girl writing with pencil in classroom

A new study shows children may be losing basic skills such as holding pencils and practicing proper penmanship. The new study claims the loss of penmanship skills could impact children later in life.

According to The Guardian UK, children struggle to write because they lack the dexterity needed to hold pencils upright.

children holding cell phones

UK researchers found kids spend so much time “swiping” on their tablets and smartphones that they enter school with weaker arm and hand muscles at a young age.

In the past, children were taught to write in cursive on lined notebook paper. But that basic skill is a thing of the past as teachers encourage the use of iPads and other tablet computers in classrooms.

Today’s teenagers have awful penmanship and many can’t even sign their names legibly.

Researchers say the overuse of touchscreen phones and tablets is preventing children from developing finger muscles that enable them to hold pencils correctly.

“Children are not coming into school with the hand strength and dexterity they had 10 years ago,” said Sally Payne, a pediatric occupational therapist in England.

“To be able to grip a pencil and move it, you need strong control of the fine muscles in your fingers.”

Payne advised parents to give their small children building blocks to develop their hand dexterity and encourage them to play outside more. “Children need lots of opportunity to develop those skills,” she said

“It’s easier to give a child an iPad than encouraging them to do muscle-building play such as building blocks, cutting and sticking, or pulling toys and ropes. Because of this, they’re not developing the underlying foundation skills they need to grip and hold a pencil.

  • SpillyNillie

    I’m loving all of the natural Black cuteness in these photos

  • jeniefrumdabloc™

    I was done with these schools when they tried take away cursive writing … Work with your kids at home. .. Because man.. They Just legalized these teachers in Georgia to carry a gun… In the school …. These schools aren’t out for your child’s best interest SMH…. They want your children dumb …thats the point smh

  • FukkFolks2018

    Correct. Cursive is no longer taught in school here. I have a 23 year old and somewhere between her and her 13 yo sister it stopped being taught. And both are lefties to boot (I am their sole right handed parent). Parents are going to have to take charge and teach their own. I found a number of workbooks online and in the office supply store and worked with both.

    Good luck.

  • http://batman-news.com Roderick2011

    It won’t matter because we’ll be ‘scanned’ soon so learning to sign your name will be obsolete.

  • SpillyNillie

    My son’s handwriting is AWFUL and he’s going to the 6th grade. I told him I was giving him one more year and if no improvements were made he’ll be in after school tutoring with me….

  • JV

    my penmanship is ?, glad I’ll be fitting in

  • Quitedeliteful

    I was shocked to find out that otherwise bright , intelligent children cannot write in script! I’m wondering is that all children?? I bet Malia and Sasha Obama or the Bush children are familiar with cursive writing… I don’t know — maybe I’m just old fashioned…

  • hi-liter

    My parents bought me those fat #2 pencils for kindergarteners who are first learning to write, and I also purchased them for my daughter when she first started learning. Those regular skinty pencils are too small for uncoordinated hands

  • Coy little wink

    I won a penmanship contest in elementary school and have prided my handwriting skills ever since. I stayed on my kids about theirs too. This is unbelievable and sad…cursive writing a lost art ?

  • hi-liter

    I taught my daughter cursive writing by the time she was in the 3rd grade because they stop teaching it and once she learned, she would write her name in cursive on her papers and more than one teacher told her to stop doing it. I would like wow, if a student knows how to write in cursive, why tell them to stop doing it?!

  • SweetTEE

    Yea, my cousin teaches at a charter school. The middle school kids don’t know how to read or write cursive. They also have problems telling time without a digital clock and adding basic numbers with out a calculator. These are basic things that should start at home.

  • Tiff J

    They don’t even teach writing in script in school anymore, and haven’t for a long time. My nephew is 20 and doesn’t know how to write or read in script. The only half ass script he knows is just to sign his name. Sad. How are these kids going to sign anything if they can’t write in script?

  • SweetTEE

    Anyone else research the k-12 online program? I also hear there’s a program geared toward black students. That may be the wave of the future.

  • Kayke

    Even if it started at home….once they go into the school system it is not reinforced. Home school your kids.

  • Tiff J

    Probably cause the teacher doesn’t know how to read it. LOL

  • Phillybruh

    Then what do the teachers do with all the pencils they ask us for at the beginning of the school year.

  • Reina1718

    I agree

  • MsPam

    Speaking of Sasha she was hanging out with Cardi B and Offset after the concert.

  • Ebony Starr

    So did I. I’m so big on penmanship. I had a customer who comes in and I compliment her on her penmanship. She said that you told me that the last time that I was here. She seemed annoyed but I am big on that.

  • Yoni7

    YES! Cursive writing is going to look like a secret messaging codes to this generation.

  • millz

    ?As a parent you have to teach your own damn kids. If you know how to do something your kids don’t know you teach them. My kids have nice handwriting because I do and I understand the importance. I check their work. They have been filling out their own paperwork since the fifth grade. Nice and legible! I simply sign and date. Stop depending and blaming these teachers. Limited television and electronic time… set boundaries geesh. It’s always easier to blame someone else.

  • MsPam

    I still practice my penmanship to this day. I remember when I learned a write in cursive I was so excited and proud!

  • Yoni7

    Sure is. I LOVE my handwriting.

  • FukkFolks2018

    BOTH girls handwriting was real bad Michael Jackson. My own sister was the sole left handed person in our family prior to my own two girls. When 23 yo was in 3rd…My dad was like you need to get your sister over here to work with this child ASAP. My parents said resources were dwindling even THEN for handwriting support etc with students with bad penmanship when my sister was in school and she is a child of the 1970s. So no surprise its all the way gone now.

  • Yoni7

    I didn’t know they were BOTH lefties. I think Grand-Sun might be a leftie like his granddaddy……….and THAT handwriting is what you call it….”slave on paper”.

  • Yoni7

    THIS!

  • Yoni7

    Make it fun for him, tutoring and all.

  • Toni Toni Toni

    Exactly. Right. 2 Packs of 24 pencils…
    I wouldn’t be surprised if they were making ebay packets with all of the school list necessities for profit.
    Why on earth did they also stop teaching cursive in school. That was the dumbest thing to take off the curriculum.
    I bought my sons Cursive handwriting books so they could hone their skills since it wasn’t being taught in school as much when they were in elementary.

  • VernadineTheQueen?

    You are suppose to teach your children at home how to write. My daughter is 16 and they stopped writing in cursive around they time she was coming up. I taught her how to sign her name at home. Basically that’s all it is needed for anyways!! A signature!! She can write in manuscript pretty good!!

  • Phillybruh

    My children’s school uses laptops and tablets. Because that’s simply the generation we are in. But they really should know how to write before they enter kindergarten. They did phase out cursive, but it shouldn’t stop a parent from teaching it at home.

  • http://welfareinfo.org angrysolo

    is cardi Sasha’s surrogate?

  • Ni Ni

    Probably so, amongst other basic skills. Sn:The lady who brings me packages told me i never sign my name the same way. My 3rd grade teacher told me my handwriting was awful; sadly, not much has changed?.

  • FukkFolks2018

    Yes. Both girls are left handed. The original ped. who was also our ped (my sisters and I and he also founded the practice…has since retired if not managed to die. He was old AF when WE were young. God bless him) said he had never seen a set of SISTERS who were both leftie. I was like but they dont have the same dad. Said it didnt matter. Its in their medical charts as a cross ref. lol. “Dub23 has a left handed sister. Dub13 has a left handed sister. “

  • MissHarlem

    If you are black in Amerikkka and not further teaching your child at home…congratulations you played yourself. Teachings start at home and should continue ??

  • Quitedeliteful

    I saw that!!

  • Kemi

    Lol exactly

  • Kemi

    Was about to write the same thing.

  • FukkFolks2018

    New post

  • Kimberly King

    “But it shouldn’t stop a parent from teaching it at home.”

    EXACTLY. I’m an educator (high school math) in TX and for the life of me I don’t understand why *some* parents think teachers have the time to teach them every single thing. I appreciate parents who work with their child on their homework or pair them with a tutor. My boyfriend taught his grandson how to address a letter and an envelope because they don’t teach it anymore in elementary school. I’m too sensitive when it comes to kids so I can’t teach elementary school. I’d be too busy trying to fight their trifling parents and going crazy on the T.E.A. Lol

  • Malcom Flex

    My rich friends of all races don’t let their kids use devices my friends in tech won’t let their kids on FB or snapchat. Most of my black friends use devices as babysitters guess who’s kids are more intelligent??

  • disqus_TrCUDzOzuG

    My kid writes all the time. She will use up an entire posted note pack on bull crap and I don’t mind. Her school doesn’t require the use of a laptop or tablet and she’s 7.

  • Coy little wink

    I’m big on it too…I love calligraphy as well…your handwriting says a lot about you

  • Applebootay

    My guess is the rich ones, they live in better more affluent neighborhoods and go to better schools…I work for a prestigious university and the rich white and asian kids all walk around with a device….I see rich white babies in strollers with IPADs in their hands…ALL THE TIME

  • Yoni7

    Oh and don’t forget to add coloring to this as well. Such a lost art. I own a coloring book and a 64-pack of Crayola crayons.

  • Yoni7

    Mama’nem a leftie and none of her children are/were.

  • Applebootay

    SHould know how to write BEFORE kindergarten??? And I didn’t even know they phased out cursive writing until my child had to write a paper in cursive (years ago)…I went out and bought every practice cursive book I could find…made her fill it out every night….

  • Applebootay

    I use Khan Academy for my HS Freshman.

  • J2PC

    Maybe some kids will be left behind, but not all kids. All parents and schools are not dysfunctional nor teach on the same levels or care about the quality of their students education the same.

    -there will still be those schools & parents who make sure that they make sure that their kids are prepared and a step above the rest.

    All it takes is a cheap dollar store cursive learning tablet with tracing examples along with a free YTube video to give children the visual.

    -just 30mins to one hour on the weekends and during summer breaks can get them there instead of mindless wasting hours in front of a tv, etc.. being programmed.

  • Ebony Starr

    Yes. I bought myself a calligraphy kit years ago.

  • J2PC

    Not all schools & parents fail their kids. There will still be a number of parents and schools who care to help their kids stay prepared or a step above the rest.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    so kids no longer color with crayons, write on chalkboards/sidewalks, or ‘sign’ their names on their artwork (or living room walls, lol)? this must be that new-new…. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/5a16feb7886870b58e876a7ffc6b264e7419e743bb55ec579123b82d4a427799.gif

  • Kimberly King

    My nephew knows how to write his name, my name, his mom name and other words he knows how to spell and he’s not even in kindergarten yet. A child has the ability to learn at a young age. Depends on what the child’s family.

  • Applebootay

    They don’t teach them long hand math anymore either. In my day, we had to write our time tables hundreds of thousands of times, that’s why I can say them in my sleep. Ask the average kid to quickly tell you what’s 12 X 9 and watch them stutter. My daughter is a HS Freshman and I pay $50 an hour for a Math tutor that she sees once to twice a week. She gets straight As in everything else. They don’t teach ANY of the basics anymore. Everyone screaming do it yourself at home. I get it, then I don’t. I work 2 jobs and personally don’t have the time to “do it myself” but I work hard so I can afford someone who can do it for me. I don’t understand this new math anyway.

  • Yoni7

    Ok???

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Good for you! Elementary schools teach 5-year-olds about transgenderism and anal sex but they can’t teach them how to write in cursive.

  • Applebootay

    When he said know how to write, I envisioned something way more than names. I thought he meant more. My daughter went to a top tier Preschool program and was and still is advanced in everything except math. So it depends on way more than just the family. I pay tax dollars for my child to receive a decent education. It takes a WHOLE VILLAGE to raise a child. IMHO

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Whet? Children don’t color in Kindergarten anymore? ?

  • Lena Justin

    My 18 year old niece’s handwriting is atrocious but she can type touch screen fast. I went to a job interview, where they asked if I was a fast touch screen typist, and that threw me off, because I’m an excellent keyboard typists, so I lied and said yes.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    “Her school doesn’t require the use of a laptop or tablet and she’s 7.”

    Excellent school!

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    That’s funny. My teachers had the time to teach us cursive and how to color inside the lines. Those are the basics that all elementary school teachers should teach.

  • SweetTEE

    Thats my plan

  • Vegas1989

    Those were the days. I use to break my crayons to get a new 64 pack with the built in sharper…..LOL

  • Phillybruh

    Its all excellent school until your 8yr old has back problems, from carrying all those books when they can simply be uploaded into the tablet or laptop that is only for school use.

  • Applebootay

    Everyone keep saying should start at home….GOT IT…HOWEVER, our tax dollars are being used to provide education for our children. My mother didn’t have the time or patience to teach 5 kids. I remember being in Kindergarten/1st grade and they had that shoe that taught you how to tie shoes, we used an abacus to learn math, https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/879172d3e246ae43846c18829e506cdeba8d74d59b0f93fd482e3ab613b49a15.jpg https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/ca29b7752de276967b3aeee30f594a938148176930f7e55db8fcf44c429a8f1e.jpg https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/2f73943b671cf05fb69fb5879851389b84c95945eeef0e973c4947eb68517580.jpg https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/65f7d6f0fab444dbbeff6c0b1fccf73fb0e7e2c3c37f23458f7eb07f95139932.png we hand a manual clock, and hand outs that we had to write the answer to what the time was…we had those cursive practice pages that taught us how to write. I learned ALL that in school and not at home.

  • Karen Brady

    Pretty lil chcolate thangs up there. I’ll take ’em all. For an hour, lol. Then their peeps need to come get them.

  • Applebootay

    Yes, because private tuition pays for ALL that…

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    “They don’t teach ANY of the basics anymore. ”
    Liberals control the schools now. They’re teaching children to be snowflakes. Every kid gets a participation trophy. ?

  • Applebootay

    LOL

  • Dun Dilly

    Forget the kids, my damn hand writing has gotten horrible over the last ten years …and I’m 42!

  • Phillybruh

    My mother worked but she had time. Too make sure she wasn’t sending unprepared children too school. We could read and write and as much math as she could prepare us with. I try too do the same with my boys, and with so much out here it’s no reason why they aren’t excelling.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    The problem is you have to pay thousands of $$$ for your child to attend those schools.

  • Vegas1989

    I brought my friend child some coloring books and water painting stuff. The child was like, “What is this? I don’t want this.” I snatch that **** out of that child hand and went and got my money back. The child is a fast ask 7 years old girl that can’t read….SMH…..This is the same little child I that I told if she kick the back of my seat as I was driving one more time that I was going to put her and her mama out and take home Olivia only….,LOL

  • Karen Brady

    Whew, you took it back. I remember drawing on the linoleum dining room floor with crayons one day with my brother. To this day I rub my ass when I see a crayola.

  • Applebootay

    Teachers don’t even want anything written or cursive. EVERYTHING has be typed out on a computer. Which blows me because, we wrote EVERYTHING OUT…Even the signs on the science fair projects…LOL

  • Stationarity

    You can reiterate basic skills while driving with your daughter, at the store, when buying stuff, looking at TV etc. I am sure your tutor is not teaching your high school daughter multiplicitation she should have learned when she was younger. If you want to back up her basic math…google basic math practice, print out a whole bunch of sheets at work or wherever. Before she can relax and play on her smart phone every night…make her do a sheet. Or try Kahn academy. Basic skills have to be re-enforced at home. A teacher has 30 students in a class. A parent can’t expect a teacher to put more emphasis on their child’s education in an hour a day out of thirty students that we as parents do on one child. Not trying to fuss at you because you got your daughter a tutor and obviously are doing the right thing. But their are still things that we as parents can do that don’t take up a lot of time and can be reincorporated daily:

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Great parenting! ? ? Let me guess: your kids don’t have cell phones?

  • Phillybruh

    My oldest does he’s 13. My mother got it for him with her seniors plan on T-mobile…She got my niece one as well who is 13.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    Unfortunately, your tax dollars are being used to educate immigrant children, especially if you live in California, Florida or Texas

  • Stationarity

    I hate it that some parents think that a teacher is going to put more effort into the parents ONE child out of all thirty or more students then the parent should. It’s nonsense. A teacher will have their one child for a year, for an hour or 180 days out of the year… and somehow the teacher is expected to teach the kids everything and be more invested than a parent that has had the one child for their WHOLE life is.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    That 64 pack was like the Gucci of crayons. ?

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I personally prefer books to computer screens. Those screens are not good for their eyes. An entire generation of children will grow up with eye strain, poor vision and migraine headaches.

  • Renee Bee

    Chile just write a note in cursive to the lil peanut brains and its like they are holding the Rosetta Stone.
    Its a shame and a scandal. SMH.

  • Phillybruh

    Now that I do agree with, but it cuts down on costs for a lot of these public schools that have issues with books.

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I don’t know how schools operate today, but in my generation, the teacher taught the entire class cursive over a period of days or weeks. She walked down the aisles between desks and looked at our papers to make sure we were doing it right. She did not focus on any one child. How difficult is that?

  • Applebootay

    You’re not fussing at me because you got the wrong one Sweetie…. I didn’t think I needed to say this So don’t take every thing so literal. My daughter is being taught/tutored for college level trigonometry now and practicing for the SATs. Back(years ago) when she first started struggling with math I bought her EVERYTHING..I had Hooked on phonics for the $100s of dollars…Girl BYE….I BEEN ON….I knew about KHAN Academy a few years back too.CDs that we listened to in the car, books, websites…etc…I’m in the PTA….very involved…..TRUST…I’m that Mom….YES AND I will make sure that with the 30 -40 or 1000 students the teacher has that she, the school, and the school board, the city and everything else that involves my child is done. I just had my daughter switch a class because one teacher had too many students and the class was disruptive…and the other biology teacher had half that….GIRL BYE!!I

  • Torae

    My child school does not do honor roll because they don’t want children to feel left out. They do test them and group them up with for reading, English and math class????? It makes zero sense to me.

  • Missy

    My 2 yo has alrdy learned how to swipe & go straight to youtube. Thts y i now hide all tablets & phones from him. We go outside & PLAY.

  • Renee Bee

    I grew up in the Caribbean. In class we had to stand in line an recite our timetables. If we messed up we got wacked with a ruler. Sad but true.

  • Applebootay

    My daughter has both. Heavy back pack and she uses a computer/laptop in just about every class. She wears glasses and I paid extra for the blue light blocking screen protection…that they add to your Rx

  • Renee Bee

    Bwahahaha! Momma was not playing with you marking up her floors.

  • Applebootay

    100….its not Sandy….Let’s tell the truth and shame the devil….There are just as many LAZY teachers as there are parents….

  • Mec-One

    My wife old school like a MF lol
    Be having our 14 & 16 yr olds up in the library, bank, & post office lol
    They be like “save us!” ….. I be like “why, I had to do it too & I’m okay! ” lol

  • Renee Bee

    I only wanted the 64 pack for the magical Gold and the Silver crayons. Yassss!

  • Applebootay

    Listen, every parent could find the time right? However, every parent isn’t fit to teach their kids shat. My mom had no patience and wasn’t emotionally or mentally stable. So kudos to having a mentally and emotionally healthy Mom, However, despite my mom’s short comings because she did what she could with what she had…..I’ve always excelled in school in fact, I love school. That’s why I make the point and to the article’s point….IT USE TO BE TAUGHT in school, the basics. Parents didn’t have to do nothing but go over homework…and parent….my generation got all the basics in school.

  • Renee Bee

    Bless her. She is a real one.

  • Ghost

    Writing is going to be obsolete soon. My side hustle is mobile notary signings. I would do 5-10 per weekend..last 3 years opportunities have declined because most are computerize( all you have to do is click a button and signature pops up) or thumb print. By the time my 5 yo nephew is an adult he will know NOTHING about giving his signature for something it will be a thumb print or swipe…sad but true.

  • joel adams

    Welp…when daddy ain’t in the household or show up to visit s scheduled because he swiping to the gram thotz and momma on facebook all day only stopping to make cool aid and hotdogs…what you xpect auntie

  • Stationarity

    Ummm…. not sure why you are so angry. I guess you read “I am not trying to fuss at you” as that I was fussing and talking directly to you and trying to apologize for “fussing”. That isn’t what I meant. I was not talking to you directly or about your parenting skills. I was speaking on the statement “Everyone screams do it at home”. People HAVE to do it at home and you understand that. That is all.
    Now, I was trying to give examples of how to reinforce multiplication at home without taking extra time since You said you didn’t have time. Just didn’t want someone wasting $50 on a tutor to teach their kids multiplication.

  • Applebootay

    Girl Bye, we had to go to the gym and bend over a desk and get wacked with this….by a male 6’8 gym teacher….and we dared not tell our parents……cause that meant another one when we got home only worse…. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/8a229519d5a4885b4d8b420adaa1e8298b3539ed6c88bfb6ed2f85213a255a6e.jpg

  • SweetTEE

    Sorry to hear that. My mom was a single parent and had learning development issues… I always had books and every item you posted bc she always said that if someone took the time to help her AT HOME, she wouldn’t have been so lost at school. If you have children, their well-being is ultimately your responsibility. You control what they are taught and not taught. You have the choice in home schooling, private or charter schools. Plenty parents hold their kids back or get extra tutoring for tough subjects. Sad to say, teaching is a job like anywhere else and those teachers arent even given materials half the time and must come out of pocket…that’s not cool.

  • You already know ?

    That’s what’s up ??????????

  • Stationarity

    How hard is it for a parent to print kids practice worksheets and do the same thing? Cursive is just not in the curriculum set up by schools anymore and has been replaced by more difficult science and math. And I would guess it’s really hard to do that when you have three or five disruptive kids that parents have never disciplined and still have 25 more “good” students to help. Teachers also have to come up with more creative lessons that involve more than just routine skills.

    “She did not focus on any one child”, I didn’t say the teacher has to focus on one child. I said a parent should put more time into their ONE child than a teacher puts into that same one child when the teacher has 30 plus.

    My child had done fine in public schools and has been taught basic skills. That is Probably because I reinforce what he learns at schools and supplement if the school isn’t doing something that I think he should.

  • SweetTEE

    Exactly. There is no justification in having unprepared kids. You choose to have kids and you can choose to help them progress.

  • Applebootay

    Not angry…just very passionate…especially bout me and mine…LOL…and you still don’t get it….My daughter is in HS…….we OFF multiplication…..I didn’t pay for tutoring for times tables…I’m paying for tutoring for COLLEGE…..she has a 4.3 GPA and is ranked like 20 something out of 200 in a good public school…so I have nothing to be angry about…..Her HS is an International Baccalaureate Diploma Program she is in AP in some classes and will have college credit when she graduates…I pay for specialized math tutoring because she has test taking anxiety and we want her to stay at and/or above level and so she can ace the SATs so we can secure some more scholarship money…. Its a sacrifice I make because its an investment in her future that is well WORth the money….you sound like you don’t have kids….

  • Applebootay

    LOL…since you put it that way….LOL…my daughter is 15 and most of her friends parents are way younger than me….she tells me all the time how her friend’s mothers be up in there snap chat with their azzes and tits hanging out….SMH

  • Applebootay

    This is what I keep saying…they not getting it…

  • Applebootay

    My mom was/is very intelligent…college educated….but if you got 2+2 wrong…you might get put out for the night….so yeah….and yes, we had or I had all the books because she knew I loved reading so she would buy me books and buy them toys….GIRLLLL….I would get so mad…like I want a damn toy too sometimes…..LOL…let me get off this post before I have a PTSD episode….LOL

  • Yoni7

    Heathen. LOL

  • Yoni7

    IDK. But the way the world is headed, probably not.

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z1lo6u-UIbo Nancy Drew-Natural & Luv’n It!

    chile, i even had to restrict Mister’s youngest having access to any and all writing implements a few years back. she was Picasso and a graffiti artist all in one, smh

  • Renee Bee

    Noooooooo! That was definitely corporal punishment.

    But we still here!!! Only with the grace of God we survived!

    ((HUGS))

  • Stationarity

    I do get it. I absolutely get it and can tell that you do too. It was just the comment about parents not having to do it at home. I just think that it is an incorrect train of thought and obviously you do too or you wouldn’t put in alll the extra work that you do. I want more people to know they have the power to control their kids education (without homeschooling) and that they Have to make time. We don’t need a white savior or the government or a liberal or a republican to save us! I know that doesn’t refer to you but it could be helping someone else out.

    The way I interpreted your first comment was that your daughter was having trouble multiplying and you paid for a tutor, which i interpreted wrong. I apologize. You are right. I did take that literally.

    I have a son in the 9th grade who probably needs more help than your daughter but who is in mostly Honors except English and makes all A’s. But he makes those grades because I help him and reinforce what he does at home. I check his assignments, read/scam the books he has for school and quiz him, make him study several days before the test, makes sure he takes notes everyday, makes him communicate with his teachers when he doesn’t understand, makes him write down assignments, etc. I try not to Helicopter too much cause I don’t want to baby him(not saying that you do). I just need his teachers to hold him accountable. If he doesn’t get something at school, he will get at home. Period! (Same way that you feel) To this day he can’t do mental math as fast as I think he should. So every opportunity I have, I ask him to do the math in his head. I just don’t think that it is his teachers fault or his Schools responsibility. Teachers have so much time and have to move on. If the child meets minimum requirements, they are gonna keep it moving.

    Just Like you are passionate about your daughter, I am passionate about everyone and especially kids who could do better if their parents had the same type of attitudes that WE do. I taught high school math for 8years and I now work in a highly technical area that is replete with foreigners. I want more black people…Heck…more Americans…working in those areas.

    I understand that everyone cannot catch on to math as fast as some people but some parents (not talking about you) give up too soon at addition, multiplication, fractions, etc. which then rolls over to the child being bad at higher levels of math. I just want all parents to know that THEY themselves CAN help their kids be better math students and don’t need a great school or a great teacher.

    That is all…you get it…I just want everyone to get it and used your post.Yes, there are absolutely bad teachers but me nor you nor anybody else else should let that get in our kids futures way ( and I know you don’t let it get in yours)

    Perhaps you already know but try the “SAT Black Book”. I scored in the 90th percentile of the SAT and ACT and this book explains a lot of the stuff I did naturally using patterns of the SAT. I Just read the ACT Black Book to help my son prepare and we will be working on all those techniques this summer.

    Sorry such a long response. Hopefully you read it but I understand if you didn’t. Enjoyed engaging.

  • teather

    There is no MAY about it. Use it or lose it. Simply. You parents need to force the schools to teach your kids to actually write with a pen, and write clearly.

  • Phillybruh

    My kids are worth every penny we spend on education.

  • Sally Wright McLinn

    YES! The children can’t write worth a shy%^&T and this is from a substitute teacher. They really struggle with forming letters. Not only that, they can’t spell :)

  • Sally Wright McLinn

    our state had to pass a law that children had to learn to write cursive.

  • Renee Bee

    Great! Which state please?

  • Miss Thang

    lmao I love my little 6 year old Jamaican niece because she enjoys her iPad but she will always choose painting, or dancing, or going to the park over that iPad. She is so much fun. My 12 year old niece starting to get on my nerves though always in her laptop or iPad. But I guess 12 is just an annoying age anyway.

  • the guest

    My husband and I taught our children cursive during Kindergarten and I consider penmanship of utmost importance. Our kids attend a private Waldorf school and handwriting and penmanship are still taught.

    Public schools as a mandate are phasing our handwriting and penmanship curriculums. Partly because parents tend to be impressed by technology in classrooms and feel that iPads make a more impressive classroom.

  • Miss Thang

    I caught my niece when she was around 3 and 4 watching some disturbing stuff on YouTube. I told her mom she need to delete it. I replaced it with YouTube Kids and GUESS WHAT, They have some sick stuff on there, too!!! My sister in law just gives her child the tablet and leaves her!!! I’m like, don’t you know your toddler could be watching gay porn and you wouldn’t even know because they put kid cartoon sounds over the audio.

  • Miss Thang

    You may have learned it at school, but you had to practice at home, right? I always had to read (which wasn’t an issue because I loved reading when I was a kid) and practice some multiplication and division and practice writing cursive at home. Regardless of the current trends in education, I am a firm believer that the mother and father, especially the mother, is a child’s first and most important teacher.

  • RealATLPeach36

    LMAO! You’re so right! My son wrote the word “because”, and I swear the damn “B” was about to fly off the page…

  • RealATLPeach36

    My son replaced my finger print off the ipad and put his….I was like why is this thing acting up. So I went in and notice it had 5 damn prints…… but all belong to his entire left hand from the pinky to the thumb …

  • Miss Thang

    my niece lives in Jamaica and she told me the other day that she gets hit with a ruler. It really upset me.

  • Miss Thang

    lol i remember staying at my little cousin’s house. She was 5 and I was 10. I woke up in the middle of the night and she was coloring on the wall next to her bed. I was like “what are you doing??” whew her mom wore her out the next day lol

  • Kimberly King

    Well looks like certain people of the village aren’t doing their jobs. Because I have some kids who come in and always tell me they never get help from home. And I’m sure he didn’t mean kids needed to know how to write an essay before they hit kindergarten. My nephew is great at all subjects. He’s a wiz at math (thanks to me). My soror teaches kindergarten and gets kids who can’t even spell their names. But know alllllll the rap and Beyonce lyrics. I’m just over people blaming teachers for their child’s failures. Some parents DGAF until you slap an F on their paper. Then you have those who say “IDGAF what he/she is doing, I’m just waiting on them to turn 18 and get out my house.” *sighs* Basically what I was saying was that the village can’t depend on ONE person to raise/teach the child. It needs to be a collective effort. Sh*tty parents raise their kids into becoming sh*tty adults.

  • Kimberly King

    Well auntie you gotta take that up with the state’s Department of Education. A lot of states have taken out these very basics that we’ve learned when we were in school. I learned cursive, telling time, cutting precisely, coloring inside the lines, counting money, etc through my teachers in elementary school. But for some odd reason DOE’s across the US have adopted that trash ass Common Core, which takes all of that away. Thankfully, Texas isn’t a common core state. Texas is very old school and we’re allowed to teach the same way we were taught. I feel like they want our kids to be dumb.

  • Applebootay

    THANKS FOR THIS! I’m a single (divorced) black mother with 2 1/2 incomes…that are all generated from me. I’m just so TIRED….TIRED of people telling me what I should be or need to do…not that you were….I see that now…..I guess I took your comment too literal too quick! I just get defensive …quick……I need sleep………..I’ve been feeling overwhelmed and just cant take on another gaddamn responsibility ……her dad lives in another state…family ain’t what it use to be….I don’t have the village support like I need even tho I come from a HUGE family…..some days….a lot of days….I come home and barely have the strength to get in the bed….its a job in and of itself just taking on the public school system just to ensure your child is receiving a proper education…..I bought my daughter a planner, I have her math teacher on speed dial, I stay on the parent portal for grades etc…I have a big wall calendar in the house with all her test dates..tutor…..etc…Girl…I’m just tired…I believe I heard of that book, thanks for the reminder, I’m going to make sure I get it. Thank you. It really takes a village…..

  • WutizstillHERE!

    I have a friend who teaches. He said that he gets papers all the time where students drift off into texting lingo.. He sees ION and ha (her) dis (this) etc..

  • SumthinSweeter

    Firstly I would like to say that those are beautiful children with natural hair in the pics up there. Secondly, as I was raised and as I also believe in… our parents are our first educators. There are workbooks with worksheets that are easily found for any school related topic online and in stores. It’s sad how fundamental learning tools are falling by the way side but all you can do is be proactive in these circumstances.

  • SumthinSweeter

    wow, that’s crazy. as a parent I would be so embarrassed.

  • Applebootay

    Thank you…I only had to go once or twice for talking in class…he kinda went easy on the girls…it didn’t feel good tho….we need to get back how we actually had the whole village involved in our lives….

  • WutizstillHERE!

    Gone are the day of the dotted cursive teaching tool LOL where you traced the letter over and over and then practiced on your own ..today kids just basically connect letters

  • Kimberly King

    Yep. That’s what a lot of parents expect. Then in my case, I dedicate the 1st week of school going over things they should know before we dive into the course (fractions, solving equations, etc). Not all teachers do this. But I do it because I know every math teacher a kid has isn’t as amazing as I am. I make even the hardest of math subjects simple to grasp without compromising rigor. And don’t get me started on how 3 days a week I hold an after school tutor/study session that I DO NOT GET PAID FOR only to have 3-5 students show up. The gag is the students who show up aren’t even the ones who are failing ! And you think you’re gonna blame the Queen because lil Deshaun would rather smoke weed in his car with his friends all day than come to class and do some work ? Lmao B Y E E E E E E E E E E E E E E ?

  • Applebootay

    The village don’t even exist anymore….and that’s where we fail….. I don’t blame teachers…I’m actually seriously switching careers to become one…. I don’t know who to blame….the devil?

  • Applebootay

    I was never asked not one time in my entire school age life, “how was school?” “What do you need help in?” “Whats your favorite subject?”. I studied at home because I loved school…not because I had an involved parent….all I heard was “Do you have homework?” Reply “Yes”….”Then do it!!” I guess that was the only way my mother knew I was in school. I don’t disagree that a parent should be involved…and yes it starts at home….then you send your child to an learning institution for 8 hours an day….I expect my daughter to actually learn something…

  • Kimberly King

    Hopefully we can merge the village back together. I blame social media, society, the parents who DGAF and the teachers who DGAF. These black children need us more than ever. They’re so neglected and unloved. Not all of course ! But it’s a lot of them out here.

  • Yui

    I teach creative writing, imagine my frustration seeing these kids try to write a paragraph. Dunno, it is as if they can’t distinguish virtual vs. real life. Save the text jargon and run-on sentences for the internet. js <— see? saved it for the internet, yay me! Lowercase letters and all.

  • Vegas1989

    I can’t stand Jr. High School….LOL…I know that I was a jerk….LOL..But these parents needs to limit the time the kids are on these computers and iPads and stuff…Even with my husband we have a no electronic policy when we get home. NO TV< CELL< or Tablets. We spend time the first 10 minutes with each other undivided attention on how your day was and etc. This gives up quality time with each other. We have found out that we communicate more than 10 minutes. It's a good way to start out your marriage. The Convo continues on when he starts dinner and I clean up….It works for us…

  • Vegas1989

    But it was for the new school year…I even chewed on some in the summer to make my daddy buy some more…LOL

  • Miss Thang

    that’s great. that is a healthy boundary to set.

  • Miss Thang

    lmao my penmanship always been a mess but now even moreso at 32.

  • Marlika

    ?????That shit is not cute. Too many parents now a days are busy being their child’s “friend”

  • Stationarity

    Keep up the good work!!!

    Former HS math teacher here.

    What I could never understand was…why did the parents ever buy “Deshaun” a car anyway??? I used to be so baffled. Who gets a kid a car that is already acting up? AND I know the parents had to know what weed smelled like. I had a couple of “Deshauns” and they were actually smart with no home or self discipline.

  • Stationarity

    You almost made me cry. Keep up the good work. If all my parents were like you, I would have gladly continued to teach while staying up til midnight to do innovative lessons and spend all Sunday grading papers.

    I am a single mother too. Everything my son does wrong, my boyfriend blames me and says I have not taught him better. If my son losses his track shoes…it’s my fault. If he doesn’t run his routes full speed at football practice…I don’t hold him accountable( Isn’t that what a coach is for?) If he lies about anything…it’s cause I don’t discipline him.(not true. I do punish him, he just keeps lying) Girl…if my child gets up and eats nachos for breakfast… It’s my fault and I should make sure EVERY single meal he eats is healthy (I cook dinner every night. I can’t cook breakfast too). So I completely understand and feel you about people acting like moms can do everything and work and stay cute and coach your kid and teach your kid and feed them three square meals. So…I do my best and try to hit as many of those things as I can and Focus On the important stuff (school and grooming my son’s character). I Try to be consistent and make the best out of whatever situation we are in. I don’t worry about getting everything right…just most things. And sometimes…I just crawl in the bed too!

    I will send you whatever energy I have left. Keep it up! You shouldn’t have to do everything but you are and you are doing a good job. It will pay off. I taught in public and private and ALL the good parents that went above and beyond did everything you are doing!

    And when you need to…just scream!!!

    And remember…graduation is around the corner. I have three years until I get to have my own hobbies and travel to stuff other than summer track meets and summer enrichment camps! The time is gonna fly by.

    Keep it Up!

  • Sally Wright McLinn

    Illinois

  • Yoni7

    :facepalm: LOL

  • Renee Bee

    Sorry to hear that. Some places still continue to punish children for absolutely no good reason.

  • Renee Bee

    Thank you. Have a blessed day.

  • Kita Williams

    my kids will be writing AT HOME and doing basic math WITHOUT calculators. damn shame kids don’t know how to hold a pencil.

  • Kita Williams

    and the 72 with the sharpener on the back was the LV!!!!! lol was going around bragging at school

  • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

    I didn’t know there was a 72-pack. ? I longed for a 64-pack, but my mom couldn’t afford it.

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  • J2PC

    Not really (with the exception of living in better neighborhoods with a good school system).

    Around May of every year, Newsweek Magazine post their rankings of the 1k Best Public High Schools in the nation. To wise up would be for parents to consider location that would include their children in the ideal public school district.

  • Kita Williams

    What in the?!! And kids ARENT using these?!?! Let me get on amazon right now