Neighbors of Rodney King, the man whose videotaped beating by LAPD officers sparked the LA Riots, say they heard a “commotion” coming from his Rialto, California home the night before he was found dead Sunday morning.
According to TMZ sources, King’s fiancée Cynthia Kelley found him at the bottom of his pool Sunday. He was pronounced dead at 6:11 AM.
Law enforcement sources say Rialto PD will open a drowning investigation, but so far there are no signs of foul play.
Neighbor Sandra Garcia told the LA Times she heard the sounds of sobbing coming from the home Saturday night. “There was a lot of moaning and crying,” she said.
Another neighbor, Bob Carlberg, said he heard “yelling back and forth. I couldn’t quite make it out.”
Police found the 47-year-old King lying motionless at the bottom of the pool.
Ms. Kelley, who was a member of the jury that awarded King $3.8 million in a settlement, told friends she awoke to the sound of King yelling in the backyard. He had been drinking all day and smoking weed.
She said he was naked and banging on the glass. But she didn’t get up to see what the commotion was. Later she said she heard a loud splash.
Kelley dialed 911 at 5:11 a.m. to report King was at the bottom of the pool. Police arrived within minutes and dived into the pool to retrieve King’s body.
The acquittal of four LAPD officers accused in the videotaped beating of King sparked the 1992 Los Angeles riots that left 53 dead and thousands more injured. 4,000 National Guardsmen were called out to help put an end to 6 days of violence and looting.
King, who had past convictions for assault, battery and robbery, made an impassioned plea to rioters, included his now famous quote: “Can’t we all just get along?”
In 2009 King was awarded $3.8 in a settlement for violating his civil rights. He became engaged to one of the jurors who awarded him the money. In 2007 King was shot multiple times in the face, arms, back and torso during a domestic dispute.
King was in and out of jail in recent years. He reportedly died penniless.
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This is a sad situation wither way,However if he was murdered will they ever get it right?
Was Gary Coleman murdered,I think so,however authorities didnt look into the situation much. *How tragic for Rodney* R.I.P.
I didn’t think much of it, but when I relayed his fiance’s story to hubby his response was, “He was murdered.” Now that her story has changed several times and the neighbors heard a commotion I’m suspicious myself. Her story never made sense.
Morning Fe Fe and Lunvn Life
Hope they get to the bottom of this. He lived such a tragic life.
:hugs: @cali
But whoever found him obviously didnt care for him. Wouldnt you try to get in the pool to get your loved one out? Thats a natural instinct
I’m not penniless and I can’t afford a home with a pool. How’d he do it? And from what they said on the news this morning, he lived in that house for 10 years.
I’m trying to figure how he ended up broke? I thought he won 15 million settlement? It’s not like folks don’t kill over insurance policies.
Her story doesn’t make sense to me…
@Mother J
I thought about that too…but maybe she just didn’t want to touch the body, you know in case that would fukk up the crime scene or something…
#silverlining
And here comes the CLUE game theories
@Bird maybe paid for it in full with the settlement? that yard doesnt look like its in the back of a really expensive home, even for Cali
@ Bird…When he was on celebrity rehab, I think he said he was able to purchase the house from the settlement but it was not in good condition by the time he made it on celebrity rehab so Dr.Drew hired people to make it livable again.
Could be….if my fiance drowned I would not be speaking to TMZ talkin bout well he’d been drinking and smoking etc….
She mighta thought he had some money left she could claim….
And can she swim?? Did she try and save him?
Heard about while watching a few episodes of Good Times
This right here is straight sad
Ms. Kelley, who was a member of the jury
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That ish right there? ^^^
There is a NAME for it…its called…
Conflict
Of
Interest
When I first heard he had hooked up with her a few years back I was like
Why not get up and see what the commotion was I wonder what she is hiding.
@Mother Jefferson – Not all of Cali if GLAM. Even folks in Compton, Long Beach have pools.
Aside from them $8.00 lawn chairs it’s actually a decent pool, as it realates to in ground pools.
Something in the milk ain’t clean.
Usual Suspect says:
@Mother Jefferson – Not all of Cali if GLAM. Even folks in Compton, Long Beach have pools.
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Exactly, its the same way in Florida
Evenl if I was mad at hubby I wouldn’t have him outside naked banging on the door.
I know, headed there now…
She said he was naked and banging on the glass. But she didn’t get up to see what the commotion was. Later she said she heard a loud splash.
Kelley dialed 911 at 5:11 a.m. to report King was at the bottom of the pool. Police arrived within minutes and dived into the pool to retrieve King’s body.
RIP Mr. King!
@pryn
Morning Kdbu aka Sunshine
Yeah, but how you start dating a juror. Did she see something in him sitting up there in that jury “pool”.
I served on a jury, and I tried NOT to look at them people, they did rob a bank, but just the same. I tried to not make eye contact, what was her thought proccess. I GOTS to have me some of that Mr. Kang
prynsexxx says:
I know, headed there now…
sweater gawt i saw interviews of him yest & was like wow, i never noticed he was kinda handsome
The pooly doesn’t look too bad. I mean, I’d use/take it being that it’s going to be 93 degrees in my city today. I’ll even take that toolshed turned Cabana (to the left) for $29.57, Alex.
Bibi says:
Could be….if my fiance drowned I would not be speaking to TMZ talkin bout well he’d been drinking and smoking etc
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Supposedly it’s her friends talking to TMZ. I was thinking she needs to talk to them herself instead of letting her friends make all the money off the deal.
@Zoe – That’s cause you are CRAZY. My ex husband did me like that once. Bastid. #seriously
Either she’s lying or he had episodes like this all the time when he smoked & drinked?
She said he was naked and banging on the glass. But she didn’t get up to see what the commotion was.
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You let my man be outside nekkid and then banging on the sliding glass door. Imma have alot of questions for him.
Babe why you naked, outisde… is at the top of the list.
WTF going ON…is question number two.
Why your drunk/smoked out azz not in here laying down someplace rounds the list out.
@Fay
He’s always been kind of sessi/handsome to me…….after all the bruising cleared up and the knots layed down a lil bit. IJS
How did I know there would be speculation behind his death….very unfortunate!!! I must admit the circumstances sound suspicious, but I don’t think much will be done in reference to an actual investigation…..so sad none the less. Good morning my SR family
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S/N: Does anyone else out there work with a COMPLUSIVE LIAR?!!! It’s just becoming more and more difficult for me to deal with…YIKES.
@Bird
Friends?? Yea ok….
I’m grieving and u got TMZ on speed dial???
She said he was naked and banging on the glass. But she didn’t get up to see what the commotion was. Later she said she heard a loud splash.
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Was this young lady white? something ain’t right
I never believe when they say friends/sources. You think Kimmie got that many friends talking to TMZ. They be the ones yoking, sounds nicer saying
“sources”
In 2007 King was shot multiple times in the face, arms, back and torso during a domestic dispute.
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Damn so this man survived a horrific beating, being shot multiple times including in the face, but eventually succumbed to drowning???
Damn.
Yes been there before my co worker is a One Upper !
S/N: Does anyone else out there work with a COMPLUSIVE LIAR?!!! It’s just becoming more and more difficult for me to deal with…YIKES.
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Yeah, I work with a couple of them and I also know of a few of them outside of work…there’s nothing worse than a liar, especially a liar for no damn rhyme or reason!
S/N: Does anyone else out there work with a COMPLUSIVE LIAR?!!! It’s just becoming more and more difficult for me to deal with…YIKES.
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MZ_CARAM3L74 says:
Either she’s lying or he had episodes like this all the time when he smoked & drinked?
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She was probably use to him doing shat like that. I can see it now, she on the phn with her homegirl.
Homegirl: Girl what you and Rodney crazy ass doin today.
Finance (not a typo): Girl his crazy ass out there in the back smokin and swimming nekkid again. I done tole him, one day them police choppers gone fly by and shine a light on his ass like they did the last time and he gone be on the news all over again.
#shonuff
I just want to know why this broad keeps running to TMZ and giving them information. that seems suspect as hail.
especially since the man has been dead for only 24 hours. something in the water ain’t clean. no pun intended
@lady_cn
yep, folks like Rodney King who survived the worst violence in life will die of drowning, infection, falling down the stairs, or being stung by a stingray… 
Bibi says:
Friends?? Yea ok….
I’m grieving and u got TMZ on speed dial???
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Today’s story on TMZ is about how the friends don’t believe her ever changing story and they have told the police as much. That can’t be her putting them up to that.
tried to not make eye contact, what was her thought proccess. I GOTS to have me some of that Mr. Kang
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RIGHT!
I usta have to be the heffa who had to walk to the courthouse for court reports and had to wait until after folks first appearance etc. Dudes tryna holla at me through the glass. Nukka I am about to take ALLLLLL your information back across the street to be published; online today and in the paper tomorrow! How much your bond ill, if you got a court appointed atty., your official list of charges…your address. Don’t look at ME
Finance (not a typo):
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ZOEZOE i just wanna thank u AGANE for putting me on Elle’s mixtape. i love her more erryday!
:ontopic: but i hope they do a thorough investigation into this.
Hey CaliBew!
His estate is going to he a hot mess…she was a fiance so unless he had life insurance, his kins are getting what’s left
kingstonn says:
I just want to know why this broad keeps running to TMZ and giving them information. that seems suspect as hail.
especially since the man has been dead for only 24 hours. something in the water ain’t clean. no pun intended
Fay/ Anytime my dear, anytime
Fefe
How long does it take one to sink To the bottom?
Hey to the SR peepa :wave:
lovezoe says:
How long does it take one to sink To the bottom?
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That’s what I was wondering. Do people not float anymore?
Ion get in the water too much so I don’t know these things.
So sad to have passed on Father’s Day
@Bird
I am a firm believer in covering ur tracks….
I don’t put anything past anybody in the pursuit of financial gain….
I also don’t know how honest tmz is soooo….we’ll see
How they even know these “friends” did they check facebook? Her neighbors? Did they hack her cell and call her top five or something???
lady_cn says:
lovezoe says:
How long does it take one to sink To the bottom?
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That’s what I was wondering. Do people not float anymore?
Ion get in the water too much so I don’t know these things.
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Yeah they do
but I think floating starts after they have been dead for a while
In the beginning they sink to the bottom and then float afterwards.
Also it deals with how big you are as well.
Hey y’all
:Hi:
KDUB
<—investigator's notepad
we gone get down to botton of this here
Hey Bibi sweetie!
Bibi- that’s why I believe she the one talkiNg.
Just noticed the pic Sandra chose for this post
S/N: Does anyone else out there work with a COMPLUSIVE LIAR?!!! It’s just becoming more and more difficult for me to deal with…YIKES
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Don’t work with compulive liar, but I know some. My cousin lies about men, she has the most boyfriends. One day she is have sex and the next she hasn’t had sex in 5 years. I just say OH YEAH.
It’s hard to swimm really well when you is FLUCKKKKKKED UP!
NaijaGal
….I can’t imagine things being messed up. With him getting all that money, surely he had a will, that’s why she killed him.
@Fayla :hugs:
How are u??
It’s hard to swimm really well when you is FLUCKKKKKKED UP!
Bibi! disturbed
we gone get down to botton of this here
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Cindy Kelly…Juror Numma 4…Finance (not a typo) to Rodney Kang…per @Pryn… is lying her azz off.
She changing her story more than the hoe who said them Duke lacrosse players raped her.
The end.
I told my mama yesterday that something was wrong about this story. What I can’t comprehend is why she ignored him banging on the door screaming at 5 in the morning, why didn’t she try to pull him out when she heard him fall in? None of this makes sense. And his children lost their father on Father’s Day of all days
I just want the truth to come out cause Rodney had a hard life, he shouldn’t have died this way
Hey Usual
Usual Suspect says:
S/N: Does anyone else out there work with a COMPLUSIVE LIAR?!!!
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Not that I know of. BUT I work with a chick who I FEEL (and my supervisor agreed b/c SHE is messy) has Munchausen by-proxy syndrome…….and she ain’t birthed NOT ONE child. They are ALL adopted.
Stayed home today to resst…
McCains daughter says that she smokes 
:weed: She’s on Wendy Williams
Questions;
How they hook up?
Did she make money from interviews for being a juror?
How long were they together?
Did they have any prior domestic disputes?
Why didn’t the neighbors call 5-0 if they heard a ruckus?
Why was he naked and banging on the door? Did she lock him out the house?
Why didn’t she see what was going on and immediately?
KDub says:
we gone get down to botton of this here
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Cindy Kelly…Juror Numma 4…Finance (not a typo) to Rodney Kang…per @Pryn… is lying her azz off.
She changing her story more than the hoe who said them Duke lacrosse players raped her.
The end.
MY BROTHERS HOMEBOYS DAD DROWND IN JOE POOL LAKE TWO WEEKNDS AGO.. HE WAS A GOOD SWIMMER BUT WAS DRUNK AND FUUUKKKKD ALL THE WAY UP. THAT WATER AINT NO JOKE
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Damn People been Dying at Joe Pool
for years…
Whaddup Kdub-Saw a blaxican and thought of your nephew. How is the lil mijo doing?
Good Morning Roses!
prynsexxx says: (and my supervisor agreed b/c SHE is messy) has Munchausen by-proxy syndrome…….and she ain’t birthed NOT ONE child. They are ALL adopted.
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Ohhh lawd she must be sickening to be around. That is one of the reasons I got out of that field. I worked with a parent that was beleived to have that.. Either she was sick or the little girl was sick. The doctors hated her and didnn’t want to see the girl, but was afraid to turn her away in fear of her doing something bad to the little girl.
I Go There says:
MY BROTHERS HOMEBOYS DAD DROWND IN JOE POOL LAKE TWO WEEKNDS AGO.. HE WAS A GOOD SWIMMER BUT WAS DRUNK AND FUUUKKKKD ALL THE WAY UP. THAT WATER AINT NO JOKE
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Damn People been Dying at Joe Pool
for years…
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yeah.. evry year is the same sh!t just sad.. that lake is dirty slimmy as fawk..then u add alcohol…
Folks Kdub done called boolshyt on from JUMP and it turnt out to be true:
Susan SMIFF. Bish aint nobody steal your lil white kids. WTF a black man gonna do with two YT chiren? In South Cack? This is NOT reverse Diff’rent Strokes down here in the south.
Crystal Gale Mangum. Bish them yt boys paid for that puss that you gave up and they used a rubba on your stank azz too. Cause they found the Deena (DNA) of 4 OVA dudes in you, but none of it belonged to Tommy and his friends.
Casey Anthony: You killed that baby and you know it. And your daddy didn’t molest you. You is a lie.
:hugs: @JMO
USUAL
even with a will it gets probated and the ish can get messy real quick…that’s why when you have money it’s best to put it in trust and distribute ish before death
JMO HOW WAS THE BIRRFDAY??
who said rodney was kinda fine?
he do look like the crackhead version of GQ in that photo tho 
oh, sup doe
did anyone believe he died from drowning? seriously? when I first heard the story my immediate thought was ‘who killed him?’ his story was well broadcasted and sensationalized, not to mentioned re-visited about 2-3 weeks ago at the 20 year anniversary of it all.
ION swim when I’m drunk
that his family and children are strong…
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OAN: RIP Rodney
Twin
Whaddup Kdub-Saw a blaxican and thought of your nephew. How is the lil mijo doing?
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Him so FAT. SHEW. Like he been eating collards and burritos since he got here. MamaDub got his lil two month ole self on some cerra now. Well actually for a few weeks now. He sleep most of the night. I feel its time for him to come on and stay the night with me
Tia dont wantchu til you sleep more than 3 hours at a time.
YALL **FILLS U UP WITH GASOLINA** LE GO!
yvette, rodney…death comes in threes. is there a 3rd person that has already passed over the past week? each one’s bigger than the other.
oh yeah, that rock band guy that shot himself. that’s 3.
:hugs: @candi, Smurfette
Laker Chamone!
#needesstragasolina
twin
so chick was a member of the jury, saw rodney got a come up and went after him huh
83 Usual Suspect says:
Ohhh lawd she must be sickening to be around.
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YEEEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
*going back to finish reading the rest of what you had to say
JMO
how was the b-day celebration/weekend…you got your Vegas ticket yet?
Cynthia Kelly best HOPE they find some water in Mr. Kangs lungs. If that man was dead and her/somebody pushed him in the pool after… it will be easy to see. Who doing investigation? LAPD just SAW a drowning victim named Whitney Houston. They know what to look for…
fefe
Fi
!*LaKErCHiC@*! says:
JMO HOW WAS THE BIRRFDAY??
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Morning..
I too thought it was odd that the commotion woke her up around 5, and yet according to other reports, 911 didn’t receive a call until 5:25.
As for the house, it’s in the least expensive county in SoCal. Couldn’t have cost more than 275K 10 years ago.
LAW ABIDING CITIZEN.. GERALD BUTLER
And that 275K is being really generous.
NaijaGal says:
JMO
how was the b-day celebration/weekend…you got your Vegas ticket yet?
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Good bday and yep, bought my vegas ticket this weekend … speaking of
To all the married women in here: What did the bridesmaids in your wedding have to pay for???!! My best friend and I are gonna have a lil pow wow after work today and it wont be pretty … Bridezilla my azz
I called bullsht from the jump.
Morning. Get ready to put something on my books if they come get me today.
yallcrazy says:
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Bridesmaid pay for their dresses
Bride usually buys the parties jewelry (as a gift and so that everyone’s matching)
If yall go outta town, each person pays for themselves IMO.
yallcray
ready…ok…it’s Monday, yeah yeah, wish it was Friday, yeah yeah…how you been, yeah yeah…you get in some sin, yeah yeah…throw it back, give it a smack, and tell that man ain’t for the shack
*somersault, 2 backhands into a chinese split into Rodney’s good hair may he RIP*
@JMO
The bridesmaids are supposed to cover the cost of their dress….and, they are all supposed to pool together with the maid of honor and cover the cost of the bachelorette/bridal shower activities…
ion wanna be in nobody’s wedding (except for my sister)
i’m gon sit in the audience and not have to worry bout nothin but whether they gon play the cupid shuffle at the reception or not
I hope they investigate and not just see it as another troubled black man dead.
YSO :2dance: WHO YOU DONE HURT? **MAKES SOME CALLS TO SHUT UP THE WITNESS** ITS NOT WHAT U KNOW.. ITS WHAT U CAN PROVE!!
@Naija – There ain’t nothing to probate, he IS BROKE! He was only worth the insurance policy which probably ain’t even matured.
Happy Late Birthday JMO –
@JMO
I purchased all the jewelry I wanted them to wear so they that would match…the dresses mine wore were long so I let them choose whatever shoe they wanted as long as it was a silver strappy sandal…
YALL!!
hey hon, i’ve been missing you! 
Whatchew need Yso
#nootherquestions
ok THATS WHAT THE FUKK I THOUGHT …. Lawd I don’t wanna lose my best friend over this bullchit but its taking me there
Im the maid of honor so I thought my responsibilities were as follows:
plan bachelorette party – Check, we’re all going to vegas
plan bridal party – check, working with the bridesmaids on that
buy my dress and shoes
This chick said we were supposed to pick out the shoes, and the jewelry, and the hairstyles and let her know so she can choose AND we’re supposed to pay for our hair AND makeup on the day of in addition to us already buying our dresses and shoes
YSO – oh oh, did they wreck your nerves this weekend
JMO – glad I’ve never been in an American wedding…Nigerians pay for everything except may shoes and accessories…but isn’t the etiquette here to pay for your own dress, shoes, hair…hell everything
Thank you Cali!!
Fe, thats how I thought it was supposed to work too.
*somersault, 2 backhands into a chinese split into Rodney’s good hair may he RIP*
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I missed yall too
@JMO – It depends on if you balling or not.
Majority of the time the Bridemaids are responsible for their dresses and the Bride to be, usually will give gifts of necklace or earrangs.
Not the kind from Claires
May he rest in peace…
Hello SR
Bridesmaid pay for their dresses
Bride usually buys the parties jewelry (as a gift and so that everyone’s matching)
If yall go outta town, each person pays for themselves IMO.
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Each one is different, but what is listed is the standard.
KDub didn’t have no bridesmaids.
I have even had a bride that brought our shoes (which I didnt really LIKE cause I like to try my shat ON) AND made us alllll awaken at 5:15 a.m….after driving 9 hours to participate..to go get our hair done so we could ALLL have matching identical updo’s. All 8 of us. Yes 8. I digress 5 years later. But that wedding? Made ME retire from bridesmaid-hood.
@JMO
The hair and makeup thing is tricky…one of my bridesmaids actually hired a makeup artist as a gift for me…had she not done that I would have booked it and paid for it…I let all my bridesmaids decide how they wanted to wear their hair…some brides are just EXTRA for real!
*Grabs shovel, trashbags and lyme… Where you need me to go YSO?
JMO IDK WITH HISPANIC WEDDINGS MOST OF THE TIME THE BRIDES FAMILY AND PADRINOS **LIKE GOD PARENTS THE WEDDING HAS LIKE 10 FOR ALL KINDS OF SHAIT** PAY FOR EVRYTHING WE ONLY HAD TO BUY OUR SHOES.. THE HAIR MAKEUP AND DRESS WERE ON THE BRIDE SHE PICKD THEM WE WENT FOR THE FITTING..
THE BACHELORETT PARTY WAS UP TO US BUT THAT WAS IT
YSoSrs says:
I called bullsht from the jump.
Morning. Get ready to put something on my books if they come get me today.
Naija, from my understanding, you pay for your dress and shoes. The bride hires the makeup artist and hairstylist and she pays for that… This chick has lost her mind… I was in front of her family yesterday but she gone hear it from me this evening
This chick said we were supposed to pick out the shoes, and the jewelry, and the hairstyles and let her know so she can choose AND we’re supposed to pay for our hair AND makeup on the day of in addition to us already buying our dresses and shoes
Ummmm, this is kinda correct Jmo
SandraRose can you please Put up a Allison Matthis Post and what you have found out,I seen you tweet about her *BS*
what i’m wondering is Did she Qualify?
@JMO
Not married but been a maid (or matron, I get them mixed up) AND bridesmaid (TWICE). Bridesmaids should pay for their dress (if they can afford it, if not bow out of the wedding, less headache and friendship loss for EVERYBODY) and shoes.
….and
with @Candi I o’ont wanna be in NOBODY’s wedding. I only want to dress up, spectate, eat, dance and go the fugg home. I MIGHT help clean up, pending on the person getting married. LOL
Cali
whats up
NaijaGal says:
YSO – oh oh, did they wreck your nerves this weekend
JMO – glad I’ve never been in an American wedding…Nigerians pay for everything except may shoes and accessories…but isn’t the etiquette here to pay for your own dress, shoes, hair…hell everything
We actually give the Bridemaids special gifts for participating…
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Down here that is the gift to the bride to be a brides maid. Because you are buying the dress, shoes, outfit and hairstyle, you are not expected to bring a gift.
O’an if’n I EVER get married and we end up rolling each other down the aisle….it’s just gone be me, him, the passa, my daughter and whomever he has that wanna show up. O’an my mama, Almighty willing she still alive.
I want a Martin and Gina wedding. LOL
@JMO
Best believe if I EVER get married again, the shyt is gonna be so simple and uncomplicated…I prolly won’t even care about having a big ass wedding…just me, my love, and a few witnesses who want to be there…weddings are SO overrated and most of the time you end up not liking a lot of folks after its all over…I am STILL bitter with one of my bridesmaids/cousins who pulled some last minute shyt and left my wedding reception to take her daughter to a play…let’s not mention that the child was ALREADY with her father that day…
Cali, thats the thing. She wants this extravagant chit but her fam ain’t got money like that and instead of them saying no, they’ll say ok thats cool but then go MIA on me when I try to contact them. She did say she got us really nice gifts but I promise if them gifts are bullchit …. gurlll
Fe, see it sounds like your process was cool. This chick doin the most!
Lakes, it sounds like your process was easy too smh
Soooo am I supposed to also buy a gift for the bridal party???
Morning IGO
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M #yallnevermindthisol #shhhhhhhhhhh 
i’m gon sit in the audience and not have to worry bout nothin but whether they gon play the cupid shuffle at the reception or not
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YES MA’AM…I worry bout:
If the chicken gonna be hot.
Pick me a groomsman to dance with and to take my azz out while I am in town.
How long the bar gonna be on open status.
If the hotel the reception at een GOT a bar. Where is the NEAREST bar if not.
Where yall mall at?
There are real things to be worried about at out of town weddings.
yallcrazy says:
This chick said we were supposed to pick out the shoes, and the jewelry, and the hairstyles and let her know so she can choose AND we’re supposed to pay for our hair AND makeup on the day of in addition to us already buying our dresses and shoes
Ummmm, this is kinda correct Jmo
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Since when??!
Hey Wut
How are you today?
This chick said we were supposed to pick out the shoes, and the jewelry, and the hairstyles and let her know so she can choose AND we’re supposed to pay for our hair AND makeup on the day of in addition to us already buying our dresses and shoes
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Well in my cousins wedding, we only had to pay for our dress and shoes. She told us what hairstyle to get (a bun). That was about it. She had the makeup artist and gave us our jewelry so we were uniformed. That’s crazy your friend is putting a lot of that financial burden on yall
RIP
I bought my own dress as a bridesmaid and did my own makeup I dont wear a lot of makeup and luckily it was a summer wedding so the skin was bronzed with a tan
JMO says:
Soooo am I supposed to also buy a gift for the bridal party???
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The bride does…
JMO IT WAS.. I WAS TOLD I WAS A BRIDESMAID WENT IN FOR THE FITTING AND GOT MY SHOES.. TIS ALL
BUT THEN AGAIN US HISPANICS PITCH IN 5843543843513 FOR ONE WEDDING 
Jmo, I can take you where we do our purchasing and you can get the jewelry and tell her to pick up the other stuff, we can get it relatively CHEAP (but still sharB)
Fe, I get that and I think everyone that has been married has said that the ceremony was overrated but of course some, including myself, wanna do it big the first time.
Prynn
I Go There says:
Hey Wut
How are you today?
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No Boss today so Iz feelin GOOOOOOOD!!!!!
I just went to the JOP and had a nice reception later.
JMO
never ever heard of the maid of honor buying gift for anybody in any culture
*anybody remember the blind item that someone posted where a former one hit wonder was now selling ass…another site said it’s Blu Cantrell*
bridesmaids aren’t supposed to finance the wedding
do ur own hair, just don’t show up with a phaedra side ponytail
@JMO
Girl…my best friend got married 3 weeks after me (don’t ask me why she thought that was a good idea) and we were each other Maids/Matrons of honor….she expected me to STILL take on the full responsibilities of a matron of honor and finance a bachelorette weekend for her in Vegas….now all of that MAY have been cool if I didn’t have my OWN shyt to pay for that year…but she had a REALLY stank attitude about it and kept throwing around titles and shyt, not realizing that bitch we are BOTH paying for our OWN shyt within weeks of each other…why the fukk are you expecting all this shyt!
A bride wants to choose the hairdo’s so everybody is matching for her pics
See what Fi said about the shoes and if they show or not. This too is for matching purposes
If folks can’t afford that, they usually bow out gracefully when asked but still offer to help and be a part of the festivities IMO
@Naija, this wedding was actually on my Nigerian side so in addition to the dress buying we had to buy our fabric for the traditional wedding, and get it sewn. She had hair ties for us though.
After that wedding I said I will no longer participate. Hell I even decided to have a court wedding and a damn party afterwards. TOO MUCH STRESS and $$ being spent on a day. Nah son.
Well, long story short, the big one (he’s 10) reported me to the peoples last week for reminding him that I am not to be disrespected in my house by him. He told them he’s afraid of me and has been since the beginning.
Told me he’s afraid for his life cause I could kill him and wanted someone to talk to me. Doesn’t even realize what he may have done cause he wants to walk and talk like he’s Mr. Untouchable.
Makes me wish I had actually whooped his ass to make this nonsense worth the trouble. Never know. Still might. The day is young.
@Gigi, every wedding I been associated with has done it that way
@yall, they going downtown today to find shoes and jewelry and were meeting up later to get the dress altered. We went looking for shoes yesterday and 1 chick kept complaining because she said her feet look like precious in the strappy shoes
@Choco, I really don’t do makeup either. I just started wearing blush
Yesterday, she said makeup and hair will be another $100 
GiGi, Choco
@JMO – It nice to have folks with similar hair do’s.
Shoes MUST BE THE SAME (something you could possible wear again) Nina ricci has nice event shoes
Jewlery so be the same or simple/good taste. Try Macys or Nordstrom (earrings for 30 or less and you can wear them again)
Hiring a makeup artist is cool, because they can do everybody, or go to makeup counter…but you havae to make appointment, but with time it presses you for time…..
Aww Damn
Yall Talking bout weddings AKA Executions
eventho i plan to marry a millionaire (let me have this dream ok) i want a simple wedding on the beach. me, him, pastor, our immediate family (mom, dad, siblings) and Snoopy will be the ring bearer
FeFe Feminine says:
@JMO
Girl…my best friend got married 3 weeks after me (don’t ask me why she thought that was a good idea) and we were each other Maids/Matrons of honor….she expected me to STILL take on the full responsibilities of a matron of honor and finance a bachelorette weekend for her in Vegas….now all of that MAY have been cool if I didn’t have my OWN shyt to pay for that year…but she had a REALLY stank attitude about it and kept throwing around titles and shyt, not realizing that bitch we are BOTH paying for our OWN shyt within weeks of each other…why the fukk are you expecting all this shyt!
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YSoSrs
@YSo
Oh no…that’s major…
*anybody remember the blind item that someone posted where a former one hit wonder was now selling ass…another site said it’s Blu Cantrell*
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She BEEN selling azz.
I know somebody who still got the copy of Black Tail she was in. Feb 1996 issue I do believe. That counts as selling azz right?
@Throb
Oh really? Executions huh???
CC
Repost Choco :rollseyes:
YSO
WHY IS HE ACTING UP? THIS IS THE ONE THAT ASK TO SEE HIS MAMA ON MOTHERS DAY? MAYBE THERE IS SOMETHING ELSE OR SOMEONE BUGGING HIM? IM SORRY MAMA 
YSO that’s crazy…
sorry you have to go through that…he’s just taking out his frustration about his birth mother on you and that’s horrible…does he do counseling? I know your heart is heavy because you’ve done so much for them out of the goodness of your heart…hopefully knowing the fact that he’s a child that doesn’t u/s the gravity of the situation will ease your anger and hurt a little bit…and it’s def not YOU it’s all about HER but you’re there so in his child mind he blames you…so sorry…a thousand 
s
@YSO
wow
@JMO
My niece was a great bride! She kept it simple AND she knew everybody’s body don’t look good in the same damn dress! So she picked the color and the store we needed to go to. Had a sample of all the dresses ready for us to try on and we all matched in color jewerly and shoes. She knew also that every face didn’t fit every hairstyle so she said formal not funky no colors and keep it simple. We all looked very pretty and the pictures were great.
Yall says:
If folks can’t afford that, they usually bow out gracefully when asked but still offer to help and be a part of the festivities IMO
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FIRST RULE:
If YO ASS DON’T/CAN’T/AIN’T gone be able to handle this (even if it’s just ONE thing), then leave NOW!
*half the room leaves and me and my daughter the only one’s left*
THEN I will proceed with the rest of the meeting. LOL
I’m so sick of ppl reporting after the crime has been committed and outed in the media. People get outraged after and not get outraged at the ppl that ignored the victim’s cry. How many times do we have to hear someone(neighbor) say that they saw it happening?
@candi
@JMO
I booked my date FIRST…this heffa thought it would be a good fukking idea…I don’t know WHAT the fukk she was smoking…that shyt almost permanently ruined our friendship…
@NaijiaGal
Blu Cantrell – Damn if that ain’t who I said it was.
Usual Suspect says:
@JMO – It nice to have folks with similar hair do’s.
Shoes MUST BE THE SAME (something you could possible wear again) Nina ricci has nice event shoes
Jewlery so be the same or simple/good taste. Try Macys or Nordstrom (earrings for 30 or less and you can wear them again)
Hiring a makeup artist is cool, because they can do everybody, or go to makeup counter…but you havae to make appointment, but with time it presses you for time…..
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Right but I thought the bride tells the bridesmaids “hey, I like this dress, this shoe, this jewelry, and have your hair like this” get our feedback on it and BAM … done
She said she shouldn’t had to do all that … Me: You mean plan your wedding?
KDUB
and yes that qualifies as selling ass too 
Well, long story short, the big one (he’s 10) reported me to the peoples last week for reminding him that I am not to be disrespected in my house by him. He told them he’s afraid of me and has been since the beginning.
Told me he’s afraid for his life cause I could kill him and wanted someone to talk to me. Doesn’t even realize what he may have done cause he wants to walk and talk like he’s Mr. Untouchable.
Makes me wish I had actually whooped his ass to make this nonsense worth the trouble. Never know. Still might. The day is young.
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:hugs: its sad cuz the 10 yo is surely hurting himself to bad he can’t see that
@JMO
$100.00 for hair and makeup – ION Im basic with it and I wouldn’t spend that on my hair and makeup
@Yall
Repost what hun?
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This is what should’ve been done
@YSO, omg
he’s just taking out his frustration about his birth mother on you and that’s horrible
Well good then that you didn’t hit him Yso. His ungrateful self doesn’t even realize what he’s doing.
Maybe drive him through the hood and point out all of the stuff that he could be doing, but you’re not letting him do
(ie. waste his life on the corner) and try to talk to him.
Yso
Let us know if you need reference letters
just a thought…
WUT-IZ-SWAGU says:
I Go There says:
Hey Wut
How are you today?
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No Boss today so Iz feelin GOOOOOOOD!!!!!
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Thats cool… nothing wrong with that.
YsoSoSrs- Wow. I hope everything works out for ya. Kids need to realize their actions have consequences.
@Wut
*sigh* This is gonna be a long day… got me typing so hard the keys flying off the keyboard and chit
Thanks for the feedback!!
@JMO
Ion about your friend my friend didn’t trip like that she probably know some of her bridesmaid would’ve backed out and her wedding party was gorgeous all of the ladies looked good and the BRIDE stood out
YSoSrs says:
Well, long story short, the big one (he’s 10) reported me to the peoples last week for reminding him that I am not to be disrespected in my house by him. He told them he’s afraid of me and has been since the beginning.
Told me he’s afraid for his life cause I could kill him and wanted someone to talk to me. Doesn’t even realize what he may have done cause he wants to walk and talk like he’s Mr. Untouchable.
Makes me wish I had actually whooped his ass to make this nonsense worth the trouble. Never know. Still might. The day is young.
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What state do you live in? Cus in many states you can tear him a new one. just don’t leave marks.
@Fe Fe
Nah its not like that
but its funny when you aske married dudes about it.
They have a different take
CC
I Go There says:
WUT-IZ-SWAGU says:
I Go There says:
Hey Wut
How are you today?
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No Boss today so Iz feelin GOOOOOOOD!!!!!
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Thats cool… nothing wrong with that.
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You have a great weekend? Any thing
FreakySpecial happen?@YSO –
Isn’s school out? LAWD….Ask him if someone else can take better care of him? He needs to be taken to the police department and put into a scared straight program. PRONTO
WUT-IZ-SWAGU says:
I Go There says:
Hey Wut
How are you today?
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No Boss today so Iz feelin GOOOOOOOD!!!!!
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Birds flying high; you know how I feel
Sun in the sky, you know how I feel
Buh-reeze driftin on by; you know how I feel
It’s a new dawn and a new day and a new life…for meeeeeeee
And I’m feeling good
Jmo, tell that bish that’s not in your job duty/title!
Wedding planners make BIG MONEY, I know
You should not be stressed out for her wedding
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Choco, I wanted to see you and Twin (even though I didn’t have ANY TIME) and you didn’t even tess me back
YSoSrs says:
Well, long story short, the big one (he’s 10) reported me to the peoples last week for reminding him that I am not to be disrespected in my house by him. He told them he’s afraid of me and has been since the beginning.
Told me he’s afraid for his life cause I could kill him and wanted someone to talk to me. Doesn’t even realize what he may have done cause he wants to walk and talk like he’s Mr. Untouchable.
Makes me wish I had actually whooped his ass to make this nonsense worth the trouble. Never know. Still might. The day is young.
girl the NERVE!!! does he not realize he could end up in foster care for stupid chit like this??
damn YSO i know u are beyond pissed!
What state do you live in? Cus in many states you can tear him a new one. just don’t leave marks.
@Choco, yea I’ve realized she’s really extra. Just pray for me
:new post:
Not the one im looking for Yet
yallcrazy says:
Jmo, tell that bish that’s not in your job duty/title!
Wedding planners make BIG MONEY, I know
You should not be stressed out for her wedding
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Choco, I wanted to see you and Twin (even though I didn’t have ANY TIME) and you didn’t even tess me back
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She has a wedding planner too
You met Candi??
@KYCAKES
That is exactly how I meant it too!! Im so happy right now. My boss is…is… 
WUT-IZ-SWAGU says:
I Go There says:
WUT-IZ-SWAGU says:
I Go There says:
Hey Wut
How are you today?
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No Boss today so Iz feelin GOOOOOOOD!!!!!
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Thats cool… nothing wrong with that.
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You have a great weekend? Any thing Freaky Special happen?
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Well I cant say it has in a while… Ive been chillin lately
Sunday was good but My saturdays are ALWAYS on point… There is nothing like it.
How bout you anything Freaky happen?
Just pray for me
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Why don’t you playfully but seriously say to her why didn’t we just get on the show Bridezilla
KYCakes cake cake cake cake cake cake…you have a great weekend?
*love me some Nina Simone*
Aww…@YSO Sorry bew
These damn kids, boy
KyCakes says:
WUT-IZ-SWAGU says:
I Go There says:
Hey Wut
How are you today?
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No Boss today so Iz feelin GOOOOOOOD!!!!!
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Birds flying high; you know how I feel
Sun in the sky, you know how I feel
Buh-reeze driftin on by; you know how I feel
It’s a new dawn and a new day and a new life…for meeeeeeee
And I’m feeling good
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KY
whats up…
Thought about you this weekend
@Yall
Chick I didn’t get a text from you sorry :hugs: Remember the coffee date guy well yeah we met and he’s real nice on the eyes and thats about it…
Naija
I love Nina, too
I do…..
Just scrolled up, so he’s angry? Is he/ya’ll currently in counseling. When you can’t beat kids, counseling helps. I got Mister kids in counseling. It has helped slightly.
The daughter wrote in her diary that she wanted to kill herself cause, her mother is a piece of S H I T and will always be a peiece of S H I T.
It was never brought up that her diary was read…She talked about her mother something bad. I WAS SHOCKED…These kids be hurting.
He just finished therapy this February after doing it for about two years. We even did family therapy where I learned the alternatives to physical discipline that I have been using.
But I guess that wasn’t enough. He doesn’t think I should even raise my voice to his ass or that he shouldn’t talk back or huff his breath or roll his eyes when I tell him something for the thousandth time.
He wants to do and say what he feels like and I’m not to correct him in any way, shape, or form. Fck. That. Sht.
JMO
see it’s times like these that make you question a friendship…you seriously need to have a heart to heart, just the two of you cause if you hold it in, you’ll explode and probably have a Tami moment
:stop: she has a planner and is asking you to do the most?
Jmo
We tried
I had so much packed into my days, but I did want to say hi and give them a hug DJM 
*points at Choco* She didn’t even respond
Isn’s school out? LAWD….Ask him if someone else can take better care of him? He needs to be taken to the police department and put into a scared straight program. PRONTO
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Agreed and everything he said sounded like someone told him to say it
I Go There says:
KY
whats up…
Thought about you this weekend
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You did?
Hmm….I thought about
gettin in yo drawsyou, too…@IGO ….
:ashamed:… Would have been nice… mine was .. well 
@Yall
Girl my weekends are so fancy free that I would’ve def responded you need to email me I can give confirm the number you have real talk
Choco, I texted one of them numbers you gave me AND sent an e-mail (I think
-not certain though)
CHOCO
so the personality was a womp womp?
@KY
I thought about what would you do as well.
@Yall
:hugs:
@Naija
Pretty much he seemed nice enough but I wasn’t really feeling it he seemed standoffish like he’s guarded and he may suffer from esteem issues IDK couldn’t put my finger on it but it didn’t seem genuine and it seems as though he is really studying my responses to his question even on the phone which makes it a bore for me already – if Im suspicious to you already we aint going nowhere fast
WUT-IZ-SWAGU says:
@IGO …. … Would have been nice… mine was .. well
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sorry about that.. too bad
KyCakes says:
I Go There says:
KY
whats up…
Thought about you this weekend
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You did?
Hmm….I thought about
gettin in yo drawsyou, too…___________________________________________________
@YSO I remember when I thought my Mom was “abusing” me…
I ended up in a group home for three months….sharing 1 bathroom and a dorm room with a bunch of durty bishes…
Do you know how embarrassed I was to have to get out of the ‘group home’ van at school?
Not making light of your situation, but I say let him make that call; hell, help him pack. He’ll realize soon enough he ain’t about that life and that he really has it good at home…Sometimes it takes the act, though, when talking isn’t convincing enough.
I tell mine all the time, you are welcome at ANY time to get THEE fukk out. Rolling your eyes cause you have to empty the dishwasher….
Boy…
@Yso – Well you are good, you have nothing to worry about. Just talk to him and tell him. Because you are human and sometimes you get upset you raise your voice and that doesn’t mean that you don’t love or care about him. WOW. That has to be hard. Will keep you in my prayers.
Choco & Naija
YSO says:
He doesn’t think I should even raise my voice to his ass or that he shouldn’t talk back or huff his breath or roll his eyes when I tell him something for the thousandth time.
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HUN-TEE let me tell you. I had TWO of my (great) nieces (9 and 11 – I think) this weekend, plus for some strange and odd reason my daughter (17) has been home from (boarding) school for the past 3 weeks (I need to get down to the bottom of why she ain’t returned back to her weekly place of residence). Anywho, I had them lil girls this weekend and I do know there were more than two hands and foots, that I had to tell one, both or all three that I was gone knock their head off they shoulders if they didn’t quit doin xyz! By the time my nieces (THEIR mama’s) returned, them kids were outside on the porch, waiting for them to pull up. Where was I you ask, in my house with the air on and the storm door, LOCKED!
#thinkitsagame
@IGO
You fools had my flatlined on Twitter….
@JMO it’s the same difference, no?
Prynn
@WUT
I’m in Illinois. The thing is if I put my hands on him he will end up in the hospital. This is why I don’t, not because I’m a afraid of the state. I’m afraid of myself.
@CHOCO
No. It’s all him. He’s dramatic like that.
@EVERYONE ELSE
Thanks. :hugs: I’m not really worried. He’s not an abused child and anyone with eyes and ears and common sense will realize that.
I’m just angry and disappointed. He thinks he has more power than he does. I’m tempted to tell them to take him for a week so he can see just how good he has it and how bad it could be elsewhere.
Where was I you ask, in my house with the air on and the storm door, LOCKED!
#thinkitsagame
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<–met someone who isn't like the ones I usually meet
KyCakes says:
@IGO
You fools had my flatlined on Twitter….
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I dont be me… Its just that when yall ladies get to shait talking
I gotta stick my chest out and let yall know its not a game over hurr…
Not making light of your situation, but I say let him make that call; hell, help him pack. He’ll realize soon enough he ain’t about that life and that he really has it good at home…Sometimes it takes the act, though, when talking isn’t convincing enough.
I tell mine all the time, you are welcome at ANY time to get THEE fukk out. Rolling your eyes cause you have to empty the dishwasher….
@CHOCO
No. It’s all him. He’s dramatic like that.
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SMH and Im with you trial and error have them take him for a week YOU could use a break!
KyCakes says:
@JMO it’s the same difference, no?
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Choco, I just tessed the one I tessed last week. Let me know if it comes through. I didn’t do the other number, just one.
yallcrazy says:
<–met someone who isn't like the ones I usually meet
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Aww shait.. .whats up yall
Give up the details
He thinks he has more power than he does. I’m tempted to tell them to take him for a week so he can see just how good he has it and how bad it could be elsewhere
LET HIM LEARN HIS LESSON.. AND APPRECIATE ALL THAT U DO FOR HIM.. THAT U DONT FUKN HAVE TO!
KY WHAT I MISS ON THE TWATTER?? IDK WTF I DID BUT I CANT USE MINE NO MORE!
@Yall
I got that one I didn’t get one this weekend I would’ve answered where were you in DC or MD
@LAKER
Girl. I need to stop telling him and SHOW him. I would send him to his mama house but I don’t trust her. She lies and fills his head with bullsht and she would spoil him knowing she would only have him a few days.
He has forgotten what it was really like living with her. All he wants to remember is the “freedom” he had not the price he paid and is still paying for that freedom.
Ya’ll in this post ??????
@YSO
:hugs: again and you will be in my
I would send him to his mama house but I don’t trust her. She lies and fills his head with bullsht and she would spoil him knowing she would only have him a few days.
MAYBE THIS IS WERE HE IS GETTING ALL THIS BS FROM.. ALL OF WHAT HE SAID TO THEM PEOPLE SEEMS COACHED.. I KNOW U DONT TRUST HER BUT HE HAS TO LEARN AND U ARE DOING UR BEST AND GETTING TREATED LIKE CRAP…
EAZY IDK WHO IS WERE
Me either Lakes
@EAZY
I’m in here till there’s a new, not sad post.
@CHOCO
Thanks.
@LAKER
That’s why he doesn’t have any contact with her. The last time I tried was Mother’s Day. I will not keep extending myself to keep their relationship going if she doesn’t care enough to make an effort of her own. But that makes me the bad guy to him. I’m losing either way and I’m just tired. *sigh*
YSO WELL IM GOING WITH CHOCO ON THIS ONE.. LET HIM TASTE THE “FREEDOM” HE IS CHASING IN HIS DAM MIND.. U TRIED AND HE JUST WONT LISTEN.. LET HIM FAIL SO HE CAN MEMBER WHAT HOME REALLY IS
My .02 cents. My Lil brother is adopted and he pulled this same crap on my mom. I packed up some tshirts and drawers and took him to his bio mom, who at the time was a crack head/prostitute. I knew that it wasn’t right but he had set some things on fire, poured water down the back of the big screen TV, threatened my son and the works. After seeing his momma and seeing that she couldn’t provide shiat for him straightened his azz out. Again I know that it wasn’t right but he was always saying that he would runaway and go find his real mother. That he hated us and he wished he was with her.
DC @ Choco
@LAKER & GYPSY
If I thought that it would do him some good I would pack him up this weekend.
But his mom is the ultimate manipulator. Like she told my sister she is dying of cancer and she wants to see her kids before she goes. The bitch hasn’t even had and tests done and probably isn’t even sick from anything but her rotted liver. Nor has she called me to ask to visit. She even made him PROMISE he will come “home” to her when he’s 18.
So I think she will fill his head with lies and confuse him and make his attitude toward me worse, not better. I don’t know. *sighs again*