Mo’Nique’s Secret To a Happy Marriage: Let Him Cheat

@so official, i know a couple of guys who have stayed w/their cheating wives. women can be some of the grimeyest (sp) w/their sh*t because i have a girlfriend who ran her husband through the ringer.

many older ladies will tell you they never let a jumpoff ruin their marriage, not back in the day. this is new school thinking because adultery is not new. it’s not that they condoned it, it just (like someone above said) was not a dealbreaker.

~LovLi~ Says: WE are actually TAUGHT by family and the media that there is something “wrong” with being au naturel.

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i’m hairy and my hubby doesn’t mind. i go way out of my way to hide it and he shakes his head sometimes at the lengths i go to. i really don’t think he would care either if i went out like that. i keep it real at home, esp this time of year, but i personally couldn’t do it in public.

i love it when men speak and women don’t listen but then wonder what went wrong….

So Official Says: Soooo, if it’s ok to cheat and/or cheating isn’t a deal breaker in your relationship, why get married?! Why stand before GOD and VOW to be faithful, then say it’s OK for your mate to cheat? That makes absolutely no sense!

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because nobody knows the future, not even jesus.

motherjefferson: I know for me, a marriage can only be sacred when both people are happy.

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i think this is the key. enuf said.

Choco Says: What makes me think you are young is your question to me about how do I know my man cheated-you are either young or inexperienced-oh and don’t flatter yourself your pic is not why I think you are young… but allow me to end with this once more-What you think about me doesn’t make the radar of my list of concerns…TTFN!

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i think her point was your man probably had a “good reason” (in his mind) just like you have a “good reason” (in your mind). you could have just divorced him while still maintaining your dignity and honoring your vows but you deliberately put yourself on his level (cause you wanted to) and now, according to your own words, you are no good for any future man you might have.

KaraZ Says: You said your cheating wasn’t really cheating because you were trying to get even, that’s why I asked. Maybe his cheating wasn’t really cheating for the same reason as yours.

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ok so i intepreted yours correctly. i guess i’ll shut the f*ck up too, lol!!

brucebaner1 Says: KrayZKat – Nostradomous arguably predicted stuff that has happened now, does that make him God. The bible definately has contradictions, because it was written by man.

INSPIRED BY GOD

Why would a perfect God create a book for us to live our life by and make it soooo hard to decipher?

NOT HARD. YOU JUST HAVE TO BE DILIGENT, DISCIPLINED, AND THE HOLY SPIRIT HELPS A LOT TOO. THE AVERAGE MAN CANNOT PICK UP A BIBLE AND READ IT LIKE A NOVEL. HE’S NOT SUPPOSED TO. IT WAS DESIGNED THAT WAY. ALSO IT’S A LIFE-LONG PROCESS. YOU CAN READ SOMETHNG OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND STILL MISS THINGS YOU PICK UP LATER.

God was omnipotent too, didnt he see this coming? Could it be God had nothing to do with the bible and man created as a control mechanism?

I DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN BY “THIS”. MAN ISN’T SMART ENOUGH TO WRITE THE BIBLE ON HIS OWN. PLUS CAN YOU IMAGINE HOW CRAZY IT WOULD BE IF SO?

Choco Says: STFU you know nothing of my value and once again honey worry about your home don’t get so involved in mine I’m starting to feel as though you both are lil tooo interested if you catch my drift and one more thing don’t ask questions that you yourself may not be able to answer one day

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if you look far enough above, i said i might get my groove on too if we decided to stay together. however, i can’t then go on to throw shade like i’m all that and a bag of chips. sorry, you can’t have it both ways.

all this is just for me to say it’s easy for people to point fingers and say this and that but nobody knows how they will ultimately react when faced with this situation.

brucebaner1 Says: I can’t argue with this belief, so you are saying an uneducated, average person should not be able to understand the bible? That doesn’t seem fair…..its actually quite cruel…..

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what i’m saying is that you need the holy spirit. it’s really not about education. the bible has to be unlocked, for lack of a better word. the average person can gain knowledge of the bible but it’s based upon their own understanding–that’s why we have so many misquotes, falsehoods, and misconceptions about what it states. the holy spirit, put very simply, is like a teacher. helping to guide, affirm, deny, etc. if you don’t have it and you are diligent about learning the word, you will receive it sooner or later. if you are just browsing, you can study and possibly understand some things but you are more susceptible to misinterpretation or CONFUSION.

Choco Says: You both need to get lives this is sickning I won’t be responding becuz I find your debate meaningless like you both are to me-I mean lets be honest we don’t know one another DAYUM!

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hey i don’t take it personally and neither should you. i think you got caught up in the crusades and forgot you were a heretic, lol. i’ll have forgotten all about this once i leave this page.

brucebaner1 Says: @free – ok; how would an uneducated, average person receive the Holy Spirit? If they have no knowledge of Jesus (becuase they don’t “understand” the bible) but are doing good things in life, do they go to heaven?

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oh, god will come to them. they needn’t worry about that.

sorry to be a party pooper but simply doing good things in life will not get you into heaven. that’s the bad news.

everyone of the age of understanding will have an opportunity to receive the holy spirit. this is the good news.

brucebaner1 Says: This is very disturbing, what about all the indigenous nations/religions that have no access to a secular religion?

WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THEY LACK UNDERSTANDING OR INTELLIGENCE? WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THEY LACK RELIGION, FOR THAT MATTER?

This is why “religion” is bad. If what you say above is true, God cannot be perfect, because a perfect God would have found a better way to make us ALL believe.

WHAT MAKES YOU THINK HE HASN’T? EVERYBODY BELIEVES IN SOMETHING, EVEN ATHIESTS.

Better yet, he would have seen that the bible and religion would cause social conflict and over a hundred million deaths and decide on something different. This means one of two things, God has no control over anything, or God is not perfect.

NOT HIS FAULT. SAVE FOR ADAM AND EVE, WE WOULDN’T HAVE THESE PROBLEMS. SIN CAUSES CONFLICT NOT GOD, NOT THE BIBLE, NOT RELIGION. DON’T CONFUSE THE HUMAN ELEMENT (MAN’S ATTEMPT TO REACH GOD) W/THE SPIRITUAL (GODS ATTEMPT TO REACH MAN) ONE.

This is why “religion” is bad. If what you say above is true, God cannot be perfect, because a perfect God would have found a better way to make us ALL believe.

WHAT MAKES YOU THINK HE HASN’T? EVERYBODY BELIEVES IN SOMETHING, EVEN ATHIESTS.

P.S. THIS GOES TO FREE WILL ALSO. YOU CAN BELIEVE WHAT YOU WANT TO. HE WANTS US TO EMBRACE HIM BY OUR OWN VOLITION NOT BECAUSE HE’S MAKING US. SO, HE PUTS HIMSELF OUT THERE AND YOU CAN EITHER JUMP ON THE BANDWAGON OR NOT.

I TEND TO THINK OF IT LIKE A PARENT. YOU CAN LISTEN OR NOT LISTEN. IF YOU DON’T THAT’S COOL BUT YOU WILL SUFFER THE CONSEQUENCES. IF YOU DON’T THINK THERE WILL BE ANY CONSEQUENCES, MORE POWER TO YOU–ENJOY YOURSELF AND RELAX! SOONER OR LATER, YOU’LL FIND OUT ONE WAY OR THE OTHER.

brucebaner1 Says: @Free – The fact that God gave us free will to do bad as well as good, shows that he could not have been perfect.

I’M NOT SURE HOW YOU CAME TO THIS CONCLUSION. HE GAVE US FREE WILL BECAUSE HE WANTED TO. IT REALLY HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HIS PERFECTION. DON’T BLAME HIM BECAUSE ADAM SUCCUMBED.

He didnt have to make us robots he could have just made us to make ONLY GOOD decisions.

ROBOTS ARE PROGRAMMED TO BEHAVE WITHIN CERTAIN PARAMETERS SO WE WOULD BE ROBOTS.

This is a HUGE mis-caculation. By allowing us to make bad decisions we do. So lets see God created us to have free will, we use that free will to do bad things (like cheat), when we die we live an enternal afterlife of “fire and brimestone”.

YOU DON’T HAVE TO LIVE AN ETERNAL AFTERLIFE OF FIRE AND BRIMSTONE THOUGH. YOU CAN MAKE BAD DECISIONS AND GO TO HEAVEN. AND YOU CAN MAKE GOOD DECISIONS AND GO TO HELL.

You just said He, why not she when referring to God? You made my point

NOT REALLY. “IT” WOULD PROBABLY BE MORE APPROPRIATE BUT “HE” IS WIDELY USED AND ACCEPTED.

The major difference is you can see your parents and see their direction. Imagine if you had to be raised by what was in a book, with no parents just someone saying your parents exist, but you can’t see them.

RIGHT, THAT’S THE PLAN FOR NOW. YOU MUST WALK BY FAITH NOT BY SIGHT. I KNOW IT SOUNDS CRAZY BUT GOD WILL MAKE CONTACT IN SOME SHAPE, FORM, OR FASHION WITH EACH PERSON. SO THEY MAY NOT NECESSARILY BE READY FOR THIS AT A CERTAIN TIME.

Gods free will is the ability to be perfect.

NO IT’S NOT. FREE WILL SIMPLY MEANS WE ARE FREE TO MAKE CHOICES. PERFECTION IS OUT OF THE QUESTION AT THIS POINT.

We were not created in that image. What image were we created in?

DON’T GET STUCK ON LITERAL INTERPRETATIONS. HE COULD HAVE CREATED US AS ROCKS BUT HE DIDN’T. WE ARE LIVING, THINKING, BEINGS.

Just the story of Adam and Eve is an oxymoron to God. You are made in Gods image but you aren’t smart enough not to eat an apple from a snake? That doesn’t make sense.

SEE ABOVE.

Additionally, at this point why didn’t God start over? Didn’t he want peace and love for his people? Seeing how Adam and Eve conducted themselves would have made any normal person rethink humans. This goes to show that man created these stories, not guidance or input from a perfect being.

WHY ARE YOU TRYING TO PUT WHAT YOU WOULD DO ON GOD? HE CREATED US TO BE JUST AS YOU HOPED FOR BUT IT DIDN’T WORK OUT. HE CHOSE NOT TO START OVER. HE WAS DISAPPOINTED BUT HE DIDN’T DESTROY US. TO ME, IT’S BETTER THAN STARTING OVER. HE GAVE MANKIND A CHANCE, AND CONTINUES TO DO SO, DESPITE ALL THAT HAS HAPPENED UP TO NOW. ALL THIS WHILE KNOWING THAT SOME OF US SIMPLY DON’T BELIEVE IN HIM.