A female student says administrators at her Long Island high school made her sign a contract promising to stop flip flopping her gender.

The student who was a born a girl decided she wanted to live life as the masculine gender. The student asked Valley Stream South High School administrators to recognize her as a boy complete with a male name.

According to the NY Post, a school social worker asked the student to delay the change until this year — because the change was a lengthy and complicated process for the school.

“That wasn’t true and I knew it wasn’t true,” the student told The Post. “After I insisted on it, they made the change in a few days.”

Things went well at the school. The girl's classmates played along and referred to her by her chosen male name.

Then at the start of the new school year the girl decided to switch back to the female gender and use her real name again.

Her guidance counselor agreed to the change, but this time she handed the girl a contract affirming she will stop flip flopping her gender.

The student agreed to sign the contract but felt she should never have been put in that position. “They should have just supported me in my decision either way,” she said.

“A student should feel safe to figure their identity out no matter how many times they change who they are.”

The openly lesbian student told The Post that she decided to live as a girl again because a younger relative was set to attend the school.

“My parents and friends knew but some of my other relatives — mainly my grandparents — didn’t know,” she said. “I was worried that this relative would tell them and I just couldn’t deal with that at this point.”

The girl said she is likely to stay a female for the foreseeable future.

Photo by Sarah D. Davis/Getty Images

  • Phillybruh

    Public School should really stay out of certain things and just fill out the paperwork that way they aren't liable.

  • zawnn

    Get a gender neutral bathroom.. I didn't agree with it at first til I seen one in target... it's just a single bathroom with a door, lock, toilet, and sink... regular bathroom. I always pick that one lol

  • MookieFly

    This little girl only switched back because a relative was going to be attending the school? FOH. This is why you don't let children make decisions

  • Please Stop The Madness

    Basically told her be humble sit down.

  • Please Stop The Madness

    Students shouldnt have that much of a say. A parent or guardian yes? A student? Nope

  • Mia Said so

    My Lord Thank you what is going on i was just saying that.. they doing a lot of talking.. where are the parents..

  • Please Stop The Madness

    So fill out the paperwork for every single student that has a gripe about anything big or small? That is not how school or the real world that school prepares you for works.

  • Justlooknout

    this is some straight BS, her and parents need counseling.

    I can't decide Hey I don't like my work environment and login downstairs at the other company.


  • Phillybruh

    Public School doesn't prepare you for the real world hence the reason they refuse to deal with the issues. She discussed it with family and they decided this was best for now. Fill out the paperwork and keep it moving. Don't have my kid signing no agreements without me present or reading. And yes fill out the paperwork to avoid potentially messy situations.

  • Kanyade

    BS. You can't be flip-flopping on a whim when lawmaking is concerned. You (young flip-flopper) and your feelings (about what your grandparents will think) shouldn't even factor into the equation. Maybe the school said it would take time to process the change for this exact reason.

  • Phyllis

    Ain't nobody got time to figure out what gender you want to be guh... Go sit down somewhere and get your books!!!

  • Renay Peters

    FOH...So everybody else must deal with this B.S.

  • Please Stop The Madness

    School doesnt prepare you for this reality according to blog logic below @Jussy.

  • Please Stop The Madness

    Public school dont teach you real world anything? Well okay.

  • SandraRose

    This is why the media doesn't focus on lesbians who want to act like men. You don't see any lesbians trans in the media, only Bruce Jenner, Laverne Cox, etc.

  • Soda

    Be who you want to be but don't expect me to relearn everything I learned in school & life to appease you. On the show Billions there's a character who tells her new coworkers that her pronouns are "they, theirs, and them.’” So now you're plural? I will not.

  • Phillybruh

    My kids don't go to public school and I can tell what they are learning is vastly different than what some of the kids I know of in Public Schools.

  • stav

    "STOP PLAYING " You have a vagina , and that's all to it GIRL!


    Mannnnn, that's the problem in a nutshell - these folks see all this attention & extra coddling BS these LMNOP/transmofos get on TV and expect that mess in real life. They all need to get the fugg on. Folks out here dealing with real world issues, not manufactured crises like whether or not you are Miss, Mister or a Mixture today. GTFOH.

  • Vicki White

    I would have to pray so hard cause it like "girl get the helllllllllll out this office and get an? a on a pop quiz".She'll be liking boys again once one direction come out with something new.

  • imright

    thats right pick a side and stay there ??

  • RedBottomKittenHeels

    I couldn't be her counselor because I'd tell her to get the smooth fcuk out of my office and have a good day. Nobody has time to cater to her while she figures herself out..sorry.


    SMH while sayin this type of fukery really needs to stop! One day U wanna be a boy bcuz U don't wanna be a girl then U wake up again and decide to be a girl again and the school suppose to accommodate you bcuz of what again??? This chick I mean boy/girl really needs a doctor I mean a reality check bcuz if she’s complicating her life bcuz of a gender role she wants to dip in and out of then this baby girl is completely lost and I feel sorry for her future.

  • Justlooknout


    But Brucy and Lonnie made the swtich and they were grown ass men who still look like MEN.

  • Mbailey

    DON'T do drugs folks. Stay away from synthetic drugs and opioids.

  • Renee26

    naw helfa be loud and proud! You want them to bend the rules etc to adjust to your decisions learn to stick with them IJS

  • Justlooknout

    This is not about drugs, I wish I had some reading this BULL CRAP. Folks wanna do what's convenient for them at that moment. This is why it's some many dysfunctional folks in the work place and in the world. Damn shame.

  • Gigi

    Nobody has time to keep track of and make arrangements for other people's confusion.

  • Quitedeliteful

    Sigh... Kids and the dumb stuff they do...

  • Quitedeliteful

    Now that's what you call mean muggin!!! LOLLOLLOL!!!

  • Quitedeliteful

    So she doesn't want her grandparents to know... What is she gonna do - wait until they croak to become a 'man'???

  • Soda

    Pretending to be a boy at school but shows up and gram's and grampy's house on holidays wearing a dress with ribbons & bows in her hair. She must not have that one aunt that gets tore up & starts telling everybody's dirt before dessert is served.

  • BlahBlahBlah

    exactly, cuz try to flip flop at work, somedays i wanna work, other days i dont. play unemployed.

  • Anunnaki

    If they would have left this chyt as a mental illness, alot of this bullying and suicide would not be so much. America You gonna pay for your Fckry, we may all Die in the End, But your time is near

  • Harley

    mental illness is a disease. get this child help and stop PLAYING ALONG!

  • Harley

    or mental illness

  • SandraRose

    The trans agenda is beginning to phase out. The media is ignoring these stories now. If Obama was still in office this story would be headline news everywhere.

  • VanillaCaramel2shotsExpresso
  • MrTomalu .

    Well you wouldn't have a job any more.

  • OP2

    Another example of this gender thing proven to be a condition where folks can 'decide' whether it's time to flop and then flip back again whenever.

    Not too long ago, liberals were pushing that this is just who they are. Yet, she can call herself a boy and then decided at the drop of a dime to be a girl again "just because" her relative is now attending school.

    I can only imagine what she is putting that school through with the inconsistencies.

    Cousin will find out because kids will gossip and perhaps show a yearbook or other pics of her to being under a different name. -the relatives will find out.

  • NYTimes#1Bestseller

    Anyone under the age of 18 should NOT be allowed to decide what gender they want to be. Pecker = boy, vagina= girl. Now if you're an adult paying your own bills, then do you. I really dont understand the whole transgender thing anyway. Why not just be gay and call it a day. Oh and their bathrooms should have ? marks on them. I dont wanna use the restroom with Madea, thats scary.

  • BRuhman_Vista

    Interesting take Sandra. It appears to me just the opposite, as more and more challenges to bathroom restrictions are making the news each day. I find less than coincidental that the majority of these cases are involving children. Kind of sets up anyone in opposition as unsympathetic towards the needs of children and a bigot. ?

  • Ms.Devereaux

    See when you open up them flood gates

  • OP2

    Removing it as a mental illness serves a few purposes. For one, this is about not increasing the SSI/Disability payouts for mental illness which means to simply normalize the behavior.

    Otherwise, imagine what the current change in the x-uality culture or behavior would mean to the struggling Social Security System. -unemployed minorities who are either hustling the street or club and have flipped or flopped will claim that form of mental illness. Well they can't have that!! lol

    Marketing such change in cultural and behavior in an effort to reduce the population would have also meant increasing the numbers of people on SSI getting benefit$ due claiming that as a mental illness. -especially the poor & misguide African Americans who are easily manipulated with street hype or marketing fads.

  • SandraRose

    The level of media attention that was paid to the trans issue has leveled off significantly since Obama left office. His administration was driving that foolishness.

  • OP2

    It has leveled off 'big time!!' -to the point more & more people are tuning out the manipulating adjectives meant to n to manipulate and guilt-trip people.

    The time will come when people will flip the script to call the same ones the names that they have called them: bigot; -phobia this or that, etc. with legitimate viewpoints, especially where equal views should be respected.

    Expect to hear hetero-phobia; xenophobes to Christianity and other people's family values or religious beliefs. -Ya think!??! Shouting such negative propaganda to market a one-side view or one-way street will come to a halt where people will agree to disagree.

  • OP2

    Deceit living is not really living at all. smh

  • SandraRose

    My guess is she got tired of using the bathroom in the nurse's office.

  • Real Name

    The school should not make any changes for these kids unless they went to the courts & made the change legally. If you didn't change your name legally you will still be called Tina I dont care how you dress. You can dress like boy all you want, you will not be aloud to use the male restroom. They can use a gender neutral restroom but the public schools dont have money to pay for that, they dont even have money for books let alone constructing new restrooms. This way if you want to play flip flop, since the parent support it so much, go back to court and change it back. I bet if they had to spend money to have these things in play they wouldn't be so gun ho on saying it's the child's decision.

  • Elodie St. J

    I agree. At home they can be the Tooth Fairy if they want, but at school you use the bathroom as the gender you were born as.

    I can understand when an intersexed student has this issue, but not someone born with productive male or female organs.

  • Ny MaGee

    “They should have just supported me in my decision either way,” she said.--> Oh, STFU.

  • Quitedeliteful


  • Chicagowise

    She needs to discover herself the same way did in the old days... in the privacy of her own room. Keep your freak flag at home.

  • SandraRose

    This is so common sense! But common sense flew right out the window when Obama was in office.

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  • Joi Calloway

    This is what happens to confused teenagers. This is the same reason that a girl is a girl and a boy is a boy. No matter what the doctors getting paid to mutilate you say!

  • Joi Calloway

    Nobody should be allowed to decide their gender. Their sexuality yes, but their gender no matter because it was already selected in utero!

  • BRuhman_Vista

    If the Texas legislature passes and Gov. Abbott signs the pending Texas Bathroom Bill, that media attention will quickly ramp back up. The guns of Hollywood, NCAA, Pro Sports orgs, liberal media, etc. will be turned on Texas like the Alamo part II. ?

  • NYTimes#1Bestseller


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  • NYTimes#1Bestseller

    Right because DNA doesn't lie.

  • dontgetblocked

    I'm starting to really believe transgenders have a mental issue. At first, I thought it was desire but now I believe they're mentally unbalanced. Brucette is proof of that.

  • dontgetblocked

    This is why more and more people choose to homeschool their children. Who wants their child exposed to this madness?

  • NeverSurprised

    Thank you!!

  • the guest

    Notice its mostly white kids with this forcing schools on these trans stuff at schools. See, white kids want to be whatever will get them the most at any given moment whether it be privilege, favoritism, popularity, or power.

  • the guest

    She's a little liar. Some straight girl that likes real boys didn't want her fake boy tail, so she went back to being a girl. I bet this was some personal flimflamming mess.

  • the guest

    especially the poor & misguide African Americans who are easily manipulated with street hype or marketing fads.

    Sad truth.

  • Tequila Mockingbird

    The student agreed to sign the contract but felt she should never have been put in that position. “They should have just supported me in my decision either way,” she said.

    "A student should feel safe to figure their identity out no matter how many times they change who they are.”

    Wuut?! This makes zero sense! I can't with
    these stories ??

  • Tequila Mockingbird

    Psychologists have even said 80% (don't quote me exactly on this number) or so of kids who feel they're the opposite gender grow out of it. It's usually just a phase.

  • Tequila Mockingbird

    Or born with xx or xy chromosomes...

  • KIm

    These transgender people are becoming a pain in the ass. Damn. Be whatever gender you want but stop making a scene and starting drama. Do like regular your bills, go to work/school, live your life and shut the hell up..

  • Tequila Mockingbird

    So she can't just be a lesbian? I love that the ending says she will remain female for the foreseeable future ? what was the point of all this? And couldn't other students just tell her relative? ?

  • NYTimes#1Bestseller

    Exactly. Just like kids experiment with homosexual acts sometimes. A lot of them grow outta that too.

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  • Tequila Mockingbird

    So entitled right? You should do this and that for me cuz that's what i want! ??

  • Tequila Mockingbird

    Why do they go so hard to be "accepted?" If being hetero was frowned upon (because that's wut i am) i wouldn't give not 1 f**k. I'd be like bish, don't look tf?! I was not put here to please ppl and for ppl to like and accept me!!


    They should make those nut cases wait until they are 18. I feel sorry for the kids in the school who just want an education but now they have to deal with other students B.S....

  • Mojo2

    No one with a lick of sense or backbone are at these schools. Why wast money on having a principle? The kids, barely out of diapers, are running the schools.

  • abby500

    Bish sit down

  • Lady_Elle

    such BS!!! disrupt an entire school... but God forbid if her Grandparents find out!
    A big azz can of worms.

  • Chaseboogie The Prince

    So she went back to being a girl when she realized she wasn't going to get any more attention for being different huh?

  • RedBottomKittenHeels

    Hence the reason why I said what I said.

  • sunni_daze

    I so sick of these mentally ill people thinking that the world needs to bend and adjust for their weird asses. Go see a doctor and get treatment.

  • Doink_Ahanahue

    "n his op-ed piece for The Wall Street Journal, Dr. Paul R. McHugh, the former psychiatrist-in-chief for Johns Hopkins Hospital, said sex change is “biologically impossible,” and that people who promote sexual reassignment surgery are collaborating with and promoting a mental disorder."
    WHY ARE WE EVEN DIGNIFYING THIS FOOLISHNESS??!!! This child just wants attention! They gave her what she wanted, now she switched. No one (but her parents) has time for this!!

  • Look@m3

    Right those grandparants would have her mom and dad head on a sphere. That's why this is happening ....the mom and dad don't want their parents to know...

  • Dowoop

    I agree with the contract. You want to confuse other people children with your nonsense but as soon as someone younger from your family is coming to the school it's "no i've changed my mind, im a girl again". It's one thing if you want to "figure yourself out" go ahead and do you but you asking for too much why you asking for people to accomodate you everytime you change your mind. Nothing against transgender people - to each his own but figure yourself out with yourself we dont care.

  • sherri2016

    Off topic my 15 year old daughter told me students started a rumor about her butt being fake it's not she gets it from her momma I joked and told her she should lift her skirt and tell them to kiss it but it's sad plastic surgery is so rampant that people would think a 15 year old would have it

  • Guess Who

    This is a girl, though, right? IDGAF about all that "I don't do labels", "I am a ___ trapped in a ___'s body" bullshyt. YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE. Hell folks get PISSED OFF at folks bleaching or tanning their skins trying to be something they ain't BUT it's cool to just up and decide you no longer want to be what gender you are simply because you feel like it? FOH

  • disqus_FW7pCIigCY

    Yawn.... Misery loves company

  • Zeta Phi Beta 1920

    The student agreed to sign the contract but felt she should never have been put in that position. “They should have just supported me in my decision either way,” she said.

    Selfish. This is a teachable moment where the student is taught that the world does not revolve around her immaturity and wanting to flip flop.

  • YellowSauce

    I agree with the school ... today i'm a boy the next day i'm a girl ... this only works for halloween ... THIS is why no one considers this real ... how can you take it off when the weather changes ... she needs to pick a team and play ... ever consider HOW this is affecting her classmates ... ITS A CIRCUS .... I'm home schooling my kids ... school age can mess a child up .. I tried to be open minded but this makes this situation a joke ... sorry NOT sorry

  • Leigh Burton

    I can imagine the parent conference. Geometry teacher-Your son, Joseph is doing well in my class. Mother-I have no son named Joseph! I have a daughter named, Tabitha! Geometry teacher-Joseph said last year his name was Tabitha, but he is a boy now! He only answers to Joseph! Mother- What???

  • PynkCloudz

    This really puts me at ease when of comes to employment in the next 10+ years. No need for an MBA, these wounded deer's won't be able to function in the real world.

  • ihatethesebitches

    Transgendered people are confused fucks.

  • Nicol B

    we are not judges! only God is!!

  • Nicol B

    i don't understand, but i have compassion.

  • Nicol B