R&B Diva Monica and rapper Rocko have a love that has withstood the test of time. It doesn’t matter if they are married or not, their relationship demonstrates the mutual respect and maturity that bonds two people together and makes a relationship strong.
And let’s not forget that the two children produced by the union are well taken care of.
Rocko recently shot a video for his track “Finesse” off his album Self Made in Atlanta. Accompanying him on the set and in the video were his fiancee Mo and their children Rodney III and Romelo.
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They have some really cute kids. Monica is beautiful, and Rocko is…the father of some really cute kids. Black love is beautiful nontheless!
He is so ugly to me!
I lubs me some Monica but that is a face only a mother could love. He must have a dope personality.
Good time to post the ‘Monica rolling her eyes clip’. LOL!
I wonder if some story broke about Rocko mis-treating Monica, if Sandra would feel the same way?
I PROMISE you .. he is snarling like he got one of them hard dry boogers in his nose …
he is SOOO not cute …
AND DAMN….
CAN HE GO TO DYLAN’S DERMATOLOGIST? Damn…drink some Dasani or something, sheesh!
GOOD THING
good thing those kids got monica’s genes DANG
I too want my sisters to have babies by some man who already got a baby by someone else and not marry them. Please, oh please let this be their plan.
WOW Shannon….that was too (REAL) funny!!
Kids are well taken care of because their mother still gets checks from her plat albums.
CD titled Self Made (in atlanta) it should be named only known in Atlanta.
You just local. You still sandra local rapper
I wonder if Monica feels it doesn’t matter that they aren’t married… I got 5 she doesn’t.
Her kids are adorable! I wonder if she wants a girl.
why does looks have to be a issue she is happy.. rocko has money he has real estates if you all must know..damm get a life
if this is blk love, then i want my blk people to have no part of it. this is ghetto hood project i came from the project type of mess. smmfdh
I’m simply stating the obvious! If looks should be an issue, then the size of his bank account shouldnt either!
is that the new line out here. if people don’t see visible income source, people say they are in real estate LOL.
Monica had so much star potential, now she is just a hood princess
Naima…girl you ain’t know??? Er’body here (NOT LITERALLY EVERYONE) is in the industry or REAL ESTATE. Shew!
Sandra I thought you confirmed that they were married? (Just been keeping it on the low)?
@ Netta you can’t be serious… Real Estate! Do you watch the news? You do know that field is f ucked up right now. You would’ve been better not saying anything.
I wish Rocco would get a hit record. So I could at least assoc him with being more than Monica’s Baby Daddy.
i wonder how they even got together, looks like an odd couple to me. i love Mo to death though <3
real estates? riiiight lol
LOL Damn, yall go hard.
Hummm okay, it’s not me but so sick to death of these celebrity baby mommas accepting and living life with a ring, a promise and a 15-year engagement.
Nope Made4 .. it’s not just you
@iscream he do own real estate HE BEN HILL COMMUNITY
Hello All. Shannon, well said, well said, well said. You gots some common sense girlllllllllllllllllllllll. God bless you my child.
Sorry, my black love says marriage. Not two kids and a marriage whenever. I mean if they are happy that’s what matters, but let’s not act like this is black love at it’s finest, because it is so not.
He Ben Hill, what in the hale is that supposed to mean?
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!! Thanks for the laugh, Sandra!
No it is black love….
We should just lower our standards and accept baby-mommadom as long as he will stay with us and take us out in public.
Yes….that’s the plan!
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@ netta you are either a relative or a stalker cause I doubt unknown rappers have fans.
Ben Hill community? Should that mean something to me? It doesn’t, I don’t live in ATL… & since this man doesn’t (never) have a hit record, a 9 to 5 or even a change cup. I am likely to believe if this is an upscale community (YOU TYPED IT IN CAPS) he is either a hustler or a user (of his baby momma money).
You can keep your local celeb for all that. We outside of the A! don’t want him.
Matter of fact why don’t you visit some non ATL blogs and pose the question. Who knows Rocco? Lmao at what people will say.
Monica has always been hood, she just knew when to display it…and that’s fine by me. I think most of us are like that – at let the ones that have made it out of the hood…
I can’t stop laughing, Rocko is NOT tempting to the eye at all. This had to be one of those, “I’m-attracted-to-his-swag/personality-type-of-love”….I dunno.
Shots fired
well I actually think they make a “crute” couple. They look happy? I hope it works out.
@iscream a stalker never that i just know facts and i am close friend of both of them
@ Sandra, I am going to leave this post alone.
@ Alana, LMAO. That was a diplomatic approach to commenting on Mr. Rocko’s facial features.
I just want to add that intial comments has nothing to do with Monica & Rocco as a couple per se. I say what I say because Sandra is quick to call out someone being a baby momma or not being married until it comes to her favorite couples. Its bias and so I make sideway comments. I could care less about these two being married or not. & I sure don’t care about what Rocco owns.
I don’t advocate being a baby momma, a single parent or non of that mess. but sometimes shyt happens. (it shouldn’t especially if more than one kid is involved)
Really doe…..half of the women waiting on a man to marry them just to be in a relationship are single. Yall know it don’t work like that anymore….nobody wants to except that shyt, but you have except whatever comes along with not excepting it…
Im single and proud. When its right its right, when its not its not….I have 2 kids, they’re well taken care of….you just keep it moving, simple as that. People will always have an opinion of how you should live your life, but if you aren’t suffering or living without because of your own decisions….why do other people act as though they are affected by it? Just a question….cuz I really wanna know!
They have some cute kids. If they are happy with their relationship status/family, then more power to ’em.
Ball like the NBA today not tamara!!!!!
just want to add that intial comments has nothing to do with Monica & Rocco as a couple per se. I say what I say because Sandra is quick to call out someone being a baby momma or not being married until it comes to her favorite couples. Its bias and so I make sideway comments. I could care less about these two being married or not. & I sure don’t care about what Rocco owns.
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Yea, I have called her out about dat shyt too, but I don’t give a damn how Monica live her life….NO ROCKO IS NOT A RAPPER, but I will give him credit for being Monica’s man….YEA I SAID IT…HER MF MAN!! and if he aint faithful, tell me this, out of all the nicCahs yall have dated/had long term relationships with were they ALL faithful?
Go hard or GO home!!!
@KrysiJ:
Hail no they wasnt! Hail, didnt even take care of their child, so for THAT I am ALWAYS happy to see.
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LOL – The comments are RAW today!
Yeah, this could be filed under the “Who Cares Unless You’re In Atlanta” file. I love Monica to death – have and still listen to every CD. I have no clue as to what Rocko raps/sings/provides a hook for so…
… as far as the black love thing – I’m with a lot of folks. I couldn’t be a baby mama forever, no matter how much love and respect are in a relationship. Hell, if there’s that much love, respect,admiration – respect me enough to marry me. But, to each their own…
@KrysiJ:
Hail no they wasnt! Hail, didnt even take care of their child, so for THAT I am ALWAYS happy to see.
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Cuz nicCahs ain living life like its 1932 anymore, they’re not looking for a virgin to marry, matter fact they might even marry a stripper before they marry a virgin…times have changed drastically and if you sitting around waiting on a man to pick you out the crowd, have a long term relationship without premarrital sex, and sometimes kids…shyt you still living in the dream your mother and grandmother created for you. SMH…….its sad nah…..but nobody cares about the structure of a family anymore and it ain just black people! Tom bout excepting shyt…who da fukk wants to except that shyt NOBODY, BUT 85% OF THE FEMALES WHO ARE MARRIED EXCEPTED A LOT OF SHYT off a niccah and still are IN THEIR MARRIAGE!….but we know this! I for one will not except anything less than what I deserve, but you can’t expect everybody to take that type of risk…because there is a chance I may not meet the man that I deserve in the world we are living in. Some people are just a little more desperate than others…
WHO THEM BOYS LOOK LIKE..MUST BE SOME LONG LONG LOST RELATIVES..
Lmmfo @ krysi… no, he isn’t a rapper. He’s into real estate didn’t you get the memo.
No comment on the cheating BF’s this white box isn’t long enough.
Worst thing ever though. Once some chick beeped my ex followed by *69 and we all know what that means. I called the number back BEEFING why the chick said. Who are you to said person. I said this is his mf’ing girl. Why did she say hold on. Here *blank* your girl is on the phone. *DEAD8
@iscream – WOW! that hurt at the time….are you laughing at it yet? If not, the mess will be a classic moment to you in a minute, just wait for it…
I FEEL ABOUT MONICA AND ROCKO THE SAME WAY I FEEL ABOUT KEYSHIA AND WHATS HIS FACE?
I GUESS LOVE IS BLIND CAUSE BOTH WOMEN COULD HAVE DONE BETTER!
BUT WHO KNOWS? SOMEBODY MIGHT BE SAYING THE SAME THING ABOUT ME AND MY HUSBAND.
OH WELL, TO EACH HIS OWN.
Ice that was funny as hail lol sorry
Krysi I hear you but I will still keep hope alive. I been waiting this darn long so aint nobody getting these goodies but my hubby or somebody pretty darn close. And you know you made me HOLLA!
I wish Monica and Rocko the best though
@ Mel I laugh about now. That was more than 10 years ago but at the time wasn’t nothing funny about that.
Ice why was she sending him that text or page if he was with her?
OMG Isc you have been killing me today. THAT WAS HILARIOUS, sorry about your hurt in it but that was GANGSTA on ole girls part.
I’m one in the minority who agrees with most of what Krysi is saying. Marriage isn’t for everyone and every woman isn’t out there looking for the white picket fences, dog, 2.5 kids etc. Some women are content being in a relationship with a man without being defined by a ring and a piece of paper. My hubby was my man for 10 years before he became by hubby and I was perfectly fine with that because WE were happy in our relationship. Times has changed and it’s a to each it’s own preference on this issue.
@ Daisy it’s funny now but that mess wasn’t funny when it happened. & he got on the phone talking like he was a woman. I will never forget it, smh. That fool had the nerve to call me last Summer talking about let’s hook up. HA yeah right. You’re talking to a grown woman now, not some young girl blinded by stupidity (cause that wasn’t love).
I don’t know why she beeped him. Maybe she knew he had a(nother) girl, maybe he was on his way when she beeped him. All I know is that was a drama filled relationship that I came out of with a higher self esteem than when I went in. My motto after that was I can do bad by my damn self.
Shauny Says:
OMG Isc you have been killing me today. THAT WAS HILARIOUS, sorry about your hurt in it but that was GANGSTA on ole girls part.
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It was gangsta that’s why I’ll never forget it. I couldn’t believe she said that. Couldn’t believe it at all.
Thanks Sandra for the post…because unlike ERRRYBODY that commented, I DO NOT KNOW MONICA OR ROCKO PERSONALLY, Im not going to judge their union. However, based on what Monica says and pics, they appear to be happy and Rocko seems to be a good man. Monica doesnt give me the type that would be with a no good nicca. I honestly think allot of you need to quit judging Monica and let her live her life. Allot of you women prob are not even married, let alone still in a relationship with your children’s father. Or better yet, have MULTIPLE baby daddies. Now if you do, thats your business. My brother and I have diff fathers…but quit finding the negative in everything. Applaud him for taking care of his children and being their for Monica unlike so many other black men. To keep it 100, allot of yall said bitter and unhappy…I wish Monica and Rocko the best. Whether they get married or not, they appear to be very happy and whatever they doing is working, they been together for 8 or 9 years….
P.S. Did it ever occur to you that they may not be ready for marriage or better yet, may not even WANT to get married? Also, are you saying the same thing about Oprah? Or Janet? What about Halle Berry? I didnt think so…..
I meant to say allot of yall SOUND bitter and unhappy
Damn homie (Isc)………….I got too many stories about my son’s dad. How bout a nicCah got you at home 9 months pregnant….walks in the door with left over red lobster from a date he took some other bytch on????……….I was so young and sad…..I couldn’t even say anything about it (had too much pride and was just LOST)….SMH…19 years old trying to figure out “what da fukk just happened?” AND HE WAS MY FIRST AND ONLY AT THE TIME….shyt ain matter. Eventually I had to pack me and my baby shyt, and walk away. My baby girl is from my best friend (not much of a friendship anymore) we had been best friends every since MIDDLE SCHOOL yall and after all that….shyt still ain workout. I was confused for a minute about it, having my baby and all…..but…..okay, remember when I told yall about the boy that hit me and I left and never turned back…………….well, thats who it was. He even started acting like I did something wrong to him, by not having anything else to say to him, for a moment i even had thoughts that I could’ve been, but I snapped outta dat shyt and kept it moving. Shyt be like that sometimes….even when you think it should be right, cuz you were a virgin, or yall were bestfriends, it can be dead azz WRONG. I played the field for a long time after my son’s father……….when I took a chance and sat on the bench, shyt went crazy. So Im taking a leave of absence lol! It ain even about no RING….fukk ah RANG…its about what you are willing to put up with. I felt like I did what was best for me and my kids.
I agree marriage is not for everybody. It is something that I want and wish I saw more of in our community when done right.I come from the spiritual aspect as some of you know.
Shauny Bless you and your ten years glad he did become your hubby.
Again to each their own if you like it I love it.
Damn I wish I could bump a post. I would LOVE to read what folks have to say about dani’s comments.
Daisy, we both were young when we got together and neither of us expected it to last but when we knew it did we just made it work. 10 years ZERO break ups. We knew we would be together for the long hall then about 2 years ago I was woke out of a deep sleep about 3am with him on bended knee.
I’m glad I’m a Mrs. But was content as I was as well. I guess that’s why I can see both sides of this topic. I was like Goldie Hawn and Kurt.and Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins….lol
I agree marriage is not for everybody. It is something that I want and wish I saw more of in our community when done right.I come from the spiritual aspect as some of you know.
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Yea hopefully these men will step up and change the current trend….but its really up to them, we are the ones who have to sit around and wait to get proposed to………and its so many women giving them what they think they WANT right NOW, they get distracted from what they NEED. It iz what it iz with me….Im happy with who I am and Im greatful for what I do have in my life. Women have to love themselves before they attempt to rely on a man to. And its not that I don’t want to get married or anything I just said “FUKK a RANG”, as in, it ain worth being cheated on for, or being beat the hell out of for….I didn’t mean it like I would never except one from the right dude. If it happens it happens.
i love them and i think it’s great to finally have someone who is in my generation needless to say that is able to show examples of true love!!! nah marriage aint for everybody but…i mean i don’t wanna live the rest of my life being someones baby mama or “shaking up” as the old folks say….
ive had a child out of wedlock and please believe i wont have another one….i want to set examples for my son…i mean as a black community we gotta start somewhere…im tired of the statistics having so many negative things to say about black people…not saying that we are the only people who are like this but i can only speak for my community…
Shauny,
I feel you! I have been with my boo for 8 years. I do want to get married and hopefully an engagement will be coming soon (I’ve heard a few things). I am all for being whatever you all are to each other (baby mama, baby daddy, booty call or whatever), but I agree with those that say raise the standards. I would feel really disrespected if a man can make babies with me but won’t marry me. I don’t understand the whole good enough to be my child’s father/mother, but not my wife or husband. What is the criteria/standards for marriage? I mean marriage is not for everyone but these folk who keep making babies with each other either need to jump the broom or control the birth. I would want my children , my husband, and myself to all have the same last names. I think they owe it to thier children. But again to each its own. If they like it for THEM, then I love it for THEM, but definitely not for ME because that whole “that is my baby’s father/mother” phrase is wack!!
regardless of what that is still her family and they are a beautiful minus rocko face (i kid) (i kid)….(NOT) to each his own as long as he treating her right then if she like it i love it … Monica seems to be a cool chick and with all her previous man drama it is good to see her coming into her own dang i am getting old this girl done growed (yeah i said growed) up and got kids!!!! jesus be a fountain of youth
64jadestamper Says:
ive had a child out of wedlock and please believe i wont have another one….i want to set examples for my son…i mean as a black community we gotta start somewhere…im tired of the statistics having so many negative things to say about black people…not saying that we are the only people who are like this but i can only speak for my community…
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Can I second that motion your honor!
Here’s an IDEA>>>>STOP putting your legs up and make that ni@@a work for it. I knew my value young….I knew a man will only do what you allow. I RESPECT ALL SINGLE MOMS, I came from a single parent household (but dad lived around the corner) still my mom struggled and I didnt want that for myself. SHE DESERVED that commitment from him, so I just decided if you love me you will show me. Monica deserves that too…..but ni@@as is dumb these days.
“Marriage anit for everybody”…….BEEN to any old folks homes lately???? Find any old dude never married and ask him if he still feels that way…..
I knew I was right about shots fired
I still say marriage ain’t for everybody. Some people will not do right in a marriage. Now when I say that I am not talking about the majority of people in the world, but there are people who won’t do well in a marriage. I know women who are independent and have boyfriends and who do not want to be married. They don’t want to share the space, the responsibilities, or anything else. They want the companionship but that is about all. These are not young ladies either. So I don’t feel like marriage is for everyone. Some people live very happy lives without being married, by choice. Now is that the case for me, hell no!! I can’t wait to plan my wedding, get married, and start my family, but that is me.
I am single today because I am celibate and nobody is getting into these goods.
Men have too much say about where a relationship should go. The men decide whether marriage is good for the both of you. The man decides if he wants to stick around or not. The man decides if things are moving too fast or too slow. And it seems all us women do is nod our head and agree because we are just so darn ecstatic to be in a relationship.
I, too, am waiting for a ring. I don’t feel that I should have to give up the goods to get it. If a man doesn’t appreciate my celibacy, he can keep it moving. I am too old for the games. I tell potential suitors straight-up what’s what, and if they don’t like it, I don’t get bitter and sad about it. We are both adults and if we want two different things out of the relationship then we must part ways.
If I spend the rest of my days as a spinster, then so be it. There are many other things that make my life fulfilling besides having a man.
I tell you one thing, I am as stress-free as I have ever been as a single woman. I know what I want and I won’t settle for less.
Well…..I’mmah tell ya like this……there is no fukking difference between having a child out of wedlock from a man, than having a child in a marriage from a man, just less paperwork! My mother and father were married for 6 fukking months! They spent 6 more months of their marriage getting a divorce! My grandmother always told me don’t chase after a man, and she never tried to pretend like she was perfect either, she was HONEST about REAL LIFE. She had 2 kids from 2 different dudes who didn’t treat her right, and she left them….then she got married to my grandaddy and had 4 more kids, they stayed married for 56 years…..nobody can dictate how the fukk someone else’s life will play out….all these selfish azz females having abortions and shyt just to say they have NO kids to impress a man or to buy some fukking clothes and shoes ain cool either!! Live ya own life don’t try and justify why people should do shyt your way……whats for you is FOR YOU, and whats for ME, is for ME!
flyqtnva Says:
“Marriage anit for everybody”…….BEEN to any old folks homes lately???? Find any old dude never married and ask him if he still feels that way…..
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So very true. That whoe marriage is not for everybody is funny to me. That’s why men get old and just marry whatever is available. They know that they are not getting any younger and they don’t want to be the old dude in the club.
Everybody wants to be loved and love someone and nothing is wrong with having that; I think that most people commenting are having issues with this being the definition of black love and it’s not. Black love is not having kids but no husband. That’s a sad thing some people have really started to accept and we think that it’s normal. It’s not.
I don’t think women/girls who have abortions are selfish. I actually wish more young girls would (sorry if that is not PC) go to the clinic more often instead of having kids they can’t afford to take care of and my tax dollars help raise. If my teenage daughter got prg. off to the clinic we go. I PRAY that would not happen cause I wouldnt want that for her but I would not want her to be a teen mom either. My co worker sure made her 17yr old go to the clinic last yr.
I want to be married when I have kids that’s all I know. My mother was not married when she had me (she later went on to marry her high school sweetheart and had 2 more kids) and my sister has 2 kids by 2 differnt men at age 23 that is NOT cool or cute IMO. We all fall down and fall short but I feel when you know better DO better. I feel thats one thing God ask and expects for us.
Again I will say marriage is not for everybody and not every woman wants to be married and differences make the world go round.
Daisy says:
Again I will say marriage is not for everybody and not every woman wants to be married and differences make the world go round
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Cosign Daisy!
we think that it’s normal. It’s not.
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Oh my bad that shyt ain normal…..read the stats tell me marriage is.
We don’t live in the same world Martin Luther King came up in….I wish we DID.
I don’t think women/girls who have abortions are selfish. I actually wish more young girls would (sorry if that is not PC) go to the clinic more often instead of having kids they can’t afford to take care of and my tax dollars help raise. If my teenage daughter got prg. off to the clinic we go. I PRAY that would not happen cause I wouldnt want that for her but I would not want her to be a teen mom either. My co worker sure made her 17yr old go to the clinic last yr.
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Me and you cool Daisy, but I really can’t believe you said that…and turn around and say what GOD expects from us?
my sister has 2 kids by 2 differnt men at age 23 that is NOT cool or cute IMO
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Im 27 almost 28 years old and I have always worked and taken care of my kids regardless of what the fathers do, I have never spent your tax dollars on government help, nor have I ever needed to…Of course you know no ones approval is needed nor required but I think a lot of people get on this shyt fronting….Im a REALIST.
Krysi we are cool indeed and I sure did say it. I am pro choice and saved sanctified holy ghost filled CHRISTIAN who tries to live Christ like daily! Abortion is not an easy choice. It is not to be taken lightly but I don’t think its cute at the amount of baby mamas we have in our community either. I give shoutouts to ALL SINGLE MOTHERS! Never knocked them and Never will. They hold it down daily! I just wish we had more wives in happy marriages not just married because of kids or married and the husband aint worth .02 but you gotta husband so thats all that matters NO MA’AM. I wish marriage came 1st then babies for more ppl in our community. Yes, divorce is real and it happens daily but I still do believe in marriage and wish we had more healthy ones in our community. I hope Barack and Michelle can help more of our people see marriage is “cool”.
I am glad you can afford to take care of your kids but as you know that is NOT always the case when it comes to some of these girls having babies they cant afford to take care.
I love my sister dearly but I do wish she would have waited before having kids.
saved sanctified holy ghost filled CHRISTIAN
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and pro choice? Is GOD pro choice, cuz I could’ve sworn…??
Here’s an IDEA>>>>STOP putting your legs up and make that ni@@a work for it
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who da fukk dis shyt supposed to be directed at? I hope not me, CUZ you don’t fukking know how long a nicca waited to get in me, you don’t know any of the circumstances in my relationships except for what the fukk I told you…so don’t assume shyt about me and make an ass outta you, cuz Im good. Shyt Im just commenting on REAL SHYT…”make ah nicca work…..have you had an abortion….or are you trying to say you are a virgin too?……LIFE IS REALITY hun, make a niccah work….and he’ll work the next bytch…I never said fukk on the first date and get pregnant, U GOT ME FUKKED UP…!! It iz what it iz…dem niCCahs made their decisions, and I MADE MINe! AND I DON’T NEED SHYT FROM U, and na’AN nother MF one here got some shyt to say bout MY LIFE!! I’m prolly 10 toes down compared to some of deez young females still living in apartments going on 30 or OLDER, with NO FUKKING KIDS,NO MAN, NO HUSBAND and NOTHING WORTH LIVING FOR but ah 9-5, RENT, a CAR NOTE and some fukking FURNITURE!
I don’t think God is for having pre martial sex and kids out of wedlock but it happens everyday. A sin is a sin is a sin. Simple as that. I am pro choice and a Christian yes Ma’am! I am a sinner saved by grace.
I don’t think God is for having pre martial sex and kids out of wedlock but it happens everyday. A sin is a sin is a sin. Simple as that. I am pro choice and a Christian yes Ma’am! I am a sinner saved by grace.
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If thats how you really feel, then don’t have an abortion, and definitely don’t take your future daughter to the clinic to get one….because like you said ALL SIN, is SIN and you are held accountable for your children’s sins up until a certain point too. And really, I hope that somebody will save you from whats happening today Daisy, I remeber being a virgin hoping to meet a man who would know my worth and settle down……but hey, shyt ain work out so….HOLD OUT, for ME AND YOU HUN…maybe you can prove me and the STATS wrong. How old are you anyway? Do you ever want kids?…Im actually just curious.
I am 32 and yes I want kids. I am still holding on and out for my mr right! I am standing on Gods word and promises thats all I know to do. I am not living in la la land I know what time it is and how men have changed over the years but I am not giving up on marriage. I do want to be a mother even if I dont ever get married but that would be a last resort going to the sperm bank..lol I have not had an abortion but I would have had I gotten prg in college or high school. I was never fast or hot in the tail though..lol I have a few gfriends (some who know have kids) who have had abortions. I even drove a gfriend in college to have one. I just HATE when people (not you) act like abortion is the worse sin ever. I am and have always been a pro choice Christian and every one of my friends who had one were christian as well. I believe gays can be Christian as well although ppl act like thats also the biggest sin. In the end I believe God loves the sinner not the sin! That doesnt mean we have a free pass to sin by any means though. I dont have a heaven or hell to put anybody in at the end of th day..lol
damn so let me get this right.. its OK for monica and tiny to be baby mamas- and thats black luv but not erykah badu , lala and the rest of them!!! We OUT BEY for being married first before having children..What is wrong with this pic..Im just saying
Damn Daisy……I just hope that what the Lord decides is for you not to be with any of the corrupted men left on this earth. You would be in a better position as a virgin (you are a virgin right and not just INACTIVE for a while?)as far as GOD is concerned but I have to admit I don’t know where I would be or how I would feel if I hadn’t gave birth to my kids….they were worth whatever pain I had to endure or whatever sacrafices I had to make…I just want to die happy and nothing like my mother, I have had enough bad happen in my life for me to be content with it just being me and my kids……but how would you feel without that? Its better to have loved than to never have loved at all…My sister is like you(the sister in DC) (only she is inactive since GOD knows when)….she is neither married nor does she have any kids….she will be 36 this year, How long do yall plan to wait?……..I just hate that you could miss out on the benefits of womanhood married or not. We weren’t put here to go thru this with men…The world is out of order! Women were put here FOR men, to be their support, their friend, their lovers, the mother of their kids…..You can’t expect for us to ignore our nature and have abortions every time we get pregnant because 85% OF THE MALE GENDER IS DOING WTF THEY WANT TO DO….There is no excuse for you to be 32 years old and unmarried…you are a virgin men should be at your feet begging for your hand…..a stripper probably got married at 18! Do you see what Im saying. Im glad that you believe in marriage, but do you believe in the ability of MAN to do what the BIBLE tells them to do anymore…cuz Im not so sure of it.
I don’t think abortions should be used as a form of birth control in the sense of women/girls not practing safe sex so I am just going to live at the clinic every other week. My dream/hope/desire/prayer is that we have less baby mamas and daddys thats all at least teen and young ones. I am not a virgin. I have been inactive for 9 yrs so I feel like one all over again and I have been with very few men so I am limited in my expereince. I do not want the black family to become non existent (sp). I def. do want to exp. the JOYS of motherhood at some point in my life. I try not to stress about it and keep the faith but it does get hard at times. I have never been into casual dating or sex and then I am in the A and the most men dont want what I have anyway..lol
Okay, I’m coming out of lurk mode just to ask a question.
Everyone keeps saying marriage isn’t for everyone. How is that a valid statement? The same things my husband and I did before we got married are the same things we do now. I don’t understand how someone can make a commitment to be a parent and take care of a child but can not commit to being a husband or wife? I think its lack of example. I am wondering how many people who are posting the statements of marriage isn’t for everyone or knocking marriage completely grew up in a house with a mother and father who were legally married(no common law) before they were born and are still married to this day?
I would say that example is what set this attitude against marriage. It needs to be changed.
**Going back into lurk**
I know you may be cool with Monica but I aiming for a little bit more. It would irritate me to no end that I’m good enough to lay up under and have kids for you, but I can’t go on to tell my children I was so special you married me? I’ll pass, God likes sacrificers, just keep your eyes open for who he sends you.
Deep Thoughts Says:
It would irritate me to no end that I’m good enough to lay up under and have kids for you, but I can’t go on to tell my children I was so special you married me?
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See, that’s the problem: instead of focusing on IF he’s the RIGHT man, you’re worrying about IF he’s putting a ring on your finger. That’s why more than half of the marriages in our community fail. I’m a lesbian and marriage is not an option for me and my partner. So does that mean our love is less valid than yours because I don’t put a ring on her finger?
@Miss I grew up in a 2 parent household and I believe in marriage with all my heart that being said that doesnt mean its for everybody or that everybody wants it. Plenty of women these days say its not important they are content with having their man in their life simple as that and if it happens it happens if it doesnt it doesnt. That is not my mindset but I am not going to know that viewpoint either. I can only speak for me and mine. I do not want to live in sin or shack up forever that is not an option for me. I dont know when it became so un cool to get married with alot of our black men.
Sandra- I agree making sure he is the RIGHT MAN is very important. Although I am for gay marriage (I could care less who folks married) because the country hasnt progressed that far I dont think anybody is saying your love isnt real w/o the ring or piece of paper. Same goes for straight couples who dont want to get married. Different strokes for different folks I guess.
typo -I am not going to knock that viewpoint
Well, I’ve said what Im going to say….IM DONE.
Rhianna
“Now everybody what’chu wanna do, come walk in my shoes
and see the way im living if you really want to
got my mind on my money and Im not going NO-WhEEEreEherreherre
so keep on getting ya paper
keep on climbing
look in the mirror
keep on shining
til the game end
til the clock stop
we gon’ post up on the top spot
living the life….(the life) the life (the life)
I’m IN MY OWN DAMN CITY
with my whole TEAM living the life (the life) the life (the life)
I do it how I wanna Do
Im living the life (the life) the life (the life)
I will NEVER LOSE im living my life, my LIIii-HIIiiFE
and Im not stopping”
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mya HA HA…………..LOL! GOOD DEBATE EVERYONE.