Why does NBA star Chris Bosh always wait for major NBA games to take his vindictive baby mama to court?

Last year, the Miami Heat star took Allison Mathis to family court for refusing to allow him to take his 2-year-old daughter to the NBA Finals. Bosh ended up losing that case -- and losing in the Finals to the Dallas Mavericks.

According to celebrity gossip blog TMZ.com, Bosh is dragging his baby mama into court again -- this time for denying him his parental rights to spend quality time with his now 3-year-old baby girl.

Bosh -- who is slated to play in the All-Star Game Sunday in Orlando -- will be in an Orlando family court first thing Monday morning, asking a judge to either force Allison Mathis to give him "meaningful time" with his 3-year-old daughter or hold Mathis in contempt for denying him that.

According to the docs, Mathis is supposed to hand the child over to Chris 12 days a month, but it hasn't happened ... not even close..

It's obvious that Allison is mad that Bosh's wife Adrienne Williams-Bosh is so pretty and Chris is devoted to her. Adrienne is pregnant with his 2nd child and her first.

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

    :coffee:

  • Eazy

    Celebrity Justice huh.. :coffee:

  • NaijaGal

    Meh I got nothing so I'll just sip :coffee: with FeFe and Eazy

  • yallcrazy

    But Adriene ain't prettier than her up there so she ain't mad at that.

    That's :chickenhead: thinking....

  • yallcrazy

    :coffee: <-- whatever they're drinking

  • Daisy

    Welp this post should be filled w/interesting comments :popcorn:

  • http://www.ashland86.com TheRealAshland

    good for him shame on her

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0IWtxLhniC4&sns=fb Jerrica

    The both look alienish to me so..... :shrug:

  • Detective Iheart

    He looks so :gay:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3IIF9IAQSnU H-Townmama

    I heard his ex's mother give an interview on Tom Joyner a couple months ago. If even half of what she said is true he is a very manipulative person :no:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0IWtxLhniC4&sns=fb Jerrica

    H-Town

    You daughter in your gravi is so adorable! I just want to take her and spoil her.

  • lovezoe

    :coffee: <--------really EmergenC

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    :hurl:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3IIF9IAQSnU H-Townmama

    :blink: :shocked: @Iheart
    I want to meet the "artist" who actually sat for hours to do that!!!

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3IIF9IAQSnU H-Townmama

    @Jerrica
    Thanks. It can all be arranged. What day is good for you? :biggrin:
    #notakebacksies
    #youacceptfullresponsibilityuntilsheis18
    #Iwillchangemynumberandaddress

  • ms_no-no

    Both of them need to stop acting like CHILDREN and start acting like PARENTS. If both of them do what they are supposed to, which is put their daughter's best interest FIRST, then she will grow up to be a productive, well rounded person. Chris and Allison aren't together and haven't been for a while; life moves on and they should too.

  • £ the commenter formally known as Hershey

    Dear Royce,

    Let this shyt be a lesson of what's to come for your azz if you don't get your shyt together. Your father is sick and tired of meeting "the one" every season, as am I. Please allow DHoward (my pet name for my boo) I digress, please allow him to see his son, and please stop allowing the world to see that you have turned into a athletic doorknob, :sperm: bucket because the shyt ain't cute Royce :nono: it ain't cute

    Signed

    Your friend in Christ

    #Ilovebballwives

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3IIF9IAQSnU H-Townmama

    :waves: @Zoe
    How are you and baby?

  • Detective Iheart

    :dead: @ Hershey ass :rofl:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0IWtxLhniC4&sns=fb Jerrica

    h-Town

    Any day is fine with me. We are going to have so much fun.....
    Wait, is she potty trained and knows how to talk?

  • CHA Kooche Tran

    FE FIESTA Mommy :hug: You sure like your pinkies..you married to a David Beckam?

    HTOWN MAMA hey girlllllllllllll :hug:

    HEY JERRICA mamas :hug:

    On topic ---It’s obvious that Allison is mad that Bosh’s wife Adrienne Williams-Bosh is so pretty and Chris is devoted to her. Adrienne is pregnant with his 2nd child and her first.

    :nono: Allison is pretty too...not many chics where they Sunday press and comb curls these days and still look naturally pretty... Adrienne looks faker than a 2 dollar bill!

  • lovezoe

    H-Town- Pretty good no complaints.

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

    @Cha

    You stoooopid! Nah, my hubby ain't no pinky, but he might as well be one, he's the same complexion... :lol:

  • CHA Kooche Tran

    FeFe says:

    @Cha

    You stoooopid! Nah, my hubby ain’t no pinky, but he might as well be one, he’s the same complexion

    :lol: I noticed that about you...aint nuthin wront wit it tho :no:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0IWtxLhniC4&sns=fb Jerrica

    Hey Cha :hug: :hi:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0IWtxLhniC4&sns=fb Jerrica

    Allison is pretty too…not many chics where they Sunday press and comb curls these days and still look naturally pretty
    _________________________________________________________

    :hahaha:

  • anw_rootbeer

    Stories like this makes me angry!!! I would never deny my daugter to see her dad!!!

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

    @Cha

    But don't get it twisted, I'll take 'em in all complexions...long as they fine! :yes:

  • EB

    I see Bosh has a type. He only dates beards. :coffee:

  • Daisy

    @Htown Why was her mama on Tom Joyner?

  • Anna

    ms_no-no says:

    Both of them need to stop acting like CHILDREN and start acting like PARENTS. If both of them do what they are supposed to, which is put their daughter’s best interest FIRST, then she will grow up to be a productive, well rounded person. Chris and Allison aren’t together and haven’t been for a while; life moves on and they should too.

    ~~~~~~~
    I agree, but why is he only getting(not getting)the baby 12 x/yr? When was he supposed to get her? New Yrs, Valenines, St. Patrick's, Easter, Father's Day, Memorial Day, Flag Day, 4th Of July, Memorial Day, Thanksgiving, Christmas, & Her Birthday?

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3IIF9IAQSnU H-Townmama

    Cha Cha!!!! :hug: x1,000,000,000

    @Jerrica
    She will tell you when she has to poo, but she still pees in her pull-ups. She is speaking in complete sentences, but still uses baby talk a lot. I'm actually waiting to see if she will be evaluated at Tx Childrens Hospital. she is showing signs of ASD.

    @Fe
    Bring back your pretty gravi :sad:

    I :love: Hershey. Keeps me laughing out loud.

  • Eazy

    H-Town, your daughter is very pretty!

  • lovezoe

    @Anna= He is supposed to get the baby twelve times a month.

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

    :waves: @H-Town

    Why what ever do you mean, my gravie IS still pretty! :lol:

  • £ the commenter formally known as Hershey

    @ Anna it said 12x's a month

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0IWtxLhniC4&sns=fb Jerrica

    H-Town

    Oh okay. I can do the pee as long as she says she has to #2. She is really adorable though.

  • CHA Kooche Tran

    @Htown...GIVES YOU 1545454 and 1 Hug:'s for lil mama with her cute self!

    My daughter ask my 2 year old niece for a hug last night and she looked at her and said "Hug your mom" :hahaha: I was so weak

  • CHA Kooche Tran

    FeFe says:

    @Cha

    But don’t get it twisted, I’ll take ‘em in all complexions…long as they fine!
    :woot:

  • Anna

    Thanks. 12 x/yr didn't seem fair.
    I bet she is too lazy to get that baby ready 12 x/month. Do they live in the same State?

  • brownskin A.K.A Creamy

    Baby mamma Drama SO GLAD THAT ALL THIS PASSES ME :no: no babies for me If a man has lil kids and want to holla, that will be hard for me, they must be 18 and grown and gone from baby momma :shrugs: that's just me. tho

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3IIF9IAQSnU H-Townmama

    @Daisy
    I forgot....it was like 6am. But I think it was an interesting interview. she said her daughter is very quiet and just takes it all in stride, but she was tired of him dogging her out. Said when Allison has tried to meet him more than half-way and he is not even that involved in his child's life like he tries to make it seem...i don't really follow this, but I've never really seen Allison say anything negative. Her mom says she tries her hardest to keep a low profile and hates how this is portraying her. I've been in a similar situation so I can see it being true.

  • free

    H-Townmama says: I heard his ex’s mother give an interview on Tom Joyner a couple months ago. If even half of what she said is true he is a very manipulative person

    *************************************

    she was on roland martin's lil part of the show. my only thought was why is roland featuring this babygrandmadrama foolishness?

  • Daisy

    I am glad he is using the court system to gain access to his child. A lot of reg brothers can't always do the same when their baby mama decides to not adhere to the custody agreements sadly.

    S/O to all the parents who co parent and don't use the kids as pawns :clap:

  • gypsyeyes

    Hey Yall! That nap was gooood! :zzz:

  • free

    H-Townmama says:
    @Daisy
    I forgot….it was like 6am. But I think it was an interesting interview. she said her daughter is very quiet and just takes it all in stride, but she was tired of him dogging her out. Said when Allison has tried to meet him more than half-way and he is not even that involved in his child’s life like he tries to make it seem…i don’t really follow this, but I’ve never really seen Allison say anything negative. Her mom says she tries her hardest to keep a low profile and hates how this is portraying her. I’ve been in a similar situation so I can see it being true.

    ******************************

    i'm sure chris' mama would have a different version of events. this kinda shyt needs to stay off the radio. i was trying to get my political update for the day and this broad comes on with that foolishness.

  • kahmmillion

    Sorry, I don't see the reason the ex would have to be jelly of the wife...they are both equally (un)attractive. If you say she is made becuz he married the Adrien and not her, I can go with that, but being jelly of Adrien's looks :no:

  • Daisy

    @Htown I listen to Rolands segement daily but I must have missed her. I never heard Chris dog her out per se he just takes her to court :shrug: I always say there are three sides to every story and the truth has a way of coming out sooner or later. I wish them the best all the same.

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3IIF9IAQSnU H-Townmama

    @Free
    Thanks! I agree I thought the same thing and I think Tom or Sybil even asked her that right?

    Thanks @Eazy

    @Cha
    Don't you love how honest they are at that age? :lol:

    @Fe
    You are right! Russell Brand is very pretty when he wants to be :yes:

    @Jerrica
    Deal! Just send me pics occasionally! I also have a 5yr old who is very smart and loves to fold clothes...I can do a BOGO free type deal for you!!

  • £ the commenter formally known as Hershey

    brownskin A.K.A Creamy says:

    Baby mamma Drama SO GLAD THAT ALL THIS PASSES ME no babies for me If a man has lil kids and want to holla, that will be hard for me, they must be 18 and grown and gone from baby momma that’s just me. tho
    ___________________________

    Sometimes they're worse the older they are. Kids instantly hate someone who isn't their mother, haven't fully let go that daddy stopped loving mama and now loves old girl down the block :shrugs:

  • free

    Anna says: Thanks. 12 x/yr didn’t seem fair.
    I bet she is too lazy to get that baby ready 12 x/month. Do they live in the same State?

    *************************

    no they live in different states so he sends someone to fly the baby back and forth to him. the baby mama does not like that.

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

    @H-Town

    :lol: that could be taken SOOOO many different ways!

  • gypsyeyes

    Hey HTown mamas!

  • free

    H-Townmama says:
    @Free
    Thanks! I agree I thought the same thing and I think Tom or Sybil even asked her that right?

    *********************************

    i don't remember that part because i was pulling up to work. basically, roland knows the grandma (she is in politics or something) and the grandma wanted to put her daughter's side of the story out because she felt the daughter was getting dogged in the media.

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3IIF9IAQSnU H-Townmama

    @Daisy
    I agree. The only one who suffers is the child. Like I said, I've been there if what her mom says is true. But never did I think of keeping my oldest daughter away from daddy. Our issues are between us. Children are going through enough as is in the world today and don't need to be subjected to unnecessary B.S. IMO. I hope they can get it together while she is still young.

  • Detective Iheart

    Hey Htown and Gypy :waves:

  • http://youtu.be/hsYI8CPUQsc YSoSrs

    :shrugs:

  • breniqua

    :offtopic: The 3rd suspect in that beating that happened to that kid outside that liquor store turned himself in to PA police :applause:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0IWtxLhniC4&sns=fb Jerrica

    H-town

    Deal, my nephew loves to fold clothes so now I have two that can do it while me and lil mama go shop.

  • CHA Kooche Tran

    Daisy says:

    I am glad he is using the court system to gain access to his child. A lot of reg brothers can’t always do the same when their baby mama decides to not adhere to the custody agreements sadly.

    S/O to all the parents who co parent and don’t use the kids as pawns
    :cosign:

    Is there any mothers on the board that have ever kept your kids from seeing they dude or vice versa :shrug: I would be curious to know why, that is something I will never ever ever ever ever understand.

    *unless he harmed the child in anyway thats a deal breaker for me

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3IIF9IAQSnU H-Townmama

    @Gypsy
    I was laughing so hard at your 4 yr old pooting in your room! I swear those girls are hilarious! How are you ma'am?

    @Free
    I was just getting off from work and was half sleep lol. I think Sybil or Tom was like why are you doing this instead of your grown daughter? She was like her daughter is too timid or some crap.

    @Fe
    :wink:

  • http://twritingexperts.wordpress.com StillB3lieve

    "It’s obvious that Allison is mad that Bosh’s wife Adrienne Williams-Bosh is so pretty and Chris is devoted to her. Adrienne is pregnant with his 2nd child and her first."

    ___________________________________________________________________________

    Come again? Say what?

  • gypsyeyes

    We are all good. Waiting for my oldest girl to graduate high school. I'm ready for her to go somewhere cause she has cabin fever every day. She said she wants to travel the world.

  • http://twritingexperts.wordpress.com StillB3lieve

    :blink:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3IIF9IAQSnU H-Townmama

    :waves:
    Iheart and Yso :gossip: just because.

  • KyCakes

    So...now he's a vindictive velociraptor? Not a good look, chrissy :no:

  • http://youtu.be/hsYI8CPUQsc YSoSrs

    HTOWN!! :gossip:

    Because of the post just before this one.

    @STILL

    Is that you? Do I see locs? Another one of my people? :yahoo:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3IIF9IAQSnU H-Townmama

    @Yso
    I just jumped on. Do I need to catch up :ha: at someone? :gossip: <---you catching me up.

  • iAmChan

    Chris is flaming, I care what no one else says, lol. Yall see how he looks at Bron and D Wade? Pay attention!!

  • http://twritingexperts.wordpress.com StillB3lieve

    @YSoSrs yes ma'am...it is I lol. You're a naturalista too? :hug:

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    :offtopic: I just broke down and purchased another laptop, :crying: I trully hate when I have to break down and spend money on something I need.

  • CHA Kooche Tran

    StillB3lieve says:

    @YSoSrs yes ma’am…it is I lol. You’re a naturalista too?
    :cheer: Im so excited.. I hope Still wont mind me fixing her locs sometimes...Hopes my loyalty to YSOLITA doesnt cause her to get "jellie" like Chris Boshs BM

  • http://youtu.be/hsYI8CPUQsc YSoSrs

    @STILL

    For like 5 years now. :yes:

    @CHACHELLA

    No worries. I am like Ray Charles to bullsht. ;)

  • I Go There

    Damn

    Bosh...

    "Better Choose the right one or pick them kiddies up"

  • KDub

    Yall see how he looks at Bron and D Wade? Pay attention!!
    --------------------------------------------------------------
    All I ever needed to see was him running down the court when his raptor looking azz played for Georgia Tech...and he looked like a flamingo about to fuggin take flight.

    I remma asking my boo at the time "babe who the fugg is THAT...???" :blink: Glad his azz only stayed one season cause I take my ACC basketball serious as heyl :coffee:

  • candibfly

    why is this day going so slow? :mad: i got here 3 hours late and it's still going at a turtle's pace :(

  • http://twritingexperts.wordpress.com StillB3lieve

    @YSoSrs wow...you're doing good with it. I've been natural for 2 years and have big chopped twice during that time.

  • http://www.buzzfeed.com/burnred/the-25-funniest-autocorrects-of-2011-281t JMO

    YSO :hahaha:

  • CHA Kooche Tran

    YSOLO... how long are yours? Are you ever gonna unlock them?

  • http://i35.tinypic.com/ei1sht.jpg Mother Jefferson

    :coffee:

  • http://youtu.be/hsYI8CPUQsc YSoSrs

    I started off just not relaxing my hair and getting braids and kinky twists. I didn't start locing my hair until about three years ago and I had to cut them off last year and start over when my hair broke off really badly at the top. They are now back at about shoulder length and much healthier though my crown is still thinner than I would like.

    @CHA

    I don't know. I think about it but the only alternative would be and afro or weave/wigs. I'm done with chemical straightening. :nono:

  • I Go There

    Locs huh?

    Interesting
    :coffee:

  • Sassy! Muthaf**king, Sassy!

    This weak ho HERE! *sigh*

    @Karrueche

    "You be suckin' his dikk tastin my clyt,
    You just the side chick, on the side bish,
    I'm the prize bish, keep it silent,
    Don't make me violent or you'll be dialing,
    9-1-1 to call the family."

    :coffee:

    Be Ray Charles NEXT week, bish.

  • I Go There

    And just when you thought it cant get no crazier....

    WHats up Sassy

  • http://youtu.be/hsYI8CPUQsc YSoSrs

    @YGO

    How so? :coffee:

  • Roc

    Is there any mothers on the board that have ever kept your kids from seeing they dude or vice versa I would be curious to know why, that is something I will never ever ever ever ever understand.
    __________________-
    I have, and I've shared this on the board before. The day he threatened NOT to return him to me was a deal breaker. We have no custody agreement in place and legally he does NOT have to return him to me.

    If he wants to see him, it will have to be in my home. So far he has chosen not to do that.

    There is a lot more than that. He was MIA for 19 months. My son just turned 2.

  • http://www.buzzfeed.com/burnred/the-25-funniest-autocorrects-of-2011-281t JMO

    :hahaha:

  • Sassy! Muthaf**king, Sassy!

    @Igo

    So...you callin me crazy, homie? That ain't right! :nono:

    Hey folks! :waves:

  • caligirl

    Roc says:

    Is there any mothers on the board that have ever kept your kids from seeing they dude or vice versa I would be curious to know why, that is something I will never ever ever ever ever understand.
    __________________-
    I have, and I’ve shared this on the board before. The day he threatened NOT to return him to me was a deal breaker. We have no custody agreement in place and legally he does NOT have to return him to me.

    If he wants to see him, it will have to be in my home. So far he has chosen not to do that.

    There is a lot more than that. He was MIA for 19 months. My son just turned 2.
    __________________
    When I left my ex-husband. I LEFT, litterally packed two bags and drove across the country. That was considered kidnapping, I din't care, I would deal with the courts later. However he always knew where his son was and has never been denied access. 2 summers ago, he picked him up for his court ordered summer vistation, do you know this mouthafucker had moved and WOULD not give me the new address. Called child support those bastids could't/wouldn't give me the address. Called the police and they said if he had him during his court ordered visits he wasn't required to give me the address. LAWD I was :mad: I'm sure I lost about 3 years off my life that week. My son called when that fucka went to the store and gave me the address off the mail. He still a big DUMMY.

  • caligirl

    @sassy - how you doern? Did you get invite yet?

  • caligirl

    gypsyeyes says:

    We are all good. Waiting for my oldest girl to graduate high school. I’m ready for her to go somewhere cause she has cabin fever every day. She said she wants to travel the world.
    ___________
    That's wonderful and please let her!

  • Roc

    Roc says:
    Is there any mothers on the board that have ever kept your kids from seeing they dude or vice versa I would be curious to know why, that is something I will never ever ever ever ever understand.
    __________________-
    I have, and I’ve shared this on the board before. The day he threatened NOT to return him to me was a deal breaker. We have no custody agreement in place and legally he does NOT have to return him to me.
    If he wants to see him, it will have to be in my home. So far he has chosen not to do that.
    There is a lot more than that. He was MIA for 19 months. My son just turned 2.
    __________________
    When I left my ex-husband. I LEFT, litterally packed two bags and drove across the country. That was considered kidnapping, I din’t care, I would deal with the courts later. However he always knew where his son was and has never been denied access. 2 summers ago, he picked him up for his court ordered summer vistation, do you know this moutha****er had moved and WOULD not give me the new address. Called child support those bastids could’t/wouldn’t give me the address. Called the police and they said if he had him during his court ordered visits he wasn’t required to give me the address. LAWD I was I’m sure I lost about 3 years off my life that week. My son called when that ****a went to the store and gave me the address off the mail. He still a big DUMMY.
    ___________________________
    I am SOOOO happy you shared that with me. I believe that when people aren't going through similar situations they can't understand. Your testimony shows me that I made a wise decision.

  • Sassy! Muthaf**king, Sassy!

    @Cali

    I'm good. :no: on the invite, though. Whatever. I'll get over it.

  • gypsyeyes

    Well we just sent for our passports @Cali.

  • gypsyeyes

    I have never kept my ex husband from seeing his kids but on his off weekends from getting the kids he was all around town with his girlfriend at the time kids. Didn't tell me or the kids about these kids but he was giving her a break taking her kids out. He lived in Columbus and we lived in Atlanta. My family members were seeing him and these children. I know that it is not the same but how are you down the street from your kids with someone elses.

  • http://www.buzzfeed.com/burnred/the-25-funniest-autocorrects-of-2011-281t JMO

    @Cali ... :blink:

    That sounds like that lifetime movie I was watching with Taraji over the weekend!! Girllll .... wow ... Im glad it worked out for you!

  • http://www.buzzfeed.com/burnred/the-25-funniest-autocorrects-of-2011-281t JMO

    gypsyeyes says:

    I have never kept my ex husband from seeing his kids but on his off weekends from getting the kids he was all around town with his girlfriend at the time kids. Didn’t tell me or the kids about these kids but he was giving her a break taking her kids out. He lived in Columbus and we lived in Atlanta. My family members were seeing him and these children. I know that it is not the same but how are you down the street from your kids with someone elses.
    ______________________________________________________________

    :no: <--- smh

  • I Go There

    Sassy

    Im sorry you not crazy... you just fiesty as hell.
    I still think you might stab me in my sleep though

  • caligirl

    @JMO - You know I saw that but fell asleep on the end. Taraj is an over actor and I was waiting for her to say JODY bring that boy home.

  • caligirl

    @Roc - He'll do anthing to make my life miserable. After the separtion and divorce I didn't enforce or ask for Child Support for 5 years. Then when I did he acted like a got dog gone fool. He'll get over it.

  • CHA Kooche Tran

    @ Roc and Caligirl... yall still here?

  • Roc

    @Cha I am...just popped back in.

  • Roc

    @Cali...I understand. You can't imagine the number of disrespectful phone calls that I had to endure after this man was only in my son's life for 5 months.

  • CHA Kooche Tran

    @ Roc... I read both of yall stories and I understand. I guess its just weird because you feel like you really know someone before you have children with them but then people tend to change so drastically. He threatened to take your child but is he the kind of person that would actually act on his threat. Im not saying at all to call his bluff but by you all not having a court order visitation stated dont you think your still ordering it based on your terms. That is what I get confused about, that "on your own terms/ my house only" may be the very thing thats keeping him away. Trust I am not justifying or making an excuse but people dont like to deal with limitations. If the shoe was on the other foot and your son lived with him soley would you feel comfortable going to his house only to see your child? IJS the same thing that confuses me about barriers about children is the same exact thing that confuses me as to barrier or not why wouldnt your tuck your tail, grin it and bear it, bite your tongue dude to see your child. I wouldnt care how many hoops Id have to jump threw I would just see the smile on my childs face but at the same time why is that neccessary, why is so hard to communicate as adults. I have two kids from a previous marriage and I have always felt like if he wanna see his kids he will, now that their almost pre teens, they dont even check for him because their step dad is so great. At the same time I always left the door open making it his choice, on his terms, on his dime, on his time..no restrictions no barries, and it works because I see him hang hisself time and time again. :haha: <--me and Mr Cha

  • Roc

    @ Cha...like I said there is a LOT more to it than just this. When my son was born he changed his number and got the hell ON! He wanted no parts to do with this relationship.

    He was not there during his delivery and wasn't there for the first 19 months of his life either. I finally found him again on FB. When I spoke to him we arranged a meeting in Atlanta (where HE lives) so he could see his child. I traveled there and he STOOD US UP! I called repeatedly and no response.

    About a month later he decided to come around. We were meeting in SC every other week (halfway)to drop him off/pick him up. About 2 months in he would flip out cursing me out, etc. if I told him we needed to switch the drop off date, etc. Then when we weren't agreeing on a date for drop/off pick up again he threatened to not return him.

    Do I know if I can believe him? I have no idea. I didn't think he would run from responsibility in the first place. I don't know anything that he is capable. A lot of people that have loved and cared for someone else have turned around and done unthinkable things.

    I'm just not going to chance it. He knows where we are.

  • CHA Kooche Tran

    Roc says:
    I hear ya Sis. My kids waited on they dad almost five years while he was in the pokey..he's here now and they still waiting on him (while he catches up with lights, camera, action) its whatever though! Again, keep in mind he is sorely missing out, I applaud you for doing all that you could to help him be a better father. There is plenty of times Ive had to clench my teeth and do things I didnt want for the sake of my children but I dont ever want them to resent me or have any doubt that I didnt leave those doors open. Your child is still very young so he really doesnt know whats going on but you do and I can understand the hurt. I hope he comes around because thats so foul and unfortunate, he is really only hurting you right now but be strong!

    OAN~ My husband cant see his daughter because he is married. His daughters mom told me straight up " You took her father away from her to be your kids daddy, she is an only child of his and unless he treats her as such he cant see her" Now mind you, she did not allow him to see her over a year prior to us getting together because "he moved out and left her, so therefore he left his daughter" When we first got together though my kids father was very hands on so a "stepdad" they really didnt need, he was just a bonus :smile:.

  • Roc

    @Cha...I would NEVER do what your stepdaughter's mom has done.
    I really, really, really tried. I believe it's his responsibility to ensuer he sees his child, but I went out of my way to try and help that relationship to grow. I promise I did.

    And honestly I am still going to fight for them to have a relationship. I just think that we really need to draw boundaries and put things in writing.

    My son is my most precious jewel. I'm not willing to take a chance on him snatching him up and running.

  • CHA Kooche Tran

    @Roc..Hang in there girl, I hope it gets greater later! :hug: Nice sharing with you!

  • Roc

    @ Cha...Thank You! I hope so too!!!

  • ms_no-no

    If Chris Bosh can dump the girl that was there with him in the beginning and had his first child then she needs to thank her lucky stars that A). She's rid of the nucca and B). He is now someone else's problem. Allison SHOULD and NEEDS to make sure that her daughter has a relationship with her father; at least he is taking an interest in his daughter unlike T-Owens who has children that he doesn't even see.

  • http://www.hiphossip.com Kemi at HipHossip Canada

    Sandra u know what? Who cares? Thank God they have taken their foolishness from Canada. We were sick of her with all the bickering about child support and complaining he won't marry her. Don't have unprotected sex with an NBA player.