fanMAIL: Follow up on the Dupri threatens blogger story

I still say he went too far but I understand. By any chance is the club promoter AG? if so I think there is way more to this

@Gypsy

I’m amazed at the fact that its that shocking to some that all women don’t subscribe to the notion that a woman can do or say anything to a man and if the man responds or reacts in anyway that makes him less of a man or a b.itch. Don’t start stuff that you aren’t prepared to finish simple as that and then maybe situations like this could be avoided. And that doesn’t mean anyone who hasn’t jumped on Sandras side feels that JD was right in making “death threats”. Simply put, she started it and he lost his cool. That’s the same mentality that makes little girls think they can punch kick and fight a young man but the second he loses it and snaps then they wanna call the police, their big brother and everybody else and try to ruin the mans life. And honestly, I have a feeling it was Alex Gidweon (sp?) who was the “friend” who called her and when you consider that JD djs or helps promote almost all this dudes parties (his main source of income I think) and how much money is spent on advertising and promoting on this site, for that post to come out was probably a major slap in the face. I’m guessing there was a convo where she was asked to retract her statements based on a conflict of interest, she refused, an argument began and ended with the alleged threats. No disrespect but I hate when women play the victim to garner sympathy for themselves and hate for the other party anytime that it is convenient for them but refuse to take any responsibilty in the dispute, argument or fight. Ish like that sets all women back, it doesn’t make us stronger and it doesn’t unify or uplift us and I really take offense when my motives or womanhood is called into question simply because I choose to look at all sides of a story and wait for proof before jumping headfirst into support for another woman especially when that other woman is wrong. And finally, I have to question any man who would willingly demonize the next black man without knowing all the facts based off a story written by the “victim” knowing that the same could happen to him should he ever lose his temper with a conniving woman who has pushed him to his breaking point…

Elove, you should be commended for your exquisite self control but you should also know that not everyone is that mentally strong to be able to control themself when they are being attacked for no reason. And right now, all of this, including today’s update, is all based on Sandra’s account of what happened. She hasn’t posted the audio which would provide undisputable proof that he did indeed threaten her life, she hasn’t filed a police report because another news site or blog would have already reported on that by now, everything is based off a one sided account from the “victim” in this who is the one who actually threw the first blow so to speak. I’m not saying he was right (if this is all true) it’s never ok to threaten someone’s life but I am saying there comes a time when everyone, male or female, needs to mature and realize that you don’t attack people, verbally or physically, for no cause and not expect some type of reprecussion. The funny thing is that it was only 2-3 days ago on this same site that the comments were focused on grown ass women starting fights that they can’t handle and then running around trying to find someone to help and how people couldn’t stand people like that. Not to mention all the comments that same day about the things they have done as women to get back at men who’ve pissed them off in one way or another (destroying clothes, pissing in shoes, etc) and nowhere in any of those posts were the outraged responses, the calls of immaturity and bytchassness and all the rest that JD is getting for something that none of us have any proof of him doing. Is it because all the previous comments were from women and about women so it’s somehow different because he is a man? Or is it because the other actions committed in anger were from a woman to a man instead of vice versa? Why is there this huge double standard where women are considered emotional creatures who can get away with acting out in anger against the opposite sex but men are expected to never do so? Me personally, I’m not gonna start a fight be it verbal or physical with a man or a woman that I’m not sure I can finish period. Sandra, threw the first blow in this argument/fight of theirs with that post from the other day. I dont care what anyone says about growing a thick skin and whatnot, words hurt. Sometimes words can cut worse than a blade and most people (not you of course) have lashed out when hurt and done or said things they shouldn’t have. Many people were on here just a couple days ago admitting this but now it’s outlandish and a sign of immaturity and lack of manhood.. okay I guess if you guys say so but I’m not buying it. If this is all completely true (and that’s a big IF)I doubt he actually has plans to hurt her and if he does he deserves whatever punishment he receives BUT this needs to serve as a lesson to Sandra and other bloggers who tend to post negative things just for attention or whatever that this can happen when you mess with the wrong person on the wrong day. I will not though and can’t understand how so many of you can sit here calling this man out his name for something that you don’t even know is true, nor do you know what was said on Sandra’s end to him during that phone convo that led to him saying what she says he said. Until she posts the audio or files a police report, I’m not about to go in on this man and call him outside of his name period

Elove, the paparazzi catches hell all the time out here and they are constantly getting hit, cameras broken, sued, cities are filing injunctions against them (as in my opinion they should) because of the fact that they will stop at nothing to get what they want but in my opinion some of these bloggers are no better. They may not intrude in the celebs faces but they start rumors (all the dl nonsense, who’s cheating on who and so on) that actually have real life ramifications so in my opinion while they may be strangers to the celebs they can cause just as much pain as the people close to them. JD hasn’t had a hit in years, that much is true, but he has definetly left his mark on the industry and his past success/musical discoveries cannot be denied nor should they be. Regardless of the reasons for him falling off be it the fact that no one stays on top forever, an overbloated ego or too much time spent flossing and partying, no one would want to read about them being over in the way that she wrote that post. That had to hurt because it was brutal to read and I’m not a huge fan of his but I can’t stand to see someone ripped to shreds for no reason. If he’s going broke and making a mistake by putting all his resources into this Dondria chick, that’s his life and his choice, it’s not going to make or break anyone but him and her. There was no reason for her to go in on him like that and I refuse to believe that these celebs should just stomach every time someone feels the need to put them on blast like that because of their career choice. And there is a huge difference between a nickname given by family (no matter how cruel or embarrassing) and calling someone a b.itch or any thing that is the basic equivalent of saying they are less than a man. She basically sliced that man’s balls off and served them to him on a platter for all of her readers to see and then expected him to either remain silent or go on a twitter rant so she could post it, call him immature and further generate blog hits. If this is true than that plan clearly blew up in her face and now she’s mad and everyone wants to jump on him. If I was drunk, partying and having a good time and then was told to check a blog and read a story like that about myself no telling what I would do but I would go the hell off and I can’t understand why it’s so hard to get that these celebrities are human and have the same emotions that regular everyday people have. Yes, some people are better able to contain there emotions and temper than others but EVERYONE regardless of what they may say on here has their breaking point. And these celebs that Sandra goes in on arent going to be able to successfully sue her for libel or defamation of character so maybe he lost it. It happens but that doesn’t make him less of a man because of it. This man has a child who I believe is in her teenage years who could have read that, who has classmates able to read that and later mention it to her, he has parents, girlfriends whatever who were able to read that and bring it back to him. Just because you run a gossip site or blog doesn’t give you the right to disrespect other people and think it’s okay because it’s your opinion and they should just get over it. It’s not that simple and no one has the right to tell someone to just get over a personal insult to them because you can believe Sandra goes the hell off whenever someone attacks her personally

@Elove, So my belief that everybody should be given a certain amount of respect and consideration regardless of their status in the world be they celebs, regular folks, rich or poor is unrealistic? I’m not saying everybody needs to hold hands and sing kumbaya but at the same time regularly dragging people through the dirt just because they’re rich and famous is crazy and a sign of somebody who is mentally unstable. Who the hell gets off by making other people miserable? And being rich and famous by no means guarantees happiness, high self esteem or creates an immunity to being hurt by negative people. You’re right Sandra has always had a sarcastic and biting humor but that’s never been what kept me coming to the site and I’ve never bitten my tongue when I think she or anyone else has crossed the line from criticism to cruelty regardless of what some of yall on here may think of me. There’s a way to do things and say things and this was not the way. There was no reason for her to go in on him like that and there’s no reason especially with no proof for people to be on here calling him outside his name for losing his temper when he had every right to be mad. Making a mistake and losing his temper does not make him less of a man. He’s not selling drugs, he takes care of his child, he’s not making babies all across the country, he’s not promoting violence and a bunch of nonsense to the youth which is more than 95% of the celebs who get positive press on this same site do but we can agree to disagree. Lucky for me I know many excellent upstanding real black men personally to base my assessment of what makes a man off of and therefore know enough about real men not to label someone I don’t know a bytch based off an account on a blog with no facts to back it up and due to the fact that he supposedly lost his temper one time with a woman who went after him first. Maybe because I grew up as a child of people who were in the industry I can look at these celebs different vs those who’ve never been closer than being outsiders looking in so I know better than to assume a celebrity has a supernatural immunity to criticism and is able to handle all situations without making mistakes or getting upset. Or that because they can jet set across the country that they are automatically happy with excellent self esteem. Have you ever questioned why so many in the industry do so many drugs, have such high levels of suicide, addiction and mental problems? A huge part of the problem is the fact that tabloids, crazed fans and now blogs keep these people under a microscope, spill all their business, tell lies about them, and drag them through the mud whenever they make a mistake or do something the public does not agree with on top of the millions of other problems created by working in a superficial industry. But thats craziness apparently because according to some of you these people should just have thicker skin which can be bought at your nearest Walmart or Target so that they can turn a blind eye to all the bullshit they have to go through in order to live out their dream, right? Whatever

@KrayZ, I think it should apply to bloggers and commenters. As I said above, to repeatedly attack a person you don’t know is a sign of mental instability if you ask me. There’s a difference between criticism of something you don’t like and cruelty and unfortunately alot of people don’t realize when they are crossing that line. But thats jmo