fanMAIL: Little Jayson Gives Us All Hope
Loyal reader Marteeta C. sent in this video of her adorable 3-year-old son, Jayson, after watching this disgraceful video of a child being videotaped “riding it” to Ciara’s song.
Jayson gives us all inspiration, and gives me hope that all is not lost in our community as long as we have parents like Marteeta who instills values and importance of education in our children!
Hi Sandra,
Just watched that video of that little girl and I weep for my people! We should be educating our youth not destroying them with all of the graphic sexual images on TV, videos, video games etc.
This is my son, Jayson in the attached video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=atM9T0YOvy4
he was 3 years old in the video and he better not ever bring a little “heffa” like that to our home. My husband and I believe in training our children to be assets to this society and not liabilities.Have a great day Sandra!
Sincerely,
MarteetaPS(I know that the word is heifer…I can spell and I happen to be a college grad)
Another reader emailed me to say she knows the father — yes, the father — who videotaped his daughter performing sexually suggestive dance moves. Apparently the child’s mother is in prison.
I urged the reader to call her local child welfare authorities to report the father for uploading that video to the Internet and exploiting a minor child.
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Tooo adorable and yes this is real parenting-
Ummm if the father did that and the mother is in prison could it be that the father may also be molesting this lil girl – LHM!
that is so cute…..
Our community has alot of “Jayson’s” and his parents. But instead of recognizing them and their efforts, we focus on those who aren’t doing right. Every Black person isn’t a walking sterotype.
damn.. she had 2 call the baby twerker a “heffa” tho lmao
I hate that I cannot see any videos while at work.
Jayson is just precious…..I wouldnt want that fast azz heffa around my son either.
Jayson is way too cute! Awwwww….
His_Mommy623 says:
damn.. she had 2 call the baby twerker a “heffa” tho lmao
HIS…
you are toooo cute
That’s too precious
@Cinderella says:
Our community has alot of “Jayson’s” and his parents. But instead of recognizing them and their efforts, we focus on those who aren’t doing right. Every Black person isn’t a walking sterotype.
Wait none of yall read that the lil girl dancing was being videotaped by her dad- THOUGHTS???
I read something the other day that said 47% of African american males graduate from High school…
Where does this info come from?
They went WAYYYYYYY DOWN INTO THE depths of Fulton and clayton county to get those statistics.
KKKKKIIIIIIDDDDDDDDDIIIINNNNNNGGGGGG….
Cinderella says:
Our community has a lot of “Jayson’s” and his parents. But instead of recognizing them and their efforts, we focus on those who aren’t doing right. Every Black person isn’t a walking stereotype.
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Co-sign 100%. There are a lot of kids just like Jayson but nobody ever wants to recognize them. People, including blacks, focus too much on the negative instead of the positive when it comes to our people. You are exactly right: Not every black person is a stereotype. But, until people start uplifting our young people and praising them for doing well, as opposed to shining so much light of the ones that aren’t, we will continue to be seen as nothing more than a stereotype. Not all of our young men and women are thugs and hoochie momma’s.
Awwhh that was tooooo cute, he’s a cutie!
@Cinderella!!
@Cha Cha why thank youuuuu
Our community has alot of “Jayson’s” and his parents. But instead of recognizing them and their efforts, we focus on those who aren’t doing right. Every Black person isn’t a walking sterotype.
When I talked trash about summer camps only involving sports like football and basketball, Sandra said I was being ungrateful.
I will also say that it is not right for a grown woman to call a little girl a ‘heffa.’ She is a child being taught by her parent that this kind of behavior is okay and appropriate. Children aren’t born knowing anything; you have to teach them and show them the right way to go. This poor child obviously doesn’t have anyone to do that. It is the parent’s fault. People are always so quick to tear down children for the way they act and go on and on about how out of control they are. Well, every child is a direct result of who raised them and the environment they were raised in. This girl’s future is not looking too good. Will anybody be surprised if she ends of pregnant before graduating HS? And, her dad will walk around piss and blaming everybody–but himself–for her promiscuous behavior. This mess is taught from a very young age.
@DIVINE
“I read something the other day that said 47% of African american males graduate from High school…”
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…and 46% of African Amercian males playing some sort of high school sport.
Well calling the little girl who dancing a heffa isn’t good either. She is a child and doing what her parents allow.
The dropout rate for young black men is heartbreaking
I still support and work w/our youth though I will not give up
I will also say that it is not right for a grown woman to call a little girl a ‘heffa.’
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I agree it sort’ve makes the mother seem a lil ignorant herself…
Oh yeah, she didnt have no business calling that little girl a heifer.
His talent is memorization; her’s is dancing.
As long as children have parents to push them to do well and give them the drive to be successful they’ll be fine.
I applaud kids that make it out of bad situations (like no parental guidance) more because you don’t expect them to do well.
(I know that the word is heifer…I can spell and I happen to be a college grad)
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The IRONY smh
As long as children have parents to push them to do well and give them the drive to be successful they’ll be fine.
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Basically nuff said!
Choco says:
I agree it sort’ve makes the mother seem a lil ignorant herself…
You betta duck Choco.. Sandra said the boys mother was a LOYAL READER
Hello all. Gone Jayson with yo smart little self! Positive stories like this inspire me ’cause OUR CHILDREN ARE OUR FUTURE!
I applaud kids that make it out of bad situations (like no parental guidance) more because you don’t expect them to do well”
Exactly @Civil. She wants kudos but umm yeah thats what little man is suppossed to be doing. SMH.
Man, I just don’t care™ says:
@DIVINE
“I read something the other day that said 47% of African american males graduate from High school…”
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…and 46% of African Amercian males playing some sort of high school sport.
That’s what a lot of parents push in the black community, usually not for their own benefit
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@choco that father really needs to go to jail, what else is he doing to that little girl is what I want to know…
Well said @OTB
MAN SAYS
and 46% of African Amercian males playing some sort of high school sport.
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That is such a sore subject with me. It’s a damn shame that ACADEMIA DOES not hold the same weight as having atheletic inclination in the household these days.
I’m almost afraid to have kids.
You betta duck Choco.. Sandra said the boys mother was a LOYAL READER
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Girl you know my crazy azz don’t run from nathan-What I said is true…
@My2Cents exactly I don’t trust no man looking at lil girl like that
There are other camps outside of sports they just aren’t highlighted as much
If u want your child in a science/math camp or whatever then they are out there as well.
Just because you have bad parents DOES NOT mean the child will go in a bad direction. My brother, sister and I were all raised in the same house. Great parents, nice schools, and everything. They all out in the streets doing who knows what and I’m the only “good child”. Just because you were raised in a bad parenting home does not mean you will grow up that way.
hey civil, with ur yummy self!!
I dnt think (as I stated earlier) that the “loyal reader” should have called baby twerker a heffa…but when u upload bullchit like that on the net, expect it….now on the flipside, said reader should know better..
Furthermore I don’t understand any parent posting their child on the internet for all to see who don’t even know them personally I’m too damn paranoid for that
“It’s a damn shame that ACADEMIA DOES not hold the same weight as having atheletic inclination in the household these days. ”
#THIS!!!!!
My family is damn near not speaking to me right now because I said my sons couldnt play “football” with the little leagues (football is Godly in the south) until middle school.
Me: “Football will be there, son. Lets take advantage of this chit you will start to rebel on once you start smelling yourself…” *as I pack his ass up for chess camp!*
Civil says:
I applaud kids that make it out of bad situations (like no parental guidance) more because you don’t expect them to do well.
I
that statement. They are the true success stories
As long as children have parents to push them to do well and give them the drive to be successful they’ll be fine.
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I would have to disagree. I have friends that were pushed to do well as well as my brother and sister and they are on the path to nowhere. It has to do with the child and where they want there life to go.
Yes @Daisy I am well aware of that.
MY POINT was SR advertised the football camp and I asked why the celebs never offered other camps…and SR said I was being ungrateful.
I can pay for my childrens camps which is why they have access. Lots of moms cannot. That is the point.
Well thank GOD and I appreciate the blessing my son is both academically and athletically talented-his father had him in football at age 6 but I had my son doing his studies with me at age 3
OTB says:
Me: “Football will be there, son. Lets take advantage of this chit you will start to rebel on once you start smelling yourself…” *as I pack his ass up for chess camp!*
The parent of the apparent “good” child called a three year old a “heffa?”
OTB…PEOPLE ARE FOOORRRREEVVVERRR telling someone how to raise their children. CHESS CAMP….Get in there, boy! lmao! I hear that! I do not blame you one stinkin bit!!
Yes @Bama. I dont play Chess but he loves it.
So when the choice was Chess or Football, I had to use the veto power.
@CIVIL
“I read something the other day that said 47% of African american males graduate from High school…”
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…and 46% of African Amercian males playing some sort of high school sport.
That’s what a lot of parents push in the black community, usually not for their own benefit
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“Boy, put down that dayum math book and get out there and work on that jumper or touchdown throw or something!!”-Lebron James Mother
The parent of the apparent “good” child called a three year old a “heffa?”
@Divine my son is weird honey and I think his father might be a tad upset that he is more into computer programming then “pretty boy swagging” and chit.
@Divine…I was a student-athlete, I’m doing pretty well so it’s ok for kids to play sports as long as their good in school too.
And that’s 2.5 and above good!
**sidenote: I coach two youth football teams :/ **
sidenote: I coach two youth football teams
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So intrigued by this now do you have compassion for the youth or are you just getting your rocks by yelling and screaming
WELL good thing my crazy child wants 2 be a marine biologist!! he has bad sportsmanship
@OTB, you know they worship football down in these parts!!!! And I applaud you for not throwing your boys in it just “because” – On the other hand, I WISH my baby boy wanted to play football
He doesnt wanna do sh.it. He wanted to do karate, but now he doesnt even wanna do that.
Choco says:
Furthermore I don’t understand any parent posting their child on the internet for all to see who don’t even know them personally I’m too damn paranoid for that
I dont even think its cool to put your kids up on your gravi but thats my single opinion.
#cantcontroltheworldonlymyactions
I PLAYED on a Mighty Mites team @Man
And I have two nephews that play now.
Mama was horrified that I didnt want to cheer.
@OTB I feel you but I dont think sports camps have to be knocked or looked down on either (that is the way you came off to me although that may not have been your intent). Sports have saved many a black man. I am for ALL camps that keep kids OFF the streets and in SCHOOL
@DB I agree that is why I am team raise your own kids lol
@CHOCO
“sidenote: I coach two youth football teams
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So intrigued by this now do you have compassion for the youth or are you just getting your rocks by yelling and screaming ”
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As long as we win, I have “compassion” for them. :/
I know, I know…
On the sports topic: My son decided he didn’t want to play football this year. I’m good with his decsion and my Friday nights will be free. His dad…. not so much. He had the nerve to tell him he wouldn’t be able to go to college unless he plays. WTF he has the grades and a college fund and OLAP (program that pay %100 of tution @ any OK state school). I get so mad when ppl act like the only way for black males to go to college is thru sports.
I agree you can have good/great/FAB parents and still turn out a hot janky mess for whatever reason. Not always the parents fault.
I dont even think its cool to put your kids up on your gravi but thats my single opinion.
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Girl Im so paranoid I don’t even like my own picture up so you know my children’s pic ain’t going up – Nowadays I’d rather be paranoid than not crazy mofos running around
I think his father might be a tad upset that he is more into computer programming then “pretty boy swagging” and chit.
That reminds me of the boyfriend. Steady tryin to turn my son into a “boxer” but lil man has NO intrest at all
Poor guy! He needs his own protege, but even then, it doesnt mean they will like what he likes. And thats what I try to explain.
Flo maybe he doesnt want to do sports chit. Teach him a new language…they are plenty of things he can get involved in or let him veg out. He still little. The boy I’m speaking on is 9 but my 6yo is only interested in Avatars and Kneks . No sports for him either.
@NIKA
“On the sports topic: My son decided he didn’t want to play football this year. I’m good with his decsion and my Friday nights will be free. His dad…. not so much. He had the nerve to tell him he wouldn’t be able to go to college unless he plays. WTF he has the grades and a college fund and OLAP (program that pay %100 of tution @ any OK state school). I get so mad when ppl act like the only way for black males to go to college is thru sports.”
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The dads are the funniest, and saddest, part of coaching. We had an event for the team at a school, and the teachers remarked they had NEVA seen the Dads before, but they never miss a practice. :/
Hey His!!!
@Jerrie…they miight suffer from a mental illness then
kidding but there are exceptions to every rule
And shooo I wish I would have started track earlier, LSU would be paying me instead of me paying Sallie
As long as we win, I have “compassion” for them.
I know, I know…
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I know you too damn well smh
Man, I just don’t care™ says:
**sidenote: I coach two youth football teams
Im thankful my son has is a beast at sports, he will worry me to death if I dont keep him active. This boy goes hard he has to have two different colored under armer sleeves, gloves, socks, sweat bands, A LOT and he is only in Pop Warner Jr Pee Wee.
#hepreparingforhisfuturecareer
#heneedadamnjob
#committedsportparent
@Bama
My lil man enjoys anything like that! I would say your two year old would def. enjoy the experience. Only thing I hate about that is I think the parents ticket should be free. I mean, we’re just accompaning the kids, its not like WE want to see the show
I can’t see the video since I’m at work but by your comments he sounds like a smart kid. Now the only thing I dont agree with is the mother calling the little girl a “heffa”…Now I’ve called a little girl a heffa myself but she was well within a reasonable age range (15 or 16) in which she knew that her behavior and antics where completely and utterly out of order lol…The girl in the previous tape is obviously influenced by her surroundings. I think its important that kids are well rounded in both academics and sports. Academics ALWAYS come first but heck if I have a kid one day and they are excelling in sports I’m not gonna say cool off on that. They better have their homework done before they go to practice tho
. I say that because I’m a health nut and I was at the Y and this little boy (no more than 8 or 9) was waddleing around and could barely breath much less walk, poor thing had to bave been at least 200 lbs and sure enough here come his momma righ behind him weighing in at about 340!
Oh okay @Daisy. I didnt look down on them though cause i do know a couple of ninjas who arent good at anything besides throwing a ball, but I guess they are that whay because they were never intro’d to anything else.
A friend of a friend had a baby shower recently, and it was decked out with football chit, orange and blue, and the cake said “raise ‘em right”
:/
I dont think the Black community would suffer one bit if we banned the sports/music/dance camps. We’d actualy have to find other chit to be good at.
Some of yall need to put yall sons on something masculine (football, basketball, boxing, SOMETHING) whether they want to or not.
I swear, some of these boys on the team are being raised to be perfect ladies. SMH.
NOW THATS WHAT IM TALKIN BOUT
@OTB, thats what I keep thinking. Maybe its cause he’s still young
All he wants to do is play on the computer and watch tv! But I keep him active so he gets exercise. He loves swimming. I told him he HAS to do something. I dont care if its playing the violin or the flute. BUT YOUR A$$ IS NOT COMING HOME EVERYDAY, EATING HONEY BUNS AND PLAYING ON THE COMPUTER 
@ TY’z
Thats how my nephew is. The boy is 6 years old and LIVES for football. And keeps up with all his sh.it so when its game day he’s ready. I wanted that for my son, but he’s not even having it.
Swimming then Flo! Michael Phelps anyone? ;lol:
@flo
i think ur son and my son know eachother! lmao
FloridaChick813 says:
Only thing I hate about that is I think the parents ticket should be free. I mean, we’re just accompaning the kids, its not like WE want to see the show
This lil girl make sure I pay attention though….be wanting me to sing the songs and chit. I find myself singing the dang songs when she is not watching it.
She is funny though when it comes to plays and movies. We took her to the movies to see Toy Story 3 and after 30 minutes she turned to me and said she was ready to go. I was soo happy because that movie was so boring to me.
You mean masculine AND sports related @Man?
@Man,
I actually agree with you on that. But I dont wanna force him to do something he doesnt want to do. But then again I think “how does he know he doesnt want to do it if he never tried?”
He said he’ll play soccer. So Im looking for the local soccer league to see when it starts up. Something is better than nothing. Right 
but he’s not even having it.
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Give him time and it’s good that you monitor his computer use he will find out what interest him in his own time…
@OTB
“You mean masculine AND sports related @Man?”
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Not necessarily, although it would be great if you could find it. I really liked the notion of chess camp.
I think competition is a really good and important thing.
Issa says:
I will also say that it is not right for a grown woman to call a little girl a ‘heffa.’ She is a child being taught by her parent that this kind of behavior is okay and appropriate. Children aren’t born knowing anything; you have to teach them and show them the right way to go. This poor child obviously doesn’t have anyone to do that. It is the parent’s fault. People are always so quick to tear down children for the way they act and go on and on about how out of control they are. Well, every child is a direct result of who raised them and the environment they were raised in. This girl’s future is not looking too good. Will anybody be surprised if she ends of pregnant before graduating HS? And, her dad will walk around piss and blaming everybody–but himself–for her promiscuous behavior. This mess is taught from a very young age.
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I also cosign 100 @Cinderella!!!
Something is better than nothing.
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Well at least he has his own interest
Well folks, im outtie!!! Hope you all have a GREAT evening!!!!
yep Flo we def have the same kids! my child claims to loveeee soccer. I notice he doesnt love it as much as the damn computer or that ps3 tho…smh
@cheeks…They better have their homework done before they go to practice tho
I play softball on so many teams and I think I wore my daughter out at the fields this year. I hope I don’t turn her off from it since I play so much
I swear, some of these boys on the team are being raised to be perfect ladies. SMH
LOL. My husband said if we had a son(by force) he would hate it if he didn’t play basketball at least. I’m a football girl myself(ROLLLL TIDE) but would like some sort of sports in his life. Academics is without a doubt first though. I would be ok with tennis but I think he’d die.
I think competition is a really good and important thing.
Agreed. I def. foster competitive spirits.
UNO can get real ser-rus!
Byeeeee Flo! catch ya Monday hunbunz
Whats GOOD SR FAm
I can’t keep up with yall today…Sandra just posted this and yall already on 91…must be a helluva FRIDAY at work
HEEEeeeeeeeYYYyyy
DU da Damn THANG den.
Bye @Floooooooo. While im still writing you this long ass email!
UNO can get real ser-rus!
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I had a 5 year old slamming dang Uno cards down at me!!! WTH!!!!
I think competition is a really good and important thing
no one wins in my house except the house!
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So funny cuz my mom was like Tiffany your kids get that competitive spirit from you and I did use to do little things with them and make them compete with me-nothing major – but if we played UNO and I get my butt beat I’d be like one more hand
@OUTSIDE THE BOX
“I think competition is a really good and important thing.”
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Agreed. I def. foster competitive spirits.
UNO can get real ser-rus!”
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WHO YOU TELLIN?
We keep a notebook to record ALL card game winners, with dates and everyone must sign to acknowledge that days results.
Friend of mine was ready to beat her son cause he won at UNO and started talkin chit to her!
**I know, I know…**
@ bama shoot my momma did not play. I got a C on a test after I got a Sega Genesis and she straight hid it on me. I tried to recruit my friends to help me find it after school but nobody could…I had a $5 reward and everything..I could only play it on the weekends.
I wish I was more in sports growning up because I absolutely love them now. I run all the time sometimes up to 3 miles daily.In school I was more into arts and I was in the band. Sometimes u have to push your kid or let me say, have them try a sport to see if they like it. Now if they dont pull the them out, it they do then good for them! My mom didnt push me to try sports so I didn’t, but had she maybe I would have liked it.
@CRZ
“LOL. My husband said if we had a son(by force) he would hate it if he didn’t play basketball at least. I’m a football girl myself(ROLLLL TIDE) but would like some sort of sports in his life. Academics is without a doubt first though. I would be ok with tennis but I think he’d die.”
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Basketball is right under religion in my family. My 80 yr old Aunt called me to talk chit when Kevin Garnett (her favorite player from day 1) beat Kobe (my favorite player from day 1) in the finals in 2008.
She dayum near had a heartattack when I called to get her back this year.
Funny thing about tennis. My brother and I started playin one summer because they didn’t have any basketball goals where we were vacationing. My Dad was mad at first, then he started playin. He hasn’t stopped since and that was like 20 yrs ago.
UNO can get real ser-rus!”
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Yep my son loves winning and talkn smack but you know how Momz does it comes back and puts the smack down – MOMZ RULZ
Agreed. I def. foster competitive spirits.
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Shoot at the Y they dont keep score on the b-ball games for kids 6 and under…lets just say that the parents keep score. I make sure to tell my friends kid that his team won the game lol! He is like, “Coach says we are all winners”, I’m like “Not in real life, in real life one team has to win and one team has to loose, you are on a team of winners” Terrible I know….That boy thinks he is Kobe, he is really good tho lol!
Issa says:
I will also say that it is not right for a grown woman to call a little girl a ‘heffa.’
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I think she was referring to him bringing a loose woman home when he grows up. She wasn’t calling the child in the video a heffa.
@Man he dad didn’t come to ONE game last season because he played JV. Now he’s at a smaller school where he would most likely start and they are supposedto go all the way he wants to be apart of it. Son was only playing because Al Bundy aka “dad” played for our old school. This nigga still wears his lettermans jacket too. #saynotolivingthruurkids
Key Word- HUSBAND- The emailer states that her and her HUSBAND- not baby daddy- not single parent home. People from homes that are single parented and have no fathers or strong father figures are prone to put ignorance on the web. There is something lacking with whoever video taped the little girl and put it on the web I hope to think that the person video taping didnt think about child predators who would find that sexually amusing- (maybe ther person who taped it finds that stimulation) All we can do is pray for the little girl.
@ Man
He loves basketball. Me not so much. I’ll try to watch it but since Jordan(I know) left I just can’t. He’s from Chicago and went to Simone something and tells me of all the NBA players that went there. We watched the Len Bias story on ESPN and he wouldn’t let me get up to pee. lol.
BKBiz says…People from homes that are single parented and have no fathers or strong father figures are prone to put ignorance on the web.
What does that have to do with who puts what on the web?????
Anyway…see yall later!!!
Yes I said yall:)
#saynotolivingthruurkids @This nigga still wears his lettermans jacket too.
# cosign
Mine is different though since we don’t have kids together. He still wears his fraternity stuff til I remind him he’s not in college anymore and he didn’t just pledge. He’s 36 and will still through up the sign if I let him. LOL NO offense to anyone that is in a sorority or fraternity.
I definitely don’t think it’s right for the poster to call the little girl in the other post a heffa but it seems like she’s off to a great start with educating her son. Keep up the good work!!
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I’m all for giving someone praise for doing a good job/what they are supposed to. I absolutely love it that my husband praises me constantly on “things wives are supposed to be doing anyway” and vice versa!!
” People from homes that are single parented and have no fathers or strong father figures are prone to put ignorance on the web.”
Girl you better read these comments for you come up in here with that foo foo.
@ Civil
How’s those abs?
i cant see the video @man yeah that nerd might be ur boss in some years bro lol
Damn @Free. Banging gravi.
LAKERRRRR
Hey Free
My fiance HIS
OTB what it do?
Chit. Reat to go!
@Harlem
OutsidetheBox says:
” People from homes that are single parented and have no fathers or strong father figures are prone to put ignorance on the web.”
Girl you better read these comments for you come up in here with that foo foo.
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Ignorance is Bliss… My mother married my father and divorced by the time I was two therefore I was raised in a single parent home. I’m 27, I have a career, educated with a degree, married and own a home. I had a child from a man that I am not married to. My child is an honor roll student, tested in the top 10% percentile on her SAT scores and a talented singer/dancer. Society DID NOT write my destiny. People think there is a formula to creating the “perfect” child but there are rules that help the situation to end positively.
OutsidetheBox says:
Damn @Free. Banging gravi
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Wrists in the air “That’s what’s up!”
Key Word- HUSBAND- The emailer states that her and her HUSBAND- not baby daddy- not single parent home. People from homes that are single parented and have no fathers or strong father figures are prone to put ignorance on the web.
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Girl you are in for a world of surprise I can already see you look at the world with blindfolders on-So SAD cuz you could become a single mother yourself
Aww he’s so cute and smart! This is what I want to see kids doing or playing like they are supposed to. I’m iffy about putting the kids on the internet too, but I guess the Andy Warhol ” in the future everyone will get their 15 minutes of fame” must apply to kids too. *shrug*
Wow! applaud that mother!
What a handsome little lad and smart too!
Dayum…..as always tardy….but I played everything…….Basketball…volleyball….track. Yall bout to have me getting nostalgic. I
with OTB…..whatever keeps your kids occupied…..so be it.
Civil:
@Jerrie…they miight suffer from a mental illness then kidding but there are exceptions to every rule
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Hell the might!
I know what you mean though.
I spew some ignant chit on the daily so i get how it can be hard to believe in what a bish saying, but you other ladies,
Y’all lay that chit down. I lubs it. Come on in here and learn bishesssssssssssss!
This video truly made me smile, but there are so many children just like this little boy. Unfortunately, our kids greatness never get talked about because too many people enjoying perpetuating stereotypes :-/
And second, I agree the video of that little girl was highly inappropriate however suggesting that the father could be molesting her and should lose custody on a forum such as this is irresponsible. Time has proven how broad a readership this site has and people are generally distrustful of a man raising a child anyway despite the fact that the vast majority of men would never molest a child especially not their OWN child. Putting this thought out there without proof could result in a witchhunt against him and the child being put through the trauma of an investigation which I know from personal experience is highly traumatic and/or being ripped from what may be the only home she’s known and put in another place that could actually be worse. She’s dancing as a grown woman true but there are many out there who have no issue with such dances from a child but would never molest or harm a child. I know several within my own family and I’m sure everyone on here knows at least one person like that as well. Its inappropriate true, my kids won’t be dancing that way and yes he should have had sense not to tape it, but if he’s one of those who doesn’t believe that kind of dancing is wrong, and he was proud his baby could dance and decided to share (like Jaysons mom and other parents) who are any of you to say he should raise his child? The fact that he is raising her alone while her mom is locked up speaks on his character cause many men would not have done that at all and to think he could lose his child over it cause some women on a website who know NOTHING about him other than this video is crazy. Molestation is too serious an allegation to just throw out there based off a video like this. Their lives could be ruined, his reputation gone, this childs life ripped apart over something that could very well and is likely to be untrue. Once rumors of molesting get out most people NEVER regain the trust and rep they had before even after a not guilty verdict. That’s one charge a person can never live down so be careful how you throw it out there. Sorry for the long post, actually I’m not but still
Jayson taught me something today. I didn’t know the capitol of NY was Albany
@Ms. Everything – I’m going to disagree with your second comment. I think this man (if true) should be investigated. I’m not saying he should have his child taken without proof that anything is going on, but I would not throw caution to the wind because he “might” be clean.
What sane man do you know that would: 1) Film a child, and worst, HIS child gyrating to a song totally inappropriate for a child to not only hear, but for a child to even emulate, 2) Any man that would watch a child dance in such a provocative way may not physically molest a child, but something is clearly wrong with a man that would even sit and watch this debacle.
Ms. Everything, the fact that he wouldn’t see anything wrong with this child dancing like this makes me wonder what else he wouldn’t think is wrong, i.e. for all we know, he could be molesting her, filming her with other boys her age, etc. We don’t know. Some men think there’s nothing wrong with having sex with their children either. Children are being molested at a huge rate. I’m not saying he’s doing that to his child, but since he was stupid enough to put some garbage like this out on the Internet, he should be made to explain his actions.
JMO.
In all this, I didn’t even mention how cute and adorable this lil guy is. I’m so proud to see parents who raise their children right and encourage them to learn.
@KrayZ I actually know several hood immature men with daughters that can dance like grown women in the strip clubs (who learned from they trif mamas and tv) who’ve sat around watching them dance and haven’t said anything because where they’re from that unfortunately is not outside the norm. But they would never in a million years molest their child! This is inappropriate to me, you and most grown mature adults with sense, however, in communities and projects around the country unfortunately this is a normal everyday sight to see and the same mothers/fathers cheering it on, will also video tape and show friends/family, call the kids in the living room to do it in front of guests and now that we are in the age of you tube these same people are uploading it for others to see because that’s their baby, she can dance and they are proud of it. Again, I’m not defending it and I’ve spoken out enough on kids and music period but to go as far as call the father a molester? Based off just this? I can’t do that or support it because chances are he is not. Before Sandra updated to say that the girls father posted this and filmed it people were jumping on the mom, single mothers were brought up, babies having babies, a long list of reasons for this but not one time did anyone say she was being molested until it was said this was done by the father. To me that’s just showing the prejudices that people have towards fathers rasing kids. I know women who won’t let their childs father even change their daughters diaper out of fear. I won’t live my life treating all men as pedophiles and that’s so unfair to the 97% of men who don’t get off from children. I know too many men who are good men and capable of raising young women properly to accuse any man of molestation without fact and I was molested but again I have good positive men in my life and always have. I was practically raised by my uncles along with my other female cousins. They weren’t the ones who touched me. That’s not an accusation to be taken lightly and made on a blog for someone at home to run with this and potentially destroy these peoples lives when he could be a good father in all other aspects. The video is bad, yes but is she naked? Is she being forced? Is he dancing with her? Does she look happy? All of those are things to be considered. The chances of this being what I stated above are far greater than the chance that he’s hurting this baby so its very very irresponsible with the vast readership of this blog to throw that out. If those who made the allegations of molestation thought she was being molested why didn’t they say so in the other post? Why wait til its mentioned that the father taped it? That’s a nasty stereotype that has hurt many families and millions of men. More men have been unfairly and wrongly accused and CONVICTED of sex crimes than any other crime and these men NEVER get their lives back, they are marked for life so to just say that without knowing is wrong and I cannot will not support that ever. Women rape and molest too so if you arentg gonna suspect the mom don’t suspect the dad
Let me say though before someone hops on and gets ignorant with my comment (not you KrayZ) and tries to say my children are gonna get molested or something stupid like that.. I won’t raise my kids in fear of anything, kids must be kids so I raise them to be smart and cautious. You won’t catch any of my children sitting on a male’s lap regardless of who it is, nor do they get extremely cuddly with them. My kids don’t go anywhere unless I know who they are going with, where it is and who all is going to be there. I’m strict but I have an open relationship and they tell me all that happens each and every day plus I ask questions. I’m known for popping up unannounced wherever they are be it school, daycare, babysitter, friend or family member’s house. I wanna see what happens when I’m not expected. I don’t play when it comes to my babies at all but I won’t allow us to live in fear or deny them male role models because of what happened to me in my past.
Also to add to your question and my earlier comment, I was at a bbq on the 4th and al the kids (minus mine) were up on stage popping and shaking looking like the latest video hoes. All the other adults male and female were cheering them on like it was nothing and some of them kids make this lil one look like she’s praise dancing in the house of the Lord. I thought some things about the other parents for allowing it but the babies being molested? Never crossed my mind, not from dancing. There’s a huge fraction of our communities that think this is normal dancing but are raising good kids overall who dance bad but pull straight A’s with perfect conduct, attendance and manners who haven’t been molested. Go visit the projects or the hood, you’ll find about 20 of these little girls… sad but true
@Ms. Everything – I overstand what you are saying; however, I wouldn’t put it past anyone in this day and age. We just don’t know, and when someone is stupid enough to put these images out there of their childing, whether they think it’s cute or not (others might not see it as cute, but sexy) they are going to draw suspicion to themselves. No one suspected a father would be behind this, so I think it’s pretty natural that some eyebrows would be raised.
Ms. Everything, I know there are wonderful single fathers (and single mothers) out there holding it down. I would never think that just because a man is a single father raising a child that he would be a child molester. I would, however, question the judgement of anyone – male or female – who would think this kind of dancing is appropriate.
BTW, I know you do not approve of this either, so please don’t think I’m attacking you. I’ve read your “pro-child/pro-parenting” comments and applaud them. I remember reading your comments and thinking that you are an excellent mother. Lord know our children need more of them. I’m an activist for children because I’ve seen them abused before. I HATE child abusers (male or female).
childing? I meant to say “children.” Whoa, I’m tired
Ms. Everything – I’m sorry to hear about what happened to you. Only a sick individual would do something like that. I can imagine you are sensitive to issues such as these so I understand your point. It’s a matter of perspective. Like you stated, some look at these dances and think they are cute because maybe they’ve been so exposed (kind of like desensitized) to it. It’s seen everyday on music videos and if children aren’t properly monitored, they pick it up.
The kind of mother you are is the kind of mother that kids need. Lord knows there are so many thing out there to distract them and draw them away. Unless a parent is vigilant in monitoring what their children are doing, anything can happen.
My mother never allowed us to sit in men’s laps either. In fact, she never had men in and out of our house when we were growing up. I respect parents who take their job seriously because raising kids in no joke.
Thanks for sharing, Ms. Everything!
Thanks and I get where you’re coming from as well. It just rubbed me the wrong way coming from the original post where the big issue was bad parenting to this one where people were throwing out molestation and saying call CPS all because its now known that the father is raising her and filmed it
I can’t believe she called that little girl a heffa. Makes me want to curse that broad out. A child..a heffa? WTH?!