Their Words, Not Mine…

Sandra Rose July 19, 2010

“We’re going to be wearing a bullseye. But that’s what you play for,” Wade said. “We enjoy the bullseye. Plus, there’s going to be times when we lose 2-3 games in a row, and it seems like the world has crashed down. You all are going to make it seem like the World Trade [Center] is coming down again, but it’s not going to be nothing but a couple basketball games.” Read More…

LadyLew

He’s just tryna bring people down off that high horse they on in Mia
http://twitter.com/eastpointvet eastpointvet

he right they lose a couple games then people will speculate oh they cant play together its not going to work they need more than one ball lol
Carmez79

he is speaking the truth. that’s exactly how people act when people they put on a ridiculous pedestal lose a few games
KayCeiSoul

I can understand what he’s saying. People are putting them on a pedestal, and setting them up to feel like crap if they lose one game. Wade simply alleviated the nonsense.
LaTechGrad02

Fox News is going to jump on that WTC comment..
free

regardless of how they get there, the bottom line is, they need to get one ring in two years and at least two rings in 6 years. anything less is unacceptable.
http://www.twitter.com/NaturallyEva MrzzSmitty

YEA I don’tcare about NONE of that. What I want him to speak on……… is why couldn’t he have had the class and decency to wait until his divorce was final before moving on to the next one?????!!!!!????? IS this the GAME?!?
http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#/profile.php?ref=profile&id=1335451522 therapist1911

What’s the problem here? He can’t reference the WTC to explain his feelings. THat wasn’t disrespectful or anything.
http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#/profile.php?ref=profile&id=1335451522 therapist1911

MrzzSmitty says:

YEA I don’tcare about NONE of that. What I want him to speak on……… is why couldn’t he have had the class and decency to wait until his divorce was final before moving on to the next one?????!!!!!????? IS this the GAME?!?
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NOt being mean but really is it THAT important to you? How many people in your family, community and etc you know that ACTUALLY wait until the judge declare it’s over before they start dating someone else?

Unrealistic expectation!
http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

therapist1911 says:

MrzzSmitty says:

YEA I don’tcare about NONE of that. What I want him to speak on……… is why couldn’t he have had the class and decency to wait until his divorce was final before moving on to the next one?????!!!!!????? IS this the GAME?!?
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NOt being mean but really is it THAT important to you? How many people in your family, community and etc you know that ACTUALLY wait until the judge declare it’s over before they start dating someone else?

Unrealistic expectation!
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May be unrealistic but the truth of the matter is, you’re still sleeping with someone who’s married! If a guy who is seperated from his wife is interested in dating me, he needs a signed and notarize divorce decree.I do not and will NOT entertained men who claim they are seperated. To those who do, more power to you. It’s just not my cup of tea
BROWNSUGAPOET

I know some divorces that go on for years so I think it’s unrealistic to expect someone to wait for the divorce to be final before they start seeing someone else
Mamacita

MrzzSmitty says:

YEA I don’tcare about NONE of that. What I want him to speak on……… is why couldn’t he have had the class and decency to wait until his divorce was final before moving on to the next one?????!!!!!????? IS this the GAME?!?

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They were going through the divorce proceedings for THREE YEARS!!! Who’s gonna wait that long? I mean seriously? When it’s over, it’s over no matter when the judge slams that gavel.
Al-Ameera

Mamacita says:

MrzzSmitty says:

YEA I don’tcare about NONE of that. What I want him to speak on……… is why couldn’t he have had the class and decency to wait until his divorce was final before moving on to the next one?????!!!!!????? IS this the GAME?!?
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They were going through the divorce proceedings for THREE YEARS!!! Who’s gonna wait that long? I mean seriously? When it’s over, it’s over no matter when the judge slams that gavel.
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Exactly
Nika405

Good for him that he’s letting folks know upfront that they will stumble and fall just like all the rest of the NBA teams.
http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

BROWNSUGAPOET says:
I know some divorces that go on for years so I think it’s unrealistic to expect someone to wait for the divorce to be final before they start seeing someone else
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They were going through the divorce proceedings for THREE YEARS!!! Who’s gonna wait that long? I mean seriously? When it’s over, it’s over no matter when the judge slams that gavel.
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I completely understand the perspectives above however I stand firm on my belief there’s a right and a wrong way to do things- period! In my opinion, there isn’t a thing as being separated: you are either married or single, there’s simply no in between. People who operate under the term “separation” are in transition. Simply put, one is trying to determine if the marriage is worth salvaging or if one wants to give being single an opportunity. The “separation” from the spouse is used as an opportunity to see what’s out there. Confirmation on what everyone was missing out on during the timeframe in which they were married….Although you’re legally separated and living in separate addresses, at the end of the day; you are STILL husband AND wife! If you’re divorced, you don’t have a husband/wife right?!? Separation is just a word/situation a selfish person created to justify having it both ways.

On another note, what’s wrong with ensuring someone’s divorce is final BEFORE getting involved with them?
FreeToSpeakUp

yvonne79 says:

I completely understand the perspectives above however I stand firm on my belief there’s a right and a wrong way to do things- period! In my opinion, there isn’t a thing as being separated: you are either married or single, there’s simply no in between. People who operate under the term “separation” are in transition. Simply put, one is trying to determine if the marriage is worth salvaging or if one wants to give being single an opportunity. The “separation” from the spouse is used as an opportunity to see what’s out there. Confirmation on what everyone was missing out on during the timeframe in which they were married….Although you’re legally separated and living in separate addresses, at the end of the day; you are STILL husband AND wife! If you’re divorced, you don’t have a husband/wife right?!? Separation is just a word/situation a selfish person created to justify having it both ways.

On another note, what’s wrong with ensuring someone’s divorce is final BEFORE getting involved with them?

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bama_n_jersey

yvonne79 says:

On another note, what’s wrong with ensuring someone’s divorce is final BEFORE getting involved with them?
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I don’t think it is anything wrong with your thinking. What I do think is that you all are looking at seperation and going through a divorce as two different things. In my opinion when people are ‘SEPERATED’ than there is a chance that they can get back together. But when a person is going through a divorce than it is over with, no going back (most of the time). He and his wife were going through a divorce for 3 years, not just seperated for 3 years. I know some females that would drag a divorce out just so the man couldn’t move on with anyone else
Man, I just don’t care™

@BAMA
“On another note, what’s wrong with ensuring someone’s divorce is final BEFORE getting involved with them?
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I don’t think it is anything wrong with your thinking. What I do think is that you all are looking at seperation and going through a divorce as two different things. In my opinion when people are ‘SEPERATED’ than there is a chance that they can get back together. But when a person is going through a divorce than it is over with, no going back (most of the time). He and his wife were going through a divorce for 3 years, not just seperated for 3 years. I know some females that would drag a divorce out just so the man couldn’t move on with anyone else”
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AMEN!

When it’s over, IT’S OVER! Marriage or not. What’s the point of NOT moving on? Ridiculous. SMH.
http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

bama_n_jersey says:

yvonne79 says:

On another note, what’s wrong with ensuring someone’s divorce is final BEFORE getting involved with them?
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I don’t think it is anything wrong with your thinking. What I do think is that you all are looking at seperation and going through a divorce as two different things. In my opinion when people are ‘SEPERATED’ than there is a chance that they can get back together. But when a person is going through a divorce than it is over with, no going back (most of the time). He and his wife were going through a divorce for 3 years, not just seperated for 3 years. I know some females that would drag a divorce out just so the man couldn’t move on with anyone else
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Still the same thing in my book. The words “going through a divorce” yet implies one is in transition. Focus on finalizing the divorce so you’ll be free to do whatever it is your heart desires once the papers are signed. Why get yourself sucked into someone else’s drama? Holla back when you’re single to mingle….
BROWNSUGAPOET

Yvonne I’m not talkin about people who are tryin to determine whether or not they wanna work it out I’m talkin about people who are tryin to figure out property, child support etc and celebs who have money like he does it can take a while to settle especially when you have two people that can’t come to an agreement. If you’re lookin at it from a sin point of view then if you’re havin sex before you’re married is a sin
Nika405

@Bama People can and will drag it out just to be spitful.

My daddy did it to my mama. What should have been a quick no fault divorce turned into something that cose her $ time and headache just because he wouldn’t sign the papers and it had been over for 3yrs. To those that are saying it should be final 1st What does the person do when the other spouse is dragging the divorce out because they can? If it lasted 3 yrs because the other person was being spitful do you still wait to move on with your life? What then? People on the outside looking in can say what a person should do but if you don’t know the full story on what happened you just passing judgement on them.
Man, I just don’t care™

@BROWN
“Yvonne I’m not talkin about people who are tryin to determine whether or not they wanna work it out I’m talkin about people who are tryin to figure out property, child support etc and celebs who have money like he does it can take a while to settle especially when you have two people that can’t come to an agreement. If you’re lookin at it from a sin point of view then if you’re havin sex before you’re married is a sin”
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Why should someone wait until a “judge” decides when a relationship is over when BOTH parties agree that it is over?
ohpretty1

More power to Yvonne79!
Mamacita

@yvonne79 Yeah they are “technically” still married on paper but mentally and physically it’s over so what’s the point in going through the motions when you know it’s over and reconciliation isn’t an option. When it’s over it’s over. Going through the proper papers and legal channels is all good but when women and men drag he proceedings out why wait?
Mamacita

*the
http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

BROWNSUGAPOET says:
Yvonne I’m not talkin about people who are tryin to determine whether or not they wanna work it out I’m talkin about people who are tryin to figure out property, child support etc and celebs who have money like he does it can take a while to settle especially when you have two people that can’t come to an agreement. If you’re lookin at it from a sin point of view then if you’re havin sex before you’re married is a sin
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Nope, not coming at it from a sin point of view. Bottom line, I don’t sleep with married/seperated men. I enjoy dialogue and wanted to put my viewpoints out there. From what I see, those that are giving the greenlight on this behavior is saying to do so over selfish reasons and I just don’t agree with it. If me seeing myself as worth the wait, makes me the minority or labeled as naive or unrealistic, so be it! I just can’t and won’t do it. As they say, to each its own.
http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

Mamacita says:
@yvonne79 Yeah they are “technically” still married on paper but mentally and physically it’s over so what’s the point in going through the motions when you know it’s over and reconciliation isn’t an option. When it’s over it’s over. Going through the proper papers and legal channels is all good but when women and men drag he proceedings out why wait?
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Why NOT wait???
AllNYC

What a horrible choice of words! Sports announcers are always using war and other violent imagery to make their points and it is offensive to the real soldiers fighting for our country. And his analogy is very offensive to people (like myself) that lost family in the towers that day.
Mamacita

“those that are giving the greenlight on this behavior is saying to do so over selfish reasons and I just don’t agree with it”

Don’t you think it’s selfish for a person to hold someone back for 3 years because they don’t want to sign divorce papers?
bama_n_jersey

@Yvonne…I can agree with not getting sucked into someone elses drama, but I don’t agree with him having to wait years to live his life just because his soon-to-be ex-wife is dragging out the divorce. I look at it from both ways, and as a woman that is against anyone being with a married man/woman I still don’t see any reason why he can’t move on. I know it may sound hypocritical but in this case it seems as if they really are already divorced it is just the matter of the judge making it official. This has been going on for too long and if it wasn’t for his ex-wife’s antics and all they would have been divorced a long time ago.
Mamacita

yvonne79 says:

Mamacita says:
@yvonne79 Yeah they are “technically” still married on paper but mentally and physically it’s over so what’s the point in going through the motions when you know it’s over and reconciliation isn’t an option. When it’s over it’s over. Going through the proper papers and legal channels is all good but when women and men drag he proceedings out why wait?
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Why NOT wait???

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because time is precious and you never know how long you’re gonna be on this earth. Waiting 3 years for someone else to sign papers because they’re being “selfish” or “spiteful” is just as wrong as what you’re trying to defend. So someone else should put their life on hold because of the selfishness of others? I understand what you’re saying but all situations aren’t the same and everything isn’t black and white.
http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

Mamacita says:

“those that are giving the greenlight on this behavior is saying to do so over selfish reasons and I just don’t agree with it”

Don’t you think it’s selfish for a person to hold someone back for 3 years because they don’t want to sign divorce papers?
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Oh yes but of course! There are some people out there who want to hold on when they know for a fact it’s over. Yet, one would still need to handle his business first- FINALIZE YOUR DIVORCE….
http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

Mamacita says:

yvonne79 says:

Mamacita says:
@yvonne79 Yeah they are “technically” still married on paper but mentally and physically it’s over so what’s the point in going through the motions when you know it’s over and reconciliation isn’t an option. When it’s over it’s over. Going through the proper papers and legal channels is all good but when women and men drag he proceedings out why wait?
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Why NOT wait???

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because time is precious and you never know how long you’re gonna be on this earth. Waiting 3 years for someone else to sign papers because they’re being “selfish” or “spiteful” is just as wrong as what you’re trying to defend. So someone else should put their life on hold because of the selfishness of others? I understand what you’re saying but all situations aren’t the same and everything isn’t black and white.
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I agree, everything in life isn’t black and white. When it comes to ME dealing with married AND/OR seperated men, there ISN’T room for any GRAY areas. This is non-negotiable…period.
#everythingaintforeverybody
bama_n_jersey

@Yvonne….I think the reason everyone is not so against him moving on is because he is trying to finalize his divorce. Yet everytime it seems to be finalized she throws something else in the loop. While on the other hand if he wasn’t trying to finalize his divorce and still trying to string both women along then that would be the problem. I had a cousin that was seperated and had a boyfriend but she didn’t handle her business to get a divorce. Well after a while that boyfriend started noticing that she was in no rush to get a divorce so he left her. Now with this situation that yes I can agree with you and I told her that he should have left her. She used the money and bought everything else and didn’t pay to have the papers filed for a divorce.

@mamacita….I understand what you’re saying but all situations aren’t the same and everything isn’t black and white.
Mamacita

#everythingaintforeverybody

At the end of the day you do what you feel is right and there’s nothing I can say to change that.

#doyouboo
http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

Mamacita says:

#everythingaintforeverybody
At the end of the day you do what you feel is right and there’s nothing I can say to change that.
#doyouboo
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Glad we agree…
BROWNSUGAPOET

if you don’t choose to do it then that’s fine but I think it comes across as judgemental when you’re sayin people are selfish because they choose to move on with their lives, tryin to get the divorce and it’s the other party holdin the divorce up
bama_n_jersey

Yvonne says….I agree, everything in life isn’t black and white. When it comes to ME dealing with married AND/OR seperated men, there ISN’T room for any GRAY areas. This is non-negotiable…period.
#everythingaintforeverybody

I this. I wouldn’t be with a married person either because I wouldn’t want it done to me. But I honestly say that I can see the exception in this situation or situations like this one.

e from me to you!!!

I cannot find anymore coconut ciroc in NJ. The only thing I could find was some coconut Bicardi. Dang it man…looks like I am going to have to load up with I go back South.
http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

@bama:
Backatcha babe!
http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

BROWNSUGAPOET says:
if you don’t choose to do it then that’s fine but I think it comes across as judgemental when you’re sayin people are selfish because they choose to move on with their lives, tryin to get the divorce and it’s the other party holdin the divorce up
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Not one to offend anyone therefore I apologize if there was anything I said that appeared to be judgemental.
Redeemed777

Code talk for something BIG and catastrophic is going to happen in Miami.
Redeemed777

Just like the kanye and taylor swift thing was planned, so was the coming together of wade, james, and bosh.

It is all staged.
Redeemed777

He made that WTC comment on purpose.

If you live in Miami or the Florida area in general, you better start praying.
Mamacita

@REDEEMED what are you talking about and why do you always do that? You throw out all this foolishness with no rhyme or reason to it? Where are you from if you don’t mind me asking?
KrayZKat

@Yvonne
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aqtpie

I agree, everything in life isn’t black and white. When it comes to ME dealing with married AND/OR seperated men, there ISN’T room for any GRAY areas. This is non-negotiable…period.
#everythingaintforeverybody
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I’m with you, although it may be the only sin I haven’t committed though! J/K
http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

Mamacita says:
@REDEEMED what are you talking about and why do you always do that? You throw out all this foolishness with no rhyme or reason to it? Where are you from if you don’t mind me asking?
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Redeemed777

@Mamacita

Comments such as d. wade’s comment have been made in the past by entertainers concerning WTC before it happened.

These folks know what’s going to happen in the future, and some of them like to be slick, and throw it in their statements.

It could be a warning that something catastrophic will go down in Miami or somewhere.
Mamacita

@Redeemed He said “You all are going to make it seem like the World Trade [Center] is coming down again”, meaning people are going to act like them losing games is crisis of this MAGNITUDE. I don’t see it as him predicting the future. And the world we live in is uncertain and things can happen in the blink of an eye. You don’t have to be able to see the future to know this and you don’t have to see the future to know that NO NBA TEAM CAN WIN ALL THEIR GAMES. This is all I see coming out of the statement he made.

I didn’t know Dwayne Wade could see into the future…when did he become a prophet?
free

yvonne79 says: Nope, not coming at it from a sin point of view. Bottom line, I don’t sleep with married/seperated men

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good for you. now can we all get back to the topic at hand? as if SR hasn’t run the gabby thing in the ground already.
tippmos

Hmmmmm,sounds like Yvonne has been scorned by a married man in her past?!? If that is the case I can understand why you feel the way you do. But if that’s not the case
http://myspace.com/necee518 yvonne79

tippmos says:
Hmmmmm,sounds like Yvonne has been scorned by a married man in her past?!? If that is the case I can understand why you feel the way you do. But if that’s not the case
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Nope, not at all…….

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