Silky singer Cee Lo Green, who fancies himself to be some sort of ladies man, says men shouldn’t be afraid to find themselves in the “friend zone” with women who they like.
In an interview with Q magazine, the 37-year-old “Lady Killer” said, “The friend zone. I’ve been there before, man. Well, being friends with a woman is as honest as you’ll ever be.”
Cee Lo, who divorced his wife in 2005, insisted that the “friend zone” is a good place to be, especially if you are trying to learn more about a woman.
“You can take advantage of that opportunity and get her to express herself about what her interests are, her do’s and don’ts and whether she’s involved with anyone else. That ought to really put things into perspective,” he explained.
He added that the “friend zone” is not the end of the road: “You can be completely candid as a friend so there are benefits to the friend zone and it’s not too late at all.”
Clearly, Cee Lo hasn’t a clue what the “friend zone” really means.
The honest truth is, the “friend zone” is where a woman quickly banishes a man whom she has no sexual interest in — not now or ever. If you find yourself in the friend zone, it means she thinks of you as a brother — not a lover. It is not a happy place to be, especially if you are really smitten by a cute female.
“When a man likes a woman, he naturally wants to express his feelings between the sheets. This is natural,” says Curt Smith of Askmen.com, the largest online forum for men.
Most women have a certain ‘type’ of man that she is seeking. She also has expectations to go with a laundry list of likes and dislikes that she mentally checks off during the first date. It usually takes one date, or less than an hour, for a woman to determine if a man fits her qualifications for sex, or whether he will be friend zoned.
Once a woman friend zones a man, he has virtually no hope of getting between the sheets with her. She has moved on to other potential bedroom conquests.
According to Askmen.com, the friend zone should be avoided at all costs:
Most women can get sex anywhere, any time and any way they want it. The problem for us guys is that women don’t want sex anywhere, any time and any way we want it. For women, sex comes bundled up with an onslaught of dizzying and complicated emotions. The result? It’s infinitely easier for women to place men into the category of “friends” rather than admit them as lovers. Source
Askmen.com advises men to avoid treating women like friends in the beginning if they want to avoid being friend zoned. A woman will quickly friend zone a man (or a lesbian) so she can have all the financial benefits of a relationship, but without the sex.
Some men, who lack self-confidence, don’t mind being friend zoned by women because they would rather have some contact than no contact at all. This appears to be what Cee Lo is describing.
Of course this strategy often fails because most women are one step ahead of men, and they know exactly what men are doing.
Despite what Steve Harvey says, a man cannot outsmart a woman when it comes to matters of the heart.
Chile all he and I could ever be is friends with….
@SANDRA
Exactly. No man should strive for the “Friend Zone” cause it can be a sad, lonely place.
Unless you look like Cee-lo. Then you should be grateful for whatever you can get.
I think it is important to be friends first but hey what do I know
Sex for women doesn’t always have to be emotional…or so I have been told
lol, never been in the ‘friend zone’ unless she wasn’t cute..
That picture

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU TODAY AUNTIE~
Sandra: You can get yourself in the “friend zone” and then work your way up. It’s happened billions of times before: guys who were just the friend or shoulder to cry on becoming your man or your husband.
That is why the divorce rate is over 50%. If you can’t be friends with your mate, then who can you be friends with. I am not saying a shopping buddy, but being friends and getting to know someone at a truly platonic level is awesome.
BEFORE I GET to the WORD of the day….
your beloved president ( the one who works for the anti-christ agenda ) signed into law
( while you all were being distracted by so-called ” new years celebrations ” ) the NDAA bill on Dec 31st, 2011….
this gives ALL LAW ENFORCEMENT SECTORS the unrestrained right to ARREST YOU, LOCK YOU UP INDEFINITELY, OR KILL YOU; ALL WITHOUT ANY TRIAL WHATSOEVER!!!
Look it up for yourself….
I think there is a difference between having a male friend and putting a male in the “Friend Zone”.
Oh lawd… *sigh*
WORD OF THE DAY…
To those of you who will blindly follow anything that proceeds out of the mouth of so-called Cee-Low…
” Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s house, THOU SHALL NOT COVET THY NEIGHBOR’S WIFE, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbor’s ”
EXODUS 20:17
Please explain how Exodus 20:17 relates to ANYTHING in the above post.
@lovezoe
youre right! it doesnt, I only read the title LoL!
I was looking at the NDAA bill and you can’t just blame the president.. it was the entire senate also.. USA is becoming the USSR..
…..there is always something to learn from the Bible tho!
@BK2ATLMAN
yeah dem so-called senate folks too!
The fact is so many bills have “extras” in it that don’t even pertain to the actual bill. Extra stuff is snuck in because senators/reps don’t read the entire bill. They get their aides to give them a paragraph or two about what the bill is about.
Oh yeah, I hope you all haven’t forgotten about those FEMA coffins….
I’m reading up on the NDAA bill…While it’s not as bad as some are saying it is not that good either. It’s just the next step after Bush’s Patriot Act and I’m sure there’s more to come no matter who comes into power this election year.
Where is everybody? Still hungover?
Plus bills are full of ‘extras’ to satisfy the companies that have senators in their pockets.
Interesting…I read the NDAA bill, and it clearly refers to actions related to aiding terroristic behavior, not plain martial law…read the bill for yourselves, knowledge is power… Morning Zoe, BK2 and Yso
Yso, I’m off work, been off since last wek, I think er’body else, is lurking
@lovezoe
youre right! it doesnt, I only read the title LoL!
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because that is all that comes up (the title) in your boolean search when you search for quotes to cut and paste.
Kdub I muhfuggin’
your azz! 
Daisy says:
Sex for women doesn’t always have to be emotional…or so I have been told
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Are you still celibate?
bbclivy says:
I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU TODAY AUNTIE~
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Just today?
Cee Lo could be my friend….I need some male honesty! One of my New Year’s resolutions was to stay single for the complete year (along with celibacy) I need a year of me time!
@Hershey
Did you have a good weekend?
Looks like the NDAA bill “significantly expands the government’s detention authority, authorizes the detention of citizens, mandates military custody of foreign terrorism suspects (unless the President is willing to take a political hit), and prevents the President from closing Guantanamo for the next fiscal year”.
Damn Obama. Damn.
@ MrsMommy: Usually a woman elevates a man out of the Friend Zone when he no longer shows interest in her. It says that very clearly in the Askmen.com article that I quoted. The Friend Zone is very real.
Zoe, I had a nice long peaceful weekend,
cause I have to back to work tomorrow, how was yours?
HERSHEY!!

SANDRA!!
@KDUB
As soon as I saw Redeemed I looked for your font.
lovezoe says:
That is why the divorce rate is over 50%. If you can’t be friends with your mate, then who can you be friends with.
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Your statement is part of the reason why divorce is over 50%. Because you women don’t understand that you are from Venus and men are from Mars.
@Sandra
I am that was a pre celibacy comment I had to reach WAY back in my memory bank for that comment lol
YSoSrs says:
I think there is a difference between having a male friend and putting a male in the “Friend Zone”.
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Here’s the difference: if a man wants to have sex with you, and you don’t want sex from him but you like him “as a friend” — you put him in the Friend Zone. The Friend Zone is a prison for horny men in your circle.
@HERSHEY You know u wrong for that gravi!!
In other words, you can’t put a man in the Friend Zone if he has no sexual interest in you. He’s just a friend.
I have had friends that I go to for relationship or advice on boys but I would also be screwing them….what is that called?
The friend zone is very real and most women know within minutes of meeting whether he’s just a friend or if he’s mattress worthy…This article is true…I agree
Hershey, it was nice and laid back. Was in a fun for a few, but I am good now. Looking forward to the next couple of months.
I think there is a difference b/w friend zone and being friends with a male. I DO think you should be friends with your potential mate first. You can learn a great deal about someone if you just sit back and watch.
Men can put women in the friend zone also right?
cause I have several female friends who would never ever get it..
but they cool
Tainted
my gravi is beat ain’t it?
watchu talmbout u have friends who give u advice and dack? Friends with benefits
Zoe whats going on in the next couple of months?
@Hershey Lol I guess that is friends with benefits and advice..one of my suppliers was highly upset about my celibacy decision but hell I’m about to be a senior in college and I need to focus 10% I’m 21 and I have had enough fun its time to be serious
@loveZoe I agree being friends first is very important to me too. I also think BOTH men and women can work their way out of the “friend zone” I have witnessed such several times.
Having a baby, hubby returns from deployment, we find out if we are moving or not. I don’t want time to fly, but I want time to fly.
The Friend Zone is a prison for horny men in your circle.
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You shoulda put horny straight mens in your circle. Cause my gay male friends don’t count in the equation
*100%
Tainted it’s time to focus on your last year, chit he’ll be aight anyway, and if not tell him Walgreens sells hella lotion, and lubes
Zoe, I’m glad your hubby is returning, the streets of Ft Campbell are full since the entire post is back, are y’all Army or??? And congrats on your beybey
and he never even had a baby >>>>SMH
CeeLo this is not it boo boo
Hershey- Navy
Sandra says:
The Friend Zone is a prison for horny men in your circle.
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And eventually they go from horny to bitter.
i love the friend zone, now it’s when a women is sexually intrested in me that im like “damn, how do i break the news” yall know what i mean lol
Ok, congrats to you and yours hope you get a duty station where it’s warm
Sandra Rose says:
@ MrsMommy: Usually a woman elevates a man out of the Friend Zone when he no longer shows interest in her. It says that very clearly in the Askmen.com article that I quoted. The Friend Zone is very real.
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Sandie, Sandie, Sandie……Do you have to believe EVERYTHING these various cyber whores say?
You know that hanging around an unrequited love is as old as the hills. Vanessa Williams even sang a hit song about it (The Best For Last). It’s a story as old as the hills, and has even spawned many a relationship and marriage.
@TERTRA
You’re a dude? That explains the Gravi choices.
@ yso yea u know
Men don’t mind being on the “friend zone”, they are usually the ones that catches us when were vulnerable when our “men” fluck up. My friend has caught me plenty of times. I’m kinda thinking about ditching my dude to kick it with him. See…my dude has never been my “friend”. So we’re lacking the the candidness, openess, honesty, and compassion that usually develops out of friendships. Been knowing both for 7 years. My friend knows what I want. My man has forgotten.
“My friend knows what I want. My man has forgotten.”
….THAT’S what friends are for (chuckle).
@ Hershey: the friend zone is very real in the lesbian community also.
@ lovezoe: men don’t want to be your friend. They have their boys for that. Men want sex. If a man wants sex from you, and you’re not interested, but you want him to carry your groceries or mow your lawn, you put him in the friend zone. The friend zone simply means you don’t want sex from him but you like the attention he’s giving you.
BK2ATLMAN says:
Men can put women in the friend zone also right?
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Yes, but it’s a rare occurrence.
@ Sandra, you don’t say? Are there many differences in the lesbian and straight community aside from the obvious?
imthaboss says:
See…my dude has never been my “friend”. So we’re lacking the the candidness, openess, honesty, and compassion that usually develops out of friendships.
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I see that a lot in relationships. Women are drawn to attractive, but emotionally unavailable men, who can’t possibly feed a woman’s emotional needs. Yet the women stay with the guy because they think “love” will eventually change him over time. I don’t understand it.
So right Sandra, fortunately I have matured enough to accept that he is what he is. But, haven’t gotten enough balls to say Bye!!! Don’t wanna put anybody out. I’ve just learned to do what they do; emotionally and physically detached myself, hoping he will starve and leave on his own. Had to start doing what the older folks been telling me to do for years, but didn’t understand.
“Of course this strategy often fails because most women are one step ahead of men, and they know exactly what men are doing.”
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Exactly. Nothing else needs to be said here
+ vodka
It seems as if I can smell him thru my monitor
VERY Interesting INDEED and Ms. Sandra was ON-POINT throughout her comments in this post Too
Never EVER thought about “Friend-Zone” before in MY Entire Life though… FEMALES have been EITHER:
1) F-U-C-K Buddies
2) Lovers, Live-in Lovers, GF, Live-in GF, Fiance, Baby-Mama or WIFE
3) Friends WITH Benefits
4) Friends I didn’t F-U-C-K out of Respect for Their CURRENT Situation BUT if Their Man messed up THOUGH…
Well if Arnold from Different Strokes can find someone to marry him, I guess The Lady Killer can have an ex-wife too. I just get weirded out by the idea of seeing the Ohhh face from Cee Lo.