Tracee Ellis Ross is enjoying life as a 45-year-old single lady with no desire to have children. The actress opened up about her single life in the November issue of InStyle magazine.
Ross says she is “very pleased” with her single life after dating a series of emotionally unavailable single industry men.
“It’s sort of fascinating to be 45 and single and childless,” she said, adding that she is “happily single, not at home crying about it.”
At first the Black-ish star bristled at the “very personal questions” asked by the interviewer. But then she embraced the opportunity “to choose [to] become fodder for public conversation.”
She continued:
“Some of the ability to reflect on what I really want comes from pushing up against a society that shames me for not having the expected trappings [a husband and children]. I’m very pleased with my existence these days. Have I had to learn to make friends with loneliness? Yes. I think if I were in a relationship, it would be the same.”
Ross is the middle daughter of R&B/Soul legend Diana Ross.
Growing up in a fish bowl, surrounded by unlimited wealth and celebrities, helped give Ross a perspective on life that most women never experience.
Rather than rush into a loveless marriage, she chooses to love herself and to just say ‘no’.
When asked about her self-care regimen, the Team Natural, makeup-free star shared:
“The ‘I woke up like this’ thing? Bulls–t! Black-ish is in HD, darling! There’s no Vaseline on the lenses, At 18 I might ave woken up like this. At 45 I f—ing work for it. I love potato chips more than anything in the world, and so I work out hard. I put masks on my face I take care of myself. And, by the way, to me self-care does not mean going to the spa, It’s learning to say no. It’s snowing yourself so you can make choices that are an expression of you. That’s self-care.”
I love you Tracee.
Love Tracee beautiful self …… much love https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/cda4925ca1d357264787be9b5ccd589f4b0940cb9442847e1840c0a193a331e3.gif
I heart Tracee….
Yassssss that is ms. Ross daughter .Gotta be brave 2 b single n happy as a mofo. Betta say it
Shit, I wouldn’t be too mad if I was her. Children and marriage aren’t meant for some.
Her and Gabrielle Union are the same age with the exact same birthday and they are both beautiful. I have heard Tracee say this same thing time and time again. She is probably more peaceful being single. The last person I remember her being linked to is Akon’s younger brother.
I don’t know. It’s like those fat girls who always claim they so happy being fat then after they lose weight they talk about how miserable they were being fat.
Real talk! Kids are wonderful but they can stress you out with worry.
My best friend is a guy who is divorced. He always told me to enjoy being single…marriage is what society says you should do but its not all its cracked up to be…
I hear her loud and clear!!
Good for her, I wouldn’t marry just to marry and having children in the mix without the marriage isn’t worth it to me. Enjoy and love yourself and life how you wish.
People in relationships can be lonely as well. It’s entirely possible to be happy and single. Particularly when you are successful and you don’t “need” a man.
That being said, there is something to be said about male energy and companionship. True, you can enjoy that without a relationship, but it’s different (IMO) when you’re in a healthy committed relationship.
I feel her on so many levels..my kids are grown and gone and I have one grandchild… but y’all, I can be alone whenever I want because I refuse to live with anyone…I’m like kicking people out when I’m tired of looking at them….No, u can’t spend the night, I want my queen size all to myself…lol..my food is all mine…no u can’t use my favorite soap…love it
I love her, she looks good. Good for her.. She has come a long way from Girlfriends.
Oh wow….I thought she was my age(just got her by 3 tho)….any who…still looks good….I’m not single…but I am childless…. And I love it! About to be a Great Auntie..so life is good.
And it’s better to know this early so you’re not wasting time…real talk..
That part rang so true!
Yea… i agree a 100%! The world pressures women into thinking they’re supposed to have husbands and children. Not me!!!! I can do without both.
Not the same thing. Some folks do not like kids, they just don’t like them. She may just be tired of men in general. The older I get the more women I meet that don’t have the energy to be good girlfriend anymore, it’s work. When you’re young, you don’t mind because you still believe in the fairy tales, get older and you start looking at men very differently. They are work.
Amen sis!! I’m happy that she is in a a good place with it. Some folks feel the opposite, but each their own. Create and maintain your own happiness, on any and all levels.
A whole job. I’m in a committed relationship and between that in my career it’s a lot. Add on being a step mom. I’m exhausted smh. But I was happy alone which allowed me to go into a relationship knowing myself and my boundaries.
True, I definitely agree.
Auntie Sandra kind of gal childless
I agree with you…Motherhood is definitely not meant for some.
I need to have this attitude until I have kids. If Kenya is preggo at 47 surely I can’t wait
Well… I’m single and in my 40’s and childless too… I have a son who is grown and moved out long time ago… So it’s just been me for a while now and I can relate to Ms. Ross very much and have to say I love being single too. I get to walk in my crib how I want…. Come home when I want… Cook or not cook if I want… Do whatever the hell I want and I Love It!
You’re not childless if you have children
Tracee is definitely a style Icon…she is truly amazing
Life isn’t meant to be spent alone. Marriage is incredibly beautiful and blessed when you wait for the person God ordained for you. Children are a wonderful added blessing.
Ms. Ross is missing out.
I always love what she has to say, so authentic, such a lack of pretense, just real talk!
I like Tracee
i will high 5 you on that.
Agreed.
However, I do think women who face the world having never married and never having never had children are courageous.
Ummmm she’s still waiting patiently for that spouse you speak of… Good mates don’t grow on trees…. and there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to have children out of wedlock.
Based on the write up it appears that her life is still full of pleasures regardless
I can’t relate to this. But I lover her spirit! #movingon
You’re right… But I was thinking more about little children in the home when I said that…lol
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I don’t think she’s shunning male “energy” but if she has never met her match then there’s not much she can do at this stage in her life. At 45, you have to just let go and let God. If the right man didn’t show up in your prime then he’s not coming lol
Childless is childless. That means no birthdays, holidays, graduations, etc EVER….except for other relatives.
It’s not that hard lol. The women who are childfree and never been married can’t miss what they’ve never had lol
Taraji would beg to differ. Love or the possibilities of love don’t expire after a certain age. If that is what one desires, never lose hope.
Many came and left this world with no children or a spouse. They lived and died like everybody else. And the women with no kids live longer statistically…..look at Betty White, she’s 96.
You’re inspired by a woman who 1. isn’t married yet and 2. her relationship has not stood the test of time. Get a grip on reality lol. Taraji was dipping it and doing it back in the day which is why she has an adult son now.
Ok… Got it… I’m thankful for my son too… he the only one I got.
Tracee is bae in my head lol…she is right there’s nothing like being a single successful black woman but I wondered when she realized that being a mom wasn’t for her??? I dont know if I want to be married but I do want to have atleast one child…the thought of me leaving this earth and not having children literally frightens me…
At no point did I say she was shunning male energy, nor did I imply she was desperate for a relationship. I actually said the opposite.
Children are a wonderful added blessing.
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Yes they are but they are not for everyone. Perhaps the path that ‘God has ordained for her’ doesn’t include a mate and children. Maybe whatever lessons she needs to learn on this earth require her to be single…
Agreed.. I want NONE… I’m 38, as are my friends and 8 out of 10 of us are childless. We love being able to go out when we want to the things we want, travel when we want. It’s awesome. I know so many people with kids and 85% say its overrated or they wish they would have waited.. I’m good…
Exactly. I like Tracee tho.
So beautifully stated by Tracee!!! Know You. Everything Is Not for everybody.
I gave an example of love after the age of 45 and there are countless others. . . Be it first marriages, second or third. Love does not have an age limit like I said.
Maybe these stars should date regular guys.
I tried to ignore that sentence. Some people just don’t understand.
Maybe she could not have a child. I wonder why everyone jumps to the conclusion that a woman without children simply did not want them.
Not everyone is lucky enough to find that person to have a beautiful family with. And not every woman is able to have children. Ms Ross sounds like she is doing just fine….
Marriage is indeed a beautiful thing and children are a blessing.
However, marriage is not an ACCOMPLISHMENT either. I know plenty of married “miserable and lonely” folks and individuals that have no business being the vessels to this thing we call “life.” To each it’s own and good for her.
Marriage and having children are not an accomplishment. It’s not for everyone.
fascinating == lonely
I turned 50 this year. I’m single and childless as well. I love ME and it shows in everything I do. I am living my best life and reject society’s definition of a successful woman. I define success for me — no one else can do that for me.
I completely understand.
Child…when I read that sentence I was like, no boo. She should have written child free or empty nester.
“However, marriage is not an ACCOMPLISHMENT either”
THIS!!!
I can dig it
Wow she is missing out on swollen ankles high blood pressure n pregnancy diabetes. She is truly missing out on tractor trailer truck size labor pains and she gotten see the stats from CDC of women who actually died in childbirth n wonder is she gonna be a stastistic as well. She gonna miss that foul order onw has after giving birth. She gonna truly miss the feeling of being stitched up like a turkey at thanksgiving. Lets talk about the glorious post pardum depression all new mothers love that have them thinking they r crazy. She gonna truly miss the baby sucking on her once perky breasts that now look like cow udders. She gonna truly miss that baby weight gain that no matter what u do goes nowhere. She is truly gonna miss even though she is married n all of that stuff only 2 wake up one day she gotta raise the kid all by herself when she thought once she got married n had the kid she wad gonna live happily ever after . u see no one ever tells women these things b4 the baby comes. We fall in love with the cuteness n say ahhhhh. I gave my coworker the 411 about having kids she said no one never told me those things. I said women lie about that all the time then got the nerve to attack other women who made the concious choice not 2 have kids.
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Sorry azz husband n jeffrey dahmer kids ==miserable n wanna b single again
I would be depressed as shit.
If she was a man she wouldnt have 2 explain herself yet women made Steve harvey rich n a relationship expert after 3 wives.
Lies she probably cries on her pillow nitely. With so many people looking for someone it’s a shame it’s so hard to find someone decent but it is
Single does mean Dackless…know the difference….
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Being alive n living your life in fod grace is a beautiful thing. Marriage was not meant 2 keep score as 2 one up somebody that is single as if u e better than them. When l see women do that l dont say a word. They wound up being divorced sooner or later. Remember when tamar would flash that ring as if she won the lottery. Now she wears a glove on that hand like it is snowing outside.
But I was happy alone which allowed me to go into a relationship knowing myself and my boundaries.
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That’s what I’m seeing.
I so agree with all you’ve said. bottom line, we need to learn to be content with self, no matter our ‘status’ because the more at peace we are with self, the less likely we are to allow some knucklehead to jeopardize that peace just so we can say we ‘got a man’
Yes when you are involved with someone and actually want them to be happy, possibly progress to real commitment or marriage you have to be on duty 24/7 for your man. It’s a second job keeping your home perfect in case he pops on over, staying a certain size, keeping yourself up physically at all times, i.e skin, hair and nails, (I had a man once who seriously would notice when I needed a fill) keeping food on the ready to prep, maintaining a rosy disposition towards his ex, the kids, his friends, his fam, keeping a regular f*ck schedule even when your tired, staying completely smooth and shaven 24/7, putting on a show at work functions…so much time is spent strategizing your relationship, sometimes you even lose friends. A lot of the stuff we do as women, is to turn corners in our relationships, and it’s a ton of WORK a huge balancing act.
Folks get tired…and don’t let him get sick with a cold, might as well cancel all plans, he will need you more than a new born baby.
The trophy goes to________________. Dr. Phil n Oprah made a lot of money off people who live in dackless marriages. I be damned if l go thru all of that shyt 2 get married n a mofo tell me all l am gonna get is a hug everyday. Yall betta check yall phones for an emergency broadcast signal n it wont b no test either.
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I find that a lot of women are jealous of a single, childless women. We can do whatever we want and buy whatever we want. Most of us have great careers. Not everyone wants to come home to a whining man and whining children. Many mothers convince themselves that being a mother is the end all be all. Nope! Enjoying your life to the fullest is really living…even if it’s by yourself.
Why? She has a loving family. She’s rich and famous. The reality is women stuck in loveless marriages are crying themselves to sleep at night. Not Traci.
My think they used these influencer people. To controls population now some black women wants to be like Tracee. Mind you Tracee comes from money both patents. She as tons of brothers and sister with nieces and nephews. I’m just doing a conspiracy theory. Lol just another view because Tons of blackwomen are doing great only need a baby and husband. Let me stop
Companionships is great for mind and soul. One that’s perfectly imperfect to each other.
Real talk!
Her Instagram she seems to be really joyful and fun to be around…
Camille cosby just bought all thé kleenex from costo she is crying so much. Dayum shame this is all she gets after being married 2 a mofo for over 50 years.
Marriage got tamar so strung out she looking like EJ.
A lil too real. My coworker was like it takes all of that. I am like duh.
I really like Tracee. She always appears 2 be in a good place n very happy. She’s beautiful n successful n has a lot going on 4 herself
Hey baby. What yo name is?
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I like her but it’s not too much to ask to have a decent partner come on most want some one to chat with other than friends, family or people online.
Oh, they most definitely prop up specific individuals to program a message. That’s why one of the biggest pop stars dances with her crotch out and appears illiterate. It’s all about programming a specific image, lifestyle, physical features that signal extreme attractiveness verses the latter. There is a reason for everything. Even Ms. Ross’s message.
We’ve become individualistic society. I wouldn’t be surprised if she genuinely just doesn’t want them.
No its not but if you don’t have one that doesn’t mean you cry at nite…and just because you have one doesn’t mean you don’t cry at nite! Happiness comes from within…circumstances are external
Lol yes that’s exactly it
It’s hard to gauge where black women are some are OK with a career and relationship free others are searching high and low with no luck. Sometimes I think being single is not good but relationships take a lot of work if your lucky enough to find someone worth count your blessings if not try not to feel bad about .
And what about the large amount kids that become responsible, respectful members of society? Why do we have to focus on the negative to counter a point? If you go through life being too self-aware of the negatives in every situation, then you’ll never experience the beauty that life can truly offer.
Really. U c what happened 2 mary j. He was trying 2 get checks for his whole family. Sherri shephard ex regular guy husband had her thinking wanted marriage n a baby soooooo bad. Now we c why he wanted it so bad. He wanted a check once a month. Imma b like Oprah sex me n get your shyt n go home.
Good point black are easily influenced they don’t used critical thinking.
I would be lost in bottles of Vodka till mid November then try to pull it together for thanksgiving
Conscious thinking keep being enlightened. Trust me they pay her good for this lol
Chile these negoes dont die they multiply.
People aren’t lying when they say they don’t want children….
2 sides of this here coin. Some women are really ok being single with no kids- the others want just that and some of them put on a smile and say they are ok, but really they haven’t found the right one.
Not only are they a lot of work but their ding-dings might not work. Who the hell wants to be bothered with that???
I’ve never been a fan of Ms. Ross. I don’t find her attractive (NEVER!), not now, and not 15-20 years ago. I think she’s an overrated actress and “fashion/style icon”, who’s fame rest solely on her mama’s career. I can see her not being built for marriage or kids. Narcissist usually aren’t. Yes, there are women and men who go through life never having that yearning to start a family or whatever. However, I feel like celebrities who have a platform should trend carefully when speaking so flippantly about their choice to singledom lol. The wording in her comments come off a bit shallow lol. I mean, I ain’t 45, but I am 33 with no children and unmarried, and I’m not pressed for either option, however, if I had to made a statement about my lifestyle and/or life choices, I would be way more cautious in my wording. Children and marriage, are both sensitive subjects, especially amongst black women (which appear to be the demographic that she’s targeting) who, for the most part, aspire to those social milestones.
I just think her individualistic lifestyle and careless delivery is … a little alarming… although not surprising considering she grew up in extreme wealth with (probably) little awareness of the effect that words and the delivery of said words can have.
Just like her character on Girlfriends. Life imitates Arts eh….
Married folks always talking smack about single women but when they need some money who do they run to. They feel like u don t have husband or kids u got disposable income 2 give 2 them. Be counting all your vacation trips more than u do.
Tracee Ross(whom I worked with more than once) was not what I expected her to be.
But a lot of men find her VERY attractive. White & black. So it shouldn’t be hard for to find a man.
Good for her I wish more black women would have the good sense not to procreate since most black (in america) births are out of wedlock and kids in single parent homes are deprived more. Nothing to argue or debate about.
She’s hiding in plain sight.She likes the ladies….
Lies. She sitting on piles of millions of dollars she earned and from her mama Miss Ross. Plus she dates females she’s not lonely
My friend broke it to me that that’s what I got to look forward to when I feel like dating again now that we are older, erectile dysfunction. She said her mans is already shut down and they are only early 40s. Great.
We need more Tracee’s too many dumb and broke black females breeding with dumb and broke community dick. Black people aren’t going anywhere. Tons of black women are single mothers and struggling but yall keep lying, though.
WHY? She’s fit, pretty, got millions. While I’m guessing you’re a striving single mother of two?
I feel people who talk about they are happily single, happily unattached to anyone who truly loves them unconditionally are lying to themselves. You can’t escape your humanity. Humans are social beings and have an urge towards intimacy. Pretending you’re subhuman and feel completely fulfilled being alone (in the sense of intimacy) is false. Just my opinion.
Especially not black women as most are never married single mothers.
Yall are smart. Most of the women in my family are single mothers and they ALWAYS be needing money and babysitting.
Don’t do it unless you’re making 6 figures or married to a hard working man.
She looks dragged to hell and back.
How many black women on that hit show 16 n pregnant.
Exactly
This is so true…
I’m not insinuating that she does. I don’t do that.
You got a problem with single happy women but aint got no problem with women like cardi b who married a man with a boatload of kids when she had no kids n going 2 jail every week. Kudos tracey for wanting something better n not settling 2 please the public. For that l applaud your happy single childless life for not wanting 2 bring a child into such mess. That is child abuse n thank u for wanting 2 b with a man where folks know your name and not a number like wife number 3. I see u love yourself a lot 2 not put up with the foolishness. I salute u for having relationship class which is missing 2day .
She has said before that she didn’t want kids…but never alluded to the fact that she “couldn’t” have children…
And if they get on that diabetes medication it’s a wrap! Men have got to stop eating like they are 14 when they are 40! Not only that, when you do find a man who still has working parts he doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship because there are so many women in need of his ‘services.’ I have a neighbor who is handsome, in-shape, dresses well and is an all around nice guy BUT he is out here living his best life ‘dating’ as many women as he chooses. He knows he has the advantage over his peers.
Why would she open herself up like that in an interview? It’s not an easy thing to admit…
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How many black women 16 n pregnant IN THE HOOD. I was just waiting for the liars to show up. Most black females have an out of wedlock, period. The truth may hurt and it’s still the truth.
I did and I do.
Some black women are SMART they watched the struggle queens getting knocked up by community dack, always needing a free babysitter. I knew this thread would bring out some nonsense. Fact is most black females have an out of wedlock the ones smart enough not to poverty breed are rare.
To all the black women who are waiting for marriage before they have an out of wedlock, keep up the good work. Don’t listen to the liars pretending kids are free and not a lot of work without a man/husband in the house. As the kids, especially sons, suffer from mother’s selfishness then they wonder why so many black males swirl, they want to have anybody that doesn’t remind them of their selfish mama.
Men & children will age you so quick. Proceed with caution…….
Umm…. did you misinterpret my statement? I did say SOME.. because my ass is one of them… I’m literally 32, no kids, single ( I am engaged though), educated and gainfully employed. I purposely did this and I have said it numerous times here. So yea, my entire comment was correct.
I ?? Tracee, she’s beautiful and seems so down to earth. I totally agree with her because I’m single and childless as well. I hate when people act like I want a husband but I can’t get one. Almost any woman can get a man. I’m happily single and whoever I feel like being bothered with, then that’s who I deal with. I hear so many married people saying if they could do it all over, they would not be married. It seems like a lot of work, sacrifices, and stress. I don’t deal with any of that, which keeps me healthy and looking young.
I don’t want to be married but I sort of, kind of want a baby. But the thought is scary because I feel like that life changing event might be depressing since I’m so used to doing whatever I want, when I want to. I won’t force anything or settle for less. I will leave it in Gods hands, what will be will be.
For one I don’t keep track of fonts statements here. I misread what you wrote sis, hell, I’m at work so let me get off.
Omg where did the good times go where none of this was a concern?! Folks better live it up in their 20s for real.
I’m saying this respectfully, some of ya’ll need to learn how to comprehend before replying to people.
It’s not breed we just need to teach economics, entrepreneurs and e-commerce . How to eat healthy, to do basic tax, how to manage money. I guess the churches are failing. I’m quite certain there are about 20 -30 churches each inner cities. They teach them to sow seed for God and love offering. Yet still no money throwing for the above mention ( e-commerce, economic, stocks, bonds, compound interest etc.
Tell thé married men 2 get outta the basement at 2am n come 2 bed n sex your wife.
Long as you acknowledged it… now get your ass on
Just because you’re not married doesn’t mean you’re lonely and lack companionship. In these times marriage doesn’t mean much to people since the divorce rate is so high. No thanks, I’ll pass on that.
You need to tell uneducated and poor black men to respect authority so you will not get shot by the police you guys are national terrorists.
I love Tracee. I agree with her views on self care, which is so very important. Many people sacrifice their own identities just to be in a relationship. Also, many sacrifices need to be made in a marriage. After all, you are supposed to “become one”. Marriage is not for everybody. It is a ministry and a lifetime commitment to be taken very seriously. Same with becoming a parent.
“anyone who truly loves them unconditionally”
No romantic love is unconditional. Please stop telling that lie. There are conditions to romantic love!!
I assuming you will get shot by the police tomorrow with that attitude learn some respect and comply be less threatening!
I’ll be dammmmmned if I’m going to stay with a man I no longer love or make love with. So, I know marriage is not for me. God bless all those who can handle it.
There are ABSOLUTELY conditions for romantic love!
I wouldn’t wish Camille Cosby’s life on my worst enemy. I would be in the loony bin if I were her right now. Wasted your whole damn life with this nasty, horrible man.
I thought she older but beautiful nonetheless ???
YIKES ??
You have married friends asking you for money for what exactly?
Lol
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What, that’s terrible!?
If anyone is lying it’s the married people. Most are unhappy and miserable. Dealing with loneliness (yes- lonliness within the marriage), money problems, STD’s, side babies, and being tied down to a relationship while the other person is “doing their thing.” But yall want to tell us it’s peaches and cream and shame people for being single. Yeah, ok.
Yes!!! In the U. S. All you have to be is 18 and competent in order to get married. And people waive wedding rings around like they earned an advanced degree.
Hmmm….I predict that she’s going to be a late comer. She’s going to find a man, probably of another race, and marry late in life. It happens.
I was thinking the same thing…there is NOTHING empowering or wonderful about being inhuman! My parents were married till death do you part and my dad has been in heaven for 5 years..my mom is very wise she does not have this I dont need a man I am empowered bulsh-t mentality she still wants a relationship with a new man they were married for over 50 years.I say go for it Mom…
girl what kind of married people yo hanging around!
That’s interesting. I never thought about it like that.
romantic love is conditional, the love needed to sustain a marriage through everything! is unconditional
You must PRAY for the right one!
I think the key is to be married to the right person. What single women are saying is that they are not going to settle. Nothing wrong with that!
Expand your horizons…I have two dates this weekend with two different gainfully employed house-owned not renters white men!
I dont know what her problem is sometimes beauty can get in the way….I guess
A lot of married women would be surprised what their men really think about marriage and what he does when she’s not around. Who do you think are in strip bars? Heck, they walk up to me in grocery stores trying to get with….wearing their wedding rings. If only the wives knew.
I agree with you…well spoken!!! I have expanded my horizons I am dating non-black men my how different it is
70% of black children are born out of wedlock. More than any other race.
Why do black folks carp whine and b-tch so NEGATIVELY about marriage. I was married for 28 long years and it was a “marriage” and eventhough we divorced I dont regret one moment of being married to him!!! I am now dating another wonderful man and I am excited about the future…
yuck no intimacy…
you mean …shut up LOL Ms. Cosby choose her position and she will get through this…
White women tend to have more family support. The mother usually has a father or stepfather, mother, grandparents and more to help out. Because they’re white, they get jobs easier and move up. Then because white men like to marry, they get a husband and add children. Suddenly, they go from a single mother to married mother who is gainfully employed living in a nice home. Black mothers stay single due to our weak men and struggle to raise their children.
She is not and never has been a beauty. She has style, a nice butt, and curly hair…which men like. She’s a high-yella mixed girl. To some people that’s perfection. The only thing I like about her is that she’s funny and not afraid to make a fool out of herself.
They also want you to babysit their bad azz kids because “You have nothing to do”. Or…”You only have to worry about yourself.” Yes, bish. I made this choice. Don’t throw your hectic azz lifestyle on me. I’m chilling with a glass of wine. You go bathe the kids.
And maybe some women can’t physically have children. You never know a person’s story. It’s hard to adopt if you don’t have a partner. I say don’t judge other people just worry about yourself.
You’re only 32 and engaged. So you’re not single and you more than likely plan to have children. We’re talking about older women who are reaching the end of their child-bearing age and are single. How do you fit in?
so true!
She’s living the best life, rich beyond anyone’s wildest dreams, beautiful. If anything she should get an anonymous sperm donor to avoid the “he issues” like him wanting to be a kept man, child support, etc. If you find a husband that chid is yours 100% if he decides to leave you and many do.
so sad but true!!!
I’ve never been married so I don’t complain about it. I think some people are afraid to be by themselves and always have to be in a relationship. I don’t feel the need to share my time with anyone unless it’s positive. If God brings a man my way who adds to my happiness…so be it. However, I’m not going to just let any fool into my space just so I can have a man. Been there. Done that. One thing I can say for sure is that the wrong man can phuck your life up.
Hell’s no.. My niece is 20 and just gave birth to twins 7 months ago… I love the little munchkins, but when they start crying I avoid them like the plague…lol.. my friends decided that when it’s time for us, it’s time.. and we’re men and women combined… loving life…
I was referring to children as far as unconditional love.
Many have ding-dong problems. Thank God Viagra has a generic out now. There are no excuses.
They’re like freakin children. My God!
Wow! Older men also spread STDs specifically syphilis. That is …when they can get their ding-dong to work. Strap up.
She is one of the most unattractive light skinned women I have ever saw I see why he is not married
2 have somewhere 2 stay. 2 make it worst his azz put her up 2 it. I tell them l would be embarassed as hell 2 b breathing next 2 my husband n gotta always borrow money from people. Then they get mad at u when u tell them u want your money back.
I totally agree black men from single household beat black women like dogs all because of mother hatred
Preach. You have to take care of him even when you’re sick.
I think it goes both ways
Men get bored with the same cat night after night he might cheat but it’s just for carnality he know where his Rock is at
ouch…they been b-tch-raised by their mothers getting too into their emotions and wm ain’t having it! Respect AUTHORITY!!!! but how can you do that when yo mama keep saying ” my baby, my baby” I notice ww dont do that their husbands raise the boys and the boys expect it! I have seen wb get really pissed from 0-100 when their mothers try to assert authority but their dad intervenes and to let them know respect your mother because I do! Notice I dint say mama They say “MOTHER”!!! mama is too close to mammy! I’m just say-n
and that is why the majority are still democrats
there is some truth to that…God NEVER intended man or women to be alone…we need each other! Of the opposite sex of course!
then you will be happy and the child will be lonely…get te husband FIRST!!
So freaking NEGATIVE!!!
NEGATIVE AGAIN as if black women should not want a husband and family…M Lord what has happened to us…
materialistic pleasure no mention of God…
That dress was way to big on her and she has access to any man she could ever desire so whats up Ms. Tracee!!! whats really going on…really
Her being unmarried isn’t surprising just her being childless…. Hopefully she’s living her best life..
selfish
and look who she is marrying…water seeks it on level. I wish them the best because his baby mama dont look to happy
I knw a women in her 50’s with syphillus! I’m ike isn’t that an old school disease ? and why do bm not get checked out when they know they have desieases?
So freaking real. I forget 2 put on there r u ready 2 deal with a handicapped child. Yes we prepare for a NORMAL healthty baby. How r u gonna handle it when your baby comes out disfigured n handicapped. Some mothers reject their kid because no one tells them their child would come out that way. It takes a lot 2 have a baby n u know it. Stop with the liés.
it is not good to be alone…please bw stop perpetrading this crap
I have an aunt who always says even when women are married we can’t lose ourselves. That advice is grounding. I take care to go to a movie or lunch by myself when I can to keep a sense of self.
Whatever makes you feel better about yourself….tell yourself. But, the truth is….the worthy among us have a husband, kids, degrees, AND a career.
Tracee & Janet Jackson there is something about them I just never cared for ?
That ‘friends’ sh-t gets old and meaningless. Today my husband of 25 years and I looked at our kids’ birthing videos. So what if we have to schedule our European trips around our kids’ internships or sporting events. There’s nothing more fulfilling than watching your babies slay. NOTHING.
But you HAVE you son to cherish. You’re not childless, you’re an emptynester. We all look forward to that day lol, but we wouldn’t trade our kids for anything.
Is it better to be with a man that verbally, physically, or mentally abuses you? How about a man who cheats and brings diseases and babies home? Or a man who sends you off to work while he lives off you? Most times…alone is better.
But what is he bringing home to his rock…diseases and bastards?
I thought she was Diana’s first child: Tracee, Rhonda[by Berry Gordy], then Chudney…
So Diana didn’t cheat on her husband?
Let me go google…
Agreed. You can’t have a successful marriage and family if you’re selfish and not willing to think long term. It’s not all about you and it’s not always automatically easy.
Many people should have stayed single and/or waited to have children.
I love her. She is just a chill woman
Enjoy every moment and allow Him to send who you need when they are needed.
I’m glad for you and yours. But it’s not for everybody. I think the best thing is that some people realize, instead of having babies that they dont want the responsibility. We happen to like one responsibility. Us, and there is nothing wrong with that. We have nieces, nephews, God children that complete our needs for wanting to be around children.
She has a great insight on life, know your limits, alot of times people find themselves in sticky situations bec they settled for the husband and kids and are still not happy, and the fact that society is giving them a hand clap for doing the “expected” is not beneficial
Respectful Question~ why is the wyte woman always fat to huge & marginally attractive?? I see that sooo often.
Why is she seldom a star?
I don’t see it as being subhuman. I think we seek companionship that we feel completes us. We seek others with similar worth & expectations. By the time you’re in your 30s & 40s, you no longer want to settle for less than what you value.
Most women are done with casual s3xual h00kups at her age. They desire fulfilling permanence which may be difficult to find.
I love this chick so much!! She will settle down one day. Yall better not come for her. Look at sanaa lathan shes in the same boat ?????
For many men s3x is like a good basketball game regardless of which teams are playing.
Co sign sis ( Gods hands)
Why you say that “porsha voice” ?
Awww I agree.. im in the same boat but im trying to positive about it like you ?
They come 2 family functions dont bring any food but fixing take out plates 2 take 2 thé car then come back n eat 2 plates of food. My sister n her husband does this shyt all the time. No shame in their game.
My mom always says…Sometimes we play the statue and sometimes we play the Pigeon…I decided to be the Pigeon for once in my life and it feels damn good..you don’t kno me or my struggle … https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/7a510e58907abb7f6bf01b333aa62473a03c0a3b9c8ba66e41d5382fbd0e78a1.gif
U seem salty and sensitive about your singledom, there was nothing wrong with her wording and am glad that shes using her platform to tallk about it. again, nothing wrong with ANY of her wording, but since you already formed a bias (about someone u have never met) ofcourse you saw something wrong in her “wording” SMH
Stop trolling black sites u racist f***!
Only thing about not having kids is that its nothing like having potential caregivers when u get old, some of my patients kids will bring the place down about daddy or mama, they bet not miss a eye drop
That’s the price of doing business
Ding ding ding!!! That’s how I see it.
I LOVE TRACEE. She is one of my role models.
Tracee’s mother Diane Ross is not pretty. She is the second worst looking Supreme!
She might feel “liberated” today, but tomorrow she will have regrets. Even if she doesn’t marry she should at least have one child, or her sister’s children will be the ones to bury her. That is a misfortune.
No such thing as ED with all the pills they have now
So. Not everyone wants kids. It’s her choice. Or maybe she can’t have children. Not everyone can reproduce. Stop judging HER life.
Your first paragraph is true.. All these comments on it’s better married or single is crazy. I say do what makes you happy. I learned to be content and happy single, now I’m in a serious monogamous relationship. Guess what?!? I’m still happy. This works for me.
And if you’re not Florence f*cking Nightingale you will certainly hear about it.
Actually, I am not judging her. I am making an honest observation based on history. Many women later begin to regret not having children or at least one child later in their lives. They do not realize the significance of it until its too late. Clearly, it is her life and her decision. However, it will be her sister’s children that will someday bury her and inherit her wealth and legacy. That is a misfortune.
Whew.. I am learning now how much work a relationship is.. It’s give and take, but a great journey nonetheless. I’m learning a lot about myself as well as him. I love the companionship we share. We respect and support each other. Not to mention the monogamous sex.. Lol.. This works for me.
Both them posters are trolls.. So much hate.. Smh
What does Cardi B have to do with what I said? I don’t have a problem with anyone. I’m simply speaking on innate human nature.
You’re right. I wouldn’t want to settle just to say I’m married.
Right! I have plenty of loving relationships with people who are permanently fixed in my life, but not in my bedroom. People act like because we are single, we lack love or companionship. That’s not the case.
I know a married man who does Not want to be married but bc he was with woman for 10 years he felt like it was the thing to do. Posting happy pictures on social media, but complaining about how unhappy he is in real life. Married folks DEFLEE lying.
She’s still young. If she was 65 it might be different. We’ll see. Of course, I don’t care one way or the other.
AMEN! You’re a very wise individual!
Lol ?
Glory to God! You just shut everybody mouth ? up, THANK YOU!
Then they end up like a patient of mine, 77 years old crying everyday and begging us and other people not to leave her because she is lonely. She ALWAYS says how I wish I had at least one child to sit with me. I feel bad for her.
Amen sis
hilarious …..Ive been watching “Girlfriends” on YouTube lately Joan with out question would usually find a way to ruin her love life
Ok….Im going back in my time machine to 1965…do you want anything Grandma???
Im not going back and forth…just upvote or not…
Monogamous sex is the way to go these days not that casual sex is a crime but it gets old over time. Respect is a must so is support without either of them you might as well be single
People be snapping and the whole time, they didn’t correctly read lol.. it’s the worst!
So true.. I am a sexual being. I did casual sex it was fun and then it wasn’t. Too many worries, plus I got to the point I wanted more. (I’m speaking for myself, I hate when people generalize)
I was always taught that you’re single until you are married. And at 32, people are already constantly asking questions and are concerned as if I’m 45. And technically I want kids, but recently found out that I have issues conceiving, so that’s an issue that I think I have in common with these women.
You are another one who has an issue comprehending what I said. Did anything I say sound like judgment? I gave different examples based on experience…like do you really not know women who fit in all those categories? I’m having issues myself….**deep sigh**
Please their r some kids who dont even visit their parents in a nursing home. Then when they die thé state gotta bury them bcas no one is claiming the body. What if she did have kids n they died b4 she did. Who will bury her then. Kids dont come with thé job description 2 take care of us.
What about the ones who has kids who are lonely as well n the kids dont come 2 c them.
Glad she took a deep breath & answered.
I “heard” she is not very nice.
Exactly. Genuine connection doesn’t just come from people you sleep with.
Thanks Malcom
WTF! It’s 2018 not 1918. Plan for your retirement and funeral. Take care of yourself. Don’t put the burden on your children.
Because she thinks being a mom is about fendi strollers n how many likes she gets on the internet. If she loved her child she wouldnt b doing all of this foolishness 2 go 2 jail n she wanna get mad bcas someone said something about your child when is cutting the fool. She is raising the baby in an abusive environment. Mothers who luv their kids dont raise them in abusive environments
You never know. Maybe she couldn’t have children physically or some other circumstance. That’s why people shouldn’t judge. You never know why a person is childless.
Some people when they die gives all of their money 2 charity bcas their alive kids wasnt shyt.
I don’t mean intimacy in terms of sex, I meant it in terms of being close and forming a bond. In a healthy relationship, no one knows you bettering or accepts you more than your partner. I think our points are the same. People seek that level of companionship which is totally normal and human nature. It’s not a bad thing to admit that.
Exactly!! I would hate to be that jaded. All of the married people I know and in my circle (myself included) are very happy and consider our spouses our best friends.
*sigh* I didn’t say unmarried people are lonely and lack companionship. I said it is human nature to seek intimacy (not meaning sex) and companionship from other people.
Marriage and motherhood is not for everybody.
45?? I thought she was way older than me!
Well sure as heck do not look “Happy” in this cover photo
She didn’t mention materialistic things either… No need to reach for negativity just because she was born into money.
She discussed self care and being confident in who she is which gives me the impression that she’s a very grounded individual. She doesn’t need to profess her praise to God in an interview to appease bible thumpers… Her spirituality is HER business
It’s funny choosing not to have children or waiting to have children later in life is still a stigma…
So true…
U can have joy married or u can have joy single -depends on the person and understanding what true joy is.
True…I’m so tired.
Wow. It’s all about the upvote’s ? Not…
Sounds depressing…
Not that women can’t have fullfilling lives as single and no kids but on her…sounds depressing…and that pic of her is horrid. She looks like a frigid, still, unemotional, asexual ice queen.
yessssssssss and I don’t think most people are prepared to give unconditional love. I KNOW I’m not! So I refuse to even go there.
Remember when tamar would flash that ring as if she won the lottery.
whew!
“Make friends with the lonlieness” that doesn’t sound good or healthy.
I know so many married people who don’t even LIKE eachother anymore and they’re not even having sex.
“I said it is human nature to seek intimacy (not meaning sex) and companionship from other people.”
………..all of which can be acquired without being married.
I disagree with you. “Worthiness” is inherent. As long as you’re a child of God, you are worthy of all that he has prepared for you, whether that includes a marriage or a career, both, or neither. Amen.
yeah, but you don’t know what kind of kids you’ll have or what kind of relationship you will have with them. My egg donor already know I don’t give a damn about where she even ends up when she gets to the winter of her life.
She was thanking god when she was with vince n she was on wendy thanking god for her new boyfriend. Which one is it.
And many women who have kids regret having them as well.
Exactly ?
Funny! I can relate. It’s interesting. I’m a year or so older than she. Ppl freak out when you say you have no kids. They freak out even more when you don’t have a man, dog or bird. LOL! There’s nothing at all depressing about it. My peace of mind is at its highest. I can come/go as I please. When I want “company” that’s the easiest thing in the world. I have no responsibility but to myself and my parents. I feel SO good. I am not tarnished by a old relationship; I love love. I am older and wiser and can recognize what’s best for me. If you never spent any time alone, it would probably break you. I don’t get “lonely” per se. Sometimes I guess you get sorta melancholy over having to do EVERYTHING yourself. Tracy doesn’t have this issue with her personal assistants and such. It does get tiring. Yet I am blessed happy and ready to mingle when the time presents itself. In the meanwhile, I’m healthy peaceful and happy!
Tracy is wise. I like how she doesn’t take herself too seriously. She may need a bit too much attention, but forgive her, SHE has time!
love her style and her attitude. She’s a beauty.
well at least she has four living brothers and sisters as well as nieces and nephews that love her. a lot of folks don’t even have that while not marrying or having kids, but no matter what she says I think she is very very lonely and ALL of her siblings are married now with at least one child except for her
to funny but so true
hehehehehehehehehehe
What is funny is when they give it 2 the dog.
definitely looks like she regrets not having kids or cant have them in that photo
Please google Rain Pryor.
Lmfaoo right
Damn, and females will continue to pay even heavier prices for embracing the
Bulls hit which is feminism. Yall just wouldn’t listen…?????
A snob and very unfriendly, unless you are “somebody”
Lawd!!! aint’ it the truth.
I agree!! Mary was the pretty one.
Ima be her in 10 years and im good with it. I only know two men who dont cheat on their wives and it doesnt seem like good men are on every corner. Im a lazy dater i dont wanna work for it so fawk it ima die single. I just dont think you gotta keep saying how happily single you are all the time if you mean it. I do feel her about self care tho! Iont play
REALLY????
Really?? Don’t know why I always imagined her to be down to earth. Oh well.
Kids dont come with thé job description 2 take care of us.
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lol
lol @ STD’s. But what a depressing list. lmaoooooooo
Or her own money or will will bury her. kids aren’t for everyone. If you live right you don’t have to worry about dying wrong.
Yasss!! Congratulations!
It feels so so good to know & appreciate yourself!
He came for crazy Kenya Moore, so she still has time.
This is SOOOOO true….
Again, it is not time era’s that I am referencing. There is just a stage of life that a woman goes thru that forces her to reflect on her life. Part of it is hormonal and part of it is how we are made. It is difficult to explain without making it appear to be a judgement call against her or any woman . You appear young, but someday when you past menopause, you might remember this dialogue and say “now I know what she means.” . . . blessings to you.
Yes really. She’s not friendly to fans.
Ikr
I pray to find a partner in life that will RESPECT/LOVE/SUPPORT me. But the way these men moving to get married or have kids w/a man is to set myself up for SingleMotherhood straight up. I’d rather have no kids & my freedoms then have children and struggle. #DeadSerious My siblings have more then ENOUGH children for me to satisfy my mothering urges.
You don’t have to find, build or be in love with a stranger. You can be in love with yourself. Go ahead Tracy. I’m not into feminism at all. There’s no requirement to marry in this life. Just have your burial instructions in a will.
think u are right. all of her four siblings are married with children except for her. something big time ain’t right with her for real
That’s what I heard.
We all gonna die without children in the coffin. I have a child who is now an adult with her own husband and children. I am proud of her. But, having children is overrated. I don’t care who buries me. You can be happy with or without children.
She has a few coins and celebrity. Trust that men are coming at her. She just hasn’t run into THE ONE. You can be lonely in a marriage too!
You are not alone if you have some kind of network: friends, co-workers, family, etc. It doesn’t always take a husband and children to alleviate loneliness.