Nothing kills a marriage faster than boredom. Rap mogul Jay Z, 43, and his wife Beyonce, 32, are vacationing in Italy, where Beyonce celebrated her birthday. Jay Z’s body language is unmistakable in the paparazzi photos that have been taken of the couple. His slumped shoulders and the disinterest on his face are unmistakable: Jay Z is bored in his marriage to Beyonce.
The problem is the lack of Dopamine required to infuse some spice into their marriage. In the early days of a relationships, our brains ooze Dopamine which increases the passionate intensity that we feel for our partner. But those intense feelings don’t last. And once the Dopamine is gone that’s usually when the problems begin.
Most husbands try to restore the intensity in their marriage by pursuing a new source of Dopamine outside of their marriage. But cheating is very risky — and getting caught usually ends in a nasty divorce.
According to Whatdivorcetaught.com, love researchers believe that long-married couples can rekindle the flames with regular injections of novelty and excitement.
Experts suggest that middle aged couples like Beyonce and Jay Z do “exciting” things together such as horse back riding, skiing, hiking, and going dancing together.
The advice is based in brain science. New experiences activate the brain’s reward system, flooding it with the brain chemicals dopamine and norepinephrine. These are the same brain circuits that are ignited in early romantic love, a time of exhilaration and obsessive thoughts about a new partner. And several experiments show that novelty—simply doing new things together as a couple—may help bring the butterflies back, re-creating the chemical surges of early courtship.
Still, even with the experts’ suggestions, some couples are able to maintain romantic intensity while other couples go their separate ways. This is what might eventually happen to Beyonce and Jay Z.
