Yesterday, a loyal reader named Baron sparked an intense debate in the comments section when he claimed that widespread “homophobia” in the black community is the reason why down low black men stay in the closet.
Another commenter corrected Baron by stating that being in the closet does not equate to being a down low man who hooks up with multiple men and brings diseases home to his wife or girlfriend.
The take away from the debate was that only down low gay men who are living foul tend to experience homophobia in the black community.
Read on…
This is a private taping on a closed set.
The event is closed to the public.
I know they previously did a panel after the Miles & other dude relationship.
And what happened?? Who led the discussion?
Sigh. I don’t trust anything “positive” Mona does.
Ditto.
I don’t recall who led the discussion. I do remember Snoop from the Wire, Miles & his man, Ray J, Karomo, the transgender that’s on the new season & a bunch more folks on the panel.
Mona does stuff for drama and money. I don’t really care for her.
Doing so will result in your immediate removal and possible charges.
^^^^^
Imma need this hw. Charged with WHET?
I wonder if they are going to debate if Jose was born a woman…(I still want to see childhood photos), if Stevie J and the fellas in the “creep squad” are on the DL or just male whores
Because it’s usually everything but positive. I feel you
Assault by camera?? **shrugs**
I remma this. I did not watch off the strenff of how you got Ray Gay up there and at THAT time him singing in Floyd living room to all the menz (see video) was kinda recent
Suspect.
https://youtu.be/BZUZ61LchxE
That video is hilarious every time. It never gets old. ?
Still don’t think mimi and Chris fit each other. I heard mimi with another woman anyway
Probably copyright infringement….they want to make sure nothing gets leaked before their show airs.
Baron sparked an intense debate in the comments section
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Whurr? Which post? I swear I miss all the good stuff.
Promise to love you. Trust me…I trust you.
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When is the anti-criminal-hiring show?
people rarely change their viewpoints so really the panels are pointless
Tells you it will be a hot ratchet Mona production.
It will always be a classic. Ray-J at that piano crooning…to a room full of men.
THIS!!!!
OH, THIS is exactly what the world needs to see…
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I’m down for real No-Bullying discussions, meetings, picnics etc BUT NOTHING ABOUT MONA SAYS RESPONSIBLE…
This I can see. When I first saw it though, I couldn’t immediately think of a charge
You never disappoint lol
Not a “hot ratchet Mona production”. LMAO
THIS! I concur. Wrong person for this discussion.
*jacked
DUBAI, United Arab Emirates — A 25-year old American woman appeared in court Monday on misdemeanor charges for allegedly insulting the United Arab Emirates in public while waiting for a taxi at the Abu Dhabi International Airport.
The National, a government-owned newspaper in the emirate of Abu Dhabi, reported that the woman, who was not named, has been under arrest since Feb. 23. The newspaper says she told the Federal Supreme Court that she was waiting for a taxi at the airport when two men approached and spoke to her in a manner she did not like.
It quoted her as saying that she “refused to engage with them and
nothing happened.” The report did not say if evidence was presented
against her.
The National says she requested from the court to pay a fine and be released from jail. A verdict was set for May 2.
The U.S. Embassy in Abu Dhabi responded to an Associated Press query by stating that the embassy, “is aware of the case and is providing
consular services.”
While liberal on some issues, the UAE has strict laws governing
expression. Unlike in many Western countries, defamation is treated in
the UAE as a criminal rather than a civil matter. Insulting the UAE’s
leaders, or the country itself, can carry a prison sentence and steep
fines.
In 2013, a 29-year-old U.S. citizen from Minnesota was tried under a
cyber-crimes law and accused of defaming the country’s image abroad for posting a spoof video online about youth culture in the UAE. He spent nine months in prison before being deported and fined $2,700.
Speakin of LHHATL, did yall see all of Tommie’s mugshots. She ain’t wrapped too tight.
Yes! I was like damnb!
I saw all the mugshots & different hairstyles
And was SO passionate…#onewish
Chahged with UPDATING! *snorts*
All his heart, soul, emotion chile. All of it.
Well damn. They do not play in the UAE. I still want to go. Badly.
Well damn, when did it air? I’m one or two episodes late?
You mean Atasha the fraud princess? Yes, I saw. I’d expect better acting from a person with that many fraud charges…but then again, perhaps her lack of acting skill is why she has so many.
Is this when they started referring to him as Ray-Gay?
THEN, Mimi had the GALL to say she not gay because Chris identify as gay. Mona needs a darn Oscar for all these storylines and scripts. And Mimi don’t give because Chris don’t like to be touched anywhere that reminds HER of being a woman.
I also saw the victim trying to book as many interviews as possible.
LE VEILED GHEYS
That’s utterly ridiculous! This is why I have no desire to visit any country that requires their women to walk around silent and covered from head to toe…I will not be oppressed because of their cultural beliefs.
OMG I FINALLY HIT PLAY…HE WAS SINGING TO FLOYD!!!
I simply say have the strength to live your life and stop pretending to be someone else. If you are in fear of your own truth..don’t involve innocents in your deception to make YOU feel better about YOU..Don’t try to validate your decision by deceiving others into thinking you are
A Man
A Woman
Straight
It will always backfire in some degree or another. This world is unforgiving enough without adding unnecessary drama on top of it.. I can’t imagine the feeling of being gay in this world. But nothing in this life is easy. To cop out and say it is fear that made me hurt or harm anothers life is selfish.I can’t even understand this if this wasn’t the age of acceptance. Everyday you live and you make choices. Chose to live your truth..
Big props to those who do.. for those who don’t get help…
He’s right.
Explain to me why there is so much more revulsion from male homosexuality when compared to lesbianism even among women?
Two episodes. Last night.
Uh oh. See, I didn’t do the education on her. Just knew she was 6 cans short of a six-pack.
Huh??? So what does she hunch, her feet? How does she even enjoy sex?? I’m confuzzled.
NOT 6 ZOE!
Who has time to be arrested that many times? apparently years 2003-2014 were not good years
On topic…why is it not frowned upon when men cheat and bring diseases back home when they cheat with women?? I mean Sandra has constantly said that men are genetically inclined to cheating because they need to spread their seeds. So it’s perfectly acceptable for men to cheat in many peoples eyes.
She said she’s a “giver”. I guess THAT’S how she “gets off” is by giving…….like a pedophilic santa claus of sorts.
They sent this to me and I deleted this so quick, no thanks! Didn’t even know it was for one of Mona’s reality shows! So glad I declined I have laundry to do lol.
Have you ever seen a “whipped” man cheat?
I was like ma’am. Mimi will do anything for a limelight and a bald d…
Its when I did. I can’t speak for others. ?
Lmao!! I just forwarded it to others;)
So…my thing is this. If you get no pleasure from being touched then that’s a clear sign of sexual dysfunction of some sort. There are deep issues behind that.
Lawd lol
Because as a society we are taught that it is ok to be a lesbian. This is glorified, at least if you are pretty, in mainstream society. Let a person be ugly or a male, then things go a bit astray. America has never been known for its consistency on its stance about homosexuality. You even have girls in the club being “gay” for the duration of the evening for the sake of attracting male attention. This whole generation/society is a crap shoot
That was the thought that came to my mind. Something happened.
She said Chris doesn’t like to be touched anywhere that reminds her she’s female? Like for real uttered those words? ?
Exactly plus it sounds boring ?
I can’t vouch for what “Ray-disha” (girl name for Radio) got going on in her loins and brain. LMAO Told yall something is off about that there girl/boy.
Not uttered….SPAKE (in my Lil Mo voice) those words. LOL
Somebody tell somebody that Brazil’s WOMAN PRESIDENT is about to get impeached AND it’s gonna get ugly because they have to do all their votes in public…
She sure did. I was like um? How does any of this work then?
This!!! DEEP, DEEP issues going on there!
Whipped as in the girl got him whipped? Or whipped as in tired, done worked all day, whipped? Or whipped as in mentally whipped by life and ‘da man’?
LOL.
Lil Mo bothers me now. Another one who I liked better before reality TV.
You know!
too much porn. i feel like being a lesbian wasn’t acceptable until porn became more easily accessible via the internet. seriously, porn in itself has disillusioned MANY young males of my generation and younger who have these unrealistic expectations of what sex is supposed to be like. additionally, the things kids are doing now.. at a younger age as well.
Sure does. I am a person who loves personal space. Adores it. Will ask people who are too close to me in line to back the hell up. Will tell my kids “Ok, that’s enough touching, get off of me now.” Even with my feelings about the value of personal space I don’t understand having no desire to be touched while being intimate. Huh?
Sorry I dont need any Lessons on anything from the Fraudulent Vh1 network and their beard self hating Mona Scott who should not even be allowed to be a producer. What she is doing to the images of black women should get that broad STONED! We dont need her telling us anything except how in Gods Earth do they green light that Trash show. Oh Vh1 hates black women.
She is the biggest disgrace to the Entertainment industry to a show that calls themselves “love” and “hip Hop. She is the most vile and disgusting black woman on the planet in entertainment.
We need a panel for why the women on love and hip hop have not been required to pass a mental evaluation. They will sleep with anybody according to the show men other women hell I am waiting for either incest or animals next thats all thats missing. We should all be thanking her for what bringing Prostitutes, Strippers and broke attention seekers on television to make her and VH1 rich for a spectacle… LOL Now she is going to pretend like she cares about LGBT only thing she is good for is perpetuating the BLACK female Stereotype. Lazy, Man Crazy, Will sleep with anybody, not really all that talented, Promiscuous, no morals and they dont even receive empathy from the people who create the show. Its laughable she is trying to care about the LGBT issues.. other than shock value.. womp, womp… the smartest thing gays can do is Stay away from her shows. They bully themselves getting on that Trash Channel and her awful shows. Who takes any of them serious.
*perks up* Did somebody say p0rn?

LOL… yes. porn has women getting vaginoplasty and bleaching bootyholes.
Is MiMi really this hard up for a check? First she was Sleezy’s Merry Maid, then she started swinging from the shower rod to Niko’s rod, to masterminding the production of a sex tape, and now she’s patting on kitties…I’m a need her to choose a lane and stay in it!
I don’t understand having no desire to be touched while being intimate.
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Seems to go against what the word “intimate” means.
I keep my cart between me and the person in front/behind me at ALL TIMES! DON’T come near me.
more gay ish ? Mona needs 2 come out the closet! ?
Patting on kitties. That’s all she doing? Well okay?
And then what? LOL
LOL! I thought about you over the weekend when I saw a post about the Hub now being able to be streamed on your tv with Roku. I thought of you and chuckled.
shes not even patting…ol “girl” dont like 2 b touched ???
Exactly. If she cared about that woman, even as a friend since it’s probably a fake relationship, she’d advise her to seek some sort of therapy. She’s clearly not asexual because she engages in sexual behavior so she needs to get to the bottom of why being touched bothers her.
LOL!!!! Y’all on it this morning!
Well since this is a “family” blog and all….
I was trying to watch some the other day and it said I got a virus on my device. Saddened me to no end. LOL
She ain’t about that life…
Not as much as these STD spreading down low black males do…..
I always thought she was a lesbian. #shrug Anyone ever seen her husband?
The Hub gave your phone a cyber STD! LOL!!!
My father is following this story, he’s super interested.
Apparently you have to have mugshots to appear on LHHATL now.
*snorts*
She’s married?? Word?? Never would have guessed.
FROM THE EDUCATION I GOT (CAUSE I STILL AIN’T WATCHED EP 1) MIMI SAID SHE’S A GIVER…SO SINCE MIMI AIN’T GIVING THAT MEANS SHE AIN’T LE GHEY. SHE’S JUST A RECEIVER IN ALL OF THIS. RIGHT SWAY?
He fine. Being Mona Scott in my DVR right now. Might be able to find it on BET site
For almost 20 years
I seen her years back on an awards show with Missy & she mentioned a husband.
The transgender on LHHATL does not look like a man at all. I have been told that the trans women are looking better than the real women out here. Smh
I SAW THIS TOO…
I have so much tv to get caught up on. I recently watched the Being Jasmine Guy. It was really good.
I’ll pass. Next!
YOU TELL THE BABY DRAGONS “GONE NOW…GIT!” M.O.D???
Really?? I am shocked! Maybe I shouldn’t be, but still…
The JG ep is on my to-watch list. Always liked her.
To Busta ex bodyguard
So was that her initial hip-hop connect?
I still think she patted Missy’s kitty
LOL.
Sure do ?
Me too!
I ain’t going to no panel to discuss who should & shouldn’t get dik or kitty ..its your life , live ..wear yo rainbows proudly …
That episode of Being? Shed A LOT of light on Mona. She is an absolute biz BEAST. I recommend it to everyone. LHH is yes. Ratchet. But she even SAID it’s for entertainment.
She been in the biz for almost 30 years. So nope. She was in before him.
Interesting. Yeah, it’s ratchet, but she has managed to make a mint off of it. Okay, I’ll add that ep to my watch list.
I love rainbows. ? Years ago I used to have a t-shirt with one on it. My cuz had to fill me in on what the rainbow met. I had no clue. ?
In the case of MiMi (a grown, consenting adult) can she really be bullied? Can any grown person who wakes up on a whim one morning and decides to be gay be bullied? Aren’t they aware that their actions will be judged by society and everyone won’t agree with their way of life? Is someone like MiMi even concerned with what others think?
http://www.centrictv.com/videos/being/season-5/full-episodes/episode-501-mona-scott-young.html
Yeah she can be bullied. There are some crazy azz miserable people that follow celebs on social media just to be cruel.
I’ve noticed most stud/butch lesbians have mental problems that stem from unresolved issues in their childhood.
New Post, CP Time
Mona Scott Young Behavior panel is about as helpful as Jerry Springers Final Thought….
Trying to do Damage Control….. For that god awful show…
I think its safe to say once you expose your kitty to the world , you shouldn’t give no fuks … I ain’t got a penny of sympathy for her duck ass.
Lol
It’s clear she’s good at what she does. I will never deny her business savvy, she’s sharp. I just have an issue with what she is willing to do in the name of entertainment. You can entertain and make money without perpetuating negative stereotypes. I am also aware that the reality is that the vast majority of successful business people have become successful by doing shady shyt. It’s the way of the business world, the personal is taken out of everything and all things are seen simply as a means to an end.
:sads:
When I was over the finance department at a foundation that treated people with HIV, I was also tapped to write monthly articles in some gay publications (I didn’t care then, but I wish I’d kept at least a FEW of those magazines looking back) I wrote an article speaking to this very topic as I spent a LOT of time interviewing clients about their financial means and a lot of them would tell me stories about their lives and where they come from – I would hear some DOOZIES. I wrote an article that speaks directly to the this topic and the consensus, at least from my perspective, is that it is absolutely true that the HIV infection rate amongst heterosexual black women can be attributed to homophobia within our community. My experience is that most black folk debunk this theory, but that’s because we don’t want to own it and it’s easier to place the blame elsewhere. Reality is relative. An overwhelming number of black, bisexual would likely BE gay if they could, but since society tells them that it’s not acceptable – they get a wife, or several girlfriends because someone says you’re SUPPOSED to have one. So, out of shame/necessity, these dudes marry a woman, but creep with a man.
You have to choose your words carefully these days. Last night, he stated that Waka Flocka made ‘irresponsible’ comments. That is called an opinion. You have to like everyone and be more accepting. But its funny how I watch some be so judgmental towards others fashions, looks and hair. How dare you tell someone how to parent? Last nights episode made me a bit upset. So you suffer all your life afraid to be yourself and all of a sudden you want to use the media to BULLY people into accepting and liking you? It’s not genuine and is a waste of time. The more we cater to this type of behavior the worse things will become.
No, I just think she don’t want a regla job. See Jose and Steebie have a storyline. She. She has nada.
Please…. dont mince words. Tell us how you really feel haha!
But seriously, there’s a lot of truth in what you’re saying there. A lot of these reality shows make black folk look real bad, both men and women.
Love it! https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/bfd66976dbe20deff1029c3bb9c42cd9a31a73683dad448358adc211db029e23.gif
Holy crap that place is scary as hell! A friend of a friend is over there, the 3rd wife of an American born dude who has settled there as a BB coach. He has promised her the world, set her up in her own apartment like he did for his other wives, but I fear for her! I would never set foot in that place even for free *shudder*
Sandra, I was not “corrected” , but you are in the business of sensationalism. I argued we all want transparency to rid infectious diseases amongst our women. It was not my intention to spark a divisive debate. However, I am glad it was discussed. I live in NYC, otherwise I would be glad to attend.
Very true. The unrealistic expectations are out of this world. More emphasis is placed on the physical than on the true substance of what should make up a person/relationship. When all of the physical fades away there is nothing left to keep the person/relationship going. This is seen in the increased suicides and throw away relationships. We no longer value each other. Too many ppl becoming “confused” on who or what they are. Much of this and the hidden agendas are geared towards our ppl. The rise in feminine males and homosexuality has increased greatly. You should never have a male trying to compete with a woman. A male should not try to see who can out “woman” a woman. The insanity of the exaggerated make up, gestures and clothing is beyond me. Then you have the men who want to trick ppl into believing they are woman. This past year there was much debate going on because transgenders were offended by the terminology in a midwifery book. Are you kidding me?! That book is not for you because you my sir are still a man. Genetics don’t lie. There was a movement to remove the terminology for the female genitalia and the words woman. How are these words offensive when discussing what naturally happens to a natural woman? FOH.
#PROOF #FACTS #REALITY VERY TOUCHY….
I assume you are referring to the many excuses given by down low gay men to excuse their behavior? These are down low men who happen to be bisexual — not gay. As a lesbian, I can tell you with absolute certainly that I have never experienced homophobia — and even if I did; there is no amount of homophobia that would cause me to be a switch hitter. Either you are down with being bisexual or you are not. I know quite a few gay men who are not interested in sleeping with women. I wish you wouldn’t spread misinformation and lies told by down low married men who would creep with men regardless of the circumstances.
Why are there so many downlow men in the first place. Many of these guys are genuinely attracted to both sexes. What is going on in these households.
I truly believe a small minority of the population is born gay because of biology, etc, gay people have always existed. But something is not right when such large sect of the population is either gay/bi or trans, especially those conflicted with their sexuality or changing it in adulthood. Some pain or dysfunction happen somewhere along the way.
“Why are there so many downlow men in the first place. Many of these guys are genuinely attracted to both sexes.”
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Exactly. They are bisexual men who sleep with both sexes and lie about their preference. When they are challenged, they use the excuse that, if only the black community would accept them they would ONLY sleep with men. It’s laughable the excuses they come up with to explain their behavior.
You were corrected, because being a closeted gay man is worlds apart from being a down low bisexual man who hooks up with multiple men and brings diseases home to their wives. Closeted gay men are gay, not bisexual.
Ok, Sandra. I guess there are no bi ppl in the closet. I’m cool on this conversation.
in the firestarter DL boyfriend post
Auntie you say you never experienced homophobia, but not to be offensive but your not really an out lesbian, right? Also society is much more accepting of lesbians than gay men, especially in our community.
The trans on LHHATL does not look like a man. i have so many questions as to why they look better than some real women.
Are you new here? Most of my readers know I am a lesbian. This discussion about “homophobia” started as an excuse to explain down low behavior. If you are a heterosexual black woman you should be worried that you will be next to contract HIV. Half of all black men in Atlanta will be HIV positive within the next decade. Homophobia isn’t forcing men to be promiscuous — ignorance is.
Big Freedia was on that one too, right?
You have to see him in person. He looks like a man wearing a ton of makeup.
this! I usually end up standing BESIDE my cart because between all the hair flinging and neck breathing, I be feeling “close to the edge” …keep your dander to yourself, and you back there, yeah you, the mouth breather, gimme 3 feet!
I’m so confused about that. I get it but in the heat of the moment what do you do? It’s too much to remember.
ROFL!!!
Oh that’s too many comments. I’m don’t feel like going to find out. LOL Thanks tho’. LOL
Ooh well they do pack on the make up but I just can’t tell who is what anymore.
It’s Mona logic. Don’t bother trying to understand it.
That’s what my Unclockable Trans posts are for; to teach you women what to look out for.
Miona need to stop with this mess and I don’t believe for a second MiMi is gay. They don’t seem to have a connection at all but ok MiMi get ya money I guess. Mimi is going to need therapy when Mona is done using her.
Body language doesn’t lie, people do.
Thanks because I had no idea this was so rampant.
All for a story line. ..
This was the clip that had Fab clowning him on Twitter and he got in his feelings trynna fight Fab at a club ??????
I would assume that you’ve never “experienced homophobia” for a number of reasons 1) What is viewed as “acceptable” for gay women isn’t a luxury that’s extended to gay black men. 2) You spend an awful lot of time being homophobic – and I assume that you wouldn’t really notice. When it’s all said and done, there may be varied reasons for why someone chooses to do what they do and the only one I can speak to is the one that the men I’ve interviewed have revealed to me. The fact is that homophobia is one of those reasons – whether we choose to acknowledge it, or not. If you personally speak to the “gay agenda” that could possibly make it easier for some of these men and women to come out of the closet and then claim that homophobia doesn’t exist for you… then that’s an entirely different conversation that I’m just not that interested in.
I agree they want their cake and eat it too it’s too much. If you are bi just be honest about it.
lol idk im jus tired of her living vicariously through her cast.
There’s a lot of them in the ATL unfortunately. And if you dont take a second and third look, some of them can really fool you.
But I’ve noticed that as soon as they start to speak you can usually tell from their voice that something is “off”.
One thing about the make up they wear sometimes it is meant for the stage tv and pictures. If you saw it in real life you would clearly see the difference. Now some of the more “fishy” ones can get away with regular make up..but they are still contoured to the Gods!
I think it’s too late. I felt the same way. You don’t get to tell me how to parent my child and what if I don’t agree with all this changing gender stuff.
Hotlanta!!! Truth!!
Some people think child abuse contributes to it.
Yessss and real women don’t feel the need to do that everyday. Same with Kykie Jenner. I thought she had a lot of plastic surgery but it’s makeup. She is on the cover of some magazine looking like herself. Lol
GREAT! NOW I DON’T FEEL SO BAD…BUT! I DO HAVE TO LET THEM BOUNCE AROUND MY BED WHILE I LAY THERE HALF SLEEP…BRINGS THEM JOY! LOL
I was living under a rock. I never seen it until now
People look at this as no big deal but I see so many children imitating what they see and hear on television and the airwaves. Its amazing to me how the entertainment industry gets a pass with the images they portray especially with regards to black women and to black children… They are even amazed that nobody cares so they keep pushing the envelope. African Americans rarely ever speak up on what the Entertainment industry unless its about not receiving a award. It is plain disgusting and irresponsible. Has anybody checked the CDC rates in these cities where these shows tape. VH1 producers find it funny black children suffer the consequences. I wonder do the STD check the participants like they do for the white shows or do they sign a release. As long as they get ratings and the money they will serve blacks Bologna sandwiches laced with rat poison on a plate with flint water as the beverage. People think its cute… anyways
Boom Bye Bye. #FreeBuju
but did anyone do the education??? lol… i aint got the answers Sway but I am willing to bet my last copper penny that Ray J azz aint grow up with no dang Floyd
#false Obama, Hillary, and Beyonce, etc. make y’all think it’s cool so y’all cosign it.
I see no lies in his statement though. If people were allowed to sleep with/love who they wanted to love without being judged or ridiculed there probably wouldn’t be a need to be on the dl. So I agree with his statement in that Homophobia is responsible for dl men bc it’s true….
Men being on the DL has nothing to do with them bringing home diseases to these women. If you want to screw other men, cool, but what about using protection?? Especially, when you know you have a wife and kids. There is no excuse for this fuckery!!!
Wow what mentally healthy adult wouldn’t understand that. I accept gay men in part because I don’t want one feeling like he needs to pretend to like me or want me to save face. Let people be who they are and your dad won’t end up in women’s clothing.
But you don’t have to accept what society says?
Isn’t that all of the rants about the media/society shoving homosexuality down our throats?
People accept what makes them feel good.
I used to love Ray J as a child when no one else was checking for him. Had his autographed poster on my wall, traveled states away to see his lame appearance at a night club and everything. Then he was rude to me at Wet Willy’s for no reason. My petty laughed so hard when i saw this. Lame A$$ Nicca
I’m startng to think that we all do. Every last one of us.
I personally dont accept any of it. As politically incorrect as it may seem im not for the homosexual agenda. my husband and I are trying to raise strong God fearing children and that is not part of the equation. I don’t go out of my way to confront ppl about their lifestyle either though. Its not for me to give judgement nor punishments. I mind my business and keep it moving unless it directly effects me and mine. I do say that if I had to date in today’s time, I would just be single for life.
My friend says that everyone should love women so that’s why lesbians are cool with him. Also that ever present threesome fantasy for many/ most straight men. We are used to images of women dancing on each other or being sexual suggestive in photo shoots. Men being sexual suggestive together turns straight men off, and this is a straight man’s world
lol you getting too deep…
People can certainly be who they are. Even if they are DL, seems like they’re just ashamed. Idk how the “community” could deter that person from being free. Sounds like they have their own self-esteem issues. Can’t blame the “community” for being DL.
I maintain Black men are Down Low because deep down they know what they are doing is wrong (genocide/self-destruction) but through traumatization, programming and even brainwashing the have become addicted to this destructive behavior, in essence they are victims of outside influences as they are not choosing that position they are being pushed into that position.
Yep she has moved on… lmao! I thought Arian’s (spelling) question was very valid last night? lmao
lmao yes… someone had the nerve to comment that was her past…. umm ok until next week!
So does that make her trans… because from so many comments many are afraid to take the final plunge of really transitioning so as long as in your head you identify differently that’s all it takes? I’m just trying to understand the rules because I’m all sorts of confused! So, is this only valid when the identification is male and female or can I identify with other things and call it good?
But 51% of the population is female so that makes no sense.
But to take your statement further women are just men with boobs, an inny instead of an outie?
Using that logic then people shouldn’t have an trouble with transgenders then.
I mean, I didn’t go all that deep into it or anything. He was joking and basically said that since he loves pu$$ everybody should love it too, even other women. This is a man who’s grossed out by any male to male sexual intimacy and since transgender women used to be male that’s not gonna fly for him.
Also women and men aren’t the same, fyi
So there’s no logic involved just bias.
You may not think that unchallenged bias is a joke until you’re on the receiving end.
Yea i was reading the debate in the other post and Baron def has his facts twisted
Perhaps men on the DL remain in the closet because they are really the ones who have issue with their sexual proclivities. I’ve never asked someone their orientation. I’ve had people volunteer that info when I can care less.
If what you’re doing is right, and you’re secure within yourself, there’s no reason for you to be “in the closet.” People need not subject others to their inner conflict or confusion. Own the fact that you’re dishonest with yourself and others in your life.
Um, ok
Yes… Stevie J ???
I hate the people who will behind you and see a little room on conveyor and will reach over you to put their stuff on it because they can’t wait. Those be the times I wish I could let out a nasty sounding and smelly fart because you are too close and need to back up.
If EYE had one Wish
Preach! It’s always the gay ones prancing around screaming I’m this and I’m that. I had one at a training I had to go to come out talking about she’s gay. I’m like WHY did you even have to bring that up. Just do you…
I’m confused on why you can’t sleep with who you want. Who in the hell has to know? No one has EVER asked me who I’m sleeping with and even if they did it ain’t none of their damn business and I’d be sure to tell them so.
What perturbs me is they think they’re targets in aworse ways than the next person.
An idiot lesbian had the audacity to tell me once how her mother fears for her safety, because she is a lesbian. Bïtch, bye. Mothers fear for their daughters’ safety because we have vaginas. Men are brutes and bïtches are jealous. If you don’t get raped, you get followed/stalked, harassed, threatened, people try to intimidate you, fight you, etc., not because of what you did or said, but because they’re afflicted.
There are some sick souls in this world, and for that reason, we need to keep our eyes wide open and be as aware of our surroundings as possible. A hedge of protection is helpful, too. Folks always show concern when they love and care about someone – race, class, gender, orientation, etc. aside. But common sense isn’t common. Lol
There are some sick souls in this world, and for that reason, we need to keep our eyes wide open and be as aware of our surroundings as possible.
But common sense isn’t common.
THIS
Why I keep to myself I can’t deal with the world and it’s evilness and stupidity.
You’re here. You better be able to navigate your way through everything going on. I have begun practicing the art of avoidance. I’m not longer interested in engaging inconsequential people and/or things.
I used to go back and forth with certain folks about petty isht to let them know they have the wrong one. The problem is, when you argue with a damn fool, the line becomes blurred as to which one of you the fool is.
I let people own their ignorance, and I will keep stockpiling my blessings. Trust when I say, doors are opening to me in supernatural ways, all because I’m focused on the right things and engaging the right people in the right ways about the right things. ??
Preach! I learned at 16 to practice the art of avoidance but of course “relapsed” in my early 20s. Now I keep to myself don’t fool with no one.
word to my brother, who hates his gayness, and always seems irritated with ME cause I accidentally busted him out.
That’s the cross he’ll have to bear if he isn’t being honest about who he is. You didn’t create that, nor are you perpetuating it. When you live in your truth, you speak truthfully about others. Everyone isn’t able, love. You evolved. Hopefully, he will join you. ??
I agree
We probably assume it’s the guy you’re holding hands with at the mall tbh
She’s doing her job.
he beat fab ass though.