Quite a few of my loyal readers agreed with my opinion that pregnant teenagers should be removed from their schools and sent to an alternative program that focuses on parenting and childbirth.

Once a teenager becomes pregnant, she becomes a woman with different responsibilities and goals. These teens should not be allowed to distract good girls from receiving a quality education. When the courts and school systems allow pregnant teens in classrooms the implicit message is that teen pregnancy is okay, and even desirable.

Read the emails after the break!

Loyal reader H.W. Qualls writes:

Hi Sandra,

I was reading your post today about pregnant teens in school and I 100% agree with you. We must be around the same age because I do remember those girls going to another high school. It wasn't until I hit the 11th grade that they allowed them to stay and let's just say that some of those early 40 year olds that graduated with my high school class with kids are now grandmoms.

Nonetheless, there was an article in the Washington Post earlier this week that touched on a debate that could be heating up!! The article talks about businesses/healthcare companies not covering pregnant teens who are on their parents insurance. I guess this is where my conservative side takes over because I say to myself...why SHOULD they be covered? If you are pregnant, shouldn't you be able to provide for yourself BEFORE you bring another life into the world? SMH...I guess I'm old school...

Washington Post article

Keep up the great work!!

H.W. Qualls

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Loyal reader Omotayo writes:

I had a friend who was pregnant in high school. Her mom and her did not get along so she actually lived with my family while she was pregnant and then after the baby. Although our lives went into different directions, she had more children and never furthered her education after high school. I went straight to college and remained a virgin until I was 19.

I do agree that they made adult decisions and should be treated as such. LBVS @ “then send them to a different school where they can talk about morning sickness and food cravings all day”

Sincerely,
Omotayo

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Loyal reader Monique writes:

Hey Sandra,

I see you posted about this on the blog but did you know that right here in GA, Muscogee county sent all their pregnant teens to a separate school. Just a few years ago my bff daughter got pregnant and she literally had to fight the school board to keep her in regular school. This school board feels that its in the district and the teen best interest to go to a school dedicated strictly for them. I was thinking they thought this was the 60's or something. So many kids hid their pregnancy because they wanted to stay in regular school but if they found out, you was most definitely shipped off..

Check it out!

Monique

  • LaceJagger

    So should open gay people be made to go to alternative schools? What about the fathers of these babies? Should they also go to alternative schools? Wait, what about the girls who have abortions? Should their medical records be made public and they too attend alternative schools?

  • Trendsetter

    :tea:

  • Trendsetter

    :lipssealed:

  • Trendsetter

    "I guess this is where my conservative side takes over because I say to myself…why SHOULD they be covered? If you are pregnant, shouldn’t you be able to provide for yourself BEFORE you bring another life into the world? SMH…I guess I’m old school…"

    Not feeling that comment right there....

  • GAGIRL87

    :smack: Everybody that has had kids in there teens DO NOT end up w mutiple kids on welfare NOT married :shrugs:

  • GAGIRL87

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    LaceJagger says:

    So should open gay people be made to go to alternative schools? What about the fathers of these babies? Should they also go to alternative schools? Wait, what about the girls who have abortions? Should their medical records be made public and they too attend alternative schools?
    _____________________________________________________________________

    :think: Maybe Sandra should have went to an alternative school :coffee:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ntMXXpTATJo I Go There

    These teens should not be allowed to distract good girls from receiving a quality education.
    __________________________________________________
    Good Girls????
    Oh you mean the other slut puppies that dodged the bullet and didnt get pregnant. :coffee:

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    I actually read somewhere that teen pregnancy is now at huge low :pc: Let me find the article

  • KishaMinyonn

    LaceJagger says:

    What about the fathers of these babies?
    ___________________________________________

    I agree. What about the fathers that are in high school as well. They now have the responsibility as well. I guess because their bodies don't change they are not a negative influence on others.

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    I Go There says:

    These teens should not be allowed to distract good girls from receiving a quality education.
    __________________________________________________
    Good Girls????
    Oh you mean the other slut puppies that dodged the bullet and didnt get pregnant. :coffee:
    _____________
    Cause I know I dodged some bullets in High school

  • WUT-IZ-SWAGU

    I am trying to understand the whole "good girl" "bad girl" thing statement. There are a lot of good little girls who make a bad choice out of what they think is love. Was it a bad choice to sleep with a guy unprotected in this day and time absolutely. Are they all "Bad girls"... I don't think so. I lived in the E Saint Louis Illinois. For those who know that place...it is hell! I had two nieces who both had both mom and dad in the house get pregnant before graduating. One is a Deputy Sherif on the Swat Team and the Other is an Assistant Principle. Their mom and dad had 9 kid total...how many are in jail on welfare etc. NONE! NONE!
    I reject the idea that all of the girls who get pregnant in highschool are a lost cause. My nieces are proof that you can make it and go on to do great things... :coffee:

  • kimberly1969

    I have to say that when I was in school girls that became pregnant went to a separate school as well. I never really thought about it until I worked as a substitute while in college. While in class, I listened to the pregnant teens talk about their cheap apartments and abundant food. I didn't really think much of it as I have never truly been hunger or without a place to lay my head but one day I heard a less fortunate teen say maybe I should get pregnant too. I thought about it and wondered if I were hungry on a daily basis and wondering where I was going to lay my head at night would this be an option that I chose as well.

    I am not sure what the correct solution it but it is a sorry commentary on today's world and our values as a country.

  • NaijaGal

    :yawn: I'm thinking chipotle for lunch/dinner with a slurpee

  • GAGIRL87

    Like @ His said what are the fathers doing in homeroom chilling?????

  • WUT-IZ-SWAGU

    I Go There says:

    These teens should not be allowed to distract good girls from receiving a quality education.
    __________________________________________________
    Good Girls????
    Oh you mean the other slut puppies that dodged the bullet and didnt get pregnant.
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    Exactly :clap:

  • prynsexxx

    :offtopic: b/c this argument will go on forever and ever, AMEN. :rolleyes:

    Can someone point me in the direction of some INEXPENSIVE (<--- keyword) Minnetokin (sp) fringed boots? I will forever be grateful.

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    NaijaGal says:

    :yawn: I’m thinking chipotle for lunch/dinner with a slurpee
    _____________

    Damn that's sounds yummy :yes: Now you got me hungry :sad:

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    prynsexxx says:

    :offtopic: b/c this argument will go on forever and ever, AMEN. :rolleyes:

    Can someone point me in the direction of some INEXPENSIVE (<— keyword) Minnetokin (sp) fringed boots? I will forever be grateful.
    ______________

    What's that ? :thinking:

  • lashellebelle

    This again? :smack:

  • IamK_Antoinette

    My thing is this. People have sex. thats is always going to happen. especially teenagers, hormones are raging at that age. Why not prevent the problem. I say pass out condoms, DON'T be afraid to talk to your kids about sex and DON'T make them afraid to talk to you about it.

  • http://twitter.com/candyrayne215 spongebobfan

    Hell my highschool had a daycare in it.... :coffee: my mama put the fear of God in me...no way on earth was i coming home pregnant at 14-17? what??!!
    i was no virgin, but i was careful.

  • Trendsetter

    GAGIRL87 says:

    Everybody that has had kids in there teens DO NOT end up w mutiple kids on welfare NOT married
    __________________________________

    :cosign:

  • prynsexxx

    @Jenie

    Fringed boots. :shrug:

  • MsDivaRo

    Ok...let me try this AGAINNNNN! How is errbody today?

  • http://twitter.com/candyrayne215 spongebobfan

    MsDivaRo says:

    Ok…let me try this AGAINNNNN! How is errbody today?
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    Good Morning Ma'am!!!!!! im doing great! just my coffee...nectar of life

  • WUT-IZ-SWAGU

    I think if they are going to "Shame" these girls they should "Shame" the ones who help in the conception too. There is equal responsibilities at work here. The boy is now a man with grown man responsibilities he should also be made to go to alternative school get a trade degree and get his a.s.s out there and provide for the life he created too then...hmph...
    *storms off ranting :mad: how da hell you gone place sole responsibility on a two party act outchodamnmind...

    I'll see yall in the next post.... If my boss ain't back :ashamed: :lol:

  • LaceJagger

    @prynsexxx Amazondotcom

  • http://Www.yallaintchit.com Man, I just don’t care™

    I agree Sandra. Let the pregnant teens go to a school especially for them.

    And ladies, boys dont get pregnant so no, they shouldnt go to those schools.

    Why would you want to put together teen boys and girls that you KNOW are sexually actuve anyway?

  • Razzle Dazzle Boo

    I’m thinking chipotle for lunch/dinner with a slurpee
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    :hug:
    that sounds sooooo dayum good i cant remember the last time i had chipotle

  • IamK_Antoinette

    If your child is stupid enough to be influenced by some else's actions well then....

  • Genevieve..

    @prynn, if you have a Marshall's or tj maxx in your area check there. I noticed they had a lot of Minnetoka boots and moccasins in recently.

  • NaijaGal

    prynsexxx says:
    ...forever and ever, AMEN.
    =========================
    he posted bail and has taken his drunk arse home...the first time they arrested him in front of a baptist church and this time he was butt naked :rofl: *for those who don't know who I'm talking about, it's Randy Travis*

  • Trendsetter

    MsDivaRo says:

    Ok…let me try this AGAINNNNN! How is errbody today
    _____________________________

    G'Morning :hi:

  • Lucky704

    I feel so bad for some people and the way they judge and point fingers. Have anyone ever thought about the girl that was sexual assaulted? People are so quick to pass judgment but no one wants to get their hands dirty. How about being a positive example for someone or encouraging them after they make the mistake. We live in a world where some are perfect and always do the right thing and others are aliens…get out of here with the mess. And if the “Good Girls” are so easy to be persuaded then I guess they are not that good after all. The boys that create these babies should not be held accountable for their rolls? I have and issue with just banding people because of a bad decision. WHEN WILL THE CYCLE BE BROKEN?

    Hello All

  • MsDivaRo

    spongebobfan says:

    MsDivaRo says:

    Ok…let me try this AGAINNNNN! How is errbody today?
    ___________________________________________________________
    Good Morning Ma’am!!!!!! im doing great! just my coffee…nectar of life

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    :hi: Sponge :shakebutt:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ntMXXpTATJo I Go There

    jeniefrumdabloc says:

    I Go There says:

    These teens should not be allowed to distract good girls from receiving a quality education.
    __________________________________________________
    Good Girls????
    Oh you mean the other slut puppies that dodged the bullet and didnt get pregnant.
    _____________
    Cause I know I dodged some bullets in High school
    _______________

    THey did have schools like this back in the day
    but once the chic had the kid they came back to regular school. I just think this whole "Keep them away" from the good girls thing is a bit dumb. If we're gonna do that ... how bout we cut out the lil girls that have STDs... and what about those dudes? Are we gonna send them to trade schools or something? Its a bit off to me

  • Carmez79

    GAGIRL87 says:

    :smack: Everybody that has had kids in there teens DO NOT end up w mutiple kids on welfare NOT married

    exactly. my friend has a child in high school and is not in her 30s with only one child and married. they have a school in ny that is for pregnant teens and teens that have gotten kicked out of school. they should just have a school for pregnant teen

  • lashellebelle

    Man, I just don't care™ says:

    I agree Sandra. Let the pregnant teens go to a school especially for them.
    And ladies, boys dont get pregnant so no, they shouldnt go to those schools.
    Why would you want to put together teen boys and girls that you KNOW are sexually actuve anyway?
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    So a pregnancy is the ONLY way to determine they are sexually active?
    Everybody that has sex doesn't get pregnant.

  • kahmmillion

    If the pregnant girl is being kicked out of school....the father should too. She shouldn't be the only one's life that's changed.

  • WUT-IZ-SWAGU

    NaijaGal says:

    I’m thinking chipotle for lunch/dinner with a slurpee
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    :hug: Come swing through and pick me up :lol: I gotchu on the slurpie if you do! :rofl: red or blue?

  • luVn_liFe…

    Gooood Morrrrninnng Good Folks :wave:

    :tea:

  • Razzle Dazzle Boo

    MsDivaRo says:

    Ok…let me try this AGAINNNNN! How is errbody today?

    :hug: hey Diva! how are you this morning?

  • MsDivaRo

    NaijaGal says:

    prynsexxx says:
    …forever and ever, AMEN.
    =========================
    he posted bail and has taken his drunk arse home…the first time they arrested him in front of a baptist church and this time he was butt naked *for those who don’t know who I’m talking about, it’s Randy Travis*

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    Morning Trend, Naija...that damn Randy Travis is a straight up drunk! Why was he naked though? :thinking:

  • Ty

    :wave: @ all

    :coffee:

  • WUT-IZ-SWAGU

    @MsDIVA :hug: Hey Shuggga

  • lady_cn

    I agree with the others who say, what about the fathers. The girls may be a distraction pregnant, but what about the boys that are free to impregnate as many girls as they can have sex with?

    Biologically speaking, a young girl can on get pregnant with one child, unless either the father or mother has the genetic predisposition for multiple children at birth, however the boys can impregnate numerous girls at a time and sometime do. What about them? I just think the whole idea of the girl going to the alternative school is hypocritical. But at the same time, how do we know for sure who the fathers of the kids are? This whole thing is hurting my head thinking about it. Are we :offtopic: yet?

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7je-DEQgPJk&feature=related ELove

    When the courts and school systems allow pregnant teens in classrooms the implicit message is that teen pregnancy is okay, and even desirable.

    The SAD THING is Teens (Male/Female) are Very Impressionable and This is A FACT that Can't BE DISPUTED with REAL Logic-n-Intelligence...

    If I walked into a School and SAW An Abundance of Pregnant TEENS walking in the Hallways (I WOULD Take My Child Out That School...) I'm JUST BEING Real becuz REGARDLESS of ANYONE'S Opinion regarding TEEN Pregnancy... Pregnancy and Child-Birth is A GROWN FOLK (Adult) ISSUE (WORD)

    And I'm NOT EVEN concerning myself with The IDIOT STUFF... Just the Well-Being of the KIDS/TEENS School Environment that is DESIGNED For NON-ADULTS aka MINORS :coffee:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ntMXXpTATJo I Go There

    BUT the one good thing I found out about pregnant girls or chics with babies in high school... was that they were fking. :shrug:

  • NaijaGal

    @MSDIVA - :waves: now what city you reside in TX?

  • http://www.gravatar.com/avatar/db78ef2b213fd6958c1aa6773fe9a6dc?s=80 jeniefrumdabloc

    :newpost:

  • prynsexxx

    Iam says:

    Why not prevent the problem. I say pass out condoms, DON’T be afraid to talk to your kids about sex and DON’T make them afraid to talk to you about it.
    _____________________

    :cosign: I told my daughter STRAIGHT UP the other day, while driving up I75 N...."yall KIDS don't know how to fvk these days, don't know how to TELL a nig to put on a condom or tell that mofo NO! Yall kids (along with some grown folks too) think it can't happen to me. BULLSHYT! It only takes ONE TIME! ONE and guess what the GRANDMAMA ALWAYS left to pick up the pieces!". That was all a response to "mama why you be sweating me about taking my (OUR <--- is what I refer to it as) pill?".

    #protectingMYneck
    #blackedout
    #Illbedamned

    Judge if you must. :tea: :waiting: :karate:

  • MsDivaRo

    :hug: Razzle, WUT, Luvn, Lashelle! I'm so glad today is Thursday...I ain't doing chit today....you feel me? (in scrappy voice)

  • Razzle Dazzle Boo

    hey @Luvn

  • http://twitter.com/candyrayne215 spongebobfan

    I think MTV shows like Teen Mom do NOT help at all....i cringe everytime that show is on , and the yt tabloids obsession with them..on stands now is some random teen mom whos "gasp" pregnant again...wtf why is this gossip/news?

  • lashellebelle

    And if the “Good Girls” are so easy to be persuaded then I guess they are not that good after all.

    ~~~~~~~~~~

    :applause:

    ________________

    Shyt, my momma had me a 3 weeks after turning 17. I went to high school with chicks that had more than ONE kid.
    Guess WHO wasn't influenced to have a kid by either situation?
    <---- This chick right here.

    Pregnant chicks are are less of a distraction than a fuggin' cell phone in the classroom these days.

  • lashellebelle

    @ Ms. Diva- :hug: Hey Love!!

  • MsDivaRo

    NaijaGal says:

    @MSDIVA – now what city you reside in TX?

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    Hey Babe...I reside in SA!!!!

  • MsDivaRo

    lashellebelle says:

    @ Ms. Diva- Hey Love!!

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    Gurl, you working that jumper! :yes:

  • http://twitter.com/candyrayne215 spongebobfan

    i have 2 girls 1 and 8....look....its not going down like that.....nawl :deadhorse: <--- my kids

  • sassyshe

    I dont necessarily think they should be placed in a separate school as no child should be singled out but given options. Let's all be real majority of these teenage girls have no guidance and to them they think it is cute to be pregnant (trust me I counsel teen girls and this is a fight and debate constantly) and there is only the exceptional few that decide to use this as a motivator and do better for themselves. If a teen becomes pregnant then their options should be discussed remain in mainstream school and continue with your education (and not be given any preferential treatment) or go to an alternative school that provides on site child care and incorporate trade into education so that these girls can still pursue a future. We can argue all days about the boys not being treated the same but we life in an unfair society where honestly boys/men dont have to take responsibility for a child if they dont have to. You can force a man to pay for a child but that dont mean he will still be involved.
    The problem today is health insurance which has become conservative. Majority of insurance companies would not cover preventive means including birth control, would not pay for an abortion but would pay for the teen to have the baby.
    Like I said I understand where Sandra is coming from because I grew up going mostly to private schools where once you become pregnant you are cast out and can only return after you have the baby or go to a different type of school. However as a society we need to stop thinking that if you dont educate these girls and boys on teen pregnancy it is not going to occur. Just like there are diversion programs for these little criminals we need to incorporate something to teach our kids and help them see the reality of the situation. Truth be told very little teen parents stay together, very few graduate high school, veryfew make it above the poverty level and very school make something out of their lives. You can only stop the cycle if you educate them.

  • lashellebelle

    @ Ms. Diva

    :buttshake: THAAAANKS!

  • MsDivaRo

    WUT-IZ-SWAGU says:

    @MsDIVA Hey Shuggga

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    Where you been? You haven't given us any of those juicy excerpts lately. I miss em!!!!!!!!!!!

    :wave: Ty

  • Ty

    kahmmillion says:

    If the pregnant girl is being kicked out of school….the father should too. She shouldn’t be the only one’s life that’s changed
    __________
    They didnt think that far ahead :rolleyes: No one is saying that teen pregnancy is positive or productive, but its not the kiss of death either unless you allow yourself to become a statistic. People dictate their own destiny if they have the will power :coffee: The whole good girl bad girl thing is for the birds :coffee:

  • MsDivaRo

    lashellebelle says:

    @ Ms. Diva

    THAAAANKS!

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    Back that thang up gurl and showing em what you working with!

  • KDub

    Everybody that has had kids in there teens DO NOT end up w mutiple kids on welfare NOT married
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    Kdub:

    Was a teen mother at 17...almost 18 but still.

    Married.

    2 kids that are 10 years apart.

    NOT on welfare. I keep asking for some stamps..but they azz keep tambout I DON'T qualify. Even when I was laid off. Tambout I make TOO much unemployment. WHAT IN THE ENTIRE FUGG???? :rofl:

    *Oh and I give to NCAAPP (NC Adolescent and Pregnancy Prevention).

    Fugg this post.

  • MSVALLDAY

    WUT-IZ-SWAGU says:

    I am trying to understand the whole “good girl” “bad girl” thing statement. There are a lot of good little girls who make a bad choice out of what they think is love. Was it a bad choice to sleep with a guy unprotected in this day and time absolutely. Are they all “Bad girls”… I don’t think so. I lived in the E Saint Louis Illinois. For those who know that place…it is hell! I had two nieces who both had both mom and dad in the house get pregnant before graduating. One is a Deputy Sherif on the Swat Team and the Other is an Assistant Principle. Their mom and dad had 9 kid total…how many are in jail on welfare etc. NONE! NONE!
    I reject the idea that all of the girls who get pregnant in highschool are a lost cause. My nieces are proof that you can make it and go on to do great things…
    ________________________________________________________________________

    :claps:

    I also got pregnant when I was 15. I was not sent to another high school, and believe it or not in my opinion it made a big difference. I had the support of my family, teachers, and friends. I made a bad decision to not have protected sex, and had to deal with those consequences. My daughter is 17 years old and getting to graduate from high with a scholarship. I didn't go on to have any more children, I graduated from college with honors, and I'm gainfully employed and doing well. I just don't agree with shipping kids off and the whole idea that they are a bad influence. You can make it after having a baby at a young age. I'm living proof of that.

  • MsDivaRo

    :hug: KDUB!!!!!!

  • http://Www.yallaintchit.com Man, I just don’t care™

    Girls get pregnant, boys dont. Women need to accept that with that fact, they have MORE responsibility. Thats life. All this "tit for tat" as far as boys getting kicked out too doesnt solve anything.

    Besides, you won't know who the father is until after the baby is born anyway. AND, you can see when a girl is pregnant, you would never know if a boy is active or not. Some of these suggestions defy common sense.

    Smh. :no:

  • MsDivaRo

    MSVALLDAY says:

    WUT-IZ-SWAGU says:

    I am trying to understand the whole “good girl” “bad girl” thing statement. There are a lot of good little girls who make a bad choice out of what they think is love. Was it a bad choice to sleep with a guy unprotected in this day and time absolutely. Are they all “Bad girls”… I don’t think so. I lived in the E Saint Louis Illinois. For those who know that place…it is hell! I had two nieces who both had both mom and dad in the house get pregnant before graduating. One is a Deputy Sherif on the Swat Team and the Other is an Assistant Principle. Their mom and dad had 9 kid total…how many are in jail on welfare etc. NONE! NONE!
    I reject the idea that all of the girls who get pregnant in highschool are a lost cause. My nieces are proof that you can make it and go on to do great things…
    ________________________________________________________________________

    I also got pregnant when I was 15. I was not sent to another high school, and believe it or not in my opinion it made a big difference. I had the support of my family, teachers, and friends. I made a bad decision to not have protected sex, and had to deal with those consequences. My daughter is 17 years old and getting to graduate from high with a scholarship. I didn’t go on to have any more children, I graduated from college with honors, and I’m gainfully employed and doing well. I just don’t agree with shipping kids off and the whole idea that they are a bad influence. You can make it after having a baby at a young age. I’m living proof of that.

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    :applause:

  • VDot

    If I walked into a School and SAW An Abundance of Pregnant TEENS walking in the Hallways (I WOULD Take My Child Out That School…) .

    :yes:

  • sassyshe

    :cosign: man

  • lashellebelle

    So, is the issue DISTRACTIONS??

    In that case, take out:

    The Goths
    Girls in cheerleading skirts
    The Gays
    The Special Needs Kids
    The ones that have flunked
    The Geniuses
    The Best looking Guy in School
    The Best looking Girl in School
    The one with the biggest a$$/breasts
    The Science teacher lady with the mustache

    :coffee:

  • KDub

    My take on BC is that these chicks need to be on BIRTH control AND LIFE CONTROL...a condom. You can and WILL mess around and catch a helleva lot more than a baby in the world today. Hell even back in 1995 but thats past an all are safe...

    Post a medical minute on THAT

  • free

    i wonder what happens to asian and indian girls when they get pregnant in school? they are currently kicking our azzez in academics so, whatever they do, i'm down with it.

  • http://thefakevirginia.tumblr.com/ Ms.Happenstance

    This is a great idea along with snatching the babies from them and giving them up for adoption without their consent. Problem solved right?

  • KDub

    Hey @DivaRo :wave:

  • kalico

    I went to an inner city middle school and high school and if anything pregnant girls (minorities) were an example of what WE (the majority) did NOT want to go through ourselves. Granted, I am from Toronto so it's possible our teenage pregnancies are much lower than some states in the US but I disagree with sending the girls to an alternative school; like someone mentioned up top - they aren't shipping the fathers out, so why the girls? just because you can see the pregnancy, doesn't mean both students are not responsible.

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ntMXXpTATJo I Go There

    free says:

    i wonder what happens to asian and indian girls when they get pregnant in school? they are currently kicking our azzez in academics so, whatever they do, i’m down with it.
    _______________________________________

    THey dont for the most part
    Pluse thier families STRESS educations... some usually go crazy cause they are always told to be better and held at extremely high standards.

    When shait like that happens in other cultures its a shame on
    the entire family. Our Culture... Not so much

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    GAGIRL87 says:

    Everybody that has had kids in there teens DO NOT end up w mutiple kids on welfare NOT married
    ________________

    But most do. :coffee:

  • kalico

    @ KDubs exactly! What these public schools need to do is have 3 classes a year on STI and STD and have guest speakers come in who have/had diseases that can talk to the kids. That would be the most effective form of birth control (i.e using condoms, abstinence) EVAR!

  • http://www.philly.com/ J Said it!

    This is a good reason to know were living in our last days... Because every time someone wants to shine the light on a topic/epidemic in todays world people want to outcast...
    Just know this has been done before.. Teens were pregnant in high school in the 50s 60s 70s and 80s... How do you think some "OLD" coupples get to see 40 50 60 year anniversaries!! There nothing new under the sun!

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    GAGIRL87 says:

    Maybe Sandra should have went to an alternative school
    ________________

    I resent that remark. I was not running around school trying to get laid by the entire basketball team. :coffee:

  • VDot

    Girls get pregnant, boys dont. Women need to accept that with that fact, they have MORE responsibility. Thats life. .

    I get and understand it. And if I had a daughter, that would be the main point I would make. While he can get up and continue on with his life/partying/impregnating other chicks, while you are stuck with the baby. It sucks but life is not always fair.

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    KishaMinyonn says:

    I agree. What about the fathers that are in high school as well. They now have the responsibility as well.
    ________________

    Most of the time the father's are older men or high school dropouts. But they are located by the courts to begin paying child support. DFACs doesn't play about that child support in Miami. :coffee:

  • Ty

    Man, I just don't care™ says:

    Girls get pregnant, boys dont. Women need to accept that with that fact, they have MORE responsibility. Thats life. All this “tit for tat” as far as boys getting kicked out too doesnt solve anything.

    Besides, you won’t know who the father is until after the baby is born anyway. AND, you can see when a girl is pregnant, you would never know if a boy is active or not. Some of these suggestions defy common sense
    ______________
    I think its more about accountability. If you are going to chastise the females for making bad decisions the lesson shouldn't stop there because the male is just as responsible. A weakened sense of responsibility does not weaken the fact of responsibility. It also has alot to do with parenting. I agree with E's post to the fullest! However, its the parents responsible to teach their child whats acceptable and the potential outcome of their bad decisions.

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    WUT-IZ-SWAGU says:

    I reject the idea that all of the girls who get pregnant in highschool are a lost cause. My nieces are proof that you can make it and go on to do great things…
    _________________

    No one is saying all pregnant teens are bad kids. But they should be separated from the general school population so as not to distract the other children who might consider getting pregnant as being something cute to do.

  • 2cents

    In my city they actually have free daycare and can visit their babies through out the day in public schools, they even provide seperate transportation for schoolage moms and their babies. I don't think the girls should be denied an educaton; however I don't like my daughter seeing that and it being implied that teenage parenthood is the norm.

  • Lucky704

    Besides, you won’t know who the father is until after the baby is born anyway.
    ________________________________________________________________________
    Really? That makes not sense at all, try again. What do we do with the adults that have kids and kill them, miss treat them and so on? It starts at home, in the community, and with us as people. Get off your high horse and spread some of the knowledge that you was given. The rule of thumb is hide what you don't want to fix right? Becuase to me it just seems as if the problem can be solved by pusing young girls away and not holding the boy accountable for his actions but a girl becomes a women onece she bares a child. That's why some Men have the mentality of a boy because we create the Free Pass.

  • Ty

    Sandra Rose says:

    GAGIRL87 says:

    Maybe Sandra should have went to an alternative school
    ________________

    I resent that remark. I was not running around school trying to get laid by the entire basketball team.
    ______________
    But if u did opt to get laid by one of them and got preggo, should u be isolated? Would that make u a "bad" person?

  • http://www.philly.com/ J Said it!

    Sandra Rose says:

    GAGIRL87 says:

    Everybody that has had kids in there teens DO NOT end up w mutiple kids on welfare NOT married
    ________________

    But most do.

    ~~~~
    And the prejudice is that its always blacks.. people please just the stats! Whites are the leading go getters on welfare but you are poisoned to believe (Through media) that blacks sit home all day and whites get up every morning to go to work... Yall better WAKEYOOAZZESUP!!!

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    IamK_Antoinette says:

    DON’T be afraid to talk to your kids about sex
    _____________

    My mom never gave me that sex talk about the birds and the bees. But she did warn me not to get pregnant because the whole neighborhood would shame me. Shame is a major deterrent if used correctly. :coffee:

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Good morning MsDivaRo :hi:

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    Man, I just don’t care™ says:

    I agree Sandra. Let the pregnant teens go to a school especially for them.

    And ladies, boys dont get pregnant so no, they shouldnt go to those schools.

    Why would you want to put together teen boys and girls that you KNOW are sexually actuve anyway?
    _______________

    Excellent point!

  • Ty

    @ J always has been. 80% of welfare cases are non black. There are more illegal immigrants and whites receiving assistance than black communities but they seem to think they are taking care of blacks with the tax money they are not paying :coffee:

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    @ Lucky704: Good points. But most of those little girls are just fast and hot to trot in high school. Look how they dress around boys. :no:

  • DoNotDeleteMe

    Wow! Sandra, I cannot believe your "commentary." But anyway, I got pregnant in high school and I have achieved way more in life than the ones who did not get pregnant in high school. So I wonder what distracted these so-called good girls.

    I was Class Secretary, on the Student Council, Literary and Math teams, Drama Team, and honor roll...and one of my closest friends mother went to the principal at the time and said I was a bad influence and should not be allowed to represent the school at the Academic Bowls. Needless to say, this same woman came back years later and begged me to talk to her daughter who has been married and divorced three times and has dabbled in drugs. She wanted to see if I could inspire her daughter to get on a better path in life. Her oldest daughter (who I was not friends with) now has five daughters by five different men and is completely cracked out. Her son is very successful but he barely has anything to do with them.

    Like Jay-Z said, the best revenge is SUCCESS. I succeeded even when the odds were stacked against me! :cheer:

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    ELove says:

    If I walked into a School and SAW An Abundance of Pregnant TEENS walking in the Hallways (I WOULD Take My Child Out That School…)
    __________________

    Agreed! I was shocked, SHOCKED when I moved to Atlanta and found out they let pregnant teens roam the hallways in schools. :no:

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    DoNotDeleteMe says:

    Wow! Sandra, I cannot believe your “commentary.” But anyway, I got pregnant in high school and I have achieved way more in life than the ones who did not get pregnant in high school.
    _________________

    You're the exception, hun.

  • http://www.philly.com/ J Said it!

    Sandra Rose says:

    ELove says:

    If I walked into a School and SAW An Abundance of Pregnant TEENS walking in the Hallways (I WOULD Take My Child Out That School…)
    __________________

    Agreed! I was shocked, SHOCKED when I moved to Atlanta and found out they let pregnant teens roam the hallways in schools
    ~~~
    So I guess your gonna take your daughter out this world too lol lol.. Children are not only influenced in school!

  • Ms. Everything

    So let me get this straight, girls make a mistake and get pregnant, they then lose their opportunity to continue their education, make a good example for their child and support their family, however the boys who got them pregnant get to continue on with no consequences?? I'm sorry but that's bullshit. I went to a high school where an exceptionally large amount of my classmates got pregnant. With the exception of 1, they all stayed in school until graduation. They had their babies, took 6 weeks off and came right back. Were doing homework at home while changing diapers. Every one of those girls who stayed, were better students afterwards than they were before. All but 2 are now college graduates and EVERY SINGLE ONE is making a life for herself and her children. Several are married to good men, all have good jobs, all have healthy, happy, well developed children. Matter of fact, they're doing better now than most of the girls who didn't have kids. And the one who dropped out, she was the one on and off welfare, living with her mother til almost 30 and now living with a baby daddy. She's never held a good job, she has a GED now, but she was content to do nothing but raise her children.

    You don't deny an education to a person who wants it, no matter what mistakes they made as a youth. Period. Keeping pregnant girls in school does not inspire other teens to get pregnant, unless they're idiots. Most teen pregnancies aren't the result of teenagers following the crowd but are the results of teenagers not thinking that their actions have consequences. Pregnancy pacts and peer pressure are two things that have been hyped up with little proof or reason :no: I feel sorry for anybody that can not see that. I'd already graduated (just) when I got pregnant with my oldest, but had I gotten pregnant a couple months earlier I wish someone would've have tried to put me out of school because of it

  • http://twitter.com/SayItaIntSoJoe8 Atypical

    So, because women have to carry children this makes men less responsible , for choices that BOTH of them made? What kills me is that people are cosigning with that garbage and then in the next breath will cry about black men not taking care of their children.(child support, time etc) Why should they? They don't carry the child therefore aren't responsible for what happens… I'm sorry that’s not a logical argument.. It’s an archaic load of bul*shit and I'm done with this topic #thatisall

  • Ms. Everything

    @Atypical THANK YOU!!!!! And let me just add that 9 out of 10 girls who see another pregnant teen are not thinking "cool, she's pregnant" they're thinking more on the lines of "damn that ish sucks"

  • MUNCHOSGIRL

    WELL SANDRA YOU KNOW THEY HAVE HAD C.O.P.E.(Continuing Opportunities for Purposeful Education) HERE IN MIAMI, AND HAVE FOR MANY YEARS NOW, FOR TEENAGE MOTHERS.IT IS A DADE COUNTY PUBLIC SCHOOL. SERVICES INCLUDE ...
    Prenatal and postnatal care and management.
    Preconception services for prevention of pregnancy and diseases.
    Parenting education and counseling
    HIV screening and counseling.

    I DON'T KNOW IF IT IS MANDATORY ONCE THE TEEN BECOMES PREGNANT IN SCHOOL OR NOT, BUT I DO KNOW THAT IT HAS BEEN AROUND FOR YEARS.

  • Bricbaby

    Hey everyone I am a long time lurker. I use to teach at a pregnant girl's school and it is needed. Alot of girl that come are not ready to return back to school after they and have a baby. So come they back after their six weeks check up pregnant again. We also made sure that they were up to speed on their school work or a head when they went back to regular school. As a teacher and a parent I would not want my daughter or son at a with someone pregnant.

  • MUNCHOSGIRL

    NO I DON'T AGREE WITH THEM BEING SENT TO AN ALTERNATIVE SCHOOL. MY LITTLE SISTER GOT PREGNANT AT 17, SHE WAS IN ALL GIFTED CLASSES, SHE STAYED AT HER HIGH SCHOOL, HAD MY NIECE AND CONTINUED ON WITH HER LIFE. TODAY SHE AND MY NIECE ARE REGISTERED NURSES IN THE STATE OF OHIO. NEVER PUT LIMITS OR LIMITATIONS ON OTHER'S LIVES.

  • Ms. Everything

    @bric so basically you're saying that teen girls who get pregnant are somehow inferior to your kids and incapable of making the responsible choice to come back and go to school? Do you realize how that sounds? Coddling these girls and letting them think it's okay to slack off, that something is wrong with them or thinking that having a baby all of a sudden makes them different or incapable is wrong. There should be no leeway, there should be no slack off period, they should have a ice cold realization of being a mother and like most of us, have their baby, take their leave and come back ready to work in 6 - 8 weeks. That's why they keep having babies, that's why some do nothing with themselves, it's people like you putting them aside, making them feel different and judging without knowing them so they stay home and collect a check.. Ugh :cuss:

  • Ms. Everything

    Or they're encouraged to get a GED without the knowledge that while it's touted to be the same, a GED does not hold the same clout as a high school diploma when it comes to working and going to college

  • LaceJagger

    @Sandra.. Please answer the question so should gay cross dressing students be sent to alternative schools? Should Jews who wear their yamacas? What about Muslim girls who wear Traditional head gear? I too got pregnant in high school and turned out successful. Wait so I guess we should segregate schools again, God forbid blacks influencing whites and vice versa.. Smdh isolation is not the answer Sandra

  • Dr. O

    I will preface my rant by saying I am without child and this is strictly my opinion.

    I'm not "old school" - Im 29 and I feel pregnant teens should be taken out of school. The whole good girls/ bad girls thing is nonsense. Children are impressionable and thats why pregnat teens should be taken out of school.

    Men and women, boys and girls are not equal. ( ....don't shoot me). But they are not - physically, emotionally, or anatomically ( I'm talking pre- transgender era, etc). Men don't have babies -women do. It is what it is. If a female ends up pregnant why should the boy be taken out of school - why have 2 potentially uneducated people ( ....again dont shoot me...I said POTENTIAL ) rather than one.

    For the person who made the comment about gays, people with abortions,etc being taken out of school...its NOT the same. The aforementioned people are not bringing a live being into the world. So let them continue to further their education.

    In regards to the alternative school as long as they have the same level of education, are allowed similar classes, credits can transfer over, and the potential to go to college, etc then they should go there especially if they do not have any home support. Children should should not be allowed to think that it is ok to have a child at a young age and because one person is doing ok ( bc of great home support,etc) so will they.

    Not every teen pregnancy will result in an uneducated person (it's foolish to say something like that) but a teen pregnancy surely DOESN'T give you a better chance at completing your education.

    #end rant#

  • http://www.philly.com/ J Said it!

    We are no longer a free country.. everybody want to tell what you can cannot do or should do!!! We dont need your input! Government stay out of our lives. we always want to isolate, if a teen is pregnant so bet it! there are freedoms! teens should have an option.. stop with the nonsense!

  • http://www.philly.com/ J Said it!

    SOME OF YOU MUST NOT BELIEVE IN THE CONSTITUTION!!!!! because the ignorance on the post is evident!!! if you want to start a program for pregnant teens (hooray) additional to their educations so be it!!! But your not going to spread ignorance and think its cool! know your rights people!

    This happens day in and day out with all walks of life.. this is way your elected officials sit back and laugh because you do not know your rights and the ones the consitution uphelds!! WAKE YO AZZ UP!

  • Ms. Everything

    Actually, having children gives most women something to strive for. It takes away that silly notion that children have that they can do what they want regardless of the consequences. The majority of teen parents that I know came from good families, the kind of families that would not settle for less. Regular school provides a structure that alternative schools do not and as such we should be encouraging young women to stay in regular high school and do the same as their peers ie:, go to school every day on time, complete their assignments according to direction, listen to their teachers, sit in class for however many hours per day they are required. Doing that will prepare them for holding jobs in the future, it will teach them that the world does not make allowances for you simply because you are a mother, it will teach them that excuses for your shortcomings are not acceptable, etc. It's a wake up call and a good learning experience for those who are pregnant/mothers and for those watching what the others are struggling towards. Pregnancy is not easy at any age, being a teenager and watching your friends pass you by with social experiences is a bitter pill to swallow but if you can swallow that pill you will emerge the better person. Forced enrollment in schools for pregnant mothers, alternative schooling, home schooling or expulsion removes that experience and in it's way sets these girls up for failure. Besides, remove the pregnant girls from school and in a month you'll be removing another set, the next month another set and so on because without good sex education these kids will continue to do the same thing whether they have other pregnant girls around them or not

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7je-DEQgPJk&feature=related ELove

    @J Said it!
    I sincerely HOPE you're not questioning MY Parenting Skillz becuz You're ASSumption is BEYOND MINDLESS (WORD)

    My Choice as the PARENT Of MY CHILD isn't A JOKE... Just becuz you wouldn't do the SAME doesn't diminish the POSITIVE IMPACT I have on MY CHILD. I'm MORE THAN AWARE of the Other Influences out there which is WHY I STAYED on my Daughter's Consciousness REGARDING Everything that Society (Peers, TV, Music Etc...) had to THROW AT HER

    Not that it really MATTERS but She'll be graduating from College in Dec 2012 with NO Pregnancies, NO Abortions and NO Arrests... She's FAR From Perfect but She was able to AVOID The OBVIOUS Pitfalls that SOOOO MANY OF HER Peers and Cousins Couldn't :coffee:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7je-DEQgPJk&feature=related ELove

    @J Said it!
    AND I Never ONCE stated that I was in support of Separation and Bad Girl/Good Girl Bull-Crap... If you ACTUALLY READ My Comment I clearly Stated

    And I’m NOT EVEN concerning myself with The IDIOT STUFF…

    I JUST gave MY Honest OPINION of What I would Do in THAT Given Scenario :coffee:

  • http://www.philly.com/ J Said it!

    ELove says:

    @J Said it!
    I sincerely HOPE you’re not questioning MY Parenting Skillz becuz You’re ASSumption is BEYOND MINDLESS (WORD)

    ~~~
    ????? re read my comment! Different paths different outcomes.. same paths different outcomes! Same paths same outcomes.. no matter which way you look at it or live it!!

  • trice310

    I'm in Cali and you do not have to leave your high school if you become pregnant, in fact my 17 yr old said there were a few girls pregnant in her high school but that didn't distract her..everyone will have their opinion and judge but that doesn't mean your opinion is right including you Sandra. I myself was a teen mom, married to my kids father to this day had my first at 16 and kept it moving, graduated h.s. I know I beat the statistics and not everyone does. But don't put everyone in the same boat cause some of us do learn our lessons. And like someone said, are you talking about the good girls who had abortions, or the ones who just happen not to get pregnant cause trust a lot of girls were/are sexually active in H.S...

  • Ms. Everything

    @Elove my mom actually attempted to keep me from my pregnant friends in high school. It didn't work but she made it clear that just because they were doing it, I could NOT come home pregnant so she put the stop on all baby showers, buying baby gifts with her money etc. Looking back I understand where she was coming from and I had a few friends whose parents refused to allow baby showers in their homes for their pregnant child because they refused to allow the celebration of what they deemed a drastic mistake and we all got it. If I were in their shoes I would likely do the same but these shows like 16 and Pregnant and Teen Mom do not show the reality of what actually happens in most pregnant households or with most pregnant teens. Not one person I knew, including myself, was as ditsy and naive as those girls are. Not one. Most pregnant teens see the reality they're facing without having to be condemned by the world

  • prima_donna2163

    I'll just say this...when I was in high school, we had parenting classes. If you were already a parent, or an expecting parent, then you were urged to take parenting classes. I also remember a girl who was so pregnant that she was showing (about 5-6 months along) and she did leave for a short while! But returned with a flatter stomach because she had actually went to New York where they perform abortions in a woman's second or third trimester.

    Now the so called "good girls" some of whom smoked weed before school, allowed boys to run trains on them, smoked cigs in the bathroom....well they didn't get pregnant....are they to be removed too? They are also a bad influence? This idea is condescending at best, and I am in total disagreement...

    I mean we actually had enough sense to NOT want to get pregnant!!!!

  • Bricbaby

    @ Everthing. I didnt say all lol never said they could slack off really I dont recall writing that! Their are some young ladis who dont have that suuport system! I have seen it first hand. At the school I use to teach @ they have a daycare where the girls could bring their babies when they came back to school for free which was a class they took to show them how to take care of their babies. We even had a store where the girls could go each Friday day for good behavior and attendance to go and shop for things we got donate to the school for the babies. I our program here has all the classes they took the FCAT also there. Since I have moved on to the college I have had 1 of my former students be a studnet assist.

  • keekee83

    I am a lurker but I come out every now and then to give my opinion and then it is back to lurk-mode I go :)

    I have mixed feelings about sending a pregnant young girl to an alternative school. I definately don't think that children should be stoned for making bad decisions but I also think that kids are impressionable so it is not far fetched to believe that a young girl who sees her pregnant friend getting extra attention, a baby shower with lots of gifts, and free food (via WIC and FS)will look at that and desire those things as well. Kids don't think long term and they don't think about consequences, theyre kids. I wouldn't want my hypothetical daughter in a school with a high pregnancy rate and it is not because I think my daughter is better or the pregnant girl is worse, but I look at it in the same way that I wouldn't want my child going to a school with a high drop-out rate, a low graduation rate, or rampant drug use and gang violence. It's the atmosphere and enviroment that your child is being exposed to. :steer:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7je-DEQgPJk&feature=related ELove

    @@J Said it!
    OKAY Then... :thumbsup:

    Ms. Everything
    I can say THIS becuz I've done some Extensively Ridiculously (Physically and Mentally...) Things throughout My Life...

    BEING a REAL Single Parent is the HARDEST JOB (In The World...) BAR NONE!!! And THOSE Like Yourself & Others on this Board have it EVEN WORSE NOW with the All-Out Foolishness that's going on TODAY (As We Speak...) :coffee:

  • http://facebook.com/kimecca Kimberly99

    This isn't the 60s anymore and people cannot expect things to remain as it once did.

    I was a teen mom in the late 90s. Worst period of my life, but thank God for family support and a college education. My son is now entering high school. He's private school educated, entering a very well known Catholic high school.

    I'm a registered nurse in a top NYC hospital making 91k per year.

    God is good.

  • MSVALLDAY

    The more I think about this subject the more I realize it was actually having to walk the halls pregnant at 15 that was so embarassing for me. I didn't want to experience that again. So the separating may work in some cases, but for me going to school everyday, and having to show the world I was pregnant made me rethink what I was doing. I think sending them to a school where all they see are girls like them may encourage girls to continue down that path.

  • Ms. Everything

    @bric lol well then I apologize for my assumptions. Unfortunately my experience with alternative schools is that they are far more relaxed than regular schools and that bothers me. Where I live and places I've lived in the past, there is generally at least one sometimes more high schools that have a day care program for the students to use if needed and I applaud that. The program you worked for seems to be a model school unfortunately that isn't the norm.

    @Elove the foolishness that's going on with these kids today make my crazy teen days look like I was in a seminary smh. All I can do is pray and do all I can to make sure that my kids know right from wrong and are growing up in the right way. People call me strict and overprotective but one day my kids will thank me

    :cosign: @VA

  • Crickett

    Good girls get pregnant they just have abortions....I guess that makes them smart and the ones who decide to keep their babies DUMB. Sad.

  • trenee

    I cosign with them going to an alternative school. I cannot pin point exactly when I first saw someone pregnant in school, but I do remember how I felt when a close friend of mine at the time did get pregnant. It made me feel bad and to see her change (physically and emotionally), like you said Sandra, I knew she felt shame. It just made me feel awkward.

  • tweett200

    I agree that pregnant teens should be transferred to a school where they can focus on academics and learning parenting skills. However, my rationale for thinking this is not to keep them away from the "good girls" in schools. Being pregnant does not make them a bad person. Hell if you dig deep you would find that most of those "good girls" referred to in the post are having sex or have had sex and was lucky enough not to get pregnant. They may also be doing other activities that would be looked down upon. I mean we are talking about high school students here. But the idea of being sent to an alternative school may motivate teen girls to take better precautions when having sex if they don't want to leave their peers.

  • mszladyb

    Honey it starts at home!!!! Dont depend on the school system to raise your children. Set an example and build them up to be individuals NOT IMPRESSIONABLES. Too many parents are too afraid to be real with their children. You have to talk to them on a level they can understand and educate them about sex; the good, the bad, and the oh so ugly! Seeing a pregnant girl in high school didnt make me wanna get pregnant. I felt sorry for them bc of the people judging and the struggles that were to come. Only dumb/ignorant teens think that mess is cute because their parents still wanna sugar coat for their "baby" thats truly not a baby anymore. And perhaps you were unaware of all the teen pregnancies at your school since they were removed as quickly as possible. Im sure the alternative school cant survive off just a hand full of students. Taking the kids out isnt a solution its a CENSORSHIP