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A TikTok therapist who pleaded with Black men to seek therapy was let go from her job.

The therapist, Shabree Rawls, went viral after posting a TikTok video urging Black men to seek therapy and expand their "emotional vocabulary."

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In the video, Rawls uses tough love to urge Black men to seek help. Rawls specifically spoke to young Black men who were raised in single parent households.

Rawls told The Atlanta Journal-Constitution she had no idea her video would cost her her job.

"I cannot fake it to you, I've sobbed about this," she told the AJC. "It hurt a lot ... it seemed like a lot of decisions were made at my expense and that happens to a lot of black women."

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Rawls' video was in response to an article published on Psychology Today's website titled "The Rise of Lonely, Single Men."

"My intention was ... just go to therapy. There's no hidden agenda or ulterior motive," she said.

Rawls wasn't prepared for the backlash, which mostly came from Black men. Rawls said about 90% of her patients are Black males.

"For my first love, which is the black man, to attack me - it just felt like I experienced whiplash from both sides. As a black woman, I hold them close to my heart. It's who we are. To be attacked by black men hurt even worse. I've dedicated my life to healing our community, but at the same time I'm being attacked by the same faces."

Rawls is searching for another job. In the meantime, she is launching a podcast to reach a wider audience of Black men.

"A podcast is coming," she told the AJC. "I realize that maybe I'm not supposed to heal just one-on-one, I'm supposed to heal to a bigger crowd."

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Alicia Silverstone made headlines last week when she revealed she still sleeps with her 11-year-old son Bear Blu Jarecki.

"Bear and I still sleep together," Silverstone said on the Ellen Fisher Podcast on July 19, 2022. "I don't really care," she replied about the wave of criticism she faces.

Silverstone, 45, shares Bear with ex-husband Christopher Jarecki.

The single mom has been open about her unorthodox relationship with her son.

Dr. Sam Vankin, author of the best-selling book Malignant Self Love: Narcissism revisited, says mothers are responsible for raising narcissistic children.

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Dr. Vankin is an expert on narcissism because he is a narcissist himself.

He says narcissists emotionally abuse and discard others to get back at their own mother who discarded them.

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Vaknin says narcissism is usually rooted in mother issues stemming back to childhood.

"This could mean anything from a mother who can't let go of the child, idolizes them or neglects them," he said.

"This could be in the form of making the child act like a parent, or not allowing them to detach naturally from them as children should," he explained.

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"They can idolize or use the child to fulfill their own needs, when the child becomes an extension of the parent and they aren't allowed to become an individual."

Dr. Vaknin says the narcissistic child grows up resentful by the fact that they are invisible to their own mother who lives vicariously through them.

"This creates rage, depression and grief in the child," Vaknin says. "The child grieves that they are not seen by a selfish or depressed parent and they feel consumed and smothered."

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He continues: "So then when someone with (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) ventures out into the world, they are grandiose, like a toddler, but with none of the coping mechanisms to go with it. It's like a two-year-old with a gun."

Vaknin said the narcissist avoids emotional relationships because your emotions make them feel weak.

"When seeking an intimate partner they seek to detach from the mother figure, hence the idealize, devalue, discard phases often seen."

Dr. Vaknin explained why narcissists abuse and discard you - because you will never be as perfect as the mother who discarded them.

"The mother is ideal, so he idealizes you in the same way. You are an empty shape, to be turned into the mother. He needs to grow up to be with a partner, be an adult."

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"They need to complete this uncompleted process but he can't do it with the real mother - so he converts his partner into a mother, so he can replay the unfinished business."

"He or she needs to degrade the partner in order to detach from the mother, so the narcissist then goes on to destroy you."

Dr. Vaknin explained that daddy issues also exist, but only the mother can raise a narcissist.

"I keep saying mother and not father. Father issues also exist and they exist with men and women - but becoming an individual, this is to do with the mother."

He added: "[Narcissists] have to break you down and detach from the mother, by discarding you."

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May-December relationships are increasing in popularity due to the problems single people face finding partners their own age.

Economic factors also come into play. According to Psychology Today, young people seek older adults for their wisdom, maturity, financial stability and comfortable lifestyle.

Older people seek out younger partners for companionship and to feel youthful during their twilight years.

The months May and December symbolize the changing seasons, with spring representing youth and winter representing old age.

Experts say May-December relationships are doomed to failure as the initial chemistry phase fades away and reality sets in.

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Former WNBA player Tamera "Ty" Young (left) confirmed she is "single" after splitting from ex-fiancee Mimi Faust, 50.

Their second breakup occurred after viral video showed Young, 35, cuddling with former Connecticut Sun teammate DiJornai Carrington, 24, in Los Angeles.

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Billionaire Robert Kraft, 80, and fun-loving 48-year-old doctor Dana Blumberg are set to wed after dating for three years.

Blumberg's father is thrilled that his daughter is engaged to a billionaire NFL team owner.

"He treats her like a princess and I'm just very happy they've found each other," Blumberg's father, Nathan Blumberg, 87, told DailyMail.com.

R&B singer Marques Houston, 40, and his much younger girlfriend Miya, 21, welcomed their first child last year. They started dating when Miya was a teenager.

According to a recent study on AARP.org, May-December romances start off blissfully at first, but they fail at higher rates than same-age relationships.

Statistics show May-December marriages fail at a higher rate when the age gap is older than 10 years.

"The people who are married to a much older or younger spouse tend to have larger declines in marital satisfaction over time as compared with those who are married to spouses who are similar in age," according to the HILDA study.

"The larger the age gap between you and your partner, the more likely your marriage will end in divorce," says Randy Olson, senior data scientist at the University of Pennsylvania. "Only being one to five years away from your partner is nothing to worry about, but if you're old enough to be your partner's parent, then your marriage might be in trouble."

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Families across America spent Thanksgiving with their loved ones. But for others grieving the loss of a loved one, the holidays can be overwhelming.

Coping with grief and depression is a bigger challenge during the holidays.

"If you've lost a loved one to COVID-19, you're adjusting to a new way of life without that person," Cassandra Godzik, associate dean and professor at the School of Nursing at Regis College, tells Health. "And the holiday season, which tends to be centered around our loved ones, will likely remind you of that loss."

Godzik is a mental health nurse practitioner whose specialty is helping people cope with experiencing loss, grief, and bereavement.

"Even if you haven't lost someone to COVID-19, all of our lives have been impacted in some way by the pandemic — whether you lost a job, took a pay cut, or you've had to compromise on your previous way of life in some way," Godzik explains. "It's all loss, which can feel especially difficult right now."

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"We're conditioned to believe this season should be happy, cozy, and joyful," Merryl Rothaus, LPC, a licensed professional counselor, tells Health. "So if we're not feeling these things, we tend to think, There must be something wrong with me. And that tends to make grief feel even stronger."

"In general, humans don't like change," Jill Dawson, LPC, a licensed professional counselor, tells Health. "In fact, most of us work really hard to avoid it because of all of the uncertainty that accompanies it. When someone dies, we're thrust into needing to change—and that process is really uncomfortable."

Dawson, whose mom died six months ago from ALS, will spend her first holidays without her. "Right now, my grief feels non-stop with little bouts of reprieve," she says. "I'm already feeling under-resourced, and I know this first Christmas and New Year's without my mom will force me to really feel into the pain of that loss."

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People who have not experienced a death in the family may still feel a sense of loss during the holiday. Not everyone is on good terms with family members.

The lack of communication or bad blood between family members can hit especially hard during the holiday.

"The holidays tend to shine a spotlight onto everything you don't have," Gina Moffa, LCSW, a New York City-based licensed clinical social worker, tells Health.

"Not everyone is on good terms with their family or there will be someone missing this year. COVID-19 came without warning and changed everything at once, and we're still dealing with the trauma of that. Add to all of this the societal pressure that the holidays be 'perfect,' and it's a recipe for misery."

There's no easy way to get through grief during the holiday. Mental health workers suggest giving yourself permission to cancel the holidays and make space for your grief.

"Meeting your pain rather than trying to extinguish it isn't easy, but it is the way through it," says Rothaus.

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Support others who are grieving. Order a pizza and watch old movies together.

Dawson suggests connecting with people who love you.

"Reach out to a family member or a friend, not necessarily to talk about your grief but to simply be with other people. Lean on the support of a church community or therapist. Spending time with people who love and support you can feel like a healing balm that bolsters you through the holiday season and beyond."

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Is your mom kinder to her grandchild than she was with you? A new study says you're not imagining things.

Retired pop singer Beyonce (left) recalls the day her mom, Tina Lawson slapped the taste out of her mouth for ignoring her in a store.

"I was about 15 and the song was playing on the radio and I'm like 'Yeah!' and these guys were looking like 'Ooooh that's Beyoncé' and I thought I was hot. And she smacked the crap outta me in that store."

Tina said, "I don't care what song you have on the radio - you are my child. You do not disrespect me."

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Tina is considerably kinder to her granddaughter, Blue Ivy, than she was with Beyonce.

According to a new study, biology is the main reason your mom is kinder and more patient with her grandchild than she was with you.

The research was conducted by author James Rilling, a professor of anthropology and professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Emory University in Atlanta.

Rilling discovered grandmothers showed significant neurological changes when they underwent brain scans with functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI).

50 grandmothers participated in the study. They were shown pictures of their grandkids, their adult children, and a stranger.

When shown photos of their grandchildren, grandmothers had measurable brain activity and changes in blood flow when shown photos of their grandkids.

The pupils in their eyes also changed size when they saw a photo of their grandchild.

Their brain scans showed more cognitive empathy when looking at photos of their own child.

However, when looking at a grandchild, they showed stronger emotional empathy than they did with their own children.
 

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London-based psychotherapist Stina Sanders explains the four stages of the Narcissistic Abuse Cycle.

Sanders, who is also a lifestyle blogger, recently had her own "dream relationship" that turned into a nightmare when her partner became abusive towards her.

Sanders appeared on This Morning to explain the stages of the Narcissistic Abuse Cycle.

Stage 1: Idolization

"So the first stage is the idolization stage, that's when they love bomb you, they put you on a pedestal, you feel amazing. You essentially fall in love very quickly, you're lured into a false sense of security."

Stage 2: Devalue

"Once they have you, that then moves on to the devalue stage, which is where the belittling, the gaslighting, the emotional, the verbal and sometimes the physical abuse will start to happen. They chip away at yourself, you become a shell of your former self."

Stage 3: Discard

"Then the third stage is the discard stage. Once they're done with you and found someone else to manipulate they then leave you, feeling very upset and very confused.

Stage 4: Hoover

"And the last stage is the hoover stage. Doesn't always happen, but this is when the abuser comes back for more. They hoover you, they see if they can still manipulate you and essentially they do that to stop you from moving on."

Sanders also said gaslighting is a "manipulation tactic" that "abusers use to basically get you to doubt yourself".

Narcissists are constantly on the lookout for more victims. If you don't present yourself as a victim you will not be an easy target for a narcissist.

Watch the video below.
 

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Father's Day is this Sunday, June 20, a time for children to show their dads how much they love and appreciate them.

While the holiday pales in comparison to Mother's Day, experts say fathers are more important to a child's development than mothers.

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Radio host Steve Harvey, a father of four, said this about Father's Day: "Father's Day dwarfs in comparison to Mother's Day. It's actually embarrassing. Ain't no restaurants sold out..."

And radio personality Ryan Cameron, a father of three, said Father's Day is the most disrespected holiday - and he's tired of the disrespect.

If you are a successful businesswoman, your father probably had a lot to with the direction you've taken in life.

According to childcare experts, there are many factors that influence a young girl’s future, and a good dad is the key to success

Research has shown a strong father-daughter bond may play an important role in the kind of woman a little girl grows up to be.

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Girls who had hands-on fathers during their early stages of development grew up to be healthier physically, were less likely to be depressed, and were less likely to become pregnant during their high school or college years.

[Read: Abandonment issues: how it affects your relationship]

More than 1 in 4 children in America live in a fatherless home. 3 out of 4 children are raised in single mother households in the Black community.

But there is good news.

A recent study shows dads are spending more time with their children today than they did two generations ago.

A father's love is key to the way daughters view relationships with other men. If a father isn't there during a daughter's formative years, his absence can cause drama in her life later on.

[READ: The 11 types of girls you need to avoid at all costs]

Happy Father's Day!
 

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Ayesha Curry is slowly transitioning her husband Stephen Curry into the man of her dreams.

"She's tired of Steph being the nice guy... She's trying to bring out the gangsta in Steph Curry before she cheats on him," said Young Men's Daily Red Pill.

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Similarly, Ciara Wilson chased thugs most of her adult life before she finally settled on nice guy, Russell Wilson.

Not content to just be the wife of the NFL's richest quarterback, Ciara is trying to change him into the man she really wants between her sheets.

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Dr. Wendy Walsh explains that women like Ayesha and Ciara love emotionally unavailable men for a number of reasons.

One reason is because they were abused by a trusted male role model when they were younger.

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Dr. Walsh says these women have an Anxious Attachment Disorder. One third of all American women suffered some form of child abuse, and that abuse often came at the hands of someone they loved.

Walsh explains they only know inconsistent behavior from their men. So they seek out emotionally unavailable men "because they're hoping to make daddy love them this time."

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"They're actually more attracted to the guy who is less caregiving," says Dr. Walsh.

Even when women have an attentive, loving, giving man - they still lust after thugs.

Dr. Walsh explains that some women are simply insecure and they confuse a man's swagger and emotional unavailability with self-confidence.

"He's aloof, he's cool. I'm going to be the one to change him. I'm going to be the on to make the bad love me, because then I'll be able to love myself better."

Dr. Walsh says if you learn to love yourself first, you'll realize that bad boys are the one thing you definitely don't need.

Check out Dr. Walsh's video below.
 

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Most women are attracted to men who are macho or masculine in appearance and behavior. But certain women prefer men who are more feminine.

According to Psychology Today, macho men have exaggerated masculine traits that women find valuable. They also think macho men are more virile and make good biological fathers.

Women who prefer feminine men usually have a past history that includes physical abuse or rape. Such women consider feminine men to be more sensitive, gentler and kinder than masculine men.

"In some circumstances, masculine qualities are more valuable. In others, a more feminine partner might be the better choice. The results of 15 years of research consistently show that women prefer masculine men more for a short-term fling than for marriage, perhaps because macho men are generally less committed."

A research study by Glasgow University's Iris Holzleitner tested 500 women who rated the attractiveness of a set of male faces that had been manipulated to appear more feminine or more masculine.

Holzleitner found that, generally, women most preferred male faces that were moderately masculine.

Women also differed in their preferences according to their own attractiveness: Women who thought they were highly attractive didn't find feminine male faces very attractive at all.

Women who thought of themselves as less attractive were more attracted to men with feminine features, according to Holzleitner.

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Socialite Kim Porter sent her 12-year-old twins, Jessie and D’Lila, off to middle school wearing the exact same wardrobe.

An Instagram.com photo she posted of the twins wearing grey cropped hoodies and blue plaid skirts prompted the question: at what age is it appropriate for twins to stop dressing alike?

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First, the statistics: The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention just released startling new data on the HIV/AIDS epidemic that is sweeping the black community.

The data released by the Atlanta-based CDC shows that the south has the highest number of black people living with HIV, according to CBS46.

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Most babies are born innocent, and through socialization with other children they learn to share and be loving and compassionate human beings.

Then there are the children who, through no fault of their own, are spoiled rotten because one or both parents lack self-esteem and they tend to live vicariously through their children to inflate their own egos.

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