Yesterday, actress Vivica A. Fox, 48, broke her silence on her break up with local club promoter Omar “Slimm” White, 28. She admitted she has the tendency to rush into relationships with men who have “a six-pack and a smile.”
I reached out to Vivica’s ex-fiance Slimm to get his side of the story, and to ask him what he thought about Vivica’s interview.
According to Slimm, he walked away from the situation first. In fact, Slimm says that when Vivica gave Sister 2 Sister magazine an interview for the December 2011 cover, she acted as if they were still together.
“Of course you’re not going to admit that somebody broke up with you because it would make you look bad,” said Slimm.
On allegations that he used Vivica for the fame:
SLIMM: “If I was in it for the fame, I would have kissed her a**. I would have just basically played the game if I was just trying to use her. You want happiness, you don’t want to be in it for the wrong reasons because it wouldn’t work out. Furthermore, if I was using her for fame then why not play the game and put my pride aside and follow through on tying the knot? The reason being: I’m not that type of man and I refuse to sell myself short for fame.”
On Vivica saving face by not admitting he left her:
SLIMM: “I totally understand that a person would rather save face and avoid admitting their fiance ended the relationship. So I understood why Vivica didn’t admit the reality of what really took place…. She would have come out better if she stated we went our separate ways, if she wanted to avoid the true nature of the breakup. The main thing is don’t lie … She and I know what happened so just be cordial and keep it moving. She knew from day one when I first met her I would joke and say ‘hey baby don’t hit me with that 2 Can Play That Game,’ lol. Those methods destroy relationships. I hate games and negativity.”
On happiness and settling for the wrong reasons:
“Happiness is key in anything you do in life, and people who settle for the wrong reasons never find true love. I understand the illusion of life and what to avoid so I’m happy at the decision I made. And one thing that was evident, if she keeps it real or not, is the fact I told her several times that ‘baby no matter what we disagree about let’s keep peace and love in the house.’ ”
On Vivica’s cover story for Sister2Sister:
“As you see in the month of December, her and I appeared on the cover of Sister 2 Sister, and when I saw the cover I was shocked because I walked away two months prior. But I came to the realization that Vivica went ahead and did the interview as if nothing happened. At that time the public wasn’t aware of our breakup. So I’m thinking like if you really wanted to get married instead of getting caught up in all the glitz and glamour, you wouldn’t have continued to provoke stress in the relationship. If you were to Ask Vivica right now did Slimm try time and time again to keep the relationship strong, she would have no choice but to admit who I am and the good examples I set! I always told her toward the end that ‘baby I will loose interest if we keep this up.’ When you have a bond with a woman, that fire can fade if both parties involved don’t fight to preserve chemistry.”
On getting back into the dating scene:
“I’m not dating anyone right now. I’m single and enjoying life.”