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Ava DuVernay has an issue with young social media followers calling her "auntie". The famed director believes "auntie" signifies an older woman who is out of touch with young people.

"Auntie" is a term of endearment used by younger people who don't quite know how to address women of a particular age - usually women who are over 40 but not yet AARP cardholders.

With the rise of social media in the 2000s, young people suddenly found themselves struggling to adapt to a new environment overrun by older people going through midlife crises.

"Auntie" stuck as a respectful, yet informal way to address older women they are not related to.

DuVernay, who turns 47 on August 24, said she doesn't feel old enough to be categorized as an auntie - even if it is said out of respect.

The issue came up while DuVernay was chatting with reporter Van Lathan about her latest Netflix series, When They See Us.

Lathan, who says he's "from the South," began to respectfully call DuVernay "Auntie Ava."

"First of all, I have a real issue with recently I've been getting called on Twitter 'Auntie Ava,'" the 46-year-old said. "Why?! Why?! Am I that old? Because I don't feel that old."

DuVernay hoped Lathan would assure her she's not as old as she looks, but he didn't take the bait.

Lathan clarified that young people are likely calling her auntie because of "the weight that you bring" to the culture through her movies and TV series, DuVernay said that she appreciated his response.

Other celebrities like Beyonce, Kim Kardashian and Monica Brown - who are all pushing 40 - are routinely called "auntie" by their younger social media followers.

Auntie is a respectful way of letting aging celebrities know when they are over the hill.

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  • Jay

    Its a sign of respect in the black community take it as a compliment.

  • Soda

    There are worse things to be called.

  • Nunya Business

    Thanks Auntie Sandra!

  • Miss Lady

    She hasn't been a part of the black community since she started hanging with Oprah.

  • Nunya Business

    I kid you Auntie Sandra. Just turned 40 last week so I'm an auntie too ?

  • Yoni7

    I commend her on her fabulous works. She's a year younger than my sister (and ex boyfriend). I never looked at calling her Auntie.

  • CookieMobster

    I wouldn't take offense to this, but then again, I am prepared to age very gracefully and be that dope ass old lady we all know. And I can't WAIT to be able to just speak my mind so freely.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    Exactly. It's a shame that somebody would even have to explain that to her.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I was in my mid-40s when a friend (who is not that much younger than me) began calling me "auntie". When I questioned her about it, she said she thought it was OK because my readers call me auntie. I've known this lady for years, long before the blog. I didn't understand why she thought it was okay to call me her aunt. ?

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    You're welcome, hun. ?

  • Gloria

    Does she know that you don’t have to be a auntie to be old? I became an auntie at the age of 12 ?

  • Blaque Mahogany

    I guess, Ava.

    I want to watch When They See Us, but my spirit can't handle it right now. I'm glad their (CP5) story is being told.

  • SpillyNillie

    I get it. She's not alone.

  • ~~eb

    I was a great aunt in the womb, so.

  • goat

    Maybe it's just me, but I don't see a problem with it. I look at it being used like OG, a sign of respect from people that look up to you.

  • tintin

    LOL!! maybe you have that nuturing spirit and I find Auntie is used a lot for women that are blunt and keep it very very real. Such as you.

    so answer me this?? do you mind your followers calling you Auntie??

  • The Art

    Would she prefer "sis"?

  • Topic Influencer

    Stop walking around in mumu's then Ava. Builld a bridge but also be the change you wish to see.

  • Meme

    Auntie you tryna indirect us lol, I always call you Ms Sandra if that helps

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    I'm so sick of these manufactured crisis. Take that 47 year old seasoning and embrace it. Hell you should be out of touch with the youngins. I don't even want to party with the under 40 crowd anymore

  • Meme

    Onco

  • Topic Influencer

    Im not sure wtf her issue is. She is a year younger than MJB and folks BEEEEEEN calling her aunt(ie) Mary. Years now. Like wtf.

  • Topic Influencer

    I was one at 10 hence why I am NOW a great auntie at 42.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    I thought that 'Auntie' was slang for lesbian back in the day, but what do I know.

  • Yoni7

    I got that feeling as well. LOL

  • Kayke

    I love being “Auntie” and I’m over a decade younger than her. There are 47 yr old grandmas out here.... Auntie is a compliment.

  • Meme

    Huh? I never know when you're being serious or facetious lol

  • http://www.findyournichewithme.com Low E. 30BELOW

    HEY AUNTIE! :WAVES: YALL AREN'T OUT OF TOUCH...JUST THE RIGHT AMOUNT OF MATURITY AND WISDOM! I.E. AUNTIE TUH!

  • Malai

    ????

  • KcoolMuziq

    Ava(whom is working on Prince's(r.i.p.) first personal 5 hour documentary)I TOTALLY understand where she is coming from. Calling her Auntie is kinda saying she's an older woman & can be VERY insulting to some black women.
    Ava (whom I attended her ULTRA private screening of the prison system documentary 13th) is HIGHLY sought after in the entertainment industry. I also have to give a thanks to her for casting one of my ALL TIME favorite singers Tevin Campbell(whom is making a acting comeback this season in "Queen Sugar")......

  • Yoni7

    I don't like being called "hun" or "baby" by a person younger or close to or same age as me. Now if you're 55 and older, it's cool. But if we're "friend's" and hanging together, DON'T DO IT!

  • http://www.findyournichewithme.com Low E. 30BELOW

    LMAO!!!

  • Coy little wink

    Whatever Aunt Ava ?

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    crazy as hell and in denial

  • Kayke

    I hope she keeps dressing how she does, the last thing we need is another “Auntie” in a see-through ensemble.

  • Decked Out

    Okay Auntie.....

  • Malai

    “Auntie” or “TeTe” always been respectful within my upbringing but everyone different ?????

  • Meme

    Why not babe? ?

  • Yoni7

    There are 47 yr old grandmas
    __________________
    I've seen'em young as 37.

  • Yoni7

    It's sounds condescending to me.

  • xxxgracious

    I watched one episode and I didn't finish it. Plus Faclicity Hoffman is my girl (fav character on desperate housewives) and it's hard to sympathize with her real life issues when she plays the hell out of that evil DA.

  • Meme

    Don't worry was just winding you up!

  • Yoni7

    A real G would tell the "youngins", you can call me anything.......but ya won't call me BROKE. https://media3.giphy.com/media/31UDILmnnQOjnKKoKB/giphy.gif

  • Yui

    Hun triggers me too for some reason. ?

  • Yoni7

    It's cool. LOL

  • hi-liter

    Just like when young men (teens, 20 somethings) call men 40 and older UNC.....

    I mean shit, at almost 46, I damn near hate when young folk call me Ma’am, but then I have to realize I ain’t no spring chicken and the people that call me that are way younger so all I can do is respect it.....they could call you way worst.

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    EXACTLY!

  • WhoKnew

    Open post: I went to my granddaughter's kindergarten graduation this morning and it was so adorable. They sang in their 5 year old voices and we watched a short video of all the kindergarteners, including some funny bloopers. I was between laughter and eyes tearing up and I thought to myself children that age are just as precious as the year is long and how in the name of Jesus could anyone ever hurt them and I couldn't help but think of Maleah. .

    I hope and pray that Maleah is now resting peacefully.

    I hope and pray that everyone who was responsible for her death and anyone who was complicit will be held accountable.

  • Kae

    Ummm... you’re definitely “auntie” and we the millennials will address you as such.

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    I started watching it yesterday and it was too much :( They put those kids through hell!!! Especially Korey

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    ???
    So this simpleton would have a problem with her neices and nephews addressing her accordingly ??

    Go somewhere AUNTIE https://media1.giphy.com/media/PThBpNCjRCwEg/giphy.gif

  • Topic Influencer

    Its whole exhibits out here explaining the term:

    "A Brooklyn exhibition, Aunty! African Women in the Frame, 1870 to the Present, can be seen as an attempt to add depth and understanding to the colloquialism. Curators Laylah Amatullah Barrayn and Catherine E. McKinley use the term as a launching pad for examining how African women have been captured. Over 100 photographs — from vintage family snapshots to contemporary high-art portraits — of African women are on display. Women who were, or would become, aunties."

  • Yoni7

    I damn near hate when young folk call me Ma’am,
    ______________
    But why do I hate it when yt folks say it to me? Call me weird but it always has an undertone when THEY do it.

  • hi-liter

    ???.....

  • Topic Influencer

    She straight irritated me with this. Someone on twitter asked Jackee Harry if we can still call her auntie she was like HELL YEAH lol. Cant wait to see what Jenifer Lewis gonna respond with lmao

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Tell Auntie Ava when you see her again that she IS an older woman!

  • Karen Brady

    lol

  • CardiB’sAbs

    Get over it. All my friends’ children call me Auntie and I’m damn near two decades younger than you Auntie Ava. I like being called Auntie-it shows a level of respect.

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Must be Menopause.. Hot flashes can make a chick CRANKY ???

  • Yoni7

    Bruh, respectfully, women THAT age, be trying to hang on to their youth. TRUST ME, I know and I'm not that age yet. I pray I don't have THAT mindset when I do become that age either.

  • CardiB’sAbs

    Wooo lawd!

  • http://thedevereauxshow.com Ms.Devereaux

    Soooo.. auntie we call you auntie all that time I hope you are not offended by that I didn’t think age played a role in why we call you that ????? She never came to mind as to why I call you auntie sandy but ok.

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    She will FOREVER be called Auntie Sandra so she can Forgedaboutit!

  • Yoni7

    I pushed through it. I watched it Monday evening. I didn't know that I'd be THAT "triggered" by it. I usually watch things with an open mind. But THIS? It's sticking with me for a lil bit.

  • hi-liter

    Tracy Morgan gets into a crash right after driving his brand spanken new $2 million Bugatti off the lot.......

    Tracy and these car crashes.....he ain’t gone get a chance to spend them (reportedly $90 million) he got from the last deadly crash he was in.

  • Karen Brady

    It will makle you cry, have to take breaks, obsess over the story and if you're from NYC like me.. even relive what the city was like back then. Jerome Jharrell BRINGS it but they are all incredible.

  • Topic Influencer

    He cussed that damn lady the hell OUT.

  • Karen Brady

    Me too. I seriously have been in a mild depression since the weekend. Can't shake it.

  • http://welfareinfo.org angrysolo

    it’s truly a term of endearment, and of respect. you won’t see us running around calling Stacey Dash an auntie....

  • Yoni7

    Hell, I was an auntie before I was even born. I have a niece that is a month and two days OLDER than me. 11/10 (niece) 12/12 (me).

  • Yoni7

    THIS!

  • Topic Influencer

    BLOOP! There it is

  • http://welfareinfo.org angrysolo

    of all things to not want to be called

  • Karen Brady

    Girl! I was 7! My fast ass sister.

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    Jackee looks goodt to be in her 60s and she has been auntie since 227. The youngins even call Supa Auntie and I thinks she's in her 30's. It's a respect thing

  • Karen Brady

    Same here

  • hi-liter

    Ion blame him. She put that Honda Pilot all over that side of that Bugatti. Prolly gone be $500,000 to repair that bih.

  • Topic Influencer

    She gonna wonder why they called her bitch next week

  • Gloria

    ?????

  • Renee26

    DuVernay hoped Lathan would assure her she's not as old as she looks, but he didn't take the bait.

    LMAO at the shaaaaaade

  • PhillyFacts

    I loved Jackee since 227 we use to talk about the episodes in elementary at the lunch table lol

  • chaisun

    I got called ma’am the other week and I was like ??.

  • http://welfareinfo.org angrysolo

    you just snatched the taste up out my mouth.

    just finished ‘When They See Us’ so i needed that laugh.

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    15 min after he bought it and they said she was driving a Honda

  • Bossy704

    I got called ma'am and was heated.

  • http://welfareinfo.org angrysolo

    as long as the name on that check is correct you can call me whatever

  • chaisun

    Auntie is a term used all across the diaspora too. Well got more cousins than we were born with too. Lol.

  • Bossy704

    She looks her age and is beautiful. She needs to get over letting what others mean as a compliment affect her negatively.

  • Yoni7

    And what's crazy is, after watching it, I want to hear MORE from the real CP5. I fell asleep last night watching a clip of them being interviewed by Lester Holt. I didn't finish it because again, I fell asleep. It was like an 8 minute clip or something. I'm more vested in Korey than anything. That poor kid. Watching HIS story is when I was IN TEARS! I don't usually cry about movies......but THIS?

  • goat

    I need to slide into Ava's Dm's if she wants to hang onto some youth. I still got it, ain't finna let these youngins out perform me...lol

  • Topic Influencer

    Lmaoooo. But no. Ava seems the type to complain that children of today have ZERO manners and then get mad bc a young person calls her ma'am. Like you cant have it both ways.

  • Nunya Business

    I don't think I will have a problem with it for girls in their teens and 20s but some chick whose 37 years old thinking she slick trying to call me Auntie like I'm so much older than her is gonna piss me off ??.

  • Renee26

    I've been an Auntie genetically as an infant... Ion think age matters

    I use it as a term to endearment to females older than me who I think are wise and wity. Auntie's are jazzy and often put you up on game that your parents don't. Aunties keep it real.

    The true elders don't get called Auntie by me... It's yes ma'am and yes sir.

  • Topic Influencer

    It was a CRV. I only know this bc babe was like a lil truck just like yours tore that damn Bugatti UP!!!! lmaooo.

  • http://welfareinfo.org angrysolo

    I can’t remember being saddened that much during a movie. brace yourself for NO comedic relief.. but they show the passage of time extremely well and the storytelling is some of the best i’ve witnessed in years in a biopic style movie

  • Renee26

    She's insecure ?

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    summed this shyt up....NEXT!

  • PhillyFacts

    She might kill herself if she ever met my sons friends they call all of their friends mom, “Mom” and they’re all in college (20’s)....

  • Maxx

    Yeah call me auntie, but ma'am definitely makes you feel old! I have to tell this young folks that all that time...especially since I'm in Texas

  • Renee26

    Tupac is datchu?? ?

  • hi-liter

    Right...I knew it was some kind of Honda.

  • http://welfareinfo.org angrysolo

    Instead of Latifah’s “who you callin a b!tch” it is now “who you callin an aunt!e”

  • hi-liter

    ????

  • Yoni7

    I sorta get the vibe that Ava don't like your kind.....and I'm not talking "color" either. LMAOOOO

  • Yoni7

    RIGHT. LOL

  • Topic Influencer

    Damn thing had a MEAN gangsta lean up against his Bugatti. I was CRINE.

  • WutizstillHERE!

    I thought Auntie was a term that signified you old but your still relatively up on today's culture and climate.. relate-able.. when they starts saying Ma'am to your old ass just gone sit by the mail box and wait on your club membership to AARP..

  • Yoni7

    She has always put me in the mind of Laila Ali.

  • PhillyFacts

    Sandy’s been an auntie since her photography days??? Embrace it’s a compliment!

  • Topic Influencer

    My two girls and their friends do this too. Im mom to a whole tribe lmaoooo.

  • Coy little wink

    Lolooll

  • WutizstillHERE!

    ROFL!!

  • jazmine

    Snoop been “uncle” for 20 years because there’s no one the youngns respect more. ????? Why not just embrace the love?

  • Yoni7
  • Nita Pie

    SHe could be called a lot worse. How is everyone's Thursday going?

  • Maxx

    Right! My sister became an aunt at 6 months because my stepsister & Mom were pregnant at the same time! Ava get over yourself huntie, I mean auntie

  • Topic Influencer

    Sandra Clark was a BAD BISH. I LOVED her. I still do.

  • WutizstillHERE!

    I hope he is insured because we already KNOW with her hitting his 2 Million dollar car she is very under insured..

  • Yoni7

    THURRRSDAY??????!!! Where YOU at? If today is Thursday, then I don't have a job because I was supposed to go to work yesterday (Wednesday) and, well, I didn't.

  • WutizstillHERE!

    She gone have to pick up extra Uber shifts to cover that type of damage

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    I always thought that the lesbian member of the family was called 'auntie' because she didn't have any children of her own because you know she didn't like dyck.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Maybe they should just call her Miss Duvernay or by her first name...I dont get the issue with this... I would hear mostly Caribbean and African households use that term and it with endearment...Honestly I dont want anyone calling me auntie until one of my siblings push out a baby...

  • Carrington

    I get it. I really do. I HATE when I'm at the car wash or, in the grocery store parking lot and dudes in their 20's trying to sell me their CD's or begging for cash say, "Unk! Unk! Lemme holla at you for a minute..." I know I'm old enough to be your uncle, but I'm in the weird space where I can be either an older father, or a young grandfather - and I ain't ready to be reminded yet. Let me hold on to my youth until I'm ready to let it go. JUST last night, I kept trying to wipe a piece of lint out of my eyebrows until, upon closer inspection, I realized it was a gray hair and shall not be moved.
    Let us grow old at our own pace. I tell young folk all the time, "while SIR is respectable and commended... Carrington will do."

  • hi-liter

    He prolly didn’t have time to get it insured. But he gots plenty of bread.

  • Listen2Me

    ?? I see if they were calling her “grandma”..but to each his own. This too shall pass.

  • Trace da Ace

    I chuckled hard as hell off of that gray hair that "shall not be moved"....hell I plucked 3 grays out of my "baby hairs" last week....time to start buying hair dye...and I STILL have 1 solid year before I turn 40...smdh....its the kids...the kids have made me feel older than I am....

  • Yoni7

    And sweetie. Especially if we're (at or around) the same age. Don't do me, SIS! LOL

  • SoulfulLove

    Me too and I ain't birthed none of em.

  • Ghost

    You made me look at the calendar ?! Whew...Happy Hump day

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    I hate that too...Dont call me ma'am when I look younger then your momma...I used to check those kids quick with that Ma'am stuff...I worked at a college and the students would call me that and I'd just say call me Miss _____....I was told the correct tense for Ma'am is women who have children...

  • Listen2Me

    I’m Sandra’s age and I call her auntie. ?

  • Nita Pie

    https://media0.giphy.com/media/12vP9UXZbmDHby/giphy.gif
    My bad LMAO, can you tell I'm ready to get this day over with I had to look and make sure all this work I've done today got the right date. LOL I'm dead no funeral buried.

  • Yoni7

    "Unk! Unk! Lemme holla at you for a minute..."
    ______________________
    Why did I hear THIS with my SOUL!

  • Bie Bich

    Yep my first grandson was born when I was 46

  • Nita Pie

    Made myself look

  • Nita Pie

    Im going fix so dont no randoms come and make me mad. LOL

  • GAPeach

    Frankly, I find it strange that people call YOU Auntie. I'm not related to you, so you're not my Auntie. To each his own though.

  • morenYAHdelsur

    My mama was a GREAT auntie at 12. I was an auntie by 6 LOL ????? Doesn’t have to be an age thing. Folks could be saying a lot worse LOL. At least young people respect her and her art enough to use this term of endearment.

  • Yoni7

    All makeup connoisseurs, is this ^^^^^^^^ what you call a cut crease?

  • Carrington

    I hate it! I don't WANNA be old. I'm tired of it. I guess because me and my friends still childish ASF. I promise, we will be on the phone rollin on the floor laughin' and talking about the dumbest $hit. We will randomly say, in between snigglin', "we too old to be this damn childish!"
    Thing is, I don't remember my mom and dad having fun. Enjoying life, talking about television shows and laughing until their cheeks hurt when they were my age. They were always "grown"... we just want to have fun.

    I'm going to my grave, still dressed, still getting my head shaved... still having fun... and refusing to let my 5 months pregnant stomach come through. I'm going to be a 62 year old Sean Connery with a six pack and an earring in my left ear - I don't want to be George Jefferson. EFF that!

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    My oldhead use to saying "Call me whatcha want but dont call me collect"... I would crack up everytime he said his catchphrase...

  • morenYAHdelsur

    Pretty much!

  • Listen2Me

    Omg! I have a bad habit of calling people “sweetie”. Come her sweetie. Can I have a number 4 sweetie? Have s seat sweetie.

  • Tammie Reed

    I don't have an issue with it and I'm much older than she is, oh well.

  • Carrington

    I promise - it's what they do's. LOL

  • Guess Who

    LMMFAO

  • Yoni7

    Aaaannnnnnd the fact that I don't even have aunties in real life......many folks are not privy to that title. LOL *boycottsgrandparents*

  • SugarFoot a.k.a Ty

    LMAO!!! Now let that gray strand be great mmkay women like salt and pepper on men. If you pluck it 5 more will grow lol

  • Meme

    Amazing what silly things we think when we're younger?, im assuming this was when you where younger and not up until today my man Roderick?????

  • devonia

    Like the old people use to say, you better put a handle on my name. This is an old southern saying for children when greeting elders. I wouldn't have it any other way. It is a sign of respect and it shows that a child was raised well. Ava, please go have a seat somewhere.

  • Yoni7

    I KNOW. I HEARD IT while READING it. LOL

  • Carrington

    Well, that's probably why she ain't ready. LOL

  • Yoni7

    How old are you? You do this to "older" adults?

  • Dontgetdraggedhoe??

    Chile she needs to stick to directing and stop talking. This makes the second time she said some side eye worthy typa shit. But regardless, stop calling her auntie. The real question is do you mind when we call you that sandra?

  • Yoni7

    I know that's right....UNC. LOL

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Me either...I dont even like it when I first meet a man...If you call me babe or baby after knowing me for a few days I can only imagine how many other women you say that too...Its basic and not endearing at all...

  • goat

    I been thinking that too, but I got to shoot tha shot.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    I agree and its so overused that it makes the word basic and unimaginative...

  • iWasteTime

    I'd rather be called Ms. or Mrs.
    but right now, I'm called Time Jr's Mom, in school, in the streets and by some of the kids his age, in our family ... lol !

  • Yoni7

    Go'ne head. I just need an invite to the wedding.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    LOLOLOL...I miss my oldhead sugar daddy days...the early 2000's were the best...

  • Yui

    “Dear” —

    This twenty-three year old called me that once. I was like — ?

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Umm I've seen grandads and grandmoms at 35...Im friends with a few...

  • Listen2Me

    43...and I do. It’s something that I’ve always saw my aunt do and then it became a habit that I started doing.
    No one has been offended yet (I’m in Georgia so they probably think it’s my southern charm).

  • Renee Bee

    I can't watch it either. My emotions are raw already.

  • Trace da Ace

    LMAO!!!!!!! yes...I feel you...I be cracking up with my teenage sons like I'm their age...I can't help it....I love cracking up with my kids....even in public....my bff and I, our kids are around the same age...hell we ALL go playing dodge ball....kickball...basketball....and we be keeping up with them and all....and I will be with you...I will be 80 years old (god willing)....still listening to rap music...still smoking my herb.....still cracking up.....I will tuck my gut into a waist trainer and keep that ish moving!!

  • Anji

    Embrace your age and status. I enjoy being called auntie or ma by youth. I earned a title.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Is anybody keeping track of those American deaths in the Dominican Republic??? I think someone is poisoning their drinks at the resort... So far three from the same resort and that resort is on groupon all the time...Chile...

  • Ryan

    I just realized, I don't think folks call Oprah Auntie. Either way if a grown person asks you to not call them out their name I don't see an issue.

  • Trace da Ace

    ok...so my kids friends call me "ma dukes" or "dukes".....and IDGAF....soooo.....

  • Dontgetdraggedhoe??

    I got cussed out for saying i aint grouponing no dam trip like a teenage hoochie mama. Either we sit down and plan this and pay what it’ll cost or stay tf home. All this bogo half off vacations and people get victimized everytime. Recently i heard someone found cum on their panties whilst in vegas in one of them groupon hotels like....

  • Carrington

    I used to be mad that dudes have that salt and pepper goatee thing going on... over the last 6 months, I've been asking God to take it away.

  • Reenaface

    I just saw a video by Paris Milan on the new black couple that was found dead in their rooms. Has anyone heard about the white woman from Delaware who was vacationing with her husband and friends and went to the snack bar for some snacks and got beaten up and hit over the head by one of the hotel workers there and left for dead? She wrote about it on Facebook about how the hotel refused to press charges because she couldn't ID who assaulted her. She earned women not to walk around by themselves while on vacation in another country. I read about her story on Radaronline. Crazy!

  • Carrington

    I feel like you're old when you can't remember certain stuff. I still remember stuff that happened in 8th grade like it happened Thursday. LOL

  • Reenaface

    Recently i heard someone found cum on their panties whilst in vegas in one of them groupon hotels like....

    ??

  • Yoni7

    See, I can see doing it for older adults, sorta. But someone around your age, like me? I would give you the side eye. No make that a glare. LOL

  • Kayke

    I had my first child at 30. I needed my “wild and free” years.
    At the rate their going they could have 6-7 generations at the family reunion.

  • GinJen

    bwahahahahaha...that's all I got

  • Renee26

    Funny cause my sister's kids call my momma/their maternal grandma "renee's momma" cause they associated her with being my momma growing up ?. I'm the cool auntie who's only 9-15 yrs older than them

  • iWasteTime

    I am. They're going to care now cause a white woman died immediately after mixing a travel bottle of liquor from the mini bar with a coke. Her Husband, a doctor kept her alive but she ultimately died at the hospital. Same resort as the black couple .
    I want to know what killed that American couple in Fiji too

  • Dontgetdraggedhoe??

    Right? She went to tell the security so they could access the security cam but surprise surprise none of the cameras work. Maintenance wasnt on site and all the housekeepers are females so who did that? The police came by took her statement and the sample but she was leaving the next day and they knew it so whos to say they’ll investigate? Smfh

  • Kayke

    Congratulations!

  • Topic Influencer

    I hope NY is like NC and require you have insurance before you drive off the lot. If not that is a whole MESS and will be used as a lesson going forward. Oh MAN

  • Renee26

    Ok! Expressing this just tells everybody she's insecure about aging.

  • Renee Bee

    Bwahahahaha!

  • MsSapphire9800

    Well...social media call it as they see it...she is 47 and I am quite sure she has some nieces and nephews. She should be glad these young folks are putting a respectable title to her name. Auntie Ava have a seat in the front row with the others!!!
    https://media1.giphy.com/media/l0HU0CtNrpY7uTCDK/giphy.gif

  • Renee26

    I love that salt and pepper... I side eye men who color to cover it up. Vain men are unattractive to me... Man up and own that ish!

  • T Willis

    Lol that tells you right there (Oprah) that “auntie” isn’t a term of endearment or respect ?

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Right! I could understand if this sensitive chick was being called Shawtay or Bay Boo.. They need to start calling her #MsMenopause

  • Eileen

    so do I

  • T Willis

    I agree with Ava, I don't think “auntie” is respectful or cute lol. I do notice that most southerners use it for older, (usually overweight), black women who gossip a lot. I’m more of a Ms./Mrs./Ma’aam type of girl lol. Plus, there’s something strangely ghetto about referring to an older black woman as “auntie” ?

  • Renee26

    I think the same way

  • Carrington

    Why is it vanity in men, but y'all get to wear lashes and make-up and bras and waist trainers and weaves and wigs? That's so unfair and a f*cked up way to look at it. We have to be ourselves with no help (except the gym) all of our youth while y'all get the benefit of a million tricks of "vanity" from the time you're 13... why can't we not want to lose our hair and go to the grave looking old as f*ck and not be considered vain or needing to "man up". What does THAT even mean? Y'all don't tell women, who look like different people without all of that extra $hit, to "woman up"... it is what it is. I don't want to be an old a$$ed man. LOL

  • Eileen

    I love the term auntie it is a term of endearment in the bc. it is betta than us calling each other b-tches and n-ggers.
    Auntie ROCKS!!!
    da-ver-nay just direct and keep it moving!

  • IyanlaVanzantoftheInterWebs

    Say what?? These people bought trips off of Groupon to the same resort in different locations and now they are dying?

  • MsSapphire9800

    Hell they are calling Mary J auntie now....I had to learn this younger generation is being raised different...and I remember when I was 13...I told my mother people over 35 was old and senile.

  • Renee26

    Interesting

  • Reenaface

    That is crazy! No one's on your side when these things happen. You can't even get help from the authorities.

  • Renee26

    As long as the yt mf's don't call me girl or my males boy I'm good... They aren't allowed to use those terms when referring to blk folks

  • http://thedevereauxshow.com Ms.Devereaux

    Thank you!!

  • Renee Bee

    Auntie Ava looks way older than 46. ??
    She always gives me a elemental earth witchy vibe.

  • Renee26

    Tevin was a teen heartthrob??

  • Renee26

    Heeeey Goat... I need some yuff too ?

  • Topic Influencer

    I dont think they got them off of groupon. Not all of them. They all at the same spot tho.

  • Renee26

    I wonder if he has skinny ankles to match his ambition ?

  • Dontgetdraggedhoe??

    Keep in mind that a lot of folks lowkey dont even like americans like that and here we come in drones staying in cheap hotels with no securuty doing photishoots in their neighborhoods like the world is our oyster meanwhile they haven eaten three full meals in months. Im dominican but when i go i dont even stay with family, they clown me but i stay at a hotel with security working cams and electronic keycards.

  • Renee26

    2 of em have interviewed with Vlad on youtube... I watched those but I'm also dragging my feet to watch the movie. I get angry

  • therealashland

    I love her , that's Bae.. Can we get the scoop about her Auntie Sandy https://media3.giphy.com/media/iz8soqHZxoky4/giphy.gif

  • Renee26

    Giggles

  • Renee26

    Where's my switch?!

  • Yoni7

    I'll have to find it and watch it. Get yo emotions in check before you do. Part 4 is so sad.

  • http://www.pureromance.com LA

    I feel you.. I get called mam.. Uggh.. It makes me feel some kinda way.. I ain't ready, lol.

  • Yoni7

    Who Goat? Goat is cool people's. We've met in person before. He's the real MVP. Drove all the way across state lines to pick me up. I'm forever indebted to him.

  • goat

    LOL... ain't nothing wrong with dipping in the Fountain Of Youth.

  • http://www.pureromance.com LA

    My bestie hit me up, like "lets play double dutch"
    I'm older ( younger than 40, older than 35, lol) I called a couple more girlfriends and we got it crackin... Surprisingly its like riding a bike.. I had so much fun, BUT my body hurt like hell the next day???

  • JazzyBossyJen
  • tia

    I don't see an issue with it tho. But, if she has a case, I guess she does. She should be grateful that folks acknowledge her existence.

  • Carrington

    I promise, when I moved to Georgia, I'm making friends who will want to stay young. I want to be able to have game nights. I want to get a group of folk and go to the movies. I want to go to that bouncy place and have dodge ball games. I don't want to be that old dude holding my back! LOL

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    IDK if they used groupon to book the trips I just know that the resort was on Groupon...I was looking for a nice cheap trip in the DR a few months back and the Bahia popped right up for all inclusive...the flight from my city was not included in the departing cities...

  • Queen Bee

    Me too!

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Something is going on...I didn't hear about the Fiji couple but the other couple where one was found in the sea and the other on the side of the road in the DR is troubling...one of the family member of the couple that passed recently said that they were found unresponsive int eh bed but their luggage was missing...

  • Reenaface

    I got the sense that they felt that way towards Americans in their country. Add in the fact that Trump is implementing these bans in certain countries which is not making relations any better. I've only visited the Bahamas ages ago I would like to visit more countries but right now I'm listening to the stories that are happening to people when they travel internationally. The first black couple that died, they were driving to the airport to catch their flight but I don't know how safe it was for them to drive on foreign roads in the dark to make it to the airport to catch their cheap flight back home.

  • heavn_sent

    Not just the gym, but good living. Far too many men these days are concerned with the little petty ish.

  • http://www.pureromance.com LA

    I feel you Carrington.. I am the same way and my best friend keeps me that way. She hit me up yesterday wanting to get together with our sons to play tennis.. We encourage each other like that..

    Since that day I now keep double dutch ropes in my trunk (I found a store that sold 75ft phone cord, lol).. I pulled them out at a Mother's day cookout and asked who wanted to play. There was a couple haters but all we needed was three.. Sh!t, 10 mins later pap pap and nana was in the ropes, kids and all. I need fun, laughter, and activity in my life. I dont ever want to be "too old" or "too grown"

  • hottlanta

    She was looking for some d. Talking bout she was hungry on an all inclusive resort. Yeah right

  • dontgetblocked

    I just say Auntie because it's cute! Younger folks call me Auntie. Not a big deal.

  • Yoni7

    Don't forget the yt lady that was beaten. I honestly think her husband did it tho'.

  • Yardgirl

    On one of the Teen Mom shows the grandmother was 32!!

  • Applebootay

    We really need 227 comments to unpack this?

  • dontgetblocked

    I was looking on Groupon but something about the Dominican Republic trips looked cheap and unsafe. I got a bad vibe.

  • speakinmymind

    That is a very unflattering pic of her. She has meaty face.

  • dontgetblocked

    That's how I feel. I pay for safety.

  • Yardgirl

    I do it too!! I picked it up from a friend (hon too) and thought it was endearing. Now I am telling myself STAWP and will most likely not say it anymore. Da hell.

  • Yoni7

    I don't doubt it.

  • vicci

    Aging is biological not chronilogical. The calendar is gregion and was created by Julius ceasar and the pope. She don't have to count herself out. We usually feel younger bc some are biologically. Ignorance will allow you to believe we age bc the earth goes around the moon ????

  • Bashi22

    Auntie Ava and Auntie Angela Rye

  • Madashelle

    Yes! I always knew something was suspicious about this, but then when I was reading The Root this morning, they brought up another couple from back in March, and the White woman who died days before that Black couple.

  • Grace Turner

    Auntie is a term of respect in the #Culture to that one woman in the family that gets you, looks out for you, protects you and understand you and if must sometimes lie for you, and she's just cooler than ypur parents ??

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Yup...so far I thinks its been 5 people in three months...

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    Really??? They found a workers hat by the crawlspace entrance where she was hidden...the husband and the people with them were screaming at management for almost 8 hours...he was in bed when she went for the snack and got assaulted...

  • heavn_sent

    She looks like Lalah H in this pic.

  • Meagan Good’s Eyebrows

    Whooo Chile it’s two sides to the Auntie coin. On one hand Vets like Vivica being called auntie out of respect. On the other hand your stylist will let you know if a hairstyle looks too “Auntie” ?

  • Madashelle

    Im now thinking that they were both drugged, and by the time they got on the road and drove their car, the affect of the poisoning took place and that's how they probably crashed. This case would have probably died, but now that they have a White woman in the mix, they will probably have to reexamine all of the evidence.

  • Coy little wink

    I hate when my daughter calls me that!

  • Yardgirl

    I was 10 too!! My niece is like a sister to me and we still BFF!!

  • Yoni7

    Did they check any of the workers for bruises?

  • Karen Brady

    I know what yu mean.. I have YouTubed this group of men so muych over the last few days.. Watched the vidiotaped 'confessions' and everything. Smh.

  • Seldomseen

    I am about her age and I do EAP work. Well I was sent to a plant a couple of days for an employee death. I introduce myself to employee’s, tell them I am there for grief counseling etc. Well a young passed and I went through my spill and he said “ you want something to drink mamma” I said “sure” He went and got me a soda and placed it gently in front of me...... he said “ here you go mamma” I felt so honored and respected.

  • Karen Brady

    Hey! Question - did Ava and Common date?

  • Yardgirl

    I felt so honored and respected.
    *************************************
    Thank you!! That is how I feel when I am called ma'am and was shocked at how many women feel disrespected by that term. *kanye shrug*

  • LaGrl562

    Boom right there..............................LOL

  • B.Loveitt

    I get it...I've been waiting to see when will I be called auntie. That shyt is just like the comment "She looks good for her age." Child she looks better than all you out of shape ain't had no baby 20 something year olds. STFU. Some folks have aunties no more the 7yrs old or less age gaps between them...change of life babies. They have more youth in them than your younger ass would every have.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Miss or Ma'am will do nicely, but I understand that times have charged. So I'm not offended.

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Who is ma dukes? Where did she come from?

  • Coy little wink

    Notorious BIG

  • sjames

    EXACTLY!!!! the woman who inspires you and LISTENS TO YOUR NEEDS and sets you straight when need be. she lives the life you aspire to live one day and she is about her business!

  • ClaireHuxtable

    L0l@ Let me hold on to my youth until I'm ready to let it go!

  • ClaireHuxtable

    Thank U. Still not sure I like it.

  • Lady_Elle

    Ummm Auntie Ava that is a term or endearment and respect!

  • JustB

    I thought "Miss" was used the way she describes and "Auntie" means female drug addict...js

  • Yardgirl

    Exactly!!

  • Bie Bich

    Thank you

  • Society has changed

    They way that skin looks the word Auntie ain’t bad....

  • dru and neil

    Getting older is a delicate situation for a woman! I’m about to be 40 and some days I cry at the sheer thought of it!

  • dru and neil

    I thought the same thing! Like wow people really dug into this!

  • dru and neil

    I think a lot of times we don’t realize we are getting old until somebody young makes it abundantly clear. Then, you feel crunchy crusty and elderly. I think her pride was just hurt. It’s hard realizing your “auntie” and not that hot little number you once were.

  • dru and neil

    Besides what choice does she have? It’s not like she’s getting any younger, none of us are.

  • dru and neil

    That’s exactly what it is. I think I know how she feels, I don’t want to be old either but at least she’s rich. The money can comfort her.

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    I have no idea...

  • SingleGalCrazyWorld

    I have no idea...

  • JayBird

    Me too! I'll be 40 in a couple of weeks and I'm sad about it.

  • JayBird

    Me too! I'll be 40 in a couple of weeks and I'm sad about it.

  • Dun Dilly

    I thought AUNTIE was what we called that terminally SINGLE 40+ year old female? Uncle is given to the OG's, though.

  • Dun Dilly

    I thought AUNTIE was what we called that terminally SINGLE 40+ year old female? Uncle is given to the OG's, though.

  • Karen Brady

    Ya'll will both be fine. I get it, trust me but it's truly just a number and your state of mind. Embrace it and keep it CUTE and keep it moving 'girls' :-).

  • Karen Brady

    Ya'll will both be fine. I get it, trust me but it's truly just a number and your state of mind. Embrace it and keep it CUTE and keep it moving 'girls' :-).

  • Karen Brady

    lol

  • Karen Brady

    lol

  • Fire & Ice

    I heard about this from a YouTuber the other night. Something is definitely not right! When that couple died in March, I said right on this blog that it sounded suspicious.

  • Fire & Ice

    I heard about this from a YouTuber the other night. Something is definitely not right! When that couple died in March, I said right on this blog that it sounded suspicious.

  • Wayup!

    I swear these young people think I'm their competition I have to keep telling them iIM 50 old... What's your excuse ??
    I'm serious cuz if you hatin on me.... It's for good reason number one I don't have a gut and my titties still sit up ...?

  • Wayup!

    I swear these young people think I'm their competition I have to keep telling them iIM 50 old... What's your excuse ??
    I'm serious cuz if you hatin on me.... It's for good reason number one I don't have a gut and my titties still sit up ...?

  • Thee Lovelii Ladii Jaye ?

    It's better than being called "Grandma".?????

  • Thee Lovelii Ladii Jaye ?

    It's better than being called "Grandma".?????

  • Fire & Ice

    I'm so with you. When traveling just pay the extra money or go when you can afford it.

  • Fire & Ice

    I'm so with you. When traveling just pay the extra money or go when you can afford it.

  • LibgraScales

    Girl, stop crying and embrace it! You are blessed to be here because I know some who didn't make it. It's all in your head dear. You will be fine. :-)

  • LibgraScales

    Girl, stop crying and embrace it! You are blessed to be here because I know some who didn't make it. It's all in your head dear. You will be fine. :-)

  • Renee26

    You'd be doing the dipping... I look and feel young but I'm seasoned ?

  • Renee26

    You'd be doing the dipping... I look and feel young but I'm seasoned ?

  • Renee26

    That's what's up! Yes, he was speakin my language (give the youngsters a run for their money) that implies that he will try to put in work... I'm game chile.

    Did you look at the ankles?? ?

  • den

    No it's not...Its RUDE .
    My stupid , mo manners generation need manners. I would never dare call someone that

  • Renee26

    Women are into vanity because there's a lot of emphasis on us to look "pretty"... Men are visual creatures first. I'm equal opportunity... I'd find it unattractive for a woman to be extremely vain too.

    By saying "man up" I mean roll with dat ish and make it work for you don't hide it.

    Don't get me wrong. I want a guy to take pride in his looks. I don't like men with long hair or bad hygiene.

    If you're balding rock the bald head and if you're going grey embrace that ish... It's sexy as fugg!! I prefer older men.

    I don't want to see a man weave blow up with the wind, feel a fully shaved baby face or have dye rubbing off on my pillowcases... Just MY preferences

  • Myopinion

    Okay then ma'am, I would yes ma'am and no ma'am her a** to death. I love it when my young friends call me auntie, It actually makes me feel respected and wise

  • Myopinion

    Okay then ma'am, I would yes ma'am and no ma'am her a** to death. I love it when my young friends call me auntie, It actually makes me feel respected and wise

  • Reenaface

    That is certainly very plausible it's just finding who would poison them. I have seen pics if them around a white couple who were from Canada and I guess the couple was real cool with them. I'm not necessary saying that it was the white couple, but they would have been the one of the only ones in such close proximity to the black couple. I even saw a pic of the black lady sitting on the white women's lap?. Either way something sinister is happening on that island. I think that white lady who was also found dead in her room died five days earlier than the black couple. This is not good for summer traveling.

  • Wayup!

    My thing is auntie's can still be sexy......I haven't been called one yet... But people probably think it.... And I'm str8.... In my sz10 jeans. K?

  • dru and neil

    I’m not embracing this! I used to be able to run miles and miles, now I’m all sore and tore up after a short run! This sucks!

  • dru and neil

    I understand ?

  • BythegraceofGodIcanexplain

    I don't understand that I look young to white people but then my younger generation call me ma'am or lady??

  • BythegraceofGodIcanexplain

    I seriously went through midlife crisis a whole year. I took guitar lessons , bought me keyboard then got my daughter a violin. So when HER, the artist came out I could breathe . It took care of what I felt was missing in this world.

  • http://WwwKizzyRock.com Real talk with Kizzy Rock

    I believe we put to much emphasis on age! Its in our heads because of what society says. It is about how you take care of yourself. I know 20 year olds who are ran through and look 40 and i know 40 year olds who took care of themselves and look 20. No one can make you feel insecure in an area in which you make yourself confident in. So see it as a blessing. Many of our classmates did not make it! Im 40(that is ME ) on my pic. Chile im not thinking bout no age. I still pull em 18-80 years old if i choose! Ladies you are beautiful!!!!

  • M Dot

    Auntie Sandra....that fits

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    Ava is like "forget that Auntie crap...I'm as young as I feel." https://media2.giphy.com/media/13hxeOYjoTWtK8/giphy.gif

  • Y’all Jealous Cuz I’m Prudy

    I have no problem with getting older...in fact I welcome it. The way some of these young people are dropping like flies, I'll be throwing a welcoming party for father time.

  • http://WwwKizzyRock.com Real talk with Kizzy Rock

    Okkkkkkkkk!! Say that!!

  • morenYAHdelsur

    YES! Zackly! LOL

  • Cliffpetty

    I so understand. Turn 40 in a wk. When i tell my husband ANYTHING about cramps, he brings up menapause. Got him back last wk when I said his dick old and stopped working.

  • Jussjess25

    Auntie I'm so done with you and this post ????.

  • ALLMINE?

    How old are u bro if u don't mind me asking?

  • EMILY POST

    Ava has those Auntie Type of projects.
    Its not like she out here breaking it down with modern young relatable ish like Mara Brock Akil or Issa Rae.

  • Goddess™®?©?

    She looks like an older version of Ayesha Curry.

  • Michael Washington

    Well to be fair, in out community isn't uncommon to be a grandma at 30 so...

    My youngest aunt became a grand at 36 and was never right afterwards

  • GrambosTheHealer
  • missmiami305

    Auntie is a term of endearment and it has nothing to do with age. Anyway, she ain’t it. Only auntie I recognize is you ??????.

  • missmiami305

    ??

  • missmiami305

    Chileeeee had this convo with a young chick the other day. No lies detected.

  • Renee Bee

    You get me. Lol.

  • Yoni7

    LOL I did NOT look at his ankles. LOL He's a great guy!

  • Yoni7

    See, I haven't gotten to the actual "confessions". I will tho'. I had time Monday. LOL Hence why I sat down and watched the whole thing.

  • Logan Roberts

    If "Auntie" makes her feel a certain way, that's her right. Everybody is different, don't call me auntie unless I'm your real auntie.

  • Renee26

    ?

  • Wile E. Coli

    Mt God. that is one ugly woman. How about we start calling her Mrs. Ed.

  • Gowns. Beautiful Gowns

    my friends called me auntie before i turned 30
    not because i was out of touch, but i gave off cool auntie vibes.
    like that young aunt that was a few years older than u because nana and pop pop had a later in life baby

  • Rossdaboss

    Maybe I should tell my sons friends to stop calling me POPS because they all do. Lmao....shits cool with me, out of my son 4 day 1 cats, my son is the only 1 with a father in his life. If they look to me for advice and guidance and want to call me pops, fuck it.

  • nyla00

    It’s her own preference. I dislike when my friends children call me Ms.. I’m like aaah no

  • HoneyHitchcock

    I’m not fond of being called ma’am because it makes me feel ancient, but as long as they address me using ma’am in a respectful manner I really can’t complain.

  • Joni

    She look's like Phyllis Hyman...