Yesterday, a couple of my readers (yes, just a couple) asked me why I didn't write a post about the book Hiding in Hip Hop written by a former MTV staffer name Terrence Dean.

Well, the reason why I haven't mentioned it until today is because I'm not interested in a book full of blind items and sexual fantasies.

Most of you know I have no love for downlow fags men. IMO, they are the lowest living organisms on earth - even lower than a virus.

They lie better than a rug and they are the number one reason why black women have the highest incidence of HIV/AIDS infections (that, plus the fact that black women couldn't spot a gay brother if he had I'M GAY tattooed on his forehead).

If Karrine Steffans could write a tell all book naming the biggest names in hip hop then surely this Terence Dean character could name one name. What's he afraid of? You can't be sued for telling the truth. I mean how hard is it to drop a name like Lil' Zane, Joe Budden or Jay Z? I'm just asking.

For further evidence that this book is bogus, take a listen to this audio from his recent guest appearance on the Wendy Williams show.
Pay close attention to around the 5:13 mark. Charlamagne asks Dean who "Flynn" is in the book. Dean responds, "Flynn, Flynn, Flynn... remind me."

WTF? He can't remember one of his own characters in his own book and he has to ask Charlamagne to remind him?!? If Charlamagne could remember the name of a character I would expect the book's own author to remember.

Wendy must have been paid off to promote that book because normally she would have ate that ass up for a misstep like that.

The fact that Dean refuses to name names means I won't be wasting my money on his book of Blind lies. I don't have the time for guessing games. Besides, Myra Panache writes better Blind Items for free.

  • Sharonda

    Now I read Karrine's book, the only person she didn't disclose was "Papa" but pretty much she dished everybody else out.She had no trouble spilling out names and nobody has really proven her wrong.Now I was one of those people who wondered "why is he dropping a book with blind items" and the clues came out, still didn't see the big deal now I want to know who is talking about because this could be a fake, and I'm thinking that.This book is a book that should be read at the book store and never bought.His market strategy is not hitting it.In a way I think he lying.

  • ms.peaches

    I will agree I hate the blind Item game but I see that some men who try to do tell all books act like they are more scared than the woman!! I can't understand that's like popcorn with no butter(lol) that may be the only thing I respect(& I use that term loosley) about Supahead she was like eff that Im telling it & getting paid!! I am not familar with this dude so Im assuming he's trying to say he had some episodes with some male celebs? anyway boo try again!! Don't Be Scuured!!!(lol)

  • browni007

    Be afraid be very afraid, people will do anything to keep their lives on the downlow.

  • http://www.myspace.com/birdshu Bird

    I have completely lost interest in this book. I'm am not down for blind items. If he is not naming names what good is it?

  • http://www.myspace.com/bettathaniwasb4 2bme

    I read the book and was disappointed, yes I guessed a few people but all in all the hoopla surrounding it was just that, bogus..I made Amazon give me my money back

  • MOCHAMOMMY

    i read some of the excerpts and i couldnt figure out anybody. I dont have the mind capacity to try to guess who he fcked in the industry. And Sandra, downlow men are not the number one reason for AIDS/HIV in the black community... The number one reason is they dont like wearing condoms with anybody & irresponsible, needy women dont make them

  • cutienjerzey

    Sandra, have you thought that he isn't naming names out of fear for his life???? Come on now, this can not be put in the same category as Karinne Steffans. Clearly we are dealing with 2 different situations. Yes, Karrine outed the married and single MEN that she slept with and that is that. What do they have to loose but their family and values. Outing DL men in hip-hop would be writing your own obituary. The DL men have much, much more to loose then a straight married man.

  • Mz_Magnificent1

    Yeah I'm with Cutienjerzey...this man would definitely be six feet under if he named names. I think he gave very vivid descriptions though...if you are a Hip-Hop and gossip junkie between you and you're homies you can figure out who Terrence is talking about.

  • Made4Success

    I agree. Why buy this book if the author is not naming names and I fo' damn sure ain't buying this book if dude can't even remember his own characters in the book!

    With K.Steffans book, she dropped names before the books release, after and thereafter it's release! I believed it and soon a lot of the people she "outed" started being very quiet and fell off the map for a while in hiding. I believe it that she walked in on Big Tigger, while he was on the bottom!!! Her book was good and worth the "knowledge."

    Naw, this book is not even worth the time of day and certainly not the money...you're right Sandra!

  • http://www.sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    2bme Says:

    I read the book and was disappointed, yes I guessed a few people but all in all the hoopla surrounding it was just that, bogus..I made Amazon give me my money back

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    Imagine how many millions this dude would've made if he named names like Karrine did. What amazes me is that he got a publishing house to give him a book deal. Damn, let me write a book! :)

  • cutienjerzey

    Mz_Magnificent1 says....

    if you are a Hip-Hop and gossip junkie between you and you’re homies you can figure out who Terrence is talking about.

    EXACTLY......My bother-in-law is gay and hangs out with a lot of industry people in NYC and he has pretty much told me SHIT that I couldn't believe about our favorite male and female artist in the R&B/Hip-Hop community....

  • kpakpando

    Myra sure has the best blind items ever, and the comments on her blind items are off the chain!

    I really can't waste money on this smut, the economy is tough, have to keep premium gas in my tank so he can miss me with his nonsense.

  • http://www.myspace.com/bettathaniwasb4 2bme

    Sandra you should write a book, you been around long enough and I know you KNOW some things..hell we all know you have NO problem outting people! :)

  • http://www.sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Mz_Magnificent1 Says:

    Yeah I’m with Cutienjerzey…this man would definitely be six feet under if he named names.

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    So you're saying if he named names like Sean Combs, Redman, Eric Sermon, Joe Budden, Lil' Zane, or Tyler Perry - that he should fear for his life? Are u serious? :)

  • Sharonda

    This all goes back to you can't believe everything you hear.And when it comes to this book, can't believe everything you read.When you try to switch names means you hiding something.

  • black beauty

    cutienjerzey Says:

    EXACTLY……My bother-in-law is gay and hangs out with a lot of industry people in NYC and he has pretty much told me **** that I couldn’t believe about our favorite male and female artist in the R&B/Hip-Hop community….

    Care to share:)

  • HeyNow

    Sandra I agree with you!!!!!! This is a bunch of bullshit.How you going to write a book and not name names wtf??? So it is cool for these groupies and wives to be sleeping with men that are on the downlow?? His ass should go to jail as far as iam concerned.

  • black beauty

    He's lying!! The characters that are easy to figure out are already suspect and damn near out the closet anyways

  • Made4Success

    cutienjerzey says: Outing DL men in hip-hop would be writing your own obituary. The DL men have much, much more to loose then a straight married man.

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    Please school me gurrrl! Seriously how much more would a DL man have to loose than a straight, married man?

    Both would loose their wife/girl, family, for certain. But how much more would a DL man loose?

  • mizzdallas

    @ cutienjerzey

    Please share:)=

  • MOCHAMOMMY

    "plus the fact that black women couldn’t spot a gay brother if he had I’M GAY tattooed on his forehead"

    Ok u just hit a nerve with that one. It is so untrue. There are many signs that women tend to ignore. Its not that we cant spot em. We're so happy to find a good one without 7 kids that we're willing to ignore the red flags (ie manicures, pedicures & the love of shoe shopping)

  • http://www.sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    HeyNow Says:

    So it is cool for these groupies and wives to be sleeping with men that are on the downlow??

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    I would be more afraid of the wives and girlfriends of the men that Karrine Steffans exposed than any punk candy ass rapper on the down low running around infecting women.

  • cutienjerzey

    @ black beauty

    Sandra already named a few and like you said we had already suspected a few....I didn't know about Joe Buddens though.

  • http://www.findentertainmentnow.com miesha@FindEntertainmentNow.com

    yes cuteinjersey SHARE!!

    sandra is outting folks she thinks r downlow in the industry on the not so sly tip.

    yea karrine did the damn thing and is paid. and by the way she did out pappa...in the second book. papa was method man. he got swag and all but ewwww.

  • brwnsugga4you

    i agree #21..that statement to me is untrue. i spot them all the d*mn time. at work, happy hour, everywhere. it's manerism...and the eyes don't lie. i have a gay friend...he aint flaming (you know that type) but gay...and when we go out..he picks them out all that time. some women like g*y men. they want the man that's extra all the d*mn time.

  • Sharonda

    ^Oh see, I didn't read the second one, Thanks!
    And I think some wives and girlfriends probably know about the alternative lifestyle of some of these men and this is not just rappers.

  • http://notenoughrealmen.blogspot.com 2thick4u

    Myra P. does have the best blinditems!!!

    I bought the book from Amazon but I haven't read it.

    Ya'll are going to make me send it BACK!!!

  • cutienjerzey

    Ok let me re-phrase-I shouldn't say that a DL man has much more to lose then a married man, but I will say that a DL man who is a hip hop/athlete star has a lot to lose....to name a few-Reputation and credibilty especially if he (hip-hop star)talks about money, cash and HOES in his music...Support...we all know that Gay men are not openly excepted in the industry like that unless you are a stylist, make-up artist or behind the scenes. Please correct me if I am wrong.....

  • chocolatechild

    I agree with you on this one Sandra...In fact, my son's Godfather (who is openly gay) had a relationship for almost a year with one of hip hop's most famous rappers...Now he made me promise not to tell who the rap legend is so I won't tell you his name I will only give you his initials and they are DMX. Maybe you guys can figure it out from there!

    Smooches!

  • chat bout

    ok miss sandra like how you a bad gal and gully like that. why don't you gwaan and name a few names.

  • MOCHAMOMMY

    Chocolate child!!! TIME OUT right now!!! I spit my water out on that and almost messed up my new pants laughin!!! GTFOH with that!! LOL u serious?!?! LMAO

  • Ashunti

    I totally agree with Sandra. Shut up already, if you not going to name names in fear of your life. I think DL men are the scum of the earth. And they need to be outed. Take it like a man (literally). They are the NUMBER ONE reason women (especially) black have AIDS. And yes we do have immature women who are sleeping with men RAW, which is just simple rush and roulette. However you have your successful, mature , females who are in what they think are real relationships, and have gone through the proper steps of testing and what have you, to be able to bring the relationship to a mature level, and they are being blind sighted and mislead by theses DL men. What especially kills me is the BLACK man; bring this kind of cancer into his own community as if black women don't have enough to worry about. Now our own has started destroying us from the inside with this sick behavior. It just makes me ill with a passion. Out these muthas and fast, we have enough on us as a people it is time to police our own because White America is not doing to do it. They love it, we are killing ourselves. So I will not add one cent to this scrutiny, especially when no one has to responsibility for killing others with this senselessness.

    Needless to say I am pissed about it.......

  • http://www.myspace.com/bettathaniwasb4 2bme

    There's an excerpt in this book about DMX and trannies..I caugh that one QUICKLY

  • ckarinwhite

    Please tell me one successfully, openly gay hip hop artist?....

  • candycane

    I will only give you his initials and they are DMX. Maybe you guys can figure it out from there!
    REALLY!! :-(

  • bk2atl

    @ chocolatechild....STFU!!!! OMG girl, say it ain't so!!! LOL The sad part is that I can totally see that. Dude has been gone for a looooong time now. Just...damn!

  • bloggergirlz

    i read some excerpts from the book yesterday...i already decided that i don't have time to figure out who the hell he's talking about...the crap was worse than the board game "clueless"...if i get bored and buy the book, it will be returned (gotta love borders)...

    if you want to find out the ins and outs of the industry, get an industry friend...i've heard a bunch of stuff about numerous people and honestly, most of it didn't surprise me...people get so caught up w/ fame they're willing to "sleep w/ the enemy"...even if some of the guys were exposed, there will still be some dumb a$$ broad waiting in the cut, willing to sleep w/ them...

    i can't believe he got a book deal, but than again i shouldn't be surprised...

  • Sharonda

    Reason why black women leading AIDS because they not protecting themselves.It's a two way thing if you ask me.You have to protect yourself, no man is going to protect yourself, but you.Have to be smart.The blame game is just so tiring.

  • brwnsugga4you

    chocolatechild Says: i'm not surprised at all.

  • gemini83

    ^^^^^
    I agree Sharonda....

    but does the same goes for couples that have been married for 10 yrs or more? Some women just have that "trust" with their men and would never think that they would sleep with another man, so therefore, they don't use protection. They are the real victims because they "think" they have hope and faith in their relationship, which all marriages should have. But all they really have is a relationship filled with lies.

  • Anna

    @ chocolatechild Says:

    I agree with you on this one Sandra…In fact, my son’s Godfather (who is openly gay) had a relationship for almost a year with one of hip hop’s most famous rappers…Now he made me promise not to tell who the rap legend is so I won’t tell you his name I will only give you his initials and they are DMX. Maybe you guys can figure it out from there!

    You made me laught out loud at work. I had to play it off as though I was coughing. lol

  • Tangela

    On a side note, I was watching Dr. Phil a few weeks ago. He had a married couple on there: the wife found out about her husband's down-low lifestyle. I was watching it in complete awe!

    This man had been posting face and nude body pictures of himself on craigslist and his kids' friends saw the ad online. The children were then teased and beat up at school. The wife found a butt plug and gay porn under the driver's seat of his car.

    I'm no gay-basher, but if I was with a man and he ever did some shit like that...he would come up missing.

  • starr

    I agree with sandra on this. I don't agree w/ aloto fo what she put on here, but this i can get with.

    I WANT NAMES. Karinne named names, why can't he name names. If no names are assigned to this, its all fiction to me.....

    And as for down low men, they are scums. They disgust me. And sandra is right, most women especially sistahs cannot spot a gay black man. I don't care what anybody says. They are so happy to find a good black men, that they are just blind to somethings. there not even ignoring it, there just blind to it.

  • Mz_Magnificent1

    @ Sandra...you just named the sofest dudes in Hip-Hop lol! No but seriously...its not so much the artist or entertainer that would retaliate its their entourage. You know Ray-Ray and them...plus if Terrance named names that is messing with their livelihood.

    Remy's downlow azz shot her damn friend over $3,000 dollars...imagine how some of these fools would flick off to be accused of ***GASP*** being bi or gay! Especially, Black men at that...

  • gemini83

    These actors, rappers, producers, etc., do not care that Karrine named them! Why? Because she is a h0e! They could care less about some h0e saying she slept with them. No one respects her. No one respects a h0e! She is a woman, this is a MAN we are talking about. He knows what's up if he were to open his mouth too much.

  • Made4Success

    but I will say that a DL man who is a hip hop/athlete star has a lot to lose….to name a few-Reputation and credibilty especially if he (hip-hop star)talks about money, cash and HOES in his music…Support…we all know that Gay men are not openly excepted in the industry like that unless you are a stylist, make-up artist or behind the scenes.
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    Naw, you right, you right, especially about the behind the scene guys. Thanks for the clarification. ;-)

  • Mz_Magnificent1

    Sandra...I feel what you are saying though. Personally, I agree...I don't think he should have wrote the book...especially if he isn't going to name anyone. HOWEVER...I do understand why he didn't.

    I actually was in Barnes & Noble last weekend reading little excerpts from the book and I can honestly say I wasn't impressed...nor was I spending $23.00 to play "Riddle Me This". Yet he is very descriptive in detail...I'm just not into the Blind Items thing anymore.

  • ggouch

    SR Said:
    Most of you know I have no love for downlow fags men. IMO, they are the lowest living organisms on earth - even lower than a virus

    AMEN SANDRA ROSE...AMEN. I am a member of your chior on this topic Ms. Rose. I agree with every single solitary word you wrote.

  • http://myspace.com/birminghamblaze Dani

    I just don't understand the whole down low thing. It's unfair to the women and it is dangerous to all the parties involved. Yes you should always think of yourself first by always protecting yourself. let's be real about this. If you are in what you believe to be in a monogamous relationship you are not always going to take precautions. Down low individuals/cheaters are dead wrong. Who cares about celebs who don't want to be exposed. Their lives have no more value than anyone else.

  • ggouch

    PAPA in Superhead's book is Method Man. You can verify this by reading her second book last chapter.

  • http://FreshFromTheStreetz.blogspot.com Zuley

    I agree these DL men need to be exposed because they are infecting ladies with the HIV/AIDS virus all because they are too cowardly to come out the closet. Anyways I live here in NYC and I hear all the stories about Joe Budden being spotted and running. He is known up here as "the gay rapper" and I have a friend who talks to him and refuses to believe he is gay because he is masculine. My gaydar is razor sharp.

  • ggouch

    MOCHAMOMMY Says:
    ...And Sandra down low men, are not the number one reason for AIDS/HIV in the black community… The number one reason is they don’t like wearing condoms with anybody & irresponsible, needy women don’t make them
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    To Mocchmommy: I have a family member who recently learned they are HIV+...she was not needy...she was a wife and mother...whose husband had a need for other men. I say that because the statement hit close to home for me and though you are absolutely correct some women will accept anything for the sake of love and companionship, even raw, barely know you, randomly selected SEX, lets try not to be to general in this area for the sake of those women (a.ka. wives, committed girlfriends) who were simply literally and figuratively in the wrong place at the wrong time

  • ms.peaches

    I wonder if Chris Stokes is mentioned at all?? Im jus askin (lol)!!

  • Sharonda

    but does the same goes for couples that have been married for 10 yrs or more? Some women just have that “trust” with their men and would never think that they would sleep with another man, so therefore, they don’t use protection. They are the real victims because they “think” they have hope and faith in their relationship, which all marriages should have. But all they really have is a relationship filled with lies.
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    You right.It's about trust,but when it comes to protecting yourself from such activities (such as sex), you have the say so of your body and nobody else.Just because he your married, anything can happen, don't mean you exempt from getting a disease or anything.All I got to say is be cautious because a husband is a man first of all and always will be.Not saying all men cheat, but it's just too common now.But this is what I think, nobody has to agree.

    And I'm gonna say this, no black woman should feel obligated to a brother because he is a brother.There are plenty of men out in this world.Don't feel like you have to be tied down to one.

    I think "some" women know when they date these athletes,rappers etc., they heard about them from so and so, and they know what they getting into.They know their lifestyle.They putting themselves are risk.It's so easy to play the victim, but sometimes the victim is tricking them.Like I said earlier, it's a two-way thing.

  • nyp

    i like how black people are still blaming the epidemic of black women and hiv on the 'downlow brotha syndrome.' wake up people, sexually transmitted disease is about BEHAVIOR. this is an approach taken by the white community which resulted in a drop in hiv transmission during a time when that community was experience an epidemic. the so called dl brotha is nothing new. just because there were a few novels written about it suddenly it became THE thing to talk about and attribute high hiv rates to. black women remain the highest in hiv transmission because of behavioral choices we haven't changed in spite of changing times. it's called taking responsiblity for one's self. noone is forcing us to have unprotected sex; that's a choice. and that has nothing to do with someone's hiv status. BEHAVORIAL choices are behind why early pregnancy remains high within our community.

    let's stop placing the responsibility for our actions on someone outside ourselves. gay or not, noone should be having unprotected casual sex. PERIOD.

    lastly, get you a gay boyfriend. he will tell you if your man is funny-style if you're not able to tell.

  • http://myspace.com/birminghamblaze Dani

    @ nyp

    "like how black people are still blaming the epidemic of black women and hiv on the ‘downlow brotha syndrome.’ wake up people, sexually transmitted disease is about BEHAVIOR. this is an approach taken by the white community"

    True behavior plays a major role in an individual being infected however the DL epidemic is fact tested and proven why african american women are among those who are most likely to be infected.

  • http://www.myspace.com/bettathaniwasb4 2bme

    Name me two lesbians with HIV or AIDS and i'll show you someone that lied completely about their sexuality. DL men are putting women of all races at risk, but more so in the african american community. No one is blind to the fact that sexual behavior between heterosexual couples play a big part as well as drugs. That is NOT the issue, DL men do not give women a chance to accept their man is gay/bi or whatever..they make the choices for us. A woman who is married has a right to have unprotected sex with her husband, but he does not have the right to have unprotected sex and bring something home to her. This is what some of you are missing..DL men, want the best of both worlds and they are killing the sistas point blank because of greed,selfishness and denial..it's not fair to live that lie and put it on others

  • pointhimout

    yeah, i heard about this months ago and knew he wasn't gonna name names. just fluff and bs to sell books. i agree with most of the comments.

    but ladies, do any of yall get worried when ya dude says he's hangin with the fellas??? are you more worried bout ya male friend takin ya man than ya girlfriend?

    answers you can not come back with:

    * my man is a real man, he'll eff a nigga up for tryin him
    * oh, i know my man 100% straight
    * my man would never mess with another man, he loves p u s s y too much. ****EVER hear the term 'boy p****?'****

    these two are so common, no need.

  • pointhimout

    these three...i added the 3rd one at the last minute...

  • http://www.sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    nyp Says:

    lastly, get you a gay boyfriend. he will tell you if your man is funny-style if you’re not able to tell.

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    I beg to differ. Gay men think EVERY MAN who walks this earth is gay (except for the ones they don't want).

  • http://myspace.com/birminghamblaze Dani

    lol @ sandra.

    "I beg to differ. Gay men think EVERY MAN who walks this earth is gay (except for the ones they don’t want)."

    That is so true.

  • teecee

    wow... i felt the hate, sounds as tho you experienced something like that first hand. let me remind you this, their are two people who engage in sex and they have the right to say no if there isnt no disease protection going on. these chicks act like you have no say so in the deal. if you were raped thats a different thing story, but if your legs parted on there own, then you have some responsibility too.

    im shocked at the people who put there life in some guy or girl you meet at the club, go home with, sex with no condom he leaves the next day and u never meet them again....

    chicks get hiv/aids, stds because they dont use protection period. you cant blame hiv or aids on a man no more than i can say she trapped me into getting her pregnant. regardless of if the brotha wants to or not, you can say not until you strap up, but when you got 7 kids by 5 different men you think, we know before hand you aint into birth control and we dont have to repect you with a call the next day.

    instead of whinnying about men, teach the sisters about disease protection, tell them about condoms, female condoms, sponges, diaphragms, aids killing lube, and that its ok to abstain, instead of this its his fought i got hiv.

    nobody is going to love, care, or respect you more than you. so if you dont do the required things to make sure you are living the best life you can, its on you !!! i dont have kids, but ill tell my neices lil cousins or any female that, nobody takes advantage of ou unless you let them.

  • pointhimout

    #60...hilarious, and true. every man aint gay, and every man aint str8.

  • teecee

    oh, the book, i wouldnt read if came with 100.00 glued to it. if you aint gonna name names, then why bother. sounds like a jilted wanna be star who said, ill get them !! lmao

  • NYCUTIE

    Straight cheating ass men transmit HIV as well! Women need to smarten up!

  • http://www.sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Here's how you tell if your man is gay: during sex, pretend to accidentally slide your finger in his back door. If he overreacts - I mean really kirks out on you - he's gay. If he doesn't react and doesn't ask you to remove your finger - he's gay

  • http://www.sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    NYCUTIE Says:

    Straight cheating ass men transmit HIV as well!

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    How is that possible if he's straight? Women do not transmit HIV to straight men. Magic lied :)

  • cutienjerzey

    Here’s how you tell if your man is gay: during sex, pretend to accidentally slide your finger in his back door. If he overreacts - I mean really kirks out on you - he’s gay. If he doesn’t react and doesn’t ask you to remove your finger - he’s gay

    Sandra so your're saying either way he could be gay....Or was that a typo? I don't agree with you on that...

  • http://www.sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    @ cutienjerzey:

    A straight man will assume it was a mistake and ask you to remove your finger. If his response is extreme overreaction or no response at all - he's gay.

  • cutienjerzey

    NYCUTIE Says:

    Straight cheating ass men transmit HIV as well!

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    How is that possible if he’s straight? Women do not transmit HIV to straight men. Magic lied

    Sandra,
    So a man that shoots up drugs and gets infected by sharing dirty needles can give the virus to his girl, but she can't give it to another man she may be sleeping with. I'm confused.....

  • cutienjerzey

    I understand a little bit now...Thanks

  • cutienjerzey

    Typo

    A straight man will assume it was a mistake and ask you to remove your finger. If his response is extreme overreaction or no response at all - he’s gay.

    I understand that concept a lil better

  • http://www.sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    cutienjerzey Says:

    Sandra,
    So a man that shoots up drugs and gets infected by sharing dirty needles can give the virus to his girl, but she can’t give it to another man she may be sleeping with. I’m confused…..

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    The risk of HIV transmission from women to men is extremely low. Something like one-tenth of 1 percent.

  • cutienjerzey

    WOW!

  • pointhimout

    Sandra, as men, when you're with a woman, immediately our instincts are to pull ya hand/fanger away from the ass. it doesn't prove anything.

    just because a guy likes gettin his butt licked doesn't make him gay. i think those methods or beliefs are way out there, and wrong. i think you have to know people, their actions, their reactions, their demeanor, etc. there is no full proof way of knowing. i have pretty good judgement, but its the women who apparently are not.

    you have to remember... men who mess with trannies or fem boys dont consider themselves gay. HE really is not attracted to another hard leg, masuline brutha. so to him, he's not gay, bi, etc. he just likes to be "freaky." there are a lottttttt of men like this. but who am I?

    i think this author should've named names or not wasted the time putthing this bs together.

  • pointhimout

    apologies...my typos....

  • Candi Apple

    Sandra your philosophy is not accurate. You are only assuming if the female has no cuts or abrasions on her vulva she cannot transmit the disease. There are many exceptions to every rule. Women can transmit the disease to men the rate is lower but, it does happen in more cases than none.

    Men are not considered gay just because they do not stop you from putting your finger in their anal cavity. I do understand your philosophy of the over reactor and the dormant male in the finger f**King department. Men who have had sexual encounters with men their a$$hole is usually abnormally shaped like cauliflower. The don't want to be gently stroked for the g-spots located in the anal but they want to be rammed and poke their ass in the air seductively (like a cat). Men who over react are trying to hide something.

    I tried the finger test on my male partner and he went limp. Totally limp did not scream yell or anything. He just simply went limp he could not get aroused for a hour or so.

    There is no definite way of telling the male is gay because there are masculine ways to finger men anal and then there are feminine ways a man reacts.

  • MOCHAMOMMY

    Please people, be smart, protect yourself & get tested. Dont look at statistics, dont stalk your mates and wonder if they're gay... Get ur ass to a testing center and get tested every 3 to 6 months!!!

  • Candi Apple

    I believe everyone knows to get tested but, I think some people want to have some type of indication says hey this dude is gay or is attracted to same sex.. I don't think anything is wrong with men who are attracted to men. The problem is created when men don't tell the women they are dealing with that they like sausage too. This behavior is nothing new and has been happening for centuries. Women are just finding out about men sexual deviance. But, as women who are we to think they will tell the truth about a man when they cannot tell the truth about being with women. My suggestion would be to wrap it up at all times. Red flags even with your husband should not be taken lightly

  • cutienjerzey

    @ MOCHAMOMMY

    YOU GOT THAT SHIT RIGHT.......

  • http://www.sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Candi Apple Says:

    Sandra your philosophy is not accurate. You are only assuming if the female has no cuts or abrasions on her vulva she cannot transmit the disease.

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    Thank you for pointing that out!! :) I always explain the cuts and abrasions thing to people. But remember, the male has to have a sore or cut on his penis too. There has to be an opening to his blood stream for transmission to take place. Transmission does not take place through intact skin or up the urethra of the penis. It has to be blood to blood transmission. But thanks again for pointing that out.

  • Imalover

    Tangela #42, I saw that episode too and I logged my happy investigative ass right onto craiglsist Atlanta to see for myself. Ladies, what I found under “men seeking men” and “casual encounters” was disturbing – and that’s an understatement. Yes, many of the men were black, rather attractive and bold enough to show their damn faces and display their hardware. Some of the posts stated that they were bisexual or curious seeking their first encounter. I'm telling ya'll, I got the sickest sensation in the pit of my stomach. We have to be careful for real it's not a game. Sandra please believe I'm not one of those blind sistas you referred to... I'm notorious for labeling men suspect only after a few conversations, just because they held their S's a little too long. I tell them immediately to stop calling and give them the reason why. I've been called a bitch a couple of times for doing so, which by the way only confirmed my suspicions, but I call it protecting myself. Protection should start way before we start sleeping with these men.

  • Negrito

    He doesn't drop any names because he probably doesn't have any names. He can make up so many fake stories now, and people are going to buy a book where pretty much all the blind items could be false and only a bunch of sex fantasies. Wow that's easy money.

  • http://FreshFromTheStreetz.blogspot.com Zuley

    Thank you Sandra that is why I stick to REAL hetero niggas that act like Rocko and Juelz Santana real hood niggas that wouldn't dare be caught with another man. Not them John Legend and Evan Ross types thats a sure way to get caught up. I unlike a lot of other ladies do my research. A guy has to past a couple of tests to prove his heterosexuality before I mess with him serious. Like for one I need to meet EVERYONE of his friends male and female and read their body languages, two if I suspect more I have friends that work at all four of the cell phone companies (T-Mobile, Verizon, Cingular, Spint) that can print out calls for me at a drop of a hat. three I ask every guy from the jump are they gay, have they slept, kissed, or orally been with a guy and if they lying I will find out and expose them. So I always make sure I'm on top of my shyt never caught slipping. Last thing I want is to be sleeping with a gay man. OMG that is the worse thing in the world. I pity these girls that have that happen to them.

  • Candi Apple

    The term DL and Homo Thug comes from the Rocco and Juelz Santana type (in fact rumors are floating around the industry about Santana). The Homo Thugs are the worst ones of all trust me Evan Ross is harder than someone like Juelz.
    LOL True Story Mommie..... Rocco is the type of nicca that will F**K the same girl his entire crew just jumped off no one is safe wrap it up and don't be fooled by the cover of the book

  • http://www.myspace.com/millyly milly

    I feel yall on that...I'm not buying a blind item book either

  • hellava10

    If I wanted a puzzle, I would buy a puzzle not this bogus book.

  • http://FreshFromTheStreetz.blogspot.com Zuley

    @ Candi Apple
    Not my boo Juelz oh noooooooooooooo please say it ain't so he is tooo fine for all that. ughhhhh I give up, I don't trust NONE of these niggas! Thank you girl.

  • candi got gushy

    Ladies,there is no sure fire way to tell if your man is bi or not !!! Protect yourselves and a major red-flag is if he likes to be around his boys(friends) a little too much(constantly) and comes home really late after a night with the "boys". Also that asshole thing wont work because not all bi/gay men are bottoms. Some wont take it up the ass(sorry for being so blunt)and some only hit it and maybe s*** it.

  • LAChick

    I am 31 and have never had unprotected intercourse. I assume everybody got something I don't want to catch. Now we all know that there are other ways to get an std (Oral sex) and that is scary. But I am willing to live with that. I live in LA, you know the brothers here are out with their sh*t. There are clubs they hang out in, signals they give that we all know and a whole city they can live in and yes one of my best friends is an out and proud former CRIP homo thug. Going dancing with him is always, ALWAYS shocking, fun as hell but SHOCKING!
    That business suit wearing, college degree brother hugged up in the corner with the hispanic cholo and the surfer white boy, sending drinks to my friend, the homo thug. I consider myself an expert on spotting the dl man and agree that between Oprah and her hatred of dl men and a few well placed articles, gay minorities are being forced out of the closet and everyone is suspect.
    It's hard to be gay and black and about your business. I got that, but I hold that women must act like everyone is carrying the virus, I have no answers for those who are in long term marriages and relationships, at some point I guess you have to trust.

  • Anna

    @ candi got gushy Says:

    Ladies,there is no sure fire way to tell if your man is bi or not !!! Protect yourselves and a major red-flag is if he likes to be around his boys(friends) a little too much(constantly) and comes home really late after a night with the “boys”. Also that asshole thing wont work because not all bi/gay men are bottoms. Some wont take it up the ass(sorry for being so blunt)and some only hit it and maybe s*** it.

    I guess what some may also worry about is their man cheating with a woman whos man is on the DL. If you think your man is gay he probably is. If you suspect your man is on the DL go with your gut. Women did not get an extra sense for nothing, use it and let it make you wiser. I don't believe that all men cheat. There are men who really love and respect the vows they took. Yes it is up to we woman to protect our body against diseases and heartache. Everyone has a gay friend, use that friend to give you the scoop on a man before you get serious. No need to disect and follow him everytime he goes out. My husband goes out with his friends to watch a ball game or go fishing. Male bonding not male fucking. I go out with my female friends does that make me a secret lesbian? Woman and Men because they are in a relationship don't have to be up under each other 24/7. Men and Woman are wired differently and both sexes want to share a conversation/time with the same sex. Not to have sex with each other but to share the nagging of each other mates to our same gender friends. I guess I would be more suspecious if my man served time in jail. What happens in jail in my opinion is why some men are on the DL, they liked it and will never admit it. To these men they are not gay/bi or curious but got use to male on male sex and now they crave it and seek it once they get out. We as ppl not only have to keep a wide eye open for our being but also have to discuss this with our children.
    Sorry my comment was so long. Sometimes my brain starts spinning, just glad that my fingers can type fast enough to keep up. lol.

  • candi got gushy

    @ Anna, your post was a long one ! Honestly there is nothing wrong with male bonding,but notice I said IF they constantly want to be with their friends It could be, actually, more than likely its suspect. Of course not all women that go out with their friends are doing each other but women need to understand men are always horny and want sex, they crave it,why do you think they are always jackin off?Now if my man wanna go to the woods every weekend with his boy,It would be a red flag for ME

  • Anna

    @ 92candi got gushy Says:

    @ Anna, your post was a long one ! Honestly there is nothing wrong with male bonding,but notice I said IF they constantly want to be with their friends It could be, actually, more than likely its suspect. Of course not all women that go out with their friends are doing each other but women need to understand men are always horny and want sex, they crave it,why do you think they are always jackin off?Now if my man wanna go to the woods every weekend with his boy,It would be a red flag for ME
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    Too funny. A mans first toy is in his pants. lol. He can play with it and noone can take it away.