murder suicide

The former NFL player whose wife was shot and killed by his mistress who then shot herself, revealed he gifted his mistress with the SUV involved in the kidnapping and murder/suicide.

Police say former schoolteacher Lisa Brown, 49 of Lithonia, kidnapped Sandra Barnett, 58, from her home in Clayton County on Wednesday.

Brown (pictured top right) held Barnett at gunpoint as law enforcement pursued her Dodge Durango on I-20 into Alabama. The vehicle eventually came to a stop in the middle of the highway, where Brown shot Barnett then turned the gun on herself.

Brown was the mistress of Barnett's husband, former Buffalo Bills tight end Buster Barnett, 56.

Sandra Barnett taught special needs students at McNair Middle School in DeKalb County.

Buster Barnett told police Brown came to his job on Wednesday after she found out he was taking a trip with his wife.

Brown was upset because she didn't know about the trip, Barnett told police.

Police say Brown left Barnett's place of employment and headed to Barnett's home in Ellenwood.

Sandra Barnett was on the phone with a friend when Brown showed up at the house. The friend heard what sounded like a struggle before the call ended.

The friend told police she called a male friend to go and check on Barnett.

The man told police he drove past the Barnetts' home and spotted the Dodge Durango parked in the driveway. The man said he drove past the home and turned around. By the time he drove by the home again, the Durango was gone, Clayton police told Channel 2 Action News.

Police spotted the Dodge Durango on I-20 in Carroll County on Thursday. They pursued the SUV into Alabama.

Clayton Police spokesperson Charlene Watson-Fraser told Channel 2 Action News, “The driver stopped in the middle of the highway, pulled out a handgun and shot (Barnett) and then turned the gun on herself."

Watson-Fraser said the Durango was registered in Buster Barnett's name.

Barnett told police he purchased the Durango for Brown because he was "trying to help her out.”

Brown last worked as a school teacher at North Fulton High School until 2013 -- the same year she was arrested for kidnapping her 12-year-old daughter from the girl's father, who had full custody of her.

A judge sentenced Brown to probation in 2013.

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    • Dontae Smith

      Only at Sandra rose will u get the exclusives

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      It's real here in Atlanta. Women outnumber men 10-1. And that's not counting the gay men who outnumber the straight men. Some Atlanta men are juggling 2 or 3 women. None of whom know about each other. It's a mess.

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      No exclusive. This is all over the news here.

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      WHALE DAMN!so this transpired due to him wanting to take his wife on a trip...without telling the side piece.what wood the side piece have gained by KNOWING?

    • Yup, I said it

      The devil is on a warpath!

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      Ladies, make sure you check DMV for vehicles registered to your men that you don't know about.

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      Crazy thing is.the side piece KNEW this man wasn't leaving his wife!WOW!

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      She knew he was married. He probably told her he was leaving his wife. You know the game.

    • jeniefrumdabloc™

      Yeah this is a hotmess.... Sad

    • http://Copblock.org aDingoDrankMyBabies

      So sad for Sandra. Hopefully he shows up to her funeral and gets...Comforted? By a few of her nephews??

    • http://Copblock.org aDingoDrankMyBabies

      Greetings fare Maiden??

    • jeniefrumdabloc™

      Hey bewskie how are ?????

    • Traci404

      Incredible!
      men stop this "i was trying to help her out" ish, without discussing it with your wife.
      Sounded like he was doing a whole lot more than just helping her.

      THIS IS SAD! Gotta bury your wife - cause your mistress killed her. This funeral is going to be interesting.

    • Traci404

      The question in Atlanta is always: "is your husband married?"

    • Traci404

      The woman came up to his job first.
      he didnt even have the decency to give his wife a heads up?
      Even if he didnt want to say - a crazy deranged woman is on the way to the house. He could have sent her on a trip to the store, so she wouldn't be home. DANG.

    • Traci404

      LEAVE THESE MARRIED MEN ALONE.
      Get you some batteries! LOLLL. Or go out of town.

    • JerseyMom

      These hoes are out of control. SMDH

    • http://Copblock.org aDingoDrankMyBabies

      Meh. It decided to thunder-lightning-rain in Southern Cali...Outta nowhere. My beijing a runneth? I'll be wearing hats for the next week or so?? You?

    • BlackGlamour

      maybe they should do like the blk men do (date out of their race)??

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      There are a lot of wives who know about sides and vice versa, and neither will bow out. I know of people who have side sides.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      I think she felt disrespected that he didnt have the courtesy to tell her where and when he was going.

    • Floriduhh Evans

      The man told police he drove past the Barnetts’ home and spotted the Dodge Durango parked in the driveway. The man said he drove past the home and turned around.<<<< this makes him a punk biotch for real, how you abandonyour wife knowing your side chick got some screws loose ?

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      He sounds like a "your husband is cheating on us" kind of husband. Dollar to a doughnut there are more.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      I understood the man in the truck to be the friend of the wife's friend that she was speaking to on the phone when the miss showed up at the door.

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      True...but as I hear more.it sounds like the side wasn't all that stable on a few levels.2013 its said tried to kidnap her daughter after losing custody of her...the sides house and truck was in the mans name.he no doubt was feeding her lies,her own personal issues,and desperation ALL culminated into the perfect climate for whut took place.just sad and a waste of life!

    • http://www.nicolaloves.com/ NicolaLoves

      Really, seems almost ideal. He got rid of two birds for the cost of one funeral.

      See how many fools line up to comfort him.

    • AQUEEN

      I live in Atlanta and what Sandra says is true... I was just telling my cousin you really need to be spiritually grounded because these men can do plus tell you anything! Self esteem plays a major part of these women accepting this madness...you really have to get to a point of if I'm going to be single then so be it but I'm not going to put up with bull just to say I have a man

    • Vegan Sheen Min Min Dawn Sheen

      Nothing worse than a dumb, old hoe. 49 you bout in menopause and that snatch dry.

    • SheShowOut

      The criminal looks younger than 49. So, chicks really killing and dying or throwing their lives away over peen? RIP to the wife, my condelences go out to family. How will he look her family in the eye and explain this?

    • Renee Bee

      Huh? Like damn.

    • Renee Bee

      For real. How is he going to explain to the children that because of his low and trifling ways he allowed a psycho into their lives? How Sway?

    • AmericanMade

      Lol

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      "The man said he drove past the home and turned around.<<<< this makes him a punk biotch for real, how you abandonyour wife knowing your side chick got some screws loose"
      ^^^^
      I agree. The friend obviously told him there was a fight going on, and instead of him going to the house to check on Sandra, he drives past the house like a scared bitch. Atlanta is full of weak men like him. EDIT: to say the man was a friend, not the husband.

    • AmericanMade

      It's a cold cold world out there...R. I. P #Jesusfixit

    • AmericanMade

      Note to self, don't go to Atlanta,Or deal with men from Atlanta..... #noted

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      Uh-uh by next year this time he prolly gone be ready to marry the ho.e he was cheating on these two with!sad

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      What will he tell he and his wife kid (s).what I wanna know is hi buddy row had coins to even sign for the mistress a HOUSE and the TRUCK she was in!:/

    • http://www.nicolaloves.com/ NicolaLoves

      Probably: "Stay away from crazy bishes".

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      Actually, a woman's sex drive skyrockets as she ages. Why do you think there are so many Cougars? Men their age can't keep up.

    • Suzanne Francois

      He was wrong...on both ends...he should have ended or never started seeing that woman...#falsehopes...the poor wife

    • jusstlooking

      1. How about close your legs to married men.
      2. Buy your own vehicle or get cash
      3. Folks are too old for this foolishness

      4. Men can keep up, Viagra is still selling like sliced potato bread

    • jusstlooking

      Drive out town to see a married man? A heifer will drive across the United States in a SH!!TAY diaper for man. Please.

    • jusstlooking

      why it got be dry. Don't you sell something for that. HUGS

    • jusstlooking

      You mean grandchildren, Old man was 56

    • jusstlooking

      Yeah, imagine that, the side piece mad cause her married boyfriend was taking his wife up upteen years on a more than much deserved vacation. Going to pray for him, because what he did was wrong, but the grief and pain he will go through. LORD HELP HIM

    • Lenina Just Lenina

      Plus this woman was a known kidnapper. Question: did the police see her shoot Mrs. Barnett? Did they pull up on the black truck while the incident was occurring? And why didn't Mrs. Barnett's male compatriot do something the first time he saw the truck? I myself hate woulda coulda shouldas but this one here....!!!! *Nene voice* close ya legs to married men!

    • http://www.mediakraze.me/ Kristi Luv

      Man issues. He should have known chick was crazy. He buying SUVs and the wife was probably still driving her 94 Camry. And why didnt he alert the wife that Crazy was headed to the house?!

    • http://www.mediakraze.me/ Kristi Luv

      Thats when i had to own up to my mess. Crazy was on his way to the house!

    • Bonny

      Ride or die???

    • http://www.mediakraze.me/ Kristi Luv

      Wow!

    • http://www.mediakraze.me/ Kristi Luv

      I dont think race is this issue, I believe finding a str8 guy in ATL is like a 3% chance.

    • http://www.mediakraze.me/ Kristi Luv

      And property tax records! Theyre buying houses, too.

    • http://www.mediakraze.me/ Kristi Luv

      The 3rd chick sitting back like... " a SUV??!! All I got was some Atlanta Braves tickets! "

    • Beverly Clark

      A couple of things. Did she let the mistress in the house? Did the wife just sit there scared while she drove with one hand and held a gun in the other? Black people, y'all need some crisis intervention training.

    • Shia

      The mistress was clearly armed - what did you expect Sandra to do? Stop victim blaming. It's easy to talk tough when you aren't in a situation where someone is holding a gun to your head. If you read the story the woman on the phone said she heard a struggle. Sandra clearly fought her best. I'm sure the car ride was a panicked mess.

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      Probably *shrug* (but fugg her) :tea:

    • monique west

      Sad thing is, he'll probably go to the mistress's funeral too.

    • monique west

      Lawd hammercy lol

    • monique west

      She probably knew after all these years, which means they knew too. It's just going to be hella awkward.

    • ShadeMstr

      And Credit cards, check invoices. Also, check for credit cards you may not know about.

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      Just shared this horrific story w/Mister. :tea: told him I was real confused about this knee grow allowing the mess he was doing in the streets to make its way into his And His Wife's home :tea:

    • LT

      And his behind still lives to repeat this mess.

    • 1/8

      I can't stop thinking about the he11 Sandra Barnett endured... murdered by the wh@re who was smashing her husband?! Someone show locate Lisa Brown's corpse and kick her deceased @$$!

    • Beverly Clark

      Maybe it will help the next person in a crisis. I know me, I would never get in a car with someone who is
      trying to harm me and experts even tell you what to do in these situations.

    • creolemarm

      Hello RoseBud fam! I hv NEVER logged in to a website! A prof lurker, BUT THIS IS SO RIDIC-Brenden u made me do it! 'Cause I had to say yes"some COMFORTING FROM HER FAMILY" is what he REALLY needs! TOOTLES

    • Nik

      These mistresses are getting too high-minded demanding whereabouts.

    • Nik

      Yes, I wonder if the outcome would have been different had he stopped in the first place. But then again she had a gun and apparently she was "unwell", so it might have been a double-murder suicide.

    • Nik

      Side sides? DAYUM!

    • Nik

      LMBO!

    • Michelle Peele

      So said when it has to come this. Just be single so you can freely mingle! Just saying...

    • Michelle Peele

      and sit with the family! smh!

    • Renee Bee

      Girl you may be right. I just can't with the hoe shyt and bitchazzness. I just can't.

    • eljjai

      WTH? So much dysfunction. I blame the man. If you're going to hoe your "pimp hand" better be strong. Keep your crazy side pieces in check. Now he's got no wife. What's he going to say to her family? do they have kids?
      WTH. And of all the side pieces to choose in Atlanta, that one? Really?

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      Imma believe he didn't know CAPTAIN STARK RAVING MAD was headed to the house.noone cud have tole him in a million years that after he did for the side hoe this hoe wood try HIM with ungratefulness to this degree.shyyyyyt this bih house and car in his name.but his story is,I WAS TRYING TO HELP HER OUT!he wasn't doin all that for the FREE!

    • Irish

      Wow I don't even understand, why kill the wife she's being duped just like you. Only a 10% of men leave their wives for the other woman, and if the pickings are so slim in Atlanta then you need to high tail it outta there and on your way out get some self esteem and your own man!

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      Lol,soooo what you telling me is I not only need to keep my paid profession...but im gone also have to moonlight as a PRIVATE DETECTIVE on the side.ALL while maintaining the home.I'm in so much trouble...(drops head in shame)I'm a lil lazy!(wails out loud with defeat):')))))

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      Thay both dead...trust and believe the fuckery don't stop!!!! Its about saving himself now!

    • SouthJamaicaQueens

      Why wouldnt the woman on the phone call the cops instead of a male friend this is crazy

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      I'm a few months from 40...I don't have time for niceness.I straight up ask a brotha what he workin with once that subject comes up.NO SUPRISES during that moment for me. cuz I hurt feelings if I feel I've been shi-tted!its nuthin worse than being turned on,gotten to that point and he comes out a lil pop gun that says 'bang'!Aunt tee,thats that hurt!!!(head in hands)pray for me here!:'))))

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      Hell the nigg-a she sent only DROVE BY!!!!its enuff blame to go around but the HUSBAND'S DICK created it!nih when marry again.watch he walk out a hoe much younger than these two....as a family member close to the wife.I cud NOT stand to look at his azz right now!real talk,I'd grieve his spirit till God fix me!the heart wrenching pain pain cosed by the selfishness of cheating!a WIFE,SISTER,DAUGHTER,CUZIN,GOD MOTHER,GRAND MOTHER...was taken!yea,I'd feel sum typa way towards him.

    • the guest

      This so sad. Even in his wife's tragic passing Mr. Barnett is still lying. He bought Ms. Brown the truck because he was trying to help her out. What a crock of bs. What a loser he is. Had this not happened he would have went on the trip with his wife and came back home to his mistress. What an inconsiderate loser.

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      An even sadder fact is that who ever he doing between these two don't see the hurt his LIEING and cheating has cosed.nope,this lame brain gearing up to be there to ease his pain...cuz in the pit of all this madness she thinking,feeling,hoping,IM NEXT!!!

    • the guest

      That's a dangerous way to live. Let alone plain mean and unfair.

    • the guest

      He should've went himself and picked up his wife. He didn't even think to go protect her from harm.

    • the guest

      If he's that decent he'll grieve. I think he's more embarrassed at being exposed. Seriously, there probably a younger #3 on the side. He'll be remarried within a year. I can see that.

    • the guest

      I think women blame the wife or feel flattered a married man shows them attention. Like their winning a contest against marriage vows. But it's not about looks, competition, ego. It's that these situations are dangerous.

    • the guest

      They are feeding their delusions of being #1 when they know they are not. The husbands are too high minded treating side pieces like wives.

    • the guest

      A serious question. Why live there? That's a serious matter.

    • the guest

      A feeling of control and false sense of importance.

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      I believe this...the side cud have felt he was trying to really reunite with the wife.hayle if she had to shoot sumbody why not HIS janky azz...

    • Canary Red™

      How did she know where they lived? (Rhetorical)
      No good rotten a$$ ni$$a!
      What year was the Durango? (Just curious)

      I bet the mistress family expect him to pay for her funeral!

    • Lenina Just Lenina

      I agree. If a married man ever tries to holler at me my immediate feeling is disgust. Then disdain for him and sympathy for his family but women should NEVER try to compete with those vows.

    • Canary Red™

      ...Sandra Bland story is tragic!

    • Canary Red™

      Good morning 100!?

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      You a mess CR!!!I hollard towards the end!!!

    • Canary Red™

      ??good morning BTP!!!!

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      Same to you!!!!this story is just so senseless and tragic!on the low I'm mad...my dad was a cheater and as a child I watched my mom WILLING stay.when I got my age and my weight up.I let him know if we ever gotta mount up on one of yer hoes bout OUR (and its 6 of us)mama.when we done with her...we gone want you!and ain't no mountain high enff!

    • Canary Red™

      I know that's right BTP! Although Mama(s) stay - it still don't change your perspective about the situation.
      Yes this story is tragic and senseless. I'm gathering that this has been going on for a while and that she has made numerous threats about the wife. I'm still kind of dumb founded if the wife actually knew about this one in particular. Cause like u said below this heifer had to be MAD. So he had to be hiding details about the wife and when she found out this...smh...

    • WHITTYwithWORDS

      Man I don't have time to check up on a MAN. Most states women make up 51-52% of the population so if you are dating a married man it's bc you are trifling, have no self respect, and a lower leveled person. I'm not looking up DMV records or anything else. If I go through Instagram comments then we CAINT be together period. You, Mr. BUSTER are a slime ball and your wife paid for it. pray just pray

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      He was prolly telling so many lies to this fool.he was trying no doubt to control her but keep her just limp enuff so he himself can walk in and out of her life whenever he wanted to...puzzy on a string sotospeak

    • Canary Red™

      ??????????

    • Canary Red™

      SPEAK!!!!!

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      I wanna ask him so bad.what did it profit you to have all the game in the world, but you lost yer wife?

    • WHITTYwithWORDS

      Then move. If you that damn desperate for a man and gotta lower yourself to a married man then move. There is no excuse for a women knowingly dating a married man. Now if you find out afterwards leave him if not you're a ninja too.

    • Canary Red™

      And his a$$ is going to say...

      "I knew she was crazy but didn't think she would go this far"

      She was certified crazy. ( I bet the paperwork come out)

      Cause I'm sure she tore up his sh!t while they were messing around for however long!

    • Kenya Ransey

      lol. ridiculous! I'm not doing all of that. There ARE good men out here. I REFUSE to do that....if you have to do all of that, go be with someone else!...someone you can trust!

    • HeyLuv

      I read that the mistress would text, email and call the victim. Really??

    • Canary Red™

      I believe it! This is not random. It's premeditated.

    • iWasteTime

      The NY Times has the whole 1000 page Cosby deposition from 2005.
      I've read the article and the summary of the deposition.
      I will reserve my comments and judgement for the post.

    • hottlanta

      The wife and the mistress looks like they could be twins. How in the hell is the husband using their married money together to buy his single mistress a car. His excuse is he was trying to help her out. Why is he also giving her constant updates on their family activities and the one time she didn't know about what was going on she went bonkers. She really felt like part of the family when he did that and she comes to the job as if she is his wife, I was listening to the neighbors and they said they were not surprised because he is know for cheating on his wife. So besides staying with him and the embarrassment of being the long suffering wife it caused her to be the dead wife, The worst part about this is that he will get the insurance money and be married again within 6 months to year because some woman will be so forgiving and call this an isolated incident and think he will be so embarrassed and won't do it again.

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      Rofl! :kona:

    • hottlanta

      Why are you cuddling and wrapping him prayers when he knowingly for 3 years had sex, spent time with this woman, took her on vacations and used their married funds together to by her a car and probably the house she lives in. How would you feel if you as the wife was to open the mail and see something about a past due balance on a car you know nothing about. People always rocking that phrase stay away from married men as to blame the single woman for him fooling around as if she says no he wouldn't be doing it. It's all her fault. The married men needs to stay in their lane and leave us single gals alone. It takes 2 to tangle. What about prayers for the family and kids.

    • hottlanta

      Why do as I a single woman has to be the one responsible for upholding your wedding vows/respecting your marriage when I am not the one who is married to you. That is not my job. Your husband respecting you and loving you like the man he is suppose to be trumps so-called "sisterhood" any day.

    • hottlanta

      The man should never disrespect the vow in the first place. Him buying her a car and all of that stuff was more than a booty call. He took the game to whole nother level.

    • hottlanta

      Why is it the woman's fault the married man is cheating and you are not telling him in all caps not to cheat and keep his thing in his pants.

    • hottlanta

      Still live and get the insurance check.

    • hottlanta

      He's gonna get that insurance check and go straight to Brazil or Santo Domingo.

    • hottlanta

      Yep they tell the man I am not ever gonna leave because when I married you, I married for life. We don't know whether or not she told him, well you do what you gonna do "I'm Staying" in the words of Jennifer Holiday and they probably lived like roommates for a while. We don't know whether or not she had a sidepiece as well because she got tired of his mess but stayed in the marriage for appearances sake because folks always say if a couple breaks up they didn't try hard enough, etc, etc. Then we reference back to grandmamma and them and say they been married for 80 years as if their marriage was perfect and not realizing what ugly secrets they are taking to their graves about their perfect marriage to the public

    • hottlanta

      As if white men wrote the book on being faithful. ROTFLMAO.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      Sure some do. We see it all the time. These types will say she must be doing her job or my milkshake is betta than yourn if he's over here. But the reality is a person is going to do what they want to do when they want to do it. You can break your back to keep someone, but if they decide to cheat, how is that the other mate's fault?

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      The fact that she just rolled up on the wife did make me wonder if the wife knew about her husband's philandering. I'm still stuck on a chick being bold enough or crazy enough to even set her front tires on this woman's driveway! Not gonna hindsight or second guess the victim's actions. I'll just say that once I KNOW you're sponsoring sides, they AND you can get it, so don't sleep - pun intednded. :tea:

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      BOL!!!or hell just stay in your lane...where its,quiet,sane,and after hearing this story,where its SAFE!cuz the life YOU save may just be YOUR OWN!!!!

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      Gurl,if I was his sista...the moment we got alone I mighta just backhanded him for being so cotdamn STUPID!!!

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      I'm like CR,when the family mistress need help to put her in the GANGSTA LEAN...will his ole henry helpful azz still be..."TRYING TO HELP HER OUT!"oooohwe,he need his azz complete TOW UP!!!!

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      Yes ma'am,and she believe in kidnap.she lost custody of her daughter and kidnapped her in 2013.they found them a lil bit after. So she bout that life far as snatching bit.ches goes!

    • Saphistication

      This is so sad...these dudes gotta do better. If you're not going to be faithful, don't tell your side piece your wife's business. The irony of it all is that his wife worked at McNair Middle School and former NFL player Steve McNair was murdered by his jumpoff who later killed herself. SMH

    • Canary Red™

      Smh...history of cray cray behavior.

    • Canary Red™

      I thought the same thing.

    • http://www.southernbellepublishing.com countrygal

      So tragic. Now he has to live with the fact that this was a consequence of his own selfishness

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      It sounds like he gave her the ammunition, no pun intended, to do so. Cars, houses, trips, his time...she knew all about the wife and where they laid their heads. She had just as much as the wife provided with marital funds. I guess she did want to know where, when, and with whom he was going.

    • KB

      Which is why I don't give two middle birds about any man questioning my actions or trying to lock me down with delusions of grandeur and their undying love.

    • AllmylifeIhadtofight

      Ok!!! Chick from NASA!

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      And the husband kept sleeping with her????

    • Cricket404

      That's why I keep my man broke, with all these kids there is no extra money to pay for drinks, cars, or entertainment.

    • SummerBaby

      This is such a sad story! This crazy selfish broad had NO right to take anyone's life!! They kinda look alike to me ?. RIP ??

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      I wondered if there was a connection to Steve McNair!!! Wow, smh.

    • DopeRhymesYo

      Who dates a dude name "Buster"

    • Alisa

      His wife looked as if she could hv been the mother of the crazed shooter. When emotions are involved all sense go out the window, especially matters of the heart. This type of thing happens so many times yet everyone acts as if they will never fall victim. They hv it all together. Part me of me thinks the man may hv wanted his wife out of the pic, he knew the woman was capable of kidnapping. Play on her issues of feeling like everyone abandons her but he would never abandon her. She could not loose him and if he spoke of his wife as being problematic she was the one thing making him unhappy keeping him away from her, she removed it.
      I think the wife may hv talked a bit slick maybe even called the mistress. In that truck the mistress was crazy in love once she realized what she had done there was no way out of this but she would give her life to make sure he knew she loved him. Nothing else mattered the fact the wife was dead in her mind meant her actions would make him happy

    • OvertheMississippi

      No. Not even close to a connection. Total coincidence. I guess the hubby, Buster Brown, is of the Buster Brown shoe magnet too huh? Smh

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      Oh I'm sorry I should have said I wondered if the SCHOOL was connected to the Steve McNair name. So you're saying that the school is Not named for him? (I'm not from that area so forgive my confusion) thanks.
      "Buster Brown" shoes though ...lol!

    • BlackGlamour

      not necessarily with whyte men, there are other races besides whyte men. Men will be men regardless of their ethnic make-up & that wasn't what i was implying ("white men wrote the book on being faithful").

    • PRiNCESSgIgI

      you got that right! & I'd stay away from ole boy like he got the plague?

    • PRiNCESSgIgI

      ? I stay away from messy niccas just cause of effed up sheitt like this I choose happy life over being desperate for dack i LOVE my life??

    • Let Your Soul Glow

      No, the school is named after astronaut Ronald McNair.

    • barbeez

      Where do I start? You know there's nothing to say but he has to live with this for the rest of his life. How does he explain to his children that his mistress who had a history of kidnapping killed their mother? Shame on him. I wish he could be charged.

    • Lenina Just Lenina

      I hear what you're saying but I just think it goes beyond that and into not wanting what goes around to come back around to you as a single woman who I think would want to be married one day too. I am single too and I feel disrespected when men lie about or cover up the fact that they're married cuz I would never want my future husband to be out there doing that to me. Facts.

    • Let Your Soul Glow

      Did you learn something new? Please share! (Bc I'm not reading 1000 pages!)

    • jusstlooking

      Buster has nothing to loose. He will take time off collect the insurance money and be married in 6 months to a year. If two were involved, there were more. Maybe not at this level. But there are others. Mark my word.

      Drop shot no count BUSTER

    • jusstlooking

      Another Busta

    • PRiNCESSgIgI

      YES I'm happily single & joyfully mingling I met this dude from Atlanta telling me he left for better opportunities but the men are so gay many are in marriages that they no longer wanna be in with wife & kids trynna figure out how they gonna get out of it ? I looked @ him like "wOw" that's sad!

    • OvertheMississippi

      There is no relation unless it is many, many generations removed. Steve is from a small town in MS. This is in metro ATL.

    • jusstlooking

      Dear HOT - Nobody cuddling this looser. What you need to be asking why didn't her family encourage her to leave. They knew about this less than a man., GOD GOT EVERYBODY, including me and you.

      Yes married men need to leave bitter single women alone. Cause the spouse and family suffer. Her family, him and his and side ho family everybody got guilt.
      I really don't need to speak my prayers aloud on blog. I said what I said cause that what I meant.

      Take Care

    • jusstlooking

      Boom

    • PRiNCESSgIgI

      Oh & American Made I'm makin that #note also about men from Atlanta cause after that first date I never heard or called ole boy no more he behaved TOO sexual for a first date & I wasnt having it ? he never heard from me again then I thought about what he said & realized he was probably talkin about hisself & his gay married man lol BLOOP

    • jusstlooking

      Everybody has a weakness, some mean love to cheat. Unless my husband got side income, barely hold on to credit cards. I'm not checking DMV, property taxes.

      Grandma told me as small child, people treat you how you let them. That goes for your professional workplace, family, friends and in this case your husband.

      Don't be nobody's ass rag.

    • jusstlooking

      Hey Summa

    • jusstlooking

      Hey Fancy...

      Do you know where you husband is?

      Mine supposed to out of town on business, oh let me call the detectives.

    • jusstlooking

      The husband laid the foundation for disrecpt, and coupled with the fact she had NO morales, no respect for herself, or the next woman.

      Close your legs to married men.

    • jusstlooking

      Some men with low self esteem get off on being with women who lay them selves down like pig sloop. They can talk to them anyway, basic thrown them scraps. Few of them actually become the wife, when they do the same things happen to them and they would why? Hmm slore.
      That how you started out.

    • PRiNCESSgIgI

      who the hell listenin to experts when some sheitt like this pop off outta nowhere? yo azz ain't expectin to be accosted by a crazy deranged bish in the 1st place sheitt you gotta think fast & pray your actions win you another day of life! (RIP Sandra?) This here sheitt is effed up!!!!

    • jusstlooking

      You are probably right
      No body to charge. BUSTER DROP SHOT. He will even get paid from festh polocy. Yeap
      Life is unfair.

      Wonders if family can appeal?

    • AmericanMade

      Wow, unreal..

    • PRiNCESSgIgI

      what's alarming is women don't know this Sandra?
      I laughed @ the woman who popped off saying 49 Is old & dry LoL ?
      Halle Berry
      Janet Jackson as a few fresh fly gorgeous juicey examples chile bye it JUST gettin to the good part when you sexily whip his mind mentally while having him begging & willing to do EVERYTHING you desire ooooweeeee?

    • Canary Red™

      Right! No one to charge n he stills gets paid!!!!!!?

    • Canary Red™

      ?????????????

    • jusstlooking

      Right aint nobody got time to be checking behind no grown man.

    • Lorenzo Chaps

      When will I find a married man who will be faithful to me? Says the mistress who got it all effed up. This is a tragic story and Buster has a lot of explaining to do to their kids and his wife's family. He didn't protect his wife by not allowing a situation to get to this point. The bigger issue is he didn't honor his wife either. Prayers all around. SMH.

    • jusstlooking

      Agreeded

    • 1/8

      It's horrific... almost unimaginable.

      Remember the married ER physician who thought it was okay to lay up in my bed, because his wife "knew not to question him?"

      The moment he pulled his wedding ring out of his pocket, all I could think about was his wife knocking on my door with a sawed off shotgun!

      No, ma'am!

    • 1/8

      I doubt he cares. He probably slept like a baby knowing he killed two birds with one gun.

    • That’s Interesting

      49 and still that emotional and stupid. Smdh. When you are a man dealing with one of these crazy women, you've got something on your hand. You can lose it all.

    • Canary Red™

      NO MAM! ? 100%

      People can and will get crazy over their husbands/wives (and to an extent rightfully so). Therefore, ^^^^ this should always be taken into factor!

    • the guest

      That's right. I'm sorry to say it. But he probably already got a woman waiting overseas.

    • 1/8

      There's a lot to be learned from this tragic story.

      1. A couple of news sources are reporting that Mr. Barnett was involved with Lisa Brown for several years.

      It stands to reason that Sandra Barnett knew about the affair. If so, why did she stay?

      2. It's also being implied that Sandra Barnett opened the door for her killer.

      I don't know how they get down in other cities, but in Chicago and New York, we don't open the door for strangers or people we barely know.

      A couple of years ago, someone knocked on my door, supposedly selling magazines. Through the door, I yelled I wasn't interested and asked them to leave.

      When they knocked a second time, I announced that if they didn't get away from my door, the next sound they would hear, would be a very loud boom!

      Without all the facts, it's easy to speculate, but we may never know how Lisa got Sandra to open her door. Maybe she told her something happened to Buster.

    • 1/8

      I'm sure Buster convinced Lisa that Sandra was a horrible woman who had him trapped in a loveless marriage... and as soon as the time was right, he'd divorce her.

      I'm not a woman, but I've met enough married DL men to how they run their game.

      Buster bought Lisa that car, because he was trying to pacify her. Unfortunately for him, Lisa wanted him, not material possessions, and when she realized Buster would never leave his wife, she snapped.

    • KayDot

      Maybe I've watched too many episodes of Snapped or the ID channel but I hope Buster didn't convince the mistress to kill his wife.. How in the hell did she know where they lived? How did she know that the wife would be home, and alone? Why did he feel the need to update the side bish on plans he had with his WIFE? so many questions... An innocent life lost due to his selfish actions!

    • 1/8

      My uncle was murdered by a woman he tried to break it off with.

      They were both single and the relationship had simply ran its course. My uncle wanted to move on, but she wasn't having it... she shot him to death.

      She reportedly said, "If I can't have you, no one else will."

    • jusstlooking

      Smell his crotch area for Irish spring.

    • 1/8

      Of course Lisa knew where Buster lives. They've been smashing for years! He probably had sex with Lisa in his wife's bed.

    • Well.well$well

      Note to sidelines; they almost never leave the wife. Like ever. I'm surprised that the mistress was almost 50.. Seems like she would know better..

    • Well.well$well

      Its easy to say what you would or would not do until you're actually in that situation..

    • Well.well$well

      If they said they were going to shoot you in your face if you didn't, you might..It's easy to say what you would or wouldn't do because no one has shows up to your house brandishing a gun...

    • Canary Red™

      So sorry for your loss.
      Smh!
      How old were they?

    • PRiNCESSgIgI

      well dayum???

    • PRiNCESSgIgI

      shouldn't do it in the 1st place no matter how strong or weak your pimp hand SHEITT HITS THE FAN?

    • PRiNCESSgIgI

      ????WELL SAID??
      "BRAVA KB" men are full of sheitt when it comes to monogamy? I don't know not ONE that's only with ONE woman! & that goes for ALL the men I've ever known in my whole entire life & 'm NOT bitter just tellin the pure truth ??

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      Ooookaaaaaay!!!!that's whuss killing me.the mistress entirely too old to be out in these MISTRESS STREETS playin.I wanna tell her in my T.I. vc,"LOOK TO THE FUTURE!"

    • PRiNCESSgIgI

      may The Lord allow you to be happy but sweety men don't have to have money to get women these days ?? SADLY one of the latest MOST ABSURD phenomenons happening now in this new day is WOMEN buying EVERYTHING for they man ??? it's sad but true

    • KB

      Thank you PRINCESSglgl. I'm with you not one man I know are truly monogamous. I've know my first for 22 years was/is in love but he was a dog, cheating etc. Now that he's older singing a different tune now. Got all the pussycat out of his system and wants to be together...can't deny we are soul mates....but it took him this long to get it together. Still not together but are friends and I speak freely about my dating and sex life. It still doesn't sit well with him. I'm the one that never got pregnant (4 children, 3 BM), his ear when he needed it and true friend. Such is life..I use to always send him Erykah Badu's song "Next Lifetime."

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      Flat line----------

    • 1/8

      It happened before I was born. So, I never got to meet my uncle. They were in their 20s.

    • Nik

      Yes, believe that!

    • Nik

      I agree. He probably gave her too long of a leash.

    • Beverly Clark

      Sweetheart, I have been in dangerous situations before and had to think quick. the experts tell you, never get in the car. I'll take my chances running. And if you discuss the things and read what the experts say, it will help you if need be. Stop being so confrontational and except that we need to be aware at all times now. Our people are being attacked on all levels.

    • Erica Thomas

      Hottlanta u so right

    • Molly

      So sad on every level. The wife had 2 know about this woman with her carousing with him for yrs. She should have left his non grateful, cheating Azz. ?

      He subjected her 2 this horror. Too bad his Azz can't b held responsible for her death as well. There was a time when spouses of cheating mates was only terrified of STD''s .

      Now it's your life. People cray, cray now. ??

    • Well.well$well

      Has anyone ever brandished a gun in your face and tried to kidnap you? If someone has a gun to your head you might remember what you saw on Forensic Files or you might not. That's all I was saying. Not trying to be confrontational.. I've learned to never say what you'd never do..?

    • 100milesperhour

      You must be a mistress.

    • Well.well$well

      I guess it all depends on the woman. I was raised to treat people how I want to be treated. When I was a single girl, married men were a big no no for me because I knew one day I would be married and I didn't want someone doing that to me...

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      Hey sweetie pie! Mister worked today (he's home now). If he had the inclination (or the energy, in this heat) to creep after working 9 hrs, more power to him. I AM the detective, but I don't waste my skills on 'what ifs' ...he already knows my history w/bad folks and bad relationships. He also knows I don't play, and am willing AND able to roll out and set up shop away from any drama that threatens to disrupt what ive worked to make a happy home. I won't sacrifice my peace of mind for anyone, again. It's his option to try me, if he thinks it's a game :tea:

    • T3

      Exactly! Why didn't he stop the first time? I mean, it was already known there had been a struggle *sigh*

    • the guest

      He was in a full fledged relationship with that woman. BUT she still wasn't his wife. Bottom line.

    • the guest

      It is your job to respect yourself and not play second to a marriage.

    • Well.well$well

      Hello! Women of a "certain age" usually have some common sense. Common sense isn't always common though..smh

    • the guest

      Each person can only be responsible for themselves. If all single woman closed her legs and heart to married men then married men couldn't cheat.

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      This makes so much more sense. Thank you.

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      Thanks

    • the guest

      Even if a married couple is living like room mates what's between man and wife even their struggles are still a part of a marriage. It's not outsiders place to pick and choose to respect marriage. Sleeping in separate rooms is still not divorced. And sleeping in separate rooms don't mean a married couple is not intimate.

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      Lady,I'm almost 40 and I am not about the games!I tune that azz up when I feel I'm being played with.but above all else I have my PRIDE...been in the struggle too long and I've earned my stripes!and a nigga ain't finna be out here trying me with hoes my children age!or my mother's age...just NO

    • http://www.mediakraze.me/ Kristi Luv

      opportunities, i guess...

    • http://www.mediakraze.me/ Kristi Luv

      they'll learn one day!

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      And THIS one good as stole!:')))))

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      Chyle I have an ex friend who went so far as to get pregnant after the main lady....my ex friend talking bout HER baby more cute

    • SnootyPooty

      So sad because his wife lost her life and I'm sure she didn't know that he was cheating on her

    • Parisjok

      so funny, but indeed true

    • Parisjok

      OMG, preach

    • SnootyPooty

      So sad that his wife lost her life over her husbands indiscretions... Most likely she was unaware.... He should feel like crap... His grief will eat him alive

    • just saying

      I feel the same way. I can't believe the women that feel the opposite. I had a female tell me, I don't have any loyalty to the wife, he does..to them that justifies it. In my mind I'm thinking what a thot??...she thinks she is winning because she got some man to cheat.

    • just saying

      Agree..

    • hottlanta

      Being a single woman doesn't come with a job nor the responsibilities to keep someone else's marriage together. When a man goes from a boyfriend to a husband it is his job to keep his marriage together not the single woman. McNair did the same thing by having a secret apartment the wife knew nothing about and his mistress killed him and yet folks keep telling us single women to close our legs to married men. This isn't gonna stop married men from fooling around on their wives and it ain't gonna stop women from becoming wives because both think it can't happen to them.

    • hottlanta

      So you think if you don't fool around with a married man while single your husband won't cheat on you when you get married. I need you to show me a scripture in the Bible that says "if you get married your husband will never cheat on you and I guarantee it. "You can't control nor are you responsible for your husband actions. The only actions you are responsible for are your own. Are you saying his wife dated a married man while single and this is why this happened to her. While should I feel bad and take it personally when a man is purposely lying about who he is especially when he isn't my type and I know I don't want to have anything to do with him as a mate. I stand by what I said. It is not my job as a single to respect his marriage, he is not my husband.

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      I agree that it's not the responsibility of a third party to keep someone else's marriage together. I do, however, think it's the personal responsibility of a third party to refrain from contributing (knowingly) to the demise of someone else's marriage.

    • hottlanta

      This man treated his wife like the side piece when he had no problem taking the married funds to buy his mistress a truck. She might have been the wife on paper but in reality and his actions she was reduced to a side piece. The sidepiece knew where he worked and lived. She was involved in his life just like the wife.

    • hottlanta

      The husband gave the mistress the place where he worked and lived so how is she to blame for information on how to contact him when she wanted to. Plus got her a truck to ride to his job and home to see him when she wants to.

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      I never said the mistress was to blame for HIS actions (even though she IS directly responsible for the wife's death). I'm only saying that even if the husband decided that he wanted to dishonor his marriage vows, she didn't HAVE to participate (knowingly) with him in that decision.

    • hottlanta

      Excuse me married men fool around with married women. It is not all single women. Some relationships started with married couples going out with only married couples and no one knew the wiser because they felt safe only being around married people. Stop blaming single women for breaking up marriages ok.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      Anyone who wants to cheat will find a way.

    • Beverly Clark

      This conversation could save someone's life. I wont put it on here but yes, it did involve a gun. And no I did not panic. I'm thru here! Sheesh!

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      I was just about to say this. Couldn't type it fast enough.

    • Well.well$well

      I've been done..?

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      And THAT'S why she was pissed she didn't know about the trip. She had been afforded the same benefits as the wife and he made that possible. I agree, it takes two, but it starts with him. He has all the power to say no, even if he's being seduced. Just say no.

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      Off topic: I'm trying to watch M2M because I want to see the Quad/Mariah tête-à-tête. What I'm not here for is Toya's segments, smh. Also, Lisa's state of denial is difficult to watch.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      Danggit. I forgot this was on. Looking for it now.

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      they just previewed Lisa confronting her husband about the strip club (he didn't appear to deny it) :tea:

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      Quad is a bit too much for me. Overacting like Cuba Jr is a lot to swallow at times.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      Whoot. Here we go.

    • MotherOfDragons, GetOffMyENuts

      Toya...I have nothing against stay at home moms, hell, I am one...but she irks my nerves. Always trying to ball when they are clearly on a budget and not nearly as intelligent as she thinks she is. Lisa Nicole is just sad. She and Darren keep talking about how they've worked through the cheating and their marriage is stronger than ever and it's such obvious bs.

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      LOL!

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      Is that the couple that was trying to buy the house?

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      "Always trying to ball when they are clearly on a budget and not nearly as intelligent as she thinks she is.""
      In a nutshell! I need her to find something constructive to do (at least on camera).

    • MotherOfDragons, GetOffMyENuts

      ...and he's been back since they filmed I'm sure...

    • MotherOfDragons, GetOffMyENuts

      Yes. Now they're renting a house way bigger than they need.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      Mariah was pregnant?

    • hottlanta

      I am sick of these married women think someone wants their old tired/raggedy husbands just because I am single. I have had to curse out several women and some of the men I didn't even know. I know of three married couples when the husband and his married friend wife hooked up because they felt safe being around only married people and their spouses won't cheat on them. As if single people is always/everyday looking for someone to hook up with each time we leave the home when all we are trying to do is pay our bills and handle our business. But to some married women, single women are the enemy and if it wasn't for us their husbands wouldn't fool around and leaving him out of the equation. I could be real ugly by blaming the wife and say if she didn't handle her business at home he wouldn't have to go looking for someone else in the streets, I wouldn't dare be that cruel But they waste no time blaming single women for a married man fooling around. Can't have it both ways.

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      Child!?
      I honestly can't say because I only saw a few minutes of a couple of episodes last season (I didn't even realize Mariah was missing from this season until someone here mentioned it)

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      so now Toya's gonna sit there and try to throw shade and act disinterested in what these Licensed Physicians have to say?????? really? grow up already, smh.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      Does Toya have a job outside the home? I'm trying to get acclimated to all the players. Usually I would use the computer, but these storms have wiped out my wifi.

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      from what I've seen (which is not a whole lot) she appears to be a stay-at-home wife/mom. she has young children, so I see nothing wrong with this - it's her immaturity, willful ignorance, and constant putting on airs that work my nerve.
      and now she's sitting there talking about how it was a mistake going from an audi to a porche, but I'd be willing to bet that her husband advised against that Before she did it, smh.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      Girl, I must have had a little too much cooking sherry because Mod just said Toya was a SAHM. Mmmm. I remember so what who she is. I agree with you on the spending. It seems at times they are trying to make ends meet.

    • Jozie723

      But it is YOUR job under the eyes of God to not willingfully particpate in adultry. As a fellow woman who is capable of empathy you should not participate out of respect for your fellow woman. But if you must pull God into this...... here you go

      1. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.Mark 10:9

      2. Proverbs 5:4-5 Basicly...So is the one who goes in to his neighbor's wife; Whoever touches her will not go unpunished

      3. Leviticus 20:10 the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death

      4. Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
      See more at: http://bible.knowing-jesus.com/topics/Adultery,-Consequences-Of#sthash.I9jDRvGl.dpuf

    • Jozie723

      She wasn't the wife she didn't have his last name nor the respect of the laws of this country. You don't know their lives from one news story. A wife CAN'T be reduced to a side piece....that's the security of the ring and the last name. She was and will always be his wife under the eyes of God and by the laws of this country.

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      I will say that Mariah is wise in not being so quick to 'sip the tea' Quad is so readily pouring. Also, Mariah looks gorgeous.
      ... now, this mother funder show ...to me, watching this would be the equivalent of watching a group of 16 year olds vie for a coupon for a free birthday mani/pedi down at the strip mall 'spa' ...I refuse to watch it.

    • Jozie723

      She could never be afforded the same benefits as the wife.... because she wasn't his wife. Anybody with limited computer skills can find out where you live thanks to this thing called the internet. The husband was 100% wrong but lets not compare side chicks to wives.......two different species.

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      cooking sherry, ROFL!

    • Meme81

      This is crazy. He must feel so guilty about this...cuz he's at the center of it. My prayers go out to both families.

    • Jozie723

      The thirst is real......

    • Nancy Drew on my ibrowse today

      alright "Lucy" go 'head and return the sherry to the kitchen and maybe get you some water, LOL!
      Nite...

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      Why did I see "Harlem Nights" when you said this and they were shooting machine guns and ole boy would bring out that 1 shooter. Finally, Aresenio said,..."stop shooting that little muhfugger!" LMAO

    • MotherOfDragons, GetOffMyENuts

      How much are they trying to raise for this group? I'd rather write a check and keep it moving than be involved in that sort of thing. I don't do active PTA/PTO involvement, I donate and go.

    • Jozie723

      The woman he is cheating with is also committing ADULTRY... she is not innocent. She knew of the wife she is just as responsible as the husband. They both will answer to a higher power greater than those of us on this blog.

    • Jozie723

      They are used to getting sex easily because the women are so desperate

    • Jozie723

      No one locks their doors in Ellenwood.... she lived in the country.

    • Meme81

      IDK why mistresses or wives ALWAYS blame the other woman. The man is the problem in the equation. But for him there would be no problem.

    • hottlanta

      When he had sex with another woman the wife was reduced to a side piece because if he respected himself/marriage and the wife he would have never done that. To buy the mistress a truck as if I don't care if my wife finds out about it, is not respecting her as his wife because it was her money as well. The piece of paper made her a wife but his actions reduced her to a side piece. I stand by what I said. The security of the ring didn't stop him from cheating on her.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      I hate to say it, but I thought it.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      Ain't this the truth, especially if he is a good plumber. Many a woman have done some stuff to regret later over some good pipe or BBD as one on here would say.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      I said this.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      Tell granny I'm using her ass rag one liner.

    • Jozie723

      Weither he cheated on her or not she was still his WIFE. A side piece no matter what was purchased for her is nothing but a side piece... No matter what the husband did he was HER husband. They were one flesh joined by God. You won't understand this until you get married. Views tend to change as you experiance things in life.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      Or maybe Sandra was going to give Lisa the business for showing up at the house unannounced and uninvited (again). You know she's been there or lurking before. Probably told that woman everything in her house.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      I know men who have more than one household (with kids) in the same city for many years. And, yes, all parties are aware.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      As do I. I can't.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      Gnight hun.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      I understand what you both are saying and it sounds alike. His total disregard for his home and wife was like treating her as if she wasn't a wife.

    • PRiNCESSgIgI

      gotta have a 1 month on up to whenever YOU feel it's right to have sex with him rule because YES it's ALL game!

    • PRiNCESSgIgI

      LoL i like your demeanor VERY similar to mines' FUKKK them muffukkas (but i LOVE men to my heart they amuse me) and i cant live without em LoL .... imma keep me first and the ones that like to cater to that i take out the time to see what he workin with on all level lol the FINEST to us both!

    • PRiNCESSgIgI

      sweety i wanted to come back to reach out to you because you seem to think that tactic of having ALOT of children works, it DOESN'T and i dont wanna see you out here delusional on that point TRUTH i have a daughter that just had a 3 month healthy joyous handsome baby boy ... girl the daddy ain't payin her no attention no more than the man on the moon and they been together since highschool, lived together, work all that and STILL the HARSH reality is he ain't actin right no more, baby or not! just be clear NOT to have babies to keep a man IT DONT WORK!

    • jusstlooking

      During I missed it. Skipping UT message till the am.

      Nite. Nite
      Hugs

    • jusstlooking

      Bring honest we all have sins. You slept with married man. He lured you in. That's what the do. Compulsive liar. Shame, lying scoundrel.

    • jusstlooking

      HI Snotty Pott, long time.

      Signed Cali

    • jusstlooking

      @Unita...give her credit. God rest her soul, she was an amazing LADY. She passed in 2000, BUT FEEL FREE TO USE IT.

    • PRiNCESSgIgI

      sweety you sound about yours however men will be men and they do things that they KNOW they have NO business doing! i saw my dad first hand and my mother first hand cheating on each other as tho they wasn't and trynna stay together LoL unnn unnn my dad did the right thing and moved to another city but he stayed married to her which i STILL think wasnt the right thing he shouldve just divorced her.

    • 88

      Damn these lightskin chicks crazy.....I guess its the Esau in their blood.

    • jusstlooking

      @hottlanta

      says
      2 hours ago
      When he had sex with another woman the wife was reduced to a side piece because if he respected himself/marriage and the wife he would have never done that. To buy the mistress a truck as if I don't care if my wife finds out about it, is not respecting her as his wife because it was her money as well. The piece of paper made her a wife but his actions reduced her to a side piece. I stand by what I said. The security of the ring didn't stop him from cheating on her..

      A RING WILL NOT STOP a LIAR and cheater and in this case accessory to murder ...sure Men cheat for several reasons. There are few men on the the blog, but hopefully they will respond to your thoughts. Curious arr you speaking from experience? Did a married man whisper sweet nothings in your preety ear?

    • YouIsPettyYouIsMessyYouIsExtra

      Man oh man oh man ? Aunt Sandra, the gentleman you reached out to, and asked for others to do the same, has now posted that he feels his privacy has been violated!
      I understand that this is his "situation" and he has the right to feel/post what he wants- but I also feel as though this is another reason why ppl don't want to get involved when someone cries out for help.
      Anyway, I had to come out of lurk.
      Hi to my Old Thorns ?

    • YouIsPettyYouIsMessyYouIsExtra

      ?taylor

    • Cheddup Already Damn

      Lil1?!?!!
      Hit it Baby D?!?!?

      If so, ??

      On topic, damn shame.

    • Cheddup Already Damn

      This cat surely got more than he bargained for...

      Truck in his name, dumb side piece.
      Addresses to work and home, dumb cheater.

    • YouIsPettyYouIsMessyYouIsExtra

      DDDDDDDDDDDDD! ***runs over to you with my arms flailing around and knocks you over**** :happy: I sent word for you (like they do down in the country :lol:) how are you? I told folks on the gram to tell you that I'm still waiting for your pastpresent stories :waiting:

    • YouIsPettyYouIsMessyYouIsExtra

      Yup, truly a shame. That gentleman has been on my mind since it was first posted on IG. I still wish him the best and pray that he finds happiness but TO ME EYE was taken back by his words when folks were genuinely trying to help him.

    • Cheddup Already Damn

      :kiss: Baby D!
      Let's meet back up tomorrow. Ain't nobody told me Shatt. The nerve! :cuss:

      Butterummmm, I was saying damn shame for this cat here, not the suicide threatener who wants his privacy now. Facepalm. #whenthreateninggoneswrong ?
      Kona

    • rodt

      men when are you going to get it together. You should examine yourself and fully invest in one woman. Women, stop settling for cheaters. Stop enabling

    • http://sandrarose.com SandraRose

      He emailed me and so did his friends. I find it interesting that he accused me of invading his privacy on a public Instagram page. I guess my readers were right when they said this was a ploy to get attention for his artwork. But I would write a post again if it meant saving a life.

    • Yes, I’m That Leah

      Allow Christ into your heart, you will then feel a sisterhood. There's a way to treat people.

    • Yes, I’m That Leah

      Thou Shall Not Commit Adultery. YOU ARE committing adultery as much as him. Smh.

      I myself have dropped so many girlfriends over the years for this. I don't even speak to my own father because he's a serial cheater on my mother, and led a double life. He even committed bigamy.

      Listen people, if you ignore the 10 Commandments, you are in for a world of hurt. You open up the door to attacks ( from the spirit realm) that you can't even imagine.

    • Yes, I’m That Leah

      Right. An it's also one of The Commandments. It's God's Law.

    • Yes, I’m That Leah

      My sister. You have some serious residue that you need to kick out.... be blessed.

    • Yes, I’m That Leah

      I hate living here. it's a serious matter for me, so... i'm going up North next year. So happy about it.

    • Yes, I’m That Leah

      No...

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      Crazy thing us he didn't wanna leave his wife but he didn't wanna let FOOL go.and I'm willing to bet the mistress cudnt see nobody else...but he married.

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      My daddy was the cheat and as a child I wondered why my mother stayed.she forgave habitually... HE had to divorce her.

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      FIRST LAUGH OFF THE DAY!!!!chyle but I'm so real,his reaction is basically how I feel.messin with you I gotta watch that tonight!:')))))

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      Soooo,his barely responsive body hung from the rafters in the blog till late Saturday evening.and he was just trying to get attention for his art work.NOW becuz all the PRAYER WARRIORS on your team stretched their hands out in his direction in nuthin but heart felt prayers to save HIS LIFE!YOU and yours have INVADED HIS PRIVACY!... the nerve!

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      GOOD MORNING ROSES!!!!

    • Yes, I’m That Leah

      Good morning!

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      I'm on that D.O.C THE FORMULA and my morning Mella Yella! today gone be a good day!

    • just saying

      That's what I was thinking..how about don't do it because it's wrong and being somebody's secret just because he is doing something for u should feel demeaning.

    • jusstlooking

      Good Morning Ms Sandra - I think it was a great post and it created "SOME" good dialogue, however my gut said he was BSing. Glad he is okay. He however needs help pulling a stunt like that. Shameful

    • WetPntees

      I agree with you Jozie 100%..I have never in my ENTIRE life heard of such foolishness as a WIFE being degraded to a sidepiece! WTF?! The only way a wife can be called as such is if she is divorced and THEN the ex-husband starts dating her... The bullsh-- some people say out of there mouths... Some MFs shouldn't have a throat, just a neck with a huge azz hole in it!

    • WetPntees

      Amen to that!!! I ain't got that sh-- to be doing...

    • WetPntees

      Somebody needs to line all their asses up and spray them with Raid!

    • WetPntees

      One day they will learn Jozie723... The thirst is real out here, but it's something *realer* up in them clouds! #TrustThat (I know realer isn't a word, for those Webster lurkers out here in Blogland)

    • Everclear1972

      If you just look at the pics you would have thought it was a lovers' spat.

    • jetsetter01

      How about it being your job to respect yourself??? Why date a married man? I did it when I was 24, & the man was so not worth it. He was so mean to his wife. I did it out of boredom & waiting for my divorce to go through.

      I had the same sentiment as you, couldn't care less about him. 15 years later, he is now married to a felon who attacked & told the wife about their affair. Pathetic. He's a narcissist & the chick is a low self esteem "bad bi*ch", probably 11 years younger than his wife.

      Once you think about, you will realize a married man is not worth your precious time.

    • jetsetter01

      Meaning what? He's disrespectful, right. No prize. Only a woman with no standards & low self esteem will think a man mistreating his spouse & giving his side piece gifts is special. Single men provide gifts for their girlfriends.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      Jozie. I don't disagree with you that his wife was his wife. In fact, I agree with you. They were married. However, Lisa was afforded the same benefits as the wife FROM HIM when he gave her the things that was reserved for the sanctity of his marriage, such as property and more importantly, himself. The time and emotions he gave to someone else did not give his marriage, nor wife, the regality deserved.

    • Lorenzo Chaps

      yep. a family member found out this weekend her 2 year "relationship" was a farce. Her guy has been juggling her and another woman the entire time. I told her the good news is, there are at least 2 others, so be glad you found out when you did. I suppose those of you who want husbands can marry your Judies??? Is that bad?

    • Lorenzo Chaps

      MY POINT EXACTLY. He did nothing to protect his wife. Baby, leave the house or better, take your thickums behind home to really protect her. Nope, he left his wife to face a demise he created all on her own. Not cool. You want to see me act a fool, try some bs with my mother. If I were his kid, he'd never be able to explain this away. No bruh, you messed up big time with this one.

      Also y'all, I've heard for years you should never leave or get in the car with sm1 cuz once you do, you lose all control. I bet her fear of getting shot kept her from screaming at the top of her lungs once they were walking to the truck outside her own home. Fear of dying kept her from jumping out of the moving vehicle or yanking the steering wheel into a light pole. Anything to bring attn is what you need to do. I tell women this all the time. If this person gets you out to an isolated place, they will kill you anyway. Take your chance cuz it just might save your life.

      My mom is older and still does a lot by herself. I told her never just let someone force u to drive your car to some desserted spot. You run a red light, run up on a curb, crash a empty building, etc. Whatever to bring attn to your situation and not harming anybody, you do it. If they try to force you into the truck, scream. Again, they're going to shoot or kill you anyway once you allow them to drive you away.

      Fear took over this innocent lady.

    • SnootyPooty

      Hello and yes it has

    • aRoth

      I heard that she had a miscarriage. And she has some type of book out, that I would like to read.

    • aRoth

      and Prynn. LOL

    • Jozie723

      In the eyes of the law.... she had zero benefits. What ever he did or position he gave her was an illusion... because in reality she was nothing..but a side chick. I do understand your point and as a woman couldn't have accepted this behavoir from my husband. But his behavoir doesn't dimminish her position as wife.

    • Jozie723

      lol! Better dust off that bible....both the adulter and the adultress have to answer to the Lord.

    • jusstlooking

      Lmbo..since any old body can post.

    • Unita Lucinda “Lucy” Freebush

      We agree in different words. Thanks for the dialogue. ?

    • aRoth

      I mean.....

    • WetPntees

      Amen!!

    • 1/8

      Never underestimate other people's insanity; especially, if they are f-n your husband and have the nerve to knock on your door.

    • the guest

      Thank you! Amen!

    • the guest

      Not on a piece of paper. In the eyes of GOD. If he bought the mistress her own island on the French Riviera, she's still not his wife. He was wrong doing his lawfully wedded wife and cost two human brings their lives! His wife was not reduced to a side piece. He can't reduce what God made whole. The devil don't define marriage. He didn't reduced his wife. He reduced himself to lower than s-cum of the earth.

    • the guest

      ILLUSION! Right on. And when the reality set in on her illusion she snapped and erased the reality with murder.

    • the guest

      It's so good to see good souls on here.

    • the guest

      Lord you are hell bent on trying to make right out of what wrong.

    • the guest

      After I read this article and the comments I googled this issue. It's real. There's lots of message boards on this matter. One site was pretty straightforward that Atlanta is no place for single black women looking to marry. Healthy companionship and intimacy is a necessity of life. I didn't say women can't take time to themselves and be happy alone. But when they do wish to marry and start a family the statistics are stacked way against them in Atlanta.

    • the guest

      Yup he'll be married to the younger one. This sick SOB is relieved they're gone that's what's the saddest thing about this whole situation. He had warning and didn't do anything to help either of them. He could've calmed the sociopathic mistress down. He knew how to sweet talk her any other time. He should've have sped and beat her to his house. Nope. He went back to work. He definitely has a third woman.

    • BRING THE PAYNE

      Sure does and she's younger like you say!he'll march the new version out around the holiday season NEXT YEAR!cuz if everyone involved think he celibate NOW they are drugged out delusionals!its coming.I think I wanna see the lies he tell to wash sum of the blood of of his hands...after all two lives were violently taken.him being the common denominator in both!

    • the guest

      He's relieved they're both gone. He's a POS.

    • the guest

      He doesn't care.

    • getyourownhusband

      Lisa's best friend kim, who is a licensed mental health specialist in chicago was more interested in Lisa's material wealth, the cars, the houses, the money and the life dependent on a celebrity than she was succeeding at getting her the mental health services needed as well as patting her on the back for having a celebrity giving her luxuries and taking someone's man. Encouraged to do so!Trust me i know! Alot of people played a part in this illusion.

    • Jozie723

      I enjoyed a peaceful, respectful diaglogue...wish that happened more often the Polka dots person is nuts.

    • JUDGEMENTAL

      HOW IS THE FRIEND GON DRIVE BY THE HOUSE FIRST...WHERE THEY DO THAT AT??? #SKEEEEREDMUCH

    • SpiceGirl

      sho is....read this a couple days ago on New York Daily news. Sad affairs all around

    • chicad

      they incorrectly listed the wife's age as 58 but she was 49, and mistress was 46 not 49.....not that it matters now, just I could tell the wife didn't look 58.