According to the White House, U.S. President Barack Obama is "grappling" with his feelings on the whole gay marriage issue even as he orders the Justice Department to stop defending the defense of marriage act (DOMA) in an ongoing court case.

The dictionary defines the word grapple as "engaging in a close fight or struggle without weapons" ie, wrestling with his thoughts.

What this really means is Obama is about to flip flop once again in order to appease the gays so he has a better chance of being reelected in 2012.

Expect gay marriage to be legalized in every state of the Union by the time 2012 rolls around.

Every special interest group knows that this is the best time to squeeze whatever bill they want out of Obama because all he cares about is getting reelected. Obama is so predictable.

The Justice Department announced Wednesday that, at Obama's direction, it would not defend the Defense of Marriage Act in a court case where it's being challenged.

Spokesman Jay Carney said Obama has always opposed the Defense of Marriage Act as "unnecessary and unfair." But Carney said there's no change to how Obama views gay marriage itself.

Obama said in January that he is still wrestling with whether gay couples should have the right to marry. He said his feelings on the issue continue to evolve but he still believes in allowing strong civil unions.


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You can tell when a man really loves his wife when he shows the utmost respect for her in the presence of others. It means something when a man bans all other women from his presence when he's with his wife, like Kobe Bryant did recently.

When a man cheats on his wife it is because he lacks respect for her and for the sanctity of their marriage. It doesn't mean he doesn't love her, it means he puts his own selfish needs above hers, which is a sign of disrespect. A boy becomes a man when he learns to put his needs aside to meet the needs of his wife and children.

Kobe has learned his lesson, according to Page Six.

Kobe Bryant's security was so tight, it even banned female cocktail waitresses from his VIP area at the Hennessy Black All-Star after-party Saturday night at Boulevard 3 in LA. According to an insider, Bryant's team also carried out two sweeps of the club in the days leading up to the event. "Kobe had a lot of male friends with him, and I'm pretty sure they would not have minded fe male cocktail servers," said one spy. Instead, Bryant kept his at tention on wife Vanessa, who mixed his drinks for him at the table.

That's respect.

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An anti-abortion billboard with racist overtones was erected at the corner of Sixth Avenue and Watts Street, three blocks from a Planned Parenthood Clinic, and across the street from a public employees union hall in SoHo, New York City. The ad has sparked outrage among blacks, which is exactly the intention of the marketing company that created this ad campaign.

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Pop Icon Janet Jackson, 44, and her millionaire boyfriend Wissam Al Mana, 34, held hands as they headed to their awaiting car last night. The couple had just finished having dinner at Matsuhisa restaurant in Beverly Hills, California.

Life will be very different for NBA star Carmelo Anthony now that he's an official New York Knickerbocker. Carmelo, who signed a $65 million 3-year deal with the Knicks, was spotted leaving his hotel in New York City today. His wife, Lala Vazquez, will now have to contend with New York groupies who are a far different breed from their more laid back counterparts in Denver, Colorado. Anthony, 26, is scheduled to play his first game as a member of the New York Knicks tonight. But the real test will come on Sunday, Feb. 27, when he plays LeBron James, Dwyane Wade and the blazing Miami Heat in Miami.

Meagan Good likes big butts? Apparently she does. The 29-year-old sometime actress and socialite was entering a parking garage in LA with her girlfriend when they were approached by paparazzi. Her girlfriend tried to run but Meagan wasn't having that. She playfully forced her girl to turn around and take pictures with her. Meagan has long been rumored to be bisexual.


According to loyal readers Tasha and LaTonya, the chick with Meagan is Brandi Burnside, aka Lil B. She played Tashina in Nora’s Hair Salon 1 & 2.


According to Life & Style magazine, Real Housewives of Atlanta's Kim Zolciak, who already has two children with her ex-husband, will be 33 when she has her 3rd child.

Kim Zolciak's days of wine and cigarettes are over, thanks to a baby on the way with beau Kroy Biermann.

Zolciak, 32, and the Atlanta Falcons defensive end, 25, announced the pregnancy in November after six months together.

In her latest interview with Life & Style, the mom-to-be discusses how she's reacting to her third pregnancy and what the future holds for her.

"I'll be 33 when I have this baby, and I'm more in touch with my body now," says the aspiring singer, who isn't sweating the 20 pounds she's gained so far.

"Kroy loves me pregnant. I don't remember my ex-husband being that into it, but Kroy loves it. He tells me I'm so beautiful."

Ciara, 26, was spotted toting her beloved pooches Tyson and Georgia in a Louis Vuitton carrier while shopping in Beverly Hills yesterday. Friends were worried about Ci Ci after pictures surfaced online showing her leaving a doctor's office looking pale and sickly. Ciara tweeted that she had lost her voice and couldn't speak.

But she looked fine yesterday as she shopped with her best friend, Yolonda Frederick. Ciara's smile turned upside down when she found a parking ticket on the windshield of her black jeep. But she didn't let a ticket get her down. Ciara took to her Twitter page and tweeted this message that only her gay fans would understand.

To those of you who don't know: "family" is a code word for gay and "in the life," which is used to describe the gay lifestyle.

But my loyal readers already knew that Ciara was bisexual, so this isn't news to you.

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By now you've all heard the story about the fisticuffs that took place between comedian Jamie Foxx and his longtime manager Breyon Prescott at a Belvedere Red party earlier this month.

According to an industry insider, who is close to both Jay Z and Jamie Foxx's camps, Jigga came to the rescue of his friend by unofficially blacklisting Prescott at the 2011 Grammy's.

My source tells me that Jay Z gave the order to his people to take Prescott's name off of his Grammy party lists -- and others in the industry followed suit.

Jay Z threw a Roc Nation brunch on the Saturday after the fight, according to my source who attended the brunch. He said when Jay saw that Prescott's name was on the list, he reportedly said, "we don't need people up here who fights their artists. It's not a good look."

Ironically, it was a pre-Grammy fight in 2009 that led to Jay Z imposing a similar blacklist on Chris Brown that nearly destroyed the singer's career after he assaulted his then-girlfriend, and Jay Z protege, Rihanna.

According to the insider, Foxx and Prescott fell out long before the ruckus took place at Club Avalon in Hollywood on Feb. 10. The two men had been friends and business partners since 1994 when Foxx released his first album entitled Peep This.

But in recent years, Jamie bristled at rumors that Breyon was allegedly using his name to make money under the table. "He was taking kickbacks, side deals, alla dat - and now Jamie doesn't want nothing to do with him," said my source in a phone call yesterday.

It seems that Prescott was too "attached" to Foxx -- but not in the way that other blogs have claimed. "He was jealous because Jamie had a better table than he did," said my informant.

Breyon's habit of using Foxx's name to score sexual services from industry groupies also troubled Foxx. The source said Prescott was drunk when they got to fighting at Avalon after Foxx had severed all contact with him.

"When Jamie got Breyon in a headlock, Breyon bit Jamie's finger. Jamie had to get stitches in that finger," said the insider, who went on to say that Foxx is huddling with his attorneys to find a way to get Jamie out of his rock solid contract with Prescott. "I think he's got 3 more albums in that contract with Breyon," the source said.

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Everyone is at odds these days with pop singer Rihanna who has transformed herself from a much-loved international superstar into a bitch with an attitude problem. Rihanna angered billionaire Donald Trump by not showing up to perform at his cancer fundraiser as planned.

The Donald reportedly paid Rihanna a staggering $500,000 to sing for an hour at the Dana-Farber Cancer Institute on Saturday (Feb. 19). But Rihanna's people canceled the gig at the last minute claiming she was sick with bronchitis and couldn't fly to Florida.

Miraculously, the next day Rihanna recovered enough to give a high energy performance during half time at the NBA All Star game. Later that night she hosted an intimate 23rd birthday party for herself at a posh Beverly Hills mansion for about 100 of her closest friends and family, including Jay Z, Beyonce, Drake, Christina Milian, Young Jeezy, Snoop Dogg, Lil Twist and industry execs Bu Thiam (pictured right with Jeezy at the party) and Shawn "Pecas" Costner (Universal Records).

Jennifer Hudson graciously agreed to take the gig (albeit for far less than the amount The Donald paid Rihanna).

Even though the fundraiser was a huge success, The Donald couldn't resist getting a dig in at Rihanna.

“Nothing was missed. Jennifer’s a beautiful girl," said Trump. "She came on her day off even though she performs almost every night. "She is an unbelievable talent, and her voice is better."

Luckily, my photographer was able to get get some exclusive shots on the inside. No other blog gained access to the party. Above is a pic of Rihanna's ice sculpture. I would post more pics from Rihanna's private birthday party but a national magazine has acquired the exclusive rights to the photographer's pictures.