A protective order didn’t save Chinika Hursey or her boyfriend, Steven Campbell, from being murdered as they slept in her Randallstown home on April 4.
Police say the killer was Chinika’s estranged husband Dominick Hursey, 43, of Owings Mills.
“I fear for my life and that Dominick will try to kill me or hurt me,” Chinika wrote in the petition for the restraining order on the same day he allegedly attacked her at a car dealership in February.
She also wrote on the form, “he has several guns.”
The officer who served Hursey with the protective order warned him to stay at least 100 yards away from her home and workplace. Hursey was asked to turn over his firearms but, according to police, he said he didn’t have any weapons.
A judge issued restraining orders for Hursey in February and again in March. A final order was issued March 29.
6 days later, Hursey showed up on the doorstep of Chinika’s Randallstown home on Bald Eagle Court. The next morning police found the bodies of Chinika and her boyfriend in bed.
Investigators say Chinika and Campbell, both 36, were shot during the night.
Chinika’s four children were found safe in the home. They called 911 when they discovered their mother’s body around 9 a.m. Campbell leaves behind 3 children.
“At the end of the day, it’s all about children and prayer. Ya’ll have to pray for these children,” said one neighbor.
Police previously checked Maryland’s database and found no weapons registered in Hursey’s name.
Detectives believe he used a handgun purchased in Pennsylvania to commit the double homicides.
“This shows a huge loophole that exists,” said Jen Pauliukonis, president of Marylanders to Prevent Gun Violence. “When guns have been purchased out of state, we cannot learn about those in Maryland.”
WJZ reports Hursey is in the Baltimore County detention center without bond. He is charged with two counts of first-degree murder.
According to loyal reader PosterJustLookn, “the victim worked for a major defense contractor and was an aspiring model.”
I just don’t understand, you take this woman away from her 3 kids and you spend the rest of you life in jail, that’s a no win situation
So sad! She did all that she could. A protective order unfortunately is nothing but a piece of paper. If someone wants a gun they will find a way and no legislation can prevent that. Same can be said for drugs. Both are big business.
When that kind of rage sets in, the person isn’t thinking about the future or 5 minutes from now. The abuser’s satisfaction comes from knowing you’re dead & it was all worth it.
Mental Health is seriously overlooked and it can be fatal.
He a real bytch
black people, what’s going on??????
If she said he had guns, they should have got a warrant to search the house.
Lord, have mercy. Those poor babies!
Protective orders are NOT the answer if someone wants to harm you.
JESUS JESUS JESUS!!!! HELP THE CHILDREN
A lot of dangerously angry black men out there, and they are increasingly taking that anger out on the women in their lives.
Ego’s are a very dangerous thing. Two married couples in 2 days. I wonder how the board would react of the women were single. They would be going back and forth about dating the wrong guy, bringing men around your kids, etc, etc. Yet a lot of us are sleeping with the enemy every night. Either we know it or will find out later on in life. Her HUSBAND murdered her and left the kids without a mom. Like I have always said we women needs to stop saying when a woman breaks up with a MAN she can’t KEEP a man as if she didn’t work hard enough on the marriage. A lot of time if we leave we are saving our lives. It is sad that she did the necessary steps to stay safe and still died by the hands of her HUSBAND someone she once loved. If someone says they love you to death it ain’t cute nor romantic.
this is tragic.
Another innocent black woman and bystander murdered by deranged black husband…smdh
Excellent post.
Agree!!
Some black men get pissed when you are out and you don’t heard the say hello to you get an attitude and say “you oughta be grateful I spoke to you.” When a lot of time when you are out in public your mind is zoned into other areas and not on him. Women take a lot of stuff in relationships because they feel it is part of the process to get to the other side of happiness and you should wait it out. Not me. I am not Toni Braxton waiting 7 whole days for you to call me. 2/3 days I am out.
These type of horrific deaths happens in other races too not only Black;-(
The man killed was definitely slipping. No one put him up on game. Men, you never get involved with a woman with kids, number 1, and 2, if she JUST took out a RO on her husband???? No, no, no way should he have been at that house. Leave those broads alone, at least until the dust settles!!
Again why can’t folks just walk away and say f*ck whoever hurt them instead of “I’m gon kill they ass for hurting/leaving me”??? Thank God he left the kids alone
True! Same for women involved with men in similar situations.
Shid mainly white folk
And this is why I will be single… Its such a RISK now and days to date and get married. You never know when the person you love will kill you. We ALL think about body slamming the one we are with hut we know to never do it. These ppl are taking it to another level. Down here in my city they found a woman’s body off of the interstate ramp… Dead… She filed a protection order 4 days before and he killed her 4 days later and threw her body away… Men HATE rejection. But why harm someone. I’ve been dumped before but I get revenge by getting sexier ???? lol…. Keeping my waist small and my thighs thick hahahaha jkjk
Not to be petty but estranged husband is not ex husband. Why was the model boy toy there if he is not there to protect? Was the husband the father of the children in the house? Lord. She should have had a gun under the pillow and alarms on the door, if she was going to entertain. He probably drove past and saw the model’s car and went over the line of sanity. RIP and my sincerest condolences to the children.
That last part tho
Her boy was in bed with her boy toy while her old husband Frederick Douglas killed both of them.
Latonya Robinson
Gale Verner
Rashanda Franklin
Shaquenda Walker
Quanta Nashall Chandler
Shanice Williams
Alicia Trotter
Dr. Sherylin Gordon-Burroughs
All BLACK LADIES killed by BLACK KANGS within the past year.
The men we seek to protect us, we should be seeking protection FROM!
This topic needs awareness. Don’t come at me with $hit about what other races are doing! It’s time for a change in OUR community.
How was he a boy toy is they’er the same age? He crazy husband was the old looking one here not her.
Statically speaking WHITE PEOPLE commit the majority of theses types of crimes. Both male and female. BYE trash! YOU ARE ONE OF THE SAME CLOWNS THAT LIKED THE COMMENTS DRAGGING THAT BLACK WOMEN WHO’S HUSBAND LOST HIS LIFE AT SEA!
Protective Orders are nothing but pieces of paper !!! if the person wants to kill/harm u they will !!! RIP
Restraining Orders only lights A “Crazy Persons Fuse?.
I am phune when I met him and I will stay phune when he leaves. Be in your best physical shape before, during the relationship at all times so when take your clothes off you enjoy looking at you before another man will. It is not about revenge because whatever you broke up about it wasn’t about looks. If he dated you ugly, you will always be ugly to them,
Stop deflecting! Whites don’t give Af about us. IDGAF about their stats. WE, BLACKS have a problem. There is a war on Black women by Black men!FOH
folks need the order and a gun for easy processing after the crazy stalker ex is dead
Boy toy, boyfriend, family friend, Uncle Fred, whatever it was it’s a shame they had to die for it.
How is that helping US? How is that even a factor? There is no excuse for Blacks killing Blacks, PERIOD. WE ARE COMMITTING MASS GENOCIDE.
Were any of them less classy and unlady like due to their hair weaves? Lady above has one. If so do you still list them? Said last night you avoid them at all cost
Possibly to have been with a disgusting ass black male! FOH. I avoid hoodrats and welfare queens. Please quote me directly of FKKK OFF!
right. its too much baggage and drama. back off and wait until they clear that mess up.
It will not surprise me if he has a family somewhere else and trying to control her household. A man can be with you/marry you and still be fixated on someone else. He can move on but you can’t. I had one fool I was leaving and he had the nerve to tell me we gonna be together forever by being with other people and still see each other behind their backs. I guess I was supposed to feel special because he was gonna forever love me. I said some curse words I didn’t know I had.
LOLLOLLOL!!!!!!!! Talk about delusional…
STFU! OK! THERE’S A WAR ON BLACK PEOPLE DUMB ASS NOT JUST BLACK WOMEN! I’M NOT A BLACK MAN BASHER LIKE YOU AND I NEVER WILL BE TRASH! BLACK PEOPLE AS A WHOLE HAVE UNRESOLVED ISSUES, WHICH IS WHY WE ARE CURRENTLY LOOSING OUR MINDS! WE ARE ALL UNDER ATTACK SPIRITUALLY AND PHYSICALLY. SINCE YOU’RE AN IGNORANT BIRD YOU CHOOSE TO POINT THE BLAME ON BLACK MEN ONLY ! I’M NOT BLAMING THE MAJORITY FOR THE ACTIONS OF THE BOTTOM FEEDERS OF THE BLACK RACE! NEWS FLASH DUMB DUMB WHITE FOLKS DO THE SAME THING TO US. TO THEM WERE ALL BAD! NOT JUST THE BLACK MEN, OF THE THUGS ETC ALL OF US!
You sound absolutely in damn sane. It’s called domestic violence. There are plenty…actually more…white women killed by their white husbands. Stop the madness.
So you dont care about them if they did indeed have a weave then. And would have avoided them in life. Let me go look up these women to see who you can remove from your list. Im sure their families will agree, They dont need folks using their name in death in vain to prove a point or your fake caring.
That final order was most likely a stay away forever order and that state broke the camels back
I’ve heard the same thing. “You will always be number 1.” I’ve heard it all. I mean I don’t think that every man that says that kind of ish will kill you, but I guess better safe than sorry.
he’s satisfied no one can have her now. his objective is complete.
You will be surprise about how many women actually agree to those arrangements. I call it the ex-girlfriend club. What he was doing was stacking ex-girlfriends so he will also have someone to go sexually. Ain’t no telling how many ex-girlfriends he had behind him while standing in front of me. It is called convenient puzzy.
Don’t fuse all black men with the devil’s sh!!t.We all aren’t Freddy Kruegers ok!!!
all facts ???
BLACK MEN! STOP LETTING THE CAVE, NEANDERTHAL DEVIL DEFINE YOU!!!!
We are aiding WHITE SUPREMACY by not protecting our women.
Black women are our equals and we aren’t suppose to be trying to control them.
This sh!!ty behavior came from those cave, Neanderthal devils!
I really don’t understand why someone would not just leave, why kill someone, just go on with your life. Now 3 lives are over. smh R.IP.
These women kill me when they think they are being smart by bragging/saying, I can get that when I want it, take a number dear you and everyone else. He it not exclusive to you. You are not number 1.
RIP??
I sure hope these women are not using up all these guys money and time than want to jump the fence and lay up with some other man that they feel better than they husband….not worth killing but you can’t be using people or playing with feelings
get out of here with that bullsh!!t. You watch too much fox news.We love our black women as a whole!!!
These are isolated incidents.It’s millions of black men in Amerikkka compared to the 10 or 20 deranged lunatics blk men mentioned.
believe you are WHITE
IDGAF about whites dear
yeah but that’s not all of us.It’s starts at home.Black men need good male role models
Sholl can’t
She probably left several times and they kept getting back together. He was like AWWW that’s so cute. She got up one day and had the strength to say to herself and her kids, we ain’t going back no more. That time he knew she was serious/meant it and he couldn’t handle it. The going back/forth game had played out for her being with him, she was going forth in her life without him.
True and never have I said ALL. That doesn’t change the fact that violence against black women by Black men is on the rise! What are you doing to stop this behavior by your “brehs”?
I’m watching these videos Tyrese posted with his wife. It’s awkward. Idk. Maybe she’s just camera shy…
All can be removed except Mrs Gale Verner. May they ALL RIP. But see what your stupid ass generalization on hair weaves did? Yet you are so worried about our community. But all you did was tear parts of it down. Go back to troll land.
I sound “sane” ? Then what’s the issue?
Are you marrying a Black man?
In(damn) sane.
This stuff been happening for years but the racist white supremacy media didn’t report it. They’re trying to turn black women against black men.Don’t fall for their bullsh!!t.It’s millions of brothers that wouldn’t do this including me.
Treat people the way you want to be treated. You don’t need someone for that. Be your own role model.
Blame the woman for all we know she could have been taking care of his sorry behind and got tired of waiting on him to man up.
Black male repellent kit:
Natural Hair
Physically Fit Body
Self-Respect
A strong sense of Self-Worth
Acting ladylike
No kids
Financially Responsible
Having An Education
Speaks Proper English
You the one so fake concerned. Wtf are YOU doing? You aren’t concerned with whites, so they your “brehs” too no? If you arent part of the solution then guess TF what????
sad
too many sorry asses in this world.
She knows her average looking behind is going to get verbally ripped to shreds, because of her husbands big ignorant mouth.
IT’S NOT NO THE RISE!!!!! The racist media just now start reporting it because they are trying to cause a seperation between black men and women.They want black women to date white men.Black women are the highest in education in Amerikkka.This is a WHITE SUPREMACY agenda.
SMH….
you’re a f!!cking White Supremacist troll!!!
Don’t want to blame the victim, but having a man sleeping in the house and a crazy man with a key is a recipe for disaster. I know I’m about to get roasted, but until you get your paperwork in order “laying up” is not a priority, but changing the locks and getting a proper divorce is.
How many times do you think he told her I will never hurt you. Go the shelter and talk to those women and they will tell you he said he would never hurt me and he was so loving, kind and sweet. The man we walk down the aisle with is not the same man that comes home to you every night.
Because he was batsh*t when they got together and is batsh*t now. Who knows what the dynamic was but the locks should have been changed if that’s how he gained entry.
Sooooo you think the divorce PAPERS is what would have kept her from being murdered, when the protective order PAPERS didn’t? I swear I don’t follow the logic. She was not the problem. She left. She had a protective order. He violated the law. Period. Tf?
I just said yesterday, yall will find a way to blame a black victim. Shyt is ridiculous.
This! A thousand times THIS!
I do a lot actually, youth scholarship funds, 2 outreach programs in the US that I am on the executive board for, and hiring Black Americans for my company. I am helping to BUILD our community, and you?
I also lead by example and help instill the importance of financial literacy, self-esteem, and healthy lifestyles through a university sponsored program for young Black women back in my hometown.
I also advocate being open to all races for dating options. The more sistas explore their options, the better. Black men are proving how destructive they are. We are the only group of women being victimized by black men! If they are not c00ning, gang banging, or selling drugs to other blacks,they are beating our assess or killing us!
You just edited that dear
I ain’t mad at her. I ain’t denying getting my nut because my ex-mate is a fool.
that’s true I was talkin about the man tho, like bruhhh just let her go, walk away!!
Hon, it’s an issue of misogyny not race. Whatever your issue with Black men, you need to go to counseling and work it out. Peace.
I agree but it’s still millions of loving black men in Amerikkka including me.
People get upset when I tell them that the white man manipulated the bible.
We aren’t suppose to control our women but see them as our equal and work together as a team!
Black men are not the only men who are catcalling, being rude, etc. It’s an issue of misogyny first.
Men. What are you doing to uplift the men?
You hiring folks yet you discriminate against hairstyles? I bet you are one of the ones who says shyt like a young black woman with dreadlocks cant be in the debutante ball. A youth scholarship program where I live. You need prayer and understanding. Wouldn’t want your biased ass judgmental help for MY kid
Sweets, I am a BLACK woman who has had enough shit from BLACK men! I am speaking the truth and YOU WILL DEAL.
You do realize that nothing and I mean nothing will stop a person that is determined or crazy. The first piece of paper didn’t work so a divorce decree wouldn’t have either.
In Maryland you have to be separated at least one year before you can get a divorce.
Sorry I did not slowness. She called you that in her original comment
“You sound absolutely in damn sane.”
Jeffrey Dahmer said he was a good guy as well.
Your truth. Yours and yours only. There is a difference
I said SOME not all.
you know whats so funny about number 1 … is that they SAY they want women to wear natural hair aka no weaves BUT they RUN from the women that do… SMH and actually … I’m here for ALL of what you said … LORD’T
A male child needs a man growing up.You learn by example.Even if it’s an uncle ,he needs to be around a good descent male.
And to all black man: stay the hell away from hip- hop! it warps your sense of rational to the point you think it’s ok to disrespect our beautiful black queens.
A woman’n job should not be to uplift a MAN. We are lost.
Someone needs to create a movie in response to ‘GET OUT’ only this time, the storyline will be about exposing how evil Black men are against Black women!
He was a cave, Neanderthal devil
It’s not about the papers. You’re right, he’s the murderer here. My point was you can’t depend on the police or other people to act rationally, not hurt you, or protect you. You have to protect yourself and if that means changing the locks and getting a security system (especially if you have kids or visitors.)
Yes, have a life, have people over, entertain to your heart’s content, but AFTER you make sure everything is tidied up as in it’s CLEAR to the crazy guy you’re divorcing that you’re actually divorcing not just “estranged.” Hood Divorces where “I live here and he lives there” often lead to a lot of miscommunication and can trigger crazy behavior from someone who’s already crazy. What if he had turned the gun on the kids? Her priority was to protect herself and who knows what really happened, but we do know he gained access to the house. Protective order? A gun in the hand is worth three cops “on the way.”
No man has any right to put his hands on his partner .
Well you have met the right ones then.It’s millions of us out here–know what qualities to look for.
I actually agree with you, a situation just like this happened in my city a few months ago. Women need to make sure that when they have a situation like this to not bring other people into it and maybe stay single and focus on raising the kids or bettering their career.
Christianity has done more to disrespect black women than hip hop.
If you’re in fear for your life, yes you can file a retraining order as a first step. But then after that you need to make moves and plans. If somebody wants to kill you, they’re not going let a piece of paper stop them. Period. And yes, I know it’s easier said than done, but I’m seeing too many cases of the proper papers being filed and people still being killed. Somethings gotta change somewhere …….
I know…A friend in AA County is living through that right now.
I have to agree with you. I would have moved asked for protective custody and got my kids out of the schools their in moved. And not to start or entertain a man……NOPE!!! KIDS FIRST LADIES!!! when you are in a situation like this.
Some people just need to stop being weak ašš punks, who think it’s okay to take someone’s life just because they don’t want you. Anyone who wants to leave me, bye bye. Ain’t no stalking or trying to ruin their lives or name. Just bye.
As someone who works with the mentally ill, I concede you are 100% correct, that’s why it’s our jobs to mitigate risk as much as possible and that means no photos with geotags and changing her social media profiles to private; Getting a security system and changing the locks; Changing her route to and from work/home; Telling neighbors she trusts to keep an eye out for the crazy man. We have to protect ourselves and that should be one’s main priority during a divorce.
Sometimes you get warning signs, sometimes you don’t: the truth is, you really don’t know what kind of violence someone is capable of until something bad happens.
And those restraining orders are almost useless if you’re dating someone who is intent on harming you.
I agree with you 10000%
Damn such a shame these men be really in some fawk shit..I mean the ?was that blood the you went full crazy and killed your ex and her boyfriend.. Now look you about to be in jail for the rest of your life ..hope u get penetrated with brooms mops bottles feet fists and huge ?you low life piece of shat
Child, bye. He clearly wanted to kill her and as recent reports show, that could have happened anywhere. The house, the park, her job. If her laying up with another man didn’t signal that she was done, I seriously doubt the confusion was due to the fact that she wasn’t being clear about her intent. Which brings me back to to the point—he is the problem. He is crazy. It doesn’t matter if they were divorced or whatever. He was clearly not through with her.
I cant today.
Maybe that’s what it is it… Idk.
Christianity has black men think we suppose to control our beautiful black queens instead of being their equals. In Ancient Khemet ,the black women and men were equals.
So you don’t care about human beings in general because race matters to you?
That piece of shiat for a man is not deserving of title king. He was just crazy. He where he belongs in prison.
I wouldn’t bring another man in the picture immediately but no woman should have to reject support and love just because a jealous ex don’t want to see her loved and supported by someone else. That means he’s still abusing her even though the relationship is over. If you won’t except his abuse you shouldn’t be able to except someone else’s love, are abusers mottos. Crazy
I wonder how long he will be sitting in jail/prison before he realizes it wasn’t worth it to take her life. Some people don’t think long term. They want instant gratification. Well, there are consequences that come with every decision we make.
Please read my comment above about protecting oneself in these types of situations. Love and having a companion is important, but should not be a priority during a divorce, though there is no indication she was in the process of pursuing one. (No judgment.)
Oh my gawd I am in tears.
That’s all I was trying to say and perhaps didn’t phrase it well…
It really is and it’s too many women who support these unstable aššholes until it happens in their families.
Yes all of that everyting you said should have done. I would go as far as temporarily moving if I felt my safety was in jeopardy.
True… Heard about the Korean Nuclear Missle warning?
Exactly, And now this man is dead because of someone else’s foolery. If imma die, let me die from my own sh** , not someone elses.
Dang REALLY!! WOW interesting. Let me check good ol GA
Dude was a lame.
Agreed. Also, get a gun if someone is threatening your life. Protect yourself and your family a court order is only going to do so much. RIP
Changing locks are good, but with theses types of men today , they would shoot the locks out.
That is a great point re: rejecting love and support. It’s not fair and is a form of control by the abuser. But it’s the reality of the situation until someone fully extricates themselves from the situation. I bet because they were still married and not legally separated he still have access to the house without a police escort…Protective orders are written differently depending on the circumstances and who knows how he got into the house.
Same thing in NC but they don’t enforce it. You can just say you’ve been divorced a year even if you’ve just separated yesterday.
No way!! TF this what we doing in the 2000.
LMAO @ cuss words you didn’t know..
Every woman who has experienced a serious DV situation needs to get a gün, sign up for shöoting lessons and self defense classes. Plus change locks or move. These bat shït crazy men, know these women don’t have protection which makes the woman an easy target. A restraining order just makes everyone aware that this person has a serious mental problem, has tried to attack you before and you may have to make an example of that aš?, if they feeling frogy.
I guess I don’t get out that often because I find it hard to believe that a lot of women are ok with this type of arrangement. I guess I don’t know enough people…..I only had one friend that messed with a married man. I had to give her my Christian thought before I told her we can’t be friends if this how you roll.. Maybe that’s why I don’t have female friends because I don’t understand this behavior.
Im praying for my toddler husband now because I anticipate these fools being worse than they are now.
Guns scare the crap outta me so I just have a taser and mace….Last week a drunk man walked up to me and said some raunchy mess and I politely asked if he preferred the mace or taser or preferably both….
Public announcement; Ladies and Gentlemen, if your lover leaves U and move on to another then let them go! They are not worth your life or freedom. Just like u pulled them, U can get another, stop feeling defeated against someone else who took your place, if they loved u like u loved them then no one could take your place and y’all would still be together. Stop believing that shiit, “too death do us part” don’t love me to death, if U love me like that, hell don’t love me at all!
SMH saying jealous and love is a Mufker, it can make U lose your damn mind! May they both RIP
This is the age of hurt butt men. They cant take rejection so they take it out on the person who is rejecting them. Weak azz men… we will never ever have strong black men in abundance like we did in the 60’s & 70’s.
nice little place UNDER the jail for this fool who left 3 kids without a Mom…May they both RIP….
Exactly! Doors are nothing to them.
Plus, if they didn’t want to knock down or shoot down the door, all they have to do is buy one of those universal keys online, that open up any door. I think it’s illegal….but I bet some Psycho could find it on the Dark Internet or something!
Or bug spray and YES I’m serious. Spray roach or wasp spray in an attackers eyes and while they are hollering spray a nice amount in their throat. From that point on, they are under YOUR control. If they are willing to attack you, you have to think either it’s me or them.
That’s all I was trying to say and I think my anger at the kids finding the bodies may have been displaced. Her children will be forever changed and it’s the murderers fault. Maybe nothing would have prevented this, but maybe something would have. We as women have to be diligent and make the best choices for ourselves and our families.
Yeah. I think war is inevitable there. That fella in North Korea has nothing to lose and he knows he’s lose so who knows what he has up his sleeve.
I give that marriage at the most 4 years. The way she looks at him you can tell she is sick of his ranting azz already. Can you imagine living with a man like that? Waking up in the middle of the night for juice and he gotta follow you to the kitchen and lecture you on how acid reflux erosion works smh…
THIS! There is nothing wrong with using your 2nd Amendment Rights to protect yourself as a woman of color!
Black men are the new Freddy Kruegers dont take ya azz to sleep they might hurt you….
Those restraining orders are really designed to try and scare an obsessed person away with the threat of police and incarceration.
For some people, it works. For homicidally-inclined BFs, lovers and husbands, not so much.
And that is by design; Google what the Great Society programs were really designed for…To break up the Black family, marginalize Black women, and make Black men institutionalized and weakened.
So sad!!
But I have noticed, when these men see a bunch of strong men willing to protect that woman, they move their punk a??es on to someone who don’t have a lot of support and protection. They’re cowards and that’s why they don’t abuse women with supportive men in their lives.
So it’s open season on black women!!!
She had 4 children, her boyfriend had 3.
Any color woman needs to!!!
We have to escpecially when we know what our mate is capable of.
Protective orders do not work. I don’t know what else to say about this, because this occurs too much in this country. What do restraining orders actually do for you? Nothing at all.
Are white men standing there next to the black man cheering him on, coaching him, and rewarding him as he prepares and proceeds to pull the trigger? Black men do NOT accept accountability for their actions. Instead they blame “White supremacy” or black women.
Stay Woke
I just think of the ongoing marginalization of DV victims of color and this story:
http://sandrarose.com/2017/04/florida-woman-killed-cops-tell-stop-calling-911/
We in particular need to protect ourselves because we can’t always depend on the police to do so.
Says a person who refers to locs as “DREADlocks” I can’t with you today.
I don’t care about white social and economic issues and they way it impacts THEM. Every time there’s a REAL issue to be addressed in the BLACK community, we deflect by saying “whites do it to” like it is helping us in any way.
True, you are so right!!!
I simply stated on a previous post that I noticed a correlation between crimes committed by black women and weaves and here you are twisting my words. Were these women criminals? If not then what is your point?
bless ALL of theirs hearts…just sad!!
We as a whole don’t blame our BEAUTIFUL BLACK QUEENS ,but we do blame WHITE SUPREMACY for stealing us from our mother land.
We would have been 1000000 times better of in Africa.
You cave Neanderthal devils should have stayed in the dam caves with your evil ways.All you have done is corrupted the earth causing chaos and destruction wherever you go.
Do I need to use hood slang to prove to you I am black or something? Geesh. I like seasoning on my food and I went to Freaknik 95. What else do you want me to do or say? Do I need to e-fax you my passport? Good grief! I have an opposing opinion and you immediately assume I am white? I can’t
WOMEN, MEN IF A PERSON HAS YOU AT THE POINT THAT YOU NEED A RESTRAINING ORDER THEN PLEASE DON’T FIND COMFORT IN A PIECE OF PAPER B/C THE THOUGHT OF JAIL WHEN THEY WERE HARASSING & THREATENING YOU DIDN’T SCARE OR DETER THEM SO A PIECE OF PAPER SURE AS HECK WON’T. FIND SOME COMFORT IN A LOADED PERMITTED TO CARRY GUN, ALARM SYSTEM THAT YO KIDS BY THIS DEVIL DOESN’T KNOW THE CODE TO OR A GOOD A** WHIPPING TO THAT PERSON BUT NOT A PIECE OF PAPER. GOSH NOW 7 CHILDREN ARE W/O A PARENT B/C OF THIS P.O.S. COULDN’T TAKE REJECTION. I HOPE THE PRISONERS WEAR HIM OUT 24/7 TAKING TURNS ON BUSTING HIM WIDE OPEN FROM THE FRONT & BACK EVENTHOUGH THAT WOULD BE TOO NICE FOR THIS GUY AND PEOPLE LIKE HIM. SMH!!! THESE TYPE OF INCIDENTS JUST BURN ME UP!!!!!………JENNY JONES!!!
Same song, different key. “Whites do it too, so should you.”
I think any dude that wants to date a woman who’s separated but not yet divorced needs to be careful. You just never know if that jealous estranged husband is going to come after you as well as her.
At least if they’re fully divorced, there might be some closure there, and maybe the husband has emotionally moved on… but if that’s still his wife, the next dude is putting himself in real danger.
Wonder why Sandra hasn’t posted?
When something actually happens in the white race, do you honestly think they say “well, BLACKS do it too!” LOOLLLLLLL
WE ARE LOST!
Oh wow, I see you’re a fan
This is tragic all around I don’t care what color/race the individuals are very sad.
Jesus Christ this makes me even more happy to be single dayum
For any woman getting a restraining order, I’d say get a gun too, and be prepared to shoot FIRST if needed.
Better for your relatives to come visit you in jail, than at the funeral home.
You forget about the women getting it
from exes too. Like the baseball players sidepiece who killed his wife. Ppl that were in bad violent relationships leave them alone period.
Where’s the post on Fifty Cent punching a black woman like a man? He needs to be called out!If you hate black women that much, surely you don’t need our money! And yea, the woman was not too bright to get on stage and twerk after it happened, but that doesn’t make it right. It is clear-It is open season on Black women by Black men!
I agree. If I was dating — or even interested — in a particular woman, as soon as I’d hear the words “restraining order” I’d be out. Just not evern worth the risk.
I don’t know why restraining orders even exist. They are totally worthless.
According to the actions of our men…YES
A divorce wasn’t going to save her. Not being laid up wouldn’t either.
A fan of what exactly? Can’t be you seeing as how you’re an ass on a blog.
I guess I get where you’re coming from now.
True. But a deadbolt inside will keep the person from opening the door even if they have a universal key.
When all else fails you deflect. So since your dumb tired ass couldn’t refute what I said you rather go left. Typical idiot. You did’t read what I wrote or else you wouldn’t have fonted something so stupid and way off. In fact the only one here that’s acting like whitey here is YOU! ONLY A WHITE BISH WOULD TRY TO SEPARATE THE BLACK RACE BY SEX AND BASH THE MALES . NO ONE IN THEIR RIGHT MIND WOULD DO SOMETHING SO IGNORANT AND DESTRUCTIVE!
I know it’s crazy, but it’s best to protect yourself.
QTNA
Tell me again what do restraining orders do other than piss off the perp and force them to make the one last time count? Y’all, life goes on after these breakups. Seriously. If you’re looking for someone as unstable who enjoys sleeping with one eye open, they’re out there. Someone who’s just a bat schit will love yo crazy ass just the same.
well stop trying to cause divide between the black woman and the black man.
All black men aren’t mass murdering ,psychopathic, deranged lunatics as you will have us to be.
Lol! Do you even know if you are the descendant of west african slaves? You do know that not all whites were the descendants of slave owners right? I am a direct descendant of a Black man who sold blacks as slaves to whites. Even so, I will NOT blame anyone else for MY issues. I take accountability for myself, unlike yourself. What is your obsession with both me and whites?
Fifty is a woman or at least he’s biatch made.
Pretty much. By the time you see that he’s crazy enough for you to even need a restraining order, he’s also crazy enough to violate the restraining order and come after you anyway.
At least have a loaded gun on the nightstand just in case.
You sound stupid as f!ck.You think I landed in Amerikkka by some UFO.We were kidnapped. And yes I blame WHITE SUPREMACY–and when BLACK CHRIST come back –he’s going to burn you white ,cave, Neanderthal devils alive.If you aren’t racist whitey, then this doesn’t apply to you, but “yes” your people will be punished for what they did to mine.
It’s even in the Book of Obadiah.
I see your point, but if you’re going thru a bitter divorce, the last thing a jealous husband wants to see is another man sleeping with his [estranged] wife.
Best to at least get the divorce, work out custody/child support etc, and give everybody a chance to emotionally heal up and start moving on. I think doing it that way at least puts the odds more in your favor.
Lol at Chaos and destruction. How many Neanderthals are in the poorest, most crime ridden communities in this country compared to non-Neanderthals? Please.
IMO They hate us almost just as much as white people and every other race does.
It’s real. That’s why the ancients gave us religion for discipline over the mind and body.
So you admit- Black men are white supremacists. Thanks
Truuu
by design Neanderthal.Most of you inherited your riches and still haven’t paid our ancestors for the free work they did.
Take Trump for instance:I was sitting around one day wondering how someone so stupid could become a billionaire, the I found out he filed for bankruptcy six times.lol That in itself explained everything.
Some hate even more than that
In some cases.
It worked.
The ones that don’t protect our “BEAUTIFUL BLACK QUEENS” but seek to cause harm to or do harm to them, are indeed aiding WHITE SUPREMACY.
Only blacks allowed it!!!
RIP to them both…so sad
This! I had a crazy ex and he would kick my doors down and leave. I had a restraining order but they refused to arrest him for violating because they said they had no proof it was him….I own a small pistol for carrying and have a shot gun for the house….that order leaves a paper trail if nothing else. So if someone kills an attacker they have proof that it was self defense. I haven’t seen him in over 10 years but I am still very cautious and will shoot to kill if he ever tries to approach me
Just sad
R.I.P to both and God bless those children
What is this world coming to , people just cant leave relationships and move on
I don’t think he meant to hit a woman. She shouldn’t have tried to pull him off stage. 50 cent has been shot up & I’m sure he’s very paranoid, so he defended himself. When you’re on stage with all the lights, you can’t see who’s in the audience. But once he realized it was a woman, at least he did try to comfort her & give her 5 seconds of fame. But she dumb for not pretending to be hurt bc she could’ve gotten paid, & she might still can pursue a lawsuit.
They both should’ve had a gun dealing with a crazy fool
It was a Beta test and will be used on everyone soon enough…
Black Christ? I see you’re certifiable. Why would we have to endure all the pain and suffering we have for CENTURIES if ‘BLACK CHRIST’ existed? FOH.
HOPE SOMEBODY RIPS HIM A NEW BUTTHOLE
Leave a paper trail
Lol
I don’t think the man in this story meant to shoot his wife.She shouldn’t have left him for another man.This man was a victim of white supremacy & I’m sure he was very paranoid, so he did what he felt was right.When you’re a Black man in Amerikkka around all these whites, you can’t tell right from wrong.But once he realized he was just a coward, at least he did take his own life as well to show how apologetic he was & give her a chance to make the evening news.But she dumb for not pretending that this guy was nutcase from the beginning bc she could have gotten away & might still be alive today.
My GOD how stupid we sound taking up for Black men at every chance. I mean it’s unbelievable.
No. The judge signed a final restraining order. He was not allowed access to the home. He had no rights to be within 100 yards. One of the first rules for release during dv is that the offending party can NOT come to the residence and same for restraining orders. She had NO fault in her death.
To answer “what do restraining orders do other than piss off the perp and force them to make the one last time count” allow the victim to shoot that mfkr point blank dead in his face when he reaches 99 yards and avoid prison.
Agreed. Not worth it at all. We can add slashed tires, stalking, came up to my job, stole my money, called my new boo, etc. to the list. Nope nope nope!
Not worth the stress much less my life.
Yep and I let errybody know I stay locked and loaded. And my first date invite? The gun range! Lol. I have zero issues pulling that trigger if me or my little people are threatened.
This is why I don’t go to anyone’s house without my gun. You never know what kind of crazy ex they have. I’d rather be judged by 12 than carried by 6.
But it’s usually not how it happens though. Most stories that are reported ends like this; the victim had a restraining order… I get what you’re saying though.
If they got a dude still stalking them or married/seperated you can be in extreme danger. This dude got killed in his sleep and half the time they know what you look like but you don’t what he look like. So many Simps in this world killing over hoes.
Agreed!! The shyt don’t fawking work
Stop it! that’s all it does
If the other person contests the seperation date you have to wait a year, dickheads will do that to drag the case out.
real talk.
I don’t think that attractive women was taking care of that comely man…if you live in Atlanta you for surely know that women do things like take the guys money and then jump the fence all the time
Ladies, if you know you have a crazy EX, you need to ease out of the situation. Please don’t bring another man into that mess. Allow your ex to latch onto some other poor unsuspecting fool before you get a new man. Oh yeah, make sure you are divorced!
It wouldn’t matter, because these two were sleeping.
Lol
That’s awful for those kids to wake up and find their mother. Evil……
Are you serious. You telling the woman not to live her life with someone else until he gets someone else. Then she can move on. But it is okay for him to bring someone into that mess but not for her even though they are not divorced. He can divorce her, marry someone else and still want her. A marriage license with someone else and another piece of NEW puzzy never stop crazy.
Ladies & Gents: Words written on a piece of paper give as much protection as a signature on a marriage license insuring fidelity. If you know you are dealing with a nut job and are unwilling to go underground and cut ties with damn near everybody do some other precautionary things.
Get a guard dog, not a puppy, that barks loud and clear if someone breathes on your yard. Get like Macgyver and A-team and protect your gateways. Traps at the doors and windows with alarms on everything. Most of which you can grab at Home Depot for little of nothing. Skip the wigs, nails and food out to get this done!
The life you save may be your own.
And leave these nutcases alone. When you see someone has a history of crazy or they just seem “off” then you run like hell and dont feel bad about it. Dont second guess your gut and dont be polite about your own safety and DONT TRY TO SAVE/FIX THEM.
I dont fuxxx with people who have crazy ex’s and baby mommas. Dont drag me into “yo shit”. If you cared about me you wouldnt put me in harms way like that.
regardless, she was still his wife even through they no longer lived together. he was wrong on so many many levels
They work with sane people but to a nut a restraining order is like lighter fluid on a flame.
If you read Deuteronomy you would know why.Try reading the bible sometime it may help.
And if you don’t believe in the bible then read the Torah. It’s written in our ancestors language.
Great advice! My dh installed alarms on all doors and windows, it cost less than $40.
I’d rather wait until this fool moves on than to antagonize him. I am talking about the type of fool mentioned in the article. Watching him move onto the next victim is better than losing your life.
My God! ? Rip so sad
My God! ? Rip so sad
Your right, but once those pychopathes fixate on killing you. You never know when its coming.
Just awful
Crazy dont move on.. what talkin bout???
Hello
exactly.. obessing over mere mortals its sicknen
100 percent true
Oh please. Black females lit the match in hatred directed at Black men loooong time ago, and been selling us out even longer. Please..
But it would have saved that man she choose to drag into her mess
Same goes for not having moral women of high virtues, like we did in the 40’s & 50’…
I have a question? Have you ever read gone with the wind, the color purple, east of eden? There has always been women (and some men) of loose morals running around…whether its in the 1800’s or 1900’s. There were always flop houses or a speakeasy for them to be at and make money….
So what explains rampant generational poverty and the same issues mirrored in white people in Appalachia after Great Society programs? Perhaps it’s best to research before one makes such sweeping statements. Have a good day!
Thank you for the additional info which I could not find on my own. While she was the victim in this matter (and I don’t want to beat a dead horse) I still want to understand how he accessed the house. Why weren’t the police called when he first showed up at 9pm? Did someone let him in?
This is a tragedy. Atleast he let the children live.
*this is why you dont start a new relationship without closing out the old. I wonder did the new boyfriend know how dangerous the husband was.
People check these fools background before you get into a relationship! Just $50 to save you and your loved ones LIFE! Rest assured, it will not be a one time thing if they are deranged. Record=Reflection. Then RUN!
It still had to be ALLOWED!!! That is where it starts. Face it, with the man in the mirror!!!
And by “allowed” you mean that often marginalized communities were further marginalized by elected officials that put private interests before that of their constituents. I wish it was as cut and dry as you’re say, with delineated responsibilities and cut and dry issues we could look to and say “yes, it’s all their fault” but it’s not. Your arguments are specious and informed by emotion, not fact. I’ll say no more and wish you a good day!
That’s why the “victims” have to be forward thinking “warriors”. You plan for him because he’s planning for you. Drop all social media. Cut ties with your friends and family. You can’t trust very many.
Remember the story where the friend told her friend’s husband that the wife had just had an abortion for another man and he killed her? Story was untrue.
Lock and load. Know where he is while he’s checking where you are.
Chile if you have a psycho. You have to reinforce your bedroom windows with wood before going to bed. Put wood boards on springs and nails protruding facing outward. Bells above every door. Interior locks on the windows that rise up and tack down some devices that cause injury when he crosses the window sill. Park your car across your drive way like so / with the driver’s side closer to the door. Everyone exit from that same side.
You’ve got to have FORWARD THINKING!
All true. You got to know them. Even if all you know is that he frightens you, you know enough. What’s you plan?
That’s what YOU said, LOL!!! God bless!!!
It would be great if it were that cut and dry.. But sadly with domestic violence there are so many other factors. Perhaps in this case she didnt think he would kill her persay. Although she had a restraining order.
Forward thinking considers all the possibilities. We know the history of other’s stories and the outcome. Knowing those elements are familiar in human nature and performance we must consider the possibility and probability of occurrence in our own situation. Regardless it’s all very sad.
An industrialized nation with no nationwide databank to show when someone purchased a gun in another state???!!! SMDH.. OP are as good as the paper they’re written on. Women must take precautions. He might know where she works but he doesn’t have to know where she lives. This is why women need to methodically be ahead of their games. Covertly plan to leave. Get an apt somewhere where he can’t find you. If you have the same job make sure security knows, walks you to your vehicle and make sure he doesn’t follow you home. These days those types of men want the woman dead. Nothing else but dead.
I agree. Do whatever you have to do to remain alive. Buy a gun too so if he trespasses shoot to kill. That’s the ONLY way some of these women will get any peace, his death.
I met someone where I used to teach who was in a domestic violence marriage for 10 years. She said when she was finally ready she planned it one day at a time and when he came home she was gone.
Thats a good way to bounce safely.
I wish she and her new man (so cute together) had been thinking about how to survive. I imagine the signs were all there. We can’t save them but maybe someone else reading in this situation will learn and live.
@jussjess25 Preach!!!
Tears at “park your car across your driveway like so /”… You are a fool ? #GoodTipsTho
The woman in this story that was killed could be the “poor unsuspecting fool” that her ex’s ex was hoping he would latch on to. Crazy ppl fixate, dwell and stew on ever nuance then they magnify it by 10. Just bcz they move on does NOT mean they forgot abt u. #BeStrategic
@hottlanta Come thru with them facts ?
I seriously hollered as I imagined this comment unfolding ??
Chile when crazy come at you and you don’t have time to cross the street, you gotta find your “crazier” side and start whoöping some a??. ???
Another Maryland family massacred, with four minor children scattered to the wind, due to child custody and protection order litigation. The MD AG should investigate every singly case handled by the judge(s) who entered these “protection” orders (aka, “child and family harm orders”) against these four children and their parents. If there was a lawyer involved in the drafting/filing of the protection orders, all their cases should be investigated as well. Tens of thousands of homicides and suicides leaving as many children without parents, and hundreds of thousands of bankruptcies in the US each year are caused by “violent” family court judges who take sides between distressed parents of minor children, violently sever all communication between them, and literally force them to litigate and fight each other to the death. These four children are just a drop in a bucket, among the tens of thousands children who are orphaned and parents who are killed by these violent individuals. “Violent” is the correct term here, because courts know a much better way to handle cases between natural parents of minor chidren that leaves no one impoverished, dead or orphaned–i.e.: (a) Treat both of the parents equally, with dignity and respect (not “protection” order them), (b) Ensure the parents have a communication plan and are regularly communicatiing, and (c) require that all issues pertaining to the children are handled strictly through family mediation, all cases without exception, and these four kids would still have two loving parents, and these two parents would still have four children.