Chris Bosh’s first wife speaks out

Sandra Rose June 26, 2012

Chris Bosh’s first wife, Allison Mathis, the mother of the Miami Heat star’s daughter, couldn’t let him enjoy the feeling of winning his first NBA title. Even before Bosh, LeBron James and Dwyane Wade led the Miami Heat to the NBA championship, Allison was throwing dirt and denying Bosh the once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to take his daughter to London to watch him play in the 2012 Summer Olympics.

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Xena68

Maybe its payback for not letting him see his daughter at those times.
OutsidetheBox

Umm didnt this dude straight deny her and that kid two yrs ago..when he kicked her out..
cheeks8683

Lord please don’t ever let my mind get so screwed up by a man that I com off as bitter if we don’t remain together…I’ve been able to avoid those feelings up into this point in my life but I don’t know what the future may hold…Allow me to mantain my sanity…in Jesus name…

Morning fam :wave:
Kei_lyme

OTB!

I can’t watch the video
Destinee

There is NOTHING like a scorn women!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3jsZhYyyPuI FeFe Feminine

can’t see the vid…but ehhhh,
FoxE

That chair is ugly! & did she wrap a headband around the ponytail?
Kei_lyme

Fefe read The dark garden.. Like fifty shades, but the dominant is a female.
Ms. Everything

@Cheeks

and I don’t recall him ever denying her and the baby. I wish women would realize that relationships end but parenting does not. Unless that man is a danger to you and the kids do not let YOUR issues with him become your children’s problems
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3jsZhYyyPuI FeFe Feminine

@Kei

Thanks, I’ll download it as soon as I get the chance
Crickett

Out of all the baby mama’s, I want this girl to get more than $2500 a month. She was a regular girl (daughter of prominent Atlanta attorney)and he treated her like dirt and ran off with a woman who slept her way to fame. She need a mama like Madea to go by the house with a chainsaw.
Bibi

@Fefe

U ok today??
http://www.landofpure.net Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)
Iheart

Her voice is annoying
Bibi

OutsidetheBox says:

Umm didnt this dude straight deny her and that kid two yrs ago..when he kicked her out..

Did he? Why folks keep acting like she nasty for no reason??? Good morning btw
http://www.landofpure.net Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

i c bosh likes pretty women tho
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3jsZhYyyPuI FeFe Feminine

@Bibi

I’m ok, I’m just having some health problems that are really wearing me out…but thanks for asking… :hugs:
http://www.landofpure.net Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

@crickett
Mannie

Crickett says:

Out of all the baby mama’s, I want this girl to get more than $2500 a month. She was a regular girl (daughter of prominent Atlanta attorney)and he treated her like dirt and ran off with a woman who slept her way to fame. She need a mama like Madea to go by the house with a chainsaw.
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I dont understand why people think that just cause you got knocked up by a man with some dough means you are entitled to live large??? And why does the woman he married gotta be someone who slept her way to fame? i dont see her giving interviews or trying to get her shine outside him…she stay in the wifey lane and that should be it…
cheeks8683

@Cheeks

and I don’t recall him ever denying her and the baby. I wish women would realize that relationships end but parenting does not. Unless that man is a danger to you and the kids do not let YOUR issues with him become your children’s problems

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Right…Honestly a mans loyalty is tested when he has more…A womans is tested when the man she is with has less…Long story short, he got his and moved around, she can still make the best out of the situation by being an excellent mother. Love breeds love and she can find someone else….On another note…I didnt even know he was married to her
http://www.landofpure.net Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

so yall will excuse my manners today i am worried about my uncle (who’s also my pastor) his condition is grave
Chgoprime

Skeletor did kick her and the baby out. He was real evil to her lmao off @Cricket.
Bibi

@Fefe

:hugs: Hope it all works out!
Kei_lyme

Alright my hellion is up. Have a great day all. :wave:
Bibi

:hugs: @Fayla

Gosh, sorry to hear…..
OutsidetheBox

IDK. But I recall yrs ago reading that he was going through it with her, etc. @BiBi Also he talked of aonly one child on Father’s Day. She released that video showing how happy HE was AFTER TAKING HER TO A FERTILITY CLINIC to get preggo but you know… She just dont want him to be great apparently.
I Go There

What in the entire hell is going on and who told
Michelle’ she could come out of fking hiding
OutsidetheBox

I dont understand why people think that just cause you got knocked up by a man with some dough means you are entitled to live large???

The kid is entitled. Support in relation to income.
Gigi26

First off I don’t think they were married because that would entitle her to more than just child support. She was his baby mama. Sad to say but why would you plan a child out of wedlock? Like yall tried so hard to bring another life into the world but he couldn’t even marry your ass first? Shyt makes no sense to me.

I hope they work it out for the child’s sake, girl seems like she doesn’t have all of her marbles
BoogieNites

recap please .. i cant see vid
OutsidetheBox

& @Steph
http://pearlswindow.com Carrington

I don’t really get the olympics deal, but from someone who speaks to experience, it’s easy to point the finger at the person of lesser means and make them whoever you want them to be, but whose to say who Chris Bosh is OFF the court?

This chick could be resentful for a reason, although I NEVER condone blocking a black man who wants to be a father because we don’t have enough of those.

Chris Bosh has automatic defenders for no other reason other than he’s Chris Bosh. I won’t condemn, nor condone either in this situation.
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

IHEART FAWK UR GRAVI YO!! I CANT!!
Crickett

That was a good Christian girl he ruined. She was with him in another country with a baby. What kind of man leaves you with a baby and no money for rent, milk, diapers, food because he got turned out by another woman, marries her and calls you to come drop the baby off. Helllll naww.
Iheart

@Lakes
NaijaGal

They weren’t married…again she fell under the Texas structure of child support which is very stringent…child support is on a state by state basis
Lovely One

Sandra Rose, you are so wrong for this lopsided story.

(1) Allison & Raptor planned this baby (i.e. she’s not some random jumpoff that got preggos)
(2) She just lost her secretary job (laid off) and applied for foodstamps (i.e. she needs money for her daughter)
(3) From what I hear, the London trip does not fall within the court appointed visitation period
(4) Raptor has no problem adhering to the court appointed child support ($2600/month) so why should he react differently with his visitation rights
(5) Are we really gonna ignore the wife’s rainbow assortment of $20K Birkin bags while his first born receives $2,600 per month? (i.e. 1 Birkin bag is 2/3 of what he provides financially to his child)

Raptor is just a trifling dude
Mannie

OutsidetheBox says:

I dont understand why people think that just cause you got knocked up by a man with some dough means you are entitled to live large???

The kid is entitled. Support in relation to income.
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Okay if she is getting 2500 a month to spend on a child ALL of that 2500 should be spent on the child which would make that child the flyest thing walking into kindergaten. I mean that money is child support not mommy got preggo by a nba star…
GAGIRL87

Can somebody tell me what she said in the video I can’t see it
http://www.landofpure.net Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

thx Bibi!
NaijaGal

CARRINGTON exactly…I’ve noticed whenever it’s a lesser known woman and the dude has money, chick gets attacked for being a gold digger…nobody knows the real story except for the parties involved
Iheart

I think if she lived within her means then 2500 should be more than enough for her to take care of her child IMO. She can still get a job and take care of her self
Mannie

Crickett says:

That was a good Christian girl he ruined. She was with him in another country with a baby. What kind of man leaves you with a baby and no money for rent, milk, diapers, food because he got turned out by another woman, marries her and calls you to come drop the baby off. Helllll naww.
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Its her reponsibility to maintain the home not his. child support does not cover the expenses of the mom she is supposed to maintain the home otherwise she needs to pass custody to bosh…
http://www.landofpure.net Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

OTB! thx mami!
I Go There

SO nobody finds it quite interesting that since dude has went to the Heat all this is coming out…. All of a sudden more people are knowing who Chris Bosh is and now its like

“Hello he’s a terrible father and dude”

I cant call it
and maybe this guy is but Im thinking she should have spoke this shit when it first started.
BoogieNites

<<– actually says "RECAP PLEASE"
OutsidetheBox

Mannie …her mortgage I think was something like 3grand..??? Also clothing is sometimes last on the list of a child’s neccessities…come back when your dinner consists of more than ramen noo-lles…
Bibi

$2500 Isn’t a whole lot…for her to apply for food stamps means somethings up..no?
mia2bmore

I watched parts 1 and 2 and I understand she’s hurt but bashing him isn’t going to help her. She needs to let go of the past. He’s moved on and yeah he may be a different person now but who cares. She still has a child to take care of and he is still that child’s father. She needs to stop doing interviews and head to the courthouse to get an increase in child support. If he won’t do it willingly let the courts make him do it.
Mannie

And i will add that as a child of a single mother who made sure i had any and everything without child support i dont get how she expects people to feel sorry for her…
OutsidetheBox

SO nobody finds it quite interesting that since dude has went to the Heat all this is coming out….

I dont because I didnt know him before the heat as Chris Bosh the player, I knew him from gossip blogs as Chris Bosh the dog.

Imma stay outta this one anyway. I tired boss.
GAGIRL87

I may be on the OUTSIDE looking IN but I’m leaning more towards Allison Mathis. Chris Bosh is a b*itch plan and simple
Iheart

Cause my momma says Noo-lles
OutsidetheBox

He’s moved on and yeah he may be a different person now but who cares. She still has a child to take care of and he is still that child’s father. She needs to stop doing interviews and head to the courthouse to get an increase in child support. If he won’t do it willingly let the courts make him do it..

Exactly. i wouldnt even utter that fools name unless it was in front de judge!
Ms. Everything

I’m with Manny but then again I’d be happy if I got $5 a month in child support for my kids so Lord knows what I would do with $2500. And he’s paying that but what else is he paying for? Does he have to cover childcare and healthcare costs? Does he have to pay her a housing allowance? Alot of times these chicks complain about not having enough child support (cash) but don’t mention the other stuff the man is paying for. I don’t know her and I applaud the fact that she works but don’t give out interviews to ratchet sites trying to plead your case. If it’s that bad, go back to court for an emergency hearing, do what you have to do like every other mother that’s fallen on hard times
Gigi26

Okay lets be real for a second….2600 dollars.

She lost her job so the income she would supplement along with the support she receives is NOW GONE. So in essence she NOW has the burden of stretching that money out for the BOTH OF THEM.

So she has rent to pay, food to buy, daycare to pay for, gas, utilities, and the like and I know for a fact 2600 does not cover that if she lives in a decent neighborhood. Unless Bosh wants his kids to live in the projects, either he petitions to assume custody while mommy gets back on her feet, or he coughs out more cash. Shyt his wife is BURNING through his wallet right now so its only right that he kicks her a little something extra. I mean, since the kid was planned and all

Doesn’t have to be 20K but a little over 3500-4000 should be fair imo.
OutsidetheBox

i You know thats a gem in my house…ooh my son with the lisp???? LMAOooooo
GAGIRL87

Lovely One says:

Sandra Rose, you are so wrong for this lopsided story.

(1) Allison & Raptor planned this baby (i.e. she’s not some random jumpoff that got preggos)
(2) She just lost her secretary job (laid off) and applied for foodstamps (i.e. she needs money for her daughter)
(3) From what I hear, the London trip does not fall within the court appointed visitation period
(4) Raptor has no problem adhering to the court appointed child support ($2600/month) so why should he react differently with his visitation rights
(5) Are we really gonna ignore the wife’s rainbow assortment of $20K Birkin bags while his first born receives $2,600 per month? (i.e. 1 Birkin bag is 2/3 of what he provides financially to his child)

Raptor is just a trifling dude
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Agreed
http://www.landofpure.net Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

damn! if what lovely one says is true abt bosh, well fukk him. thats trife as hell!
Bibi

Mannie says:

And i will add that as a child of a single mother who made sure i had any and everything without child support i dont get how she expects people to feel sorry for her…
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Congrats…but how does u being fortunate mean we should say to hell with her?
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

WHY NOT JUST TAKE HIM TO COURT.. AND LET THEM HANDLE THAT SHAIT ALL THIS MEDIA SHAIT AINT GOING TO MAKE THIS DUDE DO ANY BETTER.. JUST GETTING MESSY FOR THE CHILD.. IDK
NaijaGal

His daughter should have the same lifestyle as his son will have…
Mannie

OutsidetheBox says:

Mannie …her mortgage I think was something like 3grand..??? Also clothing is sometimes last on the list of a child’s neccessities…come back when your dinner consists of more than ramen noo-lles…
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What does HER mortgage have to do with Child support? She is to maintain her household that money should go towards the well being of the child. And since her mortgae is 3000 and if she does apply all all of the child support to that mortgage that means she is only repsonsible for $500 a moth to keep a roof over her head??????????????

Tell me how she cant maintain that? I mean come on.
GAGIRL87

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Gigi26 says:

Okay lets be real for a second….2600 dollars.

She lost her job so the income she would supplement along with the support she receives is NOW GONE. So in essence she NOW has the burden of stretching that money out for the BOTH OF THEM.

So she has rent to pay, food to buy, daycare to pay for, gas, utilities, and the like and I know for a fact 2600 does not cover that if she lives in a decent neighborhood. Unless Bosh wants his kids to live in the projects, either he petitions to assume custody while mommy gets back on her feet, or he coughs out more cash. Shyt his wife is BURNING through his wallet right now so its only right that he kicks her a little something extra. I mean, since the kid was planned and all

Doesn’t have to be 20K but a little over 3500-4000 should be fair imo
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& I agree $2600 isn’t alot of money a month trust me I know!!!!!!
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

His daughter should have the same lifestyle as his son will have…
lovezoe

There was a video where they showed the pregnancy test and said they had been trying. He paid for her to go to a fertility clinic and everything.
http://www.landofpure.net Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

OTB yern got one too?? i always hated lisps for the longest & her my son comesss just a lissspin away :rollseyes: NOW i notice that lots of ppl do. just to varying degrees. they be attractive too
#newlybiased
Mannie

Bibi says:

Mannie says:

And i will add that as a child of a single mother who made sure i had any and everything without child support i dont get how she expects people to feel sorry for her…
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Congrats…but how does u being fortunate mean we should say to hell with her?
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Not saying im fortunate my mother worked Hard for 10 to 12 hours a day to make sure i had this chick is to busy giving interviews for my taste… Like i said i dont feel sorry for her AT all…but thats JMO
Gigi26

:hugs: GA Baby!! 2600 damn sure ain’t enough, not in these times…
I Go There

NaijaGal says:

His daughter should have the same lifestyle as his son will have…

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Yep and to do that he should file for Permanent Custody
meaning that since its ALL ABOUT THE CHILD right the courts should put the child in that “Better” lifestyle and give the kid to the father.

Seems like a win-win…The child gets the same lifestyle as her brother and the Child support issue is null and void.
http://www.landofpure.net Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

whoever said his children should live the same lifestyle. THAT is only fair. anything else is bs
Gigi26

I mean his wife got a damn 2-3 month old baby wearing buberry n shyt so FOH, she should get more….that’s his first child..do right by her at the very mimimum.
OutsidetheBox

What does HER mortgage have to do with Child support?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pAzGSRdTGgA&feature=player_embedded AWESOME

His daughter should have the same lifestyle as his son will have…

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So she should live with the parent that can provide that lifestyle.
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

THIS MAN DID DENY THIS CHILD ON SEVERAL OCCASSION AND HIS DAUGHTER IS ENTITLED TO LIVE A LIFESTYLE COMPARABLE TO HIS OWN

END OF STORY..

TAKE THE EMOTIONS OUT OF IT AND GET A BETTER ATTORNEY-DAYUM WHAT FOLKS HAVE TO SAY, WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR CHILD(REN) YOU DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO GET THEM WHAT THEY ARE ENTITLED TO

BECAUSE AS WE CAN SEE WHEN THE DADDY GET TIRED OF LAYING UP AND PLAYING-HE’S GONE AND ON TO THE NEXT

THAT’S WHY IT’S BEST TO GET IT ON PAPER, CAUSE WHEN HE CATCHES AMNESIA HE’LL REMEMBER ERRRY TIME HE SEE THAT PAYCHECK

FAWK WHAT YA HEARD, THERE IS NO WAY ON THIS GREEN EARTH THAT ANYONE SHOULD TRY TO JUSTIFY THAT CHILD NEEDING FOOD STAMPS OR GOVERNMENT ASSISTANCE WHEN HER DAD IS A RICH

AN AVERAGE DUDE COULDN’T GET AWAY WITH IT, SO WHY SHOULD HE?
Mannie

I Go There says:

NaijaGal says:

His daughter should have the same lifestyle as his son will have…

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Yep and to do that he should file for Permanent Custody
meaning that since its ALL ABOUT THE CHILD right the courts should put the child in that “Better” lifestyle and give the kid to the father.

Seems like a win-win…The child gets the same lifestyle as her brother and the Child support issue is null and void.
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!*LaKErCHiC@*!

so u take the baby from the mother..
Ms. Everything

$2600 a month is more than the average person in the country’s salary (especially if you move out of the metropolitan areas). You’d be surprised how far $2600 can stretch if you make a budget and stick to it. Generally you get severance pay when you’re laid off also. I’m thinking she either wasn’t saving or wasn’t planning found herself in a rough situation and is now trying to fix that. Not saying there is anything wrong with getting food stamps. But there are very few places where you can have #2600 per month income (cause child support is considered income) and still be eligible for stamps in a 2 person household. Instead of giving interviews to blogs she needs to be out looking for a new job since clearly she isn’t getting any more money out of him for the time being. OR send that baby to London for the Olympics and cut back on her expenses for the summer with the baby gone. It’s not rocket science and again I don’t care how trifling the man may be these mothers need to stop worrying about him and pick their asses off the floor and do for their children. All the extraness is dumb
Lovely One

Mannie says:

And i will add that as a child of a single mother who made sure i had any and everything without child support i dont get how she expects people to feel sorry for her…
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That is the problem with the black community now. Its great to be an independent woman who will take care of her business despite not receiving any help. HOWEVER, this mind frame also removes the responsibility of the father in this situation.

That is not okay. EVERYONE should have accountability
lovezoe

Shucks, I live in VA. Won’t even say how much I pay for a 2nd room. 2600 is nothing in most locales. At first I thought she was bitter, now seeing Bosh for what a bish he is. If you can talk a man outta taking care of his child, what you think gone happen when y’all split?
GAGIRL87

Just on GP I feel like if she lost her job and fell on hard times KNOWING he has child there, he should help. I know me and my child father are not together but we are mature about the situation and I have no doubt if I needed him to help me or if I lost my job he would be there to give a lil exra something b/c he has a son that lives with me. It’s just the right thing to do imo
OutsidetheBox

Not taday.
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

BEING POOR IS NOT ILLEGAL, NOT PAYING CHILD SUPPORT ACCORDING TO YOUR INCOME IS

AND HAVING MONEY DOESN’T NECESSARILY CONSTITUTE THAT YOU ARE A BETTER PARENT, JUST A PROVIDER-HUGE DIFFERENCE
Bibi

@Mannie

That is my definition of fortunate…ur moms got it done….

I really never heard of her interviewing like that…all I kept seeing was how he wanted to do this and that….and I thought well TMZ is probably not calling her so perhaps he was trying to illicit sympathy seeing as how he’s part of the infamous 3 and such but that’s jmo….
NaijaGal

IGO well in that case she’d have to pay him child support if he has custody…
GAGIRL87

INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:

THIS MAN DID DENY THIS CHILD ON SEVERAL OCCASSION AND HIS DAUGHTER IS ENTITLED TO LIVE A LIFESTYLE COMPARABLE TO HIS OWN

END OF STORY..

TAKE THE EMOTIONS OUT OF IT AND GET A BETTER ATTORNEY-DAYUM WHAT FOLKS HAVE TO SAY, WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR CHILD(REN) YOU DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO GET THEM WHAT THEY ARE ENTITLED TO

BECAUSE AS WE CAN SEE WHEN THE DADDY GET TIRED OF LAYING UP AND PLAYING-HE’S GONE AND ON TO THE NEXT

THAT’S WHY IT’S BEST TO GET IT ON PAPER, CAUSE WHEN HE CATCHES AMNESIA HE’LL REMEMBER ERRRY TIME HE SEE THAT PAYCHECK

FAWK WHAT YA HEARD, THERE IS NO WAY ON THIS GREEN EARTH THAT ANYONE SHOULD TRY TO JUSTIFY THAT CHILD NEEDING FOOD STAMPS OR GOVERNMENT ASSISTANCE WHEN HER DAD IS A RICH

AN AVERAGE DUDE COULDN’T GET AWAY WITH IT, SO WHY SHOULD HE?
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http://www.landofpure.net Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

igo? the fukk??
#irefuse thats statement holds no merit. she doesnt have to give up her child for her child to have what her child’s sibling has
Mannie

Gigi26 says:

I mean his wife got a damn 2-3 month old baby wearing buberry n shyt so FOH, she should get more….that’s his first child..do right by her at the very mimimum.
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You mean to tell me that you believe that 2600 a month wont cover child care food for the Child and fly clothes? thats BS that means she can spend 650 a week just on the childs expenses. Child support is for the CHILD not angry baby momma who mad she aint get the ring…
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

IF YOU ARE WEALTHY MAYBE YOU SHOULD BED A WOMAN WHO MAKES LESS THAN YOU OR HAS NO INCOME/CAREER

THEN YOU WOULDN’T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT SHARING YOUR WEALTH, PROCREATE WITH YOUR OWN KIND
OutsidetheBox

BEING POOR IS NOT ILLEGAL, NOT PAYING CHILD SUPPORT ACCORDING TO YOUR INCOME IS

AND HAVING MONEY DOESN’T NECESSARILY CONSTITUTE THAT YOU ARE A BETTER PARENT, JUST A PROVIDER-HUGE DIFFERENCE
http://www.landofpure.net Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

the devil IS a damn lie!
lovezoe

Mannie and Go- love y’all. But y’all on some BS. For real. My mom was a single mom with VERY VERY VERY little CS. She struggled. Should she. I had all my necessities, but she struggled. Why should a mom struggle and dad not. To suggest taking the child away?! Bs
OutsidetheBox

And Mannie you are one of those ppl against social service programs correct?
http://www.landofpure.net Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

wish i was at my so i can type out my thoughts on this
then again
Usual Suspect

Morning folks – Didn’t think he ever married her.

Would say more, but that’s all I got….Not watching the viedo, cause I don’t see how a woman could keep her daughter away from her father. SYCK BISH
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

FAYL IM STILL PROCESSING THAT COMMENT THAT ALL THREE MEN AGREE WITH SO REMOVING THE CHILD FROM HER MOTHER **EMOTIONAL DAMAGE** IS WORHT NOT GIVING UR CHILD THE LIFE U ARE GIVING UR WIFE WHO IS NOT UR BLOOD I MEAN #DIDHEPOSTTHAT
OutsidetheBox

You can pay 300 in childcare alone if you want a provider not a babysitter!
GAGIRL87

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Ms. Everything says:

$2600 a month is more than the average person in the country’s salary (especially if you move out of the metropolitan areas). You’d be surprised how far $2600 can stretch if you make a budget and stick to it. Generally you get severance pay when you’re laid off also. I’m thinking she either wasn’t saving or wasn’t planning found herself in a rough situation and is now trying to fix that. Not saying there is anything wrong with getting food stamps. But there are very few places where you can have #2600 per month income (cause child support is considered income) and still be eligible for stamps in a 2 person household. Instead of giving interviews to blogs she needs to be out looking for a new job since clearly she isn’t getting any more money out of him for the time being. OR send that baby to London for the Olympics and cut back on her expenses for the summer with the baby gone. It’s not rocket science and again I don’t care how trifling the man may be these mothers need to stop worrying about him and pick their asses off the floor and do for their children. All the extraness is dumb
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How do you know she’s not actively seeking employment????
Bibi

Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:) says:

igo? the fukk??
#irefuse thats statement holds no merit. she doesnt have to give up her child for her child to have what her child’s sibling has
OutsidetheBox

#DIDHEPOSTTHAT

CC
Gigi26

You mean to tell me that you believe that 2600 a month wont cover child care food for the Child and fly clothes? thats BS that means she can spend 650 a week just on the childs expenses. Child support is for the CHILD not angry baby momma who mad she aint get the ring…

2600?! Mannie come on. Where does she live? She lost her job. It was enough when she was working but now that she isn’t, to me it’s not. I’m not saying she should kick back and live off of his earnings for the rest of her life but I’m sure she’s trying to find another job (or at least I hope she is). Depending on where she lives 2600 can be gone in a heartbeat especially if she isn’t getting vouchers for day care and the like.
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

WOW I THOUGHT SHE WAS JUST A BABY MOM, BUT AN EX WIFE

SHE NEED HER ARSE WHUPPED, TO MANY CHICKS TRYING TO HOLD ON TO THE GUY OR GET HIM BACK PLAY NICE IN LEGAL PROCEEDINGS THINKING IT WILL WIN THEM POINTS WITH HIM IN THE END

LOL-THAT SHIAT WILL GET YOU FAWKED UP AND WITH EMPTY POCKETS ALL THE TIME

SHE DEFINITELY NEEDS TO SEEK LEGAL COUNSEL, SHE WAS DUPED
lovezoe

CS is for the upkeep of the child. The child got to eat, sleep in a bed, have lights, heat, etc. so yeah dude need to pony up. So Mannie you honestly, honestly think its okay for dude to make millions a year and only pay 2600?! For real Mannie?
GAGIRL87

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Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:) says:

igo? the fukk??
#irefuse thats statement holds no merit. she doesnt have to give up her child for her child to have what her child’s sibling has

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Fayla I know that comment had me like
Mannie

Lovely One says:

Mannie says:

And i will add that as a child of a single mother who made sure i had any and everything without child support i dont get how she expects people to feel sorry for her…
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That is the problem with the black community now. Its great to be an independent woman who will take care of her business despite not receiving any help. HOWEVER, this mind frame also removes the responsibility of the father in this situation.

That is not okay. EVERYONE should have accountability
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I agree but my point was my mother did it inspite of not getting anything she is getting a month in child support what some people dont get a month for going to work everyday mind you $2600 a month is $31200 a year thats a damn jobs salary just to cover the childs expenses…
I Go There

Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:) says:

igo? the fukk??
#irefuse thats statement holds no merit. she doesnt have to give up her child for her child to have what her child’s sibling has
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Fay

That daughter will NEVER have the same things as the son has
NEVER

Not TIME
not MONEY
not ANYTHING

That son is there EVERYDAY with his dad and he will benefit from things the daugher wont. Do I think they should take the daughter and give it to the father? of course not…but lets not think that he paying this woman anything extra is gonna change what the real issue is…

A child without a father
Ms. Everything

Oh yeah and if you’re dumb enough to purposely get pregnant by a man you’re not married too without looking into what could happen if you split and you’re left on your own then

I’m sorry but my sympathy only goes so far. Chris Bosh may be everything she says he is, but he was that when she was him as well. He pays what he pays because that’s what the court ordered him to pay. Honestly, if she didn’t block every time he tries to make arrangements outside the visitation agreement, he probably wouldn’t have a problem paying something outside the custody agreement. I’m sure that baby isn’t starving. If her family is as well off as it’s been claimed then maybe they could help her until she gets back on her feet. This interview definitely won’t be helping her, I can say that much right now
http://www.landofpure.net Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

for me, lifestyle is schooling, “lessons”, medical care, clothing, housing. for the CHILD. that doesnt require said child to live w/the wealthier parent in order to do so
mia2bmore

Its going too far to say that she should give up custody so her child can have the same life as her sibling. The fact is the daughter won’t live the same life because she doesn’t live in the same household. However, with the right child support payment she can be well taken care of. And if its true Allison had a $3k mortgage on a secretary’s salary then she was living above her means. She could’ve found a nice house with a lower mortgage and she would’ve been able to save some money. To blame Chris because she’s going on welfare is not fair. He has nothing to do with her money management skills.
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

OTB BISH U CRAY! JUST LIKE THAT COMMENT HIM MADE
NaijaGal

So because he can monetarily provide, he should get the child just becaue of that? The fcuk!?! and contrary to popular belief child support is to provide a shelter, food and clothing to the child…since when does shelter not include a house…again the fcuk!?!
Lovely One

I Go There says:

Yep and to do that he should file for Permanent Custody
meaning that since its ALL ABOUT THE CHILD right the courts should put the child in that “Better” lifestyle and give the kid to the father.

Seems like a win-win…The child gets the same lifestyle as her brother and the Child support issue is null and void.
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More accommodating lifestyle DOES NOT EQUAL better parenting. Lets be real.

Basketball includes a long season with many games (i.e Bosh is on the road A LOT). When does he have time to take care of a child…consistently. How can he sue for full custody when he is hardly there
http://www.wix.com/santanasantana/artist San

Hmmm I think this is why it is forbidden to not have kids out of wedlock. Creates so many obstacles for you. She’s not gonna get the same lifestyle as his wife, because she is not with him. The same in divorce. People think that because they are no longer together means they still get certain benefits. Fck outta here. Now as far as the child goes, she needs to take that up with the court and as they see fit, so it shall be. Bye
Gigi26

@INTENSE: She wasn’t married to him, they were just together.
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

WITH MEN IT’S ABOUT THE MONEY

I SAY IF I WAS COLD HEARTED AND DIDN’T CARE ABOUT MY CHILD’S OVERALL WELFARE

I WOULD GIVE THE CHILD TO THEM AND SEE HOW THEY HANDLE THE DAY TO DAY LIFE OF RAISING A CHILD, THE HOMEWORK, PREPARING MEALS, COOKING AND CLEANING, ATTENDING AFTER SCHOOL ACTIVITIES AND SPORTS, DEALING WITH DANCE MOMS & TEACHERS, THEIR MOOD SWINGS AND TEMPER TANTRUMS, PUBERTY, DATING, LAZINESS, BEING DEFIANT AND REBELLIOUS

IN THEORY IT EASY, IN REALITY IT’S NO WALK IN THE PARK, I’VE RAISED A SON WHOSE 26 NOW SO I KNOW ALL ABOUT IT CAUSE I LIVED IT AND MOST MEN HAVE NO CLUE

DON’T GET ME WRONG THERE ARE SINGLE FATHERS HOLDING IT DOWN, BUT THE MEN WHO ONLY WANT TO TAKE THE CHILD SO THEY DON’T PAY CHILD SUPPORT OBVIOUSLY DON’T HAVE THE CHILD’S BEST INTEREST IN MIND, JUST THEIR OWN POCKETS
http://www.wix.com/santanasantana/artist San

mia2bmore says:

Its going too far to say that she should give up custody so her child can have the same life as her sibling. The fact is the daughter won’t live the same life because she doesn’t live in the same household. However, with the right child support payment she can be well taken care of. And if its true Allison had a $3k mortgage on a secretary’s salary then she was living above her means. She could’ve found a nice house with a lower mortgage and she would’ve been able to save some money. To blame Chris because she’s going on welfare is not fair. He has nothing to do with her money management skills.
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Totally agree
lovezoe

Mia/ SOME secretaries dOnt make pennies.
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

OK THE TITLE SAYS CHRIS BOSH’S FIRST WIFE SPEAKS OUT-BUT OK?!?!
GAGIRL87

97

OutsidetheBox says:

You can pay 300 in childcare alone if you want a provider not a babysitter!
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And THAT’S $300 A WEEK at some places
Gigi26

And if its true Allison had a $3k mortgage on a secretary’s salary then she was living above her means.
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Not necessarily true. Some “Secretaries” depending on sector can make as much as 60k->Executive Assitants and the like.
lovezoe

Naja- Seems some don’t understand what CS is.
Bibi

INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:

WITH MEN IT’S ABOUT THE MONEY
I SAY IF I WAS COLD HEARTED AND DIDN’T CARE ABOUT MY CHILD’S OVERALL WELFARE
I WOULD GIVE THE CHILD TO THEM AND SEE HOW THEY HANDLE THE DAY TO DAY LIFE OF RAISING A CHILD, THE HOMEWORK, PREPARING MEALS, COOKING AND CLEANING, ATTENDING AFTER SCHOOL ACTIVITIES AND SPORTS, DEALING WITH DANCE MOMS & TEACHERS, THEIR MOOD SWINGS AND TEMPER TANTRUMS, PUBERTY, DATING, LAZINESS, BEING DEFIANT AND REBELLIOUS
IN THEORY IT EASY, IN REALITY IT’S NO WALK IN THE PARK, I’VE RAISED A SON WHOSE 26 NOW SO I KNOW ALL ABOUT IT CAUSE I LIVED IT AND MOST MEN HAVE NO CLUE
DON’T GET ME WRONG THERE ARE SINGLE FATHERS HOLDING IT DOWN, BUT THE MEN WHO ONLY WANT TO TAKE THE CHILD SO THEY DON’T PAY CHILD SUPPORT OBVIOUSLY DON’T HAVE THE CHILD’S BEST INTEREST IN MIND, JUST THEIR OWN POCKETS
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XXPVcoXZkLg Mother Jefferson

I want to know how much yall make. Its mothers out there scraping by on much less. Lets be for real yall
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

IF HE PROVIDE THAT KIND OF LIFE FOR HIS WIFE THEN HE SHOULD PROVIDE THE SAME AND THEN SOME FOR HIS DAUGHTER TOO.. FAWK THE EXCUSES ATLEAST MAKE SURE SHE HAS A ROOF OVER HER FUKN HEAD.. YEAH THE MAMA GOING TO LIVE THERE GUESS WHY BECUASE SHE IS THE PARENT HERE NOT HIM EVEN IF HE DOES GET THE CHILD IM SURE HE WONT RAISE HER.. THE STEP MAMA WILL SO THAT WONT SOLVE SHAIT ABOUT SPENDING TIME WITH THE CHILD.. JUST MAN THE FAWK UP U GOT THE MONEY SHE DOES NOT THATS THE FUKN HUUUUGE DIFERENCE HERE JUST HELP UR DAUGHTER DO IT AND CHUNK IT UP TO “THE FATHER THING TO DO” FAWK!
I Go There

lovezoe says:

Mannie and Go- love y’all. But y’all on some BS. For real. My mom was a single mom with VERY VERY VERY little CS. She struggled. Should she. I had all my necessities, but she struggled. Why should a mom struggle and dad not. To suggest taking the child away?! Bs
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See… all yall saw was me saying TAKE THE CHILD away

what Im really pointing at is if taking care of this child is gonna be SO much of a hardship for you… and you see that dude overthere living high on the hog… why deny that child any contact with that father.

Thats all im saying…
lovezoe

Here the low end for a babysitter is $125 a week.
Mannie

Okay let me try and cover all of the questions

@ Lovezoe Why should a mom struggle and dad not. To suggest taking the child away?! Bs

Never would i suggest that he has to pay nothing i am saying that if all of that money went to the child and the care of the child then trust 2600 a month is more than enough.
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@OutsidetheBox says: And Mannie you are one of those ppl against social service programs correct?

Not entirely but i have seen people skate by for years on gov assistance and i no i dont like it do i believe that some people really need help pat times Hell yes do i believe that this young woman is one of them Hell no…And iff you are paying 300 a week for child care then where is the other 350 a week going?
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@Lovezoe So Mannie you honestly, honestly think its okay for dude to make millions a year and only pay 2600?! For real Mannie?
You damn skippy speding 31 large a year a kid is way outside the average persons budget this should be about the childs needs and nothing more.
Xena68

All i know is when i was about 13 I had to go live with my dad because my mom fell on hard times financially and those two could not stand each other at that time but she made the right decision to let me go live in a better financial environment until she got back on her feet so i see nothing wrong with that situation why should I have suffered for how they felt about each other.
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

DON’T GET ME WRONG THERE ARE SINGLE FATHERS HOLDING IT DOWN, BUT THE MEN WHO ONLY WANT TO TAKE THE CHILD SO THEY DON’T PAY CHILD SUPPORT OBVIOUSLY DON’T HAVE THE CHILD’S BEST INTEREST IN MIND, JUST THEIR OWN POCKETS
Crickett

She could have probably gotten a better job if she hadn’t spent years accompaning him overseas while he worked, having a baby that HE wanted and then having to have her mother send her money to come home after Bosh left her and the baby in a foreign country with no money for rent or food. They went in on a baby, she takes care of the baby, he supports the baby- she deserves more money than a tip drill.
NaijaGal

Just b/c your mom or some woman made a $1 out of 15 cents doesn’t mean she should have…and people complain about women who have to work 3 jobs to make it not even having time to raise their children thus creating another cycle, but I digress
I Go There

!*LaKErCHiC@*! says:

OTB BISH U CRAY! JUST LIKE THAT COMMENT HIM MADE
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The comment was meant to be crazy… you didnt get it
GAGIRL87

It’s sad to say but obviously her heart was in the right place you know how many women who have babies by athletes NEVER has or refuse to get a job. The fact that she TRIED to work but got laid off is amazing b/c most of these baby momma’s of the rich and famouse would NEVER

Don’t worry about it my favorite saying is KARMA is a bitch b/c when you dig one ditch you better dig two one for yourself
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3jsZhYyyPuI FeFe Feminine

wow….if folks only knew what that stood for..
mia2bmore

@Lovezoe I know some secretaries don’t make pennies but how much could she have been making if as soon as she loses her job she’s broke and applying for food stamps? She should have some type of savings. Even if she was making a decent living she has terrible money management skills because with savings and child support she would not be applying for food stamps. She would be able to manage for at least a little while.
sexyphillygirl

Im ONLY speaking from the secretary side of her salary because I am a Executive Assistant and I make $70K a year but I cant see how she has a $3G month mortgage and a child thats stretching it.

I dont think she should give up custodoy but $2600 with a salary would be good however since she lost her job she should get an increase, how much I dont know but I do think they should go 50/50 on the child’s expenses at least and no he should not pay her entire rent but a portion of her support should go to it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BbVuI9sUlcE @NikkeMinxx

*Disclaimer: I dont have any children* but I Igo and whomever else said it.. Two children living in different households will never have the same lifestyle no matter how much support Daddy pays and I’m tired of that being the number one argument in these battles. Child Support seems to be treated like punitive damages for a broken heart and I dont agree with it.
lovezoe

His pretty wife better be stacking chips, that’s all I got to say.
Truth

I’m really annoyed by her. If I am not mistaken, their child together is 3 years old; who can’t feed a child with $2500 per month? This really pisses me off!! If she don’t know where their next meal is coming from, then she should allow the father to be a father until she get herself together. Unfortunately her child support is in the great state of Texas where the support for the child is determined by the first $7500 of the non-custodial parent’s income. He should not be required to pay more money just because she lost her job. If she wasn’t so he-ll bent on slandering him to the media, she probably could have asked him for help in private and received it. As for the comparison of what the wife has and what the baby momma should have is ridiculous!! I’m quite sure she (the ex) received the same perks when she was with him.
Daisy

I hope they can find a way to co parent and do what’s best for their child. I am sure they have both been right and wrong at times.
Mannie

!*LaKErCHiC@*! says:

IF HE PROVIDE THAT KIND OF LIFE FOR HIS WIFE THEN HE SHOULD PROVIDE THE SAME AND THEN SOME FOR HIS DAUGHTER TOO..
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And this right here is why i know for alot women its not abot the child why is what his wife does even involved?
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

why deny that child any contact with that father.
SEE THAT I AGREE WITH DONT DENY THE CHILD THE CHANCE TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH HER FATHER.. SHE IS WRONG IN THAT PART.. BUT HE HAS THE MEANS TO GIVE HIS DAUGHTER A BETTER LIFE EVEN IF THAT MEANS HELPING THE MOM OUT TOO THAT SHOULDNT MATTER HE SHOULD JUST DO IT FOR HIS DAUGHTER..
GAGIRL87

INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:

WITH MEN IT’S ABOUT THE MONEY
I SAY IF I WAS COLD HEARTED AND DIDN’T CARE ABOUT MY CHILD’S OVERALL WELFARE
I WOULD GIVE THE CHILD TO THEM AND SEE HOW THEY HANDLE THE DAY TO DAY LIFE OF RAISING A CHILD, THE HOMEWORK, PREPARING MEALS, COOKING AND CLEANING, ATTENDING AFTER SCHOOL ACTIVITIES AND SPORTS, DEALING WITH DANCE MOMS & TEACHERS, THEIR MOOD SWINGS AND TEMPER TANTRUMS, PUBERTY, DATING, LAZINESS, BEING DEFIANT AND REBELLIOUS
IN THEORY IT EASY, IN REALITY IT’S NO WALK IN THE PARK, I’VE RAISED A SON WHOSE 26 NOW SO I KNOW ALL ABOUT IT CAUSE I LIVED IT AND MOST MEN HAVE NO CLUE
DON’T GET ME WRONG THERE ARE SINGLE FATHERS HOLDING IT DOWN, BUT THE MEN WHO ONLY WANT TO TAKE THE CHILD SO THEY DON’T PAY CHILD SUPPORT OBVIOUSLY DON’T HAVE THE CHILD’S BEST INTEREST IN MIND, JUST THEIR OWN POCKETS
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#POW Now that’s real chit
Gigi26

@Xena68 That’s what I suggested but i’m going to be honest. I am not a parent and God willing won’t become one until I am married to someone because of circumstances like this.

Thinking about it, I would not be totally comfortable with my child living with his new wife who just became a mother herself. He’s on the road, so those responsiblities become hers and i’ll be damned if a new bish get outta line with my baby because she now has her own. If she can prove that she will treat my child like hers then sure not a problem. But something tells me that she doesn’t trust the Wife so this is the route she’s taking. I mean if he can pay for fertility treatments, what was so bad that he can’t kick her a little more dough until she gets back on her feet?
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

Xena68 says:

All i know is when i was about 13 I had to go live with my dad because my mom fell on hard times financially and those two could not stand each other at that time but she made the right decision to let me go live in a better financial environment until she got back on her feet so i see nothing wrong with that situation why should I have suffered for how they felt about each other.

^^^^

THAT’S MATURITY-PUTTING YOUR PETTY DIFFERENCES ASIDE FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR CHILD, NOT EVERYONE CAN DO THAT

AND IT WAS CONSENTUAL, BUT IF SHE ISN’T WILLING TO GIVE HER CHILD UP BECAUSE SHE HAS FALLEN ON HARD TIMES, HE SHOULD BE CONCERNED FOR HOW HIS DAUGHTER IS LIVING AND AT LEAST TEMPORARILY STEP IN AND ASSIST TO ENSURE SHE HAS, THE CHILD, THE BASICS-ROOF OVER HER HEAD, HEALTH INSURANCE, CLOTHES, CHILD CARE WHILE MAMA LOOKS FOR A JOB AND FINDS ONE

BECAUSE HE IS IN A POSITION TO DO SO, WHEN YOU AINT GOT IT I CAN UNDERSTAND BUT WHEN YOU RICH AND YOU SEE YOUR CHILD SUFFERING AND DON’T STEP UP IT ONLY SHOWS THAT YOU SIMPLY DON’T TAKE CARE OF YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES

I BET IF SHE WAS STILL FUGGIN HIM HE WOULD BREAK HER OFF-MEN TALK THAT YING YANG BECAUSE MONEY IS POWER AND AS LONG AS YOU MARCH TO THE BEAT OF THEIR DRUM THEY TOSS YOU A LIL SOMETHING

BUT THE MOMENT YOU DON’T..YOU CUT OFF

GET YOU OWN AND TAKE HIM TO COURT FOR HIS SHARE-BOTTOM LINE, I BE DAMN IF I’M GOING TO HAVE MY HAND OUT ERRY MONTH ASKING YOU TO CONTRIBUTE AND WAITING TO SEE IF YOU FEEL LIKE GIVING IT-NO CAN DO~
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BbVuI9sUlcE @NikkeMinxx

Intense, you have a 26 year old son? :confused:
Mannie

!*LaKErCHiC@*! says:

DON’T GET ME WRONG THERE ARE SINGLE FATHERS HOLDING IT DOWN, BUT THE MEN WHO ONLY WANT TO TAKE THE CHILD SO THEY DON’T PAY CHILD SUPPORT OBVIOUSLY DON’T HAVE THE CHILD’S BEST INTEREST IN MIND, JUST THEIR OWN POCKETS
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Because its RE-Damn-Dicoulos to believe that for a child you can spend $20,000 a month thats stupid! no one can spend that on a child who isnt even in school yet!!!!!!!
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

MANNIE BECAUSE AT ONE POINT THE BABYMAMA HAD ALL OF IT **JUST LIKE THE WIFE** AND JUST BECAUSE U AND HER DONT WORK OUT AND U MOVE ON DOES NOT MEAN UR DAUGHTER HAS TO FINANCIALY SUFFER TOO.. ALL IM SAYING IS HE HAS THE MEANS TO DO IT HE HAS THE MONEY JUST MAKE SURE THAT UR DAUGHTER HAS A ROOF OVER HER HEAD U WOULD DO IT IF U WERE STILL WITH BABYMAMA SO DO IT NOW
Bibi

Doesn’t he have visitation? When did they say he cant see the kid?
I Go There

NaijaGal says:

So because he can monetarily provide, he should get the child just becaue of that? The fcuk!?! and contrary to popular belief child support is to provide a shelter, food and clothing to the child…since when does shelter not include a house…again the fcuk!?!
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Naija

I agree and CS should provide for all of that… Im speaking to what people said as though his daughter was and SHOULD have the same life as his son… In a perfect world yes thats gonna happen… but we all know thats not gonna happen unless she stays with her dad.

Look I dont think the child should be taken away
AGAIN I DONT THINK THE CHILD SHOULD BE TAKEN AWAY

I was just speaking on how things go..
lovezoe

People think marriage is the answer to situations like this. It’s not. A bum nigga is a bum nigga.
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

IGO
I SAID IT WAS CRAY AND
I KNOW THERE IS A REASON FOR UR MADNESS..
Mannie

!*LaKErCHiC@*! says:

MANNIE BECAUSE AT ONE POINT THE BABYMAMA HAD ALL OF IT **JUST LIKE THE WIFE** AND JUST BECAUSE U AND HER DONT WORK OUT AND U MOVE ON DOES NOT MEAN UR DAUGHTER HAS TO FINANCIALY SUFFER TOO.. ALL IM SAYING IS HE HAS THE MEANS TO DO IT HE HAS THE MONEY JUST MAKE SURE THAT UR DAUGHTER HAS A ROOF OVER HER HEAD U WOULD DO IT IF U WERE STILL WITH BABYMAMA SO DO IT NOW
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If she was really all for the well being of the child she would say i cant support myself without a job let alone support my child and since he got the dough to do it and love you while doing it then im gonna let you stay with him until i get my ish together…Im sorry i just dont get the child support money being thousands upon thousands a month!!!!!!!!!!!!!
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

MAN LOOK JUST TAKE HIS CULO TO COURT A JUDGE WILL INCREASE THAT SHAIT.. THE MEDIA IS NOT HELPING.. WONT MAKE HIM GIVE HER ANY MORE JUST DISLIKE HER AZZ A LITTLE MORE AND FIGHT IT **SIGH**
Xena68

Agreed @ Gigi & Intense.
Usual Suspect

Chris Bosh and his baby mama WAS never married, 800.00 a month is enough child support for a mother to support 1 CHILD, let alone 2500.00

2500.00 is monthly income for a larger number of people and there is other who prays to ever make that kind of money and have 5 children.

As a ex-wife who receives a child support. It’s more than enough, matter of fact it was much more, but he begged and pleaded that I ask the courts to reduce, so begrudgingly I did so.

Thank GOD for Jesus I’m gainfully employed full-time and all of my sons needs are met and the Child Support is an added bonus. However, the child support has allowed me to have him tutored year round. His 5500.00 braces are fully paid off and he participates in many activities, without me saying I don’t have it. I don’t ask his father for additional expenses as the court instructed me to do.

IMHO, when mother/ex-wives for the jugular they are being vindictive and as Sweet Brown would say; I AIN”T GOT TIME FOR THAT
sexyphillygirl

@Love-I agree 100%
I Go There

@NikkeMinxx says:

*Disclaimer: I dont have any children* but I Igo and whomever else said it.. Two children living in different households will never have the same lifestyle no matter how much support Daddy pays and I’m tired of that being the number one argument in these battles. Child Support seems to be treated like punitive damages for a broken heart and I dont agree with it
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And that was all I was saying…

Nobody has said shait about ole girl not letting the daughter the go to London with her father..

Cause the first thing somebody gonna say is
“he’s not paying this so she should go”

But the child wins in this
she gets taken care of EXACTLY like the brother
AND she gets time to spend with her Father

Cause isnt that really what this is all about?…. TIME
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

MANNIE OK U WIN SHE SHOULD JUST BE SELFISH **MAYBE LIKE HE SHOULD WITH HIS FUKN MONEY** AND GIVE HER A BETTER LIFE BY GIVING HER TO THE FATHER SHE HAS NOT BEEN AROUDN SO PROLLY DONT KNOW THAT WELL.. YEP THAT WILL SOLVE THIS
NubianJ

It sounds like some women are mad and bitter they got pregnant by a no good bum that ain’t got two nickels to rub together and wanna compare their situation to hers. A stand up guy would at least step in a help for a little bit until business is handled. All you people talking about she is just gold digging has got to be stuck on stupid. THE WOMAN HAD A JOB! And 2600 is NOT ALOT of money. And why can’t the money go to rent or mortgage? The child got to live somewhere.
Bibi

If she was really all for the well being of the child she would say i cant support myself without a job let alone support my child and since he got the dough to do it and love you while doing it then im gonna let you stay with him until i get my ish together…Im sorry i just dont get the child support money being thousands upon thousands a month!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Couldn’t u also argue that if HE was about what’s best for that child he wouldn’t try to disrupt this child’s life and have enough respect for his child’s mother to help her? All for less than what he spends on handbags?
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

A stand up guy would at least step in a help for a little bit until business is handled.
THATS ALL IM SAYING HELP WHILE THEY ARE DOWN
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

Couldn’t u also argue that if HE was about what’s best for that child he wouldn’t try to disrupt this child’s life and have enough respect for his child’s mother to help her? All for less than what he spends on handbags?
Ms. Everything

GA I’m not saying she isn’t looking for a job but instead of doing interviews and fighting him in court over the Olympics she should have taken advantage of having the opportunity to have less expense and time to do all she needs to do like finding a new job. Her child support may or may not change (someone on here said that in TX she’s receiving the max child support) so she needs to do what she can on her end to make this better. If everytime I got down on my luck I ran around bashing my ex and trying to milk my woe is me story I would never get anything done

Fact: She intentionally got pregnant by a man she was not married to (no issue with babies out of wedlock but I have a big problem with planning to do so and not contemplating the possible outcomes)

Fact: She fights him tooth and nail whenever he wants to make arrangements out of the strict visitation schedule (if she wants him to give on things like cs she should be willing to give on things like visits)

Fact: She chose to do an interview with some blog site talking ish about what he’s not doing (at least if you gone do it go to a network and get paid for your story since you’re so broke)

I’m all for men taking care of their responsibilities but I’m not gonna coddle a woman for sitting back complaining about how the gamble she took didn’t work out in her favor
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BbVuI9sUlcE @NikkeMinxx

!*LaKErCHiC@*! says: AND GIVE HER A BETTER LIFE BY GIVING HER TO THE FATHER SHE HAS NOT BEEN AROUDN SO PROLLY DONT KNOW THAT WELL.
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This is the proverbial chicken and the egg… She didn’t want her daughter around the new boo, and also didn’t offer up any extra time and wanted to hold him only to the visitation that the court ordered. The “she doesn’t know her” is negated by the fact that that is the environment she fostered.

You know what? I’m gonna get out of this argument and wait for the
I Go There

Bibi says:

Doesn’t he have visitation? When did they say he cant see the kid?

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she wont let the kid go to London to spend the summer with her father…

Look should Chris Bosh provide a home and a adequate lifestyle for his Daugher?

YES

But whos to say whats adequate
say he buy the mom a crib thats like 160g
in an okay neighborhood

That kid could be happy as hell
but its still gonna be people that say it isnt enough…

mom included because every chance she gets she is gonna think about what that son is getting and how that child is living.

Its human nature
sexyphillygirl

I never understood why we as women dont want the man to see the child, hell thats time that you get to be by yourself and do you smh.
NubianJ

You can’t compare situations because her problems are not exactly your problems. She got pregnant by a millionaire…..you got pregnant by some bum dude. You had no choice but to get a job and support the bastards…….but she didn’t…….she chose to work……now Bosh is getting more money she is legally entitled to more money unlike you who is entitled to more dik and a stick of bubble gum. Glad I’m not a single mom. You won’t admit it but while you are saying this girl is bitter at Bosh I believe y’all are bitter at this girl because her opportunities are still ALOT better than y’all……
Mannie

Couldn’t u also argue that if HE was about what’s best for that child he wouldn’t try to disrupt this child’s life and have enough respect for his child’s mother to help her? All for less than what he spends on handbags?
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Nope cause guess what thats HIS money what does HIS money have to do with her being out of work?

If it was me i would have already petioned the court to gain custody just based on her lack of income.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3jsZhYyyPuI FeFe Feminine

this discussion will never have a conclusion that all parties can agree on…at the end of the day this is why families that are split up and kids spread all around will always cause confusion.
lovezoe

How does not providing the child for London mean she’s keeping him away from baby. I heard the judge said of he wanted the child to go he had to pay for mom. Don’t know the truth. I don’t agree with my mom denying scheduled visits, though.
Lovely One

@ Mannie,

So the ex girlfriend gets $31,200 year. Lets use the New Orleans, LA market as an example.

A nice home (3bd/2ba, 1500 sq ft.) in N.O. start a $250K…but a $30k salary will only provide a $100K-$125K home loan. You do realize that the better neighborhoods provide access to better schools just by living in that district right?

This is not living large…this is living COMFORTABLE. So Bosh makes 18 MILLION PER YEAR, but he cannot provide his child, whom he wanted to create, a comfortable living???

Again, not living LARGE…but living COMFORTABLY???
I Go There

!*LaKErCHiC@*! says:

Couldn’t u also argue that if HE was about what’s best for that child he wouldn’t try to disrupt this child’s life and have enough respect for his child’s mother to help her? All for less than what he spends on handbags?
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once again we going to his pockets
if he cant afford the handbags
then he can afford to take care of the child
the he should get the child… RIGHT?

LMAOOOOO

But really
In a perfect world yes Bosh should make sure that the mother is good because if the mother is good than so is the Child.

But again Whats Good?
Mannie

lovezoe says:

How does not providing the child for London mean she’s keeping him away from baby. I heard the judge said of he wanted the child to go he had to pay for mom. Don’t know the truth. I don’t agree with my mom denying scheduled visits, though.
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See and thats what i mean about moms feeling entitled to the perks why the f you gotta go you act like thats not his father send her to london for the summer stack your CS money for the summer and enjoy the break…
sexyphillygirl

@Mannie-no judge is gonna give a man custody solely because the mom lost her job, you can petition all you want, hell crack addicts get to keep their kids
I Go There

sexyphillygirl says:

I never understood why we as women dont want the man to see the child, hell thats time that you get to be by yourself and do you smh.
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Exactly

but im being crazy
NaijaGal

dang NubianJ went hard in the paint

IGO I see what you’re saying and I think the majority of women here have said she’s wrong if she’s trying to keep the daughter away from him…yes his daughter will not be able to have a 2 parent household like her brother but she also should be on welfare either is what I’m saying…I think we’re all in agreement for the most part…
I Go There

Mannie says:

lovezoe says:

How does not providing the child for London mean she’s keeping him away from baby. I heard the judge said of he wanted the child to go he had to pay for mom. Don’t know the truth. I don’t agree with my mom denying scheduled visits, though.
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See and thats what i mean about moms feeling entitled to the perks why the f you gotta go you act like thats not his father send her to london for the summer stack your CS money for the summer and enjoy the break…

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Homie that sound too much like right
Bibi

@Mannie

Ok. Because taking that child away from his mother…yea that’s whats best…

He loved her enough to say let’s have a kid and now dislikes her enough to let her suffer..good man
Mannie

Lovely One says:

@ Mannie,

So the ex girlfriend gets $31,200 year. Lets use the New Orleans, LA market as an example.

A nice home (3bd/2ba, 1500 sq ft.) in N.O. start a $250K…but a $30k salary will only provide a $100K-$125K home loan. You do realize that the better neighborhoods provide access to better schools just by living in that district right?

This is not living large…this is living COMFORTABLE. So Bosh makes 18 MILLION PER YEAR, but he cannot provide his child, whom he wanted to create, a comfortable living???

Again, not living LARGE…but living COMFORTABLY???
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If you spend $31000 a year on the expenses that are related to the child (IMO housing isnt one of them simply because where were you gonna live if you didnt have the child) then that child is living beyond comfortably.
Ms. Everything

Nubian.. he didn’t come up like he is now until after they split. She didn’t start the court fights she’s doing now until after he got with Adrienne. Being practical is not being bitter. Looking at all of your options again isn’t being bitter. When I lost my job I had to support a family of 5 on 1900 a month and in the good ol state of CA I was only eligible for $300 a month in food stamps. But guess what, I made it and we weren’t destitute. And as soon as I could I cut back on my expenses so that we could live. But I live within my means. Again, not bitter just very practical and I have common sense… I hear that’s not too common nowadays
capricorn83

My problem with this is why do an interview?? Public opinion will not get you more child support…court will. Take your case to court and stay out of media.
Bibi

Seeing a kid and sending him overseas with a man who obviously couldn’t care less bout u are two different worlds to me..
I Go There

NaijaGal says:

dang NubianJ went hard in the paint

IGO I see what you’re saying and I think the majority of women here have said she’s wrong if she’s trying to keep the daughter away from him…yes his daughter will not be able to have a 2 parent household like her brother but she also should be on welfare either is what I’m saying…I think we’re all in agreement for the most part…
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Najia

I already know we are…

Im just laughing at how that one statement of taking the kid away
just set off the alarm
SuthernBelle4

Hey er’body, I hope everyone is doing well
Not really going to say much on this topic but between placing no responsibility on the father, not having any empathy towards this young woman, and calling her a gold digger I see the powers of patriarchy are in full effect
lovezoe

When we gone talk about Jose and em
Truth

I agree with Everything that Ms. Everything said.
Mannie

Bibi says:

@Mannie

Ok. Because taking that child away from his mother…yea that’s whats best…
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See yah are alos forgetting that she is supposed to provide for the child with the father! if she cant provide then why isnt that an issue for folks? See because he rich everybody forgets that moms is supposed to provide for the child to. SMH at all of this ish…
I Go There

Bibi says:

Seeing a kid and sending him overseas with a man who obviously couldn’t care less bout u are two different worlds to me..
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Thats BS

cause dude already takes care of the kid
its just not in the amount the mother needs or thinks is suffice.
sexyphillygirl

I dont like the fact that she keeps doing interviews we cant help her, get your facts in order and only speak to your lawyer and judge.

@ Go-yeah that did set alot of people off including me I normally dont respond to people I am a lurker but daym that how is that helping by taking the baby away, giving her to the WIFE and NANNIES because he is gonna be away alot of the time
Mannie

Bibi says:

Seeing a kid and sending him overseas with a man who obviously couldn’t care less bout u are two different worlds to me..
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If he couldnt care less about the child then he wouldnt be in courts asking for the child to spend the summer with him…Or was i mistaken when i read that?
Ms. Everything

Bibi now would I feel comfortable sending a child overseas with a woman I don’t know.. probably not. But her father is in the Olympics, this isn’t an everyday occurrence or even every year. I think I could have made an allowance for that under the right circumstances (ie: paying my own way to accompany my child, requesting an impartial person like a nanny/relative that we both trust/etc be sent with her, making sure he had really good security for the family while there) but to outright say no and fight him in court Unless he’s shown proof he can’t be trusted with his child then why deny him something like that?
OutsidetheBox

Glad I’m not a single mom. You won’t admit it but while you are saying this girl is bitter at Bosh I believe y’all are bitter at this girl because her opportunities are still ALOT better than y’all……

So fukkin that stick of gum chit? I think I love you..
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

SO ME AND MY LIL MAN WERE HAVING A CONVO WHILE PLAYING XBOX
HIM “MOMMY I DONT LIKE KOBE NO MORE ”
ME “WHY!! WHO DO U LIKE NOW?”
HIM “LEBRON HIM A WINNER.. ”
ME “NO!! DID U JUST SAY LEBRON.. UMM.. WTF.. GO TO THE FUKN CORNER ”
THE BF BOY U AINT GOT TO GO TO THE CORNER UR MAMA NEEDS TO TAKE HER AZZ TO THE CORNER FOR THAT SHAIT!
WHO HAS BEEN RAISING THIS CHILD WHO?!?!!!
lovezoe

Allison needs to forget the court of public opinion and let the Florida judges handle. That’s what Bosh doing. To be a fly on the wall when Gabbi and Adrienne exchanging stories. Folks need to remember the good days and not let outside influence you.
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

@NIKKE

YES I DO, HE’S IN THE MILITARY, MARRIED, NO KIDS, AND HAS NEVER BEEN ARRESTED

GOD IS GOOD, THE OLDER POSTERS SHOULD KNOW THIS BECAUSE WE’VE HAD THIS DISCUSSION BEFORE
deedeegirl

I’m not sure why she should not be allowed to tell her story. That fool is full of money and does not want to support his child. Hell no. Not me.
Bibi

First off I meant he dont care bout the momma, thus dismissing to an extent the well being of that child…cuz that’s just how it is…
OutsidetheBox

Oh yeah @Fe I dont know what it means and I dont care Hun I was just making a funny.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3jsZhYyyPuI FeFe Feminine

@Intense

:hugs:
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

THEY ARE BOTH BEING SELFISH AND DONT HAVE THE CHILD IN MIND BOTH ARE STILL SORE SHE WONT GIVE IN ON TIME HE WONT GIVE IN ON MONEY.. THE CHILD LOSES AND THEY STILL
capricorn83

I agree MS. Everything!!
SuthernBelle4

@deedeegirl I agree with you, Bosh has been telling his story and making it seem like Allison is ratchet so why can’t she tell her side. As far as the new girl she reminds me of a oompa lumpa so I would be afraid she may take the little girl to Willy Wonka’s Chocolate Factory and leave her there never to return.

I spoke to you skeezers, what’s the problem
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3jsZhYyyPuI FeFe Feminine

@OTB
NaijaGal

LOVEZOE the child support was handled in TX and it will take hell and highwater to get it moved elsewhere…on another note <<<really applies to this 'discussion' going round and round
I Go There

sexyphillygirl says:

I dont like the fact that she keeps doing interviews we cant help her, get your facts in order and only speak to your lawyer and judge.

@ Go-yeah that did set alot of people off including me I normally dont respond to people I am a lurker but daym that how is that helping by taking the baby away, giving her to the WIFE and NANNIES because he is gonna be away alot of the time
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I did that playing devil advocate
I would never say give the child away to the dad… i was speaking on how crazy all of this is. And that comment feed into the crazy.

Bosh should make sure the woman has a home
and he should also make sure that his daughter is right as well.

Im just seeing no matter what Bosh does its probably not gonna be right or enough in this matter.

But the main thing is the realation between the Daughter and her Father
Iheart

I see YOU in here starting shyt again < me SMH
Ms. Everything

But see that’s where things get twisted. He is not entitled to care about her anymore, they were never married, they dated and had a child, was he wrong for asking her to have a baby, but she was just as wrong for following through with it and not securing her and her child’s future in the process. Most women don’t choose to be baby mama’s. You can love your child and not like the other parent. You can take care of your child and hate the other parent as long as you can work together. From what I can tell (looking at all the court cases not the blog gossip stories) he’s continued to try to work out ways to have his child more and she has continued to fight him each time Compromise is about equal give and take, you can’t continue to say no and then expect a yes when you need in return and in the eyes of the law he’s doing his part
I Go There

Iheart says:

I see YOU in here starting shyt again < me SMH
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All I did was bring up another variable

aint my fault
OutsidetheBox

Imma stop messing with O stuff. My bad. *slaps fonting fingers*
OutsidetheBox

*delicately touches chest, feigning surprise*
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3jsZhYyyPuI FeFe Feminine

As someone who grew up in a single parent home with my mother from the age of 8 until adulthood I’m one of those people who doesn’t understand how a man feels like all his CS payments should go JUST toward the child’s direct needs. The child ALSO has indirect needs like a stable home. Utilities need to be working (i.e. lights, water, heating/AC, etc.) in order for them to be content. Yes, the mother should ALSO contribute to these things, but if she has the child a majority of the time then her money is already going to costs that the father likely doesn’t even consider. My father was full of shyt, and my mother tried real hard to work with him, but he wouldn’t give her ANY money because he claimed she was gonna use it to take care of her man da fukkk???!!! That wasn’t even in her character, so she put the CS folks on him and got it taken out of his check. He was bitter and mean about it, and all he could do was talk about how he didn’t want to JUST be a check in the mail….ummm, how about we don’t even SEE a check in the mail for that to apply??? #dumbshyt
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pAzGSRdTGgA&feature=player_embedded AWESOME

I would never say give the child away to the dad…
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Why not?
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

Bosh should make sure the woman has a home
and he should also make sure that his daughter is right as well.

Im just seeing no matter what Bosh does its probably not gonna be right or enough in this matter.

But the main thing is the realation between the Daughter and her Father

YEP IT WONT EVER BE ENOUGH BUT LIKE U SAID ITS ALL ABOUT THE DAUGHTER FATHER RELATIONSHIP
Iheart

Damn trouble maker :rollseyes:
OutsidetheBox

I was tryna diffuse. I am not good at that chit..clearly
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

ME AND MY 8 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER’S FATHER HAVEN’T ALWAYS SEEN EYE TO EYE AND WE HAVE CUSSED UP SOMETHING AWFUL, BUT HE PAYS CHILD SUPPPORT SINCE SHE WAS 2 AND WE EVEN WENT TO COURT TOGETHER TO GET IT ON PAPER, I DROVE AND HER RODE-LOL

AT THE END OF THE DAY, WE GET ALONG FOR THE SAKE OF OUR DAUGHTER AND THAT’S BECAUSE WE BOTH LOVE HER AND WANT WHAT’S BEST FOR HER, HE TAKES THE INITIATIVE AND I SUPPORT HIS AND HER RELATIONSHIP, RATHER WE HAVE BEEF OR NOT

EVERY WOMAN ADVOCATING FOR CHILD SUPPORT IS NOT BITTER NOR HAS A DEAD BEAT DAD,BUT RELATIONSHIPS EVEN MARRIAGES FALL APART AND FOR SOME MEN WHEN THEY HAVE MOVED ON THEIR CURRENT FAMILY IS THE FIRST PRIORITY AND THEIR OTHER CHILDREN SOMETIMES ARE A SECOND THOUGHT OR NOT AS MUCH OF A PRIORITY ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO MONEY & TIME

VISITATIONS AND CHILD SUPPORT ARE TWO SEPARATE ISSUES, BUT ONE SHOULDNT’ WITH HOLD VISITIATIONS AS A MEANS TO PRESSURE A MAN INTO PAYING

JUST AS A MAN SHOULDN’T NOT PAY OR REFUSE TO ASSIST LIKE IN THIS CASE, BECAUSE OF VISITATIONS ISSUES-ALL OF THIS SHOULD BE HANDLED IN COURT, TWO IMMATURE PEOPLE HAD A BABY AND CAN’T GET OVER THEMSELVES AND DO WHAT’S RIGHT FOR THE CHILD-AND THAT’S THE REAL ISSUE
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

IHEART ITS ALWAYS HIM FAULT.. ALWAYS THAT GRAVI THO!
yallcrazy

I dont understand why people think that just cause you got knocked up by a man with some dough means you are entitled to live large???
======================
(friendly tone)
Shidddd, IF you got “knocked up” by Donald Trump, should you now be able to have your child living as his father does?

Now, if you get “knocked up” by a street dude with alot of money, it could go either way. #ihaveseenitbothways

<–never been "knocked up"
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

OTB SUUUURE
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

HEY FE FE
lovezoe

Fe- mt dad was to use his JOB insurance on me. He took me off. Didn’t know until I needed surgery. Yeah, I’m bitter how folks not providing. My mom stopped taking him to court, asking. He quit his job before I turned 18. Well, the CS folks still came for him after I was 18
yallcrazy

Fay <–for strength

that a miracle happens and he is healed in the Mighty Mighty name of Jesus
Lovely One

Ms. Everything says:

Bibi now would I feel comfortable sending a child overseas with a woman I don’t know.. probably not. But her father is in the Olympics, this isn’t an everyday occurrence or even every year. I think I could have made an allowance for that under the right circumstances (ie: paying my own way to accompany my child, requesting an impartial person like a nanny/relative that we both trust/etc be sent with her, making sure he had really good security for the family while there) but to outright say no and fight him in court Unless he’s shown proof he can’t be trusted with his child then why deny him something like that?
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I heard that Allison would let the child go to Europe if she could come and watch her baby. That negro said NO!

Now that’s what I heard
capricorn83

Ms. Everything

But see that’s where things get twisted. He is not entitled to care about her anymore, they were never married,

they dated and had a child, was he wrong for asking her to have a baby, but she was just as wrong for following through with it and not securing her and her child’s future in the process. Most women don’t choose to be baby mama’s. You can love your child and not like the other parent. You can take care of your child and hate the other parent as long as you can work together. From what I can tell (looking at all the court cases not the blog gossip stories) he’s continued to try to work out ways to have his child more and she has continued to fight him each time Compromise is about equal give and take, you can’t continue to say no and then expect a yes when you need in return and in the eyes of the law he’s doing his part

Once again…I agree!!
I Go There

AWESOME says:

I would never say give the child away to the dad…
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Why not?

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In this case it really has no merit

The mom feels she can do a better job with the daughte and IS taking care of her

There hasnt been any report on neglect or abuse
and UNLESS that woman agrees on it… it just dont seem like the right thing to do…
OutsidetheBox

The child ALSO has indirect needs like a stable home

Everything you said was so on point and I am so glad it came from someone who has no kids so no bias towards a kid, you just no what you felt as a child!

I tell my kids father all the time…let me pay YOU CS. He aint with that chit cause he know I pay out the ass whether its finances or otherwise (mental, emotional caring). I aint complaining IJS.
Iheart

@Lakes, I know its always his fault Always starting trouble roundst these here parts :rollseyes: You know like big Berthaline in my gravi
I Go There

Iheart says:

Damn trouble maker
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I guess Ill have to take that one…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3jsZhYyyPuI FeFe Feminine

@lovezoe

Girl…..my father had the nerve to try and claim me on his taxes one year….my mom was like “fool, you cannot DO that!, she does not live with you…” Folks are a TRIP I tell you… My mother was kind enough when I was like 24 to contact the state and have them stop taking back CS payments out of his check, but that was out of the kindness of her heart because he still owed that shyt…some folks will never GET IT…
OutsidetheBox

TWO IMMATURE PEOPLE HAD A BABY AND CAN’T GET OVER THEMSELVES AND DO WHAT’S RIGHT FOR THE CHILD-AND THAT’S THE REAL ISSUE
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

I SIT UP AND NIGHT THINKING BOUT MY BABY WHEN SHE SPENDS THE NIGHT AT HER DADDY HOUSE

I KNOW GOOD AND DAMN WELL I WOULD NOT BE COMFORTABLE WITH HER GOING OVERSEAS IF HE HADN’T ALREADY HAD A RELATIONSHIP ESTABLISHED WITH HER AND A HISTORY OF SUCCESSFUL OVER NIGHTS

SHE’S A GIRL FOR ONE AND IT’S TOO MANY DAMN DIDDLERS IN THIS WORLD, HE’S WORKING SO WHO IN THE HELL IS WATCHING MY BABY-SOME HIRED NANNY THAT I DON’T KNOW SHIAT ABOUT OH HELL NAW

IT TAKES TIME, START WITH BABY STEPS THEN BUILD YOURSELF UP

YOU CAN’T C0ME IN MAKING BILL COSBY DADDY DEMANDS WHEN YOU’VE BEEN A EDDIE MURPHY TYPE OF DADDY
Iheart

Nice legs @Fe on your thigh
yallcrazy

Mannie (even though ION agree with your thoughts)
OutsidetheBox

YOU CAN’T C0ME IN MAKING BILL COSBY DADDY DEMANDS WHEN YOU’VE BEEN A EDDIE MURPHY TYPE OF DADDY

Lady we missed you
lovezoe

Intense- my moms said the sametging about overseas. Adrienne has a newborn, she trying to bond with her baby, I would have to pick a nanny to even consider it.
I Go There

YOU CAN’T C0ME IN MAKING BILL COSBY DADDY DEMANDS WHEN YOU’VE BEEN A EDDIE MURPHY TYPE OF DADDY
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IDK… Eddie Murphy probably the shiat to his kids he had with Ole girl
Youve never heard Nicole Murhpy say anything bad about him
That Scary spice shait is another issue… IMO
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pAzGSRdTGgA&feature=player_embedded AWESOME

I Go There says:

AWESOME says:

I would never say give the child away to the dad…
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Why not?

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In this case it really has no merit

The mom feels she can do a better job with the daughte and IS taking care of her

There hasnt been any report on neglect or abuse
and UNLESS that woman agrees on it… it just dont seem like the right thing to do…
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Isn’t that tantamount to saying the woman is automatically the better parent and unless she royally fuks up the man should just deal with it?
Bibi

INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:

I SIT UP AND NIGHT THINKING BOUT MY BABY WHEN SHE SPENDS THE NIGHT AT HER DADDY HOUSE
I KNOW GOOD AND DAMN WELL I WOULD NOT BE COMFORTABLE WITH HER GOING OVERSEAS IF HE HADN’T ALREADY HAD A RELATIONSHIP ESTABLISHED WITH HER AND A HISTORY OF SUCCESSFUL OVER NIGHTS
SHE’S A GIRL FOR ONE AND IT’S TOO MANY DAMN DIDDLERS IN THIS WORLD, HE’S WORKING SO WHO IN THE HELL IS WATCHING MY BABY-SOME HIRED NANNY THAT I DON’T KNOW SHIAT ABOUT OH HELL NAW
IT TAKES TIME, START WITH BABY STEPS THEN BUILD YOURSELF UP
YOU CAN’T C0ME IN MAKING BILL COSBY DADDY DEMANDS WHEN YOU’VE BEEN A EDDIE MURPHY TYPE OF DADDY

This
Shereezy

Gigi26 says:

Okay lets be real for a second….2600 dollars.

She lost her job so the income she would supplement along with the support she receives is NOW GONE. So in essence she NOW has the burden of stretching that money out for the BOTH OF THEM.

So she has rent to pay, food to buy, daycare to pay for, gas, utilities, and the like and I know for a fact 2600 does not cover that if she lives in a decent neighborhood. Unless Bosh wants his kids to live in the projects, either he petitions to assume custody while mommy gets back on her feet, or he coughs out more cash. Shyt his wife is BURNING through his wallet right now so its only right that he kicks her a little something extra. I mean, since the kid was planned and all

Doesn’t have to be 20K but a little over 3500-4000 should be fair imo.

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INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

I’M SPECIFICALLY REFERRING TO THE SCARY SPICE ANTICS

HE DID THAT CHICK DIRRTY AS HELL, DENIED THAT CHILD AND CLAIMED HE WASN’T THE FATHER AND SHE WAS A JUMP OFF AND MEL B FROM DAY ONE WAS TELLING THE TRUTH AND HE LOOKED LIKE AN ARSE HOLE FOR THE WHOLE WORLD TO SEE

BUT EDDIE MURPHY’S WIFE MAY HAVE A GAG ORDER ON HER, WE HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TYPE OF DAD HE IS OR ISN’T

I WAS MAKING A POINT BASED ON AN INCIDENT THAT WE COULD ALL REFER TO BECAUSE IT WAS SO PUBLIC
I Go There

AWESOME says:

I Go There says:

AWESOME says:

I would never say give the child away to the dad…
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Why not?

______________________________

In this case it really has no merit

The mom feels she can do a better job with the daughte and IS taking care of her

There hasnt been any report on neglect or abuse
and UNLESS that woman agrees on it… it just dont seem like the right thing to do…
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Isn’t that tantamount to saying the woman is automatically the better parent and unless she royally fuks up the man should just deal with it
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Hell naw homie…

In THIS Case both seem like good parents

Sometimes the dad is the better parent… it is what it is.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BbVuI9sUlcE @NikkeMinxx

@INTENSE, I knew about your daughter from past posts but I didnt know about the big kid. LOL. Congratulations though, he seems well adjusted. How old were you when you had him (rhetorical) because you look like you could pull a 26 year old… Go ‘head girl!
I Go There

I WAS MAKING A POINT BASED ON AN INCIDENT THAT WE COULD ALL REFER TO BECAUSE IT WAS SO PUBLIC

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Intense I got what you were saying
I was just fking with the subject
capricorn83

I don’t blame Chris about not wanting Allison there. Who would want their angry, bitter baby mama present at one of the biggest events of their life?? It would cause tension for all involved. Why not discuss it like 2 mature adults and take someone along that they both could feel comfortable with??
Usual Suspect

@ IHEART – You pic is screming back up and give me that BOX OF CHICKEN NOW!
MUNCHOSGIRL

OMG! FEFE, YES PEOPLE ARE A TRIP. TRUE STORY, MY OLDEST 3 CHILDREN IS SUPPOSED TO BE PAYING CHILD SUPPORT, HE HAS PAID TWICE THIS YEAR. I COULDN’T TELL YOU THE LAST TIME HE SAW MY KIDS. THIS KNEEGROW HAD THE NERVE TO ASK ME COULD HE CLAIM THEM ON HIS TAXES! THEN CAUGHT AN ATTITUDE BECAUSE THE KIDS DIDN’T CALL HIM ON FATHER’S DAY! I DON’T TALK BAD ABOUT HIM TO OR AROUND THEM, I LET THEM HAVE THEIR OWN OPINIONS WHEN IT COMES TO HIM. HE HAS CONSTANTLY LIED TO THEM SO THEY BELIEVE NOTHING HE SAYS. OUR OLDEST SON GRADUATED FROM HIGH SCHOOL, HE WAS A NO SHOW, MY LAST DAUGHTER’S FATHER WAS THERE. THAT IS WHO MY ELDEST SON CALLED FOR FARTHER’S DAY.
KDub

I can’t read all of this at the current.

But Allison’s mama is a journalist I think. Not an attorney I think I saw. Allison has a trade…she is a chef if I am not mistaken and that is how her and Chris met. She usta work for the Mavericks? Cowboys? IDK. And he is from Texas right? Anywho all I remma is he got the lights turnt out on her while she was preggers with their daughter as she had a hard pregnancy and was on bed rest…and she had to fly home to DC via medical flight to be with her mom. The baby was born early due to stress of her and Chris basically leaving her destitute etc.

All of this was via SportsCenter and SI.

I am on Allison’s side.
Mannie

Im Back…What i miss…LOL
KDub

Yes Allison’s momma Deborah is an award winning journalist who was a White House correspondent during the Clinton Administration…Allison was a child of privilege who went to private school in DC. I honestly dont feel like she is tryna get rich off of Chris. I think its more of a do the right thing.

I could be wrong.
Usual Suspect

@NikkeMinxx says:

*Disclaimer: I dont have any children* but I Igo and whomever else said it.. Two children living in different households will never have the same lifestyle no matter how much support Daddy pays and I’m tired of that being the number one argument in these battles. Child Support seems to be treated like punitive damages for a broken heart and I dont agree with it

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You hit the NAIL on the head

This is what Mister ex feels like. She wants the kids to have the same amenities that we have, however she DOES NOT WORK, and wants’ HIM TO PICK UP HER SLACK.

Example his ex receives a decent amount of support, but yet its summer and when mister told her to buy shorts for the kids; she cut pants legs off good jeans. WHO DOES THIS? When he asked her about it, her response was: They are not yours they are the kid’s clothes and they could do whatever they want. She then went on to say they weren’t finished with them and would be bedazzing them. I threw them away!

I was so FLUCKN AS I PURCHSHED them….

Call or send smoke signal when there is a new post. I HATE TRIFLING AZZ WOMEN! This DEBATE is FRUITLESS.
MUNCHOSGIRL

JUST SAW SOME BEAUTIFUL PHOTOS OF CHRIS WITH BOTH OF HIS CHILDREN. HIS DAUGHTER WAS WITH HIM DURING THE CELEBRATION YESTERDAY…
BoogieNites

the BM look like ashanti
WalkingKontradiction

For the record: I worked in Child Support for 4 1/2 years and this is EXACTLY why I hated it! Men calling talking about it’s her responsibility, no negro it’s BOTH of y’alls responsibility and women calling in talking about he just got married, bought a new house, did whoopty whoo for the wife and his new baby…UGH!

Let me say this: Child Support in almost every state in the nation is designed so that the child does not feel the effects (monetarily) when traveling between households. THAT means daddy got a million dollar house and kid has own room there, kid needs to at the very LEAST have their own room in mommy’s house(not that she needs a million dollar house, too). Folks think it’s cheap to raise kids, no it’s not! So what she’s getting what most women don’t get in child support, it’s based off of the absent-parent’s income and % of visitation, which he really can’t have her that much anyway based on his schedule. This is why I am weary about having kids. You’ve got men talking about what she should do and how she should do it forgetting that she has the child 24/7. My mom made it working two jobs and my dad only paid $250/mnth in child support but made GUAP on his job! She just didn’t want to hear his mouth so she never asked for an increase but guess who suffered? I did! That ish ain’t cool and I’m getting sick and tired of complacent men taking advantage of “get it on my own” women and vice versa when you should be focused on your child and not your ex. If you ask me the bitterness of both parties is what leads to these situations. Just fugg it, I don’t want kids….and all you men hollering about what you make that you ain’t willing to share go get you an educated successful woman, oh wait can’t do that cause it’ll hurt your ego! Be honest with yourself and understand how you keep getting in these messes!
MrUnapologetic

I’m kinda baffled at some of the responses here, but hey we live in a selfish world so I get it. Here’s what I think:

1) It is my understanding that Chris spent millions on an attorney to ensure this women gets the least the courts will allow for child support. So much so that the judge told him “you’re money would have been better spent on your child than in court.” He clearly HATES this women and is motivated by that hate!
2) In my opinion Chris should be ashamed to show his $18 million dollar – 2012 NBA Champion face around Miami knowing just three hours away in Orlando his daughter is on the brink of living on Welfare. I don’t get it… I just left a taping of the Live W/Kelly show here in NYC this morning and he was there being interviewed. His wife stood on the side of the stage with her high fashioned shoes on looking like she didn’t have a care in the world. Does anybody not see something wrong with this picture?
3) For those of you who say all the money should be spent on the child – just so that you know that does includes rent, lights, car payment, insurance, day care, food, clothes, healthcare, entertainment – anything indirect or directly relating to that child that allows for her to have a normal life based on how the mother/caregiver sees fit. When you look at it like that is $2500 really enough? The bottom line is you can’t separate the mother from the child when it comes to paying child support. She is the caregiver and she will directly benefit if the child support is generous and if it’s not she will be the one who will have to compensate for the short-coming; it is what is it. And if Chris has any smarts about himself he would want to make sure they’re BOTH okay!
4) Lastly, if this woman had NEVER lost her job would we be hearing about this. I don’t think so. To me, that speaks volumes about her character. Thanks to that video it’s clear now that HE wanted that child just as much as she did. Call her what you want, but don’t call her stupid for falling in love and trusting him to marry her.
5) Chris is going to be interviewed on Oprah his Sunday – let’s see if she ask him about this.
laterthannever

I wouldn’t be comfortable with my 3 year old going overseas without me, no number of bald mean faced security guards and au pairs would calm an invested mom’s anxiety about that. Put me up in the Queen’s Super 8 and I’ll make sure they get to the game, cheer, hug you, etc., but my baby 8 hours over the Atlantic without me????
free

She basically wants to be taken care of but that’s called alimony, not child support.
free

Oprah’s gonna get in that azz!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d_gGqaUA78I datsmdubya2u

@Mannie

What does HER mortgage have to do with Child support? She is to maintain her household that money should go towards the well being of the child. And since her mortgae is 3000 and if she does apply all all of the child support to that mortgage that means she is only repsonsible for $500 a moth to keep a roof over her head??????????????

Tell me how she cant maintain that? I mean come on.

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When you lose your job! That’s how! I mean dang she was working and lost her job like millions have in this economy…. and what about utilities, gas, clothing, food etc…she was responsible for way more than $500 a month. If she was really gold diggin she would have hit him up long before and not tried to work at all. WOW. I mean men talk about bitter women…some men sound bitter too.
yallcrazy

Men, how would yall feel IF your daddy didn’t pay anything towards your upbringing? Or just threw your mother some crumbs every month, huh?