fanMAIL: Little Jayson Gives Us All Hope

And second, I agree the video of that little girl was highly inappropriate however suggesting that the father could be molesting her and should lose custody on a forum such as this is irresponsible. Time has proven how broad a readership this site has and people are generally distrustful of a man raising a child anyway despite the fact that the vast majority of men would never molest a child especially not their OWN child. Putting this thought out there without proof could result in a witchhunt against him and the child being put through the trauma of an investigation which I know from personal experience is highly traumatic and/or being ripped from what may be the only home she’s known and put in another place that could actually be worse. She’s dancing as a grown woman true but there are many out there who have no issue with such dances from a child but would never molest or harm a child. I know several within my own family and I’m sure everyone on here knows at least one person like that as well. Its inappropriate true, my kids won’t be dancing that way and yes he should have had sense not to tape it, but if he’s one of those who doesn’t believe that kind of dancing is wrong, and he was proud his baby could dance and decided to share (like Jaysons mom and other parents) who are any of you to say he should raise his child? The fact that he is raising her alone while her mom is locked up speaks on his character cause many men would not have done that at all and to think he could lose his child over it cause some women on a website who know NOTHING about him other than this video is crazy. Molestation is too serious an allegation to just throw out there based off a video like this. Their lives could be ruined, his reputation gone, this childs life ripped apart over something that could very well and is likely to be untrue. Once rumors of molesting get out most people NEVER regain the trust and rep they had before even after a not guilty verdict. That’s one charge a person can never live down so be careful how you throw it out there. Sorry for the long post, actually I’m not but still

@KrayZ I actually know several hood immature men with daughters that can dance like grown women in the strip clubs (who learned from they trif mamas and tv) who’ve sat around watching them dance and haven’t said anything because where they’re from that unfortunately is not outside the norm. But they would never in a million years molest their child! This is inappropriate to me, you and most grown mature adults with sense, however, in communities and projects around the country unfortunately this is a normal everyday sight to see and the same mothers/fathers cheering it on, will also video tape and show friends/family, call the kids in the living room to do it in front of guests and now that we are in the age of you tube these same people are uploading it for others to see because that’s their baby, she can dance and they are proud of it. Again, I’m not defending it and I’ve spoken out enough on kids and music period but to go as far as call the father a molester? Based off just this? I can’t do that or support it because chances are he is not. Before Sandra updated to say that the girls father posted this and filmed it people were jumping on the mom, single mothers were brought up, babies having babies, a long list of reasons for this but not one time did anyone say she was being molested until it was said this was done by the father. To me that’s just showing the prejudices that people have towards fathers rasing kids. I know women who won’t let their childs father even change their daughters diaper out of fear. I won’t live my life treating all men as pedophiles and that’s so unfair to the 97% of men who don’t get off from children. I know too many men who are good men and capable of raising young women properly to accuse any man of molestation without fact and I was molested but again I have good positive men in my life and always have. I was practically raised by my uncles along with my other female cousins. They weren’t the ones who touched me. That’s not an accusation to be taken lightly and made on a blog for someone at home to run with this and potentially destroy these peoples lives when he could be a good father in all other aspects. The video is bad, yes but is she naked? Is she being forced? Is he dancing with her? Does she look happy? All of those are things to be considered. The chances of this being what I stated above are far greater than the chance that he’s hurting this baby so its very very irresponsible with the vast readership of this blog to throw that out. If those who made the allegations of molestation thought she was being molested why didn’t they say so in the other post? Why wait til its mentioned that the father taped it? That’s a nasty stereotype that has hurt many families and millions of men. More men have been unfairly and wrongly accused and CONVICTED of sex crimes than any other crime and these men NEVER get their lives back, they are marked for life so to just say that without knowing is wrong and I cannot will not support that ever. Women rape and molest too so if you arentg gonna suspect the mom don’t suspect the dad