A word of caution to all married (and unmarried but attached) men who can’t resist the urge to step outside of your relationships: Don’t sleep.
Back in the day, when the black community still had values and high morals, men would still creep. But it was understood that a man never went to sleep with a jumpoff in his hotel room.
The true playa’s motto was: hit it then quit it. They never let their emotions get involved because they valued what they had at home.
About 6 years ago, I received a letter from a reader. Inside the letter was a photo of an industry baller sound asleep in what looked like a hotel room. In his open hand lay a sex toy.
The letter author was, of course, a pissed jumpoff. In her lengthy letter she asked me to put him on blast by posting the letter and photo on my website. I declined her request due to the fact that I knew him and he was a genuinely nice guy.
But being a genuinely nice guy didn’t save NFL baller Steve McNair from the wrath of his 20-year-old jumpoff, Sahel Kazemi.
McNair, 36, met the then 19-year-old Kazemi six months ago at a Nashville Dave & Busters where the McNair family often ate. The two exchanged numbers and Kazemi became just another notch in the notorious playboy’s belt.
Kazemi, who police say was spiraling out of control in the last week of her life, confided in a co-worker that she wanted to end it all.
Sometime between Thursday and Friday last week, Kazemi bought a 9mm handgun off a friend for $100. Late Friday evening, she used a key McNair had given her to let herself into his rented downtown Nashville condo. No one knows what transpired after McNair arrived home at 1:30 a.m. early Saturday morning.
What police do know is Kazemi crept up on McNair as he slept soundly on a sofa and pumped 4 bullets into him — one shot to the head, two to the chest, then a final shot to the head.
Police say Kazemi then sat on the sofa next to McNair’s body and tried to stage the scene so that she would fall into his lap after shooting herself. But her body slid onto the floor at his feet. The murder weapon was found under her. Her hand later tested positive for gunshot residue.
Police theorize that Kazemi learned about another chick McNair was creeping with and she even followed the other chick home one night. It was the classic case of a mistress deciding if she couldn’t have him, no one else would.
There was a time when a cheating dog only had to worry about his jumpoff rifling through his pockets as he slept. But times have changed.
This should serve as a lesson to ALL. There are always consequences for one’s actions.
Times have definitely changed.
so him and his wife werent even living together?? he had his own seperate condo… aside from the one he bought for her?
As I said before the same way Ray Carue murdering his baby momma didn’t stop women from trying to get the baby meal ticket (anybody see those Nieva preggo pics) this isn’t going to stop men from creeping.
Plus it isn’t just jumpoff killing men. Wives kill them all the time also (snapped). This has more to do with weak minded indivduals.
All you video hoes need to hang up your g strings and get a regular 9 to 5. This chick don’t get no more regular looking than the girl next door to the girl next door.
yea i saw nivea pics… its funny how she poppin out after lauren was seen.
I wish I was his widow. I would throw his azz in the ground without a coffin and funeral.
@ Sandra, you are late. Stay off twitter then perhaps you can update your blog much sooner. LOL
I wonder if Wayne is messing with D Woods(danity kane) sister. I don’t consider Wayne being a cheater because they all know the deal he is open with his and I don’t recall him saying he was in a relationship with any of them. Both Lauren and Nivea have history with Wayne and knew about each other per word on the street.
Going to look for Niveas prg pic..lol
i wouldnt doubt it daisy. nivea wrote a blog on myspace talkin about d.woods sister saying she felt disrespected by her, i think they were caught kissing or something
@Daisy: I wish someone would clue me in on what’s so special about Predator. He is not at all attractive I don’t care how much money he has. Dude would not be touching me!!!
Hello All. RIP Steve, RIP. Lord have mercy, I feel for his wife, especially his 4 sons. Perhaps they will learn from this tragedy that could have been avoided? Keep them in your prayers. Peace. PS Plus they pay entertainers far, far to much money to entertain but after all, ain’t we the best entertainers in the world? Dancing, singing, throwing a ball, this is what we do best right? We ain’t scholars, we entertainers. We ain’t leaders, we entertainers. We ain’t teachers, we entertainers. Most of us, anyway. Peace.
@ attorneymom, I totally agree with you. I wouldn’t even go to his funeral.
The tone of some of the posts implies that Lauren and Nivea are both preggo by Wayne…did I miss a post…haven’t been keeping up because of the fiscal year end….let me go out into the world wide web and see what I can find…
If he would have just kept it in his pants, he wouldn’t have come across this mental case and could have delayed his death.
If only some people would learn from this, but like iscream said, they’re not going to.
@ Daisy,
I think she is messing with him. I saw some pics of her sisters party and Wayne was right there. (Side eye)
Guess she’ll be the next one. Pushing.
Can someone tell Eddie George to shut the f&*% up? If he keeps talking, I am going to start to think that he has a few jumpoffs his ownself. He states to CNN:
“I’m hoping that people can look beyond the circumstances surrounding his death. What people fail to realize is that when you make a transition away from the game — emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually — you go through something. You change, and you’re constantly searching for something,” George said.
Sidebar: It is not about McNasty. It is about his widow and kids. You know the ones he did not get a rat azz about.
I REMEMBER that pic, that’s when he signed that HUGH Contract extension AND look how his wife is looking at him !!!

Let’s not bring up Ghetto Gremlin up on this post. Besides, his azz is sick for the moment. I pray that he does not have what Easy E died of. RIP Easy E.
Attrnymom
While I think he was dead wrong for stepping out on his wife. I think saying he didn’t give a rats azz about them is REACHING. Most men who cheat 9 times out of 10 say it has nothing to do with the wife/girlfriend/boyfriend. Its almost like feeding their ego to feel they still got it
We don’t know what their marriage was like good or bad. To me it seems they were seperated. Again I don’t know.
Maybe the other, other woman will come forward and shed some light on all of this. She may have just finished “blessing” him and that’s why he was asleep. Homegirl may have saw her leaving, went up in there and blasted him.
its like what star wouldnt be cheating im sure they all have at some point. what surprises me is how careless he was with a jump off. he co signed on her car like negro you have a wife things like that can come back on you even if this tragedy didnt happen he left a paper trail to his cheating ways. and all wives know its just if he will be respectful enough to clean up his dirty tracks and not have it thrown in the spouses face.
@Ice I saw D Woods pics as well from her b day weekend
NB seems to think Nivea isnt prg by Wayne after all
I know that being a lesbian gives you the knowall on affairs and all :rofl but you’re wrong in so many ways. There is no way “a true player doesn’t hit it and quit it” A true player is upfront about the side piece about her position but he makes her feel so special and loved and hits so well she accepts it. Secondly I dont’ think there was ever a time when the only thing a cheating dot had to worry about his jumpoff rifling through his pockets. That would be his worry with a tramp not his mistress.BIG difference. Where do you think the saying Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned came from? This has been going on since the begining of time. He’s just an NFL star and the media is so huge now is all. I love reading on those historic crime sites and trust she ain’t did nuttin new
Sidebar: Daisy I don’t think its ever been confirmed by either Wayne or Lauren that he’s the father of her child either.
where r the nivea preganancy pics??
GREAT COMMENT @wiggy
YES Indeed this IS nothing special as far as crimes and criminal acts regarding cheating spouses go… Because he’s a famous NFL-Baller does it get THIS KIND OF COVERAGE !!!
In every day life WHEN this happens the man is referred to as a TRICK and yes a Black Man is considered a Trick Nicca
I’m NOT BEING RUDE… I’m JUST BEING REAL !!!!!

Hey ELOVE
Prayers go out to my fellow soror, Mechelle today.
I read where Wayne told Lauren if she aborted his baby he would tell everyone.
@ Daisy I also saw that. I hope Necole has body guards bc Nieva looks like she’ll f a bitsh up over Wayne. She never said why she thinks that or why she doesn’t feel the same about Lauren.
Either way both the ladies look beautiful pregnant.
Hey Daisy-Darling
“Back in the day, when the black community still had values and high morals, men would still creep.”
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Umm, morals and values do not = cheating!
If this guy had been anyone else but Steve McNair or whatever celebrity/entertainer – no one would even know about this. People cheat always everyday – it just doesn’t always get this extreme and not with someone in the public eye that we can comment on.
If he had lived, I’m sure his wife, as mad as she woudl be, would be by his side. Some of ya’ll are attesting to how powerful hate can be, but love can be as well.
Not that I cried over this man’s death, or what he did, but irregardless of what he was doing – a woman lost her husband and kids lost their father. It just so happens that he was in the public eye and everyone can comment about his sins and issues. The difference is – we are not public figures and the pubic doesn’t comment on them. And I KNOW some of us are grateful for that.
The darker lady in the picture…is that his wife or the mistress. Do they look alike except for skin color or is it just me???!!!
The picture they keep showing of the side piece is that a mug shot???
Got this from NB site
Hey,
I’m from Nashville; I saw your story and thought I would give you a little further insight. Steve McNair just opened a restaurant named Gridiron9, he was there almost everyday and used that as his excuse for being away from his WOMEN so much.
The Escalade was NOT paid for, he co-signed for her and not to sound like a golddigger but it wasn’t even a new one, it was a ‘07 and he simply co-signed for it, his sneaky butt also put it under his restaurant’s name as a business vehicle.
Of course he would help her with the payments every once in a while, the thought of him leaving her with the that high ass lease was extra stress, on top of her roommate planning to move, having to pay the note on her Kia she was leasing before she met him, her boyfriend that she moved down here with from Jacksonville, but left when she felt like she hit the jackpot with McNair started coming back around, finding out that there was another side ho besides herself and then receiving a DUI.
She asked a guy she worked with if he knew where she could get a gun being that she was only 20 and he said he would sell her his for $100. She shot him 4 times then sat down beside him and shot herself. Oh yea…and McNair wasn’t sneaky with it, he flew her family down for her birthday and they all had a good time around town and she saw her mother get killed when she was little in Iran or Iraq or wherever, u know they have no problem with killing themselves
Okay, SR family. I will have to leave the net for awhile for health reasons. I will miss you all. I will be back once I am better.
@ Sandra, increase the peace. Stop starting so much ish. LOL
@ iscream, whatever. I am too tired to fight with your azz today. Stay away from the light, you Gremlin. LOL
Keep it real. I will post some scriptures when I am feeling better.
@iscream
If that local account is in anyway true, she’s dumb as hell, who the hell LEASES a KIA? GTFOH with that, she’s a bigger dummy than I originally thought.
^^^

this happens when a man thinks with the wrong head.