R&B singer Keyshia Cole, says marriage counseling works.
According to Eurweb.com, Cole’s husband, Daniel Gibson “was at first a bit hesitant to seek professional therapy for their marriage, but over time, he realized it was necessary.”
What’s not surprising to me is that Cole and Gibson sought marriage counseling in the first place.
Cole, 31, and Gibson, 26, met and began dating in 2009. They wed in an intimate ceremony on May 21, 2011 — a year after their first child, Daniel Hiram Gibson, Jr., was born.
3 years is about right for Dopamine (which sparked their strong sexual attraction to each other) to begin to fade. Young people who don’t understand how dopamine (and other brain neurotransmitters) works on sexual relationships falsely assume that their initial strong sexual attraction to each other must be love. It is not.
So when the dopamine begins to fade, these young people falsely believe that the “love” they once shared is now gone.
Actually, what’s gone is the dopamine — the initial spark that brought them together in the first place. But if they truly care about each other, the love that they cultivated over the course of their relationship will endure and last a lifetime.
It’s easy to see how young couples can be worried in the absence of dopamine. It’s a confusing time when couples begin to question their feelings. That is when they either break up, cheat, or choose to hang in there and work hard to make their love stronger.
If dopamine is the spark that brings two people together, then love is the glue that eventually bonds two people as one.
Dopamine is not love, and there’s nothing magical about it. Love doesn’t just appear out of thin air. It takes hard work to make it last.
It’s clear that the Gibsons have chosen to hang in there and work to make their love last. The couple was correct in seeking out marriage counseling to help them understand why the mood between them has changed.
“Once I get upset, there’s kind of no turning back,” said Cole. “He knows that that’s not fair, and I know that’s not fair. Sometimes I really get caught up in my emotions and I’m really good at it. So, like our psychiatrist says, I have to try to do ‘the unnatural thing.’ So, I’m trying.”
More from Sandrarose.com: