Jada Pinkett-Smith Has A Few Beautiful Words To say About Black Women

@Coco – If I may interject. Of course women should love themselves. We should all love ourselves, but she specifically mentioned black women probably because of the negative press. What is so wrong with that?

Actually, blacks do not own BET or TV One, and if they did, they aren’t doing a good job at representing us.

@FreeToSpeakUp – Last time I checked, Essence was a magazine whose readership is black women, so how are they trying to “sell themselves to other races?”

Choco says:

@Kray
I didn’t say she was being a separatist I said making the statement that all black women keeps us separate you also should read no offense…
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Choco, we already are separate in some people’s eyes. Let’s take for instance, the negative “press” black women have received. Let’s take for example, black women and being single. Why do you think they decided to discuss black women and singleness, and ignore the countless Asian men who complain about Asian women dating/marrying white men? Is it because they have the interest of black women at hand? Why do you suppose at every turn, black women are told how diseased we are and how we wear weaves (like other races don’t), and how masculine we are, and so and so forth. You see, we already are separated. Can you imagine a white male publicly saying what Slim Thug said if it were directed at WW?

scandalous1 – Thank you!

@Choco,

Can I ask you a question? How did what Jada said turn into a separation issues? I’m very puzzled. Would you be as offended if say, a Latina woman said, “I celebrate Latina beauty…” Just asking. I mean, all this “we are the world” stuff sounds good on paper, but that’s just now how our world is. We can all contribute to being a “colorblind” society, but actually, I don’t want that. I think we should celebrate our individual beauty and collective beauty.

FreeToSpeakUp says:

@KrayZ

Really, I am just tired of black women always playing the victim. Every single article is being black and beautiful. You read the “white” people magazine and it’s not “being white and beautiful on the cover.” We have our magazines, with out people on there, and when we see them we should see beauty automatically, but no we gotta beat ourselves. Don’t let Tiny be on the front *side eye*
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Every single article is always being, “black and beautiful.” Really? Where? White mags don’t have to come out and say, “White is beautiful;” it’s already implied. Have you heard the term, “Blond beauty.” White people always tout their beauty. Why do you think so many women want to look like white women. The standard of beauty in the world relates to how close to a white woman you can be.

Sandra Rose says:

I just wanted to point out to some of you that Jada said specifically: “Lay your eyes on the beauty of black women!” The reason that’s important is because we (black women) are being systematically cleansed from all print and electronic media. For instance, in television commercials, our children are being replaced by mixed children with light skin, loose curls and hair textures that are different from ours. It is extremely rare to see a black family on TV these days. Back in the 70s and 80s, it was rare to see biracial or mixed people in EBONY magazine ads. Now, that’s all you see. I thank Jada for pointing out our beauty since no one else will do it.
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The truth in a nutshell. THANKS, SANDRA!

FreeToSpeakUp says:

Sandra Rose says:

KrayZKat says:

Every single article is always being, “black and beautiful.” Really? Where? White mags don’t have to come out and say, “White is beautiful;” it’s already implied.

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Thank you! And now its implied that light skin is beautiful. I’m not saying light skin is not beautiful, I’m saying that they are now the standard of beauty for the black race. I don’t even watch TV anymore because it’s so depressing. All you see in TV commercials are light skin people. If you are black, don’t even bother showing up for a casting call for “ethnic minorities.”
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but Sandra, black is black regardless of the shade of color right? Why be mad that a lighter skin BLACK women are being chosen? That’s self hate
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I know you were addressing Sandra, but I want to add: You don’t see that as a discriminatory practice to only case LSLH people on the screen? Talk about separation. The world has been taught to abhor it’s darker skinned counterparts, and that is reflected on the screen.

Have you noticed that in commercials, they’ll have a dark-skinned male, but the female is 99.9% is light-skinned. Do you think that is by accident?

@Choco – this is a friendly debate. I respect yours and everyone else’s opinion. I really do, I’m just trying to make sense out of how Jada’s comment was turned into a negative issue. That’s all. It’s funny because a lot of people wrote off what Slim Thugs said, which was totally negative and he did so publicly, yet Jada gives black women a nod, and it’s taken to mean she’s excluding others.

Choco says:

@Kray
I’m butting in so move over lol first there are a lot of dark skin ppl in film and the industry so many to name but I will start with a few: Whoopi Goldberg, Cedric the Entertainer, Martin Lawrence, IMAN, Alek Wek, Denzel, Taye Diggs, Lance, Gabrielle Union there are countless others
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KrayZKat says:

The world has been taught to abhor it’s darker skinned counterparts, and that is reflected on the screen.
Have you noticed that in commercials, they’ll have a dark-skinned male, but the female is 99.9% is light-skinned. Do you think that is by accident?

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Thank you! This is what I’ve been saying all along! In every commercial the brotha is black but his woman and child are biracial.
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Yes, Sandra. It’s so obvious. I don’t see how people can miss it.

@Free – it’s okay for Jada to say whatever she wants to say.

Choco says:

@Kray
Girl yes he did and I know Slim Thug feels like a slimy slug that MAN let it be known!
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He sure did, girl. And I hope he does feel slimy or more like a fool. Someone said he committed “career suicide.” My thought was, “what career?”

Choco says:

And again I need to add I have not attacked Jada’s character I just wish she would open her advice to inspire and encourage all women we are all sistas regardless of how color
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@Choco – you know other races of girls get reaffirmed all the time. Did you see the latest doll test that was conducted. The first test was done back in, I think, 1942, and one was recently done again, and black children overwhelmingly picked the white doll as the most beautiful, etc. That’s very telling.

@Choco, it does start in home. You see, that’s why I know that no matter how Jada’s daughter, Willow, dresses, her mom has probably already told her that nothing can touch her. I’m sure her self-esteem is higher than most adults. I hope a lot of parents saw that study and ingrain in their children, especially daughters, that they are beautiful and have worth regarding of their skin coloring.

CorporateHoodB-tch says:

Sounds like some border-line Uncle Rutkus talk to me. You darkies betta stop blaming the good white man for all problems and accept all the wonderful opportunities he has given you coons!

By the way, white people love to meet a black person that thinks racism doesn’t exist and that blacks don’t need special forums that reach out and uplift blacks specifically.

Save this talk for your next interview with YT. Oh my bad, since blacks have overcome so much…I’m sure your next interview will be with a black person.
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You now when Obama became the president, all that went out the door.

excuse the typos.

renegadesince1985 says:

“Emancipate yourself from mental slavery….none but ourselves can free your minds”

At the end of the day, it’s up to you to uplift yourself. In this world, somebody/something is always going to be holding you back. It’s up to you – not the media, not Jada, not Oprah – but you, to make yourself feel beautiful. If you don’t love yourself, then why should anyone else?

I’m a mixed mutt and I’m beautiful!!!!!!
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@Choco – you know, Harriet Tubman had the same problem.

Choco says:

@Kray
Wow babes you really had me go into the archives but yes she did damn that was deep : )
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LOL! Girl, is that deep or what?!

@Corporate – I could not agree with you more!

When Obama was elected into office, people were touting the, “Blacks have no more excuses” mantra, and a woman wrote a response to that. I had to save it. A woman by the name of Olivia wrote this. Her comment was very profound to me so I saved it. It’s long so I apologize in advance.

Name: Olivia
Comment: What the hell does it mean no more excuses? I don’t get it. First most black people are hardworking, law abiding citizens, so let’s first break that myth. Second poverty is not an excuse but a reality. There are real barriers to some everyday black people’s success and Obama’s instant election doesn’t change that. There are as many poor black people before Inauguration and it is after. The idea that black people don’t do better because we make “excuses” is asinine and simplistic. When more unqualified teachers teach in inner cities schools than in the suburbs that’s not an excuse, but a reality. Now when every black child has the same access to quality education that Obama had attending Punahou which is the largest private school in the country then there will be no more excuses. When the everyday white person who blacks have to deal with on day to day basis treats us fair and equal, then there will be no more excuses. In fact black people blame themselves more for their own problems and rarely sight racism when SOMETIMES it played a role. Now before black people running there mouths about “excuses” than remove all barriers and then make that claim. What kills me is that in the past few years, ( no the 60’s) we have seen the murder of Sean Bell and the cops walk free, a Black woman tortured in Virginia, Jena Six , the two black men who were just KILLED by the police. When whites can satisfactory not compartmentalize successful blacks as the “exception” to the rule I will see some people point. You know the ol’ line “ I would invite Oprah to my house, cause I don’t see her like the rest of them, she’s not black. Black. Are the black people who don’t do right of course, but I argue there are many more who do right and face REAL barriers to success and this isn’t the time to just chalk real barriers up to “excuses”. Black people have never been short on inspiration, but hella short on opportunities. Let’s no forget Obama had to drop Wright, denounce Farrakhan ( a man he doesn’t know) on his way to the White House. For Tyler Perry, no more excuse for bad sitcoms either.

Choco says:

@Kray
Yeah becuz it’s like all her suffering and struggles to free us yet slavery still exist in some parts of the world-history repeating itself I hope her legacy accomplishes what she intended just like MLK, Jr.
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You are right, and she was also trying to unchain their minds. She wanted them to be free, but so many of them didn’t know they were still enslaved. We know better now, but somehow some of us just don’t get it.

There’s a brother on youtube named JayLove trying to talk to black people about this, but he gave us. He said many of them were too apathetic to do anything about it.

@Kray
Yes maaam and I will keep on keepin on!
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That’s what I’m talking about!

Ya know, I agree. We aren’t the only race that suffers, but you know what Choco, we are the only race that doesn’t seem to have back up. I mean. we get attacked from without and within. What other race of man would go nationally and put down women that look like them? If you are Asian, you have Asia. If you are Mexican, you have Mexico. If you are Russian, you have Russia. Shoot, even the Native Americans have more support. They have a group of people who have their backs. Who do we have? Even foreign blacks have a homeland. I thinks that’s why so many other races have a lot of pride in themselves because their culture and common language and pride in their country was kept in tact. Ours was separated hundreds of years ago. My sister works at many Indian reservations all over the country, and she said they have it worst than blacks. They are horribly discriminated against, but they have a nation with their own schools, clinics, money, etc. Just a thought.

But like you said before, we have come a LONG way, and we are making strides like none other. I surely don’t always want to focus on the negative.

@Corporate – I’m sorry. I didn’t even see your post. You are welcome for comment #315. I read that and I had to save it because it was so on point!