According to Popcrunch.com, a spurned request to join him in group sex led to NFL player Shawne Merriman choking and battering tiny reality TV personality Tila Tequila. Yea, he’s mixed.

According to 10News.com, the fight that lead to Merriman’s arrest last weekend after Tequila walked into his bedroom she found him with two other women. After the NFL asked her to join them, Tequila stormed out and threatened to have sex with one of his friends, that’s when Merriman allegedly tossed the 4-foot-11-inch star to the ground and began violently choking her.

Merriman denies attacking his girlfriend of two months and insists he was simply trying to keep a very intoxicated Tila from driving under the influence.