Man Commits Suicide Hours After Marrying High School Sweetheart

Sandra Rose November 22, 2011

A 28-year-old Bronx man who felt pressured by his high school sweetheart into marrying her, took his own life hours after the wedding.

Fernando Brazier left a suicide note at the front desk of the Radisson Hotel in New Rochelle, New York, where he married 26-year-old Trudian Hay the day before. His wedding ring was inside the envelope, according to Mr. Brazier’s sister Shawna Weeks.

“He said he couldn’t take anymore, and to take care of his kids,” she told the NY Post.

Police recovered Brazier’s body at the bottom of the Harlem River — where his suicide note indicated he would be.

Police say he jumped either from a building or the promenade behind it. No foul play is suspected.

Brazier and Hay met in high school. They had two daughters together. Brazier, whose parents were divorced, wanted a stable home for his daughters.

Family members said Brazier suffered from depression in the months leading up to the wedding.

“He would tell me that Trudy was a good person [but] he didn’t want to marry her; he was feeling like he was pressured,” Ms. Weeks told the NY Post.

Brazier was last seen leaving the Radisson Hotel around 9 a.m. on Sunday. Hotel staff saw him climb into a taxi after leaving the note. Family members said Brazier did not seem distressed during the wedding reception on Saturday.

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NaijaGal

I heard about it this morning…didn’t know it was a black man, not that it matters…just sad…suicide is the most selfish act one can do imo
http://www.philly.com/ Jay Bee

Bullllll. The demon is a liar … to check out for being pressured
OutsidetheBox

Naija black males have some of the highest rates of suicide unfortunately.

No insurance for the kids. Sad.
http://www.philly.com/ Jay Bee

suicide is a coward move
Eazy Does It

Why do people feel they “have” to do things like this…be a man and dont get married for convience.
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

THE GRANDEST NARCISSISTIC ACT OF ALL

HE KILLS HIMSELF AND BLAMES HER, SO NOW HE WANTS HER TO LIVE WITH HER ALLEGEDLY CAUSING HIS DEATH IN FRONT OF THE WHOLE WORLD & DEALING WITH AND EXPLAINING IT TO THEIR CHILDREN

SELFISH-ARRGGGHHH

SATAN I REBUKE U!!!!!
Posche

Oh my! When I hear of suicides I immediately think of that person burning in hell for all eternity. So sad!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xJewNV_LhnE&feature=player_embedded Zoe B.

No insurance for the kids. Sad.
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I know. Suicide automatically voids any life insurance he had. It’s sad but also angering that he didn’t think about his children. Why do people forget that they have a mind that can make decisions? Saying I don’t want to marry you isn’t that hard
Smokie

Damn, he REALLY didn’t want to be with her. Weak.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xJewNV_LhnE&feature=player_embedded Zoe B.

INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:

THE GRANDEST NARCISSISTIC ACT OF ALL

HE KILLS HIMSELF AND BLAMES HER, SO NOW HE WANTS HER TO LIVE WITH HER ALLEGEDLY CAUSING HIS DEATH IN FRONT OF THE WHOLE WORLD & DEALING WITH AND EXPLAINING IT TO THEIR CHILDREN

SELFISH-ARRGGGHHH

SATAN I REBUKE U!!!!!

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Mannie

So in order to escape he kills himself and ruins countless other lives????

I will never understand suicide…
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

HE DID EXACTLY WHAT HE WANTED TO DO, PUNISH THOSE HE LEFT BEHIND -INDEFINITELY

NARCISSIST ARE VERY VERY COLD-HEARTED & CALCULATIING
Bootcampgirl

This is crazy and sad all wrapped in one. R.I.P. Mr. Brazier and family.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xJewNV_LhnE&feature=player_embedded Zoe B.

Now she has to live with somebody would rather be die and abandon their children than to be married to her
Mannie

Posche says:

Oh my! When I hear of suicides I immediately think of that person burning in hell for all eternity. So sad!
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Wow that was extra… to the with that
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xJewNV_LhnE&feature=player_embedded Zoe B.

Family members said Brazier did not seem distressed during the wedding reception on Saturday.

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Are they blind? That person looks like the walking dead in the above photo
OutsidetheBox

“…PUNISH THOSE HE LEFT BEHIND…”

I agree. Very “noah bish. Ive got the last laugh”

SOOOOOO cold and calculating! Now the kids blame her, his parents, etc.!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xJewNV_LhnE&feature=player_embedded Zoe B.

Even the preacher knew……
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4r7wHMg5Yjg Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

selfish..just selfish <—smdh

what a legacy to leave for his children
caligirl

scrolls up to read…hold on
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JDHXThl93OI&feature=fvwrel OHoney

well dayum, was it that bad?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4r7wHMg5Yjg Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

is that OTB??
Chgoprime

I don’t believe the statistics about black men having a high suicide rate. But to jump your ass out the window after getting married? Do Black men really oppose marriage this much? This is just a new low…
caligirl

I’m lost for anything postive to say…..There is more to this than just depression.
Smokie

Yeah, he was wrong for doing it, but she was wrong for trying to make a house and a home with a depressed security guard. Was marriage THAT important? She’s all happy faced in the pic and TOTALLY oblivious that he doesn’t even want to be doing this. If he could talk he’d probably say, “OK you had your precious wedding. Happy NOW?” I just can’t feel too sympathetic. I try, but I can’t.
caligirl

Zoe B. says:

Now she has to live with somebody would rather be die and abandon their children than to be married to her
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Like what kind of crazy bish is she?
sexyphillygirl

If he suffered from depression it is something that can be so deep no one can understand, my heart goes out to the family. Depression can make you do things you thought you would never do, its sad that he didnt think his life was worth anything and he left children behind which makes it worse.
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

I DON’T THINK THIS INCIDENT IMPLIES ANY SORT OF CONSENSUS FOR ALL OR EVEN A PORTION OF BLACK MEN IN REGARDS TO MARRIAGE

THIS IS ONE INDIVIDUAL WHO WAS OBVIOUSLY TROUBLED WHO DECIDED TO TAKE HIS LIFE, THE IRONY IS HE DID SO AT A TIME THAT MOST BELIEVE A NEW CHAPTER OF THEIR LIVES HAS JUST BEGAN & ARE VERY HAPPY AND HOPEFUL FOR THE FUTURE, IT’S TRAGIC THAT HE “CHOSE” THIS PARTICULAR TIME TO KILL HIMSELF & THAT IN ITSELF MAKES THIS SITUATION QUITE UNIQUE AND THAT MUCH MORE DISTURBING!!!!
free

damn! keep this on the low low or this might start a trend. at least he did himself instead of them.

we need to start putting the marriage before the children people….
alabasterboi

I know. Suicide automatically voids any life insurance he had

actually my cousin commited sucidie and the insurance paid her son her death benefits, its usually after 3/4 years it doesnt matter how you die..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

dude, , shoulda just told everybody to kick rocks and not married this chick if it was THAT serious…sounds like he had some other stuff going on along with this…
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

C’MON NOW NOBODY CAN MAKE SOMEONE KILL THEMSELVES

THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT THIS MAN WANTS PEOPLE TO DO, BELIEVE SOMEONE ELSE LEAD HIM TO TAKE HIS LIFE

ARE YOU SERIOUS????GTFOH, HE HIMSELF MADE THAT DECISION THIS IS A MENTAL HEALTH ISSUE TO SAY THE LEAST
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UVWchAnyH6k&feature=fvwrel ALBoy

This is crazy when I read the title I was hoping he killed himself with at least money left for the family I dont get Suicide Either and I agree with Posche
chocolate divalicious aka CD

Damn talk about the ulitimate guilt trip. You go through with the marriage and then kill yoself. Geesh well at least he didnt kill her and the kids also.
melEmel

Wow! Sad story all the way around. But on a completely different note, dude must have been going through some things because he looks WAAYY older than 28. RIP!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

and for the record, I really think that folks should not adhere to “pressure” to get married. Years ago my father was pressured into marrying his long time girlfriend. Her parents were strong in the church and she had like 3 kids from a previous marriage and was living with my dad. He was not ready to marry her but he did it anyway and that chit ended SO tragically. It didn’t even last a year…
http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco aka Hippie

If he suffered from depression it is something that can be so deep no one can understand, my heart goes out to the family. Depression can make you do things you thought you would never do, its sad that he didnt think his life was worth anything and he left children behind which makes it worse.
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Yeah I can’t call him selfish or otherwise just wish he was stronger and had more self love Really sad tho! Such a blessed well not in this case but really cray!
http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco aka Hippie

at least he did himself instead of them.
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Sad but true!
http://myspace.com/afiya00 Afiya

That’s AWFUL…he didn’t have much love for her to put her through this…so sad!
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

AND FOR THE RECORD YOU CAN’T MAKE NOBODY DO ISH

IF THAT WAS THE CASE WE ALL WOULD BE MARRIED BEFORE HAVING KIDS, ALL NON PARTICIPATING & MIA DADDIES WOULD BE INVOLVED IN THEIR CHILDREN’S LIVES

IF WE HAVE THE POWER TO MAKE THEM KILL THEMSELVES, WOULDN’T WE HAVE THE SAME POWER TO MAKE THEM DO ANYTHING ELSE, I’M JUST SAYING?!?!

TWO PEOPLE HAVE TO CONSENT AND SIGN TO BE MARRIED-C’MON SON
goat76

Are they blind? That person looks like the walking dead in the above photo
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@Zoe…LOL…I thought that dude was her daddy or uncle, and not the husband. He really look stressed and aged too.
sexyphillygirl

@Afiya-he didnt love himself let alone somebody else.
sexyphillygirl

His age has to be a misprint daym that I can see 38 or 48 or 58 but 28???
OutsidetheBox

@Chgoprime, there is ample research if youd like to know more. I didnt just spout that. And “males” includes a large percentage of teens. We all know teens arent “fully formed” and suicide happens…deppression is powerful. Imagine what it can do to teens and then adults when left unchecked.
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

Wow just wow imagine how the wife feels guilt is all he left her with
OutsidetheBox

I dont think it had anything to do with the marriage.

Depression is an illness like others…if left to fester and sore…
OutsidetheBox

@Fayla.
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

How was he forced? and if he was already depress why marry her?
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

And i agree drepresion is a dam beast if u have no support or just dont have that back bone to get thru it
http://youtu.be/W_CQEcLXe-E YSoSerious

I don’t know what to say about this post…So I don’t think I’m a say anything at the moment.
Tatted Diva AKA The Makeup Maven

I was just about to begin lurking and saw this. I feel bad that he felt strongly enough to kill himself BUT pressure to get married???? WTF!
I understand you don’t have to marry everyone that you pop children with, but you have been w/her since high school, had 2 children w/her and was living together…..I MEAN, WHY WOULDN’T SHE WANT TO GET MARRIED?! She was prolly thinking “we’re acting like we’re married!” Then to leave “take care of my kids” in his note!!!! He couldn’t even do that since he decided to take his own life and leave them with no money…………..

I.JUST.CAN’T!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xJewNV_LhnE&feature=player_embedded Zoe B.

INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST says:

AND FOR THE RECORD YOU CAN’T MAKE NOBODY DO ISH

IF THAT WAS THE CASE WE ALL WOULD BE MARRIED BEFORE HAVING KIDS, ALL NON PARTICIPATING & MIA DADDIES WOULD BE INVOLVED IN THEIR CHILDREN’S LIVES

IF WE HAVE THE POWER TO MAKE THEM KILL THEMSELVES, WOULDN’T WE HAVE THE SAME POWER TO MAKE THEM DO ANYTHING ELSE, I’M JUST SAYING?!?!

TWO PEOPLE HAVE TO CONSENT AND SIGN TO BE MARRIED-C’MON SON

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You are making some very good points today
Lovely One

Why are men so afraid of commitment? What woman wants to be a girlfriend for 20 years? Yeah, I bet she pressured him…pressured him to grow the hell up.
candibfly

me either yso, that’s why i’m just eatin the Thanksgiving lunch and watching
BlackBeauti

This is heartbreaking…. The wife will have to live with the guilt and have to deal with his family for causing his death and the children will suffer the most…. I pray for all involved…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hBrmhl70e38 Unpredictable

I just can’t with this story. I have never dealt with anyone that suffered from depression, but to kill yourself, blame someone else, and leave them to pick up the broken pieces that you left, IMO is selfish.

Heyyyy Everybody
sexyphillygirl

@Lake-yes and if everybody around you is beating you in your head telling you to marry a person and you are depressed it can lead to this. Again not taking up for him but if depression is left untreated this can be the end result.
http://youtu.be/W_CQEcLXe-E YSoSerious

(reaches over and steals some turkey off of CANDI’s lunch plate)
gypsyeyes

I wonder if she will be able to date after this cause if I knew that someone would rather die that be with you I would be hesitant.
http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco aka Hippie

Im speculating but maybe he wasn’t who she thought he was and he struggled with that
free

men don’t think the same as women…. they aren’t usually ready when women are ready. he probably wasn’t ready to be a father either but he did what he had to do.

then he’s got two sides of his family asking every day when are you going to marry her because it’s been x number of years of y’all shacking up. so one day he buys her a ring to shut everybody up and bam! she has it all planned out and it’s going to happen asap!

his money is tight, he has boucoup wedding expenses. she has a new attitude now that she is about to be a wife. and he suffers from depression. not wanting to disappoint anyone, he shows up for the wedding and goes through the motions.

everybody is all happy, dancing around and shyt but nobody pays attention to his feelings or needs. so he writes his lil letter and jumps off a building.

pure speculation on my part though…. i just feel for those little girls who need their father.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hBrmhl70e38 Unpredictable

*rubs eyes* Is that, Gypsy?????????

Heyyyyyyyy
http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco aka Hippie

SUP MIRS Lakes Sexy erryone Happy Gobble Day
ashersaharai

So sad, there has to be a underlying factor to this,
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JDHXThl93OI&feature=fvwrel OHoney

*faints* Is that Gypsy???
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hBrmhl70e38 Unpredictable

Choco!!!!!!
http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco aka Hippie

:2dance: Today I start my HOliday I was gonna come in tomorrow but woke up this morn and was like NAHHHHHHHH
AllNYC

You can’t be concerned for your children and leave them with this kind of legacy. If this woman has been a good woman, don’t leave this earth blaming her for your illness.
I have suffered from depression and I know that it can take you to some dark places. The thought of burning in hell was too much for me. Find a reason every day to live. Reach out for help.

FYI – Most private insurance have a suicide clause. If the suicide occurs within 2 years of getting the policy or altering the policy, they will not pay. It can take years to get the matter cleared up. If they don’t pay the full benefit, they can refund the premiums paid.
Employee based policies might pay. It varies.
caligirl

BlackBeauti – Now that is a sexy gravi
gypsyeyes

I had a neighbor that killed his self,i was 14 and we were with his daughter. We ran up the street and heard a second gunshot,the son killed his self. People dont think of the people they leave behind. Her mom had depression issues and took her life when she was 3. Luckily at the age of 18 someone from her church took her in.
West Coast Chick

ashersaharai says:

So sad, there has to be a underlying factor to this,

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right. I wonder what the suicide note actually said. Couldnt he just have said no to her? did she blackmail him? #so many questions
prynsexxx

Tatted says:

you have been w/her since high school, had 2 children w/her and was living together…..I MEAN, WHY WOULDN’T SHE WANT TO GET MARRIED?! She was prolly thinking “we’re acting like we’re married!”
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THAT is exactly why I refuse to “play house” with my bf. Negro don’t have no key and you got to leave when the alarm rings (and after we get it in). This is so sad…and I’ve said before SUICIDE is a SELFISH act. It affects EVERYBODY left behind INCLUDING THE PET FISH!
caligirl

Lovely One says:

Why are men so afraid of commitment? What woman wants to be a girlfriend for 20 years? Yeah, I bet she pressured him…pressured him to grow the hell up.
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People do it all the time…what about people who separate and never divorce. My ex tried that crap…..
caligirl

People sign ageements all the time, but don’t follow through.
pointhimout

OMG. mental disorders exist in the black community too. clearly.
prynsexxx

@Tatted I will dance with you in a happier post.

*goestoseewhatsoutthere*
gypsyeyes

Hey everybody!
caligirl

gypsyeyes – Sorry to hear that…

Mental disorders exist is all communities, social economic backgrounds, etc, etc…

“Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.”
Aryanna

Oh Wow.. All he had to say was “No”… This is sad
free

gypsyeyes says: I had a neighbor that killed his self,i was 14 and we were with his daughter. We ran up the street and heard a second gunshot,the son killed his self. People dont think of the people they leave behind. Her mom had depression issues and took her life when she was 3. Luckily at the age of 18 someone from her church took her in.

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smh. do you know what ever happened to her?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xJewNV_LhnE&feature=player_embedded Zoe B.

Sandy why have you been leaving these black cloud post up so long lately? The other one was up for almost 600 post. Just depressing.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4r7wHMg5Yjg Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

@PHO & anyone who thinks otherwise is delusional
OTB so purty
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UVWchAnyH6k&feature=fvwrel ALBoy

Is it off topic in here yet?
Lyssa02

This is a sad story…my thoughts and prayers are with his family.
Him being pressured to be married is not an excuse, but at the same time, women, if a man does not want to marry you, stop trying to force him. If he decides he don’t want to get married and you want to get married, then be on your merry way and if you choose to say, then stay and deal with the fact that marriage is not on his agenda.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UVWchAnyH6k&feature=fvwrel ALBoy

Turkey Is Disgusting !
Tt

Suicide doesn’t auto void insurance. Most life insurance policies have a 2 yr clause, meaning that the policyholder will get nothing if death by suicide occurs within 2 yrs of the effective date. After that, they’ll pay out as long as its not conflicting with anoter clause like in the commission of a felony, etc. (I work in that area of an insurance company).
Regardless…what a douche for his final act to be to basically place the blame on the wife. What a horrible thing to have to live with. How cowardly.
gypsyeyes

Hit def happens in the black community. A lot of times it is because we dont believe in therapy and seeking outside help. You know we dont want folks in our business.
https://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

@ Zoe B. My apologies, hun. I’m working on a new post as fast as I can!
gypsyeyes

@free. The family that took her in was very wealthy. Paid for her education,got married and had 2 boys.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4r7wHMg5Yjg Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

candi <—my plate (it's empty tho
Pint-size
TaBew
Tatted Diva AKA The Makeup Maven

Heeeeey Pryn – I’mm dance w/you ratt now anyway!!!
http://youtu.be/W_CQEcLXe-E YSoSerious

@AL

Don’t start.

#TurkeyLover
Tatted Diva AKA The Makeup Maven

Oooops, Prynn – :2dance:
Tatted Diva AKA The Makeup Maven

Heeey Fay Fay – MY REAL BAY BAY (again)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MbDWrnd29_I His_Mommy623

this story is a mess…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UVWchAnyH6k&feature=fvwrel ALBoy

@ Yso Its freakishly Big And just wrong Nasty
gypsyeyes

@ohoney,i cant see gravis on my phone…name change?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MbDWrnd29_I His_Mommy623

FAYLA! why the fugg did I come on here late last night and see that fat starfish u had in ur gravi?

why was her HUGE vag in my face huh? WHY?

i hate u so hard 4 that shyt
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

this is just sad all around poor kids and wife the guilt he left behind so evil and just sick!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4r7wHMg5Yjg Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

HIS! i had gravi madness yestaday n chit i’s tryna do betta now tho
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MbDWrnd29_I His_Mommy623

@Fay, im certain that 4giveness is not in our immediate future :nono

LakerLosa! :2dance:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MbDWrnd29_I His_Mommy623

<–is what i meant FAYLA!
candibfly

*puts a fried chicken leg on fayla’s plate*
http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco aka Hippie

:hugs: @ Gypsy I forgot about you I did a doubletake
howmanylicks_07

So he gave the ole Kim K. pressured excuse
gypsyeyes

Hey @choco. Had alot going on
Sweet-tea

Well damn! He didn’t want to marry her ass for-real. It’s gotta be more than that.
http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco aka Hippie

I hope all is better Gypsy!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4r7wHMg5Yjg Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

c that’s that BULLshat right there HIS hhmmph!!!

*adds TX Pete to my chicken leg*
http://www.philly.com/ Jay Bee

hes crazy because if doug can put up with jackie.. theres hope for all man kind
gypsyeyes

Thanks im sure it will. Mom had a major stroke and I had to get emergency surgery due to the surgeons mishap last year with my hernia repair.
bnatural

Very sad story….feel for those kids though….

It’s been a week since Drake’s album dropped, where are the numbers?
Anna

Jay Bee says:

hes crazy because if doug can put up with jackie.. theres hope for all man kind

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Agree. I always wonder what is it about Jackie that Doug puts up w/her. I’ve convinced myself while she is planning a wedding every yr.(which he probably only shows up), it gives him time to drift.
free

gypsyeyes says: @free. The family that took her in was very wealthy. Paid for her education,got married and had 2 boys.

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oh great! i believe that people who grew up under suicidal parents tend to be more suicidal. i hope she has broken the cycle.
I Run New York

WOW, what a coward. He has two kids and he committed suicide because he had cold feet. This is horrible, poor babies.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MbDWrnd29_I His_Mommy623

*takes a bite of Faylas chicky leg*

mhm…but u put me through alot…my eyes dnt wanna be yo bew no mo!

(i said all o’ dat while chewing yo chicken too!)
caligirl

did any hear/read about Lisa Raye being engaged to Mega Pastor Noel Jones? (Grace Jones brother)
AndThenIHitMyDougie

Call me a cold muhfukka…but I laughed atthis story!

That fool said “Bish, Id RATHER DIE than stay with you!” and MEANT IT!!

A lotta niggas have said that sh*it, but non have meant it!!

Sh&t!!

(And I am literally at my desk laughing so hard, I’m crying! Father forgive me, but ya’ll know this sh*t is kinda funny! )
http://www.philly.com/ Jay Bee

Anna says:

Jay Bee says:

hes crazy because if doug can put up with jackie.. theres hope for all man kind

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Agree. I always wonder what is it about Jackie that Doug puts up w/her. I’ve convinced myself while she is planning a wedding every yr.(which he probably only shows up), it gives him time to drift.

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Righttttt because shes a piece of work and agressive
http://Www.yallaintchit.com Man, I just don’t care™

High School Sweethearts… kids…marriage…honeymoon…SUICIDE?

Maybe he found out the kids weren’t his.
Anna

says:

did any hear/read about Lisa Raye being engaged to Mega Pastor Noel Jones? (Grace Jones brother)

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Does he look like Grace? Ppl w/money still chase after money? How Mega is the Church? Eddie Long Money? I’m going to lunch.
caligirl

He said on camera that she was crazy, but she’s probably good to him? Good in bed…kitchen…good home maker…good with the kids?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

@caligirl

Yeah, I heard about that…he’s like in his sixties or something…
I Run New York

“But on a completely different note, dude must have been going through some things because he looks WAAYY older than 28. RIP!”

DAMN he looks about 40
http://youtu.be/W_CQEcLXe-E YSoSerious

@DOUGIE

Only you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

@Dougie

I loves you girl, but I didn’t laugh at this story…
candibfly

can we have a party? i mean dang its a holiday week (aka i’m bored at work bc i’m not starting anything until next week)
Redeemed777

If your so-called sunday pastor isnt teaching the commandments ( Old & New ) as much as they preach about your ” tithes”, then you have been deceived!!!

****Stay Away From NIV versions*****

Love=Keep the commandments:

Ecclesiastes 12:13
1 John 2: 3-6
1 John 5:3
2 John 1:6
John 14:15
John 15:10
1 Corinthians 7:19
Matthew 5:17-20
Revelation 12:17
Revelation 14:12
Revelation 22:14

Original KJV versions only.
KyCakes

AllNYC says:
I have suffered from depression and I know that it can take you to some dark places. The thought of burning in hell was too much for me
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I suffered depression hardcore being pregnant. After I got preggo and moved on with my life, my Son’s sperm donor married his first baby’s Mom after she pressured, pushed, threatened, cajoled, etc.

He killed her a year later for her life insurance policy.
I that Women wake up and not be so quick to marry someone whatever the reason.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

@candi

*tries to lighten the mood in this thread*
Aprilbaby

Is that the couple in the picture? Because nothing about him says 28 to me! Take care of my kids. No fool you take care of your kids!
I Go There

DID I come in the wrong room?
I Run New York

Dougie those kids have no Daddy. It’s not that funny.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

@KyCakes

OMG! looks like you dodged a bullet with that one!

I stated up further in the threads that folks should not succumb to pressure or feel to need to pressure others into marriage. I know from experience that it is a VERY big step and shouldn’t be done in haste…
Redeemed777

AND FOR your learning pleasure, those who commit suicide WILL BE GOING TO HELL ON RESURRECTION DAY.

Some can’t escape it because it was their fate to die that way anyway.

READ YOUR BIBLES TO GAIN UNDERSTANDING OF WHY THINGS HAPPEN.
flsun99

Chgoprime says:

I don’t believe the statistics about black men having a high suicide rate. But to jump your ass out the window after getting married? Do Black men really oppose marriage this much? This is just a new low…

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Its a fact. Black men do have the highest right of suicide.
KyCakes

FeFe says:

@KyCakes

OMG! looks like you dodged a bullet with that one!
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Kinda yes, kinda no. He said he wanted to be with me and our Son. He called me on the phone after he dumped her body. Needless to see, I got dragged in deep. My Son and I had to go into Witness Protection, move and I had to testify at his trial. He got life w/ no parole for first degree pre-meditated murder. For the longest time, i was afraid of marriage and even being in a long term relationship aka, ‘You ain’t killing me for my policy, nicca’

But I have been blessed beyond measure with great jobs and not having to shack up with peen just to be able to make it.

*message* It’s always better to do you and keep it movin’. DO NOT settle for less then you deserve no matter WHAT the reason
AndThenIHitMyDougie

@IRun/Fefe/Yso

It’s not funny that the kids are without a father or the woman is probably feeling all types of ways about him blaming HER for him being a pu$$y, but the fact that he was so lame as to kill himself and ask somebody else to look after his responsibilities because he just CANNOT see being a stand up man is hilarious.

Fukk him. No sympathy here. If I was his wife, I would try my hardest to have his azz revived and put on an incuabtor so I could keep his suffering azz alive just long enough to kill him my damn self.

Kinda punk azz weak -sh*t is that? “I will be at the bottom of the Bronx River if you need me…”

:confused:

Weak azz….
caligirl

FeFe says:

@caligirl

Yeah, I heard about that…he’s like in his sixties or something
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I think that’s more her speed. A young dude gonna run the skreets, and the other the Prime Minister was a player. But what she don’t know, some of these ministers can give you a run for your money…We’ll see. I hope and pray for the best for her. Marrying a man that has such a large flock is serious business.
http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco aka Hippie

He killed her a year later for her life insurance policy.
I that Women wake up and not be so quick to marry someone whatever the reason.
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Wow and Whoa!
caligirl

KyCakes
http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco aka Hippie

*message* It’s always better to do you and keep it movin’. DO NOT settle for less then you deserve no matter WHAT the reason
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Thanks for sharing your story
http://youtu.be/W_CQEcLXe-E YSoSerious

@REDEEMED

There is nothing at all pleasurable about your comments for many folks here. Not that that will stop you.
AndThenIHitMyDougie

And most negroes ain’t finna kill themselves to avoid being married…they’ll just tell a chick “no” and move on with another bish until the chick who wants marriage is so down and out about him not marrying her that she may kill HERSELF or just give up all hope on him.

I don’t know what this dude up above what doing. That was some other part of the game that I missed, I guess.
caligirl

@Kycakes….When you coming out with your book?….He he still in prison?
JMO

… Naw, ain’t nothin about this story funny. Suicide stories touch close to home for me and I think its a sad case all around. My prayers are with her family.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

*message* It’s always better to do you and keep it movin’. DO NOT settle for less then you deserve no matter WHAT the reason

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KandaceRaye

SUICIDE IS A PERMANENT SOLUTION TO A TEMPORARY PROBLEM!!!
AndThenIHitMyDougie

Oh well.

I found a snall part of this story funny. I have a dark sense of humor sometimes.

I’ma work on being more sensitive….prolly tomorrow.
KyCakes

Cali & Choco – It no longer affects me. I am super sad for my Son, as his donor did this ish on his first birthday, but my Son is so loved and he’s the light of my life.

I don’t use this as an excuse for nothing. If anything, it made me work harder to be able to provide for my baby. That’s where my strict ‘one and done’ policy comes from. In essence because I made an f’ed up decision, I will always defer to my Son and his needs before anything else. Yes, that’s the way it should be once your a Parent, but as we can tell by today’s sad tale, many have a persecution complex. If he really wanted help to fix and heal the depression, he would have sought it out..

Prayers for this family….
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

@Dougie

I hear what ur saying, but I take suicide stories very delicately, only because it is usually the result of deep depression…which I lived through at one time in my life. This man had some serious demons for sure…
candibfly

gosh i’m sleepy. i need a nap under my desk. i already have the blanket. *looks around for a pillow*
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4r7wHMg5Yjg Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

bc HIS got the tofurkey decoy leg while i tore up the real thang!
Bootcampgirl

I just read some more info on this story.. This was inevitable, apparently he had ongoing issues with depression and him and his wife were going to counseling. It also stated that, I think, her/his aunt asked him on the day of the wedding if he was sure he wanted to go ahead with it, to which he replied “it’s too late now”. His cousin also stated that he sent him a rap about suicide. Sometimes suicidal people show alot of red flags but sometimes they are overlooked. (I know they sometimes show none)..
http://youtu.be/W_CQEcLXe-E YSoSerious

@DOUGIE

I have sorta mixed feelings about suicide but I will say that I think that note was a total cop out. I think there was more to it than he felt “pressured” to marry a woman he already had two damn kids with.

If you’re gonna take your own life, prepare to take the responsibility for EVERYTHING that comes with that decision.
caligirl

AndThenIHitMyDougie – And most negroes ain’t finna kill themselves to avoid being married…they’ll just tell a chick “no” and move on with another bish until the chick who wants marriage is so down and out about him not marrying her that she may kill HERSELF or just give up all hope on him.
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I agree…

I want to say something like..sucide is serious health problem. There I said it.

For those that have crazy family members, get them HELP. I have been MAD depressed before. Crazy arase exhusband, had to bury a child(that is the worst) having another child who was always sick….lost of job…but I’m thankful for stable mind…

I pray for weak individuals. He was weak and really, he may have ended up killing her and those kids or somebody else…So…That’s all I got.

PLEASE
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

@Bootcamp

Thanks! I figured there was much more to this…not that any of that information makes what he did “OK”, but it helps clear some of the confusion up…
Redeemed777

Well, that’s one of the big problems in so-called sunday churches today….NOBODY TELLS THE TRUTH!!!

Folks want to hear non-sense, and ” feel good ” messages, instead of the TRUTH!!!

One who dies in sin aint going to heaven. Instead of getting angry about, WARN FOLKS ABOUT IT!!!

READ YOUR BIBLE.
caligirl

Redeemed777: WELLLLL

Did you make it to CALI?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

@caligirl

I agree wholeheartedly with your post, and I’m sorry you had to endure the death of a child…

And, if this mofo killed anyone else and then did himself, I’d probably have less sympathy…I cannot STAND when people commit a murder/suicide…if you wanna take yourself out, then do so…but don’t take the spouse and kids with your dysfunctional azz!
JMO

I’m glad that you’re ok KyCakes!
AndThenIHitMyDougie

@Fefe

I get it…and I understand there usually is an underlying problem….but this fool didn’t want help. Hell…you cannot make me BELIEVE his only reason was that he didn’t want to be married. Even as he was about to kill himself, he wanted to make it seem like it was somebody else’s fault. That nigga was as selfish as they come. Hence, why I don’t find an ounce of pity for him. I don’t respect cowardice….even if it does leave you to killing yourself.

And I fukks with MANY of ya’ll on this board, but please know, should any of ya’ll get so weak, foolish, selfish and cowardly as to kill yourselves, you won’t have any sympathy coming from my way AT ALL.

I don’t respect that. I would stand right up at your funeral and say: “Well damn bish, that was dumb. Wish you could’ve had enough sense to get the fukk over it. ”

*sits down in front pew*
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QsunEfZFG1Y&feature=related LUSCIOUS LOLITA AKA SUGA WALLS

THAT IS THE MOST IGNORANT BULLSHYT I’VE EVER HEARD!
LET ME LEAVE THIS POST CUZ THE BIBLE THUMPIN, WANNA BE AT THE RIGHT HAND OF GOD FANATIC IS BOUT TO TAKE ME THERE
Bootcampgirl

@Redeemed777-not trying to start anything, I love the lord as much as you do, do I go to church every Sunday, no, am I sinner, yes. I listening to this sermon this past Sunday and it spoke of people acting like they have a heaven or hell to put someone in and I have to honestly say, sometimes, that’s the vibe I get from you…#IMO..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

@Dougie

I gotcha bew!
caligirl

@Fefe – Thanks, but it’s wasn’t the end of the world. When I started “living” again. The world was still spinning. Nobody stopped to wait for me. I’m like KyCakes!

I got a LOW TOLERENCE FOR NONSENSE! Stop complaning, I will fill a tub full of hotwater for you. Do you want sharp razors or a running hair dryer.
KyCakes

Cali – No book, ma. There are people in this world who have endured much worse. If anything, I tell my story as a cautionary tale. Many people think that others aren’t capable of murder, suicide, etc…but they are.

He was a very easy going individual, very laid back, we never argued. But once the stress caught up to him, once it all hit the fan, he took her out. I would have preferred he took himself out, quite frankly….
AndThenIHitMyDougie

Only time I would cosign somebody’s suicide is if they had serious urges to kill others and instead of doing that, killed themselves. I consider those suicides “sacrifices.” But how many of THOSE really happen?

Exactly. Murder-suicides are all too prevalent.
caligirl

AndThenIHitMyDougie – scoot your butt over…so I can sit on the pew with you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

I got a LOW TOLERENCE FOR NONSENSE! Stop complaning, I will fill a tub full of hotwater for you. Do you want sharp razors or a running hair dryer.
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dayum!
candibfly

i guess refreshing won’t make a new post appear huh *sigh*
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4r7wHMg5Yjg Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

@redeemeth can u c&p that kjv bible verse that says sum r born to kill themselves? i musta missed bible study that night
Bootcampgirl

Some people who commit suicide feel like they are the source of the problem so they believe all would be better if they no longer existed, twisted, irrational thinking, but true…
AndThenIHitMyDougie

@Cali

*scoots over a bit so you can sit; pats seat beside me*
KyCakes

Thank you, JMO. Me too

It was a tough time, but at the end of the day, if my tale saves just one Woman, my work here is done…

Thanks for letting me share, ya’ll

#LoveMySRFam
Redeemed777

@Bootcampgirl

The reason you think that is because your pastors have conditioned you all into thinking that way…

May I refer you to a true man of God?

Visit Youtube and type in ” RingoTV ”

Look for his youtube page ” RingoTV ”

Then look for the video ” Steve Harvey Exposed ”

Watch & Listen to the entire video, because he will explain why you think you have a vibe from me.
https://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

The bride’s cousin just emailed me. She’s upset, and she doesn’t appreciate you ladies and gents accusing her cousin of pressuring Mr. Brazier to marry her. She said he proposed to her.
caligirl

@Rededemm – Don’t forget spread the gospel about Proverbs. Scriptures about love for another.
LadeeA

:BLINK: The bride works at my mom’s job in Mt. Vernon. So many things happening in my neck of the woods. My godfather Heavy dying. We grew up in the same neighborhood. He played ball with my dad in Mt. Vernon growing up. I hear of his death while I’m on my cruise and return to attend his wake. My other friend who I grew up with in Mt. Vernon dies of a brain aneurysm at 33 yrs old on October 21. Now my mom’s co-workers husband commits suicide.

So much trouble in this world. Lord help us.
LuvMySailor

Actually it’s white males that have the highest suicide rates, then white females, then black males, and black females have the lowest suicide rate.

Either way this story is sad
caligirl

Sandra Rose says:

The bride’s cousin just emailed me. She’s upset, and she doesn’t appreciate you ladies and gents accusing her cousin of pressuring Mr. Brazier to marry her. She said he proposed to her.
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Get the heck out of here…I don’t think she pressured him…But I think she need to go help her cousin grieve. JEEZ

She got time to be on the internet?
AndThenIHitMyDougie

I had a dude threaten to blow his head off if I left him one time… I told his azz: “make sure you don’t do that sh*t on my porch cause I ain’t cleaning up that bullsh*t.” And went back in my house and closed the door.

He had the look but I think he had a better understanding of where I stood on that issue after that day.

The best part: I really wasn’t joking. I REALLY didn’t want him to do it on my porch. I was going to be mad as hell if that shIt stained.
http://Www.yallaintchit.com Man, I just don’t care™

@SANDRA ROSE
“The bride’s cousin just emailed me. She’s upset, and she doesn’t appreciate you ladies and gents accusing her cousin of pressuring Mr. Brazier to marry her. She said he proposed to her.”
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“A 28-year-old Bronx man who felt pressured by his high school sweetheart into marrying her, took his own life hours after the wedding.”~Sandra Rose
LadeeA

The Devil really had this boys mind. The NY Post has a recording of a rap song the groom recorded. It is very scary. It’s all about suicide.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

@Sandra

Ummmm, didn’t the article say the parents pressured him? Who said the wife pressured him? I think most folks are speaking in “general” terms when they speak about women pressuring men to marry them…or maybe that’s just MY understanding of it…
candibfly

i think people are just going by what was written in the story (i.e. first sentence)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4r7wHMg5Yjg Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

dumb bish AT the funeral Dougie??
JMO

@Dougie… I get what you’re saying and even though I may not agree with suicide, think its selfish or whatever the case may be, there are times in which you just shouldn’t say anything. You never know how those affected are feeling or may react. My father left a suicide note some years ago and we were able to find him and stop it from happening. Its something I don’t really talk about however if we hadn’t stopped it, he died and somebody said what you said at his funeral, pews wouldve been moved up in that church …

*goes to hit refresh for a
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

@sandra its not the wifie fault is that man he decided to walk down the isle he decided to take his life his decision not the wifie… cant nobody make me do shyt so yeah no fault for her imo
@his hey mami
@candi i refresh like 10 times no new post!!
iheart405
https://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

Bootcampgirl says:

Sometimes suicidal people show alot of red flags but sometimes they are overlooked. (I know they sometimes show none)..
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Also, people who are contemplating suicide usually appear happy before taking their lives. The fact that he was happy during the reception means he had already made up his mind.
candibfly

why she throw y’all under the bus?
Redeemed777

@caligirl

Love = Keeping the commandments!

Did you read those scriptures that I posted?
AndThenIHitMyDougie

@SR

She clearly didn’t read my posts then cause I think she should not be a bit upset. Collect her insurance policy and thank the good Lord that he showed her what a weak man/husband/provider he’d have turned out to be before the marriage went any further.

Focus on them kids and getting with a man with a bit more “durability” to his countenance.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

@Man

Ok, thanks for clarifying….
http://youtu.be/W_CQEcLXe-E YSoSerious

Dear Bride’s Cousin,

Whatever.

Sincerely,

YSoSerious
Bootcampgirl

@Redeemed777-thanks, but, no thanks…
Something just dosen’t seem right about going to YT for the gospel..
http://Www.yallaintchit.com Man, I just don’t care™

@BRIDE’S COUSIN
Family members said Brazier suffered from depression in the months leading up to the wedding.
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Instead of being worried about what folk on the net saying about your cousin, you should have told her that she KNEW ol boy was sick but she was more worried about a wedding…. apparently.

Now she had her wedding and her kids will forever be fatherless.
vero

SMH

Hi peeps !
Redeemed777

@caligirl

Go check out RingoTV.
Check out his video ” Steve Harvey Exposed ” watch & listen to the entire video

He will get you up to speed on the foolishness and the twisted doctrine of the so-called ” Love ” that so-called pastors teach to their sheeple.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4r7wHMg5Yjg Fayla aka IWhipIt..WhipItRealGood:)

@Yso!
Bootcampgirl

@Sandra Rose-
AndThenIHitMyDougie

@Fayla
AT the funeral, I cannot tell a lie.

@JMO
Your dad probably was not suicidal then because they say MOST suicidal folks CANNOT be talked out of it and if so…only for a certain amount of time before they eventually do it again. I get you would have been mad if someone had said that at the funeral….but I’m going to be COMPLETELY honest…even if someone aint say it…they were THINKING it.

That whole phrase you always hear of: “I just don’t understand how he could think it was that bad”…. “or why didn’t they come talk to us about it first” is just a nice, sympathetic way of folks saying: “that was some weak, cowardly sh*t.

My delivery can be VERY brutal sometimes, but it Is honest.
Redeemed777

@Bootcampgirl

That’s another problem…..Folks not doing research!

Whoever said he was white?

The Lord has not revealed His truth to them.
http://Www.yallaintchit.com Man, I just don’t care™

@LAKER CHIC

Yeah, she responsible. She knew that dude wasn’t in his right mind. If she KNEW he was suffering from depression (which is an illness) why was she still worried about a wedding???

Even if HE suggested it she should have told him that due to his illness NOW wasn’t the time to be worried about no wedding/honeymoon.

But I guess one was more important than the other.
KyCakes

@Man I Love You….
http://youtu.be/W_CQEcLXe-E YSoSerious

VERO!! :hugs: x 5
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

Dear Bride’s Cousin:

Are you ready to tell us what the real reason was then? So if he wasn’t pressured then what was it? I’ll wait…
Redeemed777

@Bootcampgirl

The Lord has only revealed His truth to Jacob NOT ESAU.
http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco aka Hippie

The fact that he was happy during the reception means he had already made up his mind.
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So true he knew his worries would be over!
Redeemed777

@Bootcampgirl

You better start getting the Truth. Time is at hand.
http://Www.yallaintchit.com Man, I just don’t care™

@DOUGIE
“She clearly didn’t read my posts then cause I think she should not be a bit upset. Collect her insurance policy and thank the good Lord that he showed her what a weak man/husband/provider he’d have turned out to be before the marriage went any further.”
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When did illnesses = weakness??

Dude was SICK, she KNEW it and she was more concerned about the wedding. Period.

If anything those kids should be removed lest they have an illness that is inconveinant to her.
JMO

@dougie … what insurance policy?

@YSO …

@Vero
https://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

@ FeFe: the “cousin” said the bride wasn’t willing to speak to anyone. I didn’t post the email because I have no evidence that’s really her cousin.
http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco aka Hippie

Your dad probably was not suicidal then because they say MOST suicidal folks CANNOT be talked out of it and if so…only for a certain amount of time before they eventually do it again.
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Have you ever been suicidal? or had suicidal thoughts?
caligirl

Redeemed – I don’t want to listen to anything about Steve Harvey. Are you kidding me?

I’ve read the bible several times. It’s one of the top 5 books that I love! It has Mystery, Crime, Love, War, Politics, Romance, Adventure etc….

I’m clear on foolishness and don’t get my doctrine from YOUTUBE. Please have a SUPERNATURAL BLESSED DAY.
BlackBeauti

The thought of someone thinking they are better off dead than being with me is such an insult… WOW. That will be a hard pill for her to swallow. At least he was coward enough to kill himself and not her and the children… White folks do that ish.
Bootcampgirl

@Redeemed 777-YT as in YouTube
http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco aka Hippie

VERO
vero

Yso (you’re a fool and I love it )

OTB : so pretty
AndThenIHitMyDougie

Yeah….I wanna know what the fukk he was worried about because the excuse about the pressure of being married to a woman he already lived with, had been with for at least 10 years and already had kids by is some bullsh*t.

I ain’t believing that even if his weak azz rose from the bottom of the Harlem River and told me that himself.
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

IF HIS PROBLEM WAS ONLY “MARRIAGE” WELL HIS SOLUTION WAS JUST AS SIMPLE

“DIVORCE”

I AINT THE MOST POPULAR ROUN THIS MUFAKA ANY HOW, CAUSE TO OTHERS I COME OUT OF LEFT FIELD

BUT I’M GOING TO JUST SPEAK MY PEACE AS ALWAYS AND LET THE BULLETS LAND WHERE THEY MAY

BUT IF THIS STORY WAS ABOUT A WOMAN TAKING HER LIFE, I WONDER HOW MANY OF THE POSTERS WOULD HAVE JUST AS MUCH SYMPATHY FOR HER

I SWEAR TO ME OUR SOCIETY IS SO SEXIST, TO THE POINT EVEN SOME WOMEN HAVE BOUGHT INTO BLAME THE WOMAN MENTALITY, WHEN SHE DOES WRONG AND STILL BLAME HER WHEN A MAN DOES, WRONG, SOME HOW THE WOMAN ALWAYS ENDS UP BEING AT FAULT AND THE MAN GETS A PITY PARTY & AND A FREE FROM RESPONSIBILITY CARD

EVERY INDIVIDUAL IS ACCOUNTABLE FOR HIS OR HER ACTIONS & SHOULD TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR OWN DECISIONS GOOD AND BAD
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

@Sandra

Well obviously like @Man is saying, this dude was ill and was showing signs of it early on according to other reports….so he had no business going through with this, although he could have easily found another reason to do this chit… oh well…
caligirl

@JMO :hugs:
http://youtu.be/W_CQEcLXe-E YSoSerious

Maybe she thought a wedding would “cure” him. You win some, you lose some.
JMO

AndThenIHitMyDougie says:

@Fayla
AT the funeral, I cannot tell a lie.

@JMO
Your dad probably was not suicidal then because they say MOST suicidal folks CANNOT be talked out of it and if so…only for a certain amount of time before they eventually do it again. I get you would have been mad if someone had said that at the funeral….but I’m going to be COMPLETELY honest…even if someone aint say it…they were THINKING it.
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I just think we’ll disagree on this one. It doesn’t matter if they were thinking it. That wouldn’t be the place for you to voice your opinion. You attend a funeral to pay your respects no? That just seems disrespectful to say that. Might as well not attend the funeral
https://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

Man, I just don’t care™ says:

She knew that dude wasn’t in his right mind. If she KNEW he was suffering from depression (which is an illness) why was she still worried about a wedding???
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Because most women are very selfish when it comes to weddings. It’s all about her and the image that she portrays to her guests. So everything has to be perfect for “her” special day, not “their” special day. The groom is only a part of the wedding — like the cake and the DJ.
KyCakes

@Black – Did you not read my post….

..and please don’t take this the wrong way, but…is that you in your gravi? and is that thing on your head a Hairstyle, Hat? #JustAskin’
http://Www.yallaintchit.com Man, I just don’t care™

@BLACK BEAUTY
“At least he was ~~coward~~ not sick enough to kill himself and her and the children…”
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Made some necessary corrections to your statement babe.
You can thank me with azz shots.
JMO

caligirl says:

@JMO
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Thanks so much …
http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco aka Hippie

I just think we’ll disagree on this one. It doesn’t matter if they were thinking it. That wouldn’t be the place for you to voice your opinion. You attend a funeral to pay your respects no? That just seems disrespectful to say that. Might as well not attend the funeral
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AndThenIHitMyDougie

@Choco

Honestly…yes…for about a few hours after my bro got killed the day after my 20th bday. I was depressed about that, going through some off the wall scandalous sh*t with my boyfriend, unemployed, behind in college, pregnant and some more sh*t….BUT…that sh*t lasted about 5 mins because I figured my mother and nephews would have a coronary if I was to be so selfish as to check myself out and leave my mother with both of her kids dead because of a whole bunch of bullsh*t I created but was too lazy/wweak to fix.

Hence why I feel that suicide is TRULY selfish because me NOt being selfish changed my fukking mind.

So yeah…
http://youtu.be/W_CQEcLXe-E YSoSerious

SANDRA says:

Because most women are very selfish when it comes to weddings. It’s all about her and the image that she portrays to her guests. So everything has to be perfect for “her” special day, not “their” special day. The groom is only a part of the wedding — like the cake and the DJ.
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Agree.
https://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

@ KyCakes: let me stop you right there and remind you that personal attacks is against the :caution:
caligirl

I was engaged to a man, I thought he had mental problems. Called his ex-wife and told her you are right. (she had warned me) This nigga is crazy. Wished him the best of luck I’m out. I don’t know what happened to him, I don’t do followups! I was not waiting around for that nigga to snap.
http://Www.yallaintchit.com Man, I just don’t care™

@SANDRA
“She knew that dude wasn’t in his right mind. If she KNEW he was suffering from depression (which is an illness) why was she still worried about a wedding???
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Because most women are very selfish when it comes to weddings. It’s all about her and the image that she portrays to her guests. So everything has to be perfect for “her” special day, not “their” special day. The groom is only a part of the wedding — like the cake and the DJ. ”
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I was >>>>>thisclose<<<< to calling her narcisstic to WANT to force a sick individual into marrying her, but I didn't want Pookie 'nem to come looking for you Sandra.

You know she prolly got the "Funeral Extravaganza" all planned out.
BlackBeauti

It’s a Platinum blonde lacefront. I had to cover half of my forehead because I have no edges and I like my hairline and eyebrows to meet. Everyone love my new look
JMO

BlackBeauti says:

The thought of someone thinking they are better off dead than being with me is such an insult… WOW. That will be a hard pill for her to swallow. At least he was coward enough to kill himself and not her and the children… White folks do that ish.
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Black is that you in the gravi?? I need to ask before I comment. I don’t wanna pull a His and Saucey scenario
http://youtu.be/W_CQEcLXe-E YSoSerious

I’m also agreeing with Man today too…I think I need a nap.
vero

Choco
AndThenIHitMyDougie

@JMO
I got you. I wouldn’t volunteer to get up and speak to say that sh*t…but if asked, I would probably politely decline. If FORCED, I could be liable to say what I was really thinking….
vero

JMO

Hi everyone
caligirl

Sandra Rose says:

@ KyCakes: let me stop you right there and remind you that personal attacks is against the
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This post

Misss Sandra that sweater post did not work, what else you got?
KyCakes

@ Sandra – I wasn’t being mean. Hadn’t seen a style like that, before, which is why I prefaced the comment with ‘not being mean’…

All the ridiculous gravi’s that folk post, including myself, sometimes you gotta ask.

#StillLovinMyLogin
#DontBanMeAuntie
http://Www.yallaintchit.com Man, I just don’t care™

@SANDRA
“let me stop you right there and remind you that personal attacks is against the ”
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Why are you never around when it’s “Let’s-talk-about-Man-to-disguise-our-lust-for-him” Day?
AndThenIHitMyDougie

@Sandra
REALLY? You know that is not BlackBeauti’s real pic and that Ky is just playing!

Stop being like that Sandra, getting all ban-happy over a joke. How was that a personal attack? She asked “IF” it was her, first, no?
https://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

Man, I just don’t care™ says:

I was >>>>>thisclose<<<< to calling her narcisstic to WANT to force a sick individual into marrying her, but I didn't want Pookie 'nem to come looking for you Sandra. ___________________ But you would have been right though. Most brides-to-be suffer from temporary form of narcissism because everything revolves around them. Their narcissism usually clears up right around the time that the bills for the wedding start coming in -- and then everything is about him, or his parents.
caligirl

BlackBeauti says:

It’s a Platinum blonde lacefront. I had to cover half of my forehead because I have no edges and I like my hairline and eyebrows to meet. Everyone love my new look
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I love it! I’m a coward…I scarred to go blond. You got my vote!
Bootcampgirl

If you have not dealt with depression or suicidal ideations yourself, I think it would be hard for anyone to begin to identify, we all can call him a coward, weak, etc. but if you have not walked a day in this man’s shoes no one has the right to judge or condemn him. Like previously stated, this man had an illness, depression is a mental health disorder and most people take medication to control it..I know what happened that day, what was running through his mind, but one thing that we have to remember that this man was not thinking clearly or rationally(sp?)
http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco aka Hippie

I was to be so selfish as to check myself out and leave my mother with both of her kids dead because of a whole bunch of bullsh*t I created but was too lazy/wweak to fix.

Hence why I feel that suicide is TRULY selfish because me NOt being selfish changed my fukking mind.

So yeah
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I too have had them and becuz Im mentally stronger and I cope with things differently I was able to pull myself out of that dark place but that chit was not a cake walk and I even ended up back in that same dark place years later and I regained my composure too but IM IN NO POSITION to call someone weak becuz they felt they truly didn’t have another option I had people who loved I was blessed with a good job things I worked hard for and got them and was willing to throw it all away I think also some folks are not as close to GOD as they should be becuz it was his love and self love that pulled me out of that dark place – that dark place can’t even scare me anymore becuz if I feel it coming Im already making changes to prevent it
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

let me stop you right there and remind you that personal attacks is against the
^^^ LETS BE NICE TODAY YALL
BlackBeauti

Yes it is. I am a fierce full figure chick
AndThenIHitMyDougie

@Man & Sandra

You two do not SERIOUSLY believe that this woman is at fault for him taking his life because he gave some bullsh*t excuse of not being ready to be married? Are you really blaming her?

I agree with Intense on this sh*t…the whole “blame the woman” sh*t is getting OLD. He should be held accountable for not being strong enough to say “no” and being so weak and cowardly as to only think of his OWN fukking feelings rather than his wife/kids/family!!

Fukk him.
vero

@Sandra & Personal attacks
again and
http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco aka Hippie

but if you have not walked a day in this man’s shoes no one has the right to judge or condemn him.
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Thats all Im saying it hurts me to hear him judged for his illness
JMO

Um… I jus don’t think I can use this –> up in this post

@Sandra … what otha posts ya got??
http://youtu.be/W_CQEcLXe-E YSoSerious

@LAKER

Hush up!
caligirl

BlackBeauti says:

Yes it is. I am a fierce full figure chick
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Just curious….. it that a front lace finger wave?
Redeemed777

@caligirl

Cali girl, it is not about steve harvey perse, but about the common so-called christian mentality in so-called sunday churches!!!!

The word ”christian ” aint even in the Bible.

and so-called christians think all they have to do is ” Love ”…..
they don’t even know what Love is?????

This is why I say read those scriptures I posted, and check out RingoTV!!!

Be a doer.
http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco aka Hippie

Fukk him.
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Wow no respect for the dead huh
KyCakes

@Dougie – Thank you, bew :hug:…YOU got it. I really was simply curious..
Auntie trying to make me feel for my curiosity
http://Www.yallaintchit.com Man, I just don’t care™

@DOUGIE
“You two do not SERIOUSLY believe that this woman is at fault for him taking his life because he gave some bullsh*t excuse of not being ready to be married? Are you really blaming her?

I agree with Intense on this sh*t…the whole “blame the woman” sh*t is getting OLD. He should be held accountable for not being strong enough to say “no” and being so weak and cowardly as to only think of his OWN fukking feelings rather than his wife/kids/family!!

Fukk him. ”
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Babe…. the nigga was SICK.
She KNEW IT.
And was more concerned about her “wedding.”

Those are the FACTS. She is to blame. I bet she would have had a marital ceremony with that nigga if he was on life support. I guess he would be a “coward” for not waking up out of a coma and stopping the process then too huh? SMH.

Ignorance is bliss.
!*LaKErCHiC@*!

DAM!!!
@YSO IM KEEPN IT KEEWT!! AUNTIE IN HERE WITH HER DEPORTATION VAN WAITING OUTSIDE
http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco aka Hippie

It’s a Platinum blonde lacefront. I had to cover half of my forehead because I have no edges and I like my hairline and eyebrows to meet. Everyone love my new look
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I love it! I’m a coward…I scarred to go blond. You got my vote!
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Im not talking to any of you!
AndThenIHitMyDougie

@BlackBeauti
Stop playing beofer Sandra really think fiolks are attacking you for that pic. I remember when your pic was that horrible fish-face looking dude I had seen on hot mess . com a few years back.

And this chick’s pic was just on Jia’s website a few weeks ago under that “Hot Sh*t NOt Found Here” tag.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFwik0Lon-g&ob=av2e FeFe

I agree with Intense on this sh*t…the whole “blame the woman” sh*t is getting OLD. He should be held accountable for not being strong enough to say “no” and being so weak and cowardly as to only think of his OWN fukking feelings rather than his wife/kids/family!!

Fukk him.

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Not to beat a dead horse, but let’s remember that this man was obviously SICK…when one has a mental illness you cannot rationalize their actions…
JMO

Man, I just don’t care™ says:

@SANDRA
“let me stop you right there and remind you that personal attacks is against the ”
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Why are you never around when it’s “Let’s-talk-about-Man-to-disguise-our-lust-for-him” Day?
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BlackBeauti

I don’t know what is it. I trusted my hairstylist ans she hooked it up for Thanksgiving.
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

DEPRESSION WAS HIS PROBLEM AND NOT SEEKING HELP VERSUS TAKING HIS LIFE IS THE ISSUE, MANY PEOPLE, MEN ETC. MAY HAVE FELT PRESSURED TO GET MARRIED NOT ALL OF THEM END THEIR LIFE

TO IMPLY OTHERWISE IS JUST SENSATIONALISM AT IT’S BEST & OUTRIGHT ILLOGICAL
http://Www.yallaintchit.com Man, I just don’t care™

@SANDRA
“I was >>>>>thisclose< <<< to calling her narcisstic to WANT to force a sick individual into marrying her, but I didn’t want Pookie ‘nem to come looking for you Sandra.
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But you would have been right though. Most brides-to-be suffer from temporary form of narcissism because everything revolves around them. Their narcissism usually clears up right around the time that the bills for the wedding start coming in — and then everything is about him, or his parents. "
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If a woman truly loves you, they don't need no expensive azz ceremonies and trips around the world to prove it.

They down with you when you "between jobs" or on a "Federal Vacation."
JMO

!*LaKErCHiC@*! says:

DAM!!!
@YSO IM KEEPN IT KEEWT!! AUNTIE IN HERE WITH HER DEPORTATION VAN WAITING OUTSIDE
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KyCakes

@JMO – Don’t go there with Black. I already got a from Auntie…
Bootcampgirl

FeFe says:
Not to beat a dead horse, but let’s remember that this man was obviously SICK…when one has a mental illness you cannot rationalize their actions…
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Nor are their thoughts rational..
Redeemed777

Cali girl, it is not about steve harvey perse, but about the common so-called christian mentality in so-called sunday churches!!!!

The word ”christian ” aint even in the Bible.

and so-called christians think all they have to do is ” Love ”…..
they don’t even know what Love is?????

This is why I say read those scriptures I posted, and check out RingoTV!!!

Be a doer.
JMO

Choco aka Hippie says:

I was to be so selfish as to check myself out and leave my mother with both of her kids dead because of a whole bunch of bullsh*t I created but was too lazy/wweak to fix.

Hence why I feel that suicide is TRULY selfish because me NOt being selfish changed my fukking mind.

So yeah
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I too have had them and becuz Im mentally stronger and I cope with things differently I was able to pull myself out of that dark place but that chit was not a cake walk and I even ended up back in that same dark place years later and I regained my composure too but IM IN NO POSITION to call someone weak becuz they felt they truly didn’t have another option I had people who loved I was blessed with a good job things I worked hard for and got them and was willing to throw it all away I think also some folks are not as close to GOD as they should be becuz it was his love and self love that pulled me out of that dark place – that dark place can’t even scare me anymore becuz if I feel it coming Im already making changes to prevent it
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candibfly

don’t mention federal vacations

*whispers* there’s a new post (not the ugly sweater one)
http://Www.yallaintchit.com Man, I just don’t care™

@SANDRA

So you saying if I put my pic up NAIR hoe can say anything bout me lest they get banned???

Cause you ain’t, not one time, gave out a warning for folk talking bout me. The only difference is my pic wasn’t up.
BlackBeauti

O.M.F.G people make me sick. I paid to give out turkeys in my hood. This lady gets a turkey free, get jacked for it. Then …

This tweet from 50 cent made my day
http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco aka Hippie

I don’t know what is it. I trusted my hairstylist ans she hooked it up for Thanksgiving.
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We stayin in this post some chit is about to come undone
AndThenIHitMyDougie

@Man
Apparently his sister, the pastor, his cousin (or whoever he wrote that rap too) and a whole lot of other folks knew for CERTAIN his azz was sick too. Where’s the blame for them?

He could’ve ALWAYS said “NO.”

It’s really easy and there are tons of different variations for it!

“No”
“fukk No.”
“Hell NO!”
“HELL NAW”
“Hell to the fukk no!”
“Shid, no!”

And tons of other variations. He knew he was sick which is why he was reaching out to folks with his suicidal raps, talks, etc. He could have always gotten help for his own damn self too. I get so TIRED of soceity blaming every invidual’s problems on everything else in their enviroment but that damn person themselves! We have a puzzy azz society because of it!

Personal accountability in this day and age is a damn antique because no matter what you do on your own fukking free will and accord, it’s always somebody willing to make an excuse for you to blame it on something else.

No. I’m not for that.
JMO

KyCakes says:

@JMO – Don’t go there with Black. I already got a from Auntie…
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I see!! I tried to frantically figure out how to erase my comment
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

ALL WE KNOW THE TWO WERE MARRIED & HE COMMITTED SUICIDE

HOW IN THE HELL CAN ANYONE SPEAK TO AS HOW THE HELL THIS WOMAN FELT & FOR WHOMEVER TO STATE THAT HE FELT PRESSURED TO MARRY AND DIDN’T REALLY WANT TO MARRY HER, THEIR NOT TOO DAMN BRIGHT EITHER YOU CAN ASSUME/THINK/ ALOT OF DAMN THINGS BUT SOME THINGS SHOULD NEVER BE SPOKEN

THEIR RESPONSE IS WE WANT TO RESPECT THE FAMILY’S PRIVACY AT THIS TIME, THIS PERSON OBVIOUSLY WANTED TO PLACE BLAME BECAUSE HE WAS DEAD AND PUBLICLY DID JUST THAT, POOR TASTE IS ALL I CAN SAY

IF SHE AINT PUSH THAT NICCA OUT THE DAMN WINDOW, THEN IT AINT HER DOING, THAT’S WHY IT’S CALLED SUICIDE, MEANING HE KILLED HIS DAMN SELF

AND IT WOULD HAVE MADE MORE SENSE IF HE KILLED HIMSELF BEFORE THE WEDDING, IF HE TRULY DIDN’T WANT TO GO THRU WITH IT

WHY WAIT UNITL THE WEDDING WAS OVER?????? DUH, IT WOULD HAVE BEEN MORE CONVINCING IF HE TIMED IT BEFORE THE WEDDING, HE WAS GOING TO KILL HIMSELF ANYHOW IT’S A DEMONIC SPIRIT -THAT WOULD HAVE RODE HIM UNTIL HE SOUGHT HELP
KyCakes

AndThenIHitMyDougie says:

He could’ve ALWAYS said “NO.”

It’s really easy and there are tons of different variations for it!

“No”
“fukk No.”
“Hell NO!”
“HELL NAW”
“Hell to the fukk no!”
“Shid, no!”
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Paul Simon said it best; There are “50 ways to leave your lover”
OutsidetheBox

Lakes said deportation vannnnnnn.

I leave self-deprecating humor!
http://Www.yallaintchit.com Man, I just don’t care™

@DOUGIE
“Apparently his sister, the pastor, his cousin (or whoever he wrote that rap too) and a whole lot of other folks knew for CERTAIN his azz was sick too. Where’s the blame for them?

He could’ve ALWAYS said “NO.”

It’s really easy and there are tons of different variations for it!

“No”
“fukk No.”
“Hell NO!”
“HELL NAW”
“Hell to the fukk no!”
“Shid, no!”

And tons of other variations. He knew he was sick which is why he was reaching out to folks with his suicidal raps, talks, etc. He could have always gotten help for his own damn self too. I get so TIRED of soceity blaming every invidual’s problems on everything else in their enviroment but that damn person themselves! We have a puzzy azz society because of it!

Personal accountability in this day and age is a damn antique because no matter what you do on your own fukking free will and accord, it’s always somebody willing to make an excuse for you to blame it on something else.

No. I’m not for that.”
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Did those other people have kids with him too??
Were they in a r/ship with him?

Nope. Ole “Ima-do-it-big-for-my-wedding” girl was tho. Nigga was sick, she knew it, and was more concerned about her wedding than the father of her kids. Now they ain’t got no father.

…but she got the wedding she wanted.

AND dude WAS getting help. He was seeing a counselor. Doctors are 0% on saving all lives. BUT she KNEW dude was sick and was steadily pressuring him = guilty.
OutsidetheBox

Wait, not leave love!
KyCakes

AndThenIHitMyDougie says:

Personal accountability in this day and age is a damn antique because no matter what you do on your own fukking free will and accord, it’s always somebody willing to make an excuse for you to blame it on something else.

No. I’m not for that.
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:whistles:
I can’t go for that
No can do
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

SINCE EVERYBODY KNEW IT, WHY THE FUG NOBODY STOOD UP AT THE WEDDING TO STOP IT

HELL ALL THEY ARSES ARE TO BLAME TOO, EVERY LAST ONE OF THEM GUESTS ALONG WITH THE BRIDE IF THAT’S YOUR THEORY, HELL THE DR. TOO
OutsidetheBox

WHY WAIT UNITL THE WEDDING WAS OVER??????

So he could inflict further pain? More bills, the pictures, the memories, she would never recover.. Just mean and spiteful. Im sorry. I do pray that wasnt it!

Or maybe he did want to marry her, but he also wanted to die. That could be. Maybe it was a “gift”… *reaching…*
http://Www.yallaintchit.com Man, I just don’t care™

@INTENSE
“SINCE EVERYBODY KNEW IT, WHY THE FUG NOBODY STOOD UP AT THE WEDDING TO STOP IT

HELL ALL THEY ARSES ARE TO BLAME TOO, EVERY LAST ONE OF THEM GUESTS ALONG WITH THE BRIDE IF THAT’S YOUR THEORY, HELL THE DR. TOO”
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Did all of them pressure him into marriage or just ol girl?

Sounds like you mighty defensive about women that pressure others into marriage.
AndThenIHitMyDougie

@Man
We have bno proof that fool was pressured. If there was not a gun to his head, he was not “pressured” to the point of no return. And if he didn’t want to marry her and let himself be “pressured” into this without threat of very real bodily harm, then he’s even weaker then I first thought.

you can hold onto the bullsh*t you believe reagrding this dude if you want, Man, I ain’t buying it though.
caligirl

@intense – WHEN IS THE LAST TIME YOU WENT TO A WEDDING AND STOOD UP AND SAID HELL NAWL DON’T DO IT. OR WENT TO A WEDDING AND HEARD SOMEBODY ELSE SAY IT. MOST FOLKS DON’T DO IT, MOST FOLKS GET CAUGHT UP IN THE THE DAY AND NOT THE MARRIAGE. WHICH IS WHY MOST MARRIAGES FAIL IN THE FIRST PLACE.
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

EXACTLY OTB
OutsidetheBox

Cali you stupid. Standing up for what you believe in is a lost art that will get you ostracized like a mugg!
http://Www.yallaintchit.com Man, I just don’t care™

@DOUGIE
“We have bno proof that fool was pressured. If there was not a gun to his head, he was not “pressured” to the point of no return. And if he didn’t want to marry her and let himself be “pressured” into this without threat of very real bodily harm, then he’s even weaker then I first thought.

you can hold onto the bullsh*t you believe reagrding this dude if you want, Man, I ain’t buying it though.”
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Yeah, but the FACT remains was that:

1. dude was sick
2. she knew about it
3. she went through with the wedding

Like the women above said, who WANTS to be married to someone with a mental disorder? Where is HER “personal responsiblity” in that? You know, “personal responsibility” that you are all for?

She took advantage of the situation to have the wedding that she wanted knowing he wasnt’ of sound mind.
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

@CALI

IF THIS BRIDE CAN BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE FOR THIS MAN DEATH, WELL SPREAD THE RESPONSIBILITY ON TO EVERYONE ELSE TOO, IF IT WAS SO WELL KNOWN THIS MAN WAS TRULY ILL, WHY IS IT ONLY THE BRIDE’S RESPONSIBILITY TO CALL OFF THE WEDDIING

HELL I GUESS THIS NEGROE DIDN’T REALISE THAT WAS AN OPTION AS WELL, SO AS EGREGIOUS AS IT SOUNDS HELL YEAH SOMEBODY SHOULD HAVE STOOD UP AND STOPPED IT, IF THIS IS THE MINDSET WE ARE GOING WITH
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

MY HUSBAND PROPOSED TO ME, PARTICIPATED IN EVERY ASPECT OF THE WEDDING, STOOD UP IN FRONT OF MY FAMILY AND ENTIRE CHURCH FAMILY TO HAVE OUR ENGAGEMENT ANNOUNCED, AND CRIED LIKE A BABY AT THE WEDDING I HAVE THE VIDEO

I DON’T WANT A NICCA THAT DON’T WANT ME, NO PROBLEM IN THIS DEPARTMENT

NICCA YOU REACHIN
http://chokolatemilk.blogspot.com Choco aka Hippie

I don’t think anyone is to blame placing fault is not finding a resolution just wished he was healthier and happier
ssweetheart85

Wow this is a tragic and extremely sad story but I’m with everyone else who says no one can force you into marriage. It wasn’t like someone held a gun to his head or threatened his life if he didn’t marry this woman. He went through all the planning, tuxedo fittings, rehearsals, etc..and nothing in his head told him to stop the shenaningans?

Him killing himself to me had less to do with him not wanting marriage, but more to do with whatever mental issues he had going on and whatever his personal demons he attempted to fight were. I just really hope his wife doesn’t go through the rest of her life blaming herself nor do her children blame her. If anything blame him.
ssweetheart85

And like Intense said..if he did have said mental issues..and his wife was supposedly being selfish, blah, blah, why didn’t anyone else step in on his behalf and stop the wedding? Just sounds like a bunch of people looking to place blame on someone..and the wife is the easiest target. :smh:
http://Www.yallaintchit.com Man, I just don’t care™

@INTENSE
“IF THIS BRIDE CAN BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE FOR THIS MAN DEATH, WELL SPREAD THE RESPONSIBILITY ON TO EVERYONE ELSE TOO, IF IT WAS SO WELL KNOWN THIS MAN WAS TRULY ILL, WHY IS IT ONLY THE BRIDE’S RESPONSIBILITY TO CALL OFF THE WEDDIING

HELL I GUESS THIS NEGROE DIDN’T REALISE THAT WAS AN OPTION AS WELL, SO AS EGREGIOUS AS IT SOUNDS HELL YEAH SOMEBODY SHOULD HAVE STOOD UP AND STOPPED IT, IF THIS IS THE MINDSET WE ARE GOING WITH”
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You right SOMEONE should have said something… but as long as we don’t leave out the MAIN CULPRIT: the fiance.

SHE was the one that wanted/agreed to the wedding
SHE was the one in a r/ship wtih ol boy
SHE was the one that knew he was sick

So yeah, we can blame the others too but let’s all agree to start with her.
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

WHATEVER MAN

YOU SHOULD HAVE ANTAGONIST NEXT TO YOUR DAMN NAME!!! MR. SHIAT STARTER
HoneyDip aka QueenSJ

@Man,

You’re a joke…
caligirl

OH my goodness, this man just pooted next to me in a meeting. He looking at me like, do you like that scent.
caligirl

There is A new beyonddddsayy post.
INTENSEMOCHA THE ANTAGONIST

I don’t think anyone is to blame placing fault is not finding a resolution just wished he was healthier and happier

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

THIS MINDSET IS MUCH HEALTHIER, HE DOESN’T DESERVED TO BASHED IT IS TRULY SAD THAT THIS MAN FELT THE NEED TO TAKE HIS LIFE, DEPRESSION IS A MONSTER AND I’M CONVINCED THAT IT’S A DEMON THAT PREYS ON FOLKS MINDS AND ENABLES THEM TO COMMIT THE MOST ATROCIOUS ACTS, INCLUDING KILLING THEMSELVES

SELF-LOVE, THERAPY, EVEN MEDICATION IF NECESSARY, A GREAT SUPPPORT SYSTEM AND GOD IS THE ONLY WAY TO DESTROY THIS DEMON
goat76

Well at least he didn’t kill tha whole family….ijs.
Fionafine

The evil sister could have kept her comments to herself. She’s made it even worse for this poor woman. We’ll never know the full story, but I’m sure his problems went far deeper than having to marry the woman who bore his children.