Here’s an interesting video a loyal reader just sent me. It was filmed the other day during a Trey Songz promo stop at 100.3 The Beat in Philly.

Ladies, study the above picture of Trey Songz well. This is what many in the psych field refer to as a Narcissistic Stare.

Trey Songz is a narcissist who is used to people around him stroking his enormous, yet fragile ego. He became incensed when the DJ told him he wasn’t feeling his reality show.

This news should not have come as a surprise to Trey since his show was a ratings disaster for BET.

But what I want you to watch is the transformation that comes over Trey’s face as it suddenly dawns on him that someone in the room isn’t awestruck by his fake charm.

Watch as Trey ceases whatever he was doing to focus intently on the enemy in the room who dares to criticize him.

Anyone who has ever dealt with a narcissist will recognize the Narcissistic Stare. It is unmistakable and it is one of the hallmarks of narcissism. Another hallmark is the narcissist’s inability to take constructive criticism in any shape or form.

You can almost see the horns growing out of Trey’s scalp as he struggles with his inability to handle criticism.

Pat Finley of the Controlling Selfish Men blog explains the Narcissistic Stare better than I can:

The narcissistic stare has been experienced by many of us who have had the misfortune to associate with Ns [Narcissists]. Presumably, not every N does The Stare but from all reports, a significant majority does. The N’s stare is piercing, unwavering, reptilian. Seemingly flattering, this stare is unnerving – and is meant to be unnerving.

The Ns look right through you. A woman who is not familiar with Ns might think he is simply paying complete and rapt attention to her but he is not. The Ns are staring at you to see how vulnerable you are. Some believe that the Ns use their stare to look through you to your soul for the sole purpose of determining whether you are viable prey or not.

Once you are in a relationship with an N, they stare at you in order to control you. Their withering glare is meant to cow you into submission. It is a strong woman indeed who does not back down under the malevolent narcissistic stare.