Medical Minute: Addictive Personalities Part 2
Yesterday, we discussed your friend who humps every hawt man she meets. One week later, she’s planning her dream wedding to him. She changes men like she changes her underwear, and she hops from bed to bed like a rabbit in heat.
Your friend is most likely an addictive personality type who raves about her love for men she barely knows. There’s a certain level of desperation that separates her from other women in your peer group.
But here’s a scenario from the perspective of a non-addictive personality type, who meets a man after being single for awhile. She would probably say something like this:
“I met a guy. He seems nice. We have a lot in common. We’ve agreed to see each other again. I’ll wait and see where this leads…”
The non-addictive personality type is not as desperate to jump into a relationship with a man she just met. She’s able to think more clearly and make better decisions. Her brain is not addled by dopamine, so she is more in control of her behavior and her thought processes.
She more than likely doesn’t drink, smoke or do drugs. The non-addictive personality type channels her energy into more productive pursuits (and less destructive) activities, such as jogging or blogging.
So how does all of this tie into cheating? People who have addictive personalities develop destructive behavior patterns over time, such as cheating, abusing drugs or alcohol, gambling, pornography, and risk taking.
Yesterday, we discussed the neurotransmitter dopamine and how it ties into our biological beginnings: by “teaching” us to recall our responses to pleasurable stimuli so that the next time we encountered that same stimuli, we would remember that we enjoyed it.
Because of the effects of dopamine on the brain, early man learned to enjoy sex (to further the human species), and he learned to enjoy hunting (to ensure the survival of the human species) even if it meant he might be killed by the wild game he was pursuing.
Men (and women) who have addictive personalities tend to find cheating to be a pleasurable activity, and they may not have the will power to stop it.
Because we can think more clearly, the non-addictive personality type might cheat once, if at all, and only during a moment of weakness.
But the addictive personality type will continue to cheat, sometimes for years. That’s because they have a pressing need to reproduce that high, that dopamine rush that they got from cheating, coupled with the thrill of possibly getting caught.
Cheaters often have one or more vices, such as smoking weed or stumbling home drunk from the club. If your man (or woman) smokes weed or drinks heavily, he or she is more likely to cheat on you — and they are more likely to lie about it if you confront them.
“The at-risk person is the one who tries something once and gets something from it that he doesn’t get from any other part of his life, and [he] has to keep doing that behavior to get that rush,” explains Dr. Reef Karim, M.D., a psychiatrist at UCLA.
Peter Selby, M.D., clinical director of the addictions program at the Center for Addiction and Mental Health in Toronto, explains that just being a man increases the likelihood of being an addictive personality.
It’s the same with lesbians or “studs” who assume a thug/macho persona or image.
…trying to be more macho and capable raises the risk, because you’re expressing yourself with actions, not words. The more easygoing and communicative you are, the less your chances of becoming addicted.”
In other words, just by relaxing and being yourself, and not increasing your stress level by trying to be something you’re not, lowers your risk of becoming an addictive personality.
So do you have an addictive personality?
Take the test on Menshealth.com to see if you are at-risk of becoming an addictive personality — or if you’re already a lost case.
This has been your Medical Minute.
More Info From The Web
The Addictive Personality – Psychology Today
The Addictive Personality: Why Recovery Is a Lifetime Thing – blog.beliefnet.com
Addictive Personality – Do I have one – Addiction Blog.org
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*taking test on men’s health*
Hey fellow DMV’er! Dating sucks everywhere believe me. Glad I found my somebody. I dont have a addictive personality but I think I attract or was into more people with this that type of personality
Here’s my results——>You scored 18 – 24 points. That “party” this weekend may be an intervention.
@ mochacashmere
Hey! Im from the DMV as well and you are right! I’m tired of the DMV all together tho…
@1, living in Arlington and I totally agree.
non-addictive personalities seem boring….
You scored 11 – 17 points. You’ll likely stay clean, but please try to avoid Vegas. <<<< Vegas is so in my future….once I get over my fear of flying. Would the test results be the same had this been a female version?
Thanks for the post Sandra I already knew I had borderline addictive personality…. but this was enlightening
But here’s a scenario from the perspective of a non-addictive personality type, who meets a man after being single for awhile. She would probably say something like this:
“I met a guy. He seems nice. We have a lot in common. We’ve agreed to see each other again. I’ll wait and see where this leads…”
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This is indicative of me
The non-addictive personality type is not as desperate to jump into a relationship with a man she just met. She’s able to think more clearly and make better decisions. Her brain is not addled by dopamine, so she is more in control of her behavior and her thought processes.
She more than likely doesn’t drink, smoke or do drugs
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This is indicative also however I do smoke and drink so there is not just one box you could fit someone in tho I do appreciate the knowledge and insight Im def taking a closer look at myself as a result
Glad it’s not just me. It’s so frustrating! I’m about ready to relocate again myself. DC is not where it’s at.
These are my results: You scored 11 – 17 points. You’ll likely stay clean, but please try to avoid Vegas.
I’ve been to Vegas and nothing really pops off there for me…. I need to avoid places like New Orleans and Houston….I tend to over do it when go to those places…
I know that I have addictive personality tendacies…that’s why I’ve never done any drugs (
) dont count… I used to be a very, very very heavy drinker…but I have toned that down…cause I alcoholism runs rapid on my mom’s side of the family….I’ve never been the type to per se chase a guy. But will admit that I’ve played the side peice position very well….and was ok with that…until I turned about 25 and realized that I was worth more than being someone’s number 2 or whatever…Moving to Chicago really helped me deal with that…
I don’t care I
me some Wayne! #DontJudgeMe 
If your man (or woman) smokes weed or drinks heavily, he or she is more likely to cheat on you — and they are more likely to lie about it if you confront them.
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This doesn’t apply to me at all and not a lot of folks I know this is pure speculation
I know that I have addictive personality tendacies…that’s why I’ve never done any drugs ( ) dont count… I used to be a very, very very heavy drinker…but I have toned that down…cause I alcoholism runs rapid on my mom’s side of the family….I’ve never been the type to per se chase a guy. But will admit that I’ve played the side peice position very well….and was ok with that…until I turned about 25 and realized that I was worth more than being someone’s number 2 or whatever…Moving to Chicago really helped me deal with that…
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I’m a boring ass non-addictive personality.
This is mostly by choice cause I’ve seen firsthand what various addictions can do to a person. Not I.
DC is not where it’s at
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It can be – just need to know what’s what! Im from the DMV
You scored 11 – 17 points. You’ll likely stay clean, but please try to avoid Vegas.
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LAWD KNOWS I CAN’T BE OUT IN VEGAS TOO LONG………
and yeah just realizing this was a test for MEN
Let’s see…Meeting Dude @ the club, went home w/you that night, woke up the next morning he is still there. Cooked him breakfast, lunch & dinner & he’s still there. Kids got home from YOUR mothers so you could party the night before & the kids have run into him. You introduce the kids to him as “uncle such & such!” He leaves that night, come back @ around 2am that morning to blow your back out. Wakes up the next morning and you cook him & the kids breakfast, lunch & dinner but this time he doesn’t leave…he goes to the car & get that 1 black plastic bag of clothes because he’s planning on staying. He knows your gonna buy him clothes when you go get the kids their school clothes & HE ends up w/more in the cart than the kids………..you get into an argument because about 2 months later, he stays out all night (sort’ve how you met him, right) and you jump all froggy in his face & he knocks your ass out. You wake up, he apologies & you guys have makeup sex because he started out munching the muff (as an apology ala’ baby boy) & he KNOCKS YOU UP! Now, you’ve tatted his name on you & you get to add 1 mo’ chile to the EBT card (BTW he puts in his order when you go to the store w/dem stamps) & right before you drop THAT LOAD, he dips out on you & someone else falls victim…..
YUP, I think we pretty much covered this yesterday!
I’m a boring ass non-addictive personality.
This is mostly by choice cause I’ve seen firsthand what various addictions can do to a person. Not I.
its better to boring, than end yp in a gutter somewhere…
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@ Kang Dang aKa blunt:
you’re welcome, hun.
@Choco I’m
at how you breaking the article down. I smoke 
errday and have cheated only once before (under heavy 
and 
) but that’s no excuse cuz I would do that quite often.
I agree with you though it does not apply to all
@Chaco – Please help!!?? I’m not having any luck.
On average, the gay community has a higher incidence of addictive personalities and borderline personality disorders than the general population.
“such as jogging or blogging” LMAO! Most bloggers are either 1) narcisstic 2) overly nosey 3) addicted to the internet (addictive personality)!
I’m sorry *Choco*
@ Choco aka Hippie:
You’re welcome, hun. I’m glad it was a little helpful to you.
Definitely not addictive. I actually am told I could stand to show more care and concern. Actually a lot more. Oh well….
Interesting read though….
People who have addictive personalities develop destructive behavior patterns over time, such as cheating, abusing drugs or alcohol, gambling, pornography, and risk taking.
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Puts my scratch off tix I got at lunch away…and stops thinking of the dark likka I was gonna enjoy NO LATER THAN 7 p.m. EST…Will tell my situation what we do is porn-o-graphic (it really ILL). Far as risk taking goes I will call and cancel my interview for a better job that I have tomorrow…will stay here and continue to get financially abused twice a monf. And I will stop cheating on my situation in my head with the dude who works on the 1st floor.
Thanks Sandra for making me the BEST KDub possible.
Tatted Diva AKA The Makeup Maven says:
you get into an argument because about 2 months later, he stays out all night (sort’ve how you met him, right) and you jump all froggy in his face & he knocks your ass out.
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Smokie says:
“such as jogging or blogging” LMAO! Most bloggers are either 1) narcisstic 2) overly nosey 3) addicted to the internet (addictive personality)!
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YSoSerious says:
I’m a boring ass non-addictive personality.
This is mostly by choice cause I’ve seen firsthand what various addictions can do to a person. Not I.
@Sandra
Sandra Rose has been more than a little helpful for all of us and I honestly feel I can speak on behalf of others
@Tatted that whole scenario is rampant where I’m from….
You are crazy Sandra……I didn’t think you’d pay attention to that!
YSoSerious says:
I’m a boring ass non-addictive personality.
This is mostly by choice cause I’ve seen firsthand what various addictions can do to a person. Not I.
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@Mocha
boo no apologies necessary you know I had to REP the DMV 
Now what da matter pookie? : )
KK……I JUST THINK THAT CHIT IS UNIVERSAL. Especially here in Columbus. I explained that chit so well because it happens so often here!
@Kdub- I need to stop thinking about my situation’s friend. #dontjudgeme I’d never act on it, of course….
@Mocha
Where are you going to hang out surely not the clubs where are you residing there is this place Half Note Lounge in Bowie for the grown and sexy and I mean it’s a nice mixture live music but then I don’t know how old you are but still clubs are not the answer to meeting in the DMV that’s hook up purposes only imo
@Tatted you need to add both male & female have never had any legitimate longterm employment to speak of. I know quite a few 30-40 year olds who do not work. How is this possible?
@ KK – DAYUM I SHOULD’VE HUH! I should’ve added that the male is a “two-bit weed hustler” who smokes more than he actually sells!
@KanDang
is not addictive it’s prescribed meds 
You know Im just making sure and seeing if and when I fit in but uh everyone know
I need to stop thinking about my situation’s friend. #dontjudgeme I’d never act on it, of course….
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Chit sometimes the friend makes you think…I picked the WRONG one…night I metchu I shoulda holla’d at HIS azz ‘stead of you…
No judgement from ME…Cause I know how it go!
I do have a friend that falls in love every damn month…just the other day she called me and said girl I think I found the one….he actually took me out to eat and PAID for it. Can you believe that? I like uhmm yeah..its called courting you…and paying for your food is what he is suppose to do if he likes you…
Both her baby daddies are losers…My friend just really wants to be loved…but she needs to understand that you cant go look for love…it has to find you on its own…
I know I have an addictive personality, however with that said, that is why I am more conscious of decisions (not that they have all been great) that I make. I have a heigtned awareness of my actions. Thats why I PURPOSELY stay away from certain things.
I remember when I had my last breast surgery, they prescribed oxycodon for the pain because i had to pack the area (had to heal from the inside out…anyway, that oxycodon starting making me “feel” good (guess per sandra dopamine)… I would stay up LITERALLY stayed up ALL NIGHT AND DAY for like 3 days one time…long story short, I had to get a refill, went and picked up the refill, went home and said a prayer and flushed the WHOLE bottle down the toilet (SERIOUSLY) and pulled out the Tylenol out of the drawer..which didn’t help as much.
But GOD knows I am too cute to be trying to be on the street “scoring” some pills.. NOT SEXY
LOL.
KK76 says:
Definitely not addictive. I actually am told I could stand to show more care and concern. Actually a lot more
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Please read my Medical Minute posts on Narcissism and Borderline Personality Disorder. You might find something that interests you in these posts, such as lack of empathy or compassion for the feelings of others.
http://sandrarose.com/2011/06/medical-minute-the-narcissists-silent-treatment/
http://sandrarose.com/2010/08/medical-minute-borderline-personality-disorder/
Tatted Diva AKA The Makeup Maven says:
KK……I JUST THINK THAT CHIT IS UNIVERSAL. Especially here in Columbus. I explained that chit so well because it happens so often here!
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That chit is all over, my old neighbor did that chit (except she had no kids). This one dude played them games with her for almost a year by the time she realized and tried to break it off dude wasn’t giving up his good “situation” (a place to stay rent free, sex, food, colthes and a car to drive while she at work or sit on the block or in the house waiting for this dude). Finally he packed up with back to his baby mama but a couple days later dude came and held her hostage at gun point. Chit ws real as fukk she had to text her frend to call the police. And she still didnt wanna press charges. It’s a shame
he goes to the car & get that 1 black plastic bag of clothes
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You know what is sad about this…they sell duffle bags at Wally World/Target/Kohls for $20 or less. Nukka you couldn’t even afford a duffle bag. You will not even be spending the NIGHT at my house PERIOD even if we been kicking it for MONTHS you show up to 1033 with a plastic bag witcho shyt in it. Word.
@Leap
Thanks for your admission I believe my sis takes oxy and it makes her act strange so much in fact we are not really on speaking terms and I kept telling my mom her behavior is of someone who is under the influence she can function off of it but her moods swings are effn weird so Im like NOPE! Love her but I can’t compete with a drug!
Depp Style
You scored 29 percent addictiveness!
The chance of becoming addictive is 50% for everyone. You either do, or you don?t.
Everyone has the chance of becoming addicted to something one day in their life, voluntary or involuntary.
Since your score is 35% or lower, your chances of becoming extremely addicted are not high.
As long as your mental state allows you to control your own handlings, you will understand it if an habit becomes harmful to you.
You probably will be aware of the necessary actions that you would need to perform.
I only got this because my addiction is for my pc. I admitted it. So thats a step in recovery isnt it
The non-addictive personality type channels her energy into more productive pursuits (and less destructive) activities, such as jogging or BLOGGING.
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HaHa You’re funny Sandy.
Finally he packed up with back to his baby mama but a couple days later dude came and held her hostage at gun point. Chit ws real as fukk she had to text her frend to call the police. And she still didnt wanna press charges. It’s a shame
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No sympathy here I’ve been a victim of domestic violence the abuser becomes of victiom of the local police department!
Wow @ leapyearpisces, thanks for sharing your story with us. That’s a great example of the will power of the mind to break free of the emotional chains that bind us.
@ Blunt….RIGHT. THEY BE THE 1ST ONES THAT WANNA GO UPSIDE A BISH’S HEAD! PITIFUL
@ KDUB…EXAAACTLY, AND THESE BE NIG’S OFF THE BLOCK ACTING LIKE THEY HUSTLING, WHILE HAVING THE NEW J’S & NIKE SOCKS IN A GARBAGE BAG…NOT EVEN A HEFTY BUT THE KIND THAT GET HOLES WAAAY TOO EASILY!
@SR- I read it. There’s a lack of concern when I’m not genuinely interested. I think that’s universal too. It’s hard to care deeply for a dude with breasts. However, you do make a point. I make a point to focus on things other than myself for personal growth, in general.
Tatted How you gone put our business out there? I said I was sorry! I didnt hit you either you just adding stuff now
@Leap my BFF had to get major dental surg…I was trying to go get her ‘scrip filled before I left her…and she was like HAIL NO…I am addicted to SIMPLE shat like Cherry Dr. Pepper and Twizzlers…so I can IMAGINE what might happen I start taking pain pills. And SNATCHED the ‘scrip out my hand and tore it up.
Since men seem to have a higher incidence of addictive personalities, can we safely blame their mothers?
“Because we can think more clearly, the non-addictive personality type might cheat once, if at all, and only during a moment of weakness.”
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Sandra tryin to make good with one of her hoes!
*went
@ Sandra
My friend who lives the christian life until she meets a man. She tells him no Imma wait until marriage. But when HE tells her no or I am going to walk the path with you until marriage, she lay him like a rug. Then she feels guilty, then when the man wants it again she tries to refrain. He leaves and she then gives in and sleeps with him even if he has moved on and is with someone else… Then he finally dogs her and she gets depressed and falls back into her christian lifestyle until the next one comes along. What medical minute do you have for this?
I Fayla, have an addictive personality as well. That’s y I stay in my lane so I don’t veer off course
TO TELL THE TRUTH, WE ALL HAVE ADDICTING AS WELL AS NARCISSISM behavior, it just depends on what you are drawn too & who you draw!
I’m addicted to being there for my friends….WAAAAY MORE THAN I SHOULD, sometimes doing more for their children than they do! Then I notice that they actually start counting my “chips” and not doing the necessary things for their children thinking “I got them!”
@CHIBY
“and paying for your food is what he is suppose to do if he likes you…”
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LIES!
KK76 says:
I make a point to focus on things other than myself for personal growth, in general.
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You have good insight.
The first night my hubby spent the night this nigga brought over his DVD collection of like 1000 movies….he “accidently” left it over my house…I called him to come get it and even put it by the door so that he wouldnt forget it once he left…well he “accidently” left it again…the next time he came..he brought his toothbrush…then it was a hat, then it was shirt…next thing you know he got outfits at my crib and chit….that nigg@ gradually moved hisself in…but before he got any type of keys I was like ok…well the light bill is due on 12th, the cable bill is due on the 20th my furniture bill is due on the 30th and I love seafood, so when you go the gorcery store dont forget my shrimps and crablegs….
That nigga was not moving up in my chit w/o paying no bills….
My friend who lives the christian life until she meets a man. She tells him no Imma wait until marriage. But when HE tells her no or I am going to walk the path with you until marriage, she lay him like a rug. What medical minute do you have for this?
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Sandra does not have a medical minute for what you described but I bet FIVE @Redeemed does.
Terri B says:
HaHa You’re funny Sandy.
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You caught that.
Choco aka Hippie says:
@KanDang
You know Im just making sure and seeing if and when I fit in but uh everyone know is not addictive it’s prescribed meds
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There problem is when one abuses
and can’t stop. I don’t think it’s bad it can make me less productive which is not a good thing. There’s a time and place.
I realized my addictive personality when i started drinking lean, that chit took me over for a while.
@SANDRA
Now you know it’s safe to blame mothers for everything that is wrong with the world.
That personality test is geared toward men when the answers are revealed they keep mentioning what men will do! Im good on self-evaluated me
@ AL….YOU DID TOO HIT ME! I gotta speak the truff or you can’t get help bew!
@ FAY…that chit is real in the feel!
@Choco
Lemme find out you be at half-note! My mama and her homegirl be there like every Saturday night. You’re not partying with my mom are ya?!
Also- it is a very-nice spot. We held her retirement party in the private room off to the right side last year and it was very nice! Good music, good drinks, good food, great crowd!
Secret says:
I only got this because my addiction is for my pc. I admitted it. So thats a step in recovery isnt it
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Yes it is!
@Kang
has the opposite effect on me I become focused and productive and when it’s gone I don’t like it but Im not standing on tha corner for it Imma ask Tyrone to come inside 
SIKE
Tatted I know you see me typing to you!
@Sass
Yes I’m there that’s my girlfriends spot she loves it I support and go but I do enjoy myself
What medical minute do you have for this?
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Its called “I love the feeling of dikk, more than I love Jesus…
I know a few females like that…
@ Choco, and Sandra,
Thanks…
I just know that I have two other people lives that depends on the decisions that I make with mine, and for that I whole myself fully accountable in the fact that I WILL NOT FAIL MY CHILDREN AS A MOTHER…and plus, I think sometimes we as humans make our lives more complicated than it has to be….we all have free will and have the power to make choices….its just about making the RIGHT one… anyway stepping off soapbox now… 
and yes, Choco, I have a friend here at work that sister is struggling with the pill poping…and its a beast..she finally had to kick her out this weekend…my friend said the mood swings were a beast…and that she (her sister) is in denial…
You’re not partying with my mom are ya?!
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If she is grown and sexy than more than likely
@WUT
I didn’t know you were friends with Monica. I must have missed you in that wedding picture earlier.
Smokie says:
“such as jogging or blogging” LMAO! Most bloggers are either 1) narcisstic 2) overly nosey 3) addicted to the internet (addictive personality)!
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I C U Smokie!
And I know exactly who you’re referring to! 
Tatted Diva AKA The Makeup Maven says:
I should’ve added that the male is a “two-bit weed hustler” who smokes more than he actually sells!
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…..and in fact, up until she brought him home from the club, he had been living in that car where that said blk plastic bag had been riding shotgun.
#comeup
WUTWUZMISSIN! says:
@ Sandra
My friend who lives the christian life until she meets a man. She tells him no Imma wait until marriage. But when HE tells her no or I am going to walk the path with you until marriage, she lay him like a rug. Then she feels guilty, then when the man wants it again she tries to refrain. He leaves and she then gives in and sleeps with him even if he has moved on and is with someone else… Then he finally dogs her and she gets depressed and falls back into her christian lifestyle until the next one comes along. What medical minute do you have for this?
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TRUE STORY:
My brother in law is seeing this chic in the navy. She “SUPA SAVED” but he stays with her right? Only when she’s deployed. Then when she don’t need him no mo she gives the “this aint right” speil until her next deployment. DUDE? How many times u gonna fall for the same trick? smh
chibytex says:
What medical minute do you have for this?
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Its called “I love the feeling of dikk, more than I love Jesus…
I know a few females like that…
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I don’t see a problem as long as you love the feeling of the same dikk attached to the same man, then you’re good.
There problem is when one abuses and can’t stop. I don’t think it’s bad it can make me less productive which is not a good thing. There’s a time and place.
I realized my addictive personality when i started drinking lean, that chit took me over for a while.
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I’m 18 days weed free…this is the longest I’ve been with out weed since I moved to Chicago…I’m going to see how long I can last…its funny too cause I’m not really cranky or moody like I normally am when I dont smoke…I think its cause its a lot of positive things going on in my life right now and I dont really think I need it to feel “good” anymore…
But most people who smoke weed ALWAYS go back….
I think sometimes we as humans make our lives more complicated than it has to be….we all have free will and have the power to make choices….its just about making the RIGHT one…
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And yes my sister is in denial and I think she is a heavy user of it unfortunately I text her one day and said it’s sad that you don’t come back to the family unit she has a male friend they run a restaurant together I believe successfully but them abusing that stuff is horrible – could you explain what it does to you all I see are the mood swing but I don’t know what causes or triggers them
@KK&^
Don’t worry about it! Don’t read that Narcissism one either! I took that test and scored so high, I tried to go take other tests to make myself feel better.
I learned that i definitely suffer from Narcissistic personality disorder….and per the results, I fot the description of a person with Histrionic Personality Disorder to a “t.” My fiance read the symptoms and long drawn-out medical definition and goes: “thats YOUR azz for sure!!! Tat this sh*t on your forehead!!
Bastard.
chibytex says:
What medical minute do you have for this?
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Its called “I love the feeling of dikk, more than I love Jesus…
I know a few females like that…
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Why do people get so whipped over sex especially as bad as it is?
@YSO
“I didn’t know you were friends with Monica. I must have missed you in that wedding picture earlier.”
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I think there was a “minimum tattoo and weave” combination requirement to meet to be in the actual wedding.
I don’t see a problem as long as you love the feeling of the same dikk attached to the same man, then you’re good
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May the Choir Sing! IKTR!
Choco aka Hippie says:
@Kang
has the opposite effect on me I become focused and productive and when it’s gone I don’t like it but Im not standing on tha corner for it Imma ask Tyrone to come inside SIKE
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I used to do it before work but it would make me lose my trian of thought….. In high school it helped me stay focused on researching and doing home work.
@ AL….I DID RESPOND, PLEASE SEE POST # 73 NIGGA. DON’T COME FOR ME….
*saying this while ducking and covering my head so you won’t make contact w/the back of your hand, yet once again!*
Man, I just don’t care™ says:
“Because we can think more clearly, the non-addictive personality type might cheat once, if at all, and only during a moment of weakness.”
I can proudly say that cheating is not my thing. I do unto others as she does onto me 
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Sandra tryin to make good with one of her hoes!
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Secret says:
chibytex says:
What medical minute do you have for this?
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Its called “I love the feeling of dikk, more than I love Jesus…
I know a few females like that…
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Why do people get so whipped over sex especially as bad as it is?
Who u been knockin boots wit boo? That chit is GOOD 
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YOU STOOPID PRYN……
@Kang
before work it helps me get through my day I work oh so efficiently
I do
KDUB,
Those prescription drugs are the worst, girl..in some ways I think they are worst than those street drugs…I stumbled on this website when I was at my parents house, because my mother (who is on disability) due to two knee surgies and chronic athritis and fibro myalgia was recently prescribed methadone by her dr. at any rate, I wanted to do some research on it, and I stumbled on this website, and it ended up being about people talking about there experience on certain drugs and my eyes were like
folks were talking about getting HIGH OFF OF SPIDER AND SNAKE BITES…some people were talking about how they would down like 30 benadryl and drink a pint of vodka and the thing was a lot of these people would say how they would have grand mal seizures and go to the hospital and when they get back from the hospital they start right back at it…. IT WAS CRAZY…
Sandra Rose says:
Man, I just don’t care™ says:
“Because we can think more clearly, the non-addictive personality type might cheat once, if at all, and only during a moment of weakness.”
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Sandra tryin to make good with one of her hoes!
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I can proudly say that cheating is not my thing. I do unto others as she does onto me
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Sandrita you needed to say after that “Pun Intended!”
Sandra Rose says:
I can proudly say that cheating is not my thing. I do unto others as she does onto me
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@SASO
Tell him to shut up and “pull your plug” like a good little fetishist.
Why do people get so whipped over sex especially as bad as it is?
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Dikk is a powerful thing..but the problem is that people get getting good dikk put on them confused with love…cause sometimes a man can put that good dikk on you and it’ll make you think he really loves your ass… I know, I been through this before…and that chit is confusing cause you be like I KNOW HE AINT FUKKING THE NEXT BISH LIKE HE FUKKING ME….be in actuality he is…
@Choco & Leap
)
Maybe it’s not oxycontin. I have a whole medicine cabinet (my nightstand) full of vicodin, codeine, percocets and oxycontin that my docs have prescribed over the years. Hundreds of pills. I fill the prescriptions but get home and be too scared to take them so I just add them to the “med pile” and keep going. (Plus I figure if I’m ever in a reallly reallly tough spot…..$15 a pill.
But I was on a certain bc pill from late 07 to early 2010 and it made me crazy. Everybody could see it but me. My fiance and me actually had a two yr break (I left him) and I ran around WILD while he waited for me but the whole time, he kept saying: “something is wrong with you. You’re going crazy. You need to get checked.” I couldn’t feel it at all. My mood swings were INFAMOUS for those two years- just all around bad like I was going thru “the pause.”
Nonetheless- it turned out that the hormones in that dumb azz bc were known or causing emotional instability and the FDA was reviewing it and a class-action suit was being filed against the distributor.
I quit those pills the night I found that out and everybody said the change was like “night and day” and my man SWEARS I need to go ahead and sue that company for all the stress it cause (to him, SMH.)
Nonetheless, I’m just saying this to say, maybe it’s NOT a hard drug like the Oxyxontin. Maybe it’s something else and that’s why they’re in denial about it-they don’t realize it.
Just trying to find a silver lining here…
@ Tatt you know you fell forward off the banister then want to try to say it was me cause you was embarassed
Secret says:
Why do people get so whipped over sex especially as bad as it is?
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Um, it’s called a dopamine rush.
Did BABY approve of these photos you are USING of his Boo-Thang.. Uhh Umm I MEAN his ARTIST (Like This…)
And WHAT We Talkin’ Bout… Christians Females who are Actually SLUTS
@Yso
I’ma tell him that….next week actually. 
@ AL….TELL THE JUDGE & DA THAT!
*still ducking so contact w/backhand will not be made*
@ Fayla aka JuicyFruit
Not anyone as of late. I have no feelings at all. I know that’s bad right.
@ chibytex
That is so true
@ StillASassyOne:
I doubt you have NPD because a true NPD is in denial for life and they can’t be cured. You at least have some insight into your emotional behavior AND u seem to be in a stable realtionship, so you’re good.
@Choco
That kush be making my mind clear than a mug, I deal with people and their money I need to be on point cause they be
questions n chit but I ain’t gon lie I take a couple tokes now and then in the morning. Especially if I have a hangover then I’m smoking
before work
Thanks for the info Sass but there is no silver lining to denial in abusing drugs! I saw the change in her which made me keep my distance I don’t fuk with unpredictable! Someone could get hurt and it wouldn’t be me!
chibytex says:
I’m 18 days weed free…this is the longest I’ve been with out weed since I moved to Chicago…
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Christians Females who are Actually SLUTS
Ahahahahahh this right here!
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@Kang
Respect! wouldn’t want someone high messing with my ends
@Sandra
Thanks!! If Sandra says I am NOT a narcissist, then that means its true I’m not!! Cause You know you call people out in a hot minute! I feel better now though.
Sandra Rose says:
Secret says:
Why do people get so whipped over sex especially as bad as it is?
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Um, it’s called a dopamine rush.
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Then I am lacking that big time lol
@choco
Are you sure its something like Oxycontin though? Maybe not an anti-depressant or something else she’s prescribed and can’t really tell is affecting her?
And WHAT We Talkin’ Bout… Christians Females who are Actually SLUTS
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My friend who got mad at me…I dont want to call her a slut cause at would be wrong and I dont techinally know if she’s fukking all the niggas that she talks too, but she always has male visitors and chit… she STAYS in church though…went to MIA and had niggas breaking her off BIG TIME (buying 1200 shoes and chit but claims she didnt fukk for them)…and walking around in very revealing bath suits…and then she got mad at me cause I was like “you cant be ready for a husband if you doing all that”…she said I was judging her and who the fukk am I to say anything about what she does….I responded I’m just a married FRIEND telling your ass that you aint ready for no real man…after a couple of weeks of us not speaking, she finally started calling me again…I guess now we have a understanding…if you dont want me “judging (telling your ass the truth) then dont tell me about your little guy friends and escapades…
yall making me want some
@Secret depends on what u don’t have feelings for..ppl or sex?
@Secret
Get you a bullet. You’ll be all too familiar with a “dopamine rush” then.
#Helpful
Hey Sass,
@ Fayla aka JuicyFruit
Both, but then again I am not like the average person
YSoSerious says:
@WUT
I didn’t know you were friends with Monica. I must have missed you in that wedding picture earlier.
Yep Sadly I was too chocolate to be a bridesmaid
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So I’m the one who took the dark azz picture in the previous post outta revenge!
Especially if I have a hangover then I’m smoking before work
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That’s the best cure!!!!
@ StillASassyOne
@Sass
My girlfriend who use to work at her restaurant said she saw a huge bottle of pills fall out of her purse one day while they were in the bathroom she said she think she saw oxy on it I doubt my sister is getting it prescribed -
@Chi
Okay- wait a minute. I’ma play Devil’s Advocate here….it IS possible to get broke off without giving up the goods. Men with $$ to throw away like that on a whim typically aren’t as pressed for p*ssy as we think.
So maybe, just maybe, she really is NOT screwing any of them. Using your reasoning…. I’ve been screwing several of my bosses and previous colleagues.
Wait…my friend “Tassy” did screw on intern though. That’s not the point though, I’m just saying, it’s possible.
The settlement amount is for 426million dollars, I believe.
….I know that i felt like I was literally LOSING MY MIND.
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I can not take Claritin or birt control pills becuz of this my tubes were tied at 28 right after I delivered my son via c-section. Me and the pills did not work I think I got off them when I was 25 I didn’t like what they did to me! Im more into herbal remedies now it’s rare I take prescribed medz
i was bout to call bank of america today about damn overdraft fees
@LEap
I was on Yazmin and that sh*t made me soooo moody. I’m naturally moody, but it’s a low-key pretty mornal one. You can blatantly SEE what normally changes my moods and a lot of time, I just brush stuff off within 5-10 minutes.
But on that Yazmin- everybody said I was a PRIMO BISH!! Everybody hated me! And I could not figure out why cause I thought I was being nice. It wasn’t until after I was off of it for about a month that preople started coming around me again and telling me how strange I had been acting that I realized how bad it had gotten. And I would get real depressed real suddenly as well. I also found a site and that sh*t had all kinds of side effects. I quit that sh*t like I found out it was crack!
F*ck these drug companies!
@sass it is possible, i’ve had a guy or two give me money that i never did ANYTHING with
i guess maybe they might have been hoping for the goods but u don’t always have to give it up to get
Bank of America accounts, you have automatically been inducted into a class action suit against them. I got my notification letter in the mail on Monday. It’s about how they do the overdraft fees, and anybody that has Bank of America KNOWS
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Ha Ha Im so glad they really got a lot of money from me when I banked with them but as usual I had the last laugh they got left with the debit they charged my account! #GOOD DAY
StillASassyOne says:
@Chi
Okay- wait a minute. I’ma play Devil’s Advocate here….it IS possible to get broke off without giving up the goods. Men with $$ to throw away like that on a whim typically aren’t as pressed for p*ssy as we think.
So maybe, just maybe, she really is NOT screwing any of them. Using your reasoning…. I’ve been screwing several of my bosses and previous colleagues.
Wait…my friend “Tassy” did screw on intern though. That’s not the point though, I’m just saying, it’s possible.
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@Leapyear I have an IUD but I use the one without hormones (10 year joint) one of the best things I’ve done
@Choco – I’ve never been to the Half Note. I’ve tried hanging out different places to meet people but to no avail. I got out of a relationship two months ago and i’m ready to get back out there again, but it doesn’t seem like guys are interested…
@choco
that you guys get close again and that everything works out for the best.
Ohhh…..well I hope your sis gets better and gets the help that she needs. I’ll
wonders if “Tassy” & “Fandice” know each other
I’ve been screwing several of my bosses and previous colleagues.
Wait…my friend “Tassy” did screw on intern though. That’s not the point though, I’m just saying, it’s possible.
I’m not saying she is screwing all of them…but I’m not crazy either…she may not be having actual intercoruse…but she doing something…the dude in MIA bought her those shoes, a pretty ass Gucci, dress,paid for all her friends to get into some club that cost like $100 to get in and dinner…she said she spent the night with him, but she didnt do nothing…I’m like girl who is you fooling…Now my friend is BAD…she petite, weighs about 110 lbs, pretty as hell in the face…but she aint that that BAD…you know what I’m saying…
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If she was just honest and say I had to do what I had to do in MIA then that would be cool, but dont be acting like you the Virgin Mary with EVERY nigg@…Please…
@chibytex ain’t it tho
@SASO- Thanks, hon. I’ll definitely not worry too much about it. I think if you focus on being a better person daily, recognize your flaws/faults, and are conscious about improving– you’re doing good in my book. I know plenty of people who are of the “I know I’m a fkd up individual but it is what is” mentality.
Lil ol’ me? Well, I should get a pass if I can’t muster up some give-a-fk for titty boy and his ilk (which is usually who my lack of empathy is reserved for).
@WUT
I knew it!
@Chi
I had a lot of male visitors also I wasn’t screwing them – some were males friends of my daughters, some were my friends some were relatives that doesn’t mean anything and having a hot bod and showing it off doesn’t make you a SLUT
@Candi
I agree. You can def get the goods without giving up the goods. And if the guy spent his dough thinking he WAS going to get something, that’s his fault. Shoulda said: “same time man, same time!”
@Leap
Ooohhh!! How far back does this suit go!! I left BofA in 2005 & 2007 for exactly those reasons!! They was trying to steal money from me through my checkings, savings AND credit cards!! I got the last laugh though…left them with a $700 unpaid bill since they wanted to play games, watched it go to collections and then argued it off my credit rpeorts since I knew the collections agencies didn’t have the original docs to prove it.
#WinningLikeCharlieSheen
#FukkBankOfAmerica
Fayla says:
@Leapyear I have an IUD but I use the one without hormones (10 year joint) one of the best things I’ve done
Me too, aww chit, I only got 5 years left. 
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@sass it is possible, i’ve had a guy or two give me money that i never did ANYTHING with
i guess maybe they might have been hoping for the goods but u don’t always have to give it up to get
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How many times were you able to go to the bank on these fools without doing anything…I mean I can see 1,2 or 3 times…but eventually he gonna want something…
You must used to me spending, all that sweet whining and dining, but I’m fukking you tonight
Somebody needs to sue Chase’s azz. I refuse to pay $34 for a pack of gum.
@secret You are not alone
Not all Christian women are sluts
I’m like girl who is you fooling…Now my friend is BAD…she petite, weighs about 110 lbs, pretty as hell in the face…but she aint that that BAD…you know what I’m saying…
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WoW I went to Atlantic City and didn’t spend a dime on the $600 room by friends friend spent at the Borgata – nor did I do a thing for the $200.00 he just decided to give me on GP alone – he had a friend with him – there were no expectations of me to give up anything drank on Grand Marnier that was aged 150 years ate kobe beef satay about three plates – Some men money is long like that some men get a high off of spending money like that!
well i don’t make it a practice chiby but if i did i’m sure i would be pretty successful at it. u can def find men out there willing to buy u things off the hopes of gettin some.
and i didn’t say they didn’t want anything, i’m saying they didn’t GET anything.
@BBW how bout in sept i only got 3 left?
BUT who gone get it replaced eemeejitly is ME! 
neva see me knocked up at 40 something 
@candi (Comment #135)
And WHAT do you HONESTLY refer to these GUYS As… And Please don’t SAY “guys WHO gave me money that i never did ANYTHING with” Your response is Greatly Appreciated Though
Ohhh AND We refer to THEM as LAMES and SIMPS
@Chi
I had a lot of male visitors also I wasn’t screwing them – some were males friends of my daughters, some were my friends some were relatives that doesn’t mean anything and having a hot bod and showing it off doesn’t make you a SLUT
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No these gyus were males friends of hers that she claims are potential husbands…
And personally I feel like you dont have to walk around being extra revealing to prove you a bad bish.. its rather slutty to me…I always think ‘what would my daddy think about me wearing this?’
Yes I’m grown but that dont mean I gotta show the world ALL the goodies…
@KK76
I know your pain!
@Chi
But no lie- I’ve actually had this convo with a friend who thought I was doing the same thing. I’ve had a couple of “friends with money” who would fly me places, pay for my stuff, pay for me and my crew to get VIP sections, etc and I would stay in the same room with them but NOT sleep with them either. We would stay up all the time talking, laughing, watching dumb Family Guy shows, etc. It wasn’t a THING sexual about it. It IS possible. It seems so far-fetched to people who may not have experienced it that many automatically think a chick is lying if she’s reaping the “benefits” without giving up anything, but some people really just don’t mind sharing their “wealth” just for enjoyable company.
@Fayla
I don’t think Tassy and Fandice have ever ever met! Ever!! Not on a blog, not on skype, no where! It’d just be highly unlikely, ya know. *ahem*
@Elove i don’t refer to them as anything, and it really isn’t my concern what u refer to them as. i’m only saying that u don’t HAVE to have sex with anyone for them to spend $ on u.
Bigbadwolf says:
Somebody needs to sue Chase’s azz. I refuse to pay $34 for a pack of gum.
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girl how bout i made hubby give me his bank card? that nicca can’t manage money to save his life! i got tired of Compass bank getting 38.00 bc he wanted some chips n chit. Fluck that! that chit adds up quick!
WoW I went to Atlantic City and didn’t spend a dime on the $600 room by friends friend spent at the Borgata – nor did I do a thing for the $200.00 he just decided to give me on GP alone – he had a friend with him – there were no expectations of me to give up anything drank on Grand Marnier that was aged 150 years ate kobe beef satay about three plates – Some men money is long like that some men get a high off of spending money like that!
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I guess…so its ok and CHRISTIAN like to take a man’s money like that??? Jesus wouldnt use people like that….
Fayla,
A lady at works has the non hormonal one and she says its the best thing that she has ever done….she loves it….
Choc,
I don’t think it matters you left them holding the bag. If you had an account from like June or July 2001-May 2011 you will be getting something. It stated on the website in the court docs. that if you are no longer a BOA customer you will receive your check via mail (I think there is a number you can call to make sure your contact info is updated).
Heyyy Tatted & Fayla
@Fayla
I don’t think Tassy and Fandice have ever ever met! Ever!! Not on a blog, not on skype, no where! It’d just be highly unlikely, ya know. *ahem*
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Gotcha
@Candi & Choco
so it’s all good.
I’ve met a few men who really just don’t mind kicking out money cause they got it like that. Some may expect something, some don’t. But none have ever asked
@BBW
LOL! Don’t feel bad! BofA once had me pay $96 for 3 $1.05 transactions I made it one day…buying bottled water.
Fukk ‘em all. :coffee
@ Fayla
I know that’s right. I’ll be 35 when mine is up 
I’ve always wanted a girl though, I have 3 boys, 1 stepson and 2 are mine, which I love dearly, but every now and then I wish I had a little me.
leapyearpisces and candibfly:
how much does BofA charge you for overdraft fees? I have overdraft protection on my checking account from my savings account and BofA STILL charges me $10 just to move my own money over to my checking acct.
GAGuhl!
How u doin sexy shoes woman?
@tatted
@ KDUB…EXAAACTLY, AND THESE BE NIG’S OFF THE BLOCK ACTING LIKE THEY HUSTLING, WHILE HAVING THE NEW J’S & NIKE SOCKS IN A GARBAGE BAG…NOT EVEN A HEFTY BUT THE KIND THAT GET HOLES WAAAY TOO EASILY!
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OMG you must be talking about my 2 ex neighbors. One lived beside me and one lived upstairs from me. The chick who lived beside me moved a dude she had just met in then she got a job and I started seeing him at the pool with ole girl upstairs. Then I started hearing fighting next door for about a month. One early one morning when i was on my way to work I saw his azz with a garbage bag bump bump bumping up the stairs to move in with ole girl up stairs. I’m like “wooooowwww”. He was everything you said. Play xbox all day, smoke all day, never have lived by himself. When ole girl upstairs lost her section 8 and had to start paying like the rest of us hiz azz moved out. Back to mama’s house.
I’ve never been to the Half Note. I’ve tried hanging out different places to meet people but to no avail. I got out of a relationship two months ago and i’m ready to get back out there again, but it doesn’t seem like guys are interested…
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Maybe you need more me time you know what Im saying before moving on but casual dating isn’t bad – IDK girl I tried match.com and found a guy that was good enough to take me to dinner but that fizzed out – It really is a lil difficult meeting ppl here but I thinks that’s anywhere – I know the gym is full of men if you go you know just meeting a sparring partner could lead to something – or try half note we should get to know one another so we could hang some nights
@Sass
that is sooo sweet of you and thank you!
@Leap
“Choc,
I don’t think it matters you left them holding the bag. If you had an account from like June or July 2001-May 2011 you will be getting something. It stated on the website in the court docs. that if you are no longer a BOA customer you will receive your check via mail (I think there is a number you can call to make sure your contact info is updated).”
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I’M IN!!!! Give me the number to call please!! Is this good for the credit card part of their company too? Cause Lord….those sheisty muhfukkas….
So if you drink, smoke or do drugs…you have a addictive personality and also can’t seem to have good judgement on men? I know a lady who doesn’t drink, do drugs or smoke and she considers marriage to every guy she dates. I ask her often how is it that everyone you meet “the one”. I have yet to get a good answer. So, Sandra there goes your theory.
We would stay up all the time talking, laughing, watching dumb Family Guy shows, etc. It wasn’t a THING sexual about it. It IS possible. It seems so far-fetched to people who may not have experienced it that many automatically think a chick is lying if she’s reaping the “benefits” without giving up anything, but some people really just don’t mind sharing their “wealth” just for enjoyable company.
I’m sorry but that sorta sounds like “escorting” to me….and I’m not judging or hating…all I’m saying is that I personally dont think its right to take a man’s money like that if he aint my man or we aint together…now dinner and maybe helping me with a bill or two…yeah..but taking thousands of a dude’s money just cause… dont sit right in my concious…
I’m good, I can’t complain work is getting on a nucca’s nerve but hey at least a bish STILL employed lol How you be?
Auntie San,
USAA and Wachovia are the only banks I know of that don’t charge to move money for you. But now that Wach is Wells I believe this has gone out the window.
USAA is great because although store fronts are limited, no ATM fees, deposits can be made at UPS locations and VIA MOBILE (amazing feature). And you don’t have to be military affiliated anymore.
#IdontworkforUSAA
@sandra
i THOUGHT i had overdraft (i remember signing up for this TWICE) but they charged $10 but didn’t move the money over even tho i supposedly have overdraft protection and i think i saw a $3.5 charge that looked weird to me too
i’m going to call them and someone is going to explain this
When ole girl upstairs lost her section 8 and had to start paying like the rest of us hiz azz moved out. Back to mama’s house.
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Crying shame my friend my ARK said he won’t mess with any of the women around his city becuz they don’t have their chit together and no offense to anyone from ARK thats where he is and what he said
Some men will spend money on the off chance that they will get something in return later. And some men just like to spend money on attractive women whether they want something back or not.
But it’s very rare that you get something for nothing in this world. Depending on the people involved, this can be a very dangerous game, imo. I think a woman that takes advantage of these types of men on a regular basis is risking running into the wrong dude that is gonna want something won’t take no for an answer.
leapyearpisces says:
Fayla,
A lady at works has the non hormonal one and she says its the best thing that she has ever done….she loves it….
Choc,
I don’t think it matters you left them holding the bag. If you had an account from like June or July 2001-May 2011 you will be getting something. It stated on the website in the court docs. that if you are no longer a BOA customer you will receive your check via mail (I think there is a number you can call to make sure your contact info is updated).
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I have a BOA account and the last time I overdraft was in 2009, I don’t understand why I would get money back?
@Choco
No problem!
@Chi
I don’t think it’s “unChristian” to do that and I don’t think it’s “using.” You’re not manipulating them into spending the $$ or promising them something in return that they won’t ever get, they are really spending it SOLELY because they WANT to. Why don’t people think that is possible?!
I HATE BOA WITH ERRY FIBER OF MY BEING!!!! They lucky i ain’t a violent person no mo..bastids!
Bigbadwolf says:
@ Fayla I know that’s right. I’ll be 35 when mine is up I’ve always wanted a girl though, I have 3 boys, 1 stepson and 2 are mine, which I love dearly, but every now and then I wish I had a little me.
girls are more than a handfull! j/k I feel u though, if i didn’t have my mini-me I’m sure I’d want one too :/
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Ok if u got a neice or girlfriends with lil girls, just hang out with them sweetie
@Leap
Pls provide that number cuz them mofos had a field day with me!
Hello All. The little brown alien showing his Ralph Lauren draws. My, how special.
Traks on yor draws, traks on yo draws, Lordy Lord Lawd No traks on yo draws!
Sass,
Like Choco, you all still should get some money as long as you’ve had an account since June or July 2001 through May 2011…and these lawyers are not PLAYING with their asses either…NOT AT ALL
those court documents are in so much detail….
@Sandra
Go to Wachovia and get a “Way2Save” account and link it up as OD protection. They don’t charge to move the money over! Trust me! I ain’t never leaving Wachovia! Love em to death!
@Choco
Crying shame my friend my ARK said he won’t mess with any of the women around his city becuz they don’t have their chit together and no offense to anyone from ARK thats where he is and what he said
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wut he mean? dey don’t have their section 8 paperwork together either?
@candi (Comment #157)
Sooo TRUE because Married Men spends ALOT of money and sometimes don’t even get a Thank You… At Least THAT’S the LIES they be telling Me
But it’s very rare that you get something for nothing in this world. Depending on the people involved, this can be a very dangerous game, imo. I think a woman that takes advantage of these types of men on a regular basis is risking running into the wrong dude that is gonna want something won’t take no for an answer.
Exactly….. I was telling my friend to be careful when she told me she was staying with dude in his room…she responded “girl I got this” what if he would have tried to rape or something…You dont know what’s going through a man’s mind when his dikk gets hard…. That’s a dangerous game to play and my daddy raised me with the understanding aint chit in life for free…even if you are giving your time to a muthafukker that you dont want to…whether it be talking to him on the phone or whatever…
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*schrooling up to find out what this boa lawsuit is about*
does anyone have TD Bank?
@GA I have exactly 14 mins left in my sorry azz workday so right now I’m good.
@CHIBY
I’m with you on not feeling right excepting large amounts of money and/or expensive gifts/trips from a guy I’m not in a romantic relationship with. I wouldn’t want anybody using my sons like that even if it was with their permission.
Choc,
Settlement Administrator
Checking Account Overdraft Litigation
P.O. Box 2505
Faribault, MN 55021-9505
1-800-372-2390
@Stillasassy but Wachovia left you!
Now that they’re Wells Fargo it doesn’t look like the Way2Save will work the same. At least not with my fiancee’s account.
gonna look for my letter in the mail
I guess…so its ok and CHRISTIAN like to take a man’s money like that??? Jesus wouldnt use people like that….
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Chi why are you mentioning religion to me when Im a spiritual individual truth be told I think you are more envious of the women who have the power to be treated in this fashion Im not using anyone who offers their generosity and far as Jesus not using people WTF is wrong with you – He uses us everyday to preach his word sorry but sometime you don’t see that you are still judging by making your statements -
@Chi & Yso
Hey- you calling me an “escort” Chi, dammit?! LOL! But no- I was NOt the only one they spent money on. Some people REALLY do not give a damn about money. They have so much of it, that they’ll blow mounds of it on a stranger. I honestly think some of them look at it as “paying it forward.” Think about it like this- if youre in a club and Diddy walks in and is having such a great time, that he says: “Everybody- get whatever bottle you want and it’s on me!!” And you grab $4000 bottle of Louis XIV, is that “escorting” or “using?”
It’s the same thing. I’m still cool with all of those men and if I ever need anything, I know they got me. But they’re big spenders. PERIOD. I can guarantee you they’re somewhere tricking their dollars on their friends as we speak so…
I guess I just have a different way of seeing it.
You’re not manipulating them into spending the $$ or promising them something in return that they won’t ever get, they are really spending it SOLELY because they WANT to. Why don’t people think that is possible?!
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Most of the time these be the niggas you would NEVER give the time of day to if he was broke…and you know the nigga likes you waaaaaaaay more than you like him….so in a sense it is manipulation…he knows in order to get this pretty girl to spend some time with me, I gotta spend some money on her…
Its a game that is played both ways…
StillASassyOne says:
@Sandra
Go to Wachovia and get a “Way2Save” account and link it up as OD protection. They don’t charge to move the money over! Trust me! I ain’t never leaving Wachovia! Love em to death!
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Thanks SASO
And I agree that there are men who will pay to entertain you (i.e. trips, gifts, dough, etc..) without having had se x with you. However, I DO NOT think it’s simply sharing their wealthy or being friendly. I think ultimately the goal is always snatch.
It’s easy to spend (if you got it) and wait on the chocha (like a true predator). It’s not a big deal for some. AND it’s not like they aren’t having se x. Just not having it yet… with you. It’s easy to “wait” when you’re getting laid anyway. It’s been my experience that if I never feel so inclined to do the do, then eventually dude will slow down on the spending (as he should I guess). Nowadays, if I know that there is no way on God’s green earth that I will allow any type of champagne room business, I won’t even waste his time (or more importantly my time) with “entertainment” or trinkets. Life’s too short….
@Leap
MY BISH 
thanks bew!
StillASassyOne says:
@Chi & Yso
Hey- you calling me an “escort” Chi, dammit?! LOL! But no- I was NOt the only one they spent money on. Some people REALLY do not give a damn about money. They have so much of it, that they’ll blow mounds of it on a stranger. I honestly think some of them look at it as “paying it forward.” Think about it like this- if youre in a club and Diddy walks in and is having such a great time, that he says: “Everybody- get whatever bottle you want and it’s on me!!” And you grab $4000 bottle of Louis XIV, is that “escorting” or “using?”
It’s the same thing. I’m still cool with all of those men and if I ever need anything, I know they got me. But they’re big spenders. PERIOD. I can guarantee you they’re somewhere tricking their dollars on their friends as we speak so…
I guess I just have a different way of seeing it.
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I agree with you my grandma always told us if someone’s offering get what you want. I always think about that when I offer women things (I got to expect her to get what she wants and vice versa)
@Later
They sent me a letter, saying none of my account fees would change, upcharge or anything.
Maybe his account is newer or something?
Chi why are you mentioning religion to me when Im a spiritual individual truth be told I think you are more envious of the women who have the power to be treated in this fashion Im not using anyone who offers their generosity and far as Jesus not using people WTF is wrong with you – He uses us everyday to preach his word sorry but sometime you don’t see that you are still judging by making your statements -
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Why would I be jealous? It is my PERSONAL belief that Jesaus would not approve of taking money from a person that you dont have any serious plans to be with…the orginal comment was a response about “christian sluts”….I was really…and IMO taking money from someone like that is not judging…
wut he mean? dey don’t have their section 8 paperwork together either?
I didn’t ask but I would guess just not motivated to do much of anything but lay up with men or be underneath their man
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@SECRET
“Why do people get so whipped over sex especially as bad as it is?”
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Jesus Wept.
hat Jesaus would not approve of taking money from a person that you dont have any serious plans to be with…the orginal comment was a response about “christian sluts”….
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You would make a lot more sense if you left Jesus out of it – Jesus wouldn’t mind me taking money from a stranger if I was starving now would he! I didn’t say jealous I said envious!
candibfly says:
gonna look for my letter in the mail
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me too …… I want my money
@YSO SAID:
But it’s very rare that you get something for nothing in this world. Depending on the people involved, this can be a very dangerous game, imo. I think a woman that takes advantage of these types of men on a regular basis is risking running into the wrong dude that is gonna want something won’t take no for an answer.
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GOOD Food-for-Thought — IMO
“Snapped” showcase ALOT of Emotionally Unstable & Completely IRRATIONAL Females but their are Just As Many Males LIKE THAT out here… THIS kind of behavior can Only PROVOKE Them because LAMES & SIMPS can’t handle that kind of Rejection
ok so i took the test…..my results were
You scored 11 – 17 points. You’ll likely stay clean, but please try to avoid Vegas. . i didn’t think i had an addictive personality simply because i cant bring myself to give a **** most of the time. i just do what i do how imma do it whenever i get to doin it lol whats the opposite of addictive personality?
And I agree that there are men who will pay to entertain you (i.e. trips, gifts, dough, etc..) without having had se x with you. However, I DO NOT think it’s simply sharing their wealthy or being friendly. I think ultimately the goal is always snatch.
It’s easy to spend (if you got it) and wait on the chocha (like a true predator). It’s not a big deal for some. AND it’s not like they aren’t having se x. Just not having it yet… with you. It’s easy to “wait” when you’re getting laid anyway. It’s been my experience that if I never feel so inclined to do the do, then eventually dude will slow down on the spending (as he should I guess). Nowadays, if I know that there is no way on God’s green earth that I will allow any type of champagne room business, I won’t even waste his time (or more importantly my time) with “entertainment” or trinkets. Life’s too short….
Exactly…. niggas like that got 15 more women they tricking on…one of ya’ll will bite the bait EVENTUALLY!!!
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Blunt,
The reason you will get money back is because OF THE WAY that BOA does there overdrafts…
put in bofaoverdraftsettlements in your browser and it should take you to the official website and it will explain everything.
think some of them look at it as “paying it forward.”
So glad you spit that truth 
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We are HERE becuz Im generous also with my loveds and I do see it as paying it forward I don’t see myself being used when I offer to buy things for my loved ones but I do see it as paying it forward
usually in class action suits all u really end up with is like $2.00 bc there are so many ppl
@chiby
Actually- one of those guys is an entertainer and he could get any girl he wants. I’ve seen him try to “pull” girls when I was with him. So if he wanted me for more than that, I’m SURE he’d have made his intentions known. But he really just thought I was a cool person and he liked that although he was famous (and much richer), I’d stand up to him. I actually met him through arguing with him and he’s been cool with me every since. So it’s not always that they think you wouldnt spend time with them if they weren’t “stacking.”
And I’ve been around a few men with money who don’t even have my damn number (and have never asked), but we run in the same circles, and when I’m around….EVERYTHING and ANYTHING I want is minw on THEM.
IT’s a lot of people out there like that. People just seem to think they’re like “unicorns” or something- myths. They’re not.
@leapyearpisces
Thanks. I will that later, initally I didn’t understand because imo all the banks are effing us these fees
You would make a lot more sense if you left Jesus out of it – Jesus wouldn’t mind me taking money from a stranger if I was starving now would he! I didn’t say jealous I said envious
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But getting a nigga to pay for rooms and clothes and chit is NOT what Jesus would want you to do as a Christian…as long as you not hitting folks over the head with the bible and emailing bible quotes everyday, then is all good…but when you breaking niggas off for $1000 and saying it was a blessing in the name of Jesus…I gotta problem with that…AND
I’ve never been envious of that type of lifestyle…If I ever needed something I would ask my dad..and if he couldnt do it, that means I didnt need it…cause I’ve seen plenty of females get their asses beat, raped or killed playing with dudes emotions like that…
wut he mean? dey don’t have their section 8 paperwork together either?
I didn’t ask but I would guess just not motivated to do much of anything but lay up with men or be underneath their man
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It’s a lot of that here in TX too. but the dudes don’t care as long as she she got a place to lay their heads and dese broads be going for it. They dont’ care if the girl is working, welfare foodstamps whatever as long as she got a place for them to dip in and out. These dudes move out of mamas house then go from woman to woman. I can’t understand why these girls can’t get hip to the game.
chibytex says:
niggas like that got 15 more women they tricking on…
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Exactly. If a man wines and dines you and acts like a gentleman who’s willing to wait for your earthly goodies, it’s because he’s already getting some poon elsewhere. You’re just entertainment for him. A man like that collects pretty women as a hobby – like he collects cars. He likes looking at you. He doesn’t necessarily have to ride you.
@Chi
SO then y did my girlfriends friend spend the money on me he’s is already hittin her – becuz he wanted a threesome in the future or he just got it like that! I didn’t manipulate him and neither did she he invited us up and said all expenses were paid -
Fayla aka JuicyFruit says:
usually in class action suits all u really end up with is like $2.00 bc there are so many ppl
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It all adds up tho chit I want my 2 dollars back from BOA
Sassy says: @BBW
LOL! Don’t feel bad! BofA once had me pay $96 for 3 $1.05 transactions I made it one day…buying bottled water.
Fukk ‘em all.
See that don’t make sense, I had to argue for an hour to get them to take that chit off. It was over 35 cent and I had a dollar in my pocket. Matter of fact, it’s Uncle Sam’s fault, If it wasn’t taxes on my chit it wouldn’t have been over 
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I didnt need it…cause I’ve seen plenty of females get their asses beat, raped or killed playing with dudes emotions like that…
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I get what you are saying but you are missing my point if someone is offering Im less christian becuz I accept comeon now it sounds judgemental
@Sandra
“He likes looking at you. He doesn’t necessarily have to ride you.”
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I am actually okay with this. You spend $1000s of dollars on me. I let you just “look at me.”
What the problem ill? (a la’ Kdub)
i’ll take them $2 tho, and use it to play the lotto
@Chi
SO then y did my girlfriends friend spend the money on me he’s is already hittin her – becuz he wanted a threesome in the future or he just got it like that! I didn’t manipulate him and neither did she he invited us up and said all expenses were paid -
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Cause he’s fukking HER!! She doing it for the both ya’ll…
@Candi,
when you get it, be careful not to just thow it away, because it doesn’t look like a letter, it looks like one of those “junk mail” promo card things…(with the postage paid stamp already on it…. but it says you don’t have to have received a letter to be included…
I am actually okay with this. You spend $1000s of dollars on me. I let you just “look at me.”
“Look AT ME NOW” Im GETTN PAPER 
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I am actually okay with this. You spend $1000s of dollars on me. I let you just “look at me.”
What the problem ill? (a la’ Kdub
One day he might get tired of looking….and try and go for the gusto…withOUT your permission…
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That is so narcissisic…..
@leap yeah i gotta go thru the mail i got just sittin on the table, if it didn’t look like a statement i didn’t open it, i bet they did that on purpose so folks would overlook it! hmmph
Vainty is a sin also……
Choco aka Hippie says:
I didnt need it…cause I’ve seen plenty of females get their asses beat, raped or killed playing with dudes emotions like that…
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I get what you are saying but you are missing my point if someone is offering Im less christian becuz I accept comeon now it sounds judgemental
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Exactly Choco if someone says get what you want a person is doing themselves a disservice by not getting what they want .blank
@ StillASassyOne:
At least give me a card on my birthday. 
A lot of men have really f’ed up the game for us lesbians. Chicks think it’s okay for us to spend our hard earned money on them and not get anything in return.
Cause he’s fukking HER!! She doing it for the both ya’ll…
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You need to get outside of whatever town you are in more often – first she does not nor has ever nor will ever fuk for me! Watch what you say about my folks I don’t give a fuk how you talk about yours but RESPECT MINE!- Second she’s has known him for the past 10 years so know your facts first! Third that man is into her and her only!
SMDH! You were the roller not everyone else is!
lol damn
@ Blunt,
I know, but if I can get just ONE 35.00 overdraft fee that they unrightfully charged me, I will be happy…BOA has MADE A KILLING off of me….:sad:
I know my Aunt was in that class action suit against Rio (y’all schoolers will remember thos RIO perm commercials that was supposed to be so natural you could eat it…LOL) Well, it took ALL MY AUNTS HAIR slam out…I mean chemotherapy bald!!!
Anyway, all the people ended up getting like 5.00 or 10.00, I think it was something to the effect enough where they could go by them another perm…. 
maybe their overdraft protection is $10 bc i didn’t have $35 charge, point is tho, all ur doing is transferring MY money from my savings to my checking. this should be free
Hey Chi
Boo I could care less about my sins my GOD has already died for them that’s one less burden I have to carry and if me being BEAUTIFUL CONFIDENT AND ATTRACTIVE IS SINFUL – I don’t wanna be right! DON”T FORGET GOD MADE ME THIS WAY – I am a woman of virtue regardless of your lack of open mindness!
whatever Choco the point is…that’s her man… she fukking him so he dont mind spending money on YOU too..and you can take that how you want…. my hubby has paind for **** for my friends too..best believe at the end of the night he looking for my ass to bend over…so its same muthafukking thing…
You sure are getting so fukking defensive
Hey Chi
Boo I could care less about my sins my GOD has already died for them that’s one less burden I have to carry and if me being BEAUTIFUL CONFIDENT AND ATTRACTIVE IS SINFUL – I don’t wanna be right! DON”T FORGET GOD MADE ME THIS WAY – I am a woman of virtue regardless of your lack of open mindness!
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Ok….
@Sandra
If it makes you feel better, I am the card queen!! I got stock in Hallmark and those “Mahogany Cards.” I buy bday cards for damn near everybody who even smiles at me. Send me your address- I’ll add you to my card list if it’ll make you feel a bit better. “Somebody loves ya, babe…woah, woah, woah…”
@Chi
Vanity is a sin, telling the truth (conceit) is NOT!
go for the gusto…withOUT your permission…
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Oh well you know what happens when touch things that don’t belong to you – You get punished!
@ Candi,
LMAO!!!
That is too funny becuase HONESTLY, I am not going to lie, when I saw it and I saw it said “Bank of America” and I saw it said “lawsuit” and it was like one of those NDF statements they send I said oh lawd, what they suing me for and i placed it in my “throw away mail stash” it was only when I was going through both stashes of mail, I turned it over and saw what it was about….
@Choco
Did you just call somebody a “roller?”
SMH. I hate that I love you.
@CFREE
Anything with “AMERICA” in their company name is AUTOMATICALLY on Some KIND of Bull-SHYT (Just My Opinion…)
Chiby talking to you is like talking in circles I get offended when anyone comes at me judgemental what you just said was stupid and made your entire point moot- your hubby pays for your friends but at night he looking to bend you over so then your friend are less christian than you or are you less christian becuz you let your hubby pay for them – Girl I don’t think we should go any further Im about to blow your spot up and no hard feeling whatsoever!
@Sass
She has done things in her past and regrets them so therefore anyone who does something less christian she can call folks out GTFOH – she gonna lose a lot of friends with her hypocritical ways!
when did this become bible study? must have been earlier in the posts i ain’t read
well all sin, i don’t understand why we are pointing out different sins
@Choco
The point is that your friend’s friend doesnt having a problem paying for you cause you are friends with his WOMAN…and however he gets his pay back is through HER….
You act like I called your friend a whore or something…I just said he fukking her…if that her man is getting SOMETHING out of treating you too…
No one is judging…I think ya’ll think I’m judging cause I speak my mind…You dont think calling me a ‘roller’ is judging and a total double standard???
Sandra Rose says:
@ StillASassyOne:
A lot of men have really f’ed up the game for us lesbians. Chicks think it’s okay for us to spend our hard earned money on them and not get anything in return. At least give me a card on my birthday.
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I agree those are the type that get nothing. I took a lady to LongHorn and she went to town ordering hella drinks, apps, when it came time for entree she kept stunting. LongHorn’s ain’t expensive but I peeped she was so thirsty (telling me how she gets this n that) well when the asked how we were paying I said seperate checks please.
She has done things in her past and regrets them so therefore anyone who does something less christian she can call folks out GTFOH – she gonna lose a lot of friends with her hypocritical ways!
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Who said anything about regret? I dont regret chit I’ve done..I just grew the fukk up and started making different choices…you seem to be the one judging and speaking on chit you no NOTHING about…
And if my friends cant take the heat of me telling them how I feel then fukk it..at the end of the day…I ALREADY got a husband and baby to take of…they trying to get where I am….
, i don’t understand why we are pointing out different sins
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Becuz HYPOCRISY LIVES!
@sassy you may be right re: it being a new account. I love that he can text money to my account now that the switch to Wells is done.
Sooo mad my work
wont let me take the test on Mens Health! That sux… 
@Chiby
Cause he’s fukking HER!! She doing it for the both ya’ll…
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This sounds and implies sluttiness taking my friend out of the equation I’ve had a complete stranger give me 100.00 to get my car out of being towed stay with him that night got to his place @ 6a two hours later tow company opened he got nuthing from me but a god bless you and a hug!
you seem to be the one judging and speaking on chit you no NOTHING about…
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I only know what you tell me and as far as me calling you a roller to me is in alignment with you implying Im less christian people fight differently hun
No because the somebody started talking about Christan Whores…my point is I dont believe that’s very Christian to take money from men that you have NO intentions with…I’m not fukking talking about your homeboy, your friends man, Im talking about meeting random niggas and taking thousands of dollars from them. Its called using…
And its VAIN!!
If I’m judging then what the **** ever…its MY truth..its dont have to yours or anybody elses…
soooooooooooooooo @choco & @chi getting it innnnnnnn
What comment # should I start at?
@CANDI
That’s what I was just wondering…
@CHIBY
While I agree with you on some points, it seems like you’re judging when you accuse people of being un-Christian or less Christian or whatever. And you tend to bring God and Jesus into it when someone disagrees with your opinions when one thing doesn’t have anything to do with the other.
Just my observations, take them any way you like.
I’ve had a complete stranger give me 100.00 to get my car out of being towed stay with him that night got to his place @ 6a two hours later tow company opened he got nuthing from me but a god bless you and a hug!
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I said THOUSANDS OF dollars…not somebody blessing you…
@Leap…sis do NOT use the ATM at the BOA on the corner of Davis Drive and 54. That muthafukka EATS debit cards. On your lunch break. I only HAD $56 and I wanted $20 of it to eat lunch with for the rest of the week. Had to get my azz out and actually GO into the bank. Bastids. Dayum RIGHT I want allllllllll my overdraft fees back.
Chi What does vanity have to do with accepting kind gestures? Kind of like an inflated sense of entitlement kind of vain? Thank you for taking the time to clarify your meaning in a conversation I wasn’t even a part of
Churches ’round here enthusiastically and wholeheartedly take money from folks they have no intentions with daily/weekly/hourly- even via paypal!
, Im talking about meeting random niggas and taking thousands of dollars from them. Its called using…
And its VAIN!!
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Cant use someone thats a wiling participant…. And its not called taking if someone is “giving” to you…. Im Just Saying
The side affect of this condition is called HIV and other STD’s.
I said THOUSANDS OF dollars…not somebody blessing you…
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After this Im thru if someone spent thousand of dollars on me yes I would consider it a blessing especially if I didn’t have it to spend bottom line your friend is no more unchristian than you #GOOD DAY!
While I agree with you on some points, it seems like you’re judging when you accuse people of being un-Christian or less Christian or whatever. And you tend to bring God and Jesus into it when someone disagrees with your opinions when one thing doesn’t have anything to do with the other.
Just my observations, take them any way you like.
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The topic was CHRISTIAN WHORES….
We were talking about women who sleep with different men and do all kinds of things that wouldnt be cosidered GODLY…but then they always quoting the bible…
ONCE again its MY opinion that its not Christian like to take money from people that you have NO intentions with…I’m talking about blessings…I’m talking rooms, trips, clothes, and wack ass material chit that dont mean nothing…
Anyway I digress…cause apparently…everytime I say something I’m judging…
Im talking about meeting random niggas and taking thousands of dollars from them. Its called using…
And its VAIN!!
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Also CHI she was in MIAMI for goodness sakes not surprised at all by that – you should be happier that she came out unscathed than worried about if she is using someone or not – but I always use my third eye good for you to know!
Chi What does vanity have to do with accepting kind gestures? Kind of like an inflated sense of entitlement kind of vain? Thank you for taking the time to clarify your meaning in a conversation I wasn’t even a part of
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the vainy part came when somebdoy said if a person wants to pay me to look at me, then what’s wrong with that….
That kinda vain…
Churches ’round here enthusiastically and wholeheartedly take money from folks they have no intentions with daily/weekly/hourly- even via paypal
SO true how ironic that they are now less christian becuz I have no intention of being with the church #COMEDY 
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Also CHI she was in MIAMI for goodness sakes not surprised at all by that – you should be happier that she came out unscathed than worried about if she is using someone or not – but I always use my third eye good for you to know
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I was happy…but then she sending pics of the shoes the nigga bought and texting me saying that he did this and that for her and friends like I’m suppose to co-sign…and like I said… I wouldnt have a problem if she wasnt the one sending biblical quotes and beating the preacher to church every Sunday….PLUS she’s a teacher…its just mad hypercritical…IMO
@CHIBY
But I thought the Christian whores thing was a joke made by ELOVE based off of WUT’s comment about her friend. I didn’t think it was meant to start some serious discussion about Godlessness, you’re the one that took it there.
And I believe you have a right to think and feel however you want based on your personal experiences and perspectives. Just like everybody else here.
You feel like you’re constantly being singled out and/or attacked when I think it’s really just some of us have strong opinions about your strong opinions.
But, hell I could be completely wrong and like I said, you have a right to feel how you want to feel.
I started having anixety attack in October last year. Don’t know why but my dr who is a sister, prescribed me 7 Zanax pills. I was scared to use them but I did sometimes, pinches off pieces because I wsa scared I would become addictied. They last until Feb. Then she prescribed me 15 and I have 4 1/2 left. I started working out, going to yoga and meditating and i get an anxiety attack maybe once a month vs having them weekly. I think it was stress. My 20 had a breakdown in College. My 17 year was graduating from HS. My son was talking too much at school and my husband wanted to have sex all the time. I becoming tired of everyone and wanted to pack my bags and move out the house! I’ve seen addicts around me (alcohol, drugs, sex) and all my life. I just wanted to figure out what the real problem was and not medicate it. Get to the root of it.
@MsPretTiTi (Comment #263) SAID:
Cant use someone thats a wiling participant…. And its not called taking if someone is “giving” to you…. Im Just Saying
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If “Willing Participant” is someone that’s NOT CLUELESS and Already KNOWS IN THE DOOR he doesn’t have a Chance IN LIFE of Enjoying YOUR Sexual-Kindness … Then I TOTALLY AGREE !!!
@laterthan…I have USAA and yes they are amazing…just got my homeloan thru them…but they are not open to the general public. You have to be affiliated with the military or govt employee. I also have a credit union account strictly for the military. Best rates ever and benfits.
I’m had the fortunate experience of living many places and I’m calling the DMV home for now…My single girl friends dating experiences are laughable! The stories I hear these men telling these women and they be falling for th at ish.
Half Note is a JOKE!
You feel like you’re constantly being singled out and/or attacked when I think it’s really just some of us have strong opinions about your strong opinions.
But, hell I could be completely wrong and like I said, you have a right to feel how you want to feel.
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I was only giving an example of a person that I know tht may fit tht title, just like everybody else…it feels like when I say something I hit a nerve and people get defensive…I never men to attack or name call…and I know I never name call..but certain people dont give the same respect…
I’m a very passionate person…and sometimes thats my gift and curse…but the people in my life that love me understand that…nothing I ever do is malicious and I’m only looking out for what I think is best…me and my friend have since then made-up and gotten past this…but I think we needed to go through this so that we can better understand each other…she tell me that I’m a spoiled, selfish, ungrateful brat…but she wouldnt have me any other way…
Its called being HONEST with your friends and not always telling them what they want to hear…
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I started working out, going to yoga and meditating and i get an anxiety attack maybe once a month vs having them weekly. I think it was stress.
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Stress is the Number one Killer it sets off so many other problems…
@Cali
Maybe Half NOTE just isn’t your thing but I doubt most folks would call it a joke it’s not in the hood security as in POLICE OFFICERS make sure the parking lot is secure when women are leaving the place is clean and the music is great – Maybe there’s a difference in our ages!
If “Willing Participant” is someone that’s NOT CLUELESS and Already KNOWS IN THE DOOR he doesn’t have a Chance IN LIFE of Enjoying YOUR Sexual-Kindness … Then I TOTALLY AGREE !!!
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I agree too!!!
If “Willing Participant” is someone that’s NOT CLUELESS and Already KNOWS IN THE DOOR he doesn’t have a Chance IN LIFE of Enjoying YOUR Sexual-Kindness … Then I TOTALLY AGREE !!!
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Exactly my point…. Beleive it or not, some people actually just get off on giving and making others happy…. so it can be a win,win situation lol.
I WISH PEOPLE STOP USING THE WORD DIGRESS……JUST ME!
If “Willing Participant” is someone that’s NOT CLUELESS and Already KNOWS IN THE DOOR he doesn’t have a Chance IN LIFE of Enjoying YOUR Sexual-Kindness … Then I TOTALLY AGREE
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Well this is what I’ve been talking about the whole time!
Exactly my point…. Beleive it or not, some people actually just get off on giving and making others happy…. so it can be a win,win situation lol.
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It must be only a handful in the world….or these niggas are sent from heaven by Jesus himself….but mostly its cause they enjoy looking at a pretty face and enjoy your company….
That’s called making an investment….
But you know what even when MEN know they can’t get – its like that dopamine thing Sandra was talking about they aren’t fearful of the hunt! So yeah I agree with PrettiTits it’s a win win
I WISH PEOPLE STOP USING THE WORD DIGRESS……JUST ME!
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I’m sorry…per se, I digress….
@Choco
… You damn sure have!
@Chiby
Maybe its the part of the world you live in… There are plenty of men like that in the DMV!
@Choco aka Hippie: Me and some girlfriends went up there one week-end. Couldn’t see the stage, the sound system was horrible, the food was less than. I’m still trying to figure out something good to say. Hmph not in the ghetto? It’s in PG County.
Choco aka Hippie says:
But you know what even when MEN know they can’t get – its like that dopamine thing Sandra was talking about they aren’t fearful of the hunt! So yeah I agree with PrettiTits it’s a win win
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But is it RIGHT to take the money….that is all I was saying…
You feel it is, I feel its not and that eventually what goes around comes around….karma is a bish…and I’m very afraid of her….
@Cali
K no offense but how old are you and yeah I get what you are saying about PG but be honest Half NOTE is not located in a bad area – Have you ever been to the Stadium that place is live – it’s a gentlemens club but nothing like a strip club great food and music but my girlfriend like half note I support her
Maybe its the part of the world you live in… There are plenty of men like that in the DMV
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well in Chicago, them niggas be a) 500lbs b)pimps setting up their investments c) crazy rapist men or d) niggas with LOW self esteem…
sup and shyt, still on topic?
@ Chiby….. DAYUM IT YOU!
@Chiby
You are blowing me with your same line of questioning WOMAN UP and read my responses I won’t entertain this any longer – You have the answer to your question – and chile boo pls stop with the right and wrong that’s all relative!
well in Chicago, them niggas be a) 500lbs b)pimps setting up their investments c) crazy rapist men or d) niggas with LOW self esteem…
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I’ll take D Alex for a thousand!
well in Chicago, them niggas be a) 500lbs b)pimps setting up their investments c) crazy rapist men or d) niggas with LOW self esteem…
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OHHHH KKKKKKKKKKK so all the men in the world portray the men in chicago that’s why I said you need to get out and about more often like!
I’ll take D Alex for a thousand!
Ahhh that was GREAT LOL
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@ Choco…SHE’S BLOWING YOU???? CAN I BLOW YOU TOO?
Chi, stop talking about our men!
There are decent guys errwhere, you just got to find them and respect yourself IN THE BEGINNING.
(I ain’t read nan comments)
YAAAAAAAAAAAAAALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL
IDK
@Choco aka Hippie: I’ve never heard of the Stadium. But I don’t get out much, I travel frequently for work. 34
I’ll take D Alex for a thousand!
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RIGHT!!!!!!!!
anyways I gotta get supper ready for my hubby….
I’ll be wearing my black robe and bringing my gavel back tomorrow….
Oh shyt, yall all serious up in here.
*sets up naked hopscotch* Anybody….
It must be only a handful in the world….or these niggas are sent from heaven by Jesus himself….but mostly its cause they enjoy looking at a pretty face and enjoy your company….
That’s called making an investment….
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Thats your opinion, and I def respect it… But yes these people are around more than you know….
SHE’S BLOWING YOU???? CAN I BLOW YOU TOO?
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Bish y you make me have a visual and then I felt crazy cuz my friend always blows in her (NICHOLE)
*whispers* Choco, what’s IDK stand for?
#aintgotnofbortweetsoijustdontknow
Ms. Choco (Comment #281) and @Tatted (Comment #294)
… 
And @chibytex (Comment #290) is Pretty DAMN Accurate (To ME…)
@Choco
and for the record, I’ve seen this in Texas, Lousiana, IL, NY…..
I was only talking about guys here in Chicago….
@Ya’ll
You know MOST niggas in the Chi aint finna buy a bish a 6 wing dinner if aint getting no puzzi at the end of the night…and the bish better be asking for Shark’s or JJ’s….Popeyes is outta the question….
@ CHOCO….
@Cali
Do female naked bods bother you if so may not be your place but best believe you will find an option of men – and they are respectful I highly recommend Stadium its for the sexy folk! 34 good to meet you Im 40…
You know MOST niggas in the Chi aint finna buy a bish a 6 wing dinner if aint getting no puzzi at the end of the night…and the bish better be asking for Shark’s or JJ’s….Popeyes is outta the question….
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Are we speaking from experience???
@Tatted
You bring out the DEVIL in me girl so glad you are nowhere close we would be the biggest Hypocrites of SR
and for the record, I’ve seen this in Texas, Lousiana, IL, NY…..
I was only talking about guys here in Chicago….
Ok well sound like you need to make your way to the east coast
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@Tatted
Naw….Cause my hubby whined and dined…and courted me before we got together…dinners and movies, and lil nice things like that…but he aint your typical dude from Chicago…he’s been around the world…(in the military) and his mama is a retired principal…he aint your typical “west/southside”
@Chi, I can’t cosign on that because all my life I have NEVER NOTbeen fed (& fed good)–so good a bish can’t cook now. (But that’s another story for another day).
I think that the beginning matter a HUGE deal. I bet if more chicks didn’t give these dudes the time of day, they (the dudes) would be forced to come correct (or at least more correct than in the past).
*whispers* Choco, what’s IDK stand for?
Bish y you come in here all late making me have tears in my eyes Imma do the 
#DOI for you – watch closely 
IDK I DONT KNOW 
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@ Choco….I WOULD DEFINITELY BE GOING HOME W/MY PANNIES INSIDE OUT IF WE STAYED CLOSE TO ONE ANOTHER!
<–Repping for the "cool" dudes from the west and south sides
@Choco aka Hippie – No, naked female bods don’t bother me, I see one at least 3 or 4 times a day in my full length mirror : ) I may have to stroll through that joint with my man one night. Nice to meet ya as well. Ya’ll enjoy the rest of day/evening.
I WOULD DEFINITELY BE GOING HOME W/MY PANNIES INSIDE OUT IF WE STAYED CLOSE TO ONE ANOTHER!
CUT IM DONE 
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Girl see there you go again I was about to be crass but I will say this “MAN IN THE BOAT” Looking like a PEACH SEED
PLUS, when he met me I had my own chit, (crib, job, traveling) he knew he was gonna have to step it up…
Its all about expectations…but if he was offering me a diamonds and paying for big material chit like that, I probably wouldnt have gotten with him, cause I would have thought that something was up with him…
What is DOI?
Well, riddle me this, why did you IDK to me in #299. Because IDK!!!!
*hands tissue to wipe eyes*
@Cali
You guys would enjoy it – it’s not raunchy at all Have a GOOD ONE!
@ Choco…..
(this is actually cognac)
DON’T GO THERE, CHOCO! Dealing w/me, you will swear off skinny bish’s only fugg with size 14 & up!
TRUST, IT HAS BEEN DONE PLENTY OF TIMES!
TRUST, IT HAS BEEN DONE PLENTY OF TIMES!
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I in no uncertain circumstances would ever doubt you
Exaaaactly, Ya’ll, except, they’d be a lil’ bit bigger!
…..got stopped by a lady cop
Choco, it’s
DOH
AND W/THAT, GOOD NIGHT EVERYONE!
Tat, those were the ‘split thongs’
@WCC
and :prays I don’t get pulled over
Awww
@ YALL
Tomato Tomoto
but if he was offering me a diamonds and paying for big material chit like that, I probably wouldnt have gotten with him, cause I would have thought that something was up with him…
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Chi, I think here’s where we think differently. I always thought about it like: Some guys want Big houses/condos, or Mercedes or BMWs (etc) and they pay those kinds of mortgages/carnotes because they are paying for what they like and feel they deserve, & when you want a high quality woman (cultured,can take anywhere,always dressed right) then the guy knows that just like the carnotes, he has to pay for the upgrades-& that’s why certain guys go after certain chicks. They know they have to come correct. I hope this made sense ( or at least reads right…)
Anyway
I had to go back to work but kudos for Yall/Pretti/Choco for holding down the POV for the chicks who know that rich men who like to spend money just to spend money are not FAIRYTALES!!
I feel sorry for the Chicago sisters if the men there don’t even think ya’ll are special enough to split the $20 3-course special at Applebees. That’s sad!
Potato Po tat o
I’m in the Chi. & All exes were properdopper! (I used to say that word
)
POV? *puts up my security screen so Choco can’t throw a to mato at me*
@Yall
POV = “point of view”
Don’t you watch porn?! You should know that by now!
Do You Have an Addictive Personality?
You scored 11 – 17 points. You’ll likely stay clean, but please try to avoid Vegas. Well Auntie, I went to Vegas & believe it or not didn’t drink & I don’t gamble! However I stayed shopping! Oh and did I mention I
for medicinal reasons, and to keep from 
somebody up!
*puts porn on to do list*
@Choco…I think it was your comment that mentioned you once had a man pay for your car to be towed and let you spend the night with no problem. That’s good, I’m glad you were safe, but weren’t you worried about that? If he was willing to pay for the car to be towed ($100), why not just ask him for the money for a cab ride home?
special enough to split the $20 3-course special at Applebees. That’s sad!
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@Double
Cuz that would be $200.00 and furthermore no on in MD was driving me back down to DC to retrieve my car -
@Double
No I wasn’t worried actually may sound silly but I wasn’t
Chi, I think here’s where we think differently. I always thought about it like: Some guys want Big houses/condos, or Mercedes or BMWs (etc) and they pay those kinds of mortgages/carnotes because they are paying for what they like and feel they deserve, & when you want a high quality woman (cultured,can take anywhere,always dressed right) then the guy knows that just like the carnotes, he has to pay for the upgrades-& that’s why certain guys go after certain chicks. They know they have to come correct. I hope this made sense ( or at least reads right…)
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Love the way you put that spin on it
looking at that picture..this is the shiiiit that makes me mad.. That chick would not date wayne if he was still in magnolia projects… i have no problem with interaccial couples but cmon nah.. I bet she never dated a black man in her life and never looked his way
to see this **** and the dumbness of the black men yo dog she only looking at the bank rolls…dummies ..Now if wayne weren wayne would she date him noooooooooooooo