The boyfriend of a popular UNC professor has been charged with her murder. 45-year-old Donny Lewis Franklin was taken into custody on Tuesday and charged with murdering 35-year-old Jeannine Shante Skinner.
Skinner was an esteemed University of North Carolina professor. Her battered was discovered in her apartment over the weekend, according to the Charlotte Observer.
Police say Franklin has a history of domestic arrests and he plead guilty to a misdemeanor account of assaulting a woman in 2003.
Friends say Franklin and Skinner’s relationship was “relatively new”. They dated for less than two months and went to church together on Sunday.
Her body was found inside her Ayrsley Town Center apartment after the police conducted a wellness check on her just before noon Friday.
The cause of death was not made public, but police say Skinner suffered blunt force trauma to her body.
RIP ?
This is so sad
Lord have mercy. RIP.
Please take a man’s domestic violence history seriously.
Society is so quick to forgive and trust men who have battered women and women are too lenient and trusting of men with battering histories.
When women learn that a man used to harass, stalk, beat, or verbally abuse an ex wife or ex girlfriend, walk away.
This victim thought she had a changed man as they were going to church together. But brimming under the surface was his mental illness of battering and he killed this beautiful intelligent sister within two months of a new relationship.
Crappy ass world.
Smh what could have possibly went wrong where he would do such a thing
Just sad, sad, sad.
Auntie some feel good story please, such as the woman who got stuck in a window while trying to retrieve her poop.
May this lady here RIP.
Women and their desperation and men with insecurities
he has untrustworthy hair. and he is showing too many gums. and it looks like he bought that shirt and tie set together prematched in a clear box from marshalls. too many red flags.
peace to this sister and her family. there’s some cold hearted suckers out here.
Malcolm X said the most disrespected person in America is the black woman. The most unprotected person is the black woman. The most neglected person in America is the black woman.
Background check Ladies!
Sandra, has a typo..
Sad…. hope they F! him up in Jail the coward….
He said it over 55 years ago and sadly, it’s still true.
And the fact is we’re disrespected by someone who looks like us!
This will be an episode of Fatal Attraction next year. Watch.
BTW, what was his profession?
Oh my!! “Gettin grown” podcast dedicated their show to her on Tuesday…very sad!
Yep, men folk who are supposed to be our protectors, providers and kings. They show more hate for us than any klan member. SAD.
Call me old fashioned but I didnt let men come to my house within 2 months of dating…we met in a public place for dates. Maybe because I was a single mom. I feel like nowadays men do not court women…after one date they want to come to your house or vice versa…slow it down ladies! Make them court you… you are a prize to be won ?
RIP
She probably found out something about him and decided to break up but his ego wouldn’t let her. There was an episode of For My Man (I think) of a sista who had her own home and a good job that allowed her to travel. She hooked up with a bum who was involved with someone else. Instead of calling & breaking it off, she went to his house, where he killed her, then called his other woman to come help him dispose of her body by burning it. After that he used her ATM card to rob her account.
sad rest in Power . Better judge of character next time or discernment
Next time?
Next time for who reading
So very sad, may he pay dearly for what he has done to this woman, she did not deserve to die, hope he gets it in jail.
Two rules!!! NEVER date men who have been incarcerated more than 6 months… And NEVER date a man who has been known to assault a women… Don’t care if he was 15…. Old habits die hard!!! ?
RIP! ??
Prolly jealous of her and her success… She prolly dated him and then found that he was not whom he said he was in any way shape or form… Then decided to kick him to the curb… He wasn’t having the rejection and went off… Insecure MF!!!
I hate hearing about things like this. Now the family is forced to play cat and mouse cuz he will never simply say what happened. Two months and there’s this type rage to kill?
some people look sane but you never know their mental state.
He was jealous of her, she should have dated someone on her level, but as they were only together for two months she probably caught on that he wasn’t ish quick, but not quick enough and tried to leave he bum. Sad for this smart and beautiful woman
Smdh. These men really are crazy nowadays. I wonder if she saw any signs. Prayers for her family.
Huhhh. I hate that I reas your response and laughed. His comment didn’t even resonate.
Same here and I don’t have any kids. No, I don’t need you to pick me up. We can meet…in public.
Smh. You cannot be serious. This ninja kills his side piece and you volunteer for prison.
Not all black men, obviously. But I share your sadness and anger. During slavery and for a time after, black men were unable to protect their wives, sisters, mothers and daughters from sexual violence and degradation. It was, and continues to be, a source of great shame for black males. Unfortunately, it seems sometimes we still direct that inherited shame, rage and frustration toward those that we are meant to protect. It is disgusting what happened to this young woman.
They were only dating for two months. My Gawd. This is why I’m very careful who I date. This guy was a predator and a loser in life. He was probably jealous of her success.
Agreed not coming to my home that quick AND I am doing a BACKGROUND CHECK!!!! He had a history of violence towards women!!!!
can’t wait for the details to unfold on this story….
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THAT READ!!!!!!!
A mess CHILE!
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It’s true.
Sounds like he became masterful at hiding his battering disease. He learned to put on a good show going to church with her on Sundays. But lurking under the surface was his battering disease and he killed her. Lord have mercy.
Batterers are the most charming, romantic, deceptive, and manipulative men. Naive and trusting women are no match.
I don’t think he was jealous of her, he was jealous and possessive over her. Unsuccessful battering men usually want a successful woman to use and live off BUT they want to isolate their meal ticket. This man killed this beautiful sister out of possessiveness.
What’s frightening is that batterers are always offered plea deals where if they stay out of trouble their record gets sealed. Because usually a forgiving girlfriend or wife doesn’t want the battering man they love to have a record. But then the truth is hidden from a background check by the next woman.
Amen.
The worst is that a battering man’s friends and family will cover for him and let a naive sister walk right into a lions den. With the caliber of this woman, someone should have warned her.
THIS!
RIP Ms. Lady :(. This makes me sad. Hope they put him under the chain. Being that she was a popular professor at UNC, I’m sure her students will write letters to the court… Because I sure as heck would. He’s a bum
STILL. And it can be quite discouraging and heartbreaking at times. Especially when it’s coming from the hands of a black man.
I wonder if she knew about his criminal past? 2 months is such a short time. But a quick google search will tell you everything these days…. Especially if they have a criminal record. You WILL find their mugshot. I can guarantee you that.
Yes I hate when family and friends co sign ignorance. So sad…
Yes! I dated a freaking nut case for 6 months. A straight mental, emotional, and verbal abuser. Thank God I left his psychotic arse.
Allow me to repeat myself: Educated black women, PLEASE LEAVE THESE BLACK MEN ALONE!!!!!! Especially the uneducated ones. She was a professor, and I doubt he even has a GED. With a HISTORY of arrests, no reputable company would hire him in a responsible position.
I said it on the last murder post and I’ll say it again: If you insist upon dating black men, HIRE A PRIVATE DETECTIVE BEFORE YOU LET HIM IN YOUR HOME. And stop being so damned desperate for a man that you accept one who is not on your level in EVERY way : Academically, Professionally, Economically, Intellectually and Spiritually. And the fact that he goes to church with you doesn’t mean squat. Many gay black men are sitting in church waiting for a desperate, financially-secure black woman they can latch onto for a check.
Now everyone who wants to condemn me for speaking the truth, go ahead. But you all know I’M RIGHT. If I could have given this young woman — and the one from last week — some sage advice, they would still be alive today.
Men kill their wives at an alarming rate. It is not only dating.
THANK YOU!!! Public meetings ONLY, until you get the results of the private investigator’s report. These young women who bring these complete strangers into their homes — even when they have young children — confound me.
He most likely told her that those women filed false charges on him because gen didn’t want to be with them anymore!! I had a crazy fool in one month he showed himself it ended with restraining order and me losing my job I had to even move to an whole other state meanwhile he quickly found his next and guess what she sent me a message on ig saying he abused her and all kinds of stuff humph
People need to stop bashing women who don’t date men of a past she doesn’t approve of and calling them unforgiving to make them feel bad and saying shyt like his past doesn’t matter. His past life does determine your future life with him.
Facts…and yuck when I saw his face.
I am curious how did she know who you where. What was he doing keeping records.
Just because he doesn’t have a violent past when he meets doesn’t mean it will never have one when he gets with you. You could be his first one. They have to start somewhere with someone. A PI report will never tell you that.
So many judgements in here. First of all RIP to this lady. But damn. Why we think she DIDNT know about his past? Do a background check etc etc. She had a PhD. She probably Googled him in the LEAST. Maybe she was OKAY with it. You cant get a job if you have a background. Dont date down. Ummm he had a job he had been on for 5 years at a huge medical supply company in Charlotte. Sounds like a decent job to me. We dont know what happened but we do know she is no longer here. RIP to her but dont downplay her intelligence of not knowing. She may have known but for whatever reason gave him a chance.
“Virginia court records show Franklin was formerly a resident of Roanoke, Virginia, and was arrested there multiple times for crimes including reckless driving, assault and battery, burglary with intent to commit assault and trespassing.”
This was an educated woman. I can’t believe she didn’t know she was playing house with a bum. Not only do I refuse to date someone with a criminal record, I also refuse to be friends with convicts. The more you accomplish, the more you have to lose.
You know it. I cried when I saw the one of the minister who killed his pregnant wife and put her body in the freezer in the basement for 3 years. Then he got the oldest daughter pregnant and put pictures of them around the house as if they were husband and wife. That one always stays with me.
You a profiler Sis? You did that!
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(RIP to this young lady… so sorry she got involved with a desperate gold digger, smh)
That’s how Jenifer Lewis found out about her criminal past man.
So sorry you went through all that, but SO glad you got away from that psycho!??
I see your passion, but the warning shouldn’t be limited to Black Men. White men are killing their wives/girlfriends at alarming rates. Evil is a spirit, not a ‘color’ …be careful of ALL strangers.
OT:
Any Roses in Florida, please be safe. Please be mindful of any evacuation orders for your area. Prayers…????
I think she did what far too many black women do — she settled. When someone has that kind of background, it’s impossible to disguise. It would have revealed itself in his speech, his range of knowledge, his interests. She HAD to have known he wasn’t on her level, even if she didn’t know the extent of his criminality. But she probably just wanted ” a man.” Many women do this. I mean, look at Phaedra Prks’ choice of a husband. Recidivist felon.
Sir education is nothing with out wisdom and discernment
Exactly every race of men as their faults. I see a Indian doctor kill his white wife whose a doctor as well. Double high educated people. Still the male doctor killed his wife whose a doctor as well. Person about hate Blackman
If I see another Friday night episode of Dateline on a Friday night of a white man killing his wife and putting her body in a suitcase and throwing it ova a bridge Imma scream.
Oh boy, let me go watch Tennis
Glad you okay.
Yep cuz “Brad” got my cousin in a bad way, It’s too long to describe in detail except that after they got married, she wondered why there was no money to buy a house. Then she found out he owed back alimony to his previous wife.
However, I’ve got another cousin with 3 kids by different fathers and one grandchild who married her 2nd (out of 3 total) white husband at 40 y.o. He spoils her to death and seems nice.
This will be on ID eventually.
Some Black men are really possessing a Demonic spirit.
If you read the Dailymail UK; men killing women, women killing men, women killing children, children killing parents. On and on you get the idea. SMDH
RIP, too sad to even contemplate. I agree he was probably jealous of her, maybe she was breaking up with him. What a wast of life.
This may have happened before your time, but check out the story of Lita Sullivan sometime. She was a beautiful Sister who married a White man who was a millionaire. Sounds like she did everything right huh? Well it ended tragically. Don’t believe the hype, smh.
My point exactly – it can go either way with any of these dudes! (I hope things work out for your fam, smh)
Girl these young folk are cyber savvy. If he ever laid his phone down for more than 5 min, she done cracked his code, got all his contacts, photos, etc, Lol!
They be burning folk in the backyard, burying them at sea, feeding them through the wood chipper ?…then get on tv talking bout ‘pls come home SueAnn’ or ‘if you have her pls let her go’ ? …knowing the whole while they whole house smell like a Clorox plant, smh.
That is I have my flip phone they laugh at me but I don’t care. That is toooo much energy for me. This fool are crazy if you call me I got your number and I can prove that you called me. DUHH!!!!
I know I went running and praying tonight for everyone. It’s too much.
I know right. I am cooling down from running looking at the ESCAPE channel and this mofo killed his wife, put her body in the trunk of the car, stopped by his girlfriend to get some trim while his dead wife is in the trunk of the car. I was like WTF. You ain’t lying about the Clorox I be looking at my shows and the cops say when they smell that they know something is up.
It happened in the ATL. Except her parents had money they wasn’t playing with that white man getting off killing their daughter. They said she went to live with him in Palm Springs and those white folks treated her so bad she had to come back to the ATL. They didn’t care how much money she had she was a nigra.
Jennifer was toooo old for that shyt.
And you can usually tell he’s lying because when he calls 911 he gives his alibi before he even tells why he called.
Operator: 911, What’s your emergency?
Him: I just got back from playing poker all night with my friends George and Thom. Somebody killed my wife while I was gone 6 hours.
Thank you, it’s just that the irony is too funny. The first cousin is college-educated with a great job and has what some would call a “refined” background. The second never finished college and really isn’t that stable with work but she’s easier to talk to.
Yes! That was also what I wanted to emphasize – she came from money. None of that saved her from a hit man, hired by her rich WHITE husband.
his mugshot…he looks straight psycho.. I’m sorry sis..RIP.
She said that she saw where he kept going on my ig she said she found it in his search history mind you she contacted me a few months ago but when she contacted me I had been moved out of that state and everything for over a year!! But when I say her story was the exact same as
mine and she got pregnant by that fool! She had to move to another state and also got a restraining order. When I was going to court to get the restraining order she had moved in with him maybe a few weeks after. I suspect she knew he was dealing with me when they met but I think she thought because he had all this material stuff nice car and house that she had hit a lick!!
If it happened to NO NONSENSE Jenifer(who I witnessed personally cussing out someone) Then it can happen to any woman.
Oh hell no!!! What kind of woman would even go along with that mess!!! Like he won’t do the same to her so she won’t tell what they did!! That is just disgusting!!
Unfortunately this generation doesn’t know or even care about courting. They think courting means going to see the judge at the court house. With the glorification of instagram garden tools, and side pieces being considered better than being the main girl, courting is gone out the window like bringing her flowers on the first date.
LOL! I will not forget the first and only time someone did a background check on me after only knowing me for 2 weeks. I was hot like fish grease to say the least. In the end, I should’ve been the one doing a background check. Can I say crazy?!!!! It took prayer and meditation to shake that psycho.
Omg you are right!! He has those eyes!! I call them crazy eyes every crazy man that I have seen has those same eyes!! Jeepers creepers where’d ya get those peepers ?
wow she had also pictured her clothes in the closet when she saw that house and she was trying to beat you to the punch. I am amazed yall talked I wouldn’t waste my time talking to her. Kudos for being strong and getting the strength to leave.
Yep she went to Palm Springs and got her N-word wake up call real quick. He had some flowers delivered to her home and they shot her. Then he went back down to Florida and got married again.
Yep!
Clorox, new paint, and new rugs….dude, your wife missing and you redecorating???
Listen Linda you are painting broad strokes. It’s MANY educated men doctors, engineers, detectives whooping, tricking and killing. Liars come in all occupations and income levels.
It’s MANY black men that have limited education but are hard working and are not criminal savages, but are loving hard working.
Who hurt you??
exactly..CRAZY Eyes..lmaooooo jeepers creepers…
I’m hollering!!!!!???
Lawd, it’s not funny but you are SO on point!?
Way too much, smh
Come byke Boo!?
Right..and I heard the dog barking so I let him out then I went and showered and then I went to grab a soda out the kitchen and that’s when I saw…..FOH..they kill me.
But… I thought you had left… ????
george and Tom..lmaooooo
don’t You start ma’am?
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it seems they meet and almost immediately have sex…no courting whatsoever. Sad!
hey girl…you caught me… I know… my azz supposed to be doing some dishes and going to sleep. I’m sitting up here with ya’ll procrastinating and what not
Rest in Protected Peace, dear Jeannine Shante Skinner. May you return with Karma so that you may witness the fate of the coward that murdered you… because he was afraid of your everything (education, discipline, popularity, status, beauty…). Self defense should be a required course in all schools at all levels of education.
Not even education saves the most beloved and most hated being on the plant. Grant it, domestic violence doesn’t discriminate… although it should. It should only beat up the folks who even think about using physical and/or emotional violence to control others.
As I’ve said here before… Insecure people are the most dangerous. They rob, steal and kill every dream, thing and gleam of light seen. May he keep those crazy arse eyes opened forever.
Wake up ladies and gentle men (gentleman)…. #Goodnight
nicely stated and goodnight to you.
I started my laundry late foolin w/y’all …I’m 2 loads behind now, lol ?
lol ?
I think the same when I hear those type of 911 calls. They want to establish an alibi, that sometimes they forget why they called in the first place. They tell their story and then the operator ask “sir, why did u call 911. Him: oh, yeah my wife is cold and there is blood everywhere”.
sis, all i’m saying is i’ve watched a few episodes of fatal attraction on tv one ?
I’m going to hell for laughing at you..
LMAO!!!! Y’all not right????
Hay there..my kimono arrived today ?
Did u pick one?
Nope, you good (you see what’s on hell’s wait list?! – this guy, Trump, Sessions …R Kelly… (too far??))
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Lol! You be knowin’ ?
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????? nope not too far at all?
(Show off)?
Rip
Lol..not yet…tomorrow I plan to stunt on them hoes https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/7788885d3258f1c3f3cc99e1376718e43b86ca4dd0fe729276e047d3eefe1556.gif
Sad. Rest In Peace. Hope he rots in prison.
LMAO! they not ready huh, Lol!!!!
Nope…they never are ?
MY favorite is they kill their mate with a gun and then mess the house up to look like a robbery, then call 911. Then when the police come you fake crying and when they talk to the kids the kids bust your azz wide open when they said they heard the shots fired before your azz busted out the window for the fake robbery. You know my crazy azz be like dayum you thought the kids were sleeping. Honorable mention of the fools that kill someone and take the person they murdered cellphone with them. Then when the cops check the ping the phone is in your pocket.
They stop by stores that have cameras and receipts as alibis. They be looking right into the camera when they leave tooooo funny.
Ok…how much do PI reports cost?
I used to think that with age came with wisdom and stability, which is why I tended to prefer older men. That’s just not always the case.
My heart goes out to her family.
Rest in Heaven Jeanne.
I saw a preview of a show called Tears of a Crime~ tells the stories of people who have shed crocodile tears to hide their guilt in criminal cases. It says Investigation Discovery UK but I hope they have it here.
The UK is off the meter. I saw some of them when I was in Dubai last month and I was like wow. I was up all night looking and snacking I couldn’t go to sleep.
Goes to the store to get all the tools needed to clean up the crime scene, then decide to use their store discount card with their information just to save .73 cents.
or the one my cousin got engaged to– the god fearing man in church every sunday. Then the engagement pics and ring disappeared. What happened? He was beating her azzz!!! Her mother barely supported her in light of this news. I was expecting her daddy and brothers to execute justice but it never happened. I feel really bad for her b/c looking at her social media acct. you’d think she had it all together. Got another cousin who had a baby with a white man but he won’t marry her or claim her. Just the baby. Got an ex colleague been dating a white man 5+ years and she still hasn’t gotten a ring and doesn’t know if one is on the way. It’s not just the black men. smh
that was such a sad story.smh
Or TVOne / Fatal Attraction.
.73 cents…
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So lucky! Did you eat any foods that were new to you?
AWWWW I saw that episode. Girlfriend was having a fit about getting that store credit.
I’m folding clothes
Yep did you see the one where old girl helped her boyfriend rob the bank on her job. They got her she wouldn’t say nothing about him. So he got the money and went back to the ex-wife. When the detective said we told her he was back with the ex-wife she was sanging like a bird. I was rolling.
Or the ones who are ‘out of town’ at the time of the murder, but they double back, kill their sleeping spouse, and drive back to their out of town hotel. Only problem is their room key tracks their room door entries AND their eazypass tracked them coming & going through the tolls?
Me too!??
Not another 1… we need to attend the gun range the same way we attend brunch
Lol! How dumb!
I’ve seen them online for less than $50 (that’s nationwide ones where they check every state)… and way less than that if you’re just checking one particular state.
It’s called the hate of blackness
I had lamb. But I was straight ATL. Chicken, chicken, chicken. I went on the boat ride and somebody fired the shyt outta that fish. I asked for some hot sauce they were rolling. They eat camel burgers and I was like no thank you. I stuck to the basics because I was tooooo far away from home to get sick even though I had insurance.
Sure did I can’t imagine what young /teenage women go through today.
Well said, but you would have #Stay Woke. Literally, Figuratively….you turn your back. Boom next thing you are…..gone
The winner goes to the ones who burn the body and goes to talk to the police like they are innocent but you have burn marks on your body and they ask you how did you get burned and you say you was putting something on the grill and the flame got outta control. Toooo much.
And there’s also that camera at that gas station they stopped at… or the cameras at the Walmart where they stopped to buy bleach, garbage bags, and rubber gloves.
Ultimately, an education should teach us to utilize both wisdom and discernment.
You talking to an ole lover in jail and he telling you on a recorded phone when he get out you gonna be a porn star and your azz is 58 years old. You kill your ole man when he gets out for the insurance money to finance the film. Can’t make this stuff up. I was like you ole stupid bytch.
Don’t be so hard on black women, or women, for that matter. Some people – male or female… black, white, etc. – don’t know their own worth. They don’t know how to self-protect.
An education teaches you which medicine you can use that can’t be detected by the medical examiner.
Just went yesterday… ladies free every wed.
Right!! Or they break the glass but they break it in the wrong direction. Like what robber breaks the glass to leave a house.
oooohh..do you love it??? After reading all the great reviews on yours..guess what?.. I ordered one on Sun so not here yet…I’m like a kid waiting for Christmas chile :-)..
okay?!!
just a messs.
The cop be like someone robbed this house and left the computer and flat screen television in plain view. I look at the ID Channel episodes call Evil Twin and boy it is a mess. They had these twin doctors and everybody loved them. Then come to find out they were child molesters. They went to the house and found all kinds of child porn. They also found some used condoms. They did DNA to find out who the condoms belonged to. Imma gross you out, The twin brothers were sexing each other. The cop said he got so sick he had to take a couple days off work behind all of that.
I think it tends to be an issue more with women than men though. Especially when they get on the other side of 30 or 35 and still desire to get married one day.
I’ve seen women I’ve known just lower their standards a lot when it comes to dudes, after they got past a certain age. The dude is bum and everybody (friends/family) can see it but them… franky, because they dont want to see it.
Betta say it. I was in tears when I saw smart Debbi Thomas on Vanzant with a white man living in roach infested trailer park with a creek in the back yard.
The reviews sold it…and yes its beautiful and the price ?.. I plan to chew the scenery up in it ?
And not just regular garbage bags, but those huge ‘contractor’ bags, Lol!
(Oh, and duct tape, lol)
Damn! dating is scary
Sometimes when I look at some of those shows, I think I have seen or heard it all but there are always something someone that just baffles me.
Pls don’t provide any more scenarios ?
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Okay, I quit. Good nite!??
*tries not to hurl*
I think executing justice with Brad is still tricky in 2017, unless you got proof they were planning some foul ish.
People making a difference between her death being caused by her dating when had on here where this married woman was possibly set up by her “Garage Boy” of a husband cutting hair at 1:am who wouldn’t even fight for her. Dead is dead and it doesn’t discriminate.
Relationships are scary whether you are married or single. None of us are safe.
When I see people with them giant size plastic tub I always give them the side eye.
smh… Women need to learn self defense and start kicking ass back.
…. and then BOOM you return as a tornado that destroys your detractors. The wonderful thing about self love is that it allows you to face forward to see the fools coming…. and to sleep so you’ll have the right mind to tell them to go back to hell and never return, lol! Thanks for your insight. I see you. ???? #ISleepWithMyEyeOpen #TheThirdOne
I’ll be the first to agree with you, working in probations I see evil, lost, and unconsciousionable black men every day. They’ve taking the spirit of the devil and have become soulless to their own, sad part every year it gets worse.
But have you checked the difference between rates of all those situations you have stated?
God bless you.
feeding them through the wood chipper ?…then get on tv talking bout ‘pls come home SueAnn’
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bwahahahahahahhahahhahahahahhahahhahahahahahahahaahhahaahhaha I am over here CRINE! LMAO I can’t stop laughing! OMG!
RIP Queen
Better yet learn to recognize red flags that point out crazy and trust their intuition enough to walk away early
LMAO
God bless you and who love you, too. ????
It was more for me than her because honestly at some point I felt like maybe it was me I pictured them living the life!!! I thought maybe I was too strong willed but honey she went to him with barely a job and no car I don’t think and that was right up his alley!! Her reaching out and finding was just that tap on the shoulder like you didn’t do anything wrong that fool just crazy!!
Im telling yall these black men hate us. They dont want us to be more successful than them in one bit. They try to tear us down by dissing our looks but praise a yt or exotic looking chick on IG everyday. I swear they make me sick in my city…this is disgusting. RIP to this Queen.
Saw his mug shot in the paper. Figured he cleaned up nice. My heart hurts for this brilliant sister. Such a loss to the community. Probably thought he was turning his life around.
I agree. My ex-husband definitely did not like the fact that I continued to be more successful while he stayed stagnant. Why I left his ass. He would proudly introduce me to his family as Native American (which I am not) like he had won some prize.
I’ve been single for 8 years. Of the few online dates I’ve had at least half were immediately verbally abusive / controlling.
I don’t want to get a gun, but I have been thinking about it more and more.
Her kind spirit shines through that photo. There is a pleasance in her eyes and smile. Im sure she was too good for this man, but kind enough to give him a chance. Sad. Very sad.
Not a lot of options for successful women who love Black men in Charlotte. Either take in a handsome bum and stunt or share somebody else’s man in secret.
I hear women saying the same thing about Atlanta… and a lot of other places too, actually. Kinda sad.
Not knowing a man that well and for such a short time and yall are going to church together seems…. off. To me. Idk why. I wonder who’s idea that was. Probably his crazy asses. People often use God to manipulate folks. Interesting. Of course, I could be wrong but..
I don’t see what’s wrong with going to church….
Really? So now going to church with an acquaintance/friend/boyfriend is too forward? What better place to TAKE a date???? Better than a bar, club or hotel!!!! People are truly lost.
Yes, it is a loss.
Black men have been beat down so much by society that some of them do have a hard to accepting that women are more successful. They are angry at society and take it out on the most vulnerable ones closest to them.
Girl, I’ve had my gun license since 2010 smbdy kept breaking in my house while I was pregnant, thank goodness I was always at work. Needless to say I moved.
……Gone the way of the horse driven carriage!! Almost NON existent….
I kinda see where you are going with your comment. I know for me, if I met a new guy I’d be hesitant to take him to church too soon because my church is like family. I wouldn’t want to bring too many men in and out of my church. I’d want to make sure the relationship is going to last first. You know how church folk can be. They will talk about you like a pure dog. On the other hand, sometimes I feel my pastor could assess this guy and tell me if I need to kick him to the curb. My pastor is truly a holy servant of Christ and I would trust his judgement. So that COULD be a reason she took him to church I don’t know. But it would take more than one visit.
Only two months of dating, this is not a woman who tried to change an abuser, she probably sensed he was off or had a bad experience with him and tried to break things off quickly. Then this sick fool kills her. I hope he never sees the light of day.
SAY WHAT?! I missed that one! Do you remember the names?
You’re right; not all black men and I happen to adore our brothas and men…hence my disappointment. I EXPECT more from them. Somehow we need to come together as one because in spite of what folks think, trying to be the rainbow coalition, the black man and black woman WERE MADE for one another. Without each other, there can be NO MORE us.
I praise my GOD, Jesus for his wisdom. I wasn’t always able.
No Coco, I wasn’t interested in the rates. I was shocked and disgusted by all the killing! There was no combination of killers vs victims missing. WTF is going on? It’s like a killing spree among families?!? SMDH
And those honeymoon cruises where one of them doesn’t return! !!
girl you know how they do, LOL!!!!!!!
girl yes! those cruises and mountain hikes need to come OFF the honeymoon to-do list!
Lmbaooooo
I used to have a crush on my Mother’s friend son and we tried to get together. I was there with him and his Mama one day and he got mad at her and went in on her like she was a Bih on the street. I was looking back and forth like I was at a tennis match. When they finished I rolled out and wouldn’t answer when he called. His Mom called and tried to convince me that he was a good guy, just was mad that day. I told her I don’t trust guys who could handle their mom that way. I’m not a ninja whisperer. Can’t fix him. Fuk dat.
I’m scared to online date. ?
Just an awful tragedy. This woman was so highly regarded by so many. Sandra she was employed by UNC Charlotte, not UNC.
So true!
I agree 100%!! I was completely baffled by the above statement regarding taking an acquaintance to the house of the lord. Know one knows why she invited him to church as well as it’s not for us to know. Often we are to concerned about what others would think about us rather than just doing you. Condolences to this beautiful queens family and may she rest in glorious peace.
So being black wasn’t good enough? I’d have to throw up the deuces too.
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The fear of growing old and alone is universal. I think men handle that fear, differently. In either case, both settle for less than ideal situations.
LMAO! I’m not going there with you! ?
As a gay man approaching 50, I can identify with what you said. I have a profile on a so-called gay dating site. The men my age are still chasing their youth and carrying on like promiscuous frat boys. The ones who are reasonably intelligent, are usually married or have a girlfriend. The young dudes are looking for a come-up or a place to stay.
I would rather be alone than invite someone else’s misery and failure into my life.
Nailed it!
Amen.
You need time to see if it’ll work instead of being known as the churchwoman with a REVOLVING door of men that they’ve met. Not every date should be privy to your job site; family, coworkers, church & favorite spots to avoid being stalked & harassed if the dating process wasn’t that long to begin with.
After the breakup, the next man will argue say that the places are not that special nor are the men because you each of them took me to all of those places too & employees get to also observe the revolving door of men. -not a good look.
Thank you, by the way Ms. Karen. Bless you. There is so much positive and powerful energy in words. Wouldn’t it be nice if a place existed where those of us who understand this could come together to change the “language” and self-talk of us as a collective?… I do that privately and as a profession via my work. God willing, it will be global too/soon. Stay tuned… ?????
The big manipulation via religious tactics: some folks haven’t caught on to being manipulated into worshipping the lord or a lord instead of the one and one Holy God above all other. Smh. -We are suppose to pray to and only worship The Creator who is the Holy God.
Not hard to get folks to be pray to & worship the devil, idols or false other gods, etc.. just cue the feel-good or emotional church music to confuse them. Smh
People are suppose to be able to discern & think according to the scriptures. Otherwise, how can you tell what is wrong vs. right when there are no moral standards & boundaries or spiritual guidance. That is why a number of churches are so dysfunctional & no different than the streets or clubs. -no standards!
Wrong in context of having a number of short-term relationships where people are observing a number of different men that a woman might be bringing in. The goal of dating is to interview for a good, potential marital partner. -hopefully, the most important people in your life will get to meet that person and size them up as well to make sure you are in good hands.
That mentality of being thirsty and too quick to expose a person to all of your most important people & places often lead to stalking, harassment & regrets because you exposed too much too soon to the wrong somebody.
If only women will stop excusing away the obvious facts or issues about a character. -clean up his act is what thirst or silly females tell themselves in order to be okay with being with a questionable man. Many are foolish in trying to mold that type into huzzband. Smh
lmao but i luh u tho ?
Mmmmkay. So you supposed to “sneak” around then, I guess? Listen, *if* I’m dating a man, I want my friends to know who I am going out with. I want them to know his name, where he works, what he looks like. Two months isn’t that short of time to go to church together. Seriously. But to each their own. This hypocrisy about a woman appearing “chaste” (i.e., your “revolving door” comment) is really messed up. A single woman is allowed to DATE to try to find her ideal mate. Dating doesn’t mean sleeping with every guy, but you act like she supposed to read tarot cards or something to figure out if the guy is the right one. I don’t get it.
There’s another option… move forward, alone.
Ok! He probably made her call you…had a gun to her head and everything lbvs yeah that’s a huge red flag that he touched in the head
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The curses of Dueteronomy 28. These black men are killing and abusing Black women and Children and wonder why God allowing these white cops to humble these men by kicking their behinds or putting them to death. It never fails
Good answer.
Never said that all women will sleep with their every date.
For protection, I agree that a few family & friends are suppose to meet a perceived worthwhile person to help size them up, but in a neutral setting. However, we can’t just drag any & everything into the family.
How many horror stories have we seen about innocent family & friends and church congregations have been caught in the crossfire of someone else’s bad or stupid choices in men that they insist on bringing around the family? Therefore, the woman is as much to blame for not keeping bad dates away to avoid harming her loved ones. -he has to be good enough or worthy of being introduced to everyone else. ijs
Yep yep yep.
True cuz next thing you’ll be the subject of a Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey and he’ll say you clearly didn’t read his book.
and I hope he gets blunt forced trauma to his dack in prison. They should just start castrating it off
We don’t know the story, they could’ve met in church. There’s no harm and going to church if that’s what you have in common.
Well I am here for it :-). WE must all speak positive things into the universe.
What’s sad is that just a couple months ago this totally accomplished, beautiful woman was just living her life, but nobody wants to be alone, so she let this beast into her life and he ended it.
Yep because he was dating a chick that was getting her degree and wouldn’t answer the phone while studying. He went over there and broke her car windows and kicked in her door. I told my Mama I’m glad I didn’t try to “save” date him.
“…read tarot cards or something…” Hahahaha, that’s a good one,
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