to now speak out before her CD drops is dead wrong! You have women who better not look at their man and they are thrown down some stairs or slapped and she now wants to be the sister girl! that wants to help someone? Rihanna I had no respect for your so called art before but as a person I repsected all until this. She had to many opportunities, money, connections and even fans to not have come out before now until that CD was coming out to speak and help if only one but she choice to walk around in designer clothes looking like she just stepped off some runway (as y’all say)showing her but, half naked most of the time and now this! They should throw away her CD, if she goes and excepts that award for women of the year Chris should be there to really beat her down off that stage! I really dont believe she had the nerve to do such a terrible thing like this..

  • http://twitter.com/eastpointvet eastpointvet

    sandra why u didnt add radar to your blog roll u are on theres and u posting there youtube link

  • Dhoward1913

    @iscream…..I’m with you. This was totally about record sales. If it was about helping the people that look up to her as she said, why not come out sooner and help them?

  • ELove

    Ms. Sandra THIS five-line post is F-ing HILARIOUS !!!!!
    Some of your BEST WORK to Date — YOUR a True ICON (Real)

    Some High-lights (And CLASSIC at that):
    “after being beaten within an inch of her life by convicted felon Chris Brown.” — ALMOST spit out my Coffee

    “I hope she can put all this behind her and just make great music.” — NEARLY Fell out of My Chair !!! :rofl:

  • KaraZ

    :clap: Rihanna. Promoting records or not, she’s saying the right things, too many young girls look up to her & other fock ups in the limelight, so I’m glad she can sacrifice herself (at least in the public eye) & is using her celebrity responsibly. People can say she’s lying but she didn’t beat up herself & Chris already admitted to battering her.

  • http://twitter.com/LaydeeJustice LadyJustice =)

    why is this site going so slow? ugh

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    Found this on the other site 😐 for those like me who can’t view video. Its not much but its probably all she really said that’s worth hearing.

    “I am strong. This happened to me. I didn’t cause this. I didn’t do it. This happened to me and it can happen to anybody. There is alot of women that experience what I did but not in the public so it made it really difficult. I was like “Oh my God! Here goes my little bit of privacy. Just being exposed. Just something that nobody wants anybody to know so here I am, the whole world knowing.

    Diane: Why be ashamed?

    I didn’t want people to think that…..I fell in love with that person. That’s embarrassing that that is the type of person that I fell in love with. So far in love. So unconditional that I went back…

    Diane: On average I think it takes a woman 7 times before she leaves

    Or 9 actually. And I don’t want that to happen. That’s not what I want to teach people but again I’m a human being and people put me on an unrealistic pedestal. All these expectations. I’m not perfect. Also it’s pretty natural for that to be the first reaction. It’s completely normal to go back. You start lying to yourself. The minute the physical wombs go away, this is a memory you don’t want to have ever again.

    When I realized that my selfish decision for love could result into some young girl getting killed, I could not be easy with that part. I couldn’t be held responsible for telling them “Go Back”. Even if Chris never hit me again, who’s to say that their boyfriend won’t. Who’s to say that they won’t kill these girls. And these are young girls. I just didn’t know how much of an impact I had on these girls lives until that happened. It was a wake up call for me big time especially after I took myself out of that situation. I will say that to any young girl going through domestic violence. Don’t react off of love. F love. Come out of the situation and look at it third person for what it really is and then make your decision because love is so blind.

  • http://twitter.com/LaydeeJustice LadyJustice =)

    chris is gonna be on MTV today? tomorrow? to tell his side of the story again

  • Certified

    I’m happy she is speaking about it…

  • http://twitter.com/sherita78 mizzdallas

    And when Robyn goes to accept her WOman of the year award Chris Brown should do a little mama come up on the stage and the slap the shyt out of her with a big azz “F-U Tmz stamp”

  • http://twitter.com/sherita78 mizzdallas

    @ladyjustice

    I donot want to hear him say #attheendoftheday about 1500 trillion times! lol

  • licia

    mizzdallas Says:

    And when Robyn goes to accept her WOman of the year award Chris Brown should do a little mama come up on the stage and the slap the shyt out of her with a big azz “F-U Tmz stamp”

    ^^^ DEAD!!!!!!

  • http://twitter.com/eastpointvet eastpointvet

    f love lol

  • intensemocha

    JUST SAW THIS ON GOOD MORNING AMERICA

    GOOD FOR HER-IT’S OBVIOUS SHE HAS GROWN FROM THIS EXPERIENCE I APPLAUD HER FOR SPEAKING OUT

    THIS WAS OBVIOUSLY VERY PAINFUL FOR HER-AND FOR ALL OF THOSE WHO HELD OUT RESERVATIONS ABOUT CHRIS BROWN-WELL THEY SAID SHE WILL SPEAK IN DETAIL ABOUT WHAT OCCURRED HOPEFULLY WE WILL LEARN IF SHE PUT HER HANDS ON CHRIS THAT NIGHT OR ANY POINT IN THE RELATIONSHIP

    JUDGING FROM HER BODY LANGUAGE AND HOW SHE SPOKE AND THE THOUGHT SHE PUT INTO ANSWERING EACH QUESTION-THIS WOMAN APPEARS TO BE A CLASSIC DOMESTIC ABUSE VICTIM

  • KaraZ

    I’m really trying to understand why people are calling this girl a liar? Are you saying that she beat up herself? or someone else beat her and she’s blaming Chris Brown? or that it was the first time he beat her? or that it was her fault that he beat her? or that she deserved to be beaten? I’m not understanding that line of thought at all, can someone clarify, whyowhy, mizzdallas…

  • http://myspace.com/erikamagaly Hermosa

    She is doing this interview for the same reason Chris Brown was/is doing a million interviews…to save her career.

  • http://myspace.com/erikamagaly Hermosa

    @Karaz

    I compeltely agree with you. Its a shame, really.

  • ELove

    @mizzdallas … :rofl:

  • Daisy

    LJ CB will be on MTV 2morrow he has to get them back on his good side

    Isc her and her lawyer asked TWICE for the stay away order to be kicked. Her lawyer said and I quote “Ms Fenty does not feel it is needed” this was just n Aug

    I am still team BOTH and wish them both much success and pray they have/are healing and learning

    I guess CB won’t be taking to twitter to profess his love anymore 😆

  • luvly1957

    I agree its for record sales but believe me when I say she will be back with him and her album is going to FLOP!!!!

  • Ms.kaylamomma

    Thanks Iscream for the transcript. Can see the video at work either.

    I like Rhianna and I’m glad she is speaking out. Unfortunately, she is right. Artists are placed on these pedestals by their fans. Some of these artists are not and cannot ever be role models just by the way they carry themselves. I think it’s selfish for people to hold these artists at a higher standard than we hold ourselves. We are all human beings.

  • melinla

    h you Elove – “after being beaten within an inch of her life by convicted felon Chris Brown.” REALLY – she had a busted lip and some bruises – not to belittle what happened, but that is not within an inch of her life…

    And I’m going to throw my hat into the “ratings and record sales ring”…

  • melinla

    I’m with you Elove – “after being beaten within an inch of her life by convicted felon Chris Brown.” REALLY – she had a busted lip and some bruises – not to belittle what happened, but that is not within an inch of her life…

    And I’m going to throw my hat into the “ratings and record sales ring”…

  • KaraZ

    @2bme… I agree. Its hard to walk away from someone you think you love. My ex boyfriend I swore I loved (really it was just the sex when I look back) exhibited signs of abuse, manipulative words & behavior to try to control me, for a long time, but I stayed put and ascribed that to him having bad days. Thank goodness I had the clarity of mind to be able to put his azz on ice the first time he grabbed me so hard and bruised my arm. He’s married now & I know he batters his wife.

  • http://myspace.com/erikamagaly Hermosa

    “REALLY – she had a busted lip and some bruises”

    Are you serious? Wow

  • luvly1957

    Karaz

    No one i believe is saying she deserved it but wat i am saying is it’s a 2 way street, why does she not admit her guilt and dat she beat him also or why does she not tell the whole story. wat i am saying dat this was done for publicity and record sales cuz she has an album gettin ready to drop and now she wants to talk,now she wants to speak on domestic violence…please!!!!

  • wiggy2272003

    Thanks Iscream, no sound at work

    Agree with Kara and Intense. Though I don’t approve of Cbreezy bashing.

  • missy

    I lost what reapect i had for her mainly because she waited until her album to come out to talk about domestic violence ……..If you wanted to be a role model to little girls then you should of come out and talk without having to promote for your album……..

    I agree with iscream and RTB

    She’s is only trying to sell albums because she knew she was gonna be asked these questions so she is prepared……Has anyone noticed that this girl rarely does interviews(I see why)……And she is only embarrassed because her photos of her faced were released(because she was out partying like 4-7 days after the incident)Anyway i don’t know if CB is the animal she implied but I don’t think she should ever go back to him.

  • Daisy

    I bet Jay Z is somewhere doing a happy :dance:

    RiRis PR team is ON IT they had her prepped n prepared!

    Somebody said she reminded them of Sharon Stone in that white dress 😆

    There are 3 sides to a story and I don’t think we will ever know the complete truth about what did and did not take place n their relationship or car that night BUT I will be tuned in with my one good ear listening hard tomorrow night!

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    I don’t think she’s lying nor do I think she deserve to be beat.

    HOWEVER

    I don’t understand why she had to wait until her album came out before she decided to speak on the issue. If you weren’t going to speak on it.. Let your music speak for you.

    When Ike beat Tina she didn’t speak on that issue till YEARS after she became a HUGE celeb. She didn’t rely on sympathy to sell a record. She let her talent speak for itself.

    If Rhianna was really interested in the lives of young girls she sure has a funny way of showing it.

    To me this is no different than when rappers beef right before their album drops. Trying to sell a record off of controversy is trying to sell a record off of controversy.

  • licia

    i don’t believe she deserved it, but the timing makes me give her the side eye ( old chris got the side eye too when he did his video) . IMo she should’ve spoken up way before he did .

  • ELove

    @intense
    NOT disrespecting your opinion OR perspective… And NO I didn’t see the video and have no interest in doing so BUT from all of the items AND pictures AND other things I’ve seen from the very moment this incident occurred and after-wards… SHE’S NOT A CLASSIC DV-Victim IMO

    And I’ve SEEN DV-Victims (REAL ONES) Some were family members and very close Friends I consider Family… And I’ve help assist them in their recovery BOTH mentally-n-physically and Rhi-Rhi doesn’t PASS THE SNIFF TEST (In MY Opinion…) 😆

  • http://facebook.com/Im2thick4u 2thick4u

    Well forced or decided I am glad that they are no longer together. It didn’t seem like a healthy relationship.

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    She’s just as bad as Robin Givens…her music promotes negativity but she is tryin to uplift who…ironically Mike Tyson gave insight on Robin not being the victim-stating she too would hit him…I do not condone domestic violence but I also don’t condone playing victim when it benefits you!

  • http://myspace.com/erikamagaly Hermosa

    @iscream

    this is not a rappping battle…this is her life. This girl got beat savagely. Im am sure this time is convinient for her but to say she is using her personal struggle to sell records is low to me.

    What was chris brown doing in all these interviews? Why is he allowed to do interviews w/o people saying he’s just trying to save his career.

    IMO, chris brown was more guiltly for trying to salvage his career than Rihanna. Its inevitable for her to talk about it and it just happens to be a great time to do so.

  • Daisy

    @elove #41 (BINGO) :rofl:

    I am ready to see the videos for Crawl and Russian Roulette!

  • http://myspace.com/erikamagaly Hermosa

    @elove

    I know that your opinion.

    but Rihanna happens to be the victim and she calls it domestic violence..thats good enough for me.

  • heavn_sent

    OK..I can’t see the video either. I don’t know what a “classic” domestic abuse victim looks like, but I do know what a REAL one does. I see her in the mirror everyday. I was in a situation..a real bad situation for FIVE..count ’em..FIVE years before I got out. And I’m not even going to tell y’all it took my mother (love of my life) to get me out. ANNNNNND..I had the nerve to go back a couple of years later..there was no physical abuse this time, but the signs were becoming more and more apparent. But don’t cry me no river..I blame me.. Plain and simple. Oh don’t get me wrong..he will pay for the rest of his life (already did jail time), but I made the decison to stay and to go back! And you know what’s funny, I didn’t realize how emotionally scarred I was until I got into a serious relationship.

  • http://twitter.com/sherita78 mizzdallas

    I never said she was lying first of all, I for one just dont believe she is a victmin of DV, jmo I feel like she has NOT admitted guilt on her side,she had ample mount of time to speak about this incident instead of streetwalking and exposing her nude pics, so all of a sudden she has a album about to drop in two weeks so she feels the need to speak up for DV woman,:rollseyes: I dont condone what Chris did was right he was clearly in the wrong. Im just gonna keep it real I just dont feel no sympathy for her not even the a little bit…

  • Daisy

    :rofl: @lil duval on twitter and his Chrianna jokes

    @elove I get what you were saying :kiss:

  • ReadTheBlog

    Something tells me they still talk.

    :offtopic: So what’s everyone doing with their hair, these days?

  • missy

    I think the reason why CB looks better(even though he looked a fool on larry king)is because he spoke about it before his album was coming out and not the month of it…… Thats just my view of it though
    ——

    @daisyI guess CB won’t be taking to twitter to profess his love anymore

    —-

    :lolol: so true but i wonder if he is gonna address this on twitter like he does everything…

  • http://twitter.com/sherita78 mizzdallas

    WOW! @ heaven thank god you got out of that situation!

  • http://myspace.com/erikamagaly Hermosa

    Its a shame that even when the victim is speaking out and telling her side, people will still find ways to make her guilty.

    Her life she lives or how she chooses to dress has nothing to do with what happened.

    Its like saying a prostitute was just asking to be raped…the fact of the matter is that it happpened and no one deserves it.

    Im still confused…why are people assuming she has any guilt? Has she or Chris said anything that would make people ASSume that?

  • http://twitter.com/sherita78 mizzdallas

    @rtb

    So what’s everyone doing with their hair, these days?

    I had a sew-in and I took that out now Im just rocking my natural hair! 🙂 I wanted something different Im either rocking a sew-in weave or lace front wig or my natural hair! hehehehhehehe

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    Lol @ Hemosa

    I agree her using her personal stuggle to sell records is low… so why is she doing it?

    I also said numerous times that CB needs to shut the F up. And he needs to stay off of Twitter.

    I’m not team neither. They were two people caught up with each other and got caught out there. Had someone not had called the cops that night they would still likely be together.

    So just like the she’s sleeping with Jay Z rumors helped to propel her career. (Especially after Bey dropped Ring the Alarm.) She is now using this experience and making the best of it. It does sound bad but that’s what it is.

  • intensemocha

    @ E LOVE

    WHY CAUSE SHE HAS MONEY

    WHAT DYNAMICS MAKES HER SITUATION DIFFERENT FROM ANY OTHER WOMAN THAT WAS ABUSED OTHER THAN HER ENTERTAINMENT STATUS AND WEALTH

    THOSE BRUISES LOOKED QUITE REAL TO ME

    AND IT’S OK TO DISAGREE-ACTUALLY I ENJOY IT

  • KaraZ

    There was no way Rihanna was going to be able to do press for her new album without addressing the elephant in her room. So while her timing might seem convenient to you all, it was what she had to do to be able to move on with her career. I doubt that she even wanted to talk about it ever, look at how she’s rarely making eye contact, grimacing & fidgeting when she’s speaking specifically about it.

    @eLove, are you a social worker or psychiatrist? If not, how do you know what all types of domestic violence victims looks like? I think I’m safe in assuming that you’re a black american & so are most of your family & friends that have been battered, so have you thought that the you’re misreading Rihanna’s signal due to a cultural difference? There are many things to take into account before you start saying she doesn’t look like what I do or don’t recognize. Her background, her age, her status, the support system she has in place.

  • missy

    @heaven

    Thank God you got out of it even thoough you might be a little emotionally wounded better 5 yrs later and alive then still there. :claps: and your mom is a good woman for helping you.

    agreed with mizz.. @ comment 48

  • ReadTheBlog

    @ Miss Dallas, I’m doing a big ole thowback Madame CJ Walker PNC – press and curl! Well, flat iron, really. I wish I could weave or wig it up but when you got hair to your shoulder, it’s a wasted effort!

  • KaraZ

    Does any of the songs on the new album have a song about being abused or being a victim? Someone enlighten me please, I haven’t listened to or researched her new stuff.

  • iyonah

    I :cosign: 2thick and I will not make any more statements on this. NEW post please!

  • http://twitter.com/LaydeeJustice LadyJustice =)

    @daisy those tweets were funny. lol

    ReadTheBlog Says:
    So what’s everyone doing with their hair, these days?

    Im rockin a wavy sew-in right now and loving it 😀 im bout ready to take it out though, i miss my hair

  • http://twitter.com/sherita78 mizzdallas

    @isc

    I was glad that the juge placed the stay-way order robyn n cb didnt have a healthy relationship they both need to be apart from each other and move on but for some reason I have this feeling that they are still getting in! smdh

    @hermosa

    Hello! she bust a bottle over her brothers head, (via vibe magazine) where she discussed that whole situation, anybody that is violent toward their sibling or anybody else for that matter has some issues, yes chris hit her and he should have never hit her back, but just like an egg n chicken we will never know what happen in that car that night. But I donot believe that chris will just haul off and hit her without her attacking him jmo however wrong is wrong n right is right I still feel like she is not a DV victmin!

  • missy

    here is the great debate in 5.4.3.2.. Action

    @RTB So what’s everyone doing with their hair, these days?

    I am rocking my natural hair but I am trying to figure out whether i’m gonna perm or straighten it i’ll be weaving later on this year but still debating on what to do with it.

  • iyonah

    @Daisy – you think that was funny from Lil Duval?

  • Krysi J

    I respect her decision.

    Chris needs to move on….If this didn’t give you the answer to all of those lingering questions of another chance, nothing ever will…..you need to take Rhianna’s advice “F love, because love is so blind”……cancel dat

    there are THOUSANDS more!

  • heavn_sent

    Thanks missy and mizz..My mommy ROCKS! As old as I am, I’m still HER BABY! LOL

    I don’t know..I think she bears some responsibility to speak on it, but the timing..hmmmmm..Anywho, I also think that this culture, with it’s misogynistic messages lends itself to a lot of what’s wrong with “us”. And while I don;t agree that a prostitute is asking to be raped. i believe that she has a repsonsiblity to not put herself in such a position of vulnerability. She has to lover herself. Bottom line: No one has the right to violate ANYONE, physically, emotionally, sexually, verbally, or otherwise. AND we have a reposnsibility to ourselves to ensure that we don’t put ourselves in a position to be violated.

  • http://twitter.com/sherita78 mizzdallas

    @rtb

    please continue to rock your natural hair, I cut my hair 4 yrs ago and now I want my hair back to my shoulders! LJ has a pretty sew-in weave dont take it out now wait a couple of weeks! 🙂

  • http://twitter.com/sherita78 mizzdallas

    @heaven sent
    don’t know..I think she bears some responsibility to speak on it, but the timing..hmmmmm..Anywho, I also think that this culture, with it’s misogynistic messages lends itself to a lot of what’s wrong with “us”. And while I don;t agree that a prostitute is asking to be raped. i believe that she has a repsonsiblity to not put herself in such a position of vulnerability. She has to lover herself. Bottom line: No one has the right to violate ANYONE, physically, emotionally, sexually, verbally, or otherwise. AND we have a reposnsibility to ourselves to ensure that we don’t put ourselves in a position to be violated.

    :preach:

  • ELove

    @Hermosa (comment #53)
    I understand YOUR opinion is YOUR opinion BUT what you fail to REALIZE is that Rhi-Rhi ISN’T A VICTIM and is NOWHERE NEAR a Helpless Victim… SHE’S holding ALL OF THE POWER and ALWAYS HAS !!!!!

    CB has a criminal record and a REP that will NEVER DIE…

    Rhi-Rhi gets MAJOR Air-play, Positive media coverage and COVERS OF MAGAZINES GALORE … Where EXACTLY is the suffering OH YEAH that’s right (I HURT INSIDE So Deeply… Sniff Sniff — Sigh, Sigh)

    I FEEL just like @Mizzdallas (SEE comment #48)

    @Daisy
    Hey baby-Boo :kiss: :hug:

  • Daisy

    @heaven thanks for sharing your testimony :clap:

    Even if lil miss sunshine was throwing bows during the relationship CB can’t come out and say it cause the media would jump all over him because of the never hit a woman rule. Men should walk away vs hitting. That is why I say there are THREE sides to every story!

    I don’t care that RiRi is speaking out good for her he said his peace she can say hers cd coming out or not!

    DV is a REAL issue and I pray that any woman n that situation finds a way to get out sonner than later!

    If RiRi says she is a victim and it helps her sleep betta at night then so be it lol

    Just get on with the music after these interviews I’m sure they will be buying each others cds :coffee:

  • KaraZ

    So her guilt absolves his guilt, is that the general consensus? She’s not really a victim because she hit him too?

    I’ve read the definition of DV (or intimate partner abuse), and this incident falls under it. It doesn’t have to be repeated to qualify as DV and she doesn’t have to be a withering girl to qualify as a victim.

  • missy

    Oh and you know what annoys me about this some arse hole said that if this was some local girl that CB had beaten down then no one would have cared(some heffa on one of those TV network E!or MTV)that just popped up in my head……….So lets see if CB had beat down a non-celeb what many really care………..I say yes but them arse holes in Hollywood just don’t…….Any way they should stay away from each other and i doubt he’ll be on twitter soon.

  • heavn_sent

    @ missy: LOCS HERE!! 6 Years in December (natural for 7)!!!

    I thought about cutting them, becuase the abusive ex convinced me to get them..but you know what..HE JUST DON’T HAVE THAT KINDA POWER!

  • intensemocha

    EVEN IF SHE IS DOING IT TO INCREASE RECORD SALES OR PROMOTE HER ALBUM

    IT DOESN’T NEGATE THE FACT SHE WAS BEATEN, SHE LOOKED LIKE SHE WAS GOING TO CRY SOMETIMES DURING THE INTERVIEW AND YOU CAN TELL SHE WAS ANSWERING THE QUESTIONS FROM A PERSONAL PLACE -I DON’T BELIEVE HER EMOTIONS WERE FAKE-THEY SEEM QUITE RAW TO ME

    AND I’M NOT EVEN A RIHANNA FAN-I’M BEING OBJECTIVE BASED ON WHAT I SAW DURING THE INTERVIEW

  • Shauny

    So if she immediately came out and said something we’d find excuses for her really trying to kill CBs career.

    Last time I checked if you get your ass beat by your boyfriend/girlfriend the charges against you are DOMESTIC VIOLENCE…which makes her a DOMESTIC VIOLENCE VICTIM!! What, does she have to flinch at the mention of his name, go back and catch a few more ass whippings, I mean what does she have to do to be considered a victim? He whipped her ass, he was her man = domestic violence. WOW just WOW

    She’s coming out now because she has a CD (who really thinks she could’ve gotten an interview out to promote her CD if she didn’t) and she’s still bashed….huh

    For everyone who’s talking about she needs to tell the truth that CB hit her first HOW COME HE HAS YET TO SAY THAT HIMSELF? If she’s “throwing him under the bus” by placing all of the blame on him then why is he letting her? Why is he not throwing her ass back under the bus saying bitch you know you hit me first? What does he have to lose? Why did she have to do something in order to get bit, punched, and headlocked?

    It really amazes me especially on here when many us of have children…young ladies..who can be put in this same situation to not seem to give a chit about the fact that CB beat her ass for whatever reason he did. If she slapped him, o.k if he lost control slap her back (which still isn’t right but you could understand reflexes). But he bit and hit her closed fist and we are bashing HER!! AMAZING!!!

    YT folks love reading our blogs and laughing at us for going in on RhiRhi for getting her ass beat. We give them so much ammo though…SMDH

    I hope it never happens to your children because I’m sure you’d be singing a different tune.

  • KaraZ

    @heavn_sent, your bottom line is on point. So in your situation, how did you place yourself in a place of vulnerability, the first time around?

  • thaspinaltruth

    I am really drained with the Crihanna stuff. I MEAN LET IT GO ALREADY. Will this forever be a dicussion at every holiday gathering – Christmas, Thanksgivings, 4th of July, Easter, President’s day Martin Luther King Day, Labor Day, St. Jude Day….

  • ELove

    @intense and @KaraZ
    I’m NOT going to go back-n-fourth because SHE doesn’t deserve the intellect and actual constructive detail dialogue that’s required to come to some common ground of REAL SENSE about Real Domestic Violence individuals… Y’all perspective ARE Y’all and I RESPECT that… SHE’S not worth the effort and time for serious discussion (Real Talk…)

    I LEAVE IN PEACE !!!!! 😆

  • heavn_sent

    @ KaraZ:

    The signs were there..I chose to ignore them. I had Tina-syndrome..I believed that if he didn’t have me, he had no one. And worst of all, I didn’t tell. I knew that if I did, my mom, my friends, would have done everything in their power to get me out. I kept thinking that I could change him (CHILE BYE!!!!). I am dark so there weren;t many bruises..

  • Shauny

    I didn’t even read ALL of the comments…oh my…very sad that this is a more mature site. Hermosa, Intense, and Kara :cosign: yall but going back to work. This topic isn’t going to get me heated today.

    I just hope it never happens to you and yours the ones who are judging like a MF.

  • kcicero

    I don’t want to jump in here but @mizz my brother is physically abusive always have been. His justification is that he would never hit is girl but I am his sister so he had every right. We would argue over the silliest things and he’d be ready to kill me. I remember him chocking me and the only I could think to defend myself was popping him upside his head with a bottle and then running for dear life. Mind you my parents were older so this is what I grew up around.

    So does that make me a man abuser because I once hit my brother upside the head with a bottle. My niece face looked a little better than Rhianna’s after her boyfriend beat her while she was pregnant.

    So I guess that doesn’t make her a classic DV victim right? They had a very toxic relationship and his brother ended up shooting him in the back and killing him before my niece had her baby and I can’t say that I’m upset about it. Her daughter may be without a father but at least she will never have to witness her father hitting her mother. And for the record my niece is very strong as well. It can happen to anyone.

    And I am sure many would not agree to interview her for her album or promote it without her talking about what happened. I’m glad she did.

    With that being said I hope they both move on from this and have learned a valuable lesson before it’s too late. But I will never feel that a man deserves to hit a woman never. Call the police, get out of the situation if that woman is battering you soo much, or shake her arse until she stops hitting you but hitting back is not the way. I plan on teaching both my SON AND DAUGHTER that it is not healthy or normal to hit anyone unless your life is in danger, it is ALWAYS best to walk away…

  • Daisy

    I have locs as well been natural for like 6 yrs

    Shauny I am team BOTH and Judge Judy broke down why LEGALLY this isnt a DV case but thats neither here nor there he was WRONG he ADMITTED it and he is in cousenling/thearpy.

    People need to keep in mind kids can be MALE or FEMALE. All you parents are you saying you wouldnt stand by your son in this situation? Whatever that entails to you?

    I dont think its right to hit ANYBODY and I dont think CB should have been hitting on her or any other female but at this point he cant change that all he can do is move forward grow and learn!

    I am not co signing what he or any man did/does was right or any man but every situation is different and I dont think its ok for women (in general NOT just RiRi) to get a pass for hitting on a man either that is all I am saying. If you hit a man be prepared to get hit back.

    Iyonah yes that was funny to me

  • Divinebrown

    Damn heavn_sent….that’s so real!

    You just upgraded your respect package to premium. That was so real.

  • http://XSCAPESIGHTINGS.COM crystal

    @luvly1957 Says:

    Karaz

    No one i believe is saying she deserved it but wat i am saying is it’s a 2 way street, why does she not admit her guilt and dat she beat him also or why does she not tell the whole story. wat i am saying dat this was done for publicity and record sales cuz she has an album gettin ready to drop and now she wants to talk,now she wants to speak on domestic violence…please!!!!

    THANK YOU, I FEEL THE SAME WAY, not to justify what he did at all however if your going to tell the truth tell the whole truth. She has a temper, i believe shit is a hitter as in will hit knowing he more than likely wont hit back. But he did proberbly after getting tired of the scratches and the punches. It is a two way street.

    Lionel Richie wife was kicking his ass for years and he did not return a lick not once, he should of knock her the hell out. don’t hit if you dont want to get hit back! period.

    Things are different know in this world, you now have
    same sex marriage
    young girls dating girls
    men hitting women back after they done got crowned by the chic mumerous of times. If you dont hit another person if you don’t want to get hit back.
    but on the real only him and rihanna really knows what happended that day.

  • ELove

    WOW @Shauny… I didn’t realize that YOU and a FEW you agree with are THE ONLY mature people on this site! I GUESS you learn something new every damn day 😆

    I HAVE a Daughter, God-Daughters, Nieces and Friends that have Daughters that I’m A SIGNIFICANT PART of all of their lives… Do YOU really think I would speak sideways LIKE I don’t know S_H_I_T and just PURE IGNORANT about DV and Female DV Victims… NEVER and the FIRST MFer that lay hands on ANY of THEM for No REASON or SOME trivial-AZZ excuse better have AN ARMY for protection…

    And that STILL may not be enough to save their life!!!!! 😉

  • intensemocha

    TRUST IT DON’T RUN THAT DEEP FOR ME

    IT WAS POSTED SO I COMMENTED

    CAUSE AINT NARNE NICCA PUTTIN HIS HANDS ON ME POINT BLANK

    NOT SAYING IT CAN’T HAPPEN TO ME, I CAN JUST PROMISE IT WON’T HAPPEN A DAYUM GAIN

    MY OWN FATHER WASN’T ALLOWED TO SPANK ME I BE DAMN IF AS A GROWN AZZ WOMAN SOME MAN IS GOING TO PUT HIS FUGGIN HANDS ON ME….AND THAT’S REAL AND THAT’S ALL THAT REALLY MATTERS TO ME

    TO ME PEOPEL ARE ANALYZING ABC SHIAT-HE BEAT HER, WAS FOUND GUILTY IN A COURT OF LAW, AND ALSO ADMITTED IT AS WELL

    BUT YALL RATIONALIZING AND ANALYZING THE SHIAT-IF YOU READ IT IN THE PAPER AND IT WASN’T CHRIS BROWN AND RIHANNA YOU WOULD CALL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

    IT’S ONLY GETTING THE EXTRA SCRUTINY AND SIDE EYE BECAUSE OF WHO IT INVOLVES

  • KaraZ

    yes on to how i’m wearing my hair. After I was misled by Rihanna 18months ago to cut my hair into different lengths & realizing a year ago that I would have to chop my hair to the shortest length to grow my hair out properly; I have finally gotten my chin length bob back. I have to do something to my hair since I will be moving back home in a couple more months & I don’t have the patience to be dealing with the frizzies in West African heat.

  • kcicero

    @ Elove so let me ask you this? If your daughter admits to slapping her BF or HUBBY on numerous occasions and then she shows up at your doorstep looking like the Rhianna pic how would you react? I’m just curious.

    I asked someone who said that Rhianna deserved it this same question about their daughter and she said she’d want to kill the guy that did it…I think that answer says a lot about this convo…

  • Candi Apple

    Chris Brown is a man and will always be stronger, bigger and less of a threat to any woman. Physically he is dominant over women. He should have gotten out of the car and walked away like a man. But the abuser in him would not allow him too.

    Attitudes like this is the reason the world is flooded with rape victims, DV victims, video hoes, hookers, etc. women always make excuses men its worse because they believe their own hype. Mostly they bash the woman. Rhi-Rhi face was fu*ked up period. I am sure her punches for help were less painful than that big muscular man.

  • KaraZ

    @ELove, read Shauny’s post again. There’s a period. She said this is a site with mature posters. She agreed with the view point of a few of us. Two separate thoughts, don’t jump down her throat. And NO I’m not in her clique.

  • Krysi J

    NOW THIS QUOTE WAS HILARIOUS

    “When I realized that my selfish decision for love could result into some young girl getting killed, I could not be easy with that part.”

    YOU SAYING ALL DIS FOR THE CAMERAS but you asking Neyo and some fool azz producer to hook u up with some shyt like “Russian Roulette” to sing…..”Come on Son”…. :rofl:

    get the fukk outta here

    *giving her the boot*

  • Shauny

    @heavn_sent – thank god you got out of that situation

    I was hit before and I NEVER saw it coming in a million years. Up until he hit me no one could’ve told me he would. My fighting back was nothing against his punches so I had to ball up and wait until it was over.

    I overheard my “friends” saying this can’t be the first time, he’s had to beat her up before but it was the first and THE LAST time. I didn’t call the police or anything because he was the father of my older children but I WAS DONE. I wasn’t going to EVER give him the opportunity to hit me again or get me by myself and beat me until he got tired.

    So because I was only hit once, got out of that relationship, didn’t call the police but was done with his ass am I not a victim of domestic violence? Because I went on with my life, only told my mom what happened and only told the rest of my family that he cheated on me and that’s why we broke up….was I not a domestic violence victim?

    When I googled domestic violence before it says what I posted above in just about every link. You are physically abused by your partner in a relationship. I really pisses me off that this girl is being blamed for getting her ass whopped.

  • iyonah

    :offtopic:

    NOt sure who asked, in ref to hair locs since Aug 05 – natural since July 03

  • ELove

    @KaraZ… I KNOW (That’s why I ended with LOL) 😉

    @KC I’m about to answer YOUR Question in a minute 😆

  • melinla

    I also said “not to belittle what happened,” and my point was “That’s not within an inch of her life” I just think that Sandra is putting a lot on it… That’s all.

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    @Heaven
    I was in abusive relationship as well and he also did jail time but when he got out of jail it reformed him…the abuse had stopped well before he went to jail but he was still unpredictable and I didn’t wait for him to hit me I would call 911 even if I thought he was…we are now back together however he did really change as far as being abusive so now I question myself and GOD is this the forgiving side of me you want me to display becuz I have dated on and off but somehow he and I end up back together…

  • missy

    Hold up their are women who beat up their husbands everyday.Men are not always stronger than women we need to get that out of our head.

    I’ll give you an example it was this man who went to the police station and reported his wife beat him up.You wanna know what the police did… they laughed him out of the police station.The moral of my story is that a man can’t hit a woman but if a woman hits him its a joke they are looked down upon as less of a man .That’s why some men prefer to be DV abuser then the abused because men are suppose to be “stronger” than women.

    I believe if you keep abusing someone emotionally or physically they are bound to snap whether male or female.

  • Shauny

    E – I think you need to scroll back up and read my post again because NO WHERE in my comments did I say that ONLY me and the people who agreed with me were the mature posters. Check again it’s comment 81…better yet I’ll snag it for you

    Shauny said
    I didn’t even read ALL of the comments…oh my…very sad that this is a more mature site.
    ^^^^^^^^^
    So where again did I say that only certain posters were mature?
    ************************************************8
    Daisy – I don’t need to hear Judge Judy’s LEGAL version of why Chrianna’s case isn’t domestic violence. C’mon son

    I’m still waiting on the lost interview/report saying that Rhianna hit him first or has hit him. Everyone says that like it’s the gospel. Like there is just no way that Chris couldn’t have gotten heated when he got busted and snapped.

  • http://XSCAPESIGHTINGS.COM crystal

    i was a DV victim also and them 2 only can speak for what really went down in that car. I noticed the cops don’t do much for you if your married to the abuser. they tell you to go to family court. But i told the cops if he darken my door again then i have every right to push his wig back. You get fed up! that is why i stay saying i hope he gets hit by a bus. so now he moved on and got himself a 17 year old who calls herself wifey. Bout to file a uncontested divorce without the family court issues involving our one child. But will keep that ass insured!

  • Candi Apple

    Men are stronger than women you get that out of your head. That man just made a choice not to hit that women.. Thats just an ignorant statement.

  • Anna

    Am I going to want to go out and buy her CD because she is talking about “the incident”? If I wasn’t a fan prior is this interview going to make me change my mind? Unfortunately I don’t know many women who have not been in a DV relationship. I do know that I was not one to think it was cute to allow my daughters to date at a young age. Both my daughters when to Proms, Snowcoming, Homecoming etc. with a group of girls. I know Rih was 21 when this happended but didn’t she date him for a minute. Kids are not ready to date at 13-14, I was afraid for my kids to date at a young age because these boys think they own you and turn into stalkers. LOL.

  • Shauny

    @choco…good luck and be careful. Wow

  • flyqtnva

    can we get the stats on how many women rihanna has saved from domestic abuse….GTFOH..

    record sales & ratings

  • Candi Apple

    Don’t you know thats why women became creative toward their abusers.. Lye, hot grits, poison, etc. women can not stand toe to toe with a man even if he is wearing shoes with a dress

  • Divinebrown

    I’m really caught off guard by all the women that say their men hit them.

    Call me naiive but I didnt realize that this was affecting the community the way it is. I know that sounds like I”m Daisy’s sister. But still….

    HEEEEEEEEEEEEEYYYY DAISY!!

  • flyqtnva

    rihanna said she cares about young girls and cares about messages they get from her…. :wtf:

    has she heard her new song russian roulette

  • wiggy2272003

    Great comments ya’ll. But to those questioning the timing can I remind you of the court case which ending not too long ago. Legally I’m sure she was prohibited from speaking publicly.
    Secondly this young lady has a LOT of people surrounding her advising her on what to speak on and when and where. IF it is a calculated PR move on the timing I wouldn’t put it on her. Lots of people are heavily invested in her.

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    I have my hair snatched back in a ponytail & this yt lady at my job told me I look like the girl who sings and got beat up by her boyfriend 😐 uhm my forehead is not that big. And I’m not that light. All blacks don’t look alike.

    Another yt woman told me I have the butt of J-lo today (I don’t usually wear form fitting clothes at work. But tonight I have to attend a dinne) I didn’t argue with that fact :rofl:

  • lovejoy1

    lmao at sandra post.. you are a mess-lol

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    @Shauny
    I am being careful it took a lot for me to get to a place where I couldn’t place 100% of the blame on him…We both now difuse an argument before we let it get the better of us-but sometimes I’m just like are you with him becuz you think you can’t get better but then that’s not it I’ve had different but not really better-relationship are complicated this I know but it is baffling at times on how this man will come back into my life 6 months later to a year later I have dated during our breaks and somehow we get back together….but thank you again especially for not tryn to come at me hard….

  • kcicero

    :rofl: @ isc…

  • Daisy

    Shauny that report of her hitting him 1st that night came from TMZ(who HATES CB) they had the police report and it state she admitted to being the aggressor and initatior of the fight again TMZ NOT I said such. I was NOT in the car that night and I said ALL along REGARDLESS CB is WRONG I dont know how many ways or TIMES I can say that lol IF she did indeed hit him 1st that night then she needs to fess up if that report is not true she can speak on that as well. Again EITHER WAY CB was WRONG for hitting her if he snapped or if she threw the 1st licks HE HAS ADMITTED THAT he was WRONG and is getting help so you CMON SON!

    Also more than Judge Judy said that its LEGALLY NOT a DV case but I ALREADY KNEW THAT!

  • http://myspace.com/erikamagaly Hermosa

    @elove

    your opinion leaves me feeling repulsed…I am glad I don’t know a man like you.

  • Daisy

    hey DB *waving* Yes sadly “DV” is real and teenage cases have increased over the last few years. Most ppl in the situation have to hit their own rock bottom but RiRis story may be able to help some young girl as well and that would indeed be a blessing!

  • heavn_sent

    Wow..

    This is such a sensitive issue there are always going to be strong views on every side. It is what it is..and I gave my opinion..

    @ DB – Thanks, babe! R-E-S-P-E-C-T!!
    @ Choco – Good for you..and him..GOD can change anyone who sincerely wants and has a heart to be changed. I firmly believe that!
    @ missy – I hear you! My husband (got a good one now y’all!!doesn’t even raise his voice) called the police on his ex when they were together, and they literally laughed at him. They were like, “big guy like you can’t handle a woman.. WHAAAAAAAT! Then when he went to court for a restraining order they threw it out.

  • flyqtnva

    @Krysi J
    just read the comments &
    :cosign:

  • http://myspace.com/erikamagaly Hermosa

    Bc judge judy says its not a dv case, then it must not be.

    lol…COME ON SON!

  • missy

    @Candi… that’s the problem and the reason why girls will hit on boys and be shocked when the boy hit them back.I’m not saying that every girl who are DV victims were hitting their spouse.

    I’m stating little girls today hit boys and don’t feel they should be hit backed because boys are “stronger” than girls thats what is embeded in these girls.Abuse is Abuse i don’t care your gender if you hitting on someone do expect to get hit back.

  • wiggy2272003

    I also was in a relationship with violence. I have a big stabbing scar in my leg to prove it. I too stayed and lied to my father about how I got the bruises, black eye etc. Even lied to the police about the stabbing(they get called automatically). I had all the classic reasons for staying(low self esteem, whipped on that d, etc) Thats how I ended up in the A. I took my clothes and said I was going to do laundry. My uncle lived up in Westchester(ny) I took the metro and asked him to buy me a ticket to Atlanta where my auntie and godmother lived. Anyway my main excuse was inbetween the incidents he was almost perfect. They happend about once a year. I guess I just justifed the good 364 days being worth the one bad one. I doubt anyone would have looked at me and “saw” domestic violence. I commend all the ladies who got out and I pray it never happens to my daughters. I like to think I would see it and be able to get them out but….

  • MissWilson

    I guess I agree with a lot of what most people are saying. However, no matter what her intentions are, it’s always good when someone speaks on domestic violence issues. I do feel that if her intention was to speak out because of the people who look up to her then she would have done it long before now. There are plenty of celebs who let an interviewer know right off the back that there are certain topics that are not up for discussion. Whitney Houston sold records for years and would not talk about her drug use or the gay rumors, period. I bet you no one can ask Beyonce about her dad and that baby on the way. Not saying that they are the same situations but I am saying that she didn’t have to ever talk about it. She is speaking out to promote her album but I’ll take it for whatever reason she’s doing it. Young women need to hear from her.

  • ELove

    @KC
    I WAS a victim myself BUT that experience only made me more aware of the delicate nature of the FEMALE emotional balance-n-nature of her emotions… My BM one night came at me angry and mad that I wasn’t paying ENOUGH ATTENTION to her and our relationship (Our daughter was 3 at the time)… She was asleep and told her to please stop yelling and lets discuss this tomorrow when she’s at daycare

    She LOST IT… I went to the bathroom and when I came out SHE came at me swinging wildly and punching me in the chest AND was trying to hit me in the face… OUT OF REFLEX I back-handed her and she fell to the floor… she was semi-unconscious SO I picked her up AND laid her in the bed BUT I noticed-felt I was sweating and wondered why because it wasn’t really hot-or-humid in the apartment

    I went to the bathroom to get a towel to wipe myself down AND I was BLEEDING badly from my chest… It turns out she wasn’t punching me BUT she had stabbed me several times with a KNIFE… I called one of my brothers who lived near by AND he rushed me to the emergency room… Lost alot of blood and I also had a cut on my cheek AND on the side of my left-eye…

    ONCE my daughter became 13 I told her of the incident and EXPLAINED to her the pitfalls of being in a relationship and the dynamics of emotions and keeping your emotions in check when being in a relationship THAT WILL involve intimacy AND feelings that you may or may not be able to control …

    So the LIKELY-Hood of that happening with my daughter is extremely low AND she really knows how to handle herself in that regard… She wouldn’t DARE put her hands on a MALE in anger AND I taught my daughter how to fight to defend herself (I’ve been into the M-Arts since grade school)

    IF in fact it did happen… Me and my daughter would have a family conference with the Young man and his family AND we would come to some common ground BECAUSE no LIFE should be lost over something that could possibly be worked out through Mutual Counseling… I HOPE that answered your question appropriately 😉

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    @Divine
    It is very common in a lot of relationships it doesn’t make it right either I just noticed that love makes you hurt the ones you love-Im a survivor of DV also cuz I would put a hurtn on him if he came my way just didn’t want to exist like that-but it is very common I know a lot of girls/women that have been thru it-but if it the physical abuse doesn’t stop at all then that’s when things are very unhealthy…Nowadays it’s difficult to gauge what a person will do I was dating a guy who I thought was so much better than my boyfriend when we were on the break-this mofo turned out to be crazier than my boyfriend and was try to control me the first five weeks we dated…to see him you would think he was normal a white collar man in the profession of IT, he had a very dark side to him – I stopped dating him and even burned bridges with him which is odd for me cuz I can be very forgiving –

  • http://myspace.com/erikamagaly Hermosa

    You see..everyone is saying that women shouldn’t hit men…blah blah blah blah.

    I agree, BUT…she she beat him savagely or slap him? bc Chris brown beat the Shit outta her..not just slapped her around.

  • Daisy

    @Melina we shall find out tomorrow since she is supposed to give details of what happened in the car but again according to the police report the witness said she was NOT screaming for help BUT her and CB were standing outside the car in the streets arguing and yelling at each other therefore that leads me to believe she wasnt left within an inch of her life BUT again I will wait to see what she says tomorrow. I always said I wanted Robyn Rihanna Fenty to tell me what happened in the car that night and then I would believe the affadavit blow by blow report

    @KC If I knew that my daughter was beating/hitting her man and I had talked to her about it and warned her if she continued on he would ONE day snap when he did I cant get be mad at him. I would tell my daughter (and her boo) to get out(get help) and all that but if she is grown and I cant make her then my hands are tied. My sisters ex use to jump on her back in the day so I take this issue very serious. However, if you bucking and hitting a man constantly he will snap one day just like a woman may snap and kill their abusive mate.

  • Daisy

    @Elove thanks for sharing! Folks is getting real today WOW :hug:

  • missy

    @heaven thank you people don’t realize that some men will hit back becuase of that same ish . (and you got yourself a good man because he ain’t hit her back :claps:)

    @iscream Oh no they didn’t refer to you as robyn fenty (an yt people think all blacks look alike and act alike based on what they see on tv)

  • ELove

    @Shauny… I GOTCHA !!! 😉

  • heavn_sent

    Wait hold on y’all I gotta mention this….

    So, he still calls every now and then (doesn’t know I’m married b/c I NEVER talk to him). I changed my cell and I have since moved..We just bought a house last month.. BUT why did he send me a Friend Request on FB! AS IF!!!!! But wait there’s more…

    The next week HIS GIRLFRIEND tries to add me as a friend! WHAAAAAAAAAAT!!!!!!! First off, I don’t even go on there like that. Secondly, how does this broad even know I exist??

  • wiggy2272003

    E, when he stabbed me it was the same thing. I didn’t even realize I was stabbed untill I saw the blood. His arm came down so quick I thought he hit me. All I felt was REALLY thirsty.
    Off all places we were at his Mamas house. Then he said MAMA! CALL 911!

  • ELove

    @Hermosa…
    YEAH, I’m a REAL HORRIBLE PERSON (Scum of the Earth-I Know) 😆

    Thank You Baby-Boo :hug:

  • heavn_sent

    To answer the implied question: He calls my work number..

  • ELove

    @wiggy… Come to think of it (I FELT thirsty Too…) 😆
    WOW revelation is A MFer isn’t it !!!

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    @Elove
    Your story made me realize so much and I see how much I have changed I haven’t been to the point where I would loose myself in rage but I see how as a female I can let my hurt feelings get the best of me-I do thank GOD for clarity and tolerance becuz like Heaven said if people truly want to change they can and me getting closer to GOD as a result of my own trials and tribulations has confirmed the very same thing…

  • heavn_sent

    @ E – Why are you the oonly brother on this post? Come to think of it the only brother that consistently posts at all.

  • missy

    @heaven.Maybe the girlfriend doesn’t know how he truly is or he want to control you or he wants to communicate to you through her.I do believe people can change but you can be cordial but friends i don’t know .Any who i don’ know about this but i hope you do whats right and remember follow your instincts and it’s FB and you have the choice (if your over it yeah but if it will open up a sore wound no) .

    @Elove :claps:

    :offtopic:

    Did anyone watch true life im getting ending my marriage.That s a prime example of abuse (the black couple is a prime example of abuse)

  • Shauny

    E – WOW! I’m glad you’re o.k. The stories on here today are deep. This is a touchy subject.

    I know someone who’s story is simular to yours only he was the one whipping his ladies ass until one day she couldn’t take it anymore and stabbed his ass up. He thought she was hitting him and she was stabbing him. Even after an ICU stint, he STILL til this day BEATS every girl he’s ever been in a relationship with. I don’t miss a chance to try to tell then to stay away but women will do what they want to do. He’s in jail right now for domestic violence.

    I know that this DV thing isn’t a one way street also because I have an aunt who liked to whip her boyfriends asses. She knocked one of them in the head with a bottle and he lost use of his eye. My grandma told her that if he came back and beat her ass she wasn’t doing anything and none of her sons or nephews were either because she was wrong. The guy didn’t even press charges. She’s still agressive but she’s really toned down with age. I could never understand why she wanted to fight men, I don’t think she could either.

  • Candi Apple

    @missy OK SURE

  • kcicero

    @ elove yes it did! Thanks for sharing. That must have been an awful situation and I’m glad that you both were able to get out of it and raise an independent, well rounded child (going off of all the things you say about her 🙂 )

    I must point out one thing though, you said that you back handed her and then noticed she was semi-conscious and laid her on the bed…notice you didn’t keep pounding the ish out of her. I would have to think that at some point you are right you react but you also pull yourself back once the aggression is taken away from the other person.

    From Rhianna’s face it doesn’t look like that was the case. I do know one things though, everyone should keep their hands to themselves. I have a hard time believe that Chris being into martial arts the way that he is didn’t know a better way to subdue Rhianna other than pound her face in.

    And for the record I am team neither…

  • ELove

    @heavn_sent… BEING a single-parent I RELATE whole-heartedly with the SR Females and that’s whats drew me to SR.com so many years ago PLUS I’m one of those guys who HAS LOTS of female friends (Some are Friends with benefits) and I’m very comfortable in the presence of women… I GUESS I understand women MORE SO than the average Dull-n-Dense Male :rofl:

  • Krysi J

    my hair is grown out of a style I had it cut in,because I want to sport an asymetrical bob once the short side gets neck length, but my long side is past my shoulders?? I still wear weave cuz its fun to try new things, not because I can’t grow hair. I don’t like wearing the same damn thing all the time…but people who can do hair usually don’t.

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    @ Wiggy

    That story just made me :crying1:

    I think that’s DV. My X boyfriend punched me in my face once when I tried to leave him and told me if I wanted to leave I had to fight my way out. Needless to say I stayed. He never hit me again but he would grab me up every once in a while. I don’t consider myself a DV victim. But that’s me.

    I was young and dumb just like Rhianna. He had a history of beating women and I still got with him. I guess I didn’t think he would do it to me. Boy was I wrong. I’ll never forget the look in his eyes that night. He was someone else… 👿

  • missy

    @Candi w/e it is what it is. I have my opinion and you will have yours.

    @Shauny Damnnnn that was cold-blodded of your aunty but glad to hear she has calmed down.Your grandmother was right with what she said.

  • Ms.kaylamomma

    All of these stories are really sad and I’m glad everyone here was able to walk away. I just think there are people on here that are reading these comments that are in this situation right now and you all are giving them hope and strength to maybe get help. They are reading these comments not knowing how to get out.

    This is a somber post and I really wouldn’t mind a new post to lighten the mood in here.

  • Krysi J

    How many women will she save from playing Russian Roulette??

    can we get the stats on that too?

  • missy

    For real plenty of y’all have been in an abusive relationship :hug: to you all for getting out of it and sharing your story with others.

  • Candi Apple

    @missy exactly which is why I did not respond with many words. Lets hope anyone we are close to are not affected by the girl hit boy behavior. Because when it happens to us up close and personal opinions change.

    I accept your opinion but I don’t respect it.

  • ELove

    @KC… I ACTUALLY understand CB’s situation because He’s very immature from his Momma-Boy persona along with his pampered Celebrity life WHERE I was extremely Mature because of my upbringing AND discipline AND intelligence BUT I REALLY wished he could’ve just gotten out of the car AND left in the opposite direction with his cell phone in hand 😆

  • kcicero

    @ elove I completely concur 🙂

  • kcicero

    and here’s a :hug: to you for being one of the only men in the fam and always keeping it 300 😆

  • ELove

    @144… PLEASE don’t take it that way BECAUSE it’s actually enlightening AND you learn so much when PEEPS are being real & honest & sincere… THAT’S what actually helps people comfort their weakness within themselves and eventually makes them MORE AWARE and stronger …

    WHICH IMO Rhi-Rhi isn’t doing AT ALL (Agin Just My opinion) 😉

  • ELove

    @KC :hug: Thank You and I always say (which I know you agree) True Power is Real Knowledge ALONG with Sense-of-Self !!! 😉

  • Anna

    kcicero Says:

    and here’s a to you for being one of the only men in the fam and always keeping it 300
    ~~~~~~~
    As much as I appreciate ELove there are other men in the room. Shannon and Goat to name a few. ELove just chats with us daily.

  • kcicero

    @ Anna I am well aware of that, which is why I said for being one of the only men… 🙂

  • missy

    You guys are true examples of how we all go through life struggles and you guys and gals (too me) are great role models of how not to be the victim and to overcome.Because we have great potential and a bright future(even if it took you a long time to overcome).

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    I have a question.

    If robbery, rape, murder, assult can all be charged with different degree 1st, 2nd, 3rd. Why can’t DV be judged on different levels. I understand why some say this isn’t a “real” DV case. Maybe bc of the degree of it.

    If you steal 5 bucks from your mom its not the same as robbing a bank. Yes you’re a thief but only one can send you to jail. CB is not in jail? Why? :shrug:

  • Anna

    kcicero Says:

    @ Anna I am well aware of that, which is why I said for being one of the only men
    ~~~~~~~
    Sorry about that KC even with my bifocals on I missed that part. Being we only have a few men in the room I was making sure they got included. LOL.

  • kcicero

    @ elove real talk 😉

  • starr

    Ummm…dang i missed the convo

    I saw the interviewing…and to be honest….umm….whatever

    I feel for women who are in domestic situations….and i wish her well…but whatever

    I remember this like it was yesterday. I remember when this happened her ppl were tryna to say she was in accident. which tells me If her people could of covered up this whole thing, they would of. But they couldn’t. Chris career goes down the pipes, and months later…it becomes good way to sell records (don’t believe for a min they won’t use it to sell records)…cuz she’s a victim, and we all feel for her. I feel for any woman who doesn’t have the strength to leave. Really i do. I feel bad for what happen to rih, but i feel especially bad for the millions of women out there, who don’t have a voice, afraid to leave…i feel especially bad for them.

  • starr

    @isc

    I think the main reason cb didn’t get time was because this was his first offense…

  • http://twitter.com/eastpointvet eastpointvet

    do i think this for album sales? nope because an extra 200,000 people not gonna buy her album because they heard her side of the story its just not realistic. it may get you talking about her but its really not gonna make u buy the album if u already wasnt. at the end of the day she got her ass beat. dont matter if she smacked cb called him a tight ass skinny jean wearing MF he beat her ass. they were in a toxic relationship if you are easily angered and a hot head you shuldnt be in a relationship with a person that brings that out of you and that goes for both sides but they are young and its hard to see past the physical at that point. if she provoked it or not she still a victim it was no photos of cb posted beat up to hell. but the main reason i think she couldnt speak out was for legal reasons a case like that has to be settled before its spoken about and even then it cant be depending on the situation. and cb just had another interview a couple weeks ago is that gonna help his album sales 2?

  • missy

    @iscI think the main reason cb didn’t get time was because this was his first offense…

    —–
    I was going to say that….

    But there are different types of DV cases also they just don’t call them 1st degree or anything like that(most of the time)

  • coaretained

    um… wow.. deep post today. #101 you mean to tell me you haven’t seen the video of big bertha beating down her husband in BROAD DAYLIGHT? Go ahead.. I’ll wait

    cosign with There are plenty of celebs who let an interviewer know right off the back that there are certain topics that are not up for discussion. Whitney Houston sold records for years and would not talk about her drug use or the gay rumors, period. I bet you no one can ask Beyonce about her dad and that baby on the way. Not saying that they are the same situations but I am saying that she didn’t have to ever talk about it. She is speaking out to promote her album but I’ll take it for whatever reason she’s doing it. Young women need to hear from her.
    ******

    I was thinking that the WHOLE time I was working my way to the end. She’s got enough pull to do that.

    I’m team “keep yo mufuggin hands to yo self”.

    And I can’t remember who asked, but in CB’s Angie interview he said “me and shorty know what happened in that car and out of respect for her I’ll keep that to myself”.. that of course was not verbatim.

    *exits and heads back to my lurking post*

  • KaraZ

    CB is not in jail but he’s been “punished” by the court. Not every criminal goes to jail… depends on your lawyers (and how much you pay them).

    @ ELove I hope you sent that woman to jail.
    @wiggy I hope you sent that man to jail.
    To everyone else who has been through/ is going through physical or sexual abuse, I hope you sent them to jail.
    To everyone that is being mentally, verbally, emotionally abused, put lots of salt in their food or laxatives…

  • KaraZ

    starr Says:
    Ummm…dang i missed the convo

    I saw the interviewing…and to be honest….umm….whatever

    I feel for women who are in domestic situations….and i wish her well…but whatever

    I remember this like it was yesterday. I remember when this happened her ppl were tryna to say she was in accident. which tells me If her people could of covered up this whole thing, they would of. But they couldn’t. Chris career goes down the pipes, and months later…it becomes good way to sell records (don’t believe for a min they won’t use it to sell records)…cuz she’s a victim, and we all feel for her. I feel for any woman who doesn’t have the strength to leave. Really i do. I feel bad for what happen to rih, but i feel especially bad for the millions of women out there, who don’t have a voice, afraid to leave…i feel especially bad for them.
    ————————————————————

    The fact that her people weren’t immediately outraged gave credence to the rumors that that wasn’t their first physical altercation & they were used to it.

  • missy

    coaret… :preach:

    I saw the vid

  • missy

    The vid i’m talking bout is the one with big bertha that coaret….. was referring to. She was even challenging him to come and get some more and he went for more.

  • http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

    @ Coa 163

    :clap: great examples. Shoot Bey won’t even talk about being married yet alone a scandal.

    @ starr

    Thanks for refreshing my memory cause I sure did forget they tried to cover it up.

    & If a man beats a woman almost to death as Sandra put it. First offense will not/should not keep him out of jail.

  • coaretained

    @missy AND the police rode by!!!

  • coaretained

    @isc.. i javked those examples from another post..LOL

  • wiggy2272003

    To all that shared thank you. Even here so many were shocked at how much it occurs.

    Thanks Iscream.

    Kara, no I didn’t put him in jail. That was 1995 and like I said I took air tran to the A and Im still here. He however was shot and died the next year. (I did fly up to his funeral. His sister was one of my best friends and I spoke regularly on the phone to his mom up until her death last year.)

  • LovelyLady

    :popcorn:

  • missy

    @coare… i noticed that too and i was shocked because i thought they would have at least tried to break it up but i guess they were afraid of “big bertha”.

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    Someone please explain where I can see this big bertha video everyone is referring to…

  • ELove

    @KaraZ… NOPE, Like I said earlier IT just made me more aware of the fragile nature of the Female and HOW Some women act & react in a relationship BUT it did shed light on How Selfish she was ALONG with her lack of attention for OUR Daughter… WHICH in my opinion should’ve been the focal point of BOTH of our attention & priorities at that point of our relationship 😉

  • missy

    go to the website where you watch videos.

    and type in Drunk Dude vs. Mad Black Woman

  • indesign18

    The comments today have interesting! I do feel for her in this abusive relationship and yes I know people who have been abused before that response comes up, but her comments about she cares so much about the message she is sending young girls is a crock. she did and is doing what is best for her and her career! period. she has a right to speak out, and if she now wants to be a role model that is her choice but if she is saying she cares about these young girls when she walks around naked, making songs about suicide and so forth, her priority is NOT her young fans and the messages that they recieve from her.
    @coa you wrapped it up in bow so nicely about big bertha and her ability to not talk about anything she didn’t want to. She now says she is embarrassed that she loved this type of person……hmmm I dont feel this is the whole story
    but whatever.
    Also Auntie, you are a trip talking about he beat her within an inch of her life when you were saying her bruises weren’t that bad, when the photos came out. LOL!

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    @Missy thanks : )

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    Am I wrong for laughing at the Bertha video first how in the hell do the cops just drive right past them and ol boy shouldn’t known she was ready wrestle look at the gear she was wearing…she wore his butt out! DAYUM!

  • missy

    @Choco your welcome

  • missy

    Choco i laughed but i felt bad because i don’t condone DV but she was working him over and i was like why the police ain’t try to help this poor man.Like i said before they had to have been scared of “big bertha”.

    And people say women are weaker than men

  • KaraZ

    @ wiggy & eLove, y’all are better than me… if anyone ever makes me bleed (childbirth included), they are going to pay. Jail or a car.

  • Krysi J

    I agree with indesign18 100%

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    @Missy
    I don’t condone it either LOL but she was whipping something terrible and then when dude holding the camera and said walking the dog man her whole stance was like she’s a female boxer…

  • LovelyLady

    Missy i remember that vid….that was so funny…but see how we laughing at a woman beating the ish outta a man….if it were the other way around people would be ready to protest

    still none the less i was :rofl:

  • missy

    I wasn’t laughing at the situation only i was laughing at the fact that she was saying “that’s right fight back” I was like she was jeering him on to give a better fight 😮 i was like confused because she was whooping him….But the sad part is that she was doing this in front of those kids(I think they were hers)and they probably think that’s acceptable behavior and she does look like she use to box because she was boobing and weaving.*you should only fight to defend yourself*and she wasn’t defending herself because that wasn’t a fair fight…..

  • http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco

    @Missy
    Yeah it broke my heart to hear her kids say momma stop….

  • missy

    I was like thank heavens that man came and moved him because she was gonna hurt him …….but the whole walk the dog comment that the camera man mentioned was funny……but yes if a man had done this to a women we wouldn’t be laughing(i know i wouldn’t)but i think it was her demeanor that made me laugh and how she was acting like she was fighting someone her size…….and yes when the child said momma stop and trying to distract her mom and her mom ignored her it broke my heart also.

  • wiggy2272003

    Missy, me and my boss RIP fell out at the walking the dog part. You know that couple fought on the reg for him to just be so nonchalant.

  • indesign18

    ok where is the video, I found one that is 13 seconds but the full one you are talking about!

  • missy

    @indesign if you go to the tube site then you’ll see it and type in Drunk Dude vs. Mad Black Woman