Actor Laverne Cox opened up about being in an abusive relationship with an alcoholic. Cox, a transgender whose real name is Roderick Laverne Cox, says low self-esteem kept him in the abusive relationship for four years.
In an interview with Grazia magazine, the Orange is the New Black star said his low self-esteem issues kept him in the abusive relationship, and he didn’t leave because he felt he couldn’t find another white man willing to date a black transgender.
“I believed that because I was black and trans, he was the only man who would ever love me. The relationship almost killed me,” says Cox, pictured below left with fellow transgender TV personality Miss Lawrence in February.
Cox said after he found the strength to leave the abusive relationship he looked for love on an online dating app, but a male he communicated with for months didn’t work out.
“Years ago I was on OKCupid. I had an hour and a half to finally meet this guy for a drink – I’d been talking to him for months,” Cox tells Grazia mag. “He arrived and looked nothing like his pictures but I persevered. I realized I was doing all the talking. I hate that, and he said, ‘I’m just imagining being back at your apartment naked’. I looked at him, took $20 out from my purse and said, ‘I’m going to go now. Have a nice day’.”
Cox bemoaned his struggles to find a white man in an interview with E! news last year.
“I very much believe in love,” Cox said. “I want to be in love and in a partnership with a man. I see myself in love and in a fierce partnership with someone who loves and respects me.”
Photos by Getty Images
saw Lawrence at the Olive Garden last year …. beautiful spirit… Very genuine sweet guy … Laverne looks cute .
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Why I thought the pics were of Monique from housewives of Potomac? …. so shim felt abused cause shim can’t find a descent white man to take car of shim??
Orange Is The New Black Season 5, June 9 on Netflix.
As soon as I read the headline, I said to myself, “You a grown a$$ man dawg..BYE.”
Low self-esteem is at the root of all his issues. Particularly, the fact that he’d rather pretend to be a woman than accept that he’s a gay man.
Roderick and his penis needs to just disappear.
So the men who get in a relationship with him are gay or straight? Cuz he is a woman right? ?
Does he still have his ween? ?
So he couldn’t beat his ass back? It would’ve been a fair fight…
I’ll watch it all in 3 days ?
The focus seems to be where it left of last season, with the hostage situation and the prisoners wanting better conditions.
HE wouldn’t have felt “feminine” if he fought back. So, he screamed and cried like a white woman.
HIS DNA says different.
I know, I’m being silly ?
Idk y but this just made me lmfao! Like a white woman tho?! ?
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YOU know how they do—they’re always acting—and it’s always a Hollywood white woman role.
He’s 5-foot-11. 6-foot-3 in heels. Maybe the boyfriend was 6′ 5″?
Cuz white women take it to that extreme academy award level lol
Wow. Now i see why he didn’t stand a chance lol.
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Gay for sure
Those are man toes..
You’re late it’s been leaked online for sometime now. I wanted an episode of 2 already.
Smh in utter disbelief…
I don’t care because I wouldn’t have watched it online anyway.
Dead @ he didn’t leave because he felt he couldn’t find another white man willing to date a black transgender”
loooooooooooooooool
I very much believe in love – except love thine self; be true to thine own self.
Because that’s man! Eye spy with my little eye man toes crunched in woman shoes.
When I ask that questions and those similar I’m sure because I stay confused on this.
That’s food for thought.
Girls can’t fight a man…wait…
Laverne trying to be a damsel in distress. He’s a man and could’ve whooped his boyfriends Butt if he wanted too..
This big ole man talkin’ like he givin’ an interview to Cosmo sex horoscope. He wants everyone to accept his grotesque fantasy. See, the confusion of gender, then comes transhumanism.
Bruh Roderick u ah man tho he really think he ah gyal? https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/0a793f4156c861daaa7ced654864979da6c44f6c0ed91a9c4d555e0dcb6051ed.jpg
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Exactly with them big ass feets he trynna tell me he was getting pummeled to the floor and he was curled up in a fetus positon whimpering “honey no” bye Roderick
I’m sure he did the abusing then. He on the big side. Nigga you not dainty!
I just yelled loud as hell.
there was no need for you to be in that abusive relationship…damn you mean to tell me that with those strapping shoulders of yours and those big field working hands you couldn’t give him an old 1 2 upper cut whip him into shape make sure he toes the line???
Tehe!
These comments???? So he doesn’t like black men?! Only white?!
? OKStupid
A fierce relationship huh…boy bye
I needed this gif…thanks ?
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Awww you like shelling out unessary money and supporting those that over charge you for nothing. Poor dat.
LMAO. Ole Roddy & braggy Maggie do resemble each other.
Gays love to fight each other and they go for blood! Literally trying to kill each other!
Wendy Williams,Nene Leakes and televangelist Juanita Bynum are ALL very HUGE manly looking women that were all abused by their partners. Doesn’t matter how buff U are.
‘Nigga you not dainty!’ ?????
I don’t want to laugh, I’m Trans and i realize that was a dig. but damn your comment was funny as heck!! lolololol!!
I thought the same thing. That big ol’ guy couldn’t defend himself?
You’re talking about WOMEN. Laverne is a man.
LOLLOLLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Roderick-Laverne looks like he could two-piece a mofo and knock him the fug out!!! I don’t understand how he could be abused. Maybe he forgot how to use that manly strength of his….
LOLLOLLOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Notice how he didn’t complain about what bathroom he goes into when he has to pee but he is worried about getting some dyyk. I was reading for him to say as women we know how hard it is to find love. He gotta understand when you wear a dress you gotta take it off and the thrill of being with him will die sooner or later. If men get tired of being with a real woman what makes him think a man is not gonna get tired of a fake woman. DUHH!!!!!
“Cox bemoaned his struggles to find a white man in an interview with E! news last year.”
I don’t know what I hate more, the fact that you had the nerve to write this or the fact that it’s 100% true. ?
those beast feet
TRUTH!!!!!!
I betcha Miss Lawrence will knock a mofo out with the quickness!!!!
Kcoolmuziq sweetie there is a slight difference in that at one time miss lavern has had testosterone coursing through her veins…the others you mention have not!!! It would have comeback to ole girl flashback to her old life (as Roderick), then when she finished she put on her kitten heels and pencil skirt go back to being dainty, but believe you me he would never have tried it again!
Really? am I allowed to ask you a personal question? tell me to mind my own business if not.
I don’t mind educating people. but if you are trying to invoke anything negative my way. I won’t tolerate it. the majority of the commentators on this blog are very Anti-LGBT. so if you are coming from a positive place. feel free to hit me up offline.
Smh two men can fight head up. Stop it bruh
Yes I hear you to be honest I am one of those people, and I am willing to be educated, to be honest it wouldn’t change my views, I just wonder why (people want to change)but thanks for the invite will take you up on that
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Ive heard that statistically their fights be real dangerous ..
There are a lot of trans folk on you tube and blogs explaining their journey. I am by no means a spokesperson. so what i would tell you is specific to me. And honestly if your views are firm. Does it really matter why trans people do what they do, since in essence you are going to be against it for your reasons?
Do you see the size of that dude’s hands and big thick forearms? No way he don’t know his strength. This is part of his whole “I’m a woman routine.
My first thought was damn Laverne you aint got to beat him up like that. But yall saying it was the other way around. Huh, who would have thunk?
Ain’t nobody beat that big rusty kneegrow up
Exactly.
It’s still the same scenario. Doesn’t matter the size of a person male or female if their getting abused. He maybe a short man with a napoleon complex. Still doesn’t matter the size.
LMMFBAO!!!!!!!
I would like to see a pic of the man who was SUPPOSEDLY whuppin on dat azz.
This is my cousin, the audio is horrid though…
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7R0oA5euEcY
I agree with you that anyone can be abused male or female gay or straight women attacking men and what not all totally unacceptable, was just saying Ms L looks like she coulda defend herself
For some reason, and I don’t know why, but I don’t feel anything. Nothing. I don’t condone violence on anyone, but this story just felt….PR reporting if you will.
No disrespect, but I’m tired of Laverne Cox now. We get it. Ok.
I literally scrolled all the way down to find this comment and reply!!!!! Ur so right. First glimpse is a stronger Monique
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That’s a man he would have fought back or take that azz whopping.
Laverne cawkz is Stunning … I don’t get why she gets so much hate.
Thanks for sharing, I found it very interesting. I have no issue with anyone and their personal life. Do you just as I do me.
I bet if someone pulled his wig or tried to snatch his purse he would be able to fight…
Seriously. I come just for the laughs.
I’ll be honest. I don’t get it. My friend is trans, and sometimes I just feel it’s fraudulent. I just don’t understand how he can say he’s a woman, yet tell me about his testicular tortion problems in the next sentence. Then, I asked him why he chose to be trans, he told me he was hired for a three some with a couple who asked him to dress up, and he liked the way he looked, so he just continued. To me it seems like being trans fix up his life more, because he’s rather buy makeup and clothes and shit than pay his rent.. I just can’t really take him serious. IMO, I thought it was because you feel like the other gender, not because you played some freaky dress up one day and said I’m cute. But I guess it’s not for me to get, so I just call him by the new name he suggests, but I can never call him a she…
Thannnk you. You can change your outter appearance all you want but you CANNOT change your DNA. Just be gay and call it a day! Im sooo against all this transgender ???. Suppose one day i wake up and wanna be a cat because i feel i was born wrong would people treat me as such or would i be locked away 51/50 style? Im thinking the latter.
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All I care to see on this post is that beautiful Audi Q7!!!! I’m saving all my extra coins so I can Purchase one by Christmas! All donations are welcomed.
Sandra you are a mess lol. I’m not mad at you Laverne Cox was born a male and I refer to him as a man also regardless of how much weave, makeup and fake body parts he has.
Thats my dream SUV once kiddos are grown and out the house.
Manly looking women and A MAN is to different things!
I’m with U on this one. I am not gone lie, I use to be against the g*y lifestyle but when I found out my sister and my male best friend was a g*y I had to change my way of thinking bcuz I loved them not for what they chose to do but I loved them for who they are and that is my sister and my friend. Anyway when it comes to the trans people, I definitely don’t agree, like if U are a man and you hate women and don’t want to be with a woman then why in the heck would you want to be a woman??? It does not make sense… Anyway I just feel like its identity theft. If you are g*y then u can’t change that, that’s who or what U are BUT a real woman, U are not!
This world and a lot of people in it are fuked up and confused and I refuse to jump on the band wagon just because they decided to change the laws in 2015. I will not put aside my religion or my beliefs just to please anyone else but I will respect all others for what they believe in and just do me and let them do them.
Im not anti Gay Lesbian or Bi I do however think the T should be dropped all together. Being Gay Lesbian or Bi are about sexuality and Trans is about idenity.. not the same
That’s not the point. The point is size doesn’t matter when getting abused.
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My two cents maybe he’s the effeminate one in the relationship and has to stay in his role at all times.Lol
Yup, he’s playing the girly role for sure. He’ll act all damsel in distress when it is a man involved but if he got into it with a woman I bet he’d be tryna punch her lights out! LOLLOLLOL!!!!!!
SMH
I don’t see an answer so yes, he still has his peen and thus testosterone just like any ordinary strapping man. I was shocked when I found out because I thought he was post op. It must be confusing to him and his potential partners, but maybe not.
You called Cox “him”, “he”, and “his” thru-out this whole write-up. LOL Where is your shame?
I think so too, I love me some miss Lawrence, since RHOA days
Lmao, not field working hands though.
SMDH…….. At these two. Truly sad and lost!
MR.Laverne STOP IT!!! just as riDICulous as it is for me to type MR. and Laverne in the same sentence, so goes tHIS story!…nope just DON’T believeYOU, sorry SIR.
Well, the only white guy that Mr. Larry Cox has ever appeared in public with and claimed as his ” boyfriend” was Jono Freedrix. Take a look at his picture and decide for yourself if this prissy little white boy could have whooped Larry Cox’s a$$.
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some men can look tough and just can’t fight….thats me lol
“because he’d rather buy makeup and clothes and shit than pay his rent and bills..” <<<<there are women that do that….there are men that would rather buy jordans than pay their rent..
That’s so true. Even before the transition, he had problems keeping his bills paid to keep up with the jones’ instead. I guess that’s just related to bad choices.
He a grown man. You can’t be abused lol…. You still got the strength to beat his azz, even though you cut your penis off.
thats not abuse or domestic violence if it’s man to man..its called a FIGHT…this world is coo coo for cocoa puffs!
I could be mistaken, but I don’t believe Roderick got “the” surgery. ?
He’s all types of confused and miserable.
Yep, like Shawn Wayans running after his Prada bag in White Chicks!! ?
lol …. I just passed OUT
“I see myself in love and in a fierce partnership….” ? ?
Took a vacation day. Called out.
I had one bout 5 yrs ago… Blew three engine gaskets. They said it was a “defect” but left me with the bill because I was no longer in warranty… Blah, blah, blah. Worst car experience ever and was also my 3rd Audi. I don’t know what all this means but just thought I’d share my experience with you ?????
Save for the new Porsche or Tesla SUV
Sandra I love you ??I think it’s great that you keep demystifying these men who are masquerading as women.
Not only does he want to replace black women he basically wants to be a white woman most black trans want to be a white woman so they could get a white man.
To align himself with biological female’s struggles.
That guy could end up suing him for slander
Sandra is the truth that’s why I love her
Get your facts straight, honey. I have Netflix but I don’t pay for it. Even if I didn’t have Netflix, I have other ways of accessing any tv show or movie. As for OITNB, I lost interest after the 3rd season and I’m not so desperate to see the new season that I’d watch it online, searching for links to each episode. Netflix & Chill, but you wouldn’t know anything about that. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/1030f83b497e7be206c43caa05be6dbf38a8d8f68b6f908fdae0b78a50d4c6fe.jpg
It’s obvious you’re still in pain from that last comment burn I gave you. Get well soon.
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No, that’s you all day long. The same mad you were when you constantly lost out on winning a purse from Sandra at Christmastime. Your sap stories of how you desperately wanted one were both hilarious and pitiful! https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/b00903c7c37dce63ea2591eb575f56e63109106b58d1fb2ae0f2924fcc1f1cff.jpg
Sandra didn’t award you, so allow me. Merry Christmas! Hoe, Hoe, Hoe!
Awww you are mad. Poor dat . You’re sad, like really really sad. Pathetic even. https:// uploads.disquscdn.com/images/30a2b7507e1405224c86c0b383f7dbe8e54083654f0ba5ecd53db18a44849cbe.gif
LOLLOLLOLLOL!!!!!!!!
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Is this a matter of opinion or have you done a comprehensive study on this matter? They are all identity issues. and having lived through most of these letters they rightfully need to stay bundled as is sis.
Thanks! We’re not brainwashed liberals on this blog.
Your friend’s journey is their own. some people are walking a fine line of utter confusion of identity labels whether it be sexually, racial, or just plain mental. And some people just want attention and conform to what ever is popular at the moment. Myself I knew things weren’t right early on before i was 5. And once I matured and realized i wasn’t what i thought i was i spent the better part of my life severely mentally damaged about it. This is a crappy way to live and i in no way glorify it as some sort of norm or badge of honor. It is what it is and I’m trying to be at peace with it and save my soul.
That transition was abusive
Exactly so why would you say there are some manly looking women. I never said size matters, biologically men and women are different…go back and read what i wrote.
Jahnée Gill Mr.Eddie Murphy> SandraRose • 6 months ago
Never again.
SandraRose Mod> Jahnée Gill Mr.Eddie Murphy • 6 months ago
Don’t be like that. It’s all in good fun. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/d9c89c10cd244e53baa3e89153368127496b9381688afbe99af257e72d584f69.jpg
SandraRose Mod> Jahnée Gill Mr.Eddie Murphy • 6 months ago
Thanks for participating, hun. Please try again next year.
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Bwahahahahahahahahahaha!
Identity and sexuality are two different things. And yes, there are studies to back that up.
Omg i cant LMAO
BOY BYE…..
is not that deep
The question was, have you done an extensive study? Do you fall under any of these catagories? Im aware Therapists, Doctors, and other working health professionals, have done extensive studies on this matter. the issue with this particular situation is that, Individuals that have no clue what it means to suffer from GENDER IDENTITY DISORDERS (GID) looking from the outside into this predicament, dish out opinions and make blanket statements on things they have no clue about. And i stand firm that they are all identity issues. I know it because I’ve lived it for over 40years.
thanks for sharing
Then why reply? Who hurt you? LOL
Again, that’s why I roll with you. You’re not PC and phony.
He.
He’s a fetish for white boys who want anal sex with a chick with a dack.
I feigned sick and am currently reading this in bed with the fan on. Not today.
I’ve written two research papers on transgenderism so I’ve had to spend countless hours actually reading those studies. I’ve also had to take into account how transgender people feel which involved watching documentaries and an in-person interview. You are the only trans person out of all the people in the studies and documentaries who disagrees with the point that sexuality and gender identity are two different things. Sexuality is about attraction to others, identity is about the self. This is sociology 101. Maybe you disagree with all the studies that support otherwise but thats just another sign of your delusion.
nope ur comment was deep .. and I have to remind you .. just take some vodka
Kneegrow please keep handling yourself and I’ll take care of me thanks.
Happy Belated Birthday to Laverne. I understand why Sandra is bitter since Laverne is pretty and looks like a woman. While Sandra looks like a homely man.
All this does is make you look like a sad pathetic loser. Honestly what the fuc are you trying to accomplish here? Like you honestly believe what you’re doing is hurting me. News flash idiot you’re a faceless idiot on a blog. I’m so hurt. You’re that emotionally invested and obviously mad. I feel like I got fans now. Do you want my autograph loser? I’d have to care to do what you’re doing right now. That’s too much work for some I don’t give a shit about.
im very generous person I love to look at unfortunate people .. have a good day Hun !!
I’m glad you’re at peace with yourself now sis.
Oh, you care, that’s why you keep replying! https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/42902b2959853e94fee3621d44c7eabb205a4f6ab434c073aa194bb9b64a3ae2.gif
I have studied the matter, thanks for asking. And I disagree, being gay is about sexuality and being trans is about being in the wrong body as u can be trans and straight. You don’t need hormones and surgery to be gay ymmv.
Sex is real and gender is a delusion.
I don’t care actually. But people like yourself that seek attention from strangers like having the last word. So in your small mind you feel you can keep going and going and going and it’s ok, but once I strike back I’m the one with thats mad. When all the smoke clears your clearly a restless loser with no life outside of this blog. You’re also a stalker at this point , keep it up.
Scroll back to where it started, Bag Lady. Notice that you chimed in with an unnecessary comment and when I replied YOU GOT MAD and couldn’t leave it at that. As for stalking you—for what? You can barely write a comment without using the made up word ‘dat.’ Now go and sit down somewhere, I already gave you a chair. Poor thing. You must be tired from carrying so much anger. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/d9de36f91b78ff53a2cd7ec3cb6512b8d04a87f4050874b098766e94a04e8eeb.jpg
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Thank you for extending your paw. I accept your apology.
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He cut his penis off?
Shade throughout the “reportage”. The only “he” is the shady writer of the article.
SPEAK! So very true.
Your trans mama with the v warts.
Public assistance is not taking care of yourself.
I love this site for referring to people as the pronouns they were born– and will die with. No amount of hormones, surgery or make-up will make this man a woman.
you disagree?? you assume that you know what being gay and trans is about, aren’t you a heterosexual? I myself can’t and will not speak on the behalf of anyone but myself. however, Ive been immersed in this spectrum of life for the past 20years. what i say does not come from a health professionals thesis. yet from the mouths of those who live under the LGBT label. sexuality and identity is very complex and often is intertwined. I don’t mind having a thorough discussion with you Staci and the other young lady @the shy cookie offline. but i sense you don’t really want to understand or garner more knowledge about this topic. yet if i am wrong. i am more than happy to enlighten you. it is apparent your ideologies about this is quite muddled
you’ve written 2 research papers… hmmm. you seem to think that we are carbon copies. So I am here to tell you that I am not delusional and my knowledge didn’t come from movie or a couple of interviews. I cannot stress enough handful of people cannot affirm how a whole group of people think and feel. everyone is different. you put a group of all women in a room they all are different. do you see what I’m saying.
now allow me to further express my original point.
Staci @stacielle:disqus felt the T in LGBT should be dropped because she felt that being Trans you are transforming into the gender you felt you should have been born in and engaging in said heterosexual relationships. And thats why i disagreed with her. This is not true, many carry on in hetero, homo or even bisexual relationships.
I applaud your research though. most people don’t and won’t give a damn. but even after all that researching. it doest accurately display how the whole trans community feels. i know i can’t relate. i am FTM
I haven’t written anything. You’ve obviously confused me with someone else.
No I am not hetero but thanks for asking and not assuming!
” it is apparent your ideologies about this is quite muddled”
disagreed but thanks for your opinion.
Thanks for the info, I’ll look into that before I purchase.
I’ve been driving my friends and I’m in love, I don’t want to give it back.
Boom Bye Bye in this batty bwoy head
faq you selling it but we not buying, take your faq azz the f on just like HE this article is about needs to take his faq azz the fukk on
You lesbos and faqs need mental help, you and that guy laverne sick in your heads.
Sweetie I am straight, Sandra Rose is a lesbian according to her.You are an idiot.
I died heh heh heh heh
You don’t have to use the world fierce to describe everything.. Ugh
Well your son or brother must be a tranny/faq so you want to cosign it now. You are a moron.
“Cox bemoaned his struggles to find a white man.” Bye Felicia.
2 dudes leveled playing field. Square Up
Did she REALLY say she’s looking for a white man only?! I can’t believe this article in its entirety. She’s very beautiful too. I’m not sure why so many gays and transgenders have so much domestic violence. There’s a lot of domestic violence in those populations.
But you are the one in here acting like a Captain Save A Tranny, you must have a brother or son that’s one. Fire burn them.