How many times have you met a man who by all intents and purposes seems like your perfect match? It's love at first sight as you fall head over heels for him, only to realize later that he was the Devil's spawn?

This is happening more and more frequently as upwardly mobile, successful single ladies sacrifice starting a family to focus on their careers instead. By the time a successful, independent sista in her mid 30s decides to settle down with a man and start a family, she finds the pickings are very slim.

Among the down low men, the cheaters, the con artists and the play boys, there is a more sinister man lurking: the Sociopath.

You're probably thinking you can spot a psycho from a mile away, but you're wrong. These sociopath/borderline personalities are the dudes you see up in the clubs who look like walking Billboards. They're fine, suave, debonair, charming, and one look from them can melt your panties off.

But before you give him your number (or your panties); ask yourself: why is he single? Often times these men are sociopaths on the hunt for prey: and you are their perfect victim. They're not looking for a relationship, and they will tell you that right off the bat. So please listen to them.

I found the following tips on how to spot a Sociopath/Borderline personality on another blog. Ladies, study these tips so you don't fall victim to a sociopath who destroys you mentally and financially.

How to Know When You're Dating a Psychopath

1. Charisma and charm -- He's a smooth talker, always has an answer, he's quick witted and never misses a beat. He seems to be very exciting. If he's too good to be true, it's because he is!

2. Enormous ego -- He acts like the smartest, richest or most successful man in the club. He wears expensive clothes, shoes and jewelry (all bought by his last victim). He is handsome and charming and he knows it. He will brag on himself and often parties with his "boys" who back up his lies.

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A friend of mine was in her mid to late twenties when I met her back in the 90s. She was a gorgeous accountant who was vibrant, full of life and doted on her two small daughters whom she adored.

I was introduced to her by her husband who she thought I was creeping with because we were so tight. Today, she is 40 years old and lives in a nursing home where she is confined to a hospital bed. She can't speak or move so she communicates with her eyes.

Muscle contractions of her upper and lower limbs render them totally useless to her. At age 40 she requires total care to even turn herself in bed.

She is one of many young women of child bearing age who have suffered a stroke caused by contraceptives.

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New pictures of former super model Naomi Campbell's hair loss emerged on the Internet today. According to the Daily Mail, the pics were taken at a fashion photo shoot in New York.

Naomi often wears lacefront wigs to cover her bald spots caused by breakage due to years of wearing glue-in and sew-in hair extensions.

I've also seen this type of temporary hair loss caused by mental/nervous disorders (Alopecia nervosa).

From Medicinenet.com:

What is alopecia areata?

Alopecia areata is a hair-loss condition which usually affects the scalp. It can, however, sometimes affect other areas of the body. Hair loss tends to be rather rapid and often involves one side of the head more than the other.

Alopecia areata affects both males and females. This type of hair loss is different than male-pattern baldness, an inherited condition.

What causes alopecia areata?

Current evidence suggests that alopecia areata is caused by an abnormality in the immune system. This particular abnormality leads to autoimmunity. As a result, the immune system attacks particular tissues of the body. In alopecia areata, for unknown reasons, the body's own immune system attacks the hair follicles and disrupts normal hair formation. Biopsies of affected skin show immune cells inside of the hair follicles where they are not normally present. What causes this is unknown. Alopecia areata is sometimes associated with other autoimmune conditions such as allergic disorders, thyroid disease, vitiligo, lupus, rheumatoid arthritis, and ulcerative colitis. Sometimes, alopecia areata occurs within family members, suggesting a role of genes and heredity.

More Info On the Web

Alopecia Areata Causes, Treatments, Symptoms -- WebMD

Alopecia -- UMM

A woman and her boyfriend are in the Fulton County jail charged with murder in the death of the woman's 12-year-old brother.

Police said Sabrina Powell and her boyfriend, Omar Pitts, were charged with felony murder in the death of 12-year-old Jaytavious Mahone, who died from heat stroke (hyperthermia) on Thursday.

The couple admitted punishing the boy by forcing him to stand outside holding a paint bucket for hours with no water to drink. This past week, the temperature in Atlanta has hovered above the 90-100 degree mark.

Police said Sabrina Powell and her boyfriend, Omar Pitts, were charged with felony murder and cruelty to children in the death of 12-year-old Jaytavious Mahone on Thursday.

The Fulton County Medical Examiner's office said the 12-year-old boy who was reported to have suffered a heat stroke did not die of natural causes.

Cpl. Kay Lester of the Fulton County Police Department said officers received a call to Camelot Drive just after 3:30 p.m. Thursday. Police said the call came in that a 12-year-old boy was suffering from heat stroke.
Paramedics arrived on the scene and began to try to resuscitate the boy, police said. He was transported to South Fulton Hospital, where he was pronounced dead.

Heat stroke occurs when the body temperature remains consistently elevated above normal, and the body is unable to dissipate the heat. Children and the elderly are especially susceptible to heat stroke during the Summer.

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Loyal reader L.L. sent in a personal account of her painful experiences with the disorder Fibromyalgia. Not much is known about fibromyalgia, and most doctors tend to dismiss the disorder as psychological. But for the 2% of the population who suffer from fibromyalgia (mostly women), the pain they feel is very real.

According to the MayoClinic, fibromyalgia is a chronic condition characterized by dull pain in your muscles, ligaments and tendons. Fibromyalgia can also cause fatigue (feeling excessively tired), depression, anxiety and sleeplessness (insomnia). The symptoms usually begin after a traumatic event or injury.

Other conditions associated with fibromyalgia include:

  • Chronic fatigue syndrome
  • Depression
  • Endometriosis
  • Headaches
  • Irritable bowel syndrome (IBS)
  • Lupus
  • Osteoarthritis
  • Post-traumatic stress disorder
  • Restless legs syndrome
  • Rheumatoid arthritis

Treatment includes pain medications, anti-depressants and anti-seizure meds. Most patients self-medicate with Motrin or Aleve until the pain drives them into the doctor's office. Physical therapy, counseling and lifestyle modification are also treatment options.

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Read L.L.'s emotional email after the break (long read).

As always, any medical information published on this blog is not intended as a substitute for informed medical advice and you should not take any action before consulting with your personal physician or a health care provider.

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Maybe you've seen them in your neighborhood or at the hair salon, cute little babies and toddlers who seem healthy and normal -- until they smile or open their mouths to reveal tiny silver caps covering their front teeth.

Baby bottle tooth decay, or baby dental caries, is a result of mothers putting babies to bed with a bottle (or no-spill cup) full of sugary milk, juices or sodas. The prolonged contact of milk or juice leaves a sticky film on the baby's teeth all night long.

Bacteria, which is always present in the baby's mouth, eats the sugar in the film and converts it to acid which then eats away at the enamel on baby's teeth. The damage progresses through 3 stages:

  • Stage 1 - signs go unnoticed as bacteria decays teeth from inside out
  • Stage 2 - discoloration begins at the gum line and works down the tooth
  • Stage 3 - teeth begins to visibly corrode, fracture and fall out

Again, Stage 1 goes undetected. So by the time the bottle rot has progressed to stage 2, it may be too late to save the teeth. And if your child's permanent teeth have already grown in (or the baby teeth never fall out, such as in producer Jermaine Dupri's case) the Dental bills can be very expensive. Some dentists charge $3,000 and up to save your child's teeth.

Treatment includes painful root canals, extractions and/or the placement of porcelain caps (expensive) or silver caps (cheaper) over the baby's teeth to save them. Extensive dental treatments could require hospitalization.

Dentists advise mothers with children of teeth bearing age to avoid putting your toddler to bed with a bottle or a no-spill cup filled with anything other than water. If your child fusses and cries, she will eventually the no milk or juice at night rule and you will get a good night's sleep.

Also, teaching your toddler to brush her teeth after meals is not a bad idea. And give her healthy food to eat such as apples and carrots in place of candy.

You should also cut back on bottled water and give your baby tap water instead since healthy teeth need fluoride to keep them hard and prevent decay.

Take your baby to the dentist as early as age 1 to give your dentist the best chance to diagnose problems early.

More info on the Web

Bottle Rot Syndrome - ePinions

Bottle Rot FAQS - Children's hospital

Dental Tips for Children

DISCLAIMER: As always, any medical information published on this blog is not intended as a substitute for informed medical advice and you should not take any action before consulting with your personal physician or a health care provider.

Anorexia Nervosa is a potentially deadly eating disorder that is characterized by marked weight loss and severe body image disturbance. This psychological disorder primarily affects women who have low self esteem and an unrealistic and obsessive fear of gaining weight.

Women diagnosed with Anorexia Nervosa control their weight through self-imposed starvation (avoiding food), eating and purging (vomiting), excessive exercise, diet pills, drug use and laxative abuse.

Anorexics share an intense fear of gaining weight and refuse to maintain their body weight above 85% of the expected weight for their age and height.

In addition to the affects on the body externally, anorexia nervosa causes damage to the inside of the esophagus when food is repeatedly regurgitated (swallowed and brought back up). The constant irritation of the esophagus can lead to esophagitis, an inflammatory condition that can cause scarring and narrowing of the esophagus, making it difficult to swallow or keep food down.

Frequent episodes of vomiting can lead to severe dehydration which results in electrolyte imbalance, cardiac arrest and possible death.

Signs and Symptoms of Anorexia Nervosa

  • Depression
  • Weight loss
  • Skin changes
  • Amenorrhea (missed periods)
  • Fatigue, weakness, lethargy
  • Anxiety
  • Insomnia
  • Cold intolerance
  • Sexual dysfunction
  • Tooth decay (from the effects of stomach acid on enamel)

Treatment includes psychotherapy, nutritional counseling, anti-depressant meds, and in extreme cases, hospitalization in a medical or psych ward setting.

Anorexics are difficult to treat because they don't believe they have an eating disorder and they often relapse into their former eating and purging pattern after treatment. The difference between a patient with anorexia nervosa and bulimia is the bulimia patient maintains their weight above average or just below average. Additionally, rather than avoiding food (as the anorexic does) the bulimia patient (secretly) binges on food and then purges (vomits) due to strong feelings of shame and guilt.

If you believe you or someone you know is suffering from anorexia nervosa or bulimia, get help immediately by calling an anorexia treatment center in your area.

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Info On The Web


As always, any medical information published on this blog is not intended as a substitute for informed medical advice and you should not take any action before consulting with your personal physician or a health care provider.

Nude images of rapper Trina that leaked online over the weekend continue to cause a stir online. The subject of most of the online chatter are the photos that show a rash on Trina's arms. Many who haven't heard or read the explanation of the rash on Trina's arms continue to spread rumors that Trina has a sexually transmitted disease.

In order to dispel such rumors, Trina spoke with MTV News about the rash on her arms. She explained that her rash is a common skin condition called Urticaria, or hives.

After allergy tests came back negative, a doctor told Trina that her hives were most likely due to stress, a factor that makes hives more difficult to treat unless the patient eliminates the underlying cause of her stress (man problems or money problems).

Read more about emotionally induced hives in my Medical Minute post here.

Source: MTV

I told you yesterday that I would write a Medical Minute post about the mystery skin rash that rapper Trina appeared to have in leaked pictures from her cell phone. Although I am not a doctor and I have no knowledge of Trina's medical history, it does look like Trina has a chronic (long term) case of urticaria, also known as hives.

Hives is an outbreak of raised, itchy, sometimes reddened patches of skin and bumps that are frequently caused by allergic reactions to food, drugs, chemicals, cold, sunlight, etc. Foods that can cause allergic hives are shellfish, nuts, peanuts, eggs, wheat, and soy.

Hives can occur anywhere on the body but are usually seen on the extremities (arms and legs). Hives can also be caused by the friction from hot, restrictive clothing such as bra straps or tight elastic bands in panties.

Hives are not contagious and can not be passed from one person to another by contact. Therefore, hives is not a sexually transmitted disease.

Although hives are frequently caused by allergic reactions, it can also be brought on by a non-allergic reaction to emotional stress or distress. Emotionally induced hives is diagnosed whenever the hives lasts longer than 6 weeks and do not respond very well to treatment. This occurs because the underlying trigger is the patient's own emotional and mental condition, and not by an allergy.

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MRSA (methicillin-resistant Staphylococcus Aureus) is a contagious skin infection that can be fatal.

MRSA is caused by the common bacteria staphylococcus -- or "staph" for short. Most of us carry staph bacteria on our skin and in our noses without being infected. It is spread easily by skin to skin contact even by people who don't show any signs of infection.

In the 70s and 80s, MRSA was commonly referred to as a hospital acquired infection (HA-MRSA). The infections spread rapidly within hospital settings and nursing homes where patients with weakened immune systems lived in close quarters.

The centers For Disease Control (CDC) and public health experts went to great measures to educate health care workers about the importance of hand washing between patient care to contain the bacteria within hospitals and nursing homes.

Over time the bacteria colonized patients (and health care workers) and mutated to become super resistant to most antibiotics that normally kept it in check. In the late 80s and early 90s, MRSA bacteria leaped from the hospital setting and into the surrounding communities where cases began to arise among the healthy population. Those cases are referred to as community acquired infections (CA-MRSA).

MRSA made headline news recently when healthy young people began dying from simple skin infections.

Staph becomes a problem when it enters the body through a break in the skin such as a cut or scratch. Once in the bloodstream, it is very difficult to treat because MRSA is resistant to most antibiotics. For that reason, it is sometimes referred to as a "super bug."

It's now resistant to methicillin, amoxicillin, penicillin, oxacillin, and many other antibiotics. While a few antibiotics still work, MRSA is constantly adapting and researchers are having a tough time developing new antibiotics to keep up with the new strains.

The biggest factor in the proliferation of MRSA is the practice of prescribing antibiotics unnecessarily over the decades as well as antibiotics given to livestock that leached into the municipal city water.

The most at risk for MRSA infections are young children whose immune systems aren't fully developed yet, the elderly and those with weakened immune systems, such as HIV/AIDS patients.

MRSA causes soft tissue infections (such as the example in the pic above), but it can also spread to the lungs (leading to pneumonia) or to the bones and heart valves. Most MRSA skin infections are harmless and resolve within days. The infection generally starts out as small red bumps or tiny blisters, boils or spider bites.

Signs and Symptoms of MRSA include:

  • Swelling, redness and tenderness of the skin around the wound
  • Foul smelly, pus or drainage
  • Fever

More Info On The Web

Skin Problems and Treatments: Understanding MRSA - WebMD

MRSA - Mayo Clinic