Usually when completely mismatched couples get together, the fake excitement and passion that they feel for one another is fueled by a brain chemical called Dopamine -- not to be confused with eternal love.

This chemical helps to remove the hesitancy, uncertainty and doubts that one might feel so that they can quickly get to the matter at hand -- hot, passionate, sticky sex in order to populate the earth.

The street drugs cocaine and Ecstasy work in much the same way.

So once that Dopamine stops leaking in their brains, some normalcy is restored and these couples are often left wondering what the heck they saw in each other in the first place.

That's the dilemma that R&B crooner Usher Raymond and his ex-wife, Tameka Foster, faced before they got divorced. To complicate matters even further: they have two sons together.

Now word is spreading around the industry that Usher and Tameka are no longer on speaking terms with each other. They say that if Usher wants to communicate with Tameka he sends word through a liaison.

I also heard that Usher has much more than joint custody of his kids, and that the children are with him more than they are with Tameka. But, according to gossip website TMZ.com, that information appears to be inaccurate -- Usher and Tameka still share joint custody of their boys, but now Tameka wants a judge to strip Usher of his parental rights because he closed her Saks Fifth Avenue card.

From TMZ.com:

According to the docs, Tameka claims Usher has repeatedly FAILED to obtain her permission to travel outside the state with the kids ... which he's legally obligated to do.

But there's more ... a lot more.

Tameka also claims Usher is required and has failed to:
-- get her approval before hiring nannies
-- give her first shot to watch the kids when he's away for more than 8 hours
-- allow her to take the kids for 2-weeks in the summer of 2011
-- let her have custody of the kids during Christmas break 2010

Tameka also claims Usher closed her Saks 5th Avenue credit card -- which he specifically said he wouldn't do -- and now she can no longer take advantage of the "special benefits" the card offers.

According to the docs, Usher also promised to pay $5k per month so Tameka could hire her own nanny for the kids -- but he hasn't paid in months, and now owes $34,000 worth of payments.

TMZ also reports that Tameka is filing for an increase in her child support due to the fact that there has been a "substantial change in [Usher's] income" since they were divorced -- and she wants her cut.

  • lovezoe

    A mess!! They need to work it out for the kids, the older kids get the more aware they are. Why was he even paying for her CC anyways?

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QsunEfZFG1Y&feature=related LUSCIOUS LOLITA AKA SUGA WALLS

    This bytch, the fact that she even mentioned the Saks acct makes her look like a gold digger

  • Tatted Diva AKA The Makeup Maven

    Tsk Tsk Tsk Tameka. You're not looking good ratt now! :nono:

    BUT I WILL SAY THIS.......Everything is not always her fault. I'm sure Usher is a cot dayum trip in his own way. Hell, he was a trip w/Chilli so there is nothing to make me thing this ninja all innocent and shat!

    MORNING BROWN & ZOE :coffee:

  • NaijaGal

    Each party must follow the orders in a divorce decree and since he agreed to those terms then she is within her rights to take it back to court when he fails to comply

    Morning Folks :hi:

  • lashellebelle

    I could really use some dopamine :snort: this mornin' !

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QsunEfZFG1Y&feature=related LUSCIOUS LOLITA AKA SUGA WALLS

    TATTED :yahoo:

    :pacifier: :pacifier: :pacifier:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QsunEfZFG1Y&feature=related LUSCIOUS LOLITA AKA SUGA WALLS

    side eyes NAIJA yet again cuz my legs wont tan :hater:

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    @ NaijaGal: I'm sure that credit card account was not in the divorce decree. :lol:

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    lashellebelle says:

    I could really use some dopamine :snort: this mornin' !
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    You could try cheating on your man. :lol:

  • Tatted Diva AKA The Makeup Maven

    @ Naija

    :whistle:
    You are everything
    And everything is you
    Oooooh You are everything
    And everything is you

  • lashellebelle

    Good morning ladies!!!!!
    Heeeeeeeeeeeeey my Suga Wuga. :biggrin:
    I.am.totally.draggin.at.work.today.

  • candibfly

    what special benefits? not having to pay the bill on the card?

    anywho, good morning *crawls to my desk*

  • lashellebelle

    @Aunty-

    Been there. Done that. Bought that T-shirt! (so kiddin') KINDA

  • Celli Cel

    wow :thinking: how does these chicks do it? I mean sheesh...I can't even get my husband to pay the rent on his own so I can quit my job.

  • NaijaGal

    @Tatted
    :whistle:
    Over dreams, I have picked out a perfect 'come true'
    Though you never knew it was of you I've been dreaming
    The sandman has come from too far away
    For you to say, "Come back some other day"

  • http://sandrarose.com Sandra Rose

    lashellebelle says:

    Been there. Done that. Bought that T-shirt! (so kiddin’) KINDA
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    I bet you still get the shivers from the memories of that dopamine rush though, huh? :D

  • NaijaGal

    @Luscious :kiss: it's ok boo I got the self tanner right here so gone and bring your fine arse over yonder

  • Roc

    I hate this kind of shyt. This is silly and petty.

  • Roc

    Good Morning Everyone :waves:

  • lovezoe

    Morning Tatted! Morning everyone!!!

    You should change the title to refuse to get along. It's a choice.

  • Tatted Diva AKA The Makeup Maven

    :argue: @ Naija for her invitation to Brown!

  • Mannie

    Usher and his ex-Husband need to stop playin and just make it work for the kids...

  • Tatted Diva AKA The Makeup Maven

    Heeeeey Roc! :hi:

  • Creamychic

    good morning family, luscious, tatted, zoe, sandymae, candi, naiji, and all the rest :waves: hope everyone had a good weekend,

  • Roc

    I'm no longer with my son's father but we sit down like adults and work things out. We've never even had to go to court. He knows what he's supposed to do and handles his business. If he gets amnesia, then I politely remind him.

  • NaijaGal

    @Creamy :waves:

  • Mother Jefferson

    Mannie says:

    Usher and his ex-Husband need to stop playin and just make it work for the kids…
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    :dead:
    Where is the gay pride tag Sandra? :coffee:

  • NaijaGal

    @Tatted oh no you didn't after flirting with WUT...oh don't think I forgot :mad:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QsunEfZFG1Y&feature=related LUSCIOUS LOLITA AKA SUGA WALLS

    KAH-REE-MAY!

    TATTED
    she was only tryna help me out! It was innocent, she just tryna give my legs sopme color!

  • http://twitter.com/_Tainted_Love Tainted_Love

    :yawn:
    Morning Fam! How is everyone this a.m?

  • lovezoe

    What up Creamy!!

  • Creamychic

    morning Tainted :kiss:

  • GAGIRL87

    In my Smokey voice from Friday
    "Remember it ,Write it down, take a picture, I don't give a fuck" :yawn:

  • heavenlie

    It's sad that women like this seem to have no respect for themselves. Seriously, by the looks of Hollywood (white and black), it looks like these men out here might as well just wife up prostitutes the way they are gaming these rich men.

    It's a shame that these men in the limelight don't take their pick of ambitious, educated young women who do not merely wish to live of their fame. But then again, would we have them and all their BS? Probably not.

  • GAGIRL87

    So once that Dopamine stops leaking in their brains, some normalcy is restored and these couples are often left wondering what the heck they saw in each other in the first place.

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    I sometimes look at my son's father and think this quite often then I remember the d*ick was crazy and I was in love :coffee:

  • http://twitter.com/_Tainted_Love Tainted_Love

    @Creamy :hug:

    I guess I had an increase in Dopamine when I was with my first bf a few years ago! Lawd knows that fool was ugly and short!!! He's the main reason I just date now lol

  • lovezoe

    Anyone else see the trailer for TI show last night? The only reason I will watch is because TI is so funny. Other than that, I may need subtitles. :coffee:

  • vero

    Morning people :waves:

  • GAGIRL87

    lovezoe says:

    Anyone else see the trailer for TI show last night? The only reason I will watch is because TI is so funny. Other than that, I may need subtitles.

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    I did I love them xtra kuntry and all :lol:

  • Tatted Diva AKA The Makeup Maven

    Heeeey there Creamy :hi:
    Heeeey there Mannie :hi:

  • Tatted Diva AKA The Makeup Maven

    @ Naija - OH, YOU MUST'VE READ THAT WRONG. WUT WAS FLIRTING W/ME!
    :coffee:

    :rofl:

  • Tatted Diva AKA The Makeup Maven

    Heeeey there Vero-licious :hug:

  • lashellebelle

    @Aunty-

    So that's what those are, huh?!?!!?

  • luVn_liFe…

    They cant Get along cause they Dont like each other never did.

  • Creamychic

    lovezoe says:

    Anyone else see the trailer for TI show last night? The only reason I will watch is because TI is so funny. Other than that, I may need subtitles.
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    :rofl: subtitles really :rofl:

  • lovezoe

    Creamy, lol you have to watch it. I was like what she say? :rofl: I know people from ATL and they don't sound like that.

  • pointhimout

    love the write up Sandra. crazy. sticky sex. @44 I was just having a similar convo last night. Having sex with someone doesn't mean they care about each other. Clearly that's what this was. How do you get to this point unless you were never really friends in the first place. They have kids and are still to this point? crazy.

    I missed the TI show last night. TI's funny? really? I've gotta see this. seem way too serious in everything from movies to videos to blogs. he aint start smiling til he got those veneers. even then, he's half frowned.

  • luVn_liFe…

    @ heavenlie...

    :preach: :cosign:

  • NaijaGal

    @Tatted hmmm hmmm :coffee:

  • Creamychic

    lovezoe says:

    Creamy, lol you have to watch it. I was like what she say? I know people from ATL and they don’t sound like that.

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    I'll pass ( SUBTITLES) like I'm watching a foreign movie, she speaks that darn bad :hahaha:

  • kahmmillion

    On another site, someone wrote in to spill the tea that it is actually Usher who wants the kids and it is Grace (the old lady that he is banging at the moment) who told that she is tired of him paying child support and he should take the kids away from Tameka. Wonder which is the truth. Was it the Saks card or was it the old woman girlfriend?

  • http://youtu.be/wHTo_QgKM5g chibytex aka the people’s champ

    Good morning Tatted, Creamy, Naija, Point, Lovezoe and the rest of SR
    :hi:

  • lovezoe

    @point it was just an extended teaser, the real show come on last night. He said a couple of funny things. He like me, he discipline by snapping his fingers. I am not for talking all day.

    @creamy, maybe it's just me that can't understand her. Like she has no grasp of the English language. :coffee:

  • http://twitter.com/#!/Birdshu Bird

    Actually the TMZ story does make it sound like Usher has them the majority of the time, thank God. Meeka is complaining the he didn't let her have them for 2 weeks in the summer nor Christmas as agreed. I see she didn't complain about not having her babies til that Saks card got cut off. And to think I felt sorry for this heffa.

  • NaijaGal

    @Kahmillion do tell...I personally think Tameka is always villanize, true she doesn't always help the situation but just like @Tatted I don't think Usher is innocent at all

  • http://youtu.be/wHTo_QgKM5g chibytex aka the people’s champ

    TMZ also reports that Tameka is filing for an increase in her child support due to the fact that there has been a “substantial change in [Usher's] income” since they were divorced — and she wants her cut
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    Usher will lose in court!! :yes:

  • NaijaGal

    @Chiby :hug: hey chica, how have you been

  • http://youtu.be/wHTo_QgKM5g chibytex aka the people’s champ

    missed the TI show last night. TI’s funny? really? I’ve gotta see this. seem way too serious in everything from movies to videos to blogs. he aint start smiling til he got those veneers. even then, he’s half frowned.
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    I was dying and :hurl: when Tiny told T.I. to get naked and get in the bed!!! She probably been wearing the poor man out since he been outta the clink...

  • lovezoe

    Kam I believe it. If that's true he not a real man. You don't let some chick tell you not to take care of your kids or pay child support.

  • http://youtu.be/wHTo_QgKM5g chibytex aka the people’s champ

    @Naija
    I've been good! Thank God!!

  • http://youtu.be/wHTo_QgKM5g chibytex aka the people’s champ

    lovezoe says:

    Kam I believe it. If that’s true he not a real man. You don’t let some chick tell you not to take care of your kids or pay child support.
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    :cosign:

  • Creamychic

    Gooood morning Chilby :kiss: but ummm so @lovezoe she speak like (BEYONCE) u know, making up words that Webster has not EVEN reconize yet #messy :lol:

  • alabasterboi

    I dont know why Usher was messing with that MAN anyway!!

    Morning Everyones, Everyones

  • I Go There

    All Ill say is this... IF this guy is a good father I dont think he has to get her permission to take HIS kids anywhere. Now if he was orded to follow certain rules because of the divorce then so be it but getting permission is one thing he doesnt have to do.

  • lovezoe

    @Chib, and when that baby repeated it :dead: That is SO my almost 5 year old. He is a sponge! He call my mama and say What's up shorty! I have no idea where gets it from. My mom said something was sexy one time and he started calling folks sexy. You want to laugh, but you know you can't. She said they been together ten years. I gave that a BIG side-eye. Girl how many kids he got and how old are they? Plus won't he playing in the water with New-New?

  • http://myspace.com/bettathaniwasb4 2bme

    She's probably going to make him pay her court fees..last time I checked whatever was written on that pre nup is what she agreed and signed to. Now she wants that Beiber money boo bye..sounds like her funding is coming to an end. There are so many holes in this gold diggers story it's ridiculous..somebody call Jonetta so Tameka can get the azz whippin she deserves! ..oh heeeey Auntie!

  • free

    well, we begged him not to do it, but he did, so he has to deal with this broad for 21 years....

  • http://youtu.be/wHTo_QgKM5g chibytex aka the people’s champ

    @LoveZoe
    They have been together for about 10 years now...she was with him when he made his first album I'm Serious...has he cheated on her since then, hell yeah...but I believe that she has been his bottom bish for 10 years...

  • lovezoe

    @Go there, FALSE. My husband is a GREAT father, I trust him with our kids but I still want to know where my children are at all times. What if something happens to you, if you don't where you kids are then how can you get in contact with them? It is common courtesy, I may not need a itinerary , but simply let me know you go be in Hollywood for a week staying at the Ritz would be nice.

  • Tatted Diva AKA The Makeup Maven

    @ Brown - I believe you bew! :yes:

    @ Naija - You don't believe me?? :nono:

    HEEEEEY CHIBS :hi:

  • free

    Mannie says: Usher and his ex-Husband need to stop playin and just make it work for the kids…

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    :rofl:

  • I Go There

    lovezoe

    Thats not what I said... I said he dont need her PERMISSION. As a parent he should tell her where he and the kids are but he shouldnt be asking for her permission to do it. That was all I was saying.

  • lovezoe

    I think both should seek permission for out of country travel. While it is good to expose kids to foreign travel, why not give the other parent the option to keep the child if it is work related? Not saying Usher would do it (he can't since he's Usher), but too many parents dip out and never come back when they go to a foreign country. This one guy was in the military, when he came back his wife dipped out to Japan (where she from) and now Japan won't help him get his kids back.

  • RoseBud83

    @lovezoe

    I think T.I. and Tiny are both funny as hell. Their kids are hilarious too! Unlike most...I have no trouble understanding Tiny. I like her. She seems cool.

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QsunEfZFG1Y&feature=related LUSCIOUS LOLITA AKA SUGA WALLS

    Tatted please go to the top post :coffee:

  • I Go There

    lovezoe says:

    I think both should seek permission for out of country travel. While it is good to expose kids to foreign travel, why not give the other parent the option to keep the child if it is work related? Not saying Usher would do it (he can’t since he’s Usher), but too many parents dip out and never come back when they go to a foreign country. This one guy was in the military, when he came back his wife dipped out to Japan (where she from) and now Japan won’t help him get his kids back.
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    I understand what your saying totally but thats kind of a different situation.... Im quite sure Usher has been out of the country with the kids many times since the divorce. And all of a sudden now its an issue? I think its more about her getting more money than all of a sudden wanted to be asked what the kids are doing. I knew a dude that was in the Army that use to beat the breaks off his wife and his Turkish wife left him and took the kids back to Turkey... Every situation is different.

  • free

    in his case with all of the traveling, i'm surprised they didn't put this in writing. i think you MUST have permission already to go out of the country because i saw some people trying to get on a cruise and the cruise ship would not let them on because they didn't have the other parent's permission.

    traveling out of the state is what he probably does quite often and, to get her permission, means she would probably interrupt his business. i can't see her just agreeing all the time. the fact that she wants to see the kids if he's gone for 8 hours sounds like this broad is a bit much.

    most of the custody agreements split holidays and summer weeks so either he is not adhering to the agreement or she is asking for something over and above the agreement. if the former, he is in BIG trouble.

  • lexdiamonz

    Mannie says:

    Usher and his ex-Husband need to stop playin and just make it work for the kids…

    :rofl:

    WOW tameka looking REAL SHADY now but what usher expect RATS ALWAYS want more CHEESE..... why did he get married (tyler perry voice) because CLEARLY this chick is crazy FOR REAL what happened to her "boutique"

  • lexdiamonz

    where his father johnetta she been MIA for a minute now... and this grace chick is a SENIOR CITIZEN so i hope they aint really dating.....

  • MOUTH

    HER A$$ NEED A JOB THIS REAL HOUSE WIVES STUFF IS GETTING OUTTA CONTROL

  • AllNYC

    How is she asking for more child support at the same time as claiming she's not spending as much time with the children? Despite a change in income, Tameka is saying that she's not getting her time.
    In the case of celebrity long money, the judge uses discretion to determine the amount of support. It's not locked to a percentage of someone's income.
    You have to have written notarized permission from the non-custodial parent to take children out of the country. That is the law. State to state travel would have to be negotiated in the custody agreement.

  • caligirl

    "Tameka wants a judge to strip Usher of his parental rights because he closed her Saks Fifth Avenue card."

    Now I can understand being mad about this.....:coffee:

  • Daisy

    I don't know if I believe this story :coffee:

  • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xipZNKei-hA&feature=related Jerrica

    @Daisy

    :cosign: I don't believe it either.

  • Ty

    I dont blame anyone but Usher. Everyone knew what the Crypt Keeper was up to except his sprung azz. Why the hell should he pay for her a nanny when he has the kids more than she does?

    "Tameka also claims Usher is required and has failed to:
    – get her approval before hiring nannies
    – give her first shot to watch the kids when he’s away for more than 8 hours
    – allow her to take the kids for 2-weeks in the summer of 2011
    – let her have custody of the kids during Christmas break 2010"

    If she has to request summer breaks etc., I doubt the kids are even residing with her. Yet she is worried about a damn Saks account :wtf: Whats even more confusing is she always looks like she has been sleeping under a damn bridge so why does she need a Saks account?

  • Selle

    Deduct all payments made on the Saks Fifth card from that $34,000

  • Selle

    Sandra Rose says:

    lashellebelle says:

    I could really use some dopamine this mornin’ !
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    You could try cheating on your man.

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    OMG, I can't

  • dougie

    Wow really!! :mad:
    It gets on my damn nerves when women use children as a pawn to get their selfish needs met! :cuss: