Family members of a slain Dallas woman are angry that the Dallas police didn’t do enough to save her after she called 911 two days earlier to report her ex-husband was attacking her.
Deanna Cook-Patrick, 32, was found dead in her bathtub on Sunday after family members kicked in her front door.
Police say Cook called 911 from her cell phone, delaying the response time by 9 minutes. Once Cook’s address was established, the dispatcher did not inform the officers in the field that Cook was under attack — even though her screams could be heard during the 11-minute 911 call. Police knocked on Cook’s door but left when there was no response.
“In my personal opinion, I don’t think they cared enough. I think they had already given up. Seen it was useless and didn’t think it was worth their time or effort,” the victim’s sister, Valecia Battle, told Fox News.
Police arrested Cook’s ex-husband, Delvecchio Patrick, and charged him with murder. He is being held on $500,000 bail.
Cook and Patrick’s 3-year marriage was a contentious one. Patrick was arrested 3 times for assaulting Cook in the past. He pleaded guilty to all 3 charges. The couple’s divorce was finalized in January.
Family members, including her two teenage daughters, went to Cook’s home on Sunday after they noticed she didn’t attend church services. The family saw water pouring under the front door which was locked. They kicked the door in and found Cook’s body submerged in the tub with the water still running.
Police did not release the 911 call to the media, but family members who heard the audio described Cook’s screams and gasps for breath. They said they could hear Cook dying.
“I could just hear how loud she was screaming,” Karletha Gundy told WFAA News 8 in Dallas. “I couldn’t hear what she was saying, but I know she was screaming for her life.”
Gundy described the indifference by police when she called to report Cook missing and asked for a welfare check at her home.
“The lady said, ‘Before we can send an officer out to check, you need to call the hospitals and the jails,'” Gundy said.
“If they could have kicked the door down, maybe she could have been saved,” Gundy said.
The 911 operator who failed to mention the ongoing assault to police defended her actions in an interview with the Dallas Morning News.
“I can say that it’s obvious that there was an active disturbance taking place, the screaming and things like that, so I can’t say that I knew what was going on, other than there was a disturbance,” the operator said. “Obviously my prayers go out to her family, because that’s just a terrible situation.”
Just hours before she was attacked in her home, Deanna Cook tweeted a response to R&B singer Tyrese, who wrote a series of tweets on his Twitter.com account chastising women for staying in abusive relationships.
“Thats why I made the First move,” Deanna tweeted. “Now Dude say He Gone KILL me. Wouldn’t be so bad if he ain’t tried 3 times before, But I’m Gods Child ain’t never scared..”
More from Sandrarose.com:
Photos: Twitter.com
Thanks to Lisa Lewis (@BlogAddict247) and @RETWEET_HOT_TOP for the links.
wtf! who puts their divorce papers online? these social networking sites can be a blessing and a curse. a blessing in this case cause they have plenty of evidence against his ass. so sad.
AND THEY VERY WELL SHOULD BE ANGRY,PISSED,MAD,VEXED AND ANY OTHER FORM OF ANGER YOU COULD THINK OF CAUSE I AM!!
Cook and Patrick’s 3-year marriage was a contentious one. Patrick was arrested 3 times for assaulting Cook in the past. He pleaded guilty to all 3 charges. The couple’s divorce was finalized in January.
****************************
damn!! he didn’t even try to say he was innocent….
so fcuking pissed that Dallas police ain’t ish when it comes to black people…bitches
@ naija
not just Dallas. Houston police doesn’t give three sh.ts either
What happened to Deanna Cook could happen to anyone of us who don’t fit a certain demographic or don’t live in certain neighborhoods.
her daughters tweets are making me feel some type of way. poor baby
This makes me really sad and uneasy…
You know what… in all honesty the police were wrong, I understand the anger towards them completely.. BUT there comes a time when as a grown woman you decide your life is more important than the bullshit.I’ve been there but with children to protect and I did some really dumb stuff back in the days trying to get my getback but
and here’s a woman who did what she was supposed to do…called the police, had proof and nothing happened…now had she killed his bitchass she’d be doing 15 to life…these laws ain’t sh*t
This is just such a sad story. Reading her tweets just gives me chills…
Police dont give a DAYUM anywhere when it comes to any other color than white!! It’s unreal the world we live in,especially here in the Great U.S.A.
And for the 911 operator attempting to lessen the severity of it angers me Just as well.She should Eat Shyte and die
When I heard about this story from Lisa Lewis on Twitter, the first thing I thought was didn’t the police who went to her door know she was being attacked? Now we find out that the ignorant police dispatcher didn’t bother to tell the police that Deanna was being attacked.
And for the 911 operator attempting to lessen the severity of it angers me Just as well.She should Eat Shyte and die
___________
My sentiments exactly…what a stupid bitch!
Naija police were wrong no question to that but I can remember being told to my face by an actual good police officer who had to keep coming to my house that if I kept calling and they kept coming but I kept letting him back in, eventually they’ll stop assuming it’s an emergency. And he was a good officer, went above and beyond to the point where he would actually take random drives around where I lived just to make sure we were okay. They should’ve busted that door down and saved her but why was he there?
EVERYTHING – just going based on the story, he was stalking her…the only way we’ll know how he got in is if he talks…obviously she didn’t want him cause they divorced…she didn’t want him but obviously he wasn’t done with her…3 times is not too many imo…the police and especially the dispatcher ain’t sh*t in this case
I called the police late one night when Jermaine Dupri threatened my life in a phone call. Do you know the police were beating on my door within 3 minutes, even though I told the dispatcher it was not an emergency. Then the next morning, 2 detectives came to talk to me. I have female friends who pay a little extra, or work 2 jobs to live in nice areas. Where you live really does make a difference between life or death for you and your children.
Sandra Rose says:
I called the police late one night when Jermaine Dupri threatened my life in a phone call. Do you know the police were beating on my door within 3 minutes, even though I told the dispatcher it was not an emergency. Then the next morning, 2 detectives came to talk to me. I have female friends who pay a little extra, or work 2 jobs to live in nice areas. Where you live really does make a difference between life or death for you and your children.
———————
So sad. So sad.
Naija see I agree about them not being shit but here’s my thing:
1. You’ve got a man, who you know is bat shyt crazy, you know he’s put his hands on you 3 times prior but you’re putting him on blast on the internet for everybody to see when he knows how to find you and he’s proven before what he will do
2. Yes, he probably was stalking her. I don’t doubt that one bit. But did he break in or did she let him in?
That’s my whole issue, I don’t want to blame her, cause I’ve been there and it’s definitely the police and dispatcher’s fault that they didn’t make sure that call was completely followed through BUT at what point do women realize that some times it’s better to cut your losses and leave alive then stick around and keeping throwing fuel to the fire? That’s my only issue. Because she did all that talking on fb and twitter and for what? She’s dead, her children don’t have a mother, and while they’re about to get paid off this lawsuit it doesn’t change the fact that she is gone
Sandra Rose says: I called the police late one night when Jermaine Dupri threatened my life in a phone call.
***************************
I dont even know this young lady and my heart hurts deeply for her and her family….IMO the incompetent dispatcher needs to lose her job
for comfort for her family
In this case the operator has to be blamed because unless the police have probable cause they cannot enter your home if they are not allowed in. Thus if by the time they got there, heard nothing and was not told beforehand there is little that can be done.
On the other hand many people are saying that they had a volatile relationship where he not only attacked her but she did as well. Thus if police kept responding to this address they saw no urgency in the matter as they chalked it up to yet again one of their other situations.
Its a sad situation but one that is so true of DV. This is why I tell women that you cannot cry wolf in that you say something happen, call the police but never follow through because what happens is that LE gets tired of you and you address is flagged. Thus the day you may really need the police would be the day they fail to respond and you may or may not be lucky to escape with your life.
Ms. Everything says: Because she did all that talking on fb and twitter and for what?
*************************
it was almost like, by putting it out there, she thought he probably really wouldn’t do it.
With this Imma do like I do in real life and not think about the way that she died and all of the negativity BUT use the power of my heart and my love to pray for her family and even his family and their friends.
GOD got this
IMB
*logging off*
(tight one for all)
@ Sandra
you’re absolutely right. someone had broke into my friends car outside a club and was threatening her so i called the police and they took 35mins to come!
but when i was at my mom’s house and her neighbors called the police cause there was a suspicious car driving through the neighborhood, the cops were there in less than 10 mins.
sn: jermaine dupri though? surely you could have stepped on him…
If a man want To kill you, he will. All the protective orders in the world won’t stop crazy.
sn: jermaine dupri though? surely you could have stepped on him…
____________
What’s her daughter’s twitter account?
Free
she probably had no idea and at that point he probably didn’t give 2 fvcks if he got caught either 
Lord give strength at this time… Ive always said dispatchers around the world needs ongoing training like day to day!!!! their training manuals are so outdated.. we are now in 2012 and theyr still responding to criminal minds from the 50s 60s.. these criminals are clever and every second matter
sn: jermaine dupri though? surely you could have stepped on him…
^ ^ ^ ^
Sandra Rose says: Where you live really does make a difference between life or death for you and your children.
________________________________________
GM Sandra. Where you live (zip code), also makes a difference when you submit applications for jobs and when you apply for credit.
Deanna was afraid for her life, and yes, she thought putting it out into the universe would discourage Delvecchio from hurting her. Let this be a lesson to you ladies: when a man attacks you, call the police, document the attack, and then buy yourself a gun. If Deanna had a gun the outcome would have been very different.
Sandra Rose says:
I called the police late one night when Jermaine Dupri threatened my life in a phone call. Do you know the police were beating on my door within 3 minutes, even though I told the dispatcher it was not an emergency. Then the next morning, 2 detectives came to talk to me. I have female friends who pay a little extra, or work 2 jobs to live in nice areas. Where you live really does make a difference between life or death for you and your children.
————————————————————————-
I live in a really nice neighborhood where the homes start off close to a mil. There is a subdivision across from mine that is a HUD development. Police rarely respond there to the point that delivery service would not go there past 7 pm becuase they say too many crimes occur and the cops ignore them. Yet in my little subdivision, they respond within 3 minutes for everything. One time someone was playing with a gun and there were 11 sheriff’s car in the neighborhood; on another occassion the cops showed up to tell a resident that their car was in an intersection and could cause an accident so it needed to be moved. Plus they go beyond call of duty to make sure situation is resolved or near resolved prior to leaving. It sad but its the world we live in
wtf! who puts their divorce papers online? these social networking sites can be a blessing and a curse. a blessing in this case cause they have plenty of evidence against his ass.
_________________________________________________________________
I’ve heard of pregnancy tests being posted online…Folks are out of control…
I once accidently dialed 911 when trying to make an international call. The police in my area STILL came out and did a curtosy check after I told the dispatcher I had accidently dis-dialed. I was annoyed that they still came but thankful they were doing their job…
kingstonn says: jermaine dupri though? surely you could have stepped on him…
***************************
can you imagine this? SR with her hair all messed up and sticking out and jermaine with knots all over his head. a fight of epic and historic proportions.
@ Annemarie
it’s like @Gorgeous_Neycea or something
Sandra Rose says:
I called the police late one night when Jermaine Dupri threatened my life in a phone call. Do you know the police were beating on my door within 3 minutes, even though I told the dispatcher it was not an emergency. Then the next morning, 2 detectives came to talk to me. I have female friends who pay a little extra, or work 2 jobs to live in nice areas. Where you live really does make a difference between life or death for you and your children.
_______________________
I totally agree, Especially if you have children
@ bnatural, one of the detectives was a female who reads my blog. She was smiling the whole time she was here.
lovezoe says:
If a man want To kill you, he will. All the protective orders in the world won’t stop crazy.
______________
Anybody remember a few years back…when that angry ex husband shot his ex wife in the head….on camera IN FRONT OF A NEWS CREW that was intervewing her?
Morning All
Sandra Rose says: If Deanna had a gun the outcome would have been very different.
***************************
probably would have given her life w/the possibility of parole for murder. you know how they do.
lovezoe says:
If a man want To kill you, he will. All the protective orders in the world won’t stop crazy.
————————————————————————
that’s whhat I said yesterday. I had a client recently where dude had a stay away order. Showed up the next day he was released from jail beat her down in the front of the neighborhood and when the police arrived they did nothing because he was not around and they said they had to investigate first. smh
Thanks Kingstonn
@ Fay
they woulda had SWAT & the National guard stationed outside her house.
Ms. Everything says:
Free she probably had no idea and at that point he probably didn’t give 2 fvcks if he got caught either
and the mere fact that this nutcase pleaded guilty 3 times before screams he didnt give a damn either.
******************************************
@ kingstonn, I live in a small town on the border of Atlanta. We have a small police force but they are on it when we call them.
mzwhang90210 says:
Sandra Rose says: Where you live really does make a difference between life or death for you and your children.
________________________________________
GM Sandra. Where you live (zip code), also makes a difference when you submit applications for jobs and when you apply for credit.
Any news on LL Cool J confronting an intruder in his home Sandra?
I read the tmz story and had such a good laugh because people forget LL isn’t as soft as he’s gotten over the years. Poor burglar had no idea what he was getting himself into
but at the same time he’s lucky dude wasn’t armed and ready
sn: jermaine dupri though? surely you could have stepped on him… .
and that may be why she was putting it all on facebook/twitter…making sure had something happened to her the police knew where to go…and if you need a protective order in the first place, then you’re dealing with crazy and the order isn’t gonna mean ish to them
Police say Cook called 911 from her cell phone, delaying the response time by 9 minutes. Once Cook’s address was established, …
____________________
Wait…I thought one of the FIRST things a 911 dispatcher does…is ask for your address?????
Sandra Rose says:
@ kingstonn, I live in a small town on the border of Atlanta. We have a small police force but they are on it when we call them.
____________________
They usually stay on it
I even noticed down here in Henry where I live If I call they are here quick too 
You know Henry County ready to lock a ninja up 
@ Sandra
guess that’s for the residents own safety though.
my mom lives in a gated subdivision with a security guard at the gate who has to make sure your name is on a list.
ugh. i’m there almost everyday and that fool still asks me what my purpose for visiting is.
Good morning everyone. I have so many feelings pertaining to this story n dv in general. I’m only 23 but have seen and experienced dv for myself. Thankfully I am one who was able to walk away….eventually. but only when you realize that YOU have had enough. Sometimes in these relationships women begin to think this type of behavior is normal. They get comfortable and some even justify it. I’ve heard women say “well my mouth is kind of reckless…” its unbelievable to some who know better like most of us but I have actuallySEEN
People used to talk about me for spending more on rent than I had to just to avoid living in the hood
Any news on LL Cool J confronting an intruder in his home Sandra?
I read the tmz story and had such a good laugh because people forget LL isn’t as soft as he’s gotten over the years. Poor burglar had no idea what he was getting himself into but at the same time he’s lucky dude wasn’t armed and ready
________________
on BOTH points.
mzwhang90210 says:
Police say Cook called 911 from her cell phone, delaying the response time by 9 minutes. Once Cook’s address was established, …
____________________
Wait…I thought one of the FIRST things a 911 dispatcher does…is ask for your address?????
————————————————————————
They are supposed to verify it because technically when you call the location in which you are calling from is supposed to show up on their system. One was in bad weather and got stuck, didnt have an address and they were able to track my location based on my phone’s latitude and coordinates
guess she should’ve told the dispatcher dude had drugs…bet all doors and windows would’ve been busted open then…just trife
…a lot of women who really don’t know better. And it has a lot to do with their environment and the company they keep as well as what they’ve seen and learned about relationships growing up.
kingstonn says:
@ Sandra
guess that’s for the residents own safety though.
I remember that complex on Covington Highway had the same ish, Use to be called Oaktree apartments and East Wick on Candler have that same procedure 
and it’s still lil vietnam round there !
my mom lives in a gated subdivision with a security guard at the gate who has to make sure your name is on a list.
ugh. i’m there almost everyday and that fool still asks me what my purpose for visiting is.
____________________
They have them same procedures in the hoods
@ naija
you’re on a roll.
@ jeniefrumdabloc: I was looking at houses in Henry County that were very nice.
Naija, if anything ever happens to me (violently) every one knows who to go to. I won’t lie and say I’ve never put my husband on blast online cause I have several times. But you do NOT out an insecure, violent, gangbanger publicly like that. You just don’t. And I understand faith, I understand prayer but you have to put action to that. If you know that son of a bitch is trying to kill you and has tried on more than one occasion don’t stick around waiting for the 4th attempt with the assumption it’s going to work out. Leave and take yourself somewhere he can’t find you as easily. Protect yourself somehow. At one point I had a house full of people just to make sure that when that nigga came home there was somebody there to protect me if I couldn’t do it myself. Common sense would have saved her life where the bi.tch ass 911 operator and police failed
My font must be white today….
I said…
Morning All
OH ok….thanks for post 59 Sassy.
mzwhang90210 says: Wait…I thought one of the FIRST things a 911 dispatcher does…is ask for your address?????
**************************
i think she was screaming into the phone. they said some of it was incoherent. i know i could not move into my new home until it was established on the 911 system (they wouldn’t release the occupancy certificate or whatever) but people forget about cell phones. some of these 911 systems are not technologically advanced enough to figure out where you are. i don’t think they are all the same.
even in atlanta metro area, we’ve had issues with police/ambulances going to the wrong address because two streets have the same name within a city. i don’t understand it.
@ jenie
i mean it’s stupid! fool knows my name and still makes me sit there while his old ass checks my name off the list!
so i just don’t go over there.
@ NaijaGal: She should’ve told the dispatcher he had a gun AND drugs. Then the SWAT team would’ve responded.
Anybody remember a few years back…when that angry ex husband shot his ex wife in the head….on camera IN FRONT OF A NEWS CREW that was intervewing her?
________________________________________________________________
Was that the one where he shot her at the cemetary for visiting their daughters grave? He blamed her for her death because she was living with her whenshe committed suidcide
Morning Trendsetter
EVERYTHING – I’m assuming you had the means to leave…but what if this lady didn’t? It takes money to do anything and what if there was nobody to help her…how is she supposed to leave the city or state…I get what you’re saying but if you don’t have the means to get gone what are you supposed to do?
Lol morning Trendsetter
Morning Auntie
Sandra Rose says:
@ jeniefrumdabloc: I was looking at houses in Henry County that were very nice.
____________________
Clayton County folks done got hip Sandra, might be time to pack my ish and move
been seeing some ratchet coming through on Hudson Bridge !
TREND
GM Trend…sorry, girl I’m so shook about this tragic story.GM to errybody.
I understand and agree…but honestly yall some women just don’t feel as though a man they’ve been with for so long..will REALLY kill them. I know it’s sad, and doesnt make sense to us on the outside looking in…but some women just can’t fathom that the father of their children/or the man they’ve shared a part of their lives with…would actually take their lives.
TRENDSETTER
GOOD MORNING”
MOrning everyone!!!!
That nicca look crazy
think she was screaming into the phone. they said some of it was incoherent. i know i could not move into my new home until it was established on the 911 system (they wouldn’t release the occupancy certificate or whatever) but people forget about cell phones. some of these 911 systems are not technologically advanced enough to figure out where you are. i don’t think they are all the same.
even in atlanta metro area, we’ve had issues with police/ambulances going to the wrong address because two streets have the same name within a city. i don’t understand it.
__________________
Yeah…I’ve got that Free. But my confusion stems from the fact that I thought the dispatcher was supposed to ASK where you are located? I guess not.
kingstonn says:
@ jenie
i mean it’s stupid! fool knows my name and still makes me sit there while his old ass checks my name off the list!
so i just don’t go over there.
_______________
That damn gravie Kingstonn
Naija, no I didn’t. I stayed in shelters at times, with my mother at other times when we were really going through our issues. I was blessed that I was able to have him put out of our apartment but when he was gone and I still stayed in the apartment we shared I had a roommate so I was never alone. When I moved to a new apartment, I left no forwarding address and he was not invited over. I disappeared in the same city just by avoiding the main spots where I was expected to show up. And when I left the state, I was on unemployment for a long time. Where there is a will there is a way if you are willing to take it
i can’t get off jermaine dupri though. who is he trying to scare! them lil beady eyes don’t even look in the same direction.
i guess he could gnaw somebody to death though.
i think one swift punt is all you need to get rid of him.
cheeks8683 says:
Was that the one where he shot her at the cemetary for visiting their daughters grave? He blamed her for her death because she was living with her whenshe committed suidcide
_________________________________________
YUP! That’s the one.
Ahem….is this thing on? I said good morning everyone
@mzwhang that’s my point exactly.some women just haven’t reached that point yet in realizing that their abusive man can actually kill them one day. It can be intentional or it could be an accident. But its a gamble either way. The only way to win (get away) is jot to play the game.
Morning dancer
Where was her family when she reaching out for help
Were they reading her posts? I couldn’t read that shyt and walk away like its normal. Especially if it was my sister, Im coming for that azz 
:wave: @ all
@ jenie
he’s so ugly.
@ mzwhang
i called from a cell and they didn’t ask for my address at all. i guess it depends on what city you’re in? Houston is pretty big so I guess they need a advanced GPS here.
Native New Yorker says:
Ahem….is this thing on? I said good morning everyone
@mzwhang that’s my point exactly.some women just haven’t reached that point yet in realizing that their abusive man can actually kill them one day. It can be intentional or it could be an accident. But its a gamble either way. The only way to win (get away) is jot to play the game.
_________________
GM Native. I agree. But like someone said…some women don’t have the means or resources to just up and leave. Its just sad.
cheeks8683 says:
Was that the one where he shot her at the cemetary for visiting their daughters grave? He blamed her for her death because she was living with her whenshe committed suidcide
_________________________________________
YUP! That’s the one.
__________________________________________
Yeah he was like fluck it and went straight gangsta….The situation was jacked up all around though…not to give him a pass AT. ALL but the background story was cray cray
NATIVE, TY
Police arrested Cook’s ex-husband, Delvecchio Patrick, and charged him with murder. He is being held on $500,000 bail.
_______________
I thought the only person that got a bond on a murder trial with prior convictions was Zimmerman
@kingston…gotcha.
LOL @ your gravi….he looks like a demented fox.
kingstonn says:
@ jenie
he’s so ugly
===============
makes you wonder if Janet just doesn’t go by looks of if she’s a lil slow
good Morning
Trendsetter
Native New Yorker
jenie
FAY
kingstonn
ms.Everything
mzwhang90210
DancerBee
naija
Cheeks
SandraRose
Xena
Sassyshe
Free
CharlieBrown
FEFE
ms.DivaRo
and errrybody else to come :wave:
cheeks8683 says:
Yeah he was like fluck it and went straight gangsta….The situation was jacked up all around though…not to give him a pass AT. ALL but the background story was cray cray
______________________
Yup Cheeks…and if I remember correctly…the NEWS station were the ones that called the ex-hubby to tell him that they were going to be interveiwng her at the cemetary. I think they got sued by her family.
Good Morning
This case is just sad and heartbreaking.
I have so many questions.
Morning Native, Naija, Mzwhang, Jenie, Ty, Luvn, Kingstonn
GM
Sandra
Luvn
Naij
TY
Cheeks
Kingston
JenEEEE
Sassy
Dancer
FayFay
[anybody I missed, insert your name here]
morning to all who said good morning!
it’d be too hard to type all those names on this damn iPad.
@ daisy
i did! it was Baltimore right? that big ole girl needs her ass whipped, not whooped, for putting hands on her mom & grandma!
Morning Luvn, Mswhang
Trend
LUVN
MZWHANG
*I know I been changed*
Morning Luvn
This is really sad. I have no words really.
it’d be too hard to type all those names on this damn iPad
___________
Yep thats y I :wave: @ all and keep it moving lol
My close friend stabbed her attacker who was once her lover…and my friend ended up doing about 30 days in the county jail….after they sorted everything out they realized that my friend had a restraining order against her attacker and had called the cops previous times before…however, since the attacker called the cops when she got stabbed they took my friend to jail before she could tell them what really happened
I personally didn’t up and leave my situation either because I was not able to. However I never added fuel to the fire either. I knew my sons father was crazy after I had to fun outside in a tee shirt wit my 6 month old in the middle of the winter. BUT I never put anything online about it (until now) blasting him or taking jabs at him for the world to see either. Why poke a rabid dog? I was more embarrassed than anything bcuz I felt like this was who I chose so something must have been off about me. I changed my number and pressed charges. When you are tired of being a victim you don’t do ANYTHING that you know for sure is going to put you in harms way. Its not right that a person should have to go thru that all bcuz some mother efferent is too crazy to control themselves but you do share some of the responsibility in protecting yourself.
NaijaGal says:
MZWHANG *I know I been changed*
cheddup.
_________________
@Kingston YES! I am watching now. I work at home on Wed and watch all the shows on my DVR. I am going to watch Newsroom next.
Morning Gig
Morning Gigi
thats better…lol
You ladies are looking at it cuz the police didn’t “save” her. You’re all making some good points, but WE THE BLACK PEOPLE, have to save ourselves and as best possible remove ourselves from these situations. Suppose the dispatcher was able to get the cops the address info in 1 minute vs 9, delvecchio was still going to kill her, be it that day or a day later. There’s just no way around it. She said he tried twice before.
He claimed to be a blood, one of his nephews is claiming to be a crip, etc. Deanna knew what it was before all this went down. Is she a victim of DV or a victim of her own decisions? Sm1 tweeted dude had been in prison for years before he got out and they married. Could she have just made a bad decision? Absolutely.
I still believe it went from schitty to schittiest when she posted to the world that she knows the name of her DL ex-husband’s lover or boyfriend. Every action will get a reaction. This did go too far, but we the public are coming in with guns blazing like OMG, her husband killed her, she called 911 and they didn’t do enough to help her. They’re not supposed to stop crimes from happening. And in the case of these two, they wouldn’t be able to. A person wants u dead, ur dead eventually. I’m not being cold or callous, believe me.
*Had to run
Ty says:
Where was her family when she reaching out for help
Were they reading her posts? I couldn’t read that shyt and walk away like its normal. Especially if it was my sister, Im coming for that azz 
_______________________________________
Thank you. No doubt the police and dispatch were definitely out of line but folks kill me acting oblivious. If this woman is on twitter, Facebook, or whatever her preferred social media site was, where the fck was her family.
Native New Yorker says:
I personally didn’t up and leave my situation either because I was not able to. However I never added fuel to the fire either. I knew my sons father was crazy after I had to fun outside in a tee shirt wit my 6 month old in the middle of the winter. BUT I never put anything online about it (until now) blasting him or taking jabs at him for the world to see either. Why poke a rabid dog? I was more embarrassed than anything bcuz I felt like this was who I chose so something must have been off about me. I changed my number and pressed charges. When you are tired of being a victim you don’t do ANYTHING that you know for sure is going to put you in harms way. Its not right that a person should have to go thru that all bcuz some mother efferent is too crazy to control themselves but you do share some of the responsibility in protecting yourself.
________________________–
Well put and I
Why provoke a person who has shown that they are capable of violence? But this poor woman didn’t realize that may she RIP.
And thanks for sharing your story, good for you for taking action.
@ daisy
i wanted to fly through the TV & throttle her!
@ point
the worst thing you can do to a black man, hell, any man is mess with their pride. i think her outing him was that final straw that did it.
Somebody hacked bow wow’s twitter page…did we talk about that already?
Ol’ boy is demanding $10,000 to return it to him…#FAIL
Yeah he was like fluck it and went straight gangsta….The situation was jacked up all around though…not to give him a pass AT. ALL but the background story was cray cray
______________________
Yup Cheeks…and if I remember correctly…the NEWS station were the ones that called the ex-hubby to tell him that they were going to be interveiwng her at the cemetary. I think they got sued by her family.
_________________________________________________
YEP! Just messy.com…This is not Jerry Spinger, give us the news and move around and yes the family did sue, as they should have. Had that been my family they would have ended up changing the station to our last name after I was done with them…
Morning everybody :wave:
Morning “Daisy”
NewsRoom is MY SHyyyTe.
I agree with you @Pointhimout
If a person has on their agenda that they want to do harm to someone, it will get done one way or the other no other way around it. I just hope her daughters don’t end up suffering for the rest of their lives because of it.
bnatural says:
Somebody hacked bow wow’s twitter page…did we talk about that already?
Ol’ boy is demanding $10,000 to return it to him…#FAIL
__________________________________
So someone is screaming for help and you only think its a disturbance. Yeah right. The operator needs to be fired.
Morning luv
:hugs:
and then he’s trapping that ass on the regular and you’re still allowing this nigga to come back. There are 3 sides to every story. 2 are developing, and one has yet to be told. I’m holding my opinions until later. From what I’m reading, I’m not so sure I’m THAT sympathetic just yet
@ bnatural
he’s just trying to promote his mix tape! bwahahahaha!
bnatural says:
Somebody hacked bow wow’s twitter page…did we talk about that already?
Ol’ boy is demanding $10,000 to return it to him…#FAIL
———–
Rent A center took his page…
too early for that shyt Dawn
So u think he has a black plastic couch like Scrappy and didnt pay 4 it 
@69 I’m sympathetic but I’m not going in blindly either. I feel horrible for her and her family, I really do. At the same time, when are these women going to pick their heads up out the ground and realize that there are simply things you do not do. Women nowadays want to run around acting like they’re invincible, fighting men, going back to no good men, posting craziness all over the place and then when ish gets bad everyone wants to blame every one else but the woman who had the opportunity to get ghost and live but chose to stick around the craziness and die or get horribly beaten or wind up behind bars for finally killing a nigga. You can always leave even when you feel that you can’t. Shelters are horrible but at the same time sometimes they are the best opportunity for you to get out, wake up and build something better. Family can be trifling but if they can provide protection and shelter from a worse situation than maybe you should consider. Leaving and going someplace new is scary and hard but it’s no scarier than being killed or beaten half to death
@ty and 69 I have to agree to disagree bcuz I have watched my cousins bd burn her in the face with a cigarette and bite her and she subsequently put him to sleep on the steps in front of her building and dragged him in the house. Two days later it was like nothing happened. This was one on MANY fights. More often than not men and women in these situations abuse EACH OTHER. Some women are comfortable with it and think fighting in relationships is normal. And I have a feeling by the way she was posting so nonchalantly that this may have been something that the family was use to. I for one would’ve felt stupid getting my ass kicked by someone else’s man only for them to be back at it again 2 days later and then I would never feel comfortable around either of them again. The way to help a victim is to first get them to realize they’re a victim.
Sandra Rose says:
When I heard about this story from Lisa Lewis on Twitter, the first thing I thought was didn’t the police who went to her door know she was being attacked? Now we find out that the ignorant police dispatcher didn’t bother to tell the police that Deanna was being attacked.
———-
My question is why do people stay with unhealthy people. Not speaking ill of the dead but why be all on twitter boasting about knowing the person you married ain’t chit and vice versa. Based on their own actions tweets and whatnot they didn’t want to be with each other but neither would stop coming around. IMO seemingly people like being abused and settling for less. Like the whole world was poor Rhianna and she didn’t give two chits yet Evelyn and Chad and everybody is like she got what she deserved etc. Hurt people, hurt people and every cause has an effect. if you know someone is abusive… cause and effect should you stay rerely does it end in your favor.
I’m so sorry for this young lady and her family, but social networking sites are not the place to air your dirty laundry. When did we get away from what happens in this house stays in this house. I triple dare my daughter to post any personal biz on facebook/twitter.
Ms. Everything I’m sorry about what YOU have been through but this case is totally different from yours. This girl died and you keep talking about what she should or shouldn’t have done. you do know that the whole entire story of this girl’s life and relationship is not online. You’ve been through this so don’t be stupid and ignorant because you don’t know what extremes she went to in order to survive this.