On-again-off-again celebrity couple Ashanti and Nelly attended Nelly’s 5th Annual Black And White Christmas Ball at Chase Park Plaza in his hometown of St. Louis, Missouri yesterday. Performers included Ashanti and Darryl “DMC” McDaniels of Run DMC.
Last week Rap-Up TV caught up with the rapper and asked him why he’s waiting so long to marry Ashanti. “I think you really have to be friends first. It’s not about how long it takes,” he explained. “I’m not a person that wants to get married more than once. If I’ma do it, I’ma do it. You’re dying if you leave me.”
Watch the video of the interview after the break!
Photos: Wireimage/Getty
They make a cute couple to me. I would love to see them get married. But Nelly isnt ready cause that nucca still freaking em down. So I really can understand where he is coming from.
So now this week he’s claiming they are a couple? SMH, why women wait on a man to marry them is beyond me.
was she performing?
i’m sure america is tired of hearing ‘foolish’ & ‘rain on me’.
He’s still waiting for The One. Ain’t no biggie.
kingstonn says:
Ashanti’s greatest hits…..
….i’m sure america is tired of hearing ‘foolish’ & ‘rain on me’.
December 20, 2010 at 9:59 am
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kingstonn says:
was she performing?
i’m sure america is tired of hearing ‘foolish’ & ‘rain on me’.
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On a side note, I commend him for waiting until he’s absolutely sure he’s found “The One”. Marriage is definitely a big deal and I wish people would take the time to find that person that compliments them and their lifestyle vs. jumping the broom for the sake of saying “I have a man”. Just my two cents…..
Lol! i haven’t heard anything she put out after Chapter II. po’ thang.
Well her career is already dead so…….
sn I commend Nelly for his stance on marriage, I wish more people would think like that instead of oh all of my friends are doing it maybe I should too.
Some people want to make sure they are ready and have the right person before they get married. I watched an old movie last night and was curious about the actors in it. I read that the one actor didn’t get married until he was 38 yrs old which was late back in the 1950’s. Isaid he waited because he wanted to be sure he found the right woman because he took marriage very seriously.
I think alot of people get married becuase they have dated someone for a long time and think that is the next step, but if you don’t love someone “for better or for worse and till death do you part” then you shouldnt’ get married. Only get maried when you feel this is the person I want to be with for the rest of my life!!!
I swear I’m sitting here trying to remember another one of songs and I can’t.
Was in the catsuit hell is she performing in?
Even worse than jumping into marriage too soon are those that jump into parenthood when they aren’t ready, by that’s just my opinion.
What^
pinksghetti says:
Even worse than jumping into marriage too soon are those that jump into parenthood when they aren’t ready, by that’s just my opinion.
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CHARBEE says:
kingstonn says:
was she performing?
i’m sure america is tired of hearing ‘foolish’ & ‘rain on me’.
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I think marriage in general is overrated. I think it just complicates things unnecessarily and provides a false sense of security. A piece of paper ain’t gonna guarantee that two people will stay together.
Nelly is waiting on his boyfriend to propose to him. All that smiling and chit that nigga do.
His lame azz ain't even good enough for all that azz Ashanti got.
I’m all for a man taking his time to find the right person, its the 10 year lay-a-way female plan I have a problem with. They will keep a main gal but then play around with others on the side then after 5 or 10 years of putting up with his mess he finally breaks down and marry her because that one he was looking for never came along.
Good for Nelly!! People jump into things so fast these days that they dont understand the beauty in marriage and what it takes to stay married!! I cherish marriage although I am not married and do take that seriously but society thinks marriage is a joke so people have tainted views on marriage as a whole.
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rushing into parenthood is the worse and effects more then just you!
Anna says:
So now this week he’s claiming they are a couple? ____________________________
Exactly!!!!! They were just good friends that never dated a few weeks ago.
:lolol: Nelly stay dodging the Ashanti bullet don’t he…
Their both more interesting as a couple.
kingstonn says:
Lol! i haven’t heard anything she put out after Chapter II. po’ thang.
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@ Yso
Bird says:
He’s still waiting for The One. Ain’t no biggie
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Basically
Who still believes in “marriage” anyway?
That’s like the “Easter Bunny,” “Santa Claus” and “Oprah and Stedman’s relationship.”
THE CHIT AIN’T REAL!
Maybe he ain’t claiming her cause of that hideous weave she got on her head.
Damn ‘Shanti get a new stylist cause that mess is garbage.
Yall going to leave my Shauni alone. She had the single The way that I love you and Good, Good.
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Nelly and Ashanti together and I’m keeping hope alive that they will get married. If you can be with someone for years (they’ve been together just as long as Bey and Jay) then you should know if they are the one or not.
Don’t waste her child baring years trying to figure it out. Either sh!t or get off the pot. Women unlike men don’t have their whole life to have kids.
#TeamAshanti and let’s not forget she was on Murder Inc who went thru their share of failures. I don’t think Irv was too happy when she distanced herself from them during the trail so he was an ass about letting her out of her contract.
Pre-TV Wenday Williams said that, allegedly Nelly wanted to marry Ashanti a long time ago, but her overbearing mother was interfering with their relationship.
YSoSerious says:
@ Kingstonn
I swear I’m sitting here trying to remember another one of songs and I can’t.
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Every time I see Ashanti all I can think of is the begining of that one some “O baby, O baby”
@B-SUGA
“They will keep a main gal but then play around with others on the side then after 5 or 10 years of putting up with his mess he finally breaks down and marry her because that one he was looking for never came along.”
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Have you been reading my book:
“The ‘Man, I just don’t care™’ Official Guide to Dating Handbook”
I like Ashanti as well, but that damn dance she would do, irked the hail outta me.
IScream we are >>>>>>>>here<<<<<<<<<
I’m glad she’s “singing” in pictures and not in a video…Jesus be a pair of high-absortion earplugs for the audience
I’d be in the crowd praying that her mic breaks
Morning folks…it’s a short week!!
Man, I just don’t care™ says:
@B-SUGA
“They will keep a main gal but then play around with others on the side then after 5 or 10 years of putting up with his mess he finally breaks down and marry her because that one he was looking for never came along.”
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Have you been reading my book:
“The ‘Man, I just don’t care™’ Official Guide to Dating Handbook”
@Man, sweetie you book has been on the best seller list down here for years. LOL
mirsmommy says:
I like Ashanti as well, but that damn dance she would do, irked the hail outta me.
December 20, 2010 at 10:24 am
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Her laugh and need to claim everything as “bananas” is what irks me….
Well, that is what the vows say. Blank stare.
b-suga is correct. however, tiny and lala just reset the clock and gave hope to millions of chicks-baby-mamas-and-so-called-“fiancees”-in-waiting. they will never leave.
i think people keep overlooking…something
“You’re dying if you leave me.””
Dis nicca got issues…somewhere…
who is gonna marry you knowing that if they fuck up…there life is going to end..
I think they make a cute couple but I can’t see Nelly settling down right now! ‘Shanti needs to perm her sideburns or shave them off.
@BSuga
“Baby”! That’s another one. See I knew she had at least one other song.
@B-SUGA
“sweetie you book has been on the best seller list down here for years. LOL”
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It’s tried and true.
Morning everybody
@Topic
…..makes sense
Hey Krysi!!
Her last song “The way that I love you” (I think that was the title) was good. The album didn’t do anything but I did like that single.
And oh yall can’t forget about “Happy”
@Ace
I didn’t forget it. I just don’t believe it.
Nelly ain’t gonna CB or OJ nobody, especially not Ashanti.
What’s the difference in being in a long term relationship and being married?
therapist1911 says:
What’s the difference in being in a long term relationship and being married?
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Tax write-offs
therapist1911 says:
What’s the difference in being in a long term relationship and being married?
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When you meet “the one” you’ll know
@therapist
leverage mostly
CivilEngineer says:
therapist1911 says:
What’s the difference in being in a long term relationship and being married?
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Tax write-offs
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Exactly.
Let me just say I waited 10 years to marry my Suga cause I had been married before and that ish was horrible. So I dont think it is such a bad idea to wait until you wanna really settle and be dedicated.
And if its true what folk say abount Shanti’s mama then she is the fool cause aint no way in hail my Mother is gonna dictate my life once I am grown. that ain’t gone happen unh unh…..
@AWESOME
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“leverage mostly
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Yup.
NOT THIS CREST AD AGAIN!!!
i think people keep overlooking…something
“You’re dying if you leave me.””
Dis nicca got issues…somewhere…
who is gonna marry you knowing that if they **** up…there life is going to end..
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Good Morning SR Fam!
Why buy the milk when the cow is free?
Men only do what you allow them to. Ashanti’s not pressing Nelly for no ring after him claiming and un-claiming her, then oh well, oh well.
@bnatural: I too understood what Nelly was sayin’…..
therapist1911 says:
What’s the difference in being in a long term relationship and being married?
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A real commitment
Al-Ameera says:
therapist1911 says:
What’s the difference in being in a long term relationship and being married?
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When you meet “the one” you’ll know
IT STILL CAN END….RIGHT?
Quitta says:
Good Morning SR Fam!
Why buy the milk when the cow is free?
Men only do what you allow them to. Ashanti’s not pressing Nelly for no ring after him claiming and un-claiming her, then oh well, oh well.
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QUITTA!!!!!!!
How ya been???????
renegadesince1985 says:
therapist1911 says:
What’s the difference in being in a long term relationship and being married?
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A real commitment
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One person can still walk away and end the commitment, cheat, or disrespect the union
therapist1911 says:
What’s the difference in being in a long term relationship and being married?
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Nelly and Ashanti are the type of couple who would get married and then immediately get a divorce. They’re both immature when it comes to relationships.
@Rene
I have to respectfully disagree with you. Marriage doesn’t always mean real commitment. Just look at the divorce rate.
Sometimes marriage is just a means to an end. What that “end” is can differ depending on the people involved.
HEY Mirs Mommy Mommy!!! I’m good! Less stress now that school’s done. I’m 5 months preggos!
Broke from x-mas shopping. I couldn’t be any happier. How are you?
The question I pose: “what’s the difference between being in a long term relationship and being married?” was a rhetorical question.
Although I appreciate the responses!!!
Being married to someone does guarantee a person is making a real commitment outside of the legal perspective: tax write offs, spousal support, talk half of whatever attain during the marriage, etc.
If a person loves you and is committed to only you for 10-15 years then the mariage ceremony is just a formality. It’s a societal norm!
therapist1911 says:
IT STILL CAN END….RIGHT?
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Of course it can but what I am saying is, dating “the one” wont just be good enough. It’s hard to explain.
Sandra Rose says:
therapist1911 says:
What’s the difference in being in a long term relationship and being married?
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Nelly and Ashanti are the type of couple who would get married and then immediately get a divorce. They’re both immature when it comes to relationships.
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@Sandra…you must know them personally to make that declaration
People (mainly men) will leave a long term relationship before they leave a marriage.
Congrats Quitta!
A real marriage with real intentions and not a business deal is what makes a REAL difference.
Al-Ameera says:
therapist1911 says:
IT STILL CAN END….RIGHT?
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Of course it can but what I am saying is, dating “the one” wont just be good enough. It’s hard to explain.
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No need to try to explain. I know what you mean. I guess I was trying to present a diffferent perspective. A person can still be “the one” without having the ceremony.
Quitta says:
HEY Mirs Mommy Mommy!!! I’m good! Less stress now that school’s done. I’m 5 months preggos! Broke from x-mas shopping. I couldn’t be any happier. How are you?
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I’m blessed.
, and a big Congrats to you, sweetie!!!!!!! 
I’m broke from Christmas shopping, too, and I still have gifts to buy. 
Thank you YSoSerious!!
iscream says:
People (mainly men) will leave a long term relationship before they leave a marriage.
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Because it’s “cheaper to keep her”???? Then the marriage is still over and she is no longer “the one”….well only by default
Thank you Mirs!!!
I’m glad to hear that you’re well. Broke and still got gifts to buy? Hahahaha!! I know what you’re feeling.
What’s the difference btw a long term relationship and getting married?
Ask a gay couple this question….
Marriage = Financial Merger
I can love you all day long..but until then finances is right…and that credit cleared up…you gonna have to settle with just being my loving boo…ala Oprah\Gayle\Stedmen
#gonnacatchelliknow
@ iscream
But wouldn’t that mostly be due to the financial repercussions and not because a legally binded relationship is any stronger than one that isn’t?
@Yso
I mean a real commitment as in you have taken vows, you have legal obligations. Anybody can just walk away from a longtime boyfriend or girlfriend without any real repercussions…People are less likely to walk away from a marriage.
People get married too quickly and don’t realize the commitment it actually is.
My parents have been married for 28 years…That’s what I want…A lifetime commitment.
I think the meaning of marriage varies between person to person.
For me, as a Christian, It’s the commitment before God. Marriage isn’t just something you jump into but a serious commitment between you, that person, and God. Once you’ve done this in front of him it’s sealed. He doesn’t take marriage lightly and neither should you.
Also, it’s the final step that says “I can’t live without you” “you’re the only person I want to spend the rest of my life with” “you’re the one” etc…
@MissH
Marriage is a contract therefore it is always a business deal. Choosing not to see it (not you specifically) that way doesn’t change that.
Imo, it’s all the romanticizing of marriage that leads to most of the disappointment that comes with it after a while.
iscream says:
What’s the difference btw a long term relationship and getting married?
Ask a gay couple this question….
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It still comes back to a legal aspect. Legal rights
@ therapist
That cheaper to keep her is not always true. If you are paying half of everything in your household depending on your house hold. A court order of child support can be less then what one was paying.
(Spousal support usually is paid if one person in the marriage wasn’t working.)
therapist1911 says:
No need to try to explain. I know what you mean. I guess I was trying to present a diffferent perspective. A person can still be “the one” without having the ceremony.
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I guess you’re missing my point, yes a person can still be “the one” without a ceramony but it’s not about them, it’s about you and what you want to do with them.
When I was 12, I said I never wanted to get married and felt obligated to marry the first dude and was unhappy the whole time, never wanted to do it again, then I met the one I have now and Man, I can’t imagine NOT being married to him. He never was married and said he never wanted to get married but then he met me.
Now, can we both still show our azzes? absolutely but we still want to be married to one another. Is it forever? He says divorce is not an option for him. And I hope it’s forever, but when he makes me mad I say I’m getting a divorce, am I really? Yeah OK
I think women and men have two different takes on Marriage. Ladies think of marriages as the ultimate commiment and validation that this man truly loves me. And some men probably think that its just so final, I’m stuck.
Since we’re on marriage…my parents have been married 30 YEARS today!!
rjk8 says:
Their both more interesting as a couple.
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They are. They compliment each other, unlike many couples, i.e Halle Berry only dates pretty men. A mate is to compliment you, not out shine you. That’s why it works for Bey and J, they compliment each other.
@Civil
Congrats to your parents.
Better them than me.
Congrat to Civil parents and Quitta.
@pinksghetti Happy Birthday!
funny. i thought i was the only who said “if you leave me you’re dying.” death really is the only way ur getting out of here. nelly’s sexy in that black, huh?
CivilEngineer says:
Since we’re on marriage…my parents have been married 30 YEARS today!!
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Congrats to them. I have found that many ppl against marriage never saw a positive couple. Besides his smile one of the reasons I was attracted to my husband was that his parents had been married for 38 yrs. It’s now 52 yrs. Most ppl don’t marry because they have nothing to compare it to. It’s too acceptable to have kids out of wedlock and shack up.
@Civil I
to hear that. That’s beautiful.
My parents have been together 30 years too and it hasn’t been easy but they weren’t willing to give up. They’re arguing one minute and cuddling the next. They’re so adorable to me. *sigh* I want that…I’ll get it one day…
BSuga says:
I think women and men have two different takes on Marriage. Ladies think of marriages as the ultimate commiment and validation that this man truly loves me. And some men probably think that its just so final, I’m stuck.
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I didn’t think it meant that, a month into the marriage I went and got divorce papers, my mom told me to try. I knew I wasn’t going to spend my life with him, I just felt forced
YSO I def understand that however when its presented as a business deal and there is no REAL love there nor romance thats when I have a problem with it because at the end of the day it should be about love. Again society has flucked up views on marriage and especially on our people as a whole.
Perfect example if you watch housewives of BH Taylor and her husband I dont even think they hug. She herself has said it was a business deal and wants that love. Thats not what marriage is about or what its intended for.
Congratulations to Renegade and Civil’s parents!! Those are definitely milestones your parents should be very proud to reach. Being together for 28 and 30 years definitely shows the type of commitment they have towards one another. I wish I could chat with them and get a few pointers.
And congratulations to Quitta on her bundle of joy!
MY HUSSSBAND IS SOOOO ROMANTIC #backtolurkn
Congrats to Civil and his parent’s!!
@Anna sin’t that the truth. Even Diddy admitted that one of the reason’s he’s so hesitant on getting married is because he never saw an example of marriage as a child. He never got to experience it so he’s in no hurry to go to that level.
Thank you BSuga and Yvonne!!
Congrats to Rene’s & Civil’s parents!!!!!
Congrats Quitta :woot:
Thank you MissH!!
Quitta best wishes to you.
@ Civil, my parents celebrated 30 years 2 weeks ago. Congrats to your parents! It’s a beautiful thing.
@ Anna – I agree with you that many don’t marry because they haven’t seen a positive union.
Hey Anna! Thank you!!
Oh well did we really believe what they were saying about them just being friend
@Al-Ameera, I wasn’t speaking on your situtation. That was strictly from my point of vue and experience. No harm no foul.
kingstonn says:
was she performing?
i’m sure america is tired of hearing ‘foolish’ & ‘rain on me’.
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My 1st marriage was one hell of an Experience. And this last one is great. And beleive me it is def the last.
congrat to the parents being married 20+ years. That is reall a blessing.
marriage ain’t nothing to take lightly. there is a DEFINITE difference between marriage and (1) going together and (20 shacking up and (3) “fiance” status.
aside from moral accountability (which is the part nobody cares about these days), there is real legal and financial accountability and benefits.
Nelly
I love him and Ashanti and how THEY handle THEIR relationship
My parents been married for 28/29 yrs so add me to the list with Civil and Renee
@Mirs I remember that story about Ashantis mother being in their biz
I would rather marry than burn for me and mine. If folks don’t want to get married they shoudlnt but don’t rain on others parades.
@Anna Nelly nor Ashanti ever claimed each other n they don’t have to long as they are cool w/what they have it works for me.
BSuga says:
@Al-Ameera, I wasn’t speaking on your situtation. That was strictly from my point of vue and experience. No harm no foul.
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Oh I know. I was just sharing, that’s all
Ace says:
i think people keep overlooking…something
“You’re dying if you leave me.””
Dis nicca got issues…somewhere…
who is gonna marry you knowing that if they **** up…there life is going to end..
I didn’t take it that way. I took it as “til death do us part” meaning the only way the will be apart is if she dies…naturally. I mean, I was searching for the romanticism in it all… 
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Death do us part is a crazy notion. My folks have been married for over 33 years and I WISH they would get divorced sometimes. Drive me insane!
Anywhoo, Nelly and Ashanti will “jump the broom” if and when they’re ready. (IF he grows up and stops bustin’ down every groupie/video chic, IF her mama stops being her friend and using shorty as a meal ticket, etc.)
Classic1 says:
Death do us part is a crazy notion. My folks have been married for over 33 years and I WISH they would get divorced sometimes. Drive me insane!
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I feel you on that. Just because ppl are married for a long time does not mean they enjoy it. I watched “The Doctors” today and they said the longer you are married it may not be so good for your health. LOL. Marriage is a constant that reminds us “why did I get married”. Ppl forget how you got him is how you keep him. The longer we are w/someone we tend to take them for granted the most. Just because you are married doesn’t mean it gives you a pass to stop dating.
His words are being taken out of context completely. Nelly is simply stating what the vows state “til death do us part”. He’s saying that he’s not going to rush into marrying the wrong person only for it to end in divorce. When he gets married, he wants it to be forever.
Two folks who couldn’t evolve musically. Yeah, beautiful couple, but so the fvck what? Can we start calling them socialites yet?