Valerie Castile

Valerie Castile, the mother of Philando Castile, is very upset about the manner in which journalists and bloggers are reporting the facts about her son.

The still grieving mom emailed Sandrarose.com on Thursday night to correct information in a post titled "Philando Castile's Jailed Father Wants His Cut of $3 Million Settlement".

Philando was shot to death by a trigger-happy former St. Anthony police officer during a traffic stop last year.

The city settled a wrongful death lawsuit with Valerie for $3 million. But Philando's father, Phelix H. Frazier Sr., who is serving time in federal prison, wants his fair share for donating his sperm (at the very least).

On Thursday, a Minneapolis judge agreed to distribute $2 million to Valerie (after attorney's fees). The same judge said Mr. Frazier does not qualify for any funds.

Sandrarose.com noted that Mr. Frazier "sired Philando 32 years ago," but Valerie was adamant that "Mr. Frazier Had NO RELATIONSHIP WITH MY SON!!!"

From: castilev3
To: Sandra@Sandrarose.com
Subject: I read your article!!

What I hate most is A journalist NOT Having Their FACTS !! Just to Get A Conversation and Reactions You Add and Subtract Information!!! Mr. Frazier Had NO RELATIONSHIP WITH MY SON!!! No Man or Woman Should Benefit Off Another's Death When You Help Them In LIFE!!! You Sicken Me !! How Dare You!! Your Chose [sic] Of Words Are Reckless and Tasteless!!

From: castilev3
To: Sandra@Sandrarose.com
Subject: RE: I read your article!!

I meant to say When You DON'T help in Life!! There IS NO BATTLE!!
He Has NO STAND!! I Paid the MOST ULTIMATE PRICE!! My First Born ,One and Only Son!! You Need Some Class!!

  • WutizaGRANNY!

    I thought you supported her claim that he isn't entitled to anything..maybe I read it wrong.. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/68bc52b2a4f54f3dc0d4dea29ec0c12c203c19b65d4d18beb2fbbd13d0be6a55.gif

  • Ni Ni

    I thought so too. Maybe i missed something. I'm too lazy to go back and read the original story.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    ??
    That email from the mother is kind of strange to me. I didn't see anything in that original article that should cause her to get so upset.

  • Scromes1212

    If she is saying he had no relationship with his dad and his dad is denying that claim then how can either be reported as a fact. You can just report what each parent is claiming. It's not SR job to determine which parent is telling the truth. I just hate the police killed that young man smh

  • http://2urbangirls.com 2UrbanGirls

    Here is what Sandra said wrong:

    Philando’s father, Phelix H. Frazier Sr., who sired him 32 years ago and helped raise him to be a man, now wants his share of the $3 million settlement.

    His mother had issue with Sandra alluding to the father helping raise him. He did NOT.

    Its ok Sandra. We all make mistakes.

  • WutizaGRANNY!

    chile me too.. (ye shrug)..

  • Coy little wink

    I got nothing but admiration and mad respect for her

  • lovelygamour

    A father lost a son. A girlfriend/wife lost her companion. A sister a brother. The father was supposed a kingpin. I assume some money made it to the mother. He doesnt appear to have children so she should give the father a cut and care for philandos blood relatives. If the girlfriend was a decent person give her some as well. This is blood money. And if it wasnt for the girlfriend livestreaming we wouldnt know all the details.
    The mother should give back the gofund me money. It served its purpose.
    The lawyers dont deserve a million dollars. This case was a slamdunk with tape.

  • WutizaGRANNY!

    Thanks for the recap.. cuz while I AM interested in the sensless death of this black man..I really don't care about the "Sorry we killed him funds" in my opion the amount is way low so they basically said your son's life was worth for the last 32 years aprox $62,500 a year.. but people see millions on a number and think its a big amount..so ok..

  • WutizaGRANNY!

    indeed...

  • Please Stop The Madness

    Mr. Frazier Had NO RELATIONSHIP WITH MY SON!!!

    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    I kinda already deduced that Ms. Val. Not jumping to conclusions. I just had a feeling and comes to find out I was right. Godspeed to you lady. Prayers still. We outchea for ya.

  • lovelygamour

    She should cut a deal with the dad. This doesnt look good and in grief we do things thats not to our benefit.

  • WutizaGRANNY!

    Hmm. Isn't the father a Sr? so there must be a Jr somewhere he claiming right.. or are your referring to Philando without kids?

  • Please Stop The Madness

    I said that yesterday

  • Please Stop The Madness

    From the comments section yesterday:

    The daughter of phelix • 11 hours ago
    Let me set the record straight so keep your unwanted opinions. he don't have parental rights over my brother at all. that dad of mine don't deserve shit and when he exercise his parental rights for the other four children he was "man enough" to sign the birth certificate of. Philando he robbed of that. holler at me I'm the daughter you don't know my brothers you don't know my family stop trying to push that stereotype on my brothers. I'm mad as fuck at him because he don't deserve nothing he deserve every heartbreak heart ache memory of my brother on TV how he seen him just like that. now unwanted opinions or what you think he deserves can shut the fuck up. No need to respond I spoke now go find another story to read.

  • DaughterOfaQueen

    Bless her heart I hope she eventually finds peace. Sandra she at least gave you credit for being a Journalist?

  • WutizaGRANNY!

    >>>we here then<<< Im sure you just can't put Sr without having a JR..but people do crazy things with names now a days so who knows.. lol

  • lovelygamour

    If he had kids it would be higher. My old investment company had a life calculator. I was worth less cause I had no kids, marriage, and my job is freelance.

  • WutizaGRANNY!

    She did handle it well...but honestly the last thing I would be thinking about is peoples opinion of my family when I am grieving...maybe she is surfing the web to keep her mind off everything and came across this blog. But everybody grieves differently so..

  • Yardgirl

    I feel her pain. I have a friend, single mother raising an eight year old. This child is very intelligent and I can see him doing great things later in life (God's willing) I can also see the dead beat showing up to praise his successful son and my friend going ballistic on him. Just because you are a sperm donor that don't make you entitled to shyte!! IMHO.

  • WutizaGRANNY!

    Oh wow.. thanks for telling me there is ACTUALLY a price for each of us still...Im prolly worth two hotdogs and a dried up mustard package.. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/68bc52b2a4f54f3dc0d4dea29ec0c12c203c19b65d4d18beb2fbbd13d0be6a55.gif

  • lovelygamour

    I was referring to the deceased. I thought the girl was his daughter but she is the girlfriends.

  • WutizaGRANNY!

    Child just like my childrens father. I worked my ASSS off providing and caring..but show up to events like he was actually active making speeches n shyt about how proud of him he is.. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/31cc39cc2bf35f87a91ceb5674750c86843153822e4785c260b14a0335733690.gif

  • WutizaGRANNY!

    OHHH...okay yeah true. If he did have little ones they would have gotten something..

  • Shay

    I honestly feel Sandra is mean spirited and messy! JS

  • Bonsai

    Why is this woman upset? Sandra said nothing wrong to warrant that tirade.

  • lovelygamour

    I was happy cause it means I could retire for cheap. Then someone said thats awful low. Lol.

  • Coy little wink

    Why make that assumption? If he was not in his son's life his cut is dust hunny. His paternal relatives aren't owed anything either...

  • lovelygamour

    Its time for them to move, leave the public eye, and go to therapy to deal with this death.

  • Please Stop The Madness

    She was kinda mad at me bc I said fukk Phelix for his foolishness. How you gonna side with he aint did shit for us/he aint about shit... but then be mad bc STRANGERS agree and be like yeah he a deadbeat and fukk him? But I get it. They had a HUGE loss. She angry. Godspeed to her too.

  • Bonsai

    The father was there out in the street protesting holding up a big sign when his son was murdered. That should count for something.

  • rayne215

    too bad the cop didnt go to jail. dad couldve made it up to his son and took him out

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Many uninformed people call bloggers journalists.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    His daughter says he has four kids.

  • lovelygamour

    1.if it wasnt for both parents their wouldnt be a child.
    2. Some fights arent worth fighting cause it opens up a can of worms.
    We dont need to know his father is a kingpin and his sister has issues. Give the dad a token amount and move on. Maybe philando got stopped so many times was because of family history. Just dont go down the family path. Shut dad up. Its all windfall bloodmoney anyway.

  • eBay

    She is- notice she didn't retract her email address? But she added that "sic" in there, indicating the email posted was edited to some extent- why not remove the email address while you're at it?

  • 1BlueStar

    And instead of saying "I meant to say...." why didn't she just use the delete button??

  • Soda

    From the prison yard, or was he not incarcerated at that time?

  • eBay

    Why didn't you remove her email address? You added "sic" so the post was edited/proofread somewhat, why not retract her email address?

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Says the woman with a special needs child as her profile pic...

  • free

    responding to blogs though???? i mean, we know SR is a star but d8mn, don't you have more important shyt to do lady?

  • Please Stop The Madness

    Why is this woman upset?

    ^^^^^^^^^^^
    I think they are mad that folks are talkin about it in general. The whole unless "I SAY" something its not okay to talk about it in ANY capacity. She lost her baby boy and I cannot imagine.

  • lovelygamour

    Thats my point. No one wants people to talk about about their family. So give the dad a little to shut him up. The sister is coming off bad. I wonder has she ever driven her brothers car? I wouldnt be thinking this if they just stayed in the background.

  • Bonsai

    That's the thing, Sandra ain't even a journalist. How you gonna get mad when Sandra just regular folk.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    *Fixed.

  • Renee26

    Nah

  • eBay

    Thank you.

  • Bonsai

    Oh wow... the sister was up in here commenting.... bless her soul.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    A star? Where?

  • Renee26

    LMAO that baby is not special needs...she's giving yuck face

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I neglected to mention she sent 2 emails. I simply added them together as one.

  • free

    SR (and her peoples [us]) is a star. when she blogs, folk pay attention.

  • Renee26

    LMAO you so silly...but yeah they calculate what you made per year and intellectual potential too in some cases

  • Harley

    whats wrong with special needs kids tho???

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Calm down. I removed it.

  • Soda

    He didn't care enough to give his son his last name so he doesn't deserve "a deal."

  • DaughterOfaQueen

    You trying to get banned huh? ?

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Now you know the mom controls what goes on the birth certificate.

  • free

    i explain in another post below.

  • Renee26

    I got time today...I'm interested in seeing the comment section because the mother and sister responded like some people were saying the most...and I wanna be nosey

  • free

    they all coming off bad to me. i'mma just hold my mule though.

  • MookieFly

    For the original article, I thought everyone in the comments wanted him to NOT get any money. She might be battling claims that the father helped raised him and got triggered by wording.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    My bad. I'll delete my comment.

  • Soda

    But did the father protest much?

  • Coy little wink

    1. You don't know the story still making assumptions but ok. You assume that the dad wanted the child...I know many who didnt- they want the woman to abort she doesn't they bounced. anyone can be a sperm donor but it takes effort to be a father...sounds like this man is the former...again I don't know but ijs

    If he did nothing he deserves nothing I feel her pain...

  • TheOwley

    The lady is rightfully angry but is directing her anger at the wrong people. She could have written to refute the father's claims that he raised his son and that's it. She also says "No Man or Woman Should Benefit Off Another’s Death When You Help Them In LIFE!!!" What does that mean? She got a $3M settlement. Is she donating that money since "no man" should benefit from it. And "He Has NO STAND!! I Paid the MOST ULTIMATE PRICE!! My First Born, One and Only Son!! You Need Some Class!!" The mom is in pain for the loss, but isn't everyone else in the young man's life. It's true what they say, to take 24 hours before firing off that e-mail message.

  • Soda

    She corrected herself: "I meant to say When You DON’T help in Life!! There IS NO BATTLE!!"

  • Scromes1212

    OT: If I ask you to have an obortion that makes me a bad father?

  • Harley

    the court clearly says he is not eligible

  • MsPam

    Why is she looking like Countess Vaughn? Go spend your money lady and leave Ms. Sandra alone.

  • Justlooknout

    I find it interesting that she took the time to email Sandra Rose. @sandrarose did you verify if that was Ms. Castille?

  • Coy little wink

    Answer your own dumb question...

  • Ni Ni

    Interesting...welp that warrants a trip downstairs ?.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Castille's father is in prison for the rest of his life so he wasn't thinking about his son when he was committing crimes.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    You can't be a father if there is no kid.

  • Solstice

    ??

  • Coy little wink

    Bruh!

  • Scromes1212

    I'm speaking about if I ask for one and you decide not to do it. Then 10 years later you talk down on me by saying I wanted you to have an abortion. I just hate when females bring that up after the fact smh

  • Solstice

    Lmao…this comment tickled me ?

  • BacktolurkingIgo

    Continued prayers for her and his loved ones.

  • Solstice

    Neither did I. And I'll politely comment on the exaggerated write ups and outlandish adjectives describing singers, but this post was decent to me. ?????

  • SumthinSweeter

    Right and from my memory, I don't recall the article from Sandra as her going in on the mom or being shady but maybe I should re-read it. Seemed like everyone was in support of the mom's stance on the "sperm doner" not getting any cash from the settlement.

  • Solstice

    ? I jussst now noticed that…?…
    Umm ? good ?
    I concur

  • Justlooknout

    Prayer for her and family. May that money be put to good use and she can live a life fighting for justice. Or she just may lay low, but she will not have peace. So Sad

  • WutizaGRANNY!

    Damn...Im doooomed then..let me see if I can get back in college to up my death price...my kids be so sad when they get a check that say minus all expenses Yall owe US! https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/6ea022ea348c90010dc1bcafc08581048624a12eedcd48d8d551247c3c4634ee.gif

  • PROPHETMAJOR

    She is wasting her time.....

  • Renee26

    LMAO not up your death price...I Hollered!

  • Reina1718

    I kinda got confused myself

  • MookieFly

    Someone else said the sister or girlfriend popped off in the comments yesterday so I guess she ran off to mama on one

  • Reina1718

    Does the girlfriend get anything? I mean without her there would be no proof

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    Displaced anger is a dangerous thing. The officer who killed her son is free and she will never get her son back. Long after she has squandered her settlement, those two facts will remain.

  • Yardgirl

    The damn nerve!!! SMH!!

  • Yen Chantress

    I do not allow zealous emotions to be involved when addressing things like this. I am going to say this..There is no monetary amount that would begin to correct my son being shot. When every penny is spent, saved or invested, the facts will be the same. A son shot dead! 3 million dollars!? My son, 3 million would be offensive. If his absent father wanted portion, why not!? I did choose to lay with him and create a son. I would not waste energy trying to minimize his paternity. If I gain monetarily from our son's murder, he should as well. It is just worthless money anyway. I know my take on it this, is not "Mainstream" but it is my comment. SMH...

  • Str8tUpMenace

    You ever been sooooo pissed or sooooo hurt that you can't think straight, or anything may just set you off?

    Clearly, this mother is still grieving the loss of her son. I feel more hurt than anger in her email. I can't imagine losing my baby due to trigger happy ass cop that's supposed to protect and serve. And not only losing him because of this asswipe's actions, but also because of my baby's race. Then, for that bastard to get off scott free. And for the city to decide to issue a settlement aka STFU money, and then here comes a damn sperm donor with his hand out. Nah son. I'd be hurt and pissed too, for years to come, I'm sure.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    If men don't want to become fathers then they should wear condoms.

    And let's not talk about that equality crap because nature only gave females the burden of pregnancy.

    Some men get all bent out of shape because women have options after they get pregnant but I don't know any man who would want to become pregnant.

  • Yen Chantress

    Wasted energy is a valuable commodity to a crooked system....

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    There's 1000+ urban blogs out there on the internet. I don't know if it's a good use of one's time to be fussing with people on blogs regarding the death of your loved one/ family disputes etc. If you know the real truth for yourself, then just live in your truth. You don't have any need to "set the record straight" with strangers on the internet.
    I understand her being in mourning, still hurt, angry etc.. but some things you just have to let go.

  • Please Stop The Madness

    The sister said she already got paid off of GoFundMe in the other post. I agree with you tho.

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    I agree with you.. Hopefully the mother took care of her and gave her some cash privately. If it wasn't for that video the girlfriend took, the mother's settlement probably would be way less than what she got.

  • Renee26

    This! I went back through the comment section of the original post just to see where all the anger came from...this family needs Jesus! All they did was show their true character...ugliness

  • On the radar….

    Don't make no damn sense. Displaced anger only hurts yourself.

  • KarmaBackAround

    The thing is we was all siding with her yesterday saying the father didnt deserve a dime..what the hell is her issue??!

  • Renee26

    They also pissed at the girlfriend too...they hugging that money close to their chest...ain't NOBODY gettin a dime of that settlement money!

  • On the radar….

    Exactly!

  • Renee26

    The family told her to be happy with that Go Fund me money...we shall see if she files a separate case because his family cares nothing about her or her baby

  • Keesh5000

    DANNGGG,...SOUNDS LIKE SHE MADE TIME FOR YOU AUNTIE

  • Renee26

    It will surely be squandered too...I could list the things that will be purchased but I don't feel like being that petty today...maybe later

  • On the radar….

    Sandra, you're our ??

  • Mr.LeBrickJames

    Looks like she was offended by the part of the write-up that said: "Philando’s father, Phelix H. Frazier Sr., who sired him 32 years ago and helped raise him to be a man ..."

  • Lisa daniels

    She mad at that. We good.

  • Renee26

    That's not the way the mother sees it...which helped me make up my mind about her true character...

  • Scromes1212

    Condoms break. JS. The seed starts in me so I should have a say. In my humble opinion

  • Renee Bee

    Madam... you entered the Rose Garden. The End.

  • KarmaBackAround

    Ahhhh ok ok...i mean hell, long as SHE n that judge can agree on him being a dead beat what the hell does it matter what folk say ..go be a millionaire n be great! Damn lady smh

  • KarmaBackAround

    She need to take her 2 million n get some business..she mad but its really fa nothin..

  • KarmaBackAround

    This!!

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    Well keep your 'seed' to yourself son.

    I am sure women won't miss you.

  • Reina1718

    Wow thars not nice

  • Reina1718

    Wow thats not nice

  • Renee26

    Ikr! Showed their true character

  • Anunnaki

    Sandra got her "narcissim" on. Like I dont give a fccccckkkk. But at the same time i cant imagine how this,woman feel. About her son and ONLY. My dear lord. Bless you sista.

  • Reina1718

    I hate when the fight is about money..money cant bring someone back

  • Reina1718

    Thats crazy that girl suffering too..money will never erase what that girl went thru & it wont heal his mother either smh

  • https://twitter.com/Chicagowise Chicagowise

    I read her heartbreaking Facebook post regarding the horrific injuries her son received during the shooting. Moved me to tears. I guess she's earned the right to grieve any way she wants to. I hope she gets a good financial advisor, but I doubt she will.

  • BacktolurkingIgo

    It is and amen.

  • Hmmm~?

    I don't even understand what she's saying.

  • Jefferey Franklin

    You let the man who murdered her son in cold blood walk away without so much as a slap on the wrist simply because he wore a dishonorable uniform. Anybody who is wanting her to shut up is either a coon, a coward or a racist.......let that woman say whatever the f*** she wants to say...just like you continue to let the police do whatever the f*** they want to do

  • dontgetblocked

    I feel for her but she can't be angry at auntie. She needs to take the money and start a foundation in honor of her son. Be better than the beast that murdered her son. My prayers are with her and the rest of her family.

  • Mrs. (Asexual) Elmo¯_(?)_/¯

    I hate typing when im angry. Nothing comes out right.

  • Ms. Jackson

    I can understand her anger. With that being said, ima slide all this ass right on out of this post. But, Sandra, sometimes.... Well, let me get my ass out of this post. ????

  • Youngblood

    she went in on Sandra lame a$$.lmao yall no Sandra happy the lady said she read her post.So she is okay showing you this email the lady sent.Yall also need to no Sandra lives in her mother basement and hates on B all the time.

  • WiserWords2

    You're right. This woman lost her son. The man who killed him won't spend a day in prison. Anger is just hurt turned inside out. My heart aches for her.

  • Tea??

    Her first mistake was thinking bloggers especially this one are respected journalists. I feel for her and she can clap back at anyone in defense of her dead son ?????

  • the guest

    Beautifully and compassionately stated.