New Couple Alert: Monica and Maino Are Official!

I don’t know anything about this Maino guy, but I think if you have kids, you better help who you fall in love with. It’s not always about you. Again, I’m not judging him because I don’t know anything about him. If he’s a good man, good for Monica.

OutsidetheBox says:

Did that need to be said? That we are talking about sensible women. Sensible women dont even get involved with a nut that is “beating the snot out of their children or molesting them…”

Sandra posts the worst of the worst…to get hits, talking, comments, whatever…but the women you mentioned…those women arent wrapped tight to begin with and do not compare to a woman like Monica, IMO.

Apples to oranges for me.
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@OTB – I’m not talking necessarily about Monica. She loves her boys immensely, but unfortunately, there are some unsensible women out there.

Some people were saying, “As long as a person is happy, it doesn’t matter.” The point I was trying to make is that is does matter when you have children what kind of people you bring around your children. Evidently it got lost in the translation. I said that since I don’t know Maino (and now that the rumor has been dispelled, it doesn’t matter), I wasn’t judging their supposed relationship.

Al-Ameera says:

@ KrayZKat,

If you read my initial post I said parents that are healthy (mentally, emotionally and physically) and happy. I pointed that back out to say, people that are in a healthy/happy state don’t choose and would not be happy in those kinds of relationships.

Are people still in them, of course. He.ll I was in an abusive relationship for far too long, from ages 14-20. Had you asked me was I happy, my foolish behind would have said emphatically, yes, I love him. I was the biggest azz on earth. I had come from an abusive home life and sought out what was familiar to me.

But now after counseling and being in a healthy mental state,and having the great one that I have now, I know better. When you know better you do better. Most people don’t even realize their relationships are unhealthy; they have nothing healthy to compare it too.

Just like if you eat store bought ice cream all the time, let’s say Hagaen Daaz, well you think that’s the joint and it is until you go down south and your grandmother makes you that the homemade kind with the fresh peaches that’s hand churned with that salt….Oh you know the difference.
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@Al – I read your post, and I’m not disagreeing with you. Your further comments makes sense to me as well. I understand what you are saying. Even though you were in such a relationship, you eventually got help and moved on and that paid off because now you know better and you have a great man to show for it. God help those women out there that haven’t done the same. No judging.

That’s why I mentioned that the women that DON’T KNOW any better will get counseling. I’ve never been in an abusive relationship before, but let me ask you. Many women have family and friends telling them that the person they are with is no good. Isn’t that a wake-up call of some sort? I’m just asking. What is the turning point?