NeNe Leakes’ Son Bryson Arrested

Sandra Rose March 10, 2010

The son of a RHOA cast member NeNe Leakes was released this morning from a Gwinnett County jail following an arrest for possession of less than an ounce of marijuana.

According to online reports, Bryson Rashard Bryant was picked up in Gwinnett County on March 7 for failure to appear in court on a prior charge. The marijuana was found in his possession during a routine search.

NeNe Leakes responded to her son’s arrest on her Twitter page:

Morning! I know my parenting job is NEVER DONE but TOUGH LOVE is ordered by the JUDGE! The judge n this case is ME. My head is up & held high this morning because I KNOW the parent that i’am! U hate 4 yo kids 2 make mistakes! TOUGH LOVE this morning

Thanks to J. Peaks, Sr. publicist of Peak Publicity for the tip!

Anna

Isn’t he over 18?
yerkesbabe

He looks a mess! Damn NENE… he looks like TPain!
MIZZ.I_REP_ATL

Y am I not surprised!!!!! And that fact that marijuana was involved! I knew his a@@ didn’t help with promoting clubs!!! WATEV!!!!!!
M_promp2

It’s hard being a parent.
Bella

Marijuana? Geez you Americans! Over here in Canada it’s not even a big damn deal.
No I don’t do drugs but I find it funny when I read these kinds of stories over a little marijuana. Maybe I’m desensitized since its not really a big deal in Canada.
sexywitwhatigot

she knew something was up with that club promoting thing too. but she did try to talk to him. sometimes, you got let them get bit in the arse for them to learn.
Krysi J

Chile when they turn 18, you have to let them live their own life….your parenting becomes advice to your children. You can’t take responsibility for their actions if you taught them better….just let them know when their wrong and keep it moving. It happens Rev. Run will testify!
ReadTheBlog

Well she said herself he is immulating the likes of a loser – I guess he ain’t want her to look like a liar

She was on Rickey Smiley last week and they (Rock T, Rickey, Nene) were all talking about how sorry their kids were acting, as well as kids in general.
http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

Dang sorry to hear that. I know it mustve hurt her to write that (I’m sure her husband had a lot to do with it)

Not sure if tough love will work at this point in his life. He is kindve grown & regardless of what she does he will do what he wants.

I wish him luck. I hate to see our young black men go down the wrong path. I for my son daily.

Hummm Sandra & he is from a 2 parent home…
VIBABY

Bless her heart because she was afraid this would happen to him. This is what happens when you let a 18 year old sit in your house not doing a damn thing. When you turn 18/finish HS you better be employed,enrolled, or enlisted. But hey, thats just me….
Anna

ReadTheBlog Says:

Well she said herself he is immulating the likes of a loser – I guess he ain’t want her to look like a liar
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NeNe looks pretty in that pic.
tampa813

Krysi J I agree. I was just gonna mention Rev Run since his son Jojo was in trouble for the same thing. Damn that’s an ugly ass boy.
aqtpie

He’s legally an adult!
Shauny

I am glad she isn’t in denial. I hate those “not my baby” mamas.

When I heard this story you would’ve thought he was found with some keys or something. Less than an ounce more than likely means he’s smoking and not using. Still something I wouldn’t want my son to do though.
african_dude

good parenting !
LilMissRed

well dang! yeah RTB.. they were on Rickys show last week and I thought he’d start getting his act together after the talk they all had with him.. smh well.. Like NeNe said.. Tough Love baby! Tough Love.
http://youtube.com yesindeedio

Bryson is practically grown. He is going to get into stuff because he thinks that he knows everything. I don’t think that it reflects badly on NeNe or her parenting skills. I got into stuff when I was a teen (not anything remotely close to this), but it wasn’t because my parents did not parent me, it’s because I was trying to be grown lol.

He made a mistake. I hardly think that it’s the proverbial “wrong path”. If he repeats it, then he definitely took a wrong turn off Hope Road.
sanaas

Good for NENE i’m glad she is showing tough love, hell let him stay in jail for a whole week and let him think about the direction of his life.
speakinmymind

what an unfortunate-looking young man…
Mother Jefferson

lol @ speakinmymind

Yeah Nene knows this will teach him a lesson. Some learn the hard way
sandie

He must get his looks from his daddy.
onlinefan

I fault NeNe at all. She has been talking about his ways and was trying to get him to become more responsible. I think he was just spoiled as a kid and now you can’t do nothing with him.

Maybe this will wake him up, but more likely than not it will be a bigger problem to finally get him to see the light.

My grandma would call him “a big rusty butt ni**a
kimip84

I agree with shauny! she’s not trying to cover it up and act like its nothing…gotta stay on todays youth…weed is like cigs u can buy it on every corner now. dang shame
OutsidetheBox

Not even an ounce? That pick up is a waste of tax payer money.
Krysi J

Bless her heart because she was afraid this would happen to him. This is what happens when you let a 18 year old sit in your house not doing a damn thing. When you turn 18/finish HS you better be employed,enrolled, or enlisted. But hey, thats just me….
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no ma’am not just you…ME TOO!
CorporateHoodB-tch

***ATTENTION ALL RACES***
THIS IS AN EXAMPLE OF HOW YOU BAD MOMS AND DADS TURN BABIES INTO BUMS.
KIDS DON’T COME OUT OF THE WOMB BAD, SAD OR LAZY.
PARENTS ARE TO BLAME FOR EVERYTHING THE CHILD HEARS, SEES AND DOES.
THESE THINGS DEVELOP A CHILD INTO THE PERSON OR ADULT THAT THEY WILL BECOME.
PARENTS NEED TO STOP LETTING TV, VIDEO GAMES AND DAYCARE CENTERS RAISE THEIR CHILDREN.
GIVE UP YOUR LIFE TO RAISE YOUR CHILD OR USE BIRTH CONTROL AND DON’T BOTHER HAVING THEM AT ALL.
IF YOU MAKE THE MISTAKE OF HAVING A CHILD THAT YOU DON’T WANT TO GIVE UP 110% OF YOUR TIME, YOUR MENTAL AND PHYSICAL ENERGY THEN GO GET HELP.
PARENTS WITH EXCUSES LIKE I HAVE TO WORK LONG HOURS…PLEASE!!! GET A ONE BEDROOM APARTMENT AND LIVE WITHIN YOUR MEANS…YOUR CHILD NEEDS YOUR TIME, ATTENTION, AFFECTION AND LOVE….
NOT THE NEW PAIR OF JORDANS.
#rantover
Daisy

I heard her on Rickey last week. Hopefully this will be just what he needs to get it together once and for all and start growing up.

God Bless them both

@Isc I agree with you I hate seeing young black men go down the wrong road and end up in the justice system. Heartbreaking.
Karamelkisses76

Lol @ sandie & speak. He actually looks like his granddaddy.
http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

actually iscream, he’s not from a 2 parent home… he was raised by Nene as a single mother until she married Greg. His biological father was not a part of his life.

As far as tough love, Nene needs to take back whatever she gave him starting with that truck. Even if it’s just sitting in her driveway, he needs to learn responsibility and earn his own things. If he wants that car back, he needs to either go back to school full time or get a job and give her a down payment and pay her according to a payment plan.
Next she needs to protect her younger son from his fcukup of a brother; talk openly about the missteps Bryson took, so he doesn’t end up just like his brother.

in other news… At least Nene is going to be back next season now.
http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

@sandie, actually Bryson looks just like Nene’s dad.
Al-Ameera

You can be the best parent and have kids that still mess up. All you can do is lay a good foundation and hope that once they get grown and start experiencing life they reflect on what you taught them.
Al-Ameera

What dad? I don’t remember if she found her dad or not
Anna

Al-Ameera Says:

What dad? I don’t remember if she found her dad or not
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I didn’t know she found him either, I must have missed that episode.
Shauny

Although you made some valid points, I’m going to have to disagree with you Corporate. I think this is an example of a GROWN man makes bad choices. I guess Jus and Rev Run are bad parents too since JoJo just went though this as well. You can only do so much for parenting of a grown man.

NeNe tried with Bryce. She wanted him in college and was on him about jobs, his apperance etc. He is now considered an adult. She’s done her raising so now she can only advise him on what he NEEDS to do, not tell him what his IS going to do because she can’t make him do it. He’s not a child anymore. His decisions now are his and shouldn’t be reflected on her parenting when he was a minor.

If that’s the case then ALL parents who have 18yr olds and older that now smoke, drink, smoke weed, fight, etc. are bad parents. I don’t agree with that theory.
MIZZ.I_REP_ATL

LOL @ speakinmymind
TruGemini

I just glad she didn’t get on there all defensive and tryna make excuses for him…
Krysi J

@ #26 …..???

#whatwastherantfor
gypsyeyes

UMMM corporate really? I don’t even know what to say about that. With the name CORPORATE I take it that means that you work. Do you have kids? And if so, you work right? Are you living within your means to take care of your kids? Are you able to be the corporatehoodb*tch and give 110% to your children? If you have children were you able to take them to work with you so that they didn’t go to daycare? Not trying to come at you but there are so many things that you said that I have problems with.
kimip84

SR family i have a special request please pray for a friend of mine on life support fighting for his life
Al-Ameera

Shauny Says:

Although you made some valid points, I’m going to have to disagree with you Corporate. I think this is an example of a GROWN man makes bad choices. I guess Jus and Rev Run are bad parents too since JoJo just went though this as well. You can only do so much for parenting of a grown man.

NeNe tried with Bryce. She wanted him in college and was on him about jobs, his apperance etc. He is now considered an adult. She’s done her raising so now she can only advise him on what he NEEDS to do, not tell him what his IS going to do because she can’t make him do it. He’s not a child anymore. His decisions now are his and shouldn’t be reflected on her parenting when he was a minor.

If that’s the case then ALL parents who have 18yr olds and older that now smoke, drink, smoke weed, fight, etc. are bad parents. I don’t agree with that theory.
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Exactly my point. Raising children is HARD. There are training classes and manuals for everything in life except the two most important things….Marriage and Children. And depending on your up bringing you may be doing what you THOUGHT was right. At the end of the day you insticntively know the difference between right and wrong and Bryce knew better.
va_shawty

:Cosign:

TruGemini Says:

I just glad she didn’t get on there all defensive and tryna make excuses for him…
http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

yes she found her dad & she knew it was him because he looked just like her son.

@karaz

Hasn’t NeNe & Greg been married for years. So I would say that for most of his life he was raised with two parents.

You can tell who has kids and who doesn’t just by reading these comments. People with kids live in reality. Its so easy to judge someone when you’ve never walked a day in their shoes.

& that’s all I have to say about that.
MIZZ.I_REP_ATL

@ kimip84, will do! I swear, u gotta live these days as if it’s ur last.
Daisy

@Kimi I will pray for your friends healing, recovery and restoration!
gypsyeyes

@kimip84-DONE!!!!
Daisy

@Isc I would venture to guess that some of the ppl you think don’t have kids actually do
Anna

kimip84 Says:

SR family i have a special request please pray for a friend of mine on life support fighting for his life
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Will do. So sad.
Shauny

oh kimip84 your friend is in my prayers. Stay strong sista.
gypsyeyes

iscream Says:

yes she found her dad & she knew it was him because he looked just like her son.

@karaz

Hasn’t NeNe & Greg been married for years. So I would say that for most of his life he was raised with two parents.

You can tell who has kids and who doesn’t just by reading these comments. People with kids live in reality. Its so easy to judge someone when you’ve never walked a day in their shoes.

& that’s all I have to say about that.
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That’s why I have so many questions on it. Until you know the struggle how can you judge. Parents make choices/decisions based on what the know. You can’t fault them for that. Giving up your life doesn’t make for better parenting either.
Krysi J

SR family i have a special request please pray for a friend of mine on life support fighting for his life

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done.
Ms.kaylamomma

Dang Nene! I hope everything works out. I wish there was a manual for parenting. It’s hard with 2 parents, I imagine it being even harder for single moms.

@kimi Your friend is in my thoughts and prayers sweetie!
Krysi J

That’s why I have so many questions on it. Until you know the struggle how can you judge. Parents make choices/decisions based on what the know. You can’t fault them for that. Giving up your life doesn’t make for better parenting either.
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hell NO….who the hell wants a bitter, RESENTFUL parent raising them over doing some stupid shyt like that?? Obviously some people just run their mouth without reason…..does that even concern this post??
Anna

gypsyeyes Says:

iscream Says:

yes she found her dad & she knew it was him because he looked just like her son.

@karaz

Hasn’t NeNe & Greg been married for years. So I would say that for most of his life he was raised with two parents.

You can tell who has kids and who doesn’t just by reading these comments. People with kids live in reality. Its so easy to judge someone when you’ve never walked a day in their shoes.

& that’s all I have to say about that.
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That’s why I have so many questions on it. Until you know the struggle how can you judge. Parents make choices/decisions based on what the know. You can’t fault them for that. Giving up your life doesn’t make for better parenting either.
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You can’t give up your life for you child(ren). We show by example, i.e. getting up and going to work, paying our bill, if our life revolved around our childs, our kids would be a bigger hot mess and think that the world revolves around them.
MIZZ.I_REP_ATL

@ Krysi J…I notice u’ve been posting in tweet lingo (ex. #whatwastherantfor)..lol. All I wanna know is, what’s the reason for the # sign when making a comment on twitter? I understand it when reading other people comments, but what’s the purpose? (Inquiring mind wanna know, I’m still getting use 2 twitter).
gypsyeyes

Hey MKM, Daisy, Shauny and Anna. How are you ladies today. I haven’t been on here much due to job searching and interviewing.
ReadTheBlog

OTB you think it’s a waste of taxpayers $ – in this case it will likely garner a little $ for the city. Because he’s (his momma) will pay the ticket, pay the fines, and any attorney that is hired. Even some f*ck ups are responsible the first go ’round.

Something tells me that if this matter is handled lightly, he will likely get in trouble again and again and again until he gets his 3rd strike.

My hubby and I were having a discussion about people being motivated out of shame. We, as parents, and as community dwellers, should go out of our way to shame those that are doing foolish things. Remember the lady that made her son hold the sign in traffic saying he was a theif like his dad? OH HELL YES! I bet you that boy won’t ever mess up again That is the kind of approach that needs to be taken with kids anymore. Running around being lazy acting foolish making bad grades an mess. Well since they want to make asses of themselves, LET’S HELP EM OUT! LET’S PUT THESE KIDS ON BLAST! Maybe them being called out will motivat them to do better. Sure we can’t save em all, but if we can save one, it would have been well worth it.
Shauny

Anna says
if our life revolved around our childs, our kids would be a bigger hot mess and think that the world revolves around them.
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taking us back to Lindsey Lohan
speakinmymind

@ gypsyeyes

i had to forgive my mother for what i thought was ‘bad’ parenting during my childhood cuz i realized she did the best job she could with what she knew and had. i don’t have children (want them desperately though!!) but i definitely know parenting is the toughest, most thankLESS job there is, especially single parenting (whether it’s a single dad or mom). there’s no book or class that can guarantee kids will grow up to be productive members of society.

@ Corporate…i’m hoping you were just having a PMS or ‘tinymajormama’ moment.
ReadTheBlog

lol@ ‘tinymajormama’ moment!

I sure want some bean dip and doritos…
aqtpie

@ kimip ~ Done!
Anna

Shauny Says:

Anna says
if our life revolved around our childs, our kids would be a bigger hot mess and think that the world revolves around them.
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taking us back to Lindsey Lohan
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I guess I did.
Anna

waving @ gypsyeyes. I’m good, thanks.
gypsyeyes

@speakyourmind-It will happen for you, and even if not biologically, adoption is the next best thing. I know that we didn’t have much but I tell you my mom did the best she knew how. As poor as we were we remained a happy family. When I was 16 we also adopted a child. He wasn’t legally ours until he was 12. My mom didn’t have much to offer but she had love. He’s 22 now and in culinary school. I also have a 40 year old brother and for the most part he isn’t troubled. Me, I think that I turned out to be just as good/great a woman that my mom is. Class and money have nothing to do with it. It’s the love and lessons that you give.
May God bless the ones that are trying to have children but may he bless the ones more that think they have all the answers.
kimip84

thank you all for the prayers i appreciate it
http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

@iscream Nene and Greg have been married for 9 years, Bryson grew up without a father for more than half his life… and based on what I saw on the show, it seems as though Nene didn’t let Greg parent him the same way he does his own biological child… hmmph let me keep my mouth shut on blended families, son’t want any of you heffas getting on my case this rainy carb-free day.
Krysi J

@ Krysi J…I notice u’ve been posting in tweet lingo (ex. #whatwastherantfor)..lol. All I wanna know is, what’s the reason for the # sign when making a comment on twitter? I understand it when reading other people comments, but what’s the purpose? (Inquiring mind wanna know, I’m still getting use 2 twitter).

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LMAO….i don’t know either babe…I just caught on and kept it moving…when people started doing it i was confused but the #phrases started to get funny, so I tried it out!
Shauny

hey gypsy – I’m good Thanks! Returned back to work from my leave…(my real leave yall). Good luck in your job searching.
hellava10

somebody see if Dwight has a 3 o’clock spot open for a makeover!

He is just one of the ones that will need to learn on their own and on their own time.
http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

@kara

Not me. I welcome different (logical) opinions.
http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

Just because someone hasn’t birthed children, doesn’t mean we don’t have experience in child-rearing or our points are less valid than those who have given birth.

don’t make me get evil
ReadTheBlog

the # in twitter works as a likned/search tool. if you click something like that, it will bring up all the tweets with the same # phrase.
gypsyeyes

thanks shauny!!!!
CorporateHoodB-tch

I know my way of thinking is completely abstract. I plan to say NOTHING in DEFENSE of my statements. Nor, answer any questions regarding my opinion. I merely felt the desire to put it out there. Most will find it ludacris and that is fine.
I don’t expect anyone to agree with me. That’s exactly why our society produces the same mess over and over again.
Then we just make more excuses or *reasons* to say *we did all we can do or we did the best we could do and now they are on their own.* Did we really? OKAY
Anna

KaraZ Says:

@iscream Nene and Greg have been married for 9 years, Bryson grew up without a father for more than half his life… and based on what I saw on the show, it seems as though Nene didn’t let Greg parent him the same way he does his own biological child… hmmph let me keep my mouth shut on blended families, son’t want any of you heffas getting on my case this rainy carb-free day
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Actually blended families would be a great topic. Just because some can have a bio kid doesn’t make them a better parent and just because someone may be a stepparent it does not make them the bad guy. My husband is my childrens “Pops” but he never laid a hand on my kids.
speakinmymind

@ gypsyeyes,

thanks…we definitely want to adopt but i’m afraid they’ll reject us cuz we don’t have a lot of money, nor do we own our home right now (we used to and will again in a few years). i just don’t want to get my hopes up and get rejected…it would be too much to take cuz we want a child so bad.
CorporateHoodB-tch

*ludicrous….sorry too much rap music
aprilshelley

I thought that was Gabby from Precious…
gypsyeyes

I don’t know if that was directed at me @karaz but that is by far not what I mean. I’m talking about people that think that they have all of the answers and advice. I have a friend that doesnt’t have and can’t have children but she is a good mom to her boyfriend’s child. I’m just talking about the judgment part.
speakinmymind

i just remembered that when Nene was on Rickey’s show, she said that she didn’t allow Greg to discipline Bryson growing up. i didn’t agree with that thinking because i feel like if you love the person enough to marry them and bring them into your children’s lives, then shouldn’t you trust their judgment when it comes to discipline? i mean, even if you didn’t totally agree on parenting techniques, i would think you would want to portray a ‘united front’ where the children are concerned so they will see consistency from both parents. just my .02
Shauny

I agree 100% with speakin comment 79. Who is disciplining him as a man if he’s not?
ReadTheBlog

Speakin’ my husband doesn’t allow me to discipline his child either. He says he doesn’t mind, but if I say anything ot him, there’s a problem. Yet if I don’t say anything when he act up, that’s a problem too. It’s hard to keep the peace at times like this.
OutsidetheBox

@Read…I get it…but IMO any offense for smoking weed (he is not selling less than an oz…at least I hope not…he gonna need a new hustle if he is…) but yeah, weed crimes = waste of time…IMO.

And about putting kids on blast. I does it on the regular. My kids always have to be careful what they do/say/repeat around me.

Corp…lol ludicris!!!!!
Daisy

@Mizz I are you on twitter and didnt let us know?? # is also used to make a phrase a trending topic

@Gyp hey girl you missed out last night

@Corporate I think I get where you are coming from BUT I think others are saying even when some parents DO ALL THEY CAN and SHOULD a kid will still mess up ie JoJo rev runs son. Parents and kids sometimes miss the mark #atheendoftheday

I always heard parents say every child is different and must be parented as such.

NeNe had admitted she spoiled Bryce and wasnt hard on him and now she is seeing the results and she is trying to get him on the right track. I believe she did the best she could and is still in her sons corner fighting for him to have a better life so for that much.
http://createspace.com/3393054 iscream

@kara

I stand by my statement. & I say it from experience. Before I had a child I had an opinion on how others raised their children. Well after actually having my own I learned its not as easy as it seems. Its something that can’t be explained in words but you just have a different way of thinking. You think more with your heart than with your mind.

Yes you can have an opinion (like when you call people kids bastards or something to that nature) but people with kids have facts. No need to get “evil”.

This is where I make my exit on this topic. I had a good night and feel blessed to be up today not going to let these comments ruin this beautiful hump day.

Ba Bye.
CorporateHoodB-tch

True Story: before I read this sad story of Bryson…I was on the phone with a mother, her daughter is about 24 years old. The daughter has been through a lot and rebelled against going to college as instructed by her loving parents. Now, she calls to cry to her mom about how she should have listened.
Each time she attempts to go back to school…she gets discouraged and quits. I told the mother (whom I care about) you will be not being doing *all you can do*…unless you do this: GO BACK TO SCHOOL WITH HER…do a Nikki Parker and go to college with your child…pick up an extra degree…she only works part-time anyhow!
gypsyeyes

OutsidetheBox Says:

@Read…I get it…but IMO any offense for smoking weed (he is not selling less than an oz…at least I hope not…he gonna need a new hustle if he is…) but yeah, weed crimes = waste of time…IMO.

And about putting kids on blast. I does it on the regular. My kids always have to be careful what they do/say/repeat around me.

Corp…lol ludicris!!!!!
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My motto in my house is “where you did it is where you get it”. You wanna be a fool in public, Imma show you what a fool is in public. They need to be on blast because 9 times out of 10 they think that what they are doing is cool in front of their peers but most times their friends think they are idiots. When I watch 16 & pregnant those girls friends don’t think that having a baby is cute at all.
CorporateHoodB-tch

What did Jo-Jo that was so bad anyway…get caught smoking weed? Hell, I did that when I was a kid…but I came back to the foundation that my parents taught me. Just like he did.
(unless he’s done something else)
ms.truth

@yerkesbabe your dog is so cute! what kind is it?
OutsidetheBox

I use the # as a trending topic like file this: #niggasaintIsh… #parentingishard
MIZZ.I_REP_ATL

@Daisy, I shouldve made the announcement earlier, but I did announce it yesterday on under the “Tiny” post….
FOLLOW ME: AustellLadee!!!!
speakinmymind

@ Read,

see, i don’t know if i could deal with that. neither me nor my husband had children when we got married but my ex-boyfriend had two. the only discipline and direction they got was when they were with me and him because their mother was too busy running the street and trying to pawn them off on anybody who would agree to babysit. i’m not big on hitting children but i will shout a kid down if they get outta pocket or do something asinine. i always believe that a healthy amount of fear of their parents is good for a kid – not fear of being beat to death but fear of repercussions and consequences for their actions.
VIBABY

I know it doesnt apply to all parents but I do understand where @Corp is coming from. I have a friend who works but constantly complains about her kids being bad and not being able to spend enough time with them. She does not have to work but try to suggest that she quit her job and she will snap. I told her to just STFU and continue on the road you are on since its all about you and your needs. :rollseyes:

NeNe knows she flucked up with that boy. He is sitting at home not doing shyt because his parents let him believe that he could. This was not a simple adult making a bad choice situation. His parents set him up to fail IMO. The good thing is his parents (atleast his mother) knows what she did wrong and is willing to fight for her child. He isnt too far gone. He can be saved.

I hear alot of “what about me?” coming from parents lately and my response is always the same…..its not about you.
Shauny

Corporate – JoJo and Bryson both were caught with weed. JoJo took it a bit further and tried to run and crashed or something.

JoJo had 2 parents
Bryce had 1 (since NeNe wouldn’t let Greg discipline him)

1 parent household
2 parent household
same results

Is Rev and Jus bad parents because ONE of the what 6 kids they’ve raised showed his ass and got in trouble or do you chalk it up to JoJo who is 18 making a bad judgement?
Krysi J

I know my way of thinking is completely abstract. I plan to say NOTHING in DEFENSE of my statements. Nor, answer any questions regarding my opinion. I merely felt the desire to put it out there. Most will find it ludacris and that is fine.
I don’t expect anyone to agree with me. That’s exactly why our society produces the same mess over and over again.
Then we just make more excuses or *reasons* to say *we did all we can do or we did the best we could do and now they are on their own.* Did we really? OKAY

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Oh okay so you are speaking to who exactly then…because honestly the way I read what you stated at first is that you insist single mothers get on government assistance to take better care of their children (don’t work long hours to afford an appartment thats not located in the ghetto oh and never buy a house until all your children are 18 i guess) stop letting daycare, video games, and tv raise your children ( an assumption, but all the same Im guessing you AGAIN want people on government assistance so they won’t need the use of daycare to work??) However, Im sure that you bitterly and resentfully staying home with your children to be on goverment assistance, and live in the ghetto so that you can live within your means will produce a son that will not be influenced by his surroundings nor a daughter who will be influenced by you to have kids out of wedlock and live off goverment assistance in the future.

I get it now.
OutsidetheBox

NMH @Gyp…I was that 16 (15 really) and preggos girl…my friends was like, “No ma’am!” My BFF actually was pregnant (didnt know it) and she kept telling me how stupid I was and how fat I was gonna be (we were teens after all) LOL

Confession: I have 5 children love ’em dearly, cant wait till theyre grown and on ‘dey own [(c)My Mama]…I dont give 110%.

Last night my son announced that he had a project due…he is in the gifted program & these 2nd graders do more projects than I did in 12th but no biggie right? ‘Til he told me that it was due March 8th. He told me March 9th that he had a project due March 8th. I sunt his lil as.s to bed. #ibroughtyouinandi’lltakeyouout
BROWNSUGAPOET

@Speak and RTB if i had a son and got married I would definitely want my husband to get in his azz! I have two stepkids and fortunately they haven’t done anything around me to make me wanna discipline them physically. With my Lupus I don’t have the strength I used to so I don’t know how that would go. Now if I had to grab somethin and knock them out then ok but that’s definitely something you should discuss because if you were raised differently then you have different parenting techniques. I think if one parent can’t discipline the kids then the kids won’t respect them as much.
http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

actually, Jojo (and his sisters) was primarily raised by his mother… as a single parent, though his father was very hands on. Rev’s older kids moved into his house full-time shortly before filming begun on the show.

And Anna, my comments on blended family are basically covered in comment 79 -81. they really don’t work unless one of the biological parents is dead and the new step-parent is allowed to step into the role of a parent OR all parents are alive and mature and allow each parent equal rights over raising that child.
I’m not in the situation, but I could never see myself marrying someone who doesn’t want me to discipline, reward or otherwise raise the child as I see fit. It makes it messy. By nature children are manipulative, so the little crumb snatchers will figure out how to play one adult against the others.
OutsidetheBox

Blended families work folks. Lets walk light.
CorporateHoodB-tch

True Story 2: A 17 year old girl just graduated from high school…slid by with a C- or D average. Just refused to live up to her full potential. Upon graduation she told me she has decided to chill out for a year before returning to school. Since, I was recently put in charge I told her I disagreed with this decision. She stated she was not changing her mind and refused to attend registration at the near by college and went back to bed.
This caused a HoodB*tch reaction…I stormed back into her room, snatched the covers off the bed and reminded her that *you don’t want it with me*!!!!
The CorporateHoodB*tch cancelled all appointments and personally took her to the school, waited in the registration line, then waited for her to complete the placement exam, and finally select the classes. Of course, I let her and everyone else know that not only will she attend but she will get good grades…or I will stop my life (like I’m on maternity leave) to attend class with her.
I’m happy to say, she graduated cum laude. Now she is a Registered Nurse at one of the top hospitals in the city.
http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

@iscream I don’ have any kids, but my opinions about child rearing aren’t out of left field. Actually as much as I hate to admit it, I have my mom’s approach to parenting. I think you do the best you can for your child, and as hey get older they take on more responsibilities. So that when they’re legally adults, you don’t worry as much about taking care of another adult.

Nene spoiled the hell out of Bryson, that was evident on the show… I don’t know why a young man who refused to stay in school or get gainful employment is allowed to come & go out of a home as he pleases. He can do hat ish in his own apartment or dorm, not when he’s living off you.
http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

At corporate hood… umm at 17 you didn’t have to do alladat. You could have just packed up all her shyt and put it out the front door, then snatch her azz out of bed and tell her, your house your rules, if she don’t like it, leave. Don’t even give her bus fare. She’d have ended up in that registration line the same day.
I don’t know where kids get off telling adults what they going to do, momofukka did I ask you for an opinion? Like my mom used to say, I’m renting you from God until you’re 21 and I will use you as I see fit.
Krysi J

The CorporateHoodB*tch cancelled all appointments and personally took her to the school, waited in the registration line, then waited for her to complete the placement exam, and finally select the classes. Of course, I let her and everyone else know that not only will she attend but she will get good grades…or I will stop my life (like I’m on maternity leave) to attend class with her.
I’m happy to say, she graduated cum laude. Now she is a Registered Nurse at one of the top hospitals in the city.
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thats great…..this child was living with you and you had all the right. If children are taking care of themselves, and not asking you for a dime and not taking your advice (no this isn’t about Bryceson or NEne)…what do you do….cuz I have to take the opportunity to listen to someone with all the answers….and since I was this child at 18 I want to know what it iz you thought you could have told me to do?
CorporateHoodB-tch

@VI..I with you

@KaraZ…You know I could have dropped kicked her azz out the door…but then she may not have went to register…she would have done like the 24 yr old I mentioned and went to some friends house to chill and party.
Then, I could have said well *I did all I could do*…but I chose to give up my life if I had to just to save hers.
She knows it and loves me for it, we speak on the phone everyday.
http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

@Krysi, nothing. Sometimes they have to fail so they can succeed. Hovering over children isn’t healthy for anyone involved if you ask me. Some people need a little sufering in their life to get right.

@Corporate. there was always the chance you took the day to register with her and she’d have still snuck off during the day & not attend classes. Perhaps you knew the child enough to know that was going to work. It’s not going to work for every child.
CorporateHoodB-tch

By the way, I don’t have anything against being a welfare mother…if that’s all you know how to do. Just don’t let it stop you from being an involved mother. Or take it out on the child if that’s all you can afford. I went to school with a girl from the “Projects”. She had better manners than me, got better grades and her clothes were ironed better than mine. One day, I asked to come over house after school she told me I couldn’t cuz she lived in the projects. I was shocked and ashamed that with my privilages I wasn’t doing as much as someone with less opportunities than myself.
Changed my opinion and my life for the better.
I felt like I shamed my parents because they
Krysi J

Right.
artistman999

@Karaz I like your moma comment…LOL. You raise your kids the best way you see fit as a parent you hope that the values and morals you instilled in them has a lasting effect. I know people who were raised in good single/two parent/blended homes and they were not sheltered, however when they became 18 or 21 they made some costly mistakes in thier life. Because they chose not to listen to that inside voice that said “Don’t Do It”.. Luckily most of them realized the path they were headed down and made the needed changes to get back on the right track. Other’s still decided to go down the wrong path. When they are adults and make thier beds, they have lay in it.
OutsidetheBox

Its always the children you put your all into that bust your heart wide open.

I was chided for being “grown” (i.e., smart) in my family…but the boys, oh the precious, they-cant-do-any-wrong, BOYS! Oh they got all the praise, attention and whatnot… guess who turned out better

“I’m countin cash, in my office, sippin coffee, with my feet up!” -Gucci Mane!
CorporateHoodB-tch

Karaz…I had absolutely no idea what would work…so I went with my gut instinct to make it life or death. As I stated before I’m abstract.
But, thank God my make reaction made her want to do better for herself…and only she could actually *do the work for herself*.
But you are right, the same thing doesn’t work for each child…that’s why we have to try things that seem even unreasonable or ILLOGICAL to save our children.
Daisy

Plenty of parents “give up their life” for their child and there child still aint shyt #justsaying. Sometimes that works other times not so much. Some parents do all they can do and its NOT ever be good enough cause their child is hell bent on learning the hard way. What worked for you and yours may not work for everybody else and their child. In theory it sounds good though. Like I said earlier NeNe admitted to her faults all she can do now is move fwd and do better.

Again parents miss the mark at times other times kids just want to do them even when they know better

*leaving post for good*
Krysi J

@Krysi, nothing. Sometimes they have to fail so they can succeed. Hovering over children isn’t healthy for anyone involved if you ask me. Some people need a little sufering in their life to get right.

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now this I can agree with.
Krysi J

Children are people…..people whose lives you are given authority over for only a short while, but just as we grew into adults they must do the same. We made our mistakes and we continued on for the better…because if you were raised right you eventually return to what was instilled within you…but you have to first go astray to do such. Don’t act like you lived a perfect life and made all the right decisions during your transition from child to adult, because that is when you go astray as a PARENT. You have to let children live their life as grown people…if you force yourself on them they will do more to pull away. You give advice, sound advice and be willing to support them in anything the do positively and that will be your reward. And don’t put all YOUR hopes and dreams off on your child either…just because your child didn’t want to go to law school and decided to enlist instead does not mean they are making a mistake with THEIR life….let them LIVE THEIR LIFE! Be appreciative if your child refuses crack, and keeps a good job, and doesn’t have children from coast to coast……be appreciative if your children don’t have to beg you for money and take good care of themselves and refuse your aid…RESPECT that, and let them live.
Shauny

agreed Daisy and Krysi
CorporateHoodB-tch

My mom would tell you that she gave up her life for me…but she wasn’t even aware that I cut school 50-11 times…nor why I so angry as child that got into fights constantly. Hmmm
chase

I was a bad kid, but finally got it together on my own. My Grandmother stayed at the school, in fact everyone knew her at my h.s. because she was the school nurse. They knew my entire family and none of that deterred me from acting a fool. I had hands on parenting, I came from a household of 2 parent (Grandmother and Grandfather), as well as my father and step mother. They did everything in their power to steer me in the right direction. But I wanted to do what I wanted to do. It took for me to wake up and smell the coffee to realize that only I can make the change.

If my Grandmother sat in class with me I still would of found a way to act up. You can do all that you can as a parent but if that child still wants to act up they will….
Krysi J

My mom would tell you that she gave up her life for me…but she wasn’t even aware that I cut school 50-11 times…nor why I so angry as child that got into fights constantly. Hmmm
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no wonder you were ranting….that was for YOUR mom…ok Now I GET IT! whew….gurl please….I was dropped off by both my mother and father….I was raised by my maternal great grandmother and my paternal grandmother…meaning yes i was all over the place, but wisedom is what i gained even with the bad decisions i made during my transitions i still managed to stand on my own 2 feet…infact that was my problem…I was TOO strong, and at 18 i could take care of myself…meaning I didn’t have to listen to anybody….not my parents who did not raise me, my great grandmother needless to say is in a better place, and my grandmother would give me advice but i didn’t pay her much attention at the time either. I had to realize that just because I can take care of myself didn’t mean I shouldn’t listen to those who have lived longer than i have on this earth….so with those decisions i made my life more of a challange, but i still prevailed and I continue to raise my children to know that I would never tell them wrong and that even when they are grown never hesitate to call me and ask for my advice or my opinion…i don’t want to be in control, I just want to save you the trouble. Learn from my mistakes and don’t follow in my footsteps live your own life.
CorporateHoodB-tch

Krysi…not only do I point the finger at my mom and dad…but also their parents for the mistakes they made with them. Because in return they did only what they were shown and tried to figure out the rest as they went along. All the while trying to live their “own” lives coupled with raising children.
But, now I see young mothers making the same mistakes my parents made and their parents made and everyone is saying this is “all we know how to do”. There is no manual, everyone must learn on their “own.”
In hind sight, I’m sure every parent knows dayum well they could have and or should have done something different with their kids and it might have made a huge difference in their child’s life. (Even if they don’t accept the blame)
However, what if we use foresight and not hind sight. Before even giving birth realizing the magnitude of how your EVERY ACTION WILL AFFECT YOUR CHILD.
From your phone conversations that they overhear and (pretend they weren’t listening) to what they hear or see in your bedroom when they (pretend they were asleep).
From the way you pay your bills (or not) to they way you speak to your boss, friends and family they see and hear it all.
From the way you cut your food (or not) before you eat…to the way you say your prayers (or not) they are watching.
Krysi J

Well I think I understand where you are coming from now that you’ve given me some insight on your childhood. You can’t believe that every single parent operates like that…some people are selfish and have no business with kids in the first place…..my mother was that way, so she gave me to my grandmother….and after she lived the majority of her young adult life doing everything she wanted to do without her children around she now as a not so young adult knows that it really didn’t pay off. However, Im glad that I didn’t have to be in that atomosphere…trust being raised by loving grandparents sure beats being raised by some bitter, resentful parent…you’ll probably end up raising yourself.
http://oneperfectassistant.com ggouch

IF, he was selling weed, one would have to ponder..whether this child’s action are a true dipiction of NeNe’s financial state? Why would a child of a person who has recently experienced a financial windfall via her “Just Add Water” celebritism need to take the rode of drug dealer? Did he feel it his mother’s money was short lived. Even if he is just a causual user there has been such an onslot of opportunities thrown at his feet, (i.e. an invitation to work for 107.9 FM. Rickey Smiley) why would he waste his time getting high. What a disappointment! ]]tough love
RealGAPeach

My son is soon to be 18 & I pray everyday that he may stay on the right path. IMO,they will make mistakes but I don’t think we should just kick them to the curve at that age. Rev. Run stated at that age & until they turn 21 that is when they need their parents the most. They start applying for credit cards, messing up their credit, don’t know they haven’t been taught how to manage their money. Rev. Run didn’t turn his back on his son for his mistake.
http://www.twitter.com/karazinatl KaraZ

ggouch Says:
IF, he was selling weed, one would have to ponder..whether this child’s action are a true dipiction of NeNe’s financial state? Why would a child of a person who has recently experienced a financial windfall via her “Just Add Water” celebritism need to take the rode of drug dealer? Did he feel it his mother’s money was short lived. Even if he is just a causual user there has been such an onslot of opportunities thrown at his feet, (i.e. an invitation to work for 107.9 FM. Rickey Smiley) why would he waste his time getting high. What a disappointment! ]]tough love
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even loaded azz celebrities children decide to make shytty azz decisions and become drug dealers, look at Micheal Douglas’ son. he was just arrested for dealing meth and we know his daddy is loaded. It’s not an indication of Nene’s financial status, just an indication that Bryson makes stupid decisions.
AprilRain

I just cought up with all the reading, all of you made very good points, and I have to say I am at the point with my 2 kids right now where I just don’t know if I am being the “Right” parent. I think I’m gonna have to go out and but some literature on it cuz this right here is hard….Thanks to all you ladies for the good reading and advice that I took from all the different views
Danielle84

Bryson is NOT cute Those dreds are a mess!