Usher: ‘It’s hard staying faithful to Tameka’

Awhile back I told you about some credible information I received from a source who indicated Usher was still the same ol’ Usher as far as the ladies are concerned.

But I decided not to reveal the information to spare loyal reader Tameka Foster-Raymond the pain of knowing that her man is out there doing what a man does naturally.

Usher seemed to confirm as much when he spoke to Cosmopolitan magazine recently: “I’m good at making love, but I’m not good at being in love. It’s a conscious decision every day to love the person you’re with.”

In my opinion, once a man makes the noble gesture of taking a bride, he shouldn’t have to make a conscious decision or an effort to be faithful to his wife. That should come naturally if he really loves her. His wife should be the center of his Universe. I’m from the old school of thought that says people marry for love and commitment.

It takes a level of maturity to put down the toys and be a man. And Usher has proven that he is not up to the challenge.

Sorry, Tameka.

Terry .W

Usher is going to throw a tantrum if your not careful Sandra – please dont talk about his wife “who is not 40” like that…..thanks!
Terry .W

^^^^ They are happily married according to him!
pinky2083

I give them about 6 more months and it’ll be a wrap!
NYCUTIE

“In my opinion, once a man makes the noble gesture of taking a bride, he shouldn’t have to make a conscious decision or an effort to be faithful to his wife. That should come naturally if he really loves her. His wife should be the center of his Universe. I’m from the old school of thought that says people marry for love and commitment.”
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I do agree but maybe he believes his wife is the center of his city not universe and once he goes out of his city, he can’t control himself… Maybe the reason why he is defending Tameka in most of his interviews is to show her the love he has for her… He needs to man up cause cheating is WACK.. Stay single homie!
http://www.myspace.com/millyly milly

damn Ursh already??? come on now…hes only been married a few months and hes already talking about its hard to stay faithful smh
http://www.myspace.com/Datbury Datbury

This is why us men who have kids need to stick around and teach our children how to recognize when you’re ready for marriage. It is such a deep commitment that nothing in life could prepare you for it, and that is a regular marriage. If I was under the same microscope as Usher, I’m sure the pressure would get to me too. I think if he really wants a successful family, he needs to take some time off from the music business. Family can be the strongest foundation in life after God. I hope he makes the right decision.
http://FreshFromTheStreetz.blogspot.com Zuley

Man-Tika just needs to get it in her head Usher only married her ass for that child. You best believe he and Keri Hilson’s chemistry was too good in that video and I believe if circumstances weren’t where they are he would have pursued her.
http://www.myspace.com/bettathaniwasb4 2bme

I’ve been an avid fan of usher for years..I tend to keep my ear to the ground on a lot of things pertaining to celebrities and he is no exception. What i’ve come to realize is usher is a hopeless romantic. He’s in love with love and it’s a novelty for him, however with most novelties the thrill of it wears off. Usher is more intuned to being a daddy then a husband, because he lacked growing up with one. marrying Tameka was an obligation, i’m not doubting his love for her but his level of maturity is suspect in itself. He once said he would wait until he was 35 to make that plunge and it’s painfully obvious that he should have…however in watching his Truth DVD he also stated he would give up a relationship because of all the ones his mother gave up for him..since he’s not good at keeping his word one shouldn’t expect him to keep his libido in check either.
whatdoesitmatter

Amen! SR! It takes a man to be a husband, not a little boy that has to make conscious attempts to stay faithful!
kwallace577

meka. can i call you that? i feel as if we are on a nickname basis with your hubby cramming you down our throats and all….if you are reading listen to me…..

your plan backfired. terribly. you divorced your first husband, to wedge yourself in, get between this man and his momma, pop up preggers, and land yourself a ring. this has been done soooo many times over the years. and honey chile PULEAZE believe…game recognizes game. that is why most sistas cannot STAND you b/c..well, b/c we all have game. in some shape, form, or fashion. okay boo boo? your days are so so numbered.

i just feel for you b/c your plan backfiring is gonna be all up in the public eye. it is okay though. you will be paid nicely for your troubles, i’m sure. i have always given you props for being crafty.
shannon04

@2bme…..I couldn’t agree with you more….you pretty much summed that up.
http://www.smokiesays.blogspot.com/ Smokie

Or he could at least not announce to the world how hard it is to love his wife. Geez, Usher is such a kid.
http://www.weneedtostop.com 2Unruly

“I’m not good at being in love”

Is this telling the world you aren’t and never was in love with your WIFE? I think I’d be hurt to read those words if I were Mrs. Raymond. This has got to be taken out of context…I hope.
http://www.myspace.com/bettathaniwasb4 2bme

all i can say is good luck when he goes on tour..I know she’ll be there as his “stylist” but she has to go to sleep sometime..let the games begin
http://www.weneedtostop.com 2Unruly

” but she has to go to sleep sometime”

2bme…not if she has that unique skill of sleeping with one eye open…nothing a little natural tears or eye lubricant can’t help, to keep that one eye open. But seriously, though…
pointhimout

lol. TEAM USHER
Xsjado

Um, maybe Usher should put his business life a little back on the back burner, and focus on being in love with his wife and his sons (step) and find out how love really works in a committed relationship. If he still thinks that it’s hard to maintain a committed relationship, he should have held back on marriage. Marriages these days are about as loose as the whore houses in Vegas…
missmiami

Sandra you hit it right on the head with this “In my opinion, once a man makes the noble gesture of taking a bride, he shouldn’t have to make a conscious decision or an effort to be faithful to his wife. That should come naturally if he really loves her. His wife should be the center of his Universe. I’m from the old school of thought that says people marry for love and commitment.”

I totally agree with you. Any person that has to second guess him or herself was obviously not ready for marriage. Marriage is no longer sacred. People feel as though divorce is the back up plan (i.e. if it doesn’t work out I will just get a divorce). It’s a crying shame.
leat

im still pissed about his response to chilli’s comments! DAMN he pissed me OFF!
bloggergirlz

@ leat Says: …i agree w/ you. i was like “wow”, did he have to really take it there…

…im still pissed about his response to chilli’s comments! DAMN he pissed me OFF!

as far as sandra’s post and the comments, you guys hit it on the head…

in 5,4,3,2,1…he’s going to through a fit and say the ENTIRE interview was taken out of context and fail miserably at trying to explain what he really meant…
bklynchick

Well that is the reason why he kept bringing up Tameka all the time. It’s like he was tryto convince us first and was hoping we would go for it but we didn’t and now he is trying to convince him self that he really wanted to get married. Marriage is a beautiful thing if it is with the one God had planned out for you. If it is not in his plan then you just wasted your time and hers!! Still love you Ush but get it together baby and grow up and go back to being single!! I’ll pick you up
AlwaysSweet

wtf? How do you have to make a conscious decision to love someone or be in love with someone? Hell, either you love them or you don’t. Real love is nothing that you should have to concentrate on or think about. It should be as natural as breathing or farting. If you love someone when they get on your last nerve or they’re always nagging or always up in your face, that’s real love and you can’t help it even if you tried. Usher needs to get a clue.
Kymystry

Sending up a Prayer …. Lord Please don’t let sweetface post… Thank You Jesus …
bloggergirlz

@ Kymystry Says: …u got me sitting cracking up…i’m sending up a prayer w/ u

Sending up a Prayer …. Lord Please don’t let sweetface post… Thank You Jesus …
bklynsjm123

I dont give a damn about Usher anymore. He is such a loser.
aqtpie

LMBAO@Kymystry
missamerica

It seems Tameka may have had the same problem with her first husband and now that Usher married her, I’m wouldn’t be surprised if he’s not thinking she may do the same to him. Or maybe Tameka does know, she doesn’t strike me as a dipstick living in la la land.

I think she may have looked at marrying Usher as a power move, not that I doubt their love for each other.

And I got your back Sandra if Usher try to start some ish, he should be happy to even be written about because this ish really isn’t newsworthy. I don’t blame you for not blogging about it when you first heard it, lol!!!
Prissydiva71

You know, I have adored Usher since 1994, but I like him even more when he just shuts up his d*** mouth! The only time he really needs to open it is to sing. You can’t knock him for that. However, the ignorant comment he made about Chilli was immature. Then to come back a week later and say something to belittle his wife, is way beyond me. I honestly think he thrives for attention and maybe Tameka was the one female that fed his little ego and that’s why he fell so hard for her. H***, I would have stayed with Ryan and not jumped ship to be with this little boy! Sorry Usher, but I gotta keep it real. Grow up, man!
ELove

I mean D-A-M-N his wife Looks-like-a-Man
What do He Suppose to do… Lil-Ursh needs love Too
TheSinfulLife

Eiw, you’re such a hater. That’s not what he meant.
teecee

the average guy can cheat on any women in 10 minutes. go to the mall and see all the chicks there who will get with you because well, u got a car and its 105 out side, you got a tank full of gas and can burning the a/c. lol

a man has to want to settle down to not cheat any more and hes still a young guy. as they use to say a man doesnt grow up until hes 30 and hes rich can sing and can afford jump offs. so for him to be faith is going to take more than just wishing and putting his wife at the center of his world, because men of his age center of their world is below the belt. lol you wish them luck, but he wont be able to say no if 100’s of girls are throwing your themselves at you every night.
Bubbles

I’m so tired of Usher and his marital shenanigans.
iyonah

leat Says:

im still pissed about his response to chilli’s comments! DAMN he pissed me OFF!
— I am so w/ you on his responses to her comments, I was really taken back.

IN terms of Tameka we all know that he wants to be a FATHER to his son and do what is considered “RIGHT”. Its only a matter of time before he cheats and it all gets exposed. It will all happen soon. I root for family at all times and I really STAND UP for Black LOVE but we all know this relationship is FORCED. He feels like he has to explain/defend his marriage, for what reason? He is repeating it over and over to embody it and become one with the idea.

I love Tameka and this marriage. I will be faithful.
I love Tameka and this marriage. I will be faithful.
I love Tameka and this marraige. I will be faithful.

It is only a matter of time.
MUNCHOSGIRL

I SEE IT IS A LOT OF UNREALISTIC POSTERS ON THIS SITE. I AM A WOMAN AND I KNOW IT IS NOT EASY TO STAY FAITHFUL. NO MATTER HOW MUCH THE MAJORITY OF YOU WANT TO PUT DOWN USHER AND HIS MARRIAGE, HE IS ATLEAST BEING HONEST. THERE IS TEMPTATIONS EVERYWHERE, MEN FALL FOR THESE TEMPTATIONS DAILY. IF YOU ARE SO TIRED AND USHER AND HIS MARRIAGE, YOU COULD PROVE JUST HOW MUCH BY NOT RESPONDING TO IT!
http://www.myspace.com/thegameoncw Bird

leat Says:

im still pissed about his response to chilli’s comments! DAMN he pissed me OFF!
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I guess I am the voice of dissent on this one. Chilli’s comments were inappropriate, unnecessary and disrespectful to Tameka and Marlon Wayan’s wife. We all know that Usher doesn’t handle blog hate too well and gives it way more attention than it deserves. Chilli knows him better than we do so she should have known he was gonna get at her for disrepecting his wife.
gemini83

Bird Says:

I guess I am the voice of dissent on this one. Chilli’s comments were inappropriate, unnecessary and disrespectful to Tameka and Marlon Wayan’s wife. We all know that Usher doesn’t handle blog hate too well and gives it way more attention than it deserves. Chilli knows him better than we do so she should have known he was gonna get at her for disrepecting his wife.
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You are soooo right. Chilli was wrong for those comments. Women can be REALLY spiteful at times. It’s over girl, MOVE ON. Chilli definitely lost some cool points with me for that.
http://www.myspace.com/millyly milly

^^^^^ I disagree
She was asked a question about her love for Usher, her answer did not say anything about wanting him back, if anything I’m pretty sure she said she loved him but wasnt in love him. Now a disrespectful answer would have been “hes stupid for marrying that broad, he and Tameka wont last,or he and I will be together again someday”.
http://notenoughrealmen.blogspot.com 2thick4u

Usher is a fool for this one!!!
gemini83

milly Says:

^^^^^ I disagree
She was asked a question about her love for Usher, her answer did not say anything about wanting him back, if anything I’m pretty sure she said she loved him but wasnt in love him. Now a disrespectful answer would have been “hes stupid for marrying that broad, he and Tameka wont last,or he and I will be together again someday”.
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Yea, I see your point, but I think we all know what she was really trying to say. She put it in so many other words though. She knew what she was doing.
Lala11_7

Wow…I don’t get all of the bashing…

Even though Prince wrote a jam called “joy in repetition”…being in love and being with one person all the time probably isn’t easy for somebody who was a consumate whore in the past….

I’d rather a man told me that he made a conscious decision everyday to act right…than have one that does whatever, whenever without a thought in his head…
cinnamonkisses97

I’m from the old school of thought that says people marry for love and commitment

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Amen Sandra , I agree , and why get married if you are not ready to commit !!!!
The Divine Ms. K

Though I think Usher looks like a little troll, I will say this.

I don’t think he was saying its hard being faithful to his wife. Love is not always this ga ga goo goo feeling. You make a decision to love someone – through good times, bad times, times they hurt you, you hurt them, etc… I think that is what he was meaning when he said it is a conscious decision. It’s a conscious decision, because its so easy to say you don’t love a person anymore when they f*** up.

Infatuation causes the ga ga goo goo of love. But the decision to love someone, no matter what, is what keeps a marriage together.

And yes, I am married – have been for 4 years, so though I am still relatively new to the scene, I can speak on it some.
precious1

It is a concious decison to love someone and remain faithful to them. There are temptations that people face everyday, especially married people. You have to make a conscious decision, based on the love you share to remain faithful to anyone. I don’t think he meant anything negative, just being honest and real.

I am married and although faced with many alternatives to my spouse, I decide that I remain loyal to the vows and spouse I chose. Yes..loving someone is “supposed” to be natural when you marry someone but,anyone is kidding themselves if they believe effort and work is not required!
MUNCHOSGIRL

KUDOS PRECIOUS, SOMEONE WITH A REALISTIC VIEW OF THINGS. PEOPLE LET THE “HATE” OR JUST PLAIN IGNORANCE SWAY WHAT THEY SAY ABOUT SOME ENTERTAINERS. AT THE END OF THE DAY USHER IS HUMAN JUST LIKE THE NEXT MAN.
brwnsugga4you

i’m so sick of these two…
LAChick

I think Ursh was doing his usual Talking in soundbites. He said something many before him have said, I think its been taken out of context. With all the ass being tossed at him (why right?) He still thinks about his commitment to his marriage, I would prefer that than him being a cheater. Not that I think he really means what he said but it sounds all grown up and shit in Cosmo.
Some publicist told him to say that ….
sexyma078

I can tell there are only three married people on here…ladies believe me it does take a countious effort to stay faitful and married by both men and WOMEN. Comments like these are probably why the divorce rate is so high, becsuse people have this fairy tale idea of Marriage. In the vows it says for better or worse if there would be no worse it wouldn’t be in there. Further more temptation is every where getting married often gets you more attention so I agree with Ursh on this one and commend him for being honest
ggouch

TO:NYCUTIE Says:

“In my opinion, once a man makes the noble gesture of taking a bride, he shouldn’t have to make a conscious decision or an effort to be faithful to his wife. That should come naturally if he really loves her. His wife should be the center of his Universe. I’m from the old school of thought that says people marry for love and commitment.”
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I do agree but maybe he believes his wife is the center of his city not universe and once he goes out of his city, he can’t control himself… Maybe the reason why he is defending Tameka in most of his interviews is to show her the love he has for her… He needs to man up cause cheating is WACK.. Stay single homie!
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What are you talking about, only in Cinderalla, Sleeping Beauty and Snow White, can you believe that once the man says “I Do” it turns off the unfaithful switch. That is why marriage is a struggle. If it wasn’t everyone would have their fairytale romance/relationship. His words were more than mature, because he is right…It is a “Conscious” Effort to do the right thing…Like SINNING!! If you have a relationship, where you don’t have to make conscious decissions to make things work…that is a beautiful thing.
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