A Georgia woman took advantage of a loophole in a Nebraska law to abandon her 12-year-old son in Lincoln last week.
And now Georgia officials are on their way to Nebraska to bring him back.
Tysheema Brown, 33, said she tried everything she could do to help her son before driving over 1000 miles to take advantage of Nebraska’s “Safe Haven” law.
The law was originally intended to protect unwanted infants. Every state has a Safe Haven law, but Nebraska is the only state that does not have an age cap.
In Georgia, the age cap to abandon a baby without fear of prosecution is 3 days old.
Since Nebraska’s law took effect in July, 20 children ranging in age from 1 to 17 years have been dropped off at local hospitals. Critics of the law argue that it was never intended to allow frustrated parents to abandon teenagers.
“This law has had serious, unintended consequences,” Nebraska Gov. Dave Heineman said in a statement. “It needs to be changed to focus on its original intent — protecting infants.”
Heineman said that the state legislature intends to meet to amend the safe haven law so that it only applies to infants up to three days old. The next legislative session isn’t until January 2009.
Brown saw no other option but to drive to Nebraska after her mom told her about Nebraska’s Safe Haven law. Her son had been kicked out of two schools for fighting and he was arrested for stealing a camera. Brown feared he would end up in the state’s badly run juvenile corrections facilities.
“I just broke out crying,” said Brown, who drove over 15 hours straight with her son and 7-year-old daughter. She left her son at Lincoln General Hospital East on Saturday night. “I ran out of fight. I ran out of hope,” she said. “I never ran out of love for my child.”
Brown said when they reached Nebraska her son turned to her and said, “Mom, do I have to go?”
“Yes,” she replied. “You have to go.”
Damn….that’s cold. The same thing happened here in Detroit a few weeks ago. A mother dropped off her adopted son age 13 at a hospital in Nebraska. This was just October 13th and now this !
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damn…just beat that a$$ real good…what about boot camp or something…i’m glad i don’t have no damn kids! i wonder what the officals in georgia are going to do w/ him…return to his mom or another family member, foster or group home…
i read an article a few weeks ago and someone dropped off about 6 damn kids at once! that is a crazy loophole, dumb politicians, i tell ya…the safe haven law isn’t new, therefore i don’t understand why this happened…
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My father worked at a hospital up there in Bellevue and it pretty much how it went.Drop off your children and viola!Sad.
i rather she drop him off than do something to him like kill him. we have folks throwing their kids off of bridges, putting them in microwaves, locking them up in the basements, exorcising them, etc. damn shame but it’s reality.
Pretty soon this won’t be an option anymore…then what are these parents gonna do? I can definitely see the good AND the bad sides of this…
So basically he is still going to end up in the system, whether it is the juvenile or foster care which both have many issues. I saw her interview on the news and she said he has been trouble since he was in 1st grade. I wonder where his father is, b/c he needs to be dropped off at his house instead of Nebraska. This is why it is so important to have a good two parent family structure in a home. Please be mindful of who you have kids with.
If you don’t want kids don’t conceive. They are not something you can give away when you are done playing with them and done raising them. Kids who make you go to this extreme are just mini me’s and are only doing the bad shit you did to your parents as kids. Pay back is a bitch. I am glad that I was somewhat a good kid growing up. My kids could not pull a wool over my eye. Been there done that!
Oh reallyyyyyyyyy my son is 17, so I still got time, that lil nucca got one mo’ time to tell me whatever and walk away. I’mma let him know tonight, you know I can just take you somewhere and leave yo azz right LOL!!!
ok, that’s not funny
(well kinda)
candycane Says:
Oh reallyyyyyyyyy my son is 17, so I still got time, that lil nucca got one mo’ time to tell me whatever and walk away. I’mma let him know tonight, you know I can just take you somewhere and leave yo azz right LOL!!!
ok, that’s not funny
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Nothing wrong with disapline. Kids need to be respectful of their parents. If parents quit trying to be their kids friends and thinking that when little Ray Ray is cursing and how cute it is, they will never have problems with him as he is growing older.
These parents are crying out for help. I know how that mother feels. She felt she had no other choice, and it wasn’t because she didn’t love the child. Until you’ve walk in her shoes, don’t judge.
free Says:
i rather she drop him off than do something to him like kill him. we have folks throwing their kids off of bridges, putting them in microwaves, locking them up in the basements, exorcising them, etc. damn shame but it’s reality.
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I feel where you coming from…
I live in Omaha, and it kills me to see how some parents of these are. One incident was a 32yr old white man from Omaha, left 9 of his kids, aged 3 to 17, at the hospital. His wife had passed, and instead of leaving his kids with relatives (which had said they would help him or even raise the kids) he took this route. He took off to somewhere with his youngest, i think was 3 months old. Now the relatives can’t even see the children because they are now wards of the state. And it may be months before the relatives will see them again because of all the red tape the government. Another was a woman who drove from Michigan to drop her son off. A 16yr old girl here in Omaha tried to turn herself and her baby in because she said her mom was treating her unfairly. She’s not protected under the law because her mother did not turn her over to the state. Her mom went on t.v. to say she’s never treated her daughter or grandson unfairly at all. I understand if the child is special needs child or a newborn baby, then they should be protected under the law. But for people to just up and drop off their children because they act up or whatever is the parent’s responsibility. Make time for your children, listen to their problems. Don’t just hand them a cellphone, Xbox, whatever to pacify them. I understand many parents are single, too young to be having children, working long hours or whatever, but make time for your children.
My mother was a single parent, she worked long hours, but she did make the time to raise my sister and I, and I thank her for that.
The politicians up here are old money republicans, living 40yrs in the past, and I guess trying to make an effort to keep up with surrounding states. It’s sad that South Dakota has more common sense than these fools here. All they worry about here is Go Big Red, and if they are going to win a National Football Championship. That’s pretty much how the state runs…
free Says:
i rather she drop him off than do something to him like kill him.
^^Thats the first thing I thought when I read the story. I don’t think the law is flawed at all. There should be a “safe haven” for all children under the legal age. I know of the newborn law…And even though this state has a “loophole” I’m still wondering but is it really a loophole?
THIS IS WHY ABORTIONS SHOULD NOT BE BANNED, and it puts ‘Don’t have ’em if you can’t take care of em’ in a new light…
ReadTheBlog Says:
THIS IS WHY ABORTIONS SHOULD NOT BE BANNED, and it puts ‘Don’t have ‘em if you can’t take care of em’ in a new light…
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AMEN! I am not a fan of abortion (for me). To those who know they don’t want kids noone is making you.
I feel for her …. I KNOW it was a heart wrentching decision and she clearly didn’t see any other option .. she stated that she’s tried everything and NO ONE was willing to help her … The Big Brother/Sisiter Org has a Waiting list for Black Men to become a part of .. I mean who knows where the father is .. thats not for us to speculate .. she was HURTING .. and we’ve LONG since abanonded the ideology of “it takes a village” .. now it’s . as long as MY kids are “good” and taken care of thats I need to worry about
Tysheema… I’ll be praying for you my sister … It’s hard raising a man child in the city
This sounds like a frustrated mother who really loves her child, but didn’t know what else to do with her son. Hopefully, the two of them will receive some therapy and have a happy ending. I am praying for the family. This is sad, but a little tough love might be just what this child needs. The law doesn’t allow a paretn to “spank/whip” children. Parents don’t have the kind of rights they should have. I don’t mean abuse. I am speaking of discipline. In many states if you whip a child with a belt, it’s considered child abuse. Let’s all pray for this family.
This is so unfortunate! Ironically, the same situation happened here in Detroit a couple weeks ago and now the mother has had her other kids taken away. The other ironic thing is that they are both black women..wtf??
This goes back go to what I always say. When women go into the hospital to give birth…it should be required for them to receive some type of parenting class or even a handbook of what to expect from birth through puberty.
Most teenagers go through a rebellious face, especially if they are dealing with some type of psycholgical issues ie abandonment, which is a common issue in black households. I wish that parents would take time to talk to and understand what might be causing the behavior instead of just assuming they are a lost cause and their is no hope, and turning their backs.
Sad thing is, the relationship these kids have with their parents will inevitably be broken because the kids will never trust their mothers again!
i am a parent of a 13 year old daughter. i have friends and fam who have kids the same age as my oldest daughter. but i swear for goodness….these teenagers will make you want to break a foot off up in their azzes….not a day goes by i don’t want to choke the living shyt outta my daughter. hell she almost caught a beat down 10 minutes ago for talking back. AND SHE IS ONE OF THE GOOD ONES!! she ain’t stealing, she is not running the streets, she does not have me up on maury talking about she stripping and skipping school and wants to have a baby. LMAO.
on the flip side of this…some of the kids in my extended network ARE bad as hell! just like this little boy. a friend of mine has been through worse than this mom. her son took her car and crashed it. her husband almost caught charges from jumping on the kid (his son) b/c he hit her. and THEY are one of the families folks always hollering about “well where is the dad? where is the biological father in the home” well hell…he is THERE and the kid is still the spawn of satan. WHAT DO YOU DO ABOUT THAT???
this lady was doing what she thought best. i have no words negative towards her. but i bet his little azz skraiten up. had the nerve to ask “do i have to go?” i woulda boxed his little azz down right then and there. my aunt raised 4 boys. alone. i remember when her hands used to be swollen from boxing them the hail DOWN if they tried her. and they were some of the bad azz kids….now she has a business man, an electrician, a real estate broker, and a law student.
the only thing i woulda done different is she shoulda beat his azz…THEN took him to nebraska. after i woulda finished with him he woulda been asking “CAN i go?” NOT “do i have to go?”
cause he woulda wanted to get the fluck AWAY from my crazy self…..with his little thieving azz.
candycane Says:
Oh reallyyyyyyyyy my son is 17, so I still got time, that lil nucca got one mo’ time to tell me whatever and walk away. I’mma let him know tonight, you know I can just take you somewhere and leave yo azz right LOL!!!
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LOL!!! Just show him this post.
kwallace577 Says: i remember when her hands used to be swollen from boxing them the hail DOWN if they tried her. and they were some of the bad azz kids….now she has a business man, an electrician, a real estate broker, and a law student.
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Some kids you do have to knock the hell out, but it’s because we love them. Me and my daughter are too much alike and she knows how to push my buttons. Some times she comes over my house and knit picks. I have to tell her to go home. I love her and she loves me. Just one of those Mother daughter things that she won’t realize until she has her own kids. I am paitently waiting. LOL.
@trina…Please be mindful of who you have kids with.
girl you ain’t lyin!! i tell my 21 year old son this all the time! that shyt is a lifetime commitment…
Auntie … u got us addicted at home …
now yall KNOW the convo on the ride there …15hrs of cussin .. and I woulda pulled up and said GETCHOLILAZZOUTMYPHUKCINCARNOW !! made me drive 15 GATDANG hours for your wanna steal a camera azz … Oh yeah .. he’da got beat and cussed at SOOO hard .. he woulda rolled his lil thieving azz out .. tuck and roll nicca tuck and roll …
but I STILL think this momma did what she thought was best for her family ..
Her son did not all of a sudden become bad, she probably didn’t take the time to discipline him when he was a toddler and now she has a monster she can’t control. Parent is not just a noun, it’s a verb. The moment you decided to have a child is the moment you dedicated your life to another full time job that you can’t up and quit because things have changed and you don’t like it anymore. If this boy is returned to his mother, I fear he’ll become worse, this ish would not have scared him straight.
Children need boundaries from a young age, so they can understand that there are consequences for their actions. When a child steps out of line, as their parent/guardian, you have the right to discipline them as you see fit. It doesn’t even have to go straight into beating and choking, get creative with their asses, make them kneel on some rice or sit in the chair position, have them slice some onions, paint and repaint some rooms, scrub the floor with a toothbrush, heck wash their mouths out with soap. Children respect discipline, they need and want it; start them young (train up a child in the way they should go) and when they’re 12, you might be able to control them a bit better.
the funniest part is i called my aunt (the one who used to break her sons OFF. and they all are like 6 ft plus..and she is 98 lbs soaking wet..LOL) and told her about this. she WAS heated.
“you mean you can drive them to another state these days? and drop them off? and not get in trouble? where the hell was stuff like this 25 years ago when i was raising MY kids?” LOL.
my poor cousins woulda been in nebraska walking around going up to folks, stating their names and addresses, trying to get back to home and ending with…”and our crazy azz momma dropped us off! i tried to run after the car but she peeled the hell out….”
I think the problem is the laws enacted that say parents can’t discipline their kids. I was once told I was not allowed to “spank” my daughter, but when she started getting into trouble and doing things that were not in her best interest I was told that it was my responsibility. I too begged for help, and even once beat her down just so they would come and get her, unfortunately (or fortunately if that’s how you want to look at it) I ended up with a real cool black cop who sat her azz down and read her from one end of our street to the next. Ages 12-16 were absolute hell for me, and she has her dad here in the home. We are better now, but because we went through some therapy and just learned some different coping skills, but I know everyone doesn’t have that option. I hope that this shine a light on the need for more support for young mothers, and not just the single ones. My husband and I almost divorced over my daughters fuckery. Help should be there for all families who need it. I live in MI but doesn’t ATL have some group homes you can take your child to without repercussions. I know my cousin works at a place in Macon that takes in incorrigible kids, and they take in kids from parents, runaways, foster families that don’t work out. I’m just wondering if she had to drive that far?
I don’t know I saw the chick on TV and she didn’t look sincere to me only trying to save face. Sorry that is why kids need their Dads in their life. Any woman thinking that she can raise her son on her own is dead wrong. They need someone they know will break a foot in their ass. The same way that a daughter needs her mother.
I know my son don’t want me to be upset at him because he knows ain’t no way in hell he can challenge me on anything and he is like 180 lbs solid and his little buddies know too. I already told them that any of them think they bad enough they can see how fast they get this size 12 in their throat
dblaq Says:
I don’t know I saw the chick on TV and she didn’t look sincere to me only trying to save face.
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I agree. She was so fake. She acted distraught and crying but not one tear fell. Her eyes were dry as a bone.
kwallace577 Says:
my poor cousins woulda been in nebraska walking around going up to folks, stating their names and addresses, trying to get back to home and ending with…”and our crazy azz momma dropped us off! i tried to run after the car but she peeled the hell out….”
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Lol, this is why they are trying to change the law bfore word gets out to the black communities.
@ ecstracy:
I think kids have to be referred by the state to group homes like what you mentioned. Parents are not allowed to take them there and drop them off.
I live in Omaha as well..trust me this is getting out of hand and this isn’t the only child, another one was just dropped off including one from Michigan. What these parents don’t get, is that the city doesn’t want these kids and if they have their way by these parents abusing the safe haven law they will be going to jail. The reason this is flawed is because the legislature assumed people would know this was for newborns. It was initiated to curb the steady rise of abandonment we were seeing with young girls having babies and dropping them in the trash. It was also because there was a rise in shaken baby syndrome with young parents as well. Yes there were other things that contributed to the decision but those were the main points. Lincoln, which is the capital city advised this was going to happen but they didn’t pay attention to it, now it’s getting out of hand and they don’t know what to do because they don’t want to turn a child away that needs help although the law was not meant for them.
Boy, so there is hope, My mama can drop off the my 13yr old sister who is giving her a run for her money….
I have a cousin going through the same thing with her thirteen year old here in texas they have a waiting list for you to try to get help with your children – she tried to wait it out but the heifer got pregnant before she was able to take advantage of state help.
Karon had me and my brother when we saw her BUST THAT PISTOL at my dad the first few times he crossed her. She had not a iota of problem out of either of us EVER!
Amen to your entire comment KaraZ!
I’m trying to explain everything you just said to my mom who watches my daughter and nephew (both 2, my daughter is 5 months older) during the week. I found out last week that my daughter was using cuss words around my mother’s house BUT my mom wasn’t informing us! (her dad or I). She is still getting scolded to this day. She picked this up from my nephew because he has NO discipline at home. NONE! I can see he is headed for self destruction. Sad but true. My mom uses the excuse “they are just babies”, but I have to remind her she didn’t let us get away with that nonsense. My nephew gives me the side eye when I am around because I check them real quick if they get out of line. It doesn’t help if your not being backed 100%! It is pointless!
I was furious my little princess telling ME not say bad words (you know how you may get frustrated during commute hours) but she over at my mom’s using the B word. I’m mad just thinking about it!
I must be the only person who thinks this shit is FUNNY as hell.
LOL !!!!!!! LOL !!!!!!!!
I don’t see nothing wrong with parents getting rid of their terribly bad bad kids.
Tough Love. Then they would respect/appreciate their parents more.
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Uh NO YOU’RE NOT !!!!!
@kwallace:
You are totally right, BBBS has a waiting list for black mentors. I am on it, its unfortunate.
Yes I get frustrated with my children, sometimes I even have to go to the car and count, but they are my life and I just cannot fathom leaving or hurting them. I dont applaud her for dropping him off rather than hurting him, thats just the lesser of 2 evils I guess? People have to take care of their responsibilities and own up to their life choices. I just dont understand. I know the reality of it is, it isnt this simple, but it’s hard for me too, was hard for my mom, and the mom before her but they did it!
The question I have as a teacher and as a parent is how many times did she whoop his azz? A 12 year old doesn’t just become so unbearable that he can not be tolorated. Was she the parent who had the child that could do no wrong? Was she the parent who came into teacher conferences to “charge” up the teacher? She should have been beating his azz!
I don’t believe whipping someone solves everything. Some kids are just evil, seriously.
His bad azz doesn’t repect the house, he needs to be put out. She doesn’t have to cry about that.
Some parents go through hell with their kids, and actually are killed by their own kids.
Some kids are evil.