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Pastor John Gray has a lot to be thankful for. Atop his list of thanks is the fact that his wife, Aventer, never left him due to his sinful ways.

After apologizing to his wife for falling short as a man in a viral video clip in August, Pastor Gray apologized again in a lengthy Instagram post.

Gray explained where he met his wife (at church), and how she invited him into her life "and let me dance with her."

But Gray quickly realized he and Aventer were not equally yoked. He was an "unfinished" work in progress.

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"She took my ring and said yes and we began our forever journey. What my dance partner didn't know was that I was very much unfinished," he wrote.

Gray said he eventually began living a "shadow life" in emotional relationships with other women.

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"I failed to uphold the holy standard of God in my marriage. And I'm sorry. Although you are the only woman I've ever slept with, emotional unfaithfulness is just as wrong. Sin is sin. People want to minimize one sin over another, when it all can get you sent to hell."

 

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A few months ago I sat down from leading at Relentless. My life wasn’t in order. Church isn’t first. My wife is. This is my wife. She is from God. She is a life giver. She is a kingdom builder. Her name is Aventer. I met her at church. She was worshipping God through dance. Over time, she allowed me in her life and let me dance with her. She took my ring and said yes and we began our forever journey. What my dance partner didn’t know was that I was very much unfinished. I never knew what consistent discipline, planning, leadership, manhood, or personal holiness in action from a man’s standpoint looked like. Living a shadow life, God was unwilling to let me die assuming I was whole. I failed to uphold the holy standard of God in my marriage. And I’m sorry. Although you are the only woman I’ve ever slept with, emotional unfaithfulness is just as wrong. Sin is sin. People want to minimize one sin over another, when it all can get you sent to hell. My marriage forced me to face both of me. Flesh versus spirit. It is every man’s battle. Loving God isn’t enough. Preaching Jesus isn’t enough. Face yourself. Get delivered. Or hurt the ones who actually love you the most. I started intense counseling (personal and for my marriage) in the summer. Scariest thing ever. Most necessary thing ever. I had no one to blame. My life is my responsibility. Admit your wrong. God deserves better. My wife deserves better. The pain I caused her is immeasurable. Seeing her name in blogs because of things I did broke my soul. So since I was the cause of public embarrassment, let me be JUST AS LOUD ABOUT PUBLIC HONOR. Aventer you are a miracle to me. I am sorry for the pain I have caused you. You name should have NEVER come up in any conversation in any negative way with anyone ever. I must do the work to earn your trust. I’ve lived a life I’m not proud of in so many areas, but before I die, I will be the man God intended and the husband that Your heart can rest with. I’ll be the father my kids can be proud of. I’ll be the pastor Relentless can stand behind. I’m in the process and I will stay in it. May the man I am becoming match the vision God showed you. I love you.

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Pastor John Gray apologized to his long-suffering wife for stepping out on her again. Gray's attorneys claimed he was being extorted by a woman who said he asked her to send nudes.

In a video posted on YouTube, Gray humbled himself and apologized to his wife, Aventer, and his congregation at Relentless Church in South Carolina.

To his wife, Gray said he was sorry for the pain he caused her. "You don't deserve it. You are an amazing woman of God."

The pastor spoke directly to his church and "God's sheep" who looked to him as an example of leadership.

"I want to take this moment to tell you I'm sorry," he said. "I'm sorry for the areas of my life that I left unattended."

He continued, "For every area of behavior that has dishonored the Holiness of God, I want to tell you I'm sorry."
 

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Attorneys representing Pastor John Gray say he is a victim of a malicious extortion attempt. The 47-year-old megachurch leader of Relentless Church in South Carolina is involved in yet another cheating scandal.

New allegations came to light over the weekend when YouTube blogger UnwinewithTashaK obtained a short video clip featuring the portly preacher.

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In the clip, Gray, picture with his wife Aventer Gray, is speaking with a 48-year-old Houston woman named "Mary". He criticizes his wife's cooking and he asks the woman to go on an exotic trip with him.

The woman claims she sent Gray nude photos of her breasts at his request -- and she said he video-chatted with her while revealing his underwear.

She claimed he invited her to visit his home and she declined because she believed he wanted to sleep with her.

Mary said she hooked up with Gray after the death of her brother's wife in April. Her brother, a pastor in New Jersey, is friends with Gray, who spoke at the memorial service.

After the service, Gray asked for her friendship on Instagram and began liking her posts. Gray asked where she worked and he looked up the phone number for the hair salon where she was employed.

"A couple days after that he called my job and I answered the phone. I'm the manager of the hair salon and I answered the phone and he said 'Hey Mary, it's John Gray,'" she said.

Mary said she was shocked and told him it wasn't a good time to talk but she gave him her personal number, which she described as a bad decision in hindsight.

She said Gray asked for her measurements and for explicit photos. She complied, sending him images of her breasts.

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But lawyers for the embattled preacher say he did not step out on his long-suffering wife this time because he and Mary never reached first base.

"There are allegations that there were phone conversations between the two parties, and that's essentially the extent of the allegations," attorney Devon Puriefoy of the law firm Truluck Thomason told Greenville News. "When you take her own words, she says there was no affair, no physical contact, they never met each other, they never saw each other."

That's good news for Aventer, who shares two minor children, daughter Theory Aspyn-Sky and son John W. Gray IV, with her husband.
 

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Pastor John Gray's wife Aventer Gray is "extremely embarrassed" over a new cheating scandal involving her husband.

Over the weekend, YouTube blogger UnwinewithTashaK obtained a short video clip featuring the portly preacher.

In the clip, Gray, the pastor at Relentless Church in South Carolina, is speaking with a woman who is not his wife.

At one point, Gray invites the mystery woman on a trip, and he vents about his wife.

The clip was captioned, "He says his wife doesn't cook and feeds their son Pizza every night. He asks his side chick to fly with him to Cabo privately during the pandemic!"

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A source close to John Gray's wife, tells theJasmineBrand that Aventer Gray is "really hurt by what happened. Her marriage and family are super important to her, so to experience this in public – is overwhelming."

The source said Gray apologized to his wife yet again.

"He's apologized over and over again and wants to make this right. He's committed to making their marriage work."

The source said Gray and the woman didn't have sex.

"They weren't intimate, but it was wrong. Their conversations were inappropriate, period. Wrong is wrong."

Gray and his wife made headlines in 2019, when he was accused of allegedly cheating on her. Aventer can’t leave him because the couple share two minor children, a boy and a girl, and the children are their priority.
 

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Pastor John Gray was a no-show for Sunday morning service at his Relentless megachurch in South Carolina, just days after it was reported that the church received an official eviction notice.

Gray spoke to his congregation via video from an undisclosed location. The embattled pastor delivered a message of defiance and hope, even as his church undergoes an eviction filed by the former owners.

In a calm voice, Gray explained that his absence was "pre-planned before there was a setup with a camera to serve papers to our church."

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Gray also noted that he was not in church so he could take "a necessary day” with his wife, Aventer Gray, to "build my marriage so that it can be healthy and vibrant."

Gray was the subject of cheating rumors and an extramarital affair with a woman in the Atlanta area.

The church's month-to-month lease expired last week. The Redemption Church, which owns the property, filed documents in court to evict the church.

Gray claimed the lease was paid and his church was not in default.

"We have paid what we owe, according to our agreement, and everything is going to be shared at the right time trough the proper legal channels," he said. "But until then, we, the Relentless Church, will continue to have service and we will maintain the moral ground."

Gray did not address rumors that he may be moving his megachurch to Atlanta.

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Pastor John Gray told his congregation he is not backing down during Sunday morning's sermon at his Relentless Church in Greenville, South Carolina.

"I have heard that we are being evicted," the embattled preacher said, as the first lady Aventer Gray looked on. "We are not being evicted because we have paid our bills."

Gray took over as pastor of the former Redemption Church after the original owners, Ron and Hope Carpenter, moved to San Jose, California to take over another church.

But now the Carpenters want their church back after what they say is financial mismanagement and failure to pay the rent.

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The drama peaked earlier this year when Pastor Gray asked his flock for $250,000 for repairs on the roof. He asked 2,500 church members to tithe $100 each toward the fund. He said the Carpenters left the church in debt.

"(Ron Carpenter) handed us keys. The keys were not to a paid off building, the keys were to an opportunity, an opportunity to continue the work," Gray said. "Nothing you see is paid off. It wasn't paid off when we got here."

In April 2019, Hope Carpenter made a surprise visit to Relentless and addressed the congregation. "I cut people" and "I got a knife right there in that pocketbook, so Greenville News, come on," she said, according to The Greenville News.

In November, the Carpenters served an eviction notice on Gray, giving him until December 31 to clear out of the church he renamed "Relentless" after taking over in 2017.

But Gray told his congregation that the lease is all paid up and they are not going anywhere.

In his 8:30 a.m. sermon, Gray said "We are quietly working behind the scenes, and it's unfortunate that something was shared outside the body of Christ... We are not going to adjudicate this in public."

The scandal forced Greenville residents and Gray's supporters to take sides.

"[I don't know] what John Gray did or did not do. But my problem is with the bigger issue of white preachers pastoring majority black congregations, who, when the money (back to them) ain’t right (allegedly), they want to come back and "rescue" the church from the inept black pastor," tweeted seminary student Kevin Vandiver.

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Gray urged his congregation not to "trash talk" the Carpenters. He encouraged his followers to stay focused and not become distracted.

"All of this is a distraction because the enemy wants us to fight each other," he said, according to The Greenville News.

"I promise we are not leaving this city," he said, adding that Relentless will be open next Sunday and the Sunday after that.

"We're going to be here. We're going to be in Greenville. We're going to be Relentless Church for as long as Jesus says so."

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Ron and Hope Carpenter served Pastor John Gray and his Relentless Church with a 30-day notice to clear off their property.

The scandalous events surrounding the falling out between Ron and Hope Carpenter and Gray's Relentless Church in Greenville began with a partnership in 2017.

The Carpenters, who owned the Redemption Church and the land that it sits on, announced they were moving to California to take over another church. They handed over the keys to Gray, who served as associate pastor at Joel Osteen's Lakewood megachurch in Texas.

Gray renamed the church to Relentless. A parade of influential pastors, including Osteen, traveled to Greenville to formally install Gray as senior pastor, according to The Greenville News.

In late 2018 Gray begged his wife for forgiveness after confessing that he cheated on her.

In August 2018 Gray visited President Donald Trump at the White House to attend an "inner city pastors" meeting.

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Gray later said attending the meeting was mistake and he promised he would not meet with Trump again.

In November 2018 The Greenville News reported that Gray urged the needy to take from the church's collection plates. He also pledged support for Picken's County's first homeless shelter.

In December 2018 Gray presented his wife, Aventer Gray, with a brand new $200K Lamborghini SUV for their eighth wedding anniversary. The lavish gift sparked a public outcry.

In a post on social media, Gray acknowledged the public's outrage and assured his congregation that the money for the vehicle came from his non-church income.

In addition to being an author, Gray also has a reality TV show on Oprah's OWN Network.

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Aventer defended her husband in a social media post.

"I don't see anyone screaming about how basketball players drive what they do while you paying $$$ to see them play in arenas and on fields. We don't live for people! We live for God!"

In December 2018, The Greenville News reported the Grays lived in a $1.8 million mansion in Simpsonville that was purchased by the church.

Church leaders said the opulent mansion was necessary to lure a pastor of Gray's caliber to Greenville.

In March 2019, Gray told his congregation the Carpenters left the church "millions of dollars in debt." He said the church needed a new $250,000 roof and he asked 2,500 people to give $100 or more.

"(Ron Carpenter) handed us keys. The keys were not to a paid off building, the keys were to an opportunity, an opportunity to continue the work," Gray said. "Nothing you see is paid off. It wasn't paid off when we got here."

In April 2019, Hope Carpenter made a surprise visit to Relentless Church to address Gray's allegations. "I cut people" and "I got a knife right there in that pocketbook, so Greenville News, come on," she said.

Everything came to a head last month when the Carpenters sent Gray a 30-day notice ordering his congregation off their property. The letter gave Relentless Church 30 days to get out.

According to The Greenville News, Relentless Church responded with a legal letter outlining counterclaims and saying it had paid the church's lease in full.

The controversy blew up on social media, with Gray's supporters calling the Carpenters racists and opportunists.

"[I don't know] what John Gray did or did not do. But my problem is with the bigger issue of white preachers pastoring majority black congregations, who, when the money (back to them) ain’t right (allegedly), they want to come back and "rescue" the church from the inept black pastor," tweeted seminary student Kevin Vandiver.

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But Gray's critics sounded off as well.

One Twitter user wrote, "I guess they had to evict John gray & they blew through all the money. I feel like Ron trusted gray to be trustworthy".

Another user tweeted:

"John Gray and them getting evicted !?? You mean to tell me that lambo truck didn’t tip they asses off months ago!?!? .. and this man STILL has supporters + a wife!?? .. Chile."

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